Is Autism a Disability?
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- čas přidán 5. 10. 2019
- We are back! So looking forward to sharing more things Autism related and, of course, to hear from you. Fire up all the questions in the comments below for our Q&A episode coming out soon.
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/ @pianomaestro
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Tiara Westlake www.kamukami.com/
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Philip Brown
Hayden Martin-green
Music:
Queen - Bohemian Rhapsody (Cover by Alfie Bennett)
Yann Tiersen - Comptine d’un autre été (Cover by Alfie Bennett)
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Thanks for having me play at your wedding, Tara! It was an amazing day! 😃
You an absolute
star cant wait to get you back for more things in the future x
You are amazing Alfie!!
Rita K 👍🏻😃 thank you 🙏🏼
You are amazing!!!!! 😍
gck ar thank you 😁🤘🏻
Beautiful Tara! Thank you for inviting Alfie to play for your amazing wedding!
When he was younger Alfie had many intense obsessions which took over his life (Michael Jackson songs, rollercoasters & a stint as a magician to name a few 😂) but when he found music, in particular piano he finally found his home. With music in his life he is a happy boy and he uses it so much in his life to help him in many aspects.
His determination to succeed and be the best he can be absolutely astounds me and he easily passes his music grading exams with a view to getting a grade 8 which is the one he has his sights set on!
For a long time we worried about how he would cope as he grows older but I can honestly say that he is doing just fine as long as he has his music he overcomes the hardest days and we do all we can to make things good 😊
thank you so much for allowing Alfie to come and play for our guests he is a true star. x
You must be very proud 😁😁 he is a lovely young man and is a credit to you
Nikkimorox1 ah thank you that’s so lovely xx
Alfie mum u have done a wonderful job raising this talented man. Hes inspiration to millions of kids around the world.
Not every child will have such a caring and helpful Mom, You must have a lot of support. May every child find this level of support❤️👍🏼
adonna price hey there thanks for your comment. I wish I did have lots of support I don’t. And it’s hard at times. But I just have to stay positive as I feel it’s the only way forward x
I found your channel when my son was diagnosed with asd. I didn't know how to think or what to do. They have been saying since he was 3 that they think he has it but when you get the diagnosis you think wow.
Amy B thanks for taking the time to comment. I know it’s tough when you first get the diagnosis and even though you know in your heart they have asd it still hits you hard . Stay strong mama x
So glad you had a beautiful day. Dylan did amazing for at least stepping on the sand. And wow for Dylan sitting with all those people around! You’re so positive! Can’t wait to see more of your episodes.
Hi there thank you for the comment. Dylan did so well and I am so proud of him for getting through the day x
I have a nephew he is 7 he didn't start talking till he was 4. We thought he's going deaf doctors kept checking his ears over and over and over again. No one said he has autism till he was 7 and figured out ourselves. It's so hard. I cry with every word you say. We feel so helpless I live in the country where autism is not acknowledged. He is 7 and not going to school because schools don't think he is normal there's no specific school for autistic children and if there are they are ridiculously expensive. I learned a lot from your videos and I see hope. The hope nobody gave us. You are special. I pray for your boy 🙏 and you .. bless you
bee NZee sending you so much love
How is your nephew now ....is he talking n going to school
As an autistic grown up I can definitely say that it is very important for us to feel supported and having such a lovely aunt as you seem to be is definitely something to be grateful for ♥️ I wish your nephew the best
@@sharlaazhar5152 still not going school :(
@@miguelcarmona3036 *wipes tears*
Aawww thank you so much and I pray to Lord for your happiness and success ❤️ bless your beautiful heart
Welcome back. Alfie was amazing! Your wedding looked beautiful, congratulations x
thank you so much xox
It felt wonderful listening to Alfie play. I started clapping before I knew it. Congratulations on your wedding. I wish you pure joy .
So happy y’all are back! ❤️❤️❤️. Can’t wait to see all the new vlogs and hear all about yalls break. Truly missed y’all!
