That was such a moving and genuine response. I hadn’t thought of it like that before, but I realize that’s why a good greeting is so important to me when people come into my work office. It just feels wrong not to make that connection otherwise.
Oh my goodness. That lady in the pink dress...she needs to be the spokesperson for all that's good about the South. Is she running for President while we are at it?
I live in Australia and have visited the US many, many times and I just have to say that while I love your country, I looooove the south! Y’all are some of the most hospitable, generous and kindest people on the planet! As soon as this whole lockdown thing is over I’ll be coming back for another visit❣️
I'll make some fried chicken and honey biscuits for ya, I'm from VA and been to Australia and you people are bad influences...in a good way! I just wish yall didn't have to live with such buearcracy and swabbling politicians so much
The stereotype that drives me absolutely bonkers is that we’re lazy. Some northern transplant starts complaining that we’re ready to end the day at 2:00-3:00, never realizing that by the time they come rolling in at 9:00 we’ve already been working for 3 hours! Why? Because it’s nice & cool at 6:00 am while it’s hot as blazes at 3:00 pm. So why not get everything done while it’s cool and then nap during the hottest part of the day?
My grandfather in Pennsylvania did that -- he would say, you get up and get your work done when it is cool in the am. Then he'd rest from lunch until about 4 when it cooled down a bit more and finish his work. He was raised on a farm and was a coal miner. He just had common sense. Like one of the people on this said, you don't need a survival handbook, just follow the farmer's directions.
IDK mate I live in CT and thats how I operate too, the earlier the start the better..... even in the winter. Because then you go home faster. Speaking from a construction standpoint. Its just good blue collar sense.
Caitlin that's very true some would say those are fightin words. Say you can cook better than a southerns mama. Funny story in junior high I was invited to a friend of a friend cousins house and I asked from a glass of sweet tea the look I got could kill a hater in winter time they say oh we don't have sweet tea and the lil girl said my mom is the best cook in the world and can out cook your mom any day. I told her yeah if she a great cook where's the sweet ice tea and I busted out laughing. My friend looks at me and whispered in my ear they are from the North I could not stop laughing.
EXACTLY! I don’t live in the south anymore but when friends tell me someone said BYH to them, I say “Hold up! I need some clarification here. In what tone/context was that said? Because they could be being genuinely sweet, or they could be throwing shade at you..”
@@prettyponybaby2007 Exactly. Now, I probably, in all good faith, would never say it negatively to a friend unless they needed it. I would never use it flippantly to someone if I ever wanted them to like me after the fact. Someone acting ugly, they would get the full shade.
I’m currently in college in Tennessee and My roommate is from Wisconsin, and I swear he thinks southerners don’t know a thing! He thought we didn’t know what baseball is! I turned around and said bless your heart! 😂
“Why do Southerners talk like that?” Honey, speakin’ Southern is like playin’ jazz - you have to to know how to do it right first, before you can give it some flavor!
The worst is when they say, “Do you have soda pop instead?” Its a bad manners to ask for something nobody down here knows about. Why not ask for a coke?
This drives me insane! They move down here and complain about our weather, make fun of us, and try to change our way of living. Then they get offended when I ask why they don't go back up north if they hate it here so much. 🤦♀️
Sounds like Californians when they move to Oregon. "Why does it rain so much?" "Dunno; maybe so our droughts can actually end in our lifetime and without a second Flood?"
My two favorite parts: "When I give someone a 'hello' and a smile, I'm making an investment in that person. I'm lettin'' them know, you know what? You matter. You change the atmosphere. So I think that's one of the best things we can do." and- "I absolutely hate it. Every Southerner does not compose themselves like Jo Exotic. ....Just most of us."
Amiee you are sure right I have to buy instant mater mix cause I'm the only one that cooks in my family cause my dad is in a wheelchair and hard for him to move around in our very small kitchen and my mom passed away last year so it's been very hard on us both. But I'm starting to love to cook more. I come up with some crazy ideas. For example baked bbq pork chops.
@@jeremiahpace6533 Hey, don't underestimate the power of good baked BBQ! Chops, chicken.... Even burgers. They can and will do in a pinch! I'm having a lot of fun right now experimenting with my Instant pot.
@@aimeewalls8208 thanks I'm just tire of cooking the same thing over and over and over but with a diabetic in the house I have to cook thing he can eat.
Yes!!! I agree with all of this! I’ve lived in the south for the majority of my life, and I’m so proud of my accent, my manners, my food, etc. (I was adopted from China at 10 months) Most of the people I know are some of the kindest, considerate people you’ll ever meet. We southerners take life relaxed and full of love and happiness. Most southern stereotypes are so untrue and just plain ridiculous. My grandparents do have quite the accent, but they’re kind and welcoming and full of wit. I always laugh at what my grandmother comes up with! The south is one of the best places to be!
