5 MILITARY HABITS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOR THE BETTER
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- In this video your enigmatic host shares the 5 military habits that can make a positive difference if applied to your life today.
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Another thing I learned in the military: Never look like you've got nothing to do. They WILL find something for you to do!
Too true!
Hence soldiers carrying clipboards around. Or tins of paint. Makes you invisible!
E-4 Mafia stuff
Sham on
Yep, it's helped me in a ton of ways.
1. Never be late for anything
2.Be organized
3. Proper ironing
4.Spend time on your footwear
5. Practice humour
No thanks.
All of this is for some, not others.
And before you reply or act, always take a breath
@@Sionnach1601your loss
@@Sionnach1601 Wait, you don't iron all your stuff all the time?!
@@otisobl Ah....I agree with some of this obviously, and most people do it competently enough.
I think this Air Force guy is both an example of very heavy disciplinarian conditioning - intended to have absolute and complete dominance of the men under the control of the govt; but I also reckon that this particular individual is also trying to make a name for himself, using some sensationalist extremism.
A lot of it smacks of OCD.
If you notice, the MAJORITY of the commenters are clearly in agreement, AND are also all ex-military. They cannot say that a lot of this is not just plain old tribalism, or even bordering on cultism. "Us and Them", military Vs civilians.
Like I say, a good deal of it makes sense, but after that it's just unnecessary and a bit unhealthy.
My wife has often noted: "You may have left the Army - but the Army never left you". I left the Army in 1974. And I still have the discipline and demeanour of a Soldier. Thank you for the memories.
Oh that’s great! I demobbed in 2013 after doing my 22 in the Royal Marines! Was kinda hoping I’d get used to this civ div at some point 🤦♂️😂😂😂
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I parted ways with the Army in 1990 and became a PFC the very next day
Never joined the military, learning from you Legends.
Good lessons. In ranger school you were also taught never to give up, especially on yourslf. That I wpuld say was the most important lesson.
As a 35yr veteran of the US Army who recently retired, your video was spot on correct. If you could add a sixth lesson, it may be about the importance of physical fitness in your daily life...simply investing a small portion of your day to take care of your body and mind. If you stay ready (for whatever task), you don't have to get ready. Thank you for sharing these lessons to a broader audience.
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Yepper, I am closing in on 60, and I still do burpees, pushups, inverted rows and bodyweight squats.
Excellent video...expecting more😅
I had the same thought about fitness. My brother leftthe military years ago but still maintains strength and fitness with a short daily workout -the 'little and often' approach.
Ditto. Coming from a 30 year veteran, this one factor is what sets us apart from the others of our age in civvy street. Many other characteristics of a military person that set us distictly apart from the rest.
1) 2:21 Never be late for anything in life. Exactly on-time is actually late. Be there 10 mins before.
2) 5:17 Everything has its place. Keep everything in its place.
3) 7:11 Nobody else does the ironing for me in my life. I take the responsibility for the way that I look and I then take the accolade when I get the compliments.
4) 9:34 Always take time in polishing your footwear.
5) 13:15 The final habit is the humour. Humour becomes a coping strategy to life. I.e. Not flippancy, not degrading but diffusing a stressful situation.
Thank you, sir. I have subscribed because I wanted to learn more from you.
If I may add, I also like to pray and give thanks every morning, afternoon and evening - Give thanks that I am still alive at least and healthy to continue.
Thank you sir.
Thank you thats interesting info good habits for life
joined in 76 a lowly infantry private, changed to RNZE and all these rules i kept studiously . prior preparation and planning prevents a piss poor outcome. Still applyb this at 70yrs old
Amen praise Jesus
1) That's not military habit that's common sense
3) That's called living alone
5) That's not military habit
i served in afghanistan, OEF 2008, did 8 years in the U.S. ARMY as An infantryman, today, i dress like a punk rock skateboarder and love driving around with my bud in our hotrod car club, , but i still say yes sir or no ma'm. always be polite and have lots of patience with people i already am aware that they have zero to no, " Discipline " so it's up to me, to apply my, Discipline to my own self, and REMEBER EVERYONE!! DON'T EVER COMPROMISE YOUR STANDARDS < FOR NO ONE! Even if your manager, or boss, or superior, are slobs, dont lower yours to theirs! Stay Sharp my friends!
Soo much respect
@mikederasmo7621 Thank You for Your service, Mike!! Warmest regards in all Your endeavors!🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲
Straighten that shit out sandbag. Neaten up. 😅
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I'm a 21 year U.S. military veteran. I could not agree more. I was in the Legal Branch. I would exercise and run 5 miles a day, with one of the Infantry units on my base. Needless to say, I stayed in tip-top physical condition. I moved to Costa Rica, and still run along the beautiful beaches. After service, I worked for several large legal firms. What a nightmare! There was no team work, it was cut throat, every man/woman for themselves. It was all about billable hours and winning cases for profit. Now that I look back, some of the best experiences and friends I had, was during military service!
I've never been in the military, but I do miss team activities. Most jobs don't cut it.
Yeah, I tried law for 6-7 years and hated it.
I learned several great military habits while serving in the USMC.
Here are a few listed below.
1. Always arrive 15 minutes before.
2. Discipline: live a life of Discipline.
3. Initiative: always take the initiative.
4. Integrity: live a life of integrity.
5. Motivation: stay motivated and keep going.
Believe in God!