Priscilla Sanchez your seriously the sweetest thank you. I’ve missed you all ❤️❤️❤️
Ur heart is so so big, thankyou for this positivity! Bless you and your whole fam! X
Cindy Leslie thank you xox
Welcome back! Yaayyy! Your wedding photos looked amazing!😍
Matei, a CDG Champion thank you so much! Xox
Really happy to have come across this channel. Thanks for sharing your guys journey!
Shyaam Bundy thank you for taking the time to comment x
I just discovered your channel and I'm amazed by all this. Congrats on your marriage and it's so nice to hear that I'm not the only one who thinks Autism isn't a disability per se but something that can show great potential in those with the diagnosis. Myself being an autistic young adult nearing my 20's, I totally get the struggles of being as such but it's always great to celebrate the little progressions made with autistic individuals.
Alfie and Dylan did absolutely amazing in their own ways! Cannot wait to see more progress as life goes on.
Ghiaccio Frame thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I know it’s not always easy but I hate to think that there is such a negative around autism. It’s hard of course but we can shift our minds to look at the good as well. I love hearing from autistic adults as you lead the way you tell us what needs to be changed to change people’s mind sets and to make this world more autism friendly ❤️ you are the trail blazers ❤️
Such a beautiful story and wedding, bless your family!
I,m so glad that I found your channel. Every video is giving me hope & so much positivity.
Congratulations on your wedding🥳 you are looking gorgeous❤
I think you have to talk to people. That’s the beauty of what you have done. Thanks for making the effort. That’s an understatement.
Welcome back and congratulation on your wedding.
thank you so much xo
So amazing. I love this channel. Words can’t express how great and uplifting these videos are for parents with autistics children. Tearing up as I write this. Thankyou. Congratulations on your wedding . I’ve been married for 5years and it’s the best. Many happy years to you and you family.
Hamilton Nwokolo thank you my friend x
Great to see the marriage, Alfie did awesome job.very inspiring! Thanks for sharing through channel.you have great positive impact on us
thank you thats honestly so lovely to hear x
I am part of an autism support group on Facebook and we actually call our kiddos AUsome kiddos. They are truly amazing and inspiring. My son never stops amazing me. He has come so far in just this last year.
Elizabeth Wilson love that name! I think I’ve heard of that group xo
Aifie’s performance was wonderful enjoyed seeing and hearing this !
I sobbed watching this! It gave me all kinds of emotions I didn’t even know I had... hope for my little girl... how beautiful and moving. Thank you!
Han the Homemaker ❤️❤️❤️
Congratulations ❤️ What a lovely place you choose to get married. All looked perfect. Well done for Dylan for making big steps during such a busy day what weddings usually are. And Alfie’s story... wow what a great kid. Great way of showing other people that autism doesn’t have to be all negative amd that it actually can be a blessing. All best for you guys Xx
sylvii G ❤️
Congratulations guys ❤️
Best of luck for all your family.
Tamana Aria thank you x
Love this! Thank you for sharing this video. Just found your channel, looking forward to watching more.
The Wee Family thank you so much for taking the time to comment and pleased you found us xox
Ioved the wedding congratulations 🎊
Your videos make me smile. Thanks Tara! Blessings to you guys
Inspiring. Amazing. Pls don’t stop this channel.
Somaya Ouazzani ah thank you so much for your lovely comment. I’ll keep going as long as I keep helping others x
Coming Home to Autism I don’t think autism is a disability or a disability becuase people are different and like other things
Awww congrats on the beautiful wedding!!! I love that you look at the positive wins! Maybe the photographer can photoshop him into a family photo? It truly is an ability and focus on all the amazing things people with autism can do!
i did think about this lol x
Thank you for this channel and this amazing community!!! We struggle with leaving our home because of my oldest who is almost 9 years old and on the spectrum :) So, we don’t have a lot of social interactions! We are working on increasing that:)
This needs a love button. Single mama here with 2 handsome boys with "abilities". Glad I found your channel. Your family is beautiful and congratulations xxxx
thank you so much xoxo
This is really nice, congratulations and thanks for sharing your story with us, God bless you and your family.