Yes all southern accents are not the same. A southern Texan can tell when someone is also southern but NOT from Texas. Hell even someone from Houston can tell if someone is from Jasper. Their are nuances to the way we speak.
Oh yes! So much so yes! My grandparents taught me my manners, and on every report card in elementary school I got high remarks for my "Wonderful manners! Such a great, and well mannered student!" They took pride in that!
@@ah5721 I agree with you. Home training is, for most, a forgotten art. IMHO, I wonder if alot of that also has to do with not having both parents in the home and also to some degree, a general falling away from religion. We have two late teen boys and they are wonderful. But we made sure they understood and respected authority. Too may kids don't get any of that these days.
And it’s also not limited to the south. I live in NJ and my parents always get milk and bread when bad weather is coming. Then again they were both born and raised in South Carolina so what do I know 🤷♀️
I never really wondered why people bought milk and bread when there was a storm coming. I don’t get why people get frozen pizzas. I mean, if the power goes out, how are you gonna cook it?
Is Patricia the name of the woman in the pink dress? If so, I completely agree with you! She's AMAZING! Huge YES to more videos with her - LOTS MORE - please & thank you!!!
Yes! Can we put to rest that we are all sexist, homophobic, transphobic, and racist? It exists down here just as it does everywhere else, but that's not even the majority. I grew up a gay woman down here and I've been just fine. It exists, but it does everywhere else too.
In my experience, and even as a Christian who loves everyone, I've seen more hate for the things you mentioned in the north than I ever have in the South. The South would be so much nicer if there were less Yankees. And, just because you live up north, that doesn't make you a Yankee. Being a Yankee is an ideology. When everything hits the fan, being Southern isn't every man for himself. It's, "Hey, y'all need help so you can come with us?" or just simply checking in on your neighbors to see if they need anything.
For the young lady in the video who mentioned Southern History- thank you- Southern History is important, all of it, and not just the pleasant parts. Nice to see a young person who cares about our past.
I'm from a very old southern family and it is hard to get some parts of my family to look honestly at the ugly parts of that history. Just getting them to acknowledge the connection to the black families in the same small town who share the same, not at all common, last name was agonizing.
Sadly, when you say "The South" to most people not just in the northern United States, but the world over, they'll almost inevitably come back to at least one of four things: the Civil War, slavery, segregation/Jim Crow, and/or the Southern Cross flag. The problem is, as I pointed out to a friend about a month ago, 'The South' is like that fly that was caught in amber...it is stuck in that moment of time as far as most people are concerned. And sadly, just about every other stereotype emanates from there. Why? Well, I believe that part of it is that, like any historian will tell you, history is always written by the victors. The other is that I'm guessing that most of those stereotypes were heavily embellished - or even made up altogether - by northern writers looking to make fun of 'those Southerners'. (Thing is, just about every country/culture has that, a group that they can look down on and mock...here in Canada that would be people from the province of Newfoundland and Labrador, who are referred to as 'Newfies'.) Quite frankly, I'm disturbed by this current attitude of tearing down monuments and erasing names from history because of connections to a past that some find offensive, simply because it is offensive. As I've seen mentioned before, history is not there for you to like, history is there to teach you something. I'm not saying that we need to glorify certain things that should *not* be glorified, or as was said, just focus on the pleasant bits. No, I feel that we need to look at the whole picture, warts and all, in order to understand what has happened in the past so we can move on into a better future. (But then, I'm just an 'old stock' white Canadian guy of UK heritage, what do I really know about things? 😉)
@@davegreenlaw5654 No, you really don't anything about these statues. The overwhelming majority were not erected in the late 19th century. They were put up during the civil rights movement era of the 1950's and 1960's. Beyond that why should the Tennessee capital have a statue of Nathan Bedford Forrest, the founder of the KKK, in it which was placed there in the 1970's!, just as one notorious example. These "monuments" were erected by white supremacists to very directly say they were the ones in charge.
@@KenS1267 Forrest recognized the KKK was bad and left. He had only attended some meetings and found he didnt agree with them. He spent the rest of his life fighting with them, fighting for civil rights, and at his death in Memphis TN thousands of black Americans attended to honor his life.