Umm, what if you were raised by an indulging single mother who spoiled her son?
never been in the military... use those same rules
#3 totally agree. As Ted Turner the founder of CNN once said "Lead, follow or get out of the way"!
Those are the exact thing my marine dad taught me...i just could not put them i to such a list...thank you...especially integrity...that was top of the list for him....and me.
In these times of slack and allergy to accountability, there is nothing more pleasant than collaborating with people who are always on time, orderly and focused on details. Those people are gold, keepers.
Allergy to accountability!
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Pure gold!
I love it!
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WHAT!?? You mean you expect me to be on time.....this is the worst job ever!! (says every millennial)
@@Snap-Anzahlbeing on time or early?
Better being 10 minutes early then 5 minutes late he who fails to plan obviously plans to fail my old platoon sgt always bellowed at us …..he was right😉👍always stuck with me
@@marshman5319 I totally agree, once I tag somebody as a late person, trust goes down to zero.
My son is 17 and in the air cadets... he turns out immaculately even in camo! But I am waiting for his room to benefit from some discipline 😂.
He’ll get there………maybe.
So refreshing to hear someone recognize the value of striving to be a true gentleman. Thank you.
5things (awesome video)
2:00 never be late and arrive early
5:15 everything needs its place
7:10 ironing your ownclothes
9:31 polishing footwear& footwear care
13:15 humor in tough situations
I was in the Navy from 1964-1968, learned all these things and have kept to these habits well into my late 70s. I’ve been married 55 plus years and still do all my own ironing too.
68 to 89 Navy reserve voluntered got out 2 weeks later lol drafted Army God knows I love his country
I was a tank gunner in the 3rd Armored Cav, deployed in Iraq for two years. The most important thing I learned is selfless service. If you approach everything in life from a position of doing it to help others it make life much more meaningful.
Salute to you sir
Brave Rifles!
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Retired policeman (American), and time served in the Army Guard/Reserve. Thank you for your insight, and service.
I’m a woman and spent time in the military. All of this was instilled in me and remains after many years. This type of video should be mandatory especially now days when so many people don’t seem to have any self discipline or care about how they look. Thank you!
My pleasure. Thank you for your service
Great informative video. One thing I’d like to add, is that it’s important to be comfortable with being uncomfortable at times. If you’re uncomfortable often enough, either cold showers, weight training, running exercising in the rain, you’ll be better off when you’re uncomfortable in a serious situation. Whether you have to have an operation, an illness, an injury, a car accident, etc. you’ll survive and have a better attitude if you’re accustomed to occasionally being uncomfortable.
I was reading about a tough Army school, I forget what it was. The senior instructor said, "the main take away from the course is a layer of grit that can't be had any other way."
This is why soldiers from places that have terrible climates tend to be really good. If you've had to train in everything from arctic cold to tornadoes, like Canadians or Americans might, a soft European rain in November is absolutely not going to phase you.
I'd agree heartily with that alright.
I'm retired US Arrmy, formerly a Platoon Sergeant. I currently attend the local university near me just for fun and to pass the time. I am a history major, and spend a lot of time reading obscure texts and then writing my thoughts on them. I have absolutely no problem speaking at length in front of a group, but I have noticed that many of my much younger classmates are absolutely terrified of public speaking. From early on in the military, if you are speaking in front of a formation and they can't hear you in the back, you can be certain that they will let you know it. BTW a trick I was taught early on by Old Sarge was to walk around with a clipboard and a scowl - potential nuisances will scatter like cockroaches. Great video.
Good post, put on a lab coat for real fun and intimidation, don't just scowel, look at them, shake you head in disapproval and write making like your checking something off.
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a clipboard and a scowl will get you past a lot of officious "helpers"
its funny how in my unit, in order to get over the fear of public speaking we have to do what's called weekly safety talks. one gets up Infront of others and does his/her presentation for 5-10 minutes either by power point or by notes. works great
@@mikeecho33 - I noticed, when in physical therapy after a spinal-cord injury, that the physical therapists all took turns giving lectures about tips for living at home while recuperating. This goes along with something I had read about once; a professional military man said that part of your command duties is to teach; it's not often mentioned(probably because it doesn't sound very glorious), but all that I've heard about the best men in command - in civilian life as well - leads me to agree.
I was in the USAF for 4 years and I would say the things I learned were:
1) Plan ahead and be proactive
2) If something just takes a few minutes do it now not later
3) Be neat, clean and organized
4) Learn self-discipline (very important IMO)
5) Be professional in your conduct
6) Have a long term direction to strive for. Men especially need a goal or path in life to strive for.
7) Be resilient, you will get knocked down again and again in life. Get up and start moving. Learn from it.
The military can teach you a lot of things that are valuable and can be used for the rest of your life.
Lots of other comments have great things listed too.
The things I learned in the military still are a part of my life even now at 70.
I will always place the mission first.
I will never accept defeat.
I will never quit.
I will never leave a fallen comrade.
I am disciplined, physically and mentally tough, trained and proficient.
I always maintain my arms, my equipment and myself.
Utrinque paratus!
A mantra to live by - throughout a whole lifetime
You don't always put the mission first. Sometimes the people come before the mission.
Para !
Sometimes you have to accept defeat, it's unrealistic not to. It's how one deals with defeat that makes the difference. Defeat does not mean beat.
One thing my military experience taught me, other than ironing my clothes and polishing my shoes, I was taught self confidence in myself, which helped me to relate to many people from all walks of life, young and older
Intrigued by how the military was able to teach self-confidence. Most of us find it hard to acquire this if we don't already have it.