Wow, Alfie's story, his talent, I dont see any autism, I only see a gentle soul with tons of abillities!
He really is a beautiful soul
don’t overlook the autism. it’s who he is and it’s something to embrace
After about fiver year of looking for answers today we got one our 10 year is On the Spectrum, since he doesn't fit what most people think of autism people said he was just acting out or trying to get his way but I am glad we didn't give up and now the journey continues 😊 thank u for sharing ur story
It depends what level of Autism I think depends on the person the problem with not seeing it as a disability is that when someone with severe Autism is diagnosed (like my son) it means they struggle to get the help they need. Yes I have had wins, but he has little understanding of danger, world around him etc.
i totally agree. Dylan needs a lot of help and i know a lot of other children need a lot more help than Dylan. Autism is not easy and the more we educate the more we grow and learn that we can get help that they need. thank you for taking the time to comment and sending you lots of love x
Frances Ottewill please don’t listen to the below comment I have blocked them. I want this to be a channel where everyone can be supportive and talk openly but with respect. not spoken to like that. Your absolutely right in what you say it’s very hard and there are different levels of autism. It’s a spectrum. I do find that the no awareness for danger very scary. Luca and Dylan are both not aware and it scares me so much. Sending you so much love x
This is my new favorite channel
you have just made my day thank you x
And you looked spectacular. God bless x
Somaya Ouazzani thank you so much xox
Love ❤️ watching your channel after a long time
thanks for coming back x
I enjoyed hearing you play for the wedding. It made me want to dance!
Alfie is amazing x
You have a positive, assertive attitude and a professional approach to autism. It reminds me of CBT principles. So what you say applies to many challenges people face. I have a disability and your can do attitude helps me. Ignore the haters, just do what makes you happy.
Si Fi thank you so much that’s so kind of you to say. I’m so happy that my videos have helped you in some way also x
I just love Luca! He’s the cutest!
Absolutely moving video. Congratulations on your marriage.
Debbie Lopez thank you so much x
Looking forward to more videos tara .u doing wonderful job
Thank you so much 🤗
Beautiful and very helpful 🙏
I luv this. Beautiful family
Thanks for sharing,,,,, I can really relate this scenario
I was recently diagnosed with Autism just over a year ago, along with a strong dose of Adhd and lastly Dyslexia (which we'd known about). At 38, it's quite alot to take in but I understand more why things seemed to be implausible to me but just what people did for the rest of the world. I can tell you as an adult my mother went through many of the struggles you are facing, and unfortunately she wasn't armed with the knowledge that her child is unique she just had to take what I said or did which can feel very cold and isolating. I can tell you the barriers of the stimuli embedded in your 'valid' requests would have been too much for me. Sand, simply would not have done between my feet or in my socks the photos you would have received would have reflected my disgust as I involuntarily imagine my feet eroding away with every step. Rows of people lined up all looking directly at Me/Dillion because I am an extension both physically and figuratively of you, simply no. And lastly, photos themselves feel as though they rob me of something only present in real life (I can't explain it), but it is difficult for me much like Ros, to feel truly relaxed while being filmed. No. All of these my mother would have NO idea why she'd never experience them with me, was she not tender enough, did she do something wrong?
I tell you this to let give you the perspective of Dillon in 20 years. We see what we can't do, we notice but it doesn't mean we don't love you we just need a different way to show you than the ways that can be so 'public' at times. Love your channel. Wonderful insight, it's helping me learn about myself.
sending you a big hug x
You are amazing and you had a lovely wedding congratulations may allah blessings your marriage and your family 👏🎉
thank you so much my friend x
As an Aspie I am proud of Alfie and wish him happiness and success in life. In many areas Autistic people are exceptionally skilled and just want to contribute their talents to society and live a life with minimal suffering while coping with the condition. I hope neurotypical society makes this possible. Throughout history the Autistic neurotype made important contributions showing itself in the works of Einstein, Beethoven, Mozart, Van Gogh, Michelangelo, Michael Jackson and many others.