I had the opposite experience last week or so- moved up north to be with my fiancee. I was at a meeting at my local VA, which I'm very new to, and the chair was asking me which team I'm for to make small talk outside. "Or do you just not do sports at all?" And I said "I'm a fan, but folks usually stop asking teams once they know I'm not from around here." She replies, "honey, _the second you open your mouth_, people know you're not from around here." 💀
The older woman was a delight to listen to!! Sounds like my Grandma. Maybe because they've been through much more "life" than us younger people. So much to learn from their experiences. 💕
I was born in Georgia, and raised in North Carolina. I didn't venture out of the south until my mid-thirties when I visited New Jersey. I won't be doing that again any time soon. I have seen too many "Ask the Southerner" interviews and discussions to keep track of; all of them were somewhat disappointing. This is one of the best representations of the south I have ever seen. Jada, you are lovely and thoughtful and a true credit to the south. Your character and humor are truly refreshing and captivating. Chris, you're the kind of person I would love to just sit down with and have a conversation. You remind me of a dear friend of mine whom I don't get to see very often. Thank you. Lesley, despite your obvious youth, you remind me of my sister. You'd be part of the family at one of my family's cook-outs. Bradley, you're a sharp young man. I expect you will do quite well for yourself and are a real point of pride for your family. We need more young folks like you around here. Alec, your comments on "y'all" make me think you might be from Georgia. Wherever you're from, young southern gentlemen like you seem to be a rarity these days. Thank you. Miss Patricia, I expect you're probably younger than I am, but you make me think of the aunties that helped my single Mom raise me. When you said "peppa jelli" and managed to wring an extra syllable out of the first two letters of "peppa," I was suddenly nine years old again and fell in love with you. You are a blessing and a joy. Thank you so much.
Moved to the north almost fourteen years ago. People still can’t understand my accent on certain words, it is almost impossible to find decent BBQ, and potato salad is almost always a tasteless disappointment unless I make it myself!
yep, can relate ! I made the best egg salad just from the smell because I hate mustard for my Utah in-laws and they thought they had died and gone to heaven! Went to a bbq place in Utah .. you know what they gave me ?! 5 thin sad little slices of "brisket " with a pickle no okra and told me to get my own watery catsup with seasoning from a dispenser >:/ it was hell.
“What is one Southern stereotype you want to put to rest” Oh boy, I have a list -That we’re all racist/bigoted. -That we’re inbred(especially in Alabama) -That we’re dumb -That we still speak like it’s the 1860’s
@@crusadermemes8067 Oh hallelujah, someone that gets it! Usually I’m not that sensitive to dumb jokes, but why does everyone like to pick on Alabama for that? I’ve lived in Alabama for almost my entire life and I have never met any inbred or incestuous people.
"Mama always said not to wear a hat indoors." I still take my hat off passing through the door anytime I go inside any building, & the voices in my head grump a little if I see someone else wearing one!
I moved to the south from Oregon. I fell in love with Southern people immediately. The warmth of the Hello and open door to the Yes Ma’am. I walk out my door and my neighbors smile and wave at me! I also love the good manners. My husband is from Texas and he says I should getting my southern card in the mail any day now. He said I finally understand and can pronounce Y’all.
"Bless your heart" originally and mostly means a sincere, sympathetic "You poor thing", like if your whole family had the flu or Grandma's not happy in the nursing home. But, yes, it can be used to throw shade.🤣
I’ve heard both. I’m not from the south, but lived there for 2-3 years. Now when my friends say that someone said BYH to them, I say “hold up! Clarification is needed. In what context did they say it?”
This is an "order of operations" problem. If someone tells you that they have 3 family members who have tested positive for Covid, "Bless your heart" is a valid and sympathetic response. Now if you say something snide and follow it with "bless your heart"... that is just being ugly in a polite Southern way. Example: "That boy fell out of a stupid tree, and hit every branch on the way down... bless his heart"
I never use Bless Your Heart in any capacity other than affection or sympathy. Just not in me to do otherwise. But I can eye roll hard enough to give myself a concussion! And I cannot sleep if there is no bread or milk in the house, whether it is 98 degrees or blowing up a blizzard! 🤣
The farther north you go, the more "southern" we become. All the way up in Alaska, we act just like Southerners. When I was down in Memphis for a conference, I never felt more at home. The only difference between the south and Alaska (besides the obvious difference in the weather) is y'all have the heat with humidity. We have the cold and MASSIVELY dry air. It's so incredibly dry, especially in the winter, we have to have humidifiers running all over the house. If we don't, we wake up with severe cotton mouth and throat, it's awful. The static is epic. We can't even make a snowball....pure powder. The only time of year we can make a snowman is during breakup just before spring when it gets so warm during the day that the snow turns mushy. If I move away from Alaska, I'm definitely moving to the South! I love y'all! ❤️ btw....we have sweet tea EVERYWHERE, even McDonalds. You actually have to request unsweetened if you want it.
@@tonyawallace5297 oh yeah. We jokingly call mosquitoes the Alaskan state bird. They're HUGE-and there are a ton of them. In Fairbanks they want it to get to 50 below during the winter just so it kills a lot of the larve. Good times. Lol
I am a Northerner that has lived in the South for several years. And I can definitely see all these beautiful people and their point of views. There are amazing people in the South!
When a Verizon call center opened in my hometown, I could tell the northerners who came down with the company by the guys that either didn't hold the doors open OR would hold the door after they'd already gone through it.
younglaster One of the first things you’ll notice up north. Gentlemen don’t hold the door for you. When people do it here I will always smile and say Thank you.