October 2023 - Thank you so much for this video! I wish I saw something like this decades ago in my life. One day I was doing religious education to a bunch of youngsters at a church. One young boy raised his hand. I thought he had a question about what I was talking about. He said boldly, “My father has a belt just like yours!!” Whether we like it or not, people do check out and look at each other.
I’m retired US Army 30 years. I started as a Private, E-1 and made my way to Colonel. The secrets to my success: 1) When you fail or screw up, be 100% honest with the boss. Accept responsibility and committ to never making the same mistake. If you lead a team and the team is successful ensure that everyone gets recognition. 2) Take the tough jobs and do your best in them. I outworked my peers. I never kissed arse. I simply did my job to the best of my ability. That’s it.
Former US Army here. Particularly as a young soldier, shining boots was as much a social activity as a military duty. A few cans of kiwi shoe polish, a cotton t-shirt cut apart and wrapped around your finger, a little water in the upturned lid of the polish, a couple of room mates and a guy or two from down the hall and a case of German beer. Let the dark humor flow! We would have conversations about everything from the new commander to yesterday's duty to family back home to the really hot local girl one of the guys was chasing, etc, etc.
You bring back the memories! Initial enlistment 89-93. I re-enlisted in the reserve after a long break in service, after the new uniforms and boots were fielded. I gotta tell ya: the new boots made you realize how bad the old black boots were. But I missed shining and seeing reflection in them.
LOL. I'm retired Air Force, but I was also an Army brat living in an Army neighborhood. Polishing our fathers' boots was a community activity even for us boys.
Hooah
Melting some Kiwi in the lid with a Zippo underneath makes liquid polish.
Spoken like a fellow vet, @@DrRonThomasJr! LOL
Please permit me to add a couple more admirable "military traits":
1) The Walk or better put, the Stride!
2) The smart posture, whether in standing or sitting!
I do agree 100%! I have not been a soldier (I am bloody short-sighted!) but my dad was, and luckily, I inherited his love for smartness in the sartorial sense and also in the way I carry myself.
The Stride... Constantly being told to slow down by my wife... :D
My family consists mostly of soldiers and sailors.
I have never been into the military my self but i aint walking rather striding and my wife hates it.
Defo mate
As a trainee, I was taught to do things properly. It then follows on that you take a pride in what you do and that extends through you life.
Also, everything in it's place, as you say. If you need something in a hurry, you know exactly where it is.
I served for 36 years in the Canadian Army. You are absolutely correct on all points.
"1.Keep your head on a swivel and watch your back.
2.Don't be the fly on the wall, be the wall.
3.Stay Strong, Stay Focused and Stay Free." -- Col. Michael Radcliff
Having a sense of humor is so important in life! Not just for relating to others but also for coping with difficult situations.
Many have fake humor pretending hard to be relaxed and funny and with fake smiles that you can spot from a distance like in the corporate world. Such people increase the stress tenfold.
I was in the United States Marine Corps. There was structure and order that stemmed from discipline. Your personal appearance most often indicated your attention to detail and performance. Like you said, everything has a place and there is a published procedure for almost everything that takes place in military life. I was able to operate in the dark because of the habit of keeping everything in the same place. People often ask me if I need a light on to be able to see what I’m doing. I say no thanks I’m fine with only a night light on. After getting out and making my way in the civilian world, that is a rarity. There’s no larger unit to be a part of and take pride in. At work, the procedures depend on who the boss happens to be and work ethic seems to less than in the military. About being on time, there was a standard of 15 minutes prior. If you weren’t 15 minutes early, you’re automatically late. You found yourself on your face doing push-ups. Some superiors took it to the next extreme and said if you weren’t 15 minutes prior to the 15 minutes then you were late (I saw no point in this myself). Anyhow that was a great video. Keep it up!
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Back in the 80s I worked with a bunch of great colleagues, some of whom had done military service. I could easily tell the difference - those with military service looked after the equipment they used, always turned up despite the weather, on time and in good humour. Those who hadn't done service were forgetful, late, unreliable, and always making excuses!
Exactly on time is exactly on time. It’s not late.
Miss me with this judgmental, sanctimonious bullshit. Millions of people like myself are neurodivergent and #timeblindness is a symptom we struggle with. It’s part of executive dysfunction. Look it up.
Also, precise punctuality is specific to certain cultures, and not others. In many cultures, the norm is more lenient. In some cultures “10 minutes early” would actually be considered rude.
My Dad was in the Navy during the 2nd world war ..as a child I always remember him spending hours polishing his work boots , he was never ever late for anything and I like to think I have followed in his footsteps in that respect .. a most entertaining video thankyou Ash
Exactly on time is exactly on time. It’s not late.
Miss me with this judgmental, sanctimonious bullshit. Millions of people like myself are neurodivergent and #timeblindness is a symptom we struggle with. It’s part of executive dysfunction. Look it up.
Also, precise punctuality is specific to certain cultures, and not others. In many cultures, the norm is more lenient. In some cultures “10 minutes early” would actually be considered rude.
I did not serve in the military, but many of your points were instilled in me by my parents who believed that timeliness reflected your character and respect for others while your appearance reflected your personal discipline and self-respect. Thank you for the reminder!
Amen
I'm a retired U.S. U.S. Air Force Sergeant. I have to say, yes I can relate with everything you talked about in this video. I learned all these lessons too in the military and they gave me a good blueprint for the rest of my life. I hope everyone watching this video take these lessons too heart. Thank you for all this good information.