BrightSparkling@Soul i couldn’t agree more!! Thank you x
Amazing 🤩. Please tell us what the name of the track played in 7:20
Lovely 😊
Colleen Caddick ❤️❤️❤️
Autism is like a deal you didn't choose to make. It trades your ability to blend into society and understand how others think for a unique look at world. Sometimes the trade ends up being more or less to your benifet. I for one, wish the deal hadn't been made.
i am sending you a big hug. i hope i can start to make some indent to help the world see you dont need to blend in to society, let society be open to the fact that everyone is different and makes a difference to this world. x
@@ComingHometoAutism But I want to blend in. I don't want this view. And too many people are going to live life non verbal. Someone needs to make a cure or a prevenative. Acceptance is great, and I actually fit pretty well into school, but I still don't want this.
@@ComingHometoAutism Ps: Alfie does impress me.
Don't dis my ability. We all have strengths and weaknesses, but some are just less common, and misunderstood.
Theaksten absolutely that’s why I did this video because I don’t think autism is a disability. And I want to help my son not be misunderstood! 💪🏻 x
@@ComingHometoAutism I understand two different paradigms of disability that many in the disability community stand by. The first is to let go of your weaknesses and not let them define you. Frozen's Let it go is inspirational to many with disabilities.
The second is to not let others define you by your weaknesses. In this case, disability is society's lack of adequate access to community resources for those who have abilities different from the majority.
For example, ASD often involves significant social challenges. Social skills are often the key for entry to and success in the workplace. While some employers, like Microsoft, are spearheading initiatives to get more people with ASD into its workforce, most employers simply don't bother to provide accommodations.
At most, one in six people with ASD are employed, because ASD is not a protected status under US law, albeit the possibility for people with ASD to apply for disability status. Consequently, employers are able to discriminate against the majority of ASD candidates and employees without legal repercussions.
8:00 celebrate the small wins 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
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In high school I had multiple schoolmates who were autistic they weren't in my class per say they were just on my school bus of course back then I did not understand what autism really was I thought it was the same as down syndrome but I understand.it better than I did in high School
Thank you for this informational video , i love you talk about all the positives as well as the negatives. I like that you also said Autism is a different ability not a disability. I completely 100% agree with you on that statement. Congratulations on getting married :) it looked like a really special day and you look amazing in the dress. You have inspired me to do my own video on this topic. Keep up with making awesome videos. I look forward to more from you .
So sweet
You are so kind
Yes autizim is a disability I have it and it’s hard
Hi..i was crying while watching ur vid. I think my son has autism too but what i cant do is to bring him to a school with therapist since its expensive here in the Philippines. Is there a book or something that u can recommend for a play therapy for my child. He us 2yrs and 7 months old.. thanks
Ladyzynt Shendelzare hey there apologies I’m just getting back to you now. In my book I talk about play therapy also in my video how I found out I recommend a book on there also. Hope this helps x
I'm from the Philippines also where are you in the Philippines i have a daughter with asd good thats why I love this channel I really relate to you Tara you are amazing mom ❤️ love lots from California USA
Cute and very adroble!!
thank you x
Hi i am a very concerned mom for my toddler ...your videos are an inspiration ...please tell that can autistic child lead a normal life...can do basic life skills ...
there is not reason why they can not lead a wonderful life full of love and friendship. all i want for my son is to love and be loved x
I am autistic the only reason my psychiatrist told me I'm autistic was because I can't socialize with people
I think Freddie Mercury would be proud. 😊
he would wouldnt he x
So does my son but he got it from me.
I have Autism
I hope one day my son start to talk he is 3 years old nonverbal
Thank you for your reply reading your comment give me hope
Never give up the hope! My brothers speech improves everyday
Absolutely never give up if you watch my latest video our autistic speaker ros didn’t start talkinguntil she was 13. Never give up x
My son is 3 and autistic and still no words. I pray everyday and God will make it happen
I have autism
Autism isnt a disability, it's a gift given by the gods above to only a few special souls who are given extraordinary talents to be able to share them with the world. I would of loved my child to have autism honestly.
is this your second marriage ???
No it was my one and only