When You Don't Want To Be A Mother |PS: Children Will Humble You
Vložit
- čas přidán 13. 07. 2024
- Hey Bump Lovers,
At what point did you know that you were meant to be a mother?
Have you always felt this way?
Join the conversation today... What we believe is that you can choose to have 1, 2 or 10 kids. All children are meant to be born!
Celebrate the gift of children at the Golden Tulip this Sunday at the SUNDAY BRUNCH - UGX 90,000 for adults and UGX 60,000 for children.
If you enjoyed this video please like it, share with someone who will relate and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one.
Follow us on: Instagram / bumploveug
Facebook / bumplove
Twitter bumploveug?t=kR7O...
#HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove
Hey Bump Lovers,
At what point did you know that you were meant to be a mother?
Have you always felt this way?
Join the conversation today... What we believe is that you can choose to have 1, 2 or 10 kids. All children are meant to be born!
Celebrate the gift of children at the Golden Tulip this Sunday at the SUNDAY BRUNCH - UGX 90,000 for adults and UGX 60,000 for children.
If you enjoyed this video please like it, share with someone who will relate and hit that subscribe button for more videos like this one.
Follow us on: Instagram instagram.com/bumploveug
Facebook facebook.com/BumpLove
Twitter twitter.com/bumploveug?t=kR7O...
#HappyFriday #NewEpisode #BumpLove
Women are also restricted by the birth process for example nowadays c section restricts number of babies
Thanks ladies for the good work.
I think one of the biggest reason why women give birth to few babies is the unreliability& irresponsibility of the men. It's crazy gals...I don't know what's become of the men, my God, may God touch them.😢
Women want to give birth to few children such that incase the father decides to take off, she will be able to handle on her own. We are always expecting them to take off,and more oftenly than not, they do. Trust me raising 1or 2 children alone is easier than raising 3,4,5..
Personally, I have one baby gal, her father took off and I swore to myself, unless am married & the guy is 100% committed,am stopping at 1 baby
Hehehehe I realised I didn't want to have children when I was pregnant 🙈 but I endured and it's the beeeeesssstttt thing that's ever happened to me,it's such a joy to know that God is with me on this journey pouring into me for the sake of this little man and I now know that he's all I can take and compromise for and am glad God gave me the opportunity to be a mother.
I always only wanted children if I was staying with their father in the same house and we bring them up together(Other than that, I was happy being the darling auntie to my nephews and nieces),because then I would have someone to share the huge,endless responsibilty but after separating with their father and living the house, I regret having the 2 innocent little children because I feel like I did them injustice...
I love children in fact wanted about 6 but God blessed me with 4. I got a burn last Saturday but the way my elder son was pampering me this evening hooo made be a proud mother
Can we just give these ladies their flowers for the consistency they've shown in giving us great conversations?! Super Blessed I get to learn from these ladies. May God continue to richly bless you!
Aaaaaàaawwwwww thank you Amutuhwire. We're here for consistency
I love you so much darling
Pumla is the physical representation of my mind! You gat to love her😊❤️
Thank you ladies for these conversations...they are timely indeed!
Happy that you are here Ritah
This topic was a hot button, nerves were "inadvertently" touched,defense mode low key activated but the classy & mature thing abt this panel is that they know how to respectfully agree to disagree & then circle back & wrap it up with a beautiful bow.
We grown for sure. We agree to disagree...regardless
@@pumlanabachwa8668 we be loving you P. And all of ladies.
Me as Me, When l see A mother with more than 2 kids, l feeel Joy in the inside and Am ready To have 4 kids ..... ...😊😊😊😊😊😊🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉...May God Bless me With Kids And l will be the happiest
I loved Angie for this! Wisdom trolling "choice" that's held at such a high pedestal today. Children are a blessing. Who would want 1 or 2 when you could have more.
Right!😊
Munange. The one of zero, 1 or 2 wants that. The one of 8, 9 or 10 also wants that. It should all be okay. Let's be respectful and not troll each other's choices
I liked it when she said we make selfish choices imagine denying your child the company of siblings
Are siblings the only company a child can have? What about neighbors, friends, cousins even pets! etc.