How can someone adapt the military mindset and routine in his life? Can you guide us in this topic?
Watching this video is a good start.@@daoudabismailhedjoudja6804
@@daoudabismailhedjoudja6804you might try being more specific.
Maybe then you'll get a response.
Just trying to help.
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Always do the right thing, respect others. Take care of your health and exercise, not only your body, but also your mind. Always try to learn new things. Be clean, neat, on time and help others. Have a lifelong goal, make it worthwhile in service to others. Your career should be something you enjoy, so it is never work. That way it isn't about getting rich, but by doing what you like and helping others, you become rich. Be financial responsible, live below your means and save for your future and your retirement. Be kind to people and animals. All of this is just a beginning to a good life.@@sweetmissypetuniawilson9206
8 years US Air Force. For me, always on time early, well groomed at all times, organized, physical fit, my job responsibilities goes beyond my job title, do more than expected. Even as a sales manager for a machinery company I have no problem sweeping the floor, putting things away when I notice it needs be done. Oh and the shoes yes, always clean and shiny.
As a former Military veteran and whos father was a Intelligence officer in WW2 I had a disciplined upbringing. I thank my parents for how they were.... nothing horrible it was a brilliant childhood. I am sometimes unable to deal with the lack of motivation and discipline people have today.
BFPO ? Both my parents were military in the far east. I learned to make do with nothing and no one. Everything had to be left behind at short notice. I still have attachment issues. As a small child I walked home alone from school in distant lands. My brother was thought kidnapped by the Mau Mau, but he'd taken himself off to the NAAFI age 3 for the day. It was an amazing life journey, but I wished I'd been dropped off aged 2 with my Nana in Chatham to learn to be a tailor. Her husband, a Royal Marine, was injured on D-Day, and died soon after. I am never late.
The Navy, Army, Air Force Institutes?
As a person who respects discipline, you should respect proper spelling, grammar, and punctuation. Your excuses are your own.
@@h.hickenanaduk8622 The #1 clue for CZcams trolls is the grammar nazi attack......You need to tell your parents you failed at getting a education and your sorry that you work as a troll
How can you be a "former Military veteran?" Are you dead? No. Not if you posted on the internet.
Veteran USMC & US Army Infantry Officer, Ranger, Airborne, etc. My dad was a Marine officer, also. I appreciate having someone like you providing a "refresher" of the things that I still do habitually. Working from home nearly five years now has taken me out of a public environment where I can actually feel "feedback" from others for maintaining these standards. I miss the feedback because even though it might not be voiced, others notice and respond when you set and keep these values. I think the thing that most distresses me about the American culture is the abandonment of standards as it describes the failure of people to have respect for themselves, much less have any respect for others. A perfect example is flying passengers who show up with their hairy Frodo-toes hanging out of flip flops, wearing torn up clothing, their exposed armpits hanging out of their tank tops, and body odor that smells the southend of a north-bound rhinoceros. And don't even get me talking about how nasty the guys can get!
I guess I missed the torn up clothing part.
Normally I'm wearing clothes that would look like I'm headed to a job interview or court or something.
Its amazing how much more polite people are when you're dressed nice!
Btw..
Thank you for your service!
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My first comment was deleted?
It wasn't bad.
ah yes.. point 5 ;-)
The ironing and polishing of shoes is something we all retain forever . In my personal experiences when people say “ oh you are ex military”( rather than ask if I was ? ) is more to do with the posture than the dress . As much as I keep tidy and professional , people notice the stance and mention it often as a compliment
thank you sir! I'm 37 years old male professional and altough I have not served in the military but been involved with competitve sports and classical ballet from age 3-30. I have the same habits,procedures you have described in your video and proudly stick to traditional values.
Great video. I had four years in the US Army which included a year in Vietnam during the war. You are spot on. I think a mirror shine is one way to spot a veteran. As well as generally being more organized which includes ironed clothes. Better focus. Not every veteran; we have some who are not folks you would want to spend time with. But the others? Generous to a fault. Vietnam Veterans of America is generously supported (I am a Life Member) and in response VVA supports schools and orphanages in Vietnam.
My dad was an RSM in the KOSB & he instilled in me a huge amount of personal discipline & respect which has served me well in life
Osnabrück? I remember the KOSB being in the garrison.
@peterking8586 He went all over including Malaysia , Cyprus, Palestine & was involved with the D Day landings
When I watched you taking a hike in the woods; it reminded me of the physical demands as a U.S. Marine in the field who loves to spend time outdoors. It truly is therapeutic when your body is challenged and then you rest to recover and do it better the next time. Thanks for your video. Spot on mate.
I was not in the military, I was a professional sales man, and followed all the habits just mentioned in particular the pre planning and driving the route. Very glad found the channel. Excellent
I served in HM Forces (RAF) for 12 years, and left as an NCO.
I agree about timing, it really irritates me when people turn up late, especially for meetings or courses. Be ready to start at the time stated!
Nobody else does my ironing either, the thought of someone else ironing my clothes causes anxiety. Though after 12 years of ironing I do tend to avoid it if possible. Luckily I’m now self-employed craftsperson, so don’t need to look smart.
I agree about shoes, if someone is wearing a suit, but has dirty or poorly maintained shoes I can’t help but judge them. Maintaining your footwear isn’t just about looking smart, it saves you money too! 😂
Black humour, yes! Civilians need to learn the value of that. It keeps you sane.