I would like to give you a sincere THANK YOU. For work I moved to South Florida 26 years ago. My joke is the southernmost borough of New York City, after New Jersey; is south Florida. And just because the word South is in front of the term south Florida does not mean that it's Southern. You leave the true South when you stop seeing a Hardees. That's about Orlando. I had to drive to Birmingham twice in the last 8 days for family issues. I stopped off at a buffet place I enjoy in Valdosta Georgia on the way back Thursday. Two of the sweetest black ladies are having lunch on the table next to me. We struck up a conversation. I realized then I was back in the south. Our culture and ways Run Deep. And they truly know no lines. To be Southern is a cultural subgroup like Italian New Yorkers or Miami Cubanos. We all eat the same thing for New Year's and celebrate holidays the same ways. Like it or lump it, Southerners are one big family. And we are not who we were 60 to 75 years ago. That's the stereotype I would like to stop. Amen
I'm from the Midwest but now live in the South. The first time we went back to visit family, at a restaurant I asked for a half and half tea. The young server got about 10 steps from the table and turned around to clarify that I wanted half & half (dairy) in my tea. Bless his heart!
Miss Patricia needs to be a motivational speaker. Or at least in a place where people all over the globe can hear her. She's the South at its best. Hats off to you, ma'am. God bless.
Thats what I loved the most the 3yrs I lived in Jackson, MS... everyone says good morning, good evening and smile. Men open the door for you, and say have a nice day. I hated having to move back to the North. 😔
Not all southerners drink sweet tea. There are those, like myself, who are diabetic and have to order unsweetened tea. Of course as soon as I get it I add Splenda.
@@LoneCrusader wanna ask question if someone comes from other country and wanna join southern gang because he/she loves southern way would call them southerner or welcome them in your group
chetan khope in that very specific case; I would say that Southerners are traditionally born in the US. With that said, I would still say that if you move to the south from another country you would have to join the southern culture.
I knew a waitress in South Texas that would say "You're so pretty" instead of "Bless your heart". South Texas Mama's know how to throw shade and compliment at the same time. :)
As a Canadian prairie guy, my perspective is that y'all elude a very warm, caring, and welcoming culture. I hope that God grants my wish and allows me to move to the Southern US and if it snows, it will be my pleasure to drive you guys around. A few feet of snow doesn't bother me.
You would definitely be welcomed. Some of us just stay home so we can play in the snow and roast marshmallows by the fireplace. I even got a picture of individual snow flakes once......simply beautiful.
I came here looking for something to laugh at, but Ms Patricia's words about saying "hello" and smiling meaning that you've taken notice of and invested in someone really moved me. Thanks for your wisdom!
It's true. It's called being kind and caring to someone you don't even know. People really appreciate being noticed. It is like telling someone that they are important. I speak to strangers daily.
Army vet here from NYC, grew up in Beaufort SC. I married a southerner. Most of my closest friends are from the south. And like the man in the video said, you’ll survive in the woods with a southerner lol. I love my southern friends 😊
As a southern no matter how your day is going you will give the greeting of the day. When I lived in the north they did not believe in it. I was very happy to come back pass the Mississippi River🙏🏾
What not to say to a Southerner: Why do you love MoonPies so much? They aren't even that good. First off *buddy,* it's "ain't." Second of all, *who hurt you?*
😂😂😂😅 found this channel by random. I am from Hamburg 🇩🇪 and know I really like to visit the south of the U.S because it seems so friendly and peaceful and funny. Even though it’s never gonna happen. Don’t know why but I can’t stop watching your videos.🥴🤩🤪 So you really erased some of my prejudices. Because all I know about the south is from tv shows and movies and as they say in the video, it’s full of stereotypes.
You should definitely come visit sometime. It might be a big culture shock at first because the southern US is like the polar opposite of Germany, especially northern Germany, but I think you will love it. 😊 (I lived in the Wiesbaden area for three years when I was a teenager.)
I know this is an old post, but if you get to visit I know the people who settled here from Germany would love to have you. Especially here in Texas. My family settled in North Texas but if you want a good blend of Texas and it’s culture you should visit San Antonio. San Antonio would also give you easy access to Austin and Fredericksburg.
I'm a housewife for 39 years. Making 3 meals and snacks for my husband and I love what I do. I didn't need a career outside the home to submit to a boss for money, but content to submit to my husband in the home raising our children up and loving my family. Teaching my children.
My sister is from NYC but has lived in Atlanta for 25 years. When it freezes over, she gets out her ice skates. They don't have enough salt to melt the ice because, why would you keep that handy if you only need it once every few years, so the ice builds up and you can skate.