@@millennialaunty my dear if you haven't been in a situation of being alone you will never understand this even if one had a full village around still one would wish to have a sibling
Hot and significant topic today.....An old lady in a nursing home I worked in said she chose not to have children and not to get married thinking she will die rich in her mansion enjoying her money, only to end up all alone confined in one room in a nursing home and her funds being managed by her nephew and best friend... Like Mannuella said," we aren't in control as we think we are. "... Just be happy with any choice you make in your life and be ready to embrace all the consequences of that choice whether positive or negative.There is no choice better than the other I think.
I feel like Manuela wasn't her usual self however she concluded the show very well. Thnx ladies ... Always here to learn ❤️
Wow!!! Amazing conversation! Pumla and Racheal your input were incredible, especially the spiritual perspectives that you shared. I am rooting for this show to win an international award.
From your lips to God's ears ... Amen.
Motherhood has really given me strength that I didn't know I had indeed. Humbled me and made me spiritually grow. I am in love with God more and more.
'A partnership with God in raising the children He trusts us/ blesses us with' Thats so beautifully said Racheal.
Beautifully put . I 💯agree
Co-parenting with God!
I am only 40 seconds in but I had to pause and say, Rosette, That hair hugs your face so beautifully 😍
P.S I love how you've all been present for the last couple of episodes!
Awww. Thank u
I like it that 5 women with 5 different views and perspective.And that’s the beauty of a discussion.
I am team Pumla today. Those who never lacked basic home items can not have a similar look as those who did on the issue of raising a human being. CHOICE is big word & key lies in how each one of us strikes a balance. Life has no manual, your submissions are dependent on your life experiences. 26 & I can assure you if I can't finance atleast one, am not having it. Reality is shockingly expensive: knowing thing & understanding them impacts your life differently. As I get older I know now some decisions can't be recorrected, I know now that some of us have no privilege to risk stuf(life your own kid's future- atleast ensure agood backup) , I also know that kids don't forgive irresponsible parents. If your kids grows while she was the one who lacked at every point, her look of things will always aim at how not to go back there. Helplessness can humble you beyond measure. And today I feel that Angie should be told how women land in that spot of not wanting kids at all.
True and I was that child who lacked and there's a way it affects my self esteem I always feel unwanted and it's hard for me to relate with others. Thou I have no problem with my parents coz dad passed wen I was 11yrs ma mum had to suffer with us but here iam struggling to live 🙏
@@nabiryeasia9091oh dear, I hope you can find a way to heal from your past experiences and never feel unwanted.
Nakkonde. Are you sure you are 26????? WOW! I don't have this knowledge at that age. Kudos to you honey!!!
@@pumlanabachwa8668 I am making 27 in August. I am surrounded with everything I don't wanna be like. Taking up any chance to change my story... I am thankful for the internet for how simplier it has made my life.
14:35 That was a good conclusion Rach. Make your choices, deal with the consequences 😂 at all the stages of your life. If you CHOOSE remain child free, be at peace with it and be at peace with those who have 10+ most especially if they are not coming to ask you for help 😂😂😂But even if they ask you for help, accept peacefully or refuse peacefully. All in all, be at peace with your choice and be at peace with other people's choices 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Be at peace with your choice and be at peace with other people's choices 👍🏾
The goal is accountability and peace🤣. Well summarised..
Wow. Thank you bump love for this topic. This has been my most empowering episode to learn from.
Everyone's submission has been so helpful for me not to question life so much.
My girl will be making 3 in October and I can assure you, I never called her to come to this world. I wasn't prepared. I was just 20 on my year 2 at campus so immature and young. I felt wat the hell has just happened!! So do I have to not enjoy my 20s because of this??
And guess what, am learning to adjust, to settle in, to accept that she came from God and for a purpose and mine is just to nurture and co create with God just as Rachel brought it.
To accept the journey and live in the now. Resist fear especially the fear of the unknown Manuela said it makes us miss the chances that might come our way without us realising them and Yes! It's true.
Make choices that we can be accountable to. Educate ourselves on them to avoid regret and to have answers to societal queries "pumla said.
Rosette and Angie all preach love.
Thank you ladies you're really shaping me through your views and I totally relate.