My Grandfather was a probation officer after the war, and he said that the first thing he did, and gained a lot of information about the person coming to him, was look at their shoes. If he could see they made an effort with clean shoes he knew he could work with them to change their life around. Much harder these days as everyone wears trainers but I guess there are clean and neat trainers and there are dirty ones.
This video is spot-on, Ash. I'm retired US Army and these same habits were instilled in me early in my career. I try to teach the young men and women I work with as a volunteer firefighter/EMT these same lessons. I would like to add one more - Always have something to write with and on. Cells phones / tablets don't count because they can run out of power or cell service. Instead, carry a sturdy notepad and pencil (or pen). These tools are necessary in this distracted, busy world. Our memory is fallible, especially when we are tired and distracted. Writing down important information can literally save the day and your reputation. I use a weather/water-resistant pad (e.g., Rite-in-the-rain field book), but also carry a few 3x5 cards. I carry a pen AND a pencil. One tip I give to the other firefighters is to cut down a Bic Stic-type pen so it will fit in a pants pocket, as well as to carry a "golf pencil" (one of those stubby pencils used for scoring). Put an old cap from a pen over the pointy end of the pencil and you're prepared to write down important information and ideas. Thanks for excellent videos on how to be a better person.
A good additional tip sir. A reliable pen and a notebook will never let you down.
I feel saddened that I wasn’t allowed to join as I came to the uk for a different reason and could’ve joined the military in my native country but the prospect of being in the uk at the time seemed better. I still try to have that regimental discipline and would like to Instill that in my kids.
Great tip about something to write on and write with. I'm going to do that from now on. Thank you!
Excellent advice. I served as a US Marine and in the US Army for 32 years and I call people sir and ma’am to this day.
*At My Court Marshall, JuLy 1967, I Stated that->*
*I Don't Have ANY Enemies in Viet Nam!!!!*
*ALL My Enemies are the American Cong, Right here->*
*in the United States Marine Core!!!!*
as a former us marine and conflict veteran = 1' the good strong hygiene , 2' standing straight good posture , 3' your care and daily body maintenance , 4'
fitness , 5' punctuality and appearance
till this day ,iam 48 ,still try hard to stand straight, seat firm, dont slouch, always groom my self before leaving the house, and seat ups and push ups are a most after Chow, hahah hoorah MARINE!!
1. Being early is such a helpful skill! I agree that being late is a sign of rudeness. Today, there was terrible construction in front of my home, and I was two minutes late to my fencing lesson. Despite my instructor's amusement, I sincerely apologized. A minute late is late - period. The exception to this is calling on others' homes. Being early for a dinner party or at-home get-together is, in fact, rude. One should walk into the home somewhere between the minute the party starts to fifteen minutes after; if one arrives early, they should stroll the neighborhood. In regard to people I know, I am more forgiving of slight lateness for others than I am of myself, but if a friend is consistently late or, even worse, forgets the event entirely, I won't feel very warmly about it. In my experience, punctuality is especially an issue for my fellow Gen Z members.
2. Before you leave the house, have a mental list of everything you need. Be in the habit of putting everything you need in your pockets as part of getting dressed. Once the habit forms, the habit has formed. Habits are essential!
3. I must admit that I use my dryer to get wrinkles out rather than using an iron. What can I say? I'm a tad lazy. I have found that using the iron doesn't change much for my Charles Tyrwhitt non-iron shirts as opposed to drying and hanging. I respect the art, but I find that I prefer the lazy way this time.
4. Shiny shoes, meanwhile, have no shortcuts. I have a personal relationship with my shoe-shiner at Nordstrom (an American mall brand). Five dollars for a shine, half an hour of professional cleaning and quality interaction, and I'm golden.
5. Good humor is a great skill. I find being self-deprecating to be the most useful form of humor, especially if you stand out in some way. It's easier to put people at ease when wearing a three-piece suit and pocket watch to an informal situation when you can poke fun at yourself for it - while still being confident enough to stand by your style.
You live life by excellent principles sir. Reap the rewards of your self-investment.
I served in the United States marines! It amazing how we hold the same values. My wife doesn't understand why I get to work 30 minutes early, and everything has it's place. I'm always using dark humor making my co-workers laugh.
My dad was a SM & taught me all that, when I got my first job (16) the guy who interviewed me said "I interviewed 12 people & you were the only one with clean shoes/shirt & tie/haircut & shook my hand immediately & had Manners.
@@williamharris5957Nice one mate - better 1 minute early than 5 seconds late 🍻
Bang on ! I agree with the good humour & self depreciation.
when someone's taking the Mickey & you go along a little, it takes the wind out of their sails & they're lost for words 😂
Not military but son of Caribbean parents (trinidadians 🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹🇹) and honestly, this is exactly what its like in our tough upbringing.
I had one job at 17 that had issues with my lateness. I NEVER had that again but even until my 30s she would always be like "be early l, you dont want to be let go for that again) rest her soul.
I picked up these lessons from my father, who was in the military, plus some time in scouting. And they have taken me far in life.
I worked for a multi-national company for 30 years. One of the biggest complaints was people showing up late for meetings. Even the person who scheduled the meeting would show up late. It was finally decided meetings would start at the top of the hour and end or take a break at 15 minutes before the hour. At least us worker bees showed up on time.
All these plus working have made my life successful beyond my dreams. Can’t beat it.
One important lesson I learnt while in the RAF, is always make your bed in the morning because if you have a shitty day, you have somewhere comfortable to go.