Lord have mercy, yesssssss! I couldn’t wait for it to snow when I was little, mamaw always made snow cream out of the second snow of the year. She’d make a big ol mixing bowl full. I thought that was the best stuff I had ever ate in my entire life. ❤️🥰 You know it is true, there ain’t nothing like your Mamaws or Mommas cooking. Even if it was something as simple as snow cream, to me hers was the best. No body can do it like they can!! You sure do miss that when they pass on. 😢
@@katelynthompsonturner3083 I agree! Btw, Mayfield Dairy sold 1/2 gallons of "Snow Cream" ice cream. Idk if it's still available, but I bought it a few years back at my local Kroger, Winn-Dixie, & The Pig in central Alabama. No, _of course_ it wasn't as good as homemade, but it was tasty!
My family has friends up north and we went to go visit them. And one day we went for a walk and my dad waved to a guy driving by and the son of our friend asked him why he did that. I was completely taken back I was like y’all don’t do that.
Most places in the world don’t do that. See it as a special thing, but also realize that many parts of the world rather mind their own business (especially East Asia).
@Jessica B. My mom moved back to Korea after living in the US for almost over 25 years... she and a stranger made eye contact and she gave a smile to her... and ended up feeling weird about it since it was replied with a weirded out look from her. For me personally I’m fine with no interactions from strangers since I’m an introvert but my mom, an extrovert, had to remind herself to stop doing that.
Know its really late, but I had that issue when I visited family in Pittsburgh. I live in a smaller city in Georgia and everywhere I go even the sketchier places that look more like Atlanta when you pass someone you say "hello" "good morning" and tip your head a little bit. Almost like you were tipping your hat. Now not everyone, but you greet someone when passing. Did that in Pittsburgh like I have done for years and they looked at me like my head was on fire.
Back in the day if you misbehaved and a neighbor or teacher whipped you you didn’t tell your parents because back then their response was “what did you do?” And could be followed up with another whipping because your behavior when they’re not around is a reflection on them as parents so you’re embarrassing them.
There was a girl from SoCal who came to a southern university, She started to unpack her car, she got to her room, and there was a "parade" of people following her with her stuff and offering her tea and Cocola when she was finished. It took her a week before she figured out that people actually look at each other when they talk. It was a total culture shock. True event.
If someone says that, best repose is "So? Y'all obviously understood what I meant because you felt the need to correct me so why does it need to be corrected?"
@Heather Faulk that’s my problem with grammar Nazis in comment sections, like if you were able to correct me you understood what I meant, also most of the time it was just a typo and I’ll notice it on my own without your help, it also annoying when it’s something minor like sometimes when I’m tired I might mix up there, their, and they’re. It’s also annoying because English isn’t always everyone’s first language.
Something else you shouldn’t say to a southerner is “You don’t sound like you’re from here. Where are you from?” I have a very light southern accent and have lived in New Orleans all my life. I find it very rude to be misplaced to another state.
I grew up in New Orleans and have very little accent too. People are surprised when I say where I’m from. Then they inevitably start calling it naw’lins and it kills me. Like please no.
@@christinajackson2662 I have family there - they don't say Nawlins, but they dont say it like a Yankee either ;) their accents are subtle, but there are some interesting ones, like the old school Irish Channel pattern - probably pretty rare now.
I am from NC, my mom is from Al and my dad is from Ok. I only have an accent when I am really tired. No one ever knows where I am from until I tell them.
I love the South! Nicest people ever. We are seriously considering moving to the South when we retire. Every time we go there, everyone is so welcoming and kind
There's no such thing as a southern accent. We dont all sound the same. East coast southerners sound nothing like folks from Tennessee. Neither sound like people from Alabama. Louisiana is a whole nuther with its on accent languages and culture. The south is not homogeneous. Each state has its own unique traits. Even within some states there are regional differences.
@@sisterhoney61 indeed, the accent varies from east, middle and west TN. Its easy to tell where you're from if you've lived herein enough to know the differences.
@@ridetn7695 Eastern TN has Appalachian influences which bring it closer to sounding a bit like North Carolina accent but, without the Arcadian French influences found along North Carolina's coastal regions. Middle TN is a smoother less defined, softer version of East TN but, there are some Northern Alabama influences as well as a bit of southern Kentucky accent infused. Now remove the Eastern Appalachian influences and add a bit of Northern Louisiana's Carole influences and you get the Memphis blues almost linguistically lazy sound. Its actually an interesting topic.
The older lady is spot on with the race thing, my grandfather grew up in New Orleans in the 40s and 50s and everyone was friends with everyone else no matter their race where he grew up. Everyone was poor and getting by, there was no great divide between races.
@@user-tq3rr8vy2w yes that was definitely a thing but thankfully there were places, like where my grandfather grew up, where this was not the case and there was a mixing of races even back in the 40s and 50s. Heck my dad grew up in a podunk Louisiana town and there it didn't matter if you were white, black, latino, etc, people were either a good person or a bad person, didn't matter what color their skin was.
It's always been the politicians (and now MSM) that want to keep people divided (racially, culturally, economically, and regular people sometimes fall for the trap unfortunately.
Apparently, things had improved after the war because my dad grew up in Looziana (as we said it), and there were prejudices when he was a kid in the 1930s.
I lived just above the Mason Dixon line for a time. Experienced bad snow driving, runs on bread at the store and open racism against friends of color. Went back to VA.
@@HollyMoore-wo2mh it was the worst I'd ever seen. I was in a place that didn't get transplants and did not get treated very well as a new arrival with an accent they only knew from TV. Decades later there are classmates that won't go to reunions organized by POCs. Yet I have to hear constantly about how horrible southerners are regarding race.
@@HollyMoore-wo2mh Bear in mind I am saying this as an ally, not a recipient. Of course it's not everywhere, but as a native Southerner moving north for a few years, it was a huge surprise to have people openly say things like to one another like "do you like black people? No? Me neither." That was a real exchange I heard.
Once in the late 80s I was speeding then pulled over in southern California. I played the "Alabama card" and acted like I was dumb as a door nail saying "what do you mean speeding ? I just say no to drugs ." The popo let me gogo!
Being a Southerner crosses the borders. In my home country, I was a Southerner. We talk in a similar manner like Southerners here. I now speak English like a Southerner, even though it is not my first language :)
I went to Birmingham and Montgomery last Saturday and let me tell ya it was beautiful there. Nice people warm weather and quiet. It was my 1st time in Alabama. Im from NC and its awesome here as well. Chattanooga is also beautiful with the Tennessee River and mountains there omg the best scenery ever. Lookout Mountain and Ruby Falls
I’m so glad you enjoyed your visit! I’m a native of Montgomery and we love meeting new people. We in turn enjoy traveling to your neck of the woods for the cool mountains and hiking. I’ve always said that southeast is so lovely with our landscape. Mountains, rivers, lakes, and beaches. Add in all the polite folks and good food, what’s not to love!
aw glad you liked it! north alabama here, about an hour from ruby falls. one thing about the south, we always got a glass of tea and a front porch swing ready for ya. y’all come back now!
Diversity in Birmingham is especially true. 30% of us weren't even born in Alabama. I couldn't find any information on who wasn't born in Birmingham. I moved here from Ohio, and I love that Birmingham is a place that people choose, not just a place that people are born to.
I lived in Birmingham for five years, coming from my home state of Indiana. I have lived in FL, MO, and TX - and enjoyed B'ham the best. I am back in Indiana, and my friends get tired of me telling them all the great things about B'ham - it is a Southern culture none of them have experienced. Thank you, Birmingham!!
NC here and I love it! Glad to hear everyone express the love we have and respect because around where I live it is good! Not perfect but good! People depend on each other especially in the more rural and country areas. So when you see someone in need you are a brother or sister indeed!☺️ Love to all and be good to one another!
They aren’t kidding about us wanting to learn as much as possible and being survivalists. I have a degree in early childhood education, I took and still use what I learned in auto mechanics classes, I know some French, and I can make kick-butt meals with dessert.
I'm from Wisconsin. I always say please and thank you. I will say I don't wave at strangers or talk to them unless they talk to me first, but I'm rather shy. I find it awkward to just start a conversation with someone I don't know.
Pink dress Lady, I want to stand up and applause you. Your answer of "I notice you" is absolutely the truth and thank you for saying it.
That was such a moving and genuine response. I hadn’t thought of it like that before, but I realize that’s why a good greeting is so important to me when people come into my work office. It just feels wrong not to make that connection otherwise.
I have even removed my mask to smile at someone and say Thank you.
I know! I got a little choked up.. so beautiful
Yes, Patricia nailed it with that explanation.
It's ironic how more black people are answering Questions than white people😅😅😅
Oh my goodness. That lady in the pink dress...she needs to be the spokesperson for all that's good about the South. Is she running for President while we are at it?
That's exactly what I thought! I want to sit and talk and drink sweet tea with her.. such grace❤🥰
She'd have my GA vote!
Definitely was thinking, "I need her to be my best friend!"
I know and her voice was like warm honey. That lady's voice made me feel at home.
Absolutely! She’s the best! ❤️😎👍👏🏻
What’s the one thing you shouldn’t say to a Southerner: "That's not how we do it up north."
AMEN!
Got any bagels?
NO, your eggs, cheese, and desired meat will fit nicely onto this biscuit, or you can eat it separately with a fork.
I 85 goes both ways I suggest you go north and keep driving
@@michaelmerck7576 And GAS it!
@@younglaster OH yes!
I live in Australia and have visited the US many, many times and I just have to say that while I love your country, I looooove the south! Y’all are some of the most hospitable, generous and kindest people on the planet! As soon as this whole lockdown thing is over I’ll be coming back for another visit❣️
I'll make some fried chicken and honey biscuits for ya, I'm from VA and been to Australia and you people are bad influences...in a good way! I just wish yall didn't have to live with such buearcracy and swabbling politicians so much
We’ll be happy to have you!
We will welcome you back! Come have some fried chicken and sweet tea! And don’t forget to review your manners!
Come to North Carolina when you are here again. I will cook us all a feast.
@@amberjones9520 I went to NC and loved it. Such nice people : ) 🍁
The stereotype that drives me absolutely bonkers is that we’re lazy. Some northern transplant starts complaining that we’re ready to end the day at 2:00-3:00, never realizing that by the time they come rolling in at 9:00 we’ve already been working for 3 hours! Why? Because it’s nice & cool at 6:00 am while it’s hot as blazes at 3:00 pm. So why not get everything done while it’s cool and then nap during the hottest part of the day?
My grandfather in Pennsylvania did that -- he would say, you get up and get your work done when it is cool in the am. Then he'd rest from lunch until about 4 when it cooled down a bit more and finish his work. He was raised on a farm and was a coal miner. He just had common sense. Like one of the people on this said, you don't need a survival handbook, just follow the farmer's directions.
Texan here... we call that nap a siesta. Too hot to be working so you might as well find a cool place and snooze.
IDK mate I live in CT and thats how I operate too, the earlier the start the better..... even in the winter. Because then you go home faster. Speaking from a construction standpoint. Its just good blue collar sense.
LAZY?! Ha! I don't hear of to many northern farms
EXACTLY!
The older lady shares a lot wisdom.
The shelves are cleaned in the stores if a hard rain is mentioned on the news. We don't play with our food.
Yes she does!
She was my favorite!
Yep, we all should be so lucky to have a Grandma like her.
I really liked her. I hope she is in more videos!
NEVER tell a Southerner you can cook better than their mama
You can say that again, no one can cook better than my mama.
That's right girl. Ain't nobody cook better than my mama...she's a born and bred southern girl.
This!!!
I'm a Yankee who's lived in Cincinnati for decades. My mom's fried chicken beats KFC's any day! F y'all! Fight me!
Caitlin that's very true some would say those are fightin words. Say you can cook better than a southerns mama. Funny story in junior high I was invited to a friend of a friend cousins house and I asked from a glass of sweet tea the look I got could kill a hater in winter time they say oh we don't have sweet tea and the lil girl said my mom is the best cook in the world and can out cook your mom any day. I told her yeah if she a great cook where's the sweet ice tea and I busted out laughing. My friend looks at me and whispered in my ear they are from the North I could not stop laughing.
With "bless you heart", the meaning depends on the tone of voice.
EXACTLY! I don’t live in the south anymore but when friends tell me someone said BYH to them, I say “Hold up! I need some clarification here. In what tone/context was that said? Because they could be being genuinely sweet, or they could be throwing shade at you..”
@@prettyponybaby2007 Exactly. Now, I probably, in all good faith, would never say it negatively to a friend unless they needed it. I would never use it flippantly to someone if I ever wanted them to like me after the fact.
Someone acting ugly, they would get the full shade.
Yeah, there's the response to accounts of death or job loss or health/car/housing etc. crisis, and then there's the you ain't right one.
It's ironic how more black people are answering Questions than white people😅😅😅
Just noticed that it's just like a Marine saying 'Semper Fi', the actual meaning depends on the content and the tone.
I’m currently in college in Tennessee and My roommate is from Wisconsin, and I swear he thinks southerners don’t know a thing! He thought we didn’t know what baseball is! I turned around and said bless your heart! 😂
What tone of voice and facial expression did you use?
“Why do Southerners talk like that?” Honey, speakin’ Southern is like playin’ jazz - you have to to know how to do it right first, before you can give it some flavor!
Honey, I had a twang as a child. And when I get to sangin and prayin it really comes out. I love the way I talk.
What’s the one thing you shouldn’t say to a Southerner:
1. “I have never tasted Sweet Tea”
2. “I hate Sweet Tea”
tea with lemon. I know it's getting bad around here.
I have a few friends who hate tea period, one of them is a Southerner. Smh. Disgraceful.
"Oh, you're from the South... you're not smart enough to understand what I'm gonna say next." :(
The worst is when they say, “Do you have soda pop instead?” Its a bad manners to ask for something nobody down here knows about. Why not ask for a coke?
I’m not even from the south but anyone who says that sweet tea isn’t superior can fight me.
How do you spot a Northerner?
They complain about the South and won't go back to the North.
Thems damn yankees
This drives me insane! They move down here and complain about our weather, make fun of us, and try to change our way of living. Then they get offended when I ask why they don't go back up north if they hate it here so much. 🤦♀️
Sounds like Californians when they move to Oregon.
"Why does it rain so much?"
"Dunno; maybe so our droughts can actually end in our lifetime and without a second Flood?"
That is so true!!
When I hear Northerners say that they don't like it in the South, I say...Delta's ready when y'all are...have y'all in town by sundown...
The lady in pink NAILED IT!!! She should be a Southern Ambassador
She should be the President of the United States...& not just the Southern states! Lol
My two favorite parts:
"When I give someone a 'hello' and a smile, I'm making an investment in that person. I'm lettin'' them know, you know what? You matter. You change the atmosphere. So I think that's one of the best things we can do." and-
"I absolutely hate it. Every Southerner does not compose themselves like Jo Exotic. ....Just most of us."
How can you tell someone is a Northerner:
“Do you want me to wash the cast iron?”
Whenever someone asks that a piece of me dies
Aayyyyiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii!!!!!😱
Are they still alive?
Anybody knows you don't warsh a cast iron skillet
Well, I am a Californian, and I once left my brother-in-law's cast iron to soak overnight.....it may have been a bit rusty.
Mamas is correct. Kids know that their friends’ mamas will treat them like their own, discipline as well as love.
Yelp, my friend's mama knew that they could both woop my but or give me a big hug just like my moma did ! 😊
Had a friend's mother start to cry when I didn't call her "mom", I was being polite when I said Mrs. Cooper...🙈
Yeh! Exactly! I got Moma Linda; Moma Betty; Moma Delana; Moma Aleta; ...
And of course, some have lesbian mamas
Don't forget aunts!
Never tell us that anything "instant" is as good as "scratch." Ever. Does not compute.
Lies from the pit of hell. Lol
Just like the microwave will never equally match your mama or grandma.
It doesn't compute for this Californian either. Such a statement is just bad taste.
Amiee you are sure right I have to buy instant mater mix cause I'm the only one that cooks in my family cause my dad is in a wheelchair and hard for him to move around in our very small kitchen and my mom passed away last year so it's been very hard on us both. But I'm starting to love to cook more. I come up with some crazy ideas. For example baked bbq pork chops.
@@jeremiahpace6533 Hey, don't underestimate the power of good baked BBQ! Chops, chicken.... Even burgers. They can and will do in a pinch! I'm having a lot of fun right now experimenting with my Instant pot.
@@aimeewalls8208 thanks I'm just tire of cooking the same thing over and over and over but with a diabetic in the house I have to cook thing he can eat.
Don’t tell a southern dressing and stuffing are the same😳
Preach!
Or that stuffing is better than dressing
Amen Becca1012🤣
I promise not to because I hate both!
The idea of stuffing things into a turkey carcass sounds awful.
Yes!!! I agree with all of this! I’ve lived in the south for the majority of my life, and I’m so proud of my accent, my manners, my food, etc. (I was adopted from China at 10 months) Most of the people I know are some of the kindest, considerate people you’ll ever meet. We southerners take life relaxed and full of love and happiness. Most southern stereotypes are so untrue and just plain ridiculous. My grandparents do have quite the accent, but they’re kind and welcoming and full of wit. I always laugh at what my grandmother comes up with! The south is one of the best places to be!
I'd like to see actors actually nail a Southern accent from a particular area, not just the fake drawl. So sick of that.
Yesssssssss! Like on little kid shows, it's like, "Heeeeeeyyy Yaaaaallllllll. Hoowwww aaarrreee yaaaaaaaa doooiinng? Loooooook waaaaaay uuupppp paaast yoooonnnddeeer aaaaand yooou wiiiiiiil seeeeeeee iiiiiiiit. Ooookkkaaaaayyyyy???
Yes all southern accents are not the same. A southern Texan can tell when someone is also southern but NOT from Texas. Hell even someone from Houston can tell if someone is from Jasper. Their are nuances to the way we speak.
Good manners meant "good home training" and a reflection on your family heritage is what was always said in my family.
lots of people especially those under the age of 25 havent had any home training .
Oh yes! So much so yes! My grandparents taught me my manners, and on every report card in elementary school I got high remarks for my "Wonderful manners! Such a great, and well mannered student!" They took pride in that!
@@ah5721 I agree with you. Home training is, for most, a forgotten art. IMHO, I wonder if alot of that also has to do with not having both parents in the home and also to some degree, a general falling away from religion. We have two late teen boys and they are wonderful. But we made sure they understood and respected authority. Too may kids don't get any of that these days.
Milk and bread is in case the power goes out. Milk for cereal for breakfast, bread for sandwiches for every other meal. I hope this helps.
I surprised this was a question.
And it’s also not limited to the south. I live in NJ and my parents always get milk and bread when bad weather is coming. Then again they were both born and raised in South Carolina so what do I know 🤷♀️
I never really wondered why people bought milk and bread when there was a storm coming. I don’t get why people get frozen pizzas. I mean, if the power goes out, how are you gonna cook it?
Even if the power doesn't go out, who is driving out there if a whole snowflake fell and/or stuck??
Eclectic Chicken If you have a gas oven or stove you can cook it😂 I have electric so i’m screwed💀
Does anybody else want a hug from Miss Patricia? Cause I do 😭
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🙋♀️❤
Bring it on.
🙋🏻♀