I desire to stand some day and attest to all this in the crowd just as you do. You inspire me so so much. 😘😘 I love you'll.
Growing up never wanted kids because of the torture i went through when my parents weren't around. My dad passed on when i was 8 while my mum was somewhere catering for another man with my other half sibilings from different Dad. I grew up with anger that even made me to hate every child because what was in my little mind was that, children are like curses. Mothers will just givebirth and leave them to suffer coz mine left me at 2yrs.
But now as i grew up after i had encountered with God, i learnt to love and i started loving myself, oh! My God, my love for children is on top, apparently i'm 28years and got married in 2021 May, not yet conceived because my husband boaded for an ending opportunity soon coming back this very year but i tell you ladies, i'm so much prepared and i can't wait to have those kids as many as God will trust me with because i'm a steward and for me the difference i'm gonna do, is to make myself available for them everytime they need mum and the essentials. And yes, my plans may not align with God's but i'm praying for His provision according to His Will.
Thank you ladies for always impacting us with Bump love❤
GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
Aky today we almost gave up,,, no notification 😂😂. Tunawapenda sana ❤much love from Kenya 🇰🇪🇰🇪
Apologies 🙊
Waited all day at work nga nothing . Had almost given up surely
Kenyan ❤
Pumla and Rachael submissions are well laid out thanks for the show Naye also Pumla comments just make me laugh 🤣🤣🤣 we are blessed to have you on the show her bluntness is what ever young girl needs am sending my sisters to Pumla for counseling 🤣🤣
Pumla is annointed, she makes a good preacher of the gospel🤪. She is really deep and the way she articulates words shows a highest level of wisdom/maturity🤗
And Rachael's revelation of Mary says it all. We were chosen for our children
Thank you ladies for always speaking to us. This topic was for me because of its right timing in my life.
May God bless you and increase you as you impart knowledge to us🙏🙏
When she finally crosses to the line of salvation, she will be a great fisher of men.. she speaks with lots of wisdom that shows how much she has invested in knowledge. I love her too. I love her choice of words, authoritative but not offending anybody. She's my idol lol 😄
I love pumla, she is intelligent
Thank you Elizabeth. Your words are weighty. I hold them dearly.
@@nancyayikoru6089hahaha! When I add God...IMAGINE! I'll real be a fisher of Men 😊
One thing I love about bamplove is that I never leave the same I came, there's always something new to learn, thank you ladies ❤❤❤
We appreciate you being here
U guys speak about motherhood with soooo much emotions n love❤❤can't wait to feel that too,
We love you ladies... we keep learning, reflecting, and transforming each season. I wasn't ready by the time my firstborn came in. However, I know God was. His will was done , and I received my gifts, not one but 5❤
Thank you ladies for this candid conversation😊
Motherhood is a beautiful gift♥️
I look forward to being a Mom😍
All said and done, motherhood is the best gift that God can ever give to a woman. Such previledge to be a mum. May God protect our children❤❤
Such divine privilege for sure
Angie has a very good point,we were created to bear children but we only choose not to have them.❤
Pumla took the topic a little personal today but well done ladies ❤
It is not fair to say that we choose not to have them. Some people are struggling to conceive. Also who wants to raise more than one child alone, I feel Angie talks from a point of privilege
@@grammarforbeginners5865 I agree ,I think Angie speaks from a point of privilege
Hey family,wen it comes to children ps ladies it's a gift from God, just embrace wen it comes. It's not a choice or feeling!!, it's a gift
I'm a 24 year old and I've always wanted to be a mom and watching this episode has given me even more reason to look forward to motherhood . Thanks bump love keep this content coming .you really have no idea the impact this show has on the younger ladies. we appreciate .
I normally enjoy all the episodes ladies, but I think this one tackled a conversation you were not ready for. Its a very sensitive one that deserves alot of nuance and respect to both sides. It was hard not to get people in their feels on this one. That said, yall handle yourselves in such a classy way that disagreements dont become so ugly.
Oh! We're always ready. We just delivered raw.
You'll never see an ugly engagement on this show.
I am team children are a whole blessing even when they come with so much work..if i personally had the financial muscle among others, would definitely have like 6🥰🥰
Thank you ladies!!!!! Very beautiful and informative show! You empower me!!!!
These conversations of children are difficult ones but they are also eye-opening. One thing is for sure, having children transforms everyone for the better whether in the short term or long, it has to happen.
Much as God blesses us with children. As people we should prepare to raise and gloom children in our capacity..
I wouldn't wish to produce 6 children that I can't manage to care for.
Bump love has made Friday a marked day save for being a door to weekend 👏👏👏well done ladies
A door to the weekend 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾
Angie has spoken so much wisdom!
And what she is saying it's the truth, though it's difficult to accept, but it's the trust
Angie i agree with you. We have taken choice to another level n yes we are becoming selfish n self obsessed
Angie had a great point there. This thing called choice has also been abused and misused 😂😂😂😂😂. That's why everyone these days is choosing to live by "their truth". Zero accountability and no sense of community. The buzz words me time, self love, etc. So Manuela, that Mama in her bonnet with no bra at the school is living her truth. Where do we draw the line? 😂
There is no lie in what she is saying.....Ladies are becoming Men😂😂😂
Very true... choice is getting out of perspective in this generation z
Its bse Africans are copying or emulating ebya ba zzungu...preferring western culture to their own...very sad
Self importance!
That said, Angie speaks of not being able to go back and change this "choice"!
And that's the bit where we must be very intentional putting into account what your purpose here is...what's your purpose?!
Truth be said, you can never be ready for a child. No amount of "preparation" is enough.
Its meant to be an adventurous journey 💃
Angie I love your submissions. Thanks so much the ladies
Loving your shows and getting to watch your channel more and more... more love from Kenya 💜💜
I personally knew I always wanted to be a mum, love my children above everything else, but I totally agree with Pumla. I totally don’t agree with the over romanticism of having way to many children, especially in the African culture!,
And about regretting having few friends when you are older, that’s not true! My Mom had 10 kids and she’s now “ all on her own”, we have all taken our different paths.( we can’t immediately be physically there when she needs us).
My mother in law had only 3 children, but they were all physically there for her until she left this world( so it’s not all about the number of kids)
👏👏👏Well said
You've wrapped it beautifully.
@@brendahjjakira3944 thanks dear
@@pumlanabachwa8668 thanks 🙏
Oh wow! I'm hoping most of you will all be close enough to your mum.
well done ladies..
have always felt/ feel God gave me my child for a purpose😊
I love you Angie, your so real in this era.
I love you Recheal, your submission is so humbling❤❤
I love Pumla for this 100% the way she reasons and the way she brings this point, everybody can make a choice which is in our African Culture not that present and mostly not accepted. Pumla is not African she was only born there. As much as I love being an African born and raised, but I cannot keep up with these expectations and trying to explain things nobody want to understand . Yes we think we think too much and that is the beauty of it. We have a choice to think on what we want to be and with who. Saying that our Wombs were made for having kids tells me that Women were met to marry and bear kids. So every woman who is full age doesnt have a choice to get the right Husband. I feel the same way we have a choice to get ourselves a good Husband it is the same way we have a choice to say how many Children we want.
I am here comfortable with no Single kid. I dont judge people with kids no matter how many. Everybody should live how he or she wants
SUSAN. SUSAN. SUSAN.
How many times have I called you????
I know for a fact that this continent I was born on was just to ensure that I remain humble 😂😅😂 BECAUSE 🤦🏾♀️
Angie, was quite but brought up a hot point…. 😂😂
Yyyyeeeyyy been refreshing endlessly 😂
Racheal, partnership with God is such a beautiful thing to ponder on.
I loved Manuela's concluding submission it wrapped it up nicely and indeed all authority and power us with the Lord.
Children are blessings and it's your own choice to decide wow Thanx for the show ladies
Thank you Pumla and Racheal for being so articulate. I knew i was meant to be a mother the first time I saw a woman in labor. It immediately hit me, i instantly felt a strike of love for my mother. And from then on, I looked forward to being a mother someday. I made that choice and I'm so accountable for it.
This is a first. Love this for you. ❤
I forever stand with pumla when it comes to children choices. Forever n ever.
Choices. Choices. Choices.