It's funny how many of these things I learned from my grandfather and are now considered vastly unusual. I do think CZcams provides a great space to pass on life lessons to young men who perhaps don't have the benefit of a positive male role model.
Ash… I discovered your channel a couple weeks ago and have really been enjoying them. I am 61 years old and recently decided to try to step up my style past the jean and T-shirt/sweatshirt look that has been my uniform since my teenage years.
This video struck home. I spent 8 years in the Canadian Army. The humour part of your discussion came as an unexpected and pleasant surprise. Very true!
One more point I would add: a phrase I heard often in the military was “Move with purpose!” It was always emphasized to not wander aimlessly or meander about. When you are walking, always move as if you have a destination planned.
Love your videos. Keep up the good work.
That is a very good point - and thank you for your own service sir, it is rarely said, but much appreciated!
Move with purpose is an idea I believe kept me safe in 30 years in San Francisco. After USAF. Just that it was the tourists who wandered. I felt I was more safe if I appeared to be going somewhere with people expecting me.
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Moving with purpose in an urban environment is absolutely *essential*.
I spent 13 years in the US Army and everything you said is true. I also make my bed every morning because it motivates me for the rest of the day since the first task of the day is complete. In addition I still walk with a purpose and think that is another good habit that carries over from the military.
I am an Army Veteran served! Learnt to trust my gut! Learnt read the room and know your customer, enemy and competition! Do your own intel gathering! Contingency is planning for all variables! Keep eyes wide open situational awareness saves lives, time, resources and time! Always stay humble and remain humble and respectful!! Take care! Love from South Africa! Amen
Two things I took away from my time in the military, 47 years ago: Always trust your instincts, this kept me out of potentially harmful situations at least twice, and made me recognize an irregular situation in a split second at least once. And when addressing an undisciplined mob, never try to address them all, rather find the most senior distinguished looking psrson among them, address only him, give him status of sorts, and allow him to control his own mob. I rebelled at the shining shoes though, my shoes are clean, but not particularly shiny.
An excellent point about addressing a mob. Thanks!
Former British Army Air Corps soldier here (of a similar vintage to yourself!) And I can absolutely concur with all of the points made in your video - especially the time-keeping. I cannot abide tardiness. Unless something is out of your control, there's no excuse for it.
I was not in the Corps only because I was born South. Instead, I was a Naval Infantryman. The Marines teach you to dedicate (make time) at least one hour for exercise. That would be the 6th military habit good to have.
My Dear great father participated in second world war at Iraq from Subcontinent. During my 36 years services for a German company all the habits learnt from my father helped me a lot to align myself quickly across the board. Log book maintenance helped me a lot. Excellent sharing for new generation. Thanks
Great video. I joined the Army as a Junior Leader at the Infantry Junior Leaders Battalion in 1970 and served until 1995. Now 68 years old, the lessons I learned and that you presented here have stayed with me. Simple but very valuable lessons. I hope many younger people will see this and take notice.
Bassinbourne?
@@lablackzed No IJLB Oswestry, Park Hall Camp
@@ianto1150 All sadly gone .
Yes, your right. I think it was a Brigadier in the 80`s who decided they cost too much to run. Then in the 90`s or a bit later they decided to have the Army Foundation College at Harrogate. A "man in the know" from MOD told me they were not allowed to call it "Junior Leaders" because it would embarrass the former Brigadier who was still serving. Thanks for your comment.@@lablackzed
Spot on! My father was a US Navy Lieutenant Commander and taught me a lot of those. I was a US Navy CWO4 and taught my kids the same.
I joined the RAF at 16 and spent 8 years in the service I agree with all of your points - I do still polish my shoes but not the waste of time bulling where you build up a thick surface of gleaming polish which is easily spoiled and I think a waste of time. The military also screwed up my sleep pattern as I was a signals operator and worked a crazy shift system. I was totally unsuited for such a life and spent my time since playing in rock and roll bands. I do everything for myself. Regarding humour I've written a soon to be published book - an illustrated and irreverent account of 2 years on an isolated desert outpost it's called Sweating On My Chitty Box.
Hi. I’ve never been in the Military and I still enjoyed your content. 5 habits that will set you up for life. Please keep these videos coming. 😊
As an Ex-RAF serviceman, I absolutely agree with every point. There is an awful lot the military can teach young men and women and for me it was a great tool in becoming (I hope!) a gentleman. Per Ardua Ad Astra!
I was never in the military, but I’ve known plenty of people who were, and in my old age I’ve learned to appreciate the value of living a disciplined life and keeping a regular schedule. After a life of being the least athletic person on the planet, I’ve started doing calisthenics in the morning before getting dressed! And at my age it HURTS - but Hell, no pain no gain. This helps alleviate depression - it’s a rather Jordan Peterson thing to do - but more important, one loses muscle mass and circulation as one gets older, and strenuous exercise should forestall that. So grit your teeth, guys, and get healthy!
Good stuff. I never served in the military but am currently in Law Enforcement. The tip about shining your shoes is a good one! For me, it professionalism and pride in the job, but it also telegraphs to bad dudes that if our boots are squared away, so are the rest of our tools 😊
Also really appreciate the piece about humor. It’s spot on!
In Germany we say „5 Minuten vor der Zeit ist des Soldaten Pünktlichkeit.“ A brief translation would be: ‚being there 5 minutes early is the soldiers way of being in time‘. But it does not only mean being on time, it’s a matter of a soldier’s politeness being 5 minutes early.
Been self employed for 46 years I work 7 days a week as a cabinet maker never seen not wearing a pair of overalls but I always wear a tie and shine my boots. Daily people comment on my dress code that even when wearing overalls a shiny pair of boots & tie can look smart.
Great stuff, as always, Ash.
I will note that currently only 3.8% of the UK population have ever served in the military. It's a little different in the US - about 6.5% there.
I'm a firm believer in the doctrine of "learning from other people." If another country, or company, or culture or profession does something particularly well, then ask yourself "What lessons can I take away from this?" And I think Ash's video is a perfect example of this.
Military service is founded on one principle: Discipline. And SELF-DISCIPLINE is an essential component of that regime. You don't shine your boots or do your daily PT exercises because otherwise your sergeant will yell at you. You do it because it's the right thing to do.
Self-discipline is one of the skills that good militaries instil in their service members. And it's a lesson (a hard, life-long one) literally everyone would do well to learn.
Great sentiments sir.
How the military changed me:
1. Public speaking and dealing with higher up is a breeze.
2. I will give folks the opportunity to lead, but I will step in if nobody does.
3. There's no paperwork job that will stress me out. It's about perspective. I've been in worst physically demanding environment and I had no choice.
4. Being situationally awake.
5. Humor is top tier. Nothing could ever make me go to HR 😂
6. You have a stronger bond among fellow veterans that have been through the same thing you did.
7. Punctuality.
I have been teaching my grandchildren to always be situationally aware!
I love your devotion to everything you talk about ..I'm a chef and I've been doing tge exact same thing without being in any armed forces. I feel just as proud..
I work in the film industry and all 5 of these military lessons apply. Moving a film unit around is a bit like a military operation so being on time is being late. Each night we receive movement orders to review, detailing transport routes, crew parking locations, etc., there's no excuse for not turning up on time - and to the right place!
Being squared away for us is having all the kit you need with you when you need it. I have fettled my tools for so long I can fit more than I need for almost any job into the back of my cheap sports car. I can put my hand on any tool, fitting or fixture I need. Colleagues with van loads of tools borrow mine when they can't find theirs. So it's not an industry rule by any stretch, but by applying the squared away ethos for myself I can be confident in being prepared for whatever may come.
In place of ironing and polishing, for us of equivalent importance would be having suitabe clothing. Part of our briefing package each night includes location and weather. Don't turn up to a wet field in flip-flops! You do a much better job when you are comfortable, warm and dry. When a good day turns bad you can spot the less serious people shivering in light clothes, trying to borrow gloves, etc.
(If I can add a tip on footwear to anyone who has ever had to re-tie a shoelace on a wet day in a muddy field: start using a Berluti knot and never have to re-tie a shoelace again, in any conditions)
As for humour, that's just inavoidable in our business. I shot a concentration camp scene earlier this year where between takes the SS officers shared cigarettes with prisoners; I've been asked to hide an elephant, corral sheep, find 200 rolls of pink toilet paper, paint trees, dig shallow graves, clean out pig-sties, shave carpets and plumb a grotto. All you can do is laugh, sometimes!
I do all those things and have never been in any of the services ! Great respect for all our veterans and those currently serving
I am a Viet Nam combat veteran and I have never forgotten what I was taught in boot camp.I have always been on time for everything.Also I keep my closet organized, clothes pressed and shoes shined.And even at 76 I still work out and try to stay in shape.I thank the US army for teaching me to be a better man.
The Japanese have a saying, “on time is late, early is on time….” My sensei in Nagoya was a judo champ, and when he had a big match at a dojo he did not know, he often asked to sleep at that dojo, so as too eliminate the possibility of being late.
This is an important topic. I grew up without a father in a narcissistic oppressive family system. I have been groomed to lack self efficacy and individuation.
The discipline, time management, decision making, and organizational training would filled the holes needed for me to have made more productive use of my formative years.
Not serving in the military has been one of my regrets.
I appreciate this video.
Perhaps, providing a shoe maintenance and clothing ironing video could be great topics within your series of videos.
I was in the ATC as a teenager and was taught most of what you mentioned in this video. I still have the mentality to this day over 20 years later.
Always arrive earlier than necessary. Everything is where it needs to be so I know where to find it. Nobody irons anything for me because I iron things my way (the right way!) I used to wear steel toe capped boots to work as a hotel night manager years ago and I would polish them up to glass-like quality, sitting with a can of Kiwi, a drop of water and a Selvyt cloth I bought in the NAAFI in RAF Laarbruch in '99 when our band played the closing ceremony. The humour, though.... hospitality gave me the dark sense of humour. I've seen things, sir. :)
Great video!
Exactly on time is exactly on time. It’s not late.
Miss me with this judgmental, sanctimonious bullshit. Millions of people like myself are neurodivergent and #timeblindness is a symptom we struggle with. It’s part of executive dysfunction. Look it up.
Also, precise punctuality is specific to certain cultures, and not others. In many cultures, the norm is more lenient. In some cultures “10 minutes early” would actually be considered rude.
I taught my children manners, punctuality, personal responsibility, and accountability when they were little and, as grown adults, they still practice them now.
As someone who has never been in the military but has experienced strict upbringing, I would say that the qualities mentioned in the movie are only something I look at with sadness and relate to people despite those traits.
My take away here and one I wholeheartedly agree with is that these “small habit / tasks” represent a broader way of thinking about things and really are a window into one’s character about the bigger things.
Ironing isn’t just ironing. It’s attention to detail
Punctuality isn’t just timeliness it’s a respect for yourself and others.
You got it sir!
Your list resonates with me, starting with number one... When I went in, fifty years ago my Grandfather offered me a suggestion inspired by WWI, "Get a good watch." Your idea about leadership/followship is another point I'd like to see expanded. It occurs to me that learning to live/deal with others is the most valuable skill in life. Especially the case with those responsible for you and those you're responsible for.
"Never Pass A Fault" (Royal Canadian Regiment) is a simple motto that has profound meaning.
I'm forwarding this to my kids now. I was a Navy brat and wife to a retired career military man. Your lessons are wise and applicable across life. Not surprisingly I was aware of your lessons and how my life is accordingly.
Thank you sincerely kind sir for sharing your wisdom.
Thank you, sir.
My father was at the MoD/in the armed forces for most of his life. Most of these things he taught me or I learnt myself in my military service (coastal artillery). Especially the "dry runs" the evening before you're going on an interview, to an exam or on a date. Lessons for life.
Cheers.
I came close to joining the military in my late teens. What bothered me was, the recruiters key selling point was "discipline this" and "punctuality that". I was already well known by all my tutors that I was the only kid that would be on time and be where I'm supposed to be.
Exactly on time is exactly on time. It’s not late.
Miss me with this judgmental, sanctimonious bullshit. Millions of people like myself are neurodivergent and #timeblindness is a symptom we struggle with. It’s part of executive dysfunction. Look it up.
Also, precise punctuality is specific to certain cultures, and not others. In many cultures, the norm is more lenient. In some cultures “10 minutes early” would actually be considered rude.
❤️Timeliness is a disciplined life.
❤️Make sure everything has their place
❤️ Ironing my shirt myself which I don't do for now...but I'll change
❤ Polishing my shoes: I'll have to imbibe this habit of pride in appearance.
❤ Humour: A skill to relief a tense situation
I was born from a military dad. My dad was a military during the Dutch collonial in Indonesia. Before he died in year 2015, he was so confused with the democracy in Indonesia. He said to me people in Indonesia such a horse just out from the horse stable. He was so discipline to his children. If the time schedule of meeting at 5 pm, so he and the children always be on meeting room 30 minutes before 5 pm. Otherwise he will so angry with late. Also, he was so discipline with money spend. He never allow the children carry money unless the children already work. He choose to bring something for children than give money to the children. Other thing, my dad never allow the children to wake up late in the morning. He was wake up at 4.30 and take shower. And at 5 in the morning, the children must be on family room to read Bible. Not only read a Bible, each children after read one chapter, the children must choose one best passage as daily message. My dad never allow the children wear the open clothes or short gown. He prefers with elegant.
I served in the U.S. Navy for over a decade and your habits mirror what our military teaches us here. This was a wonderful video and I can see where I've lapsed after being out nearly 30 years. Well I'll be correcting that immediately. Thank you.
You are absolutely spot on. I was in the U.S. Army and in Vietnam in the late 60’s. Know where everything is around your bunk can literally save your life.I could find anything in complete darkness especially my rifle ,helmet ,boots and ammo in case we came under attack. All these 5 points you spoke about I learned in the Army and served me very well in my civilian life. I can say that my career after military service was very successful because of every one of the points you brought up. BTW, my dad was in the 8th. Army Air Force stationed just outside of London during WW2. He flew 34 missions over Germany and also won the distinguished flying Cross. It should go without saying that he also taught me the same points that you spoke about while I was young and growing up. Thanks you for a excellent video.
Salute to you and your Dad sir
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Love this video. You Sir are a 10 year RAF Airman and an example & a Gentleman! These values are worthy attributes to learn. Apply things like this and, be more successful. More men need to watch this video and others like it. Outstanding!!
Glad it was helpful!
You're utterly right about humour. They take it seriously no doubts even offended
Very well said sir! Everything you mentioned here, being on time, returning things where they belong, ironing, polishing shoes and humour resonates on me.
This is very me and I am a nurse by profession🥰
Thank you for the work you do - it is an under appreciated vocation
Enjoyed the video ... From my experience what I ve noted is becoming disciplined is not easy ...but after becoming disciplined life itself becomes easier ...thanks for the video ... looking forward to seeing more helpful videos like this...
Thats all part of the idea behind " Once a Marine always a Marine" thinking. And " getting your self "Squared a Way" is another. I was in the Marines , At 64 my wife says I never left. The change is for life. Nice video, as we say in the Corp. Simpher Fi".
Excellent, Ash! My father was a Navy officer and he was right as you are right today. One thing you did not specifically mention but is important, is to act with determination when a crisis developes. For example in his older years he was passing by a pub when a drunk stated breaking bottles and attacked the girl at the bar. He just went in and held the drunk until police came!
Hi Ash, another great video enunciating some very pertinent life habits. For myself, I even knew beforehand what you were going to say about arriving 'just' on time (ie. already late). Whilst not having served in the Military, each and every one of those habits described have always been part of my daily routines. Having a 'proper' place for items/things etc is not just a matter of tidiness, it is one of efficiency and at the same time, a kind of mental relaxation simply because you know where everything essential to the day is located. One other habit that has been a mantra of mine (and passed on to my children) is to start the day by 'making your bed' as soon as you get out of it. It is such a simple thing but it sets the day (and in someways, the mindset) by having completed a very basic task immediately ... :o)
Carry on Sir !