Thank u ladies 4 da topic 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Angie loved your perspective and Racheal.
Thank you Rachel
Thanks ladies Great Conversation
Angie’s hair & makeup was so on point in this episode!
Great conversation 👏🏾👏🏾
Team Children 🎉🎉🎉. Naye career has suffered so help me God. Naye 2 already really want 4 but only willing to go through pregnancy once. God give me twins🎉🎉🎉. Angie is submission is Golden
Let's pray for twins 😊
That is a very nice point Manuela.
Also, just seeing how each of these ladies explicitly expresses themeselves makes me believe more that there's enough space for all of us to shine at the top, like Pumla usually says🤗
There's enough space for us to shine at the top ❤
I love children to the bottom of my heart though I haven't brought one yet but In Sha Allah I pray I bring some few.
When I see a child around, I feel like I'm a protector of these creatures😂. I look at them like my so young self and so innocent of where they are, in a space(surrounding) where anything can happen. This is my vision of being more of a protector and confidant for them.
No wonder mum tells me in my childhood, I was so kind to the children and still are.
I love those creatures though I believe in having few that I feel I can handle just like Pumla submitted.
Please, please, please think about inviting a few of us to watch live these discussions once while. With love from bump love❤
We'll have love sessions soon Kirunda. Watch this space ❤
@@pumlanabachwa8668 thank you darling
I wasnt ready buh fot the two years spent in motherhood,I appreciate the role.
Manuella love your final submission, truth bomb just! Thank you ladies for this topic, it is very much appreciated.
Mbade wano nkunonya....heehehe
@@RuthAyne Nzuuno 😅😅
I agree with Angie , children need to be many for companionship .
Angie I think you're very right!
Hi ladies, would you kindly have a discussion on the Marriage Choice as well from the same perspective.
I appreciate every one of your perspective on this topic. Such beautifully wise women.
As a child i said,"when i grow up i want to be a mother like my mommy". She was and still is a great mum. But i never had that innate desire to be married. This white dress fantasies and all that jazz. However, IF and this is a very big IF. I meet a man who changed my mind about it then i would get married to him because i do genuinely believe that marriage is good and that it works. Its just not sth i wanted for me.
The flipside has always been. Because of my Christian faith and belief, i was never going to have a child out of wedlock intentionally. My desire to be called mom could not superseed my desire not to be married. And then at 32 i was diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis so that story all went out the window for me.
At 38, i became a mother out of wedloc and i hear Pumla when she says God knew my son needed to be born, but he knew i was not going to bring him out of wedlock. So for me he caused 'a situation' and as soon as i was pregnant all the care and comfort 'the situation' brought in those very few months left completely.
I love my son to heaven and back. I do not regret him nor am i ashamed of him. I am a proud mother of one child and i am fulfilled and satisfied with him.
Society will not understand my one...... The ones who are not happy about me being a solo parent are still struggling with my joy, independence and pride in him ,while those who are excited about him are not understanding my refusal to have another child.
I am content and at peace. God answered my prayer quite unconvensionally and i am happy.
Now i am still open to marriage, though i am not looking for it. But another child..i am closed for business 😅.
I love love love bump love.
Always looking forward to your hot topics . I admire your maturity and your different perspectives. Looking forward to motherhood soon ❤❤cheers from Kenya ❤to Pumla you are a brainstorm
Angie wowowow...you presented like a virtuous woman, God bless you. I think we take this thing of choice to another level..
Thanks for the show❤
Loving this shows ❤❤❤
Great conversation, I hear all the ladies in their space
Love Angie in this conversation 🎉🎉🎉🎉
A special thank u to u all for loving 💖 us this much 😘..cheers 🥂 to more years of taking us thru. e awesome topics always..I have learnt nyoo I must say ..
We appreciate you bump love, ❤️ i have always want to have children but my fear is the evil world plus financial instability, i have one lol
Manuela that last submission just gave me strength. 👏👏👏👏
Economics is a huge factor. Where I live, the difference between a 3bed house and a 4bed house is $100k. That’s a significant difference, and for parents who want a certain lifestyle for their kids, it may be a a detterent. Same goes for vehicles. The difference between a small SUV and a large SUV is about $15k.
Our environment is designed for a 4 person family, 5 if you push it
wao wao wao, big up ladies this a great and informative topic. powerful
Real talk ✌🏾
Manuela you got me with the last piece , you seemed very composed n calm today hope all is well. But what you said about our fears and letting God take control is key cos there is no guarantee that even when u teach your child that they will follow ghe right path. Even though there is eveil in the world there is still hope. Thanku
😂😂😂😂 composed for me.
Bwahahahahahahahaha. Motherhood humbles me
@@manuelap.mulondo Yeah, you seemed a bit out of your element... you were not "Kantakaras" enough for me😅
@@victoriasanyime9910 This topic did not need canterkarousness 😂She was in deep thought and introspection. Infact I am surprised she didn't shed a few tears 😢 😭 😅
@@anonnona6433 😂😅
If You change your mind at 50, you can always adopt. If you genuinely believe raising and loving another human being unconditionally is what you want, then adoption shouldn't be an issue. So still no regrets at 50
Or better yet, if u're financially secure, freeze ya eggs for later use.
Citing Naomi Campbell who just had a second child @53! #choices
Oh...another angle. Nice ❤
Thanks for the show
Angie is a sweetheart ❤️
I wanted to have kids though I was not ready when she came but I count my self lucky every day that passes by.
Thx so much ladies for the show❤
Am doing better😂😊
I think i love all these Ladies perspectives...just one thing i felt led to share...there is a growing number of abortions among married women because of finances. Just want to tell a lady out there that your child is no mistake. It is beyond your control to have one in the first place and God will take you through.
Friday for bumplove 🎉🎉
Pumla, you are amazingly brilliant, articulate and EMPATHETIC!
Thank you Patricia. Such a Huge Compliment
Interesting conversation.......
Team Angie thanks bump love
U nailed it my ladies but it will still be upon individual capability whether to be a mother or not and i like it wen Angie said we over think about hence becoming hard and harder to choose. Lastly not evry one was created to be a mother
Pumla woowww very interesting points
I love you, Angie, so mature submission.
Rachael is very articulate!!!!!
My mum had 7 children with my father because THEY WANTED TO. Let us not romanticize many children. Let us romanticize having as many or as few children as we can manage. "Choice" is and will always be important. I want 4-5 children as a 20 year old but my brother and sister in law want 2 as 30 yr olds. It is your own choice and it should be respected.
I agree. My reason for having few is because I'm having them late and also the work life balance
Hey, now the differences in these kids keeps me wondering what traits the next child will have and shows me that God is an advocate for one having many.
With my experience, motherhood came to me when l actually didn't expect it, am like kemi it came to me at an early where l literally got regrets at some time,
But later did l know that it was actually a blessing to me, to have had my daughter at that age, cause right now l can tell where lam its by having her in my life, l find myself taking decisions that I never had thought of doing at this age, so l bless motherhood whereas having a few kids comes from one's choice this has nothing to do with the capability of raising but rather someones choice surely
Cheers to you. Motherhood is always a blessing ❤
Love you pumula😊
I feel like this conversation got really sensitive. Children are definitely a blessing
The subject matter in itself is sensitive for sure. All in all...we wrapped it with one voice. Children are a blessing
It's a sensitive topic that needs to be discussed even further because many women need to know that their bodies are not just to have children.
Angie ,go mummy ❤
Ooohhhhh Rosette you made cry when you mentioned appreciating your second kid after losing the first one, thats me now, I love my son so much more than I did to my Malkia Najjemba (rip my love),love you Rosette now that you are Najjemba i love you more
Awwwww❤
Thanks ladies.. loved Angie’s submission.. over thinking things can be a problem… and Manuela’s point at the end speaks to this… relax! God has you!
I'm wt a stage where I want to do things so fast, targets and all but my baby has humbled me. He's made a year and 3 months but his attachment to breast feeding is on another level. I can't bring myself to wean him yet I have a lot of targets to meet. Plus the older 2. I'm learning to balance him and my targets and I think its beautiful.
Manuela is so calm today...thank you ladies ❤️
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The topic was for being composed 😊
Thanks Angie..onzukusizaamu concerning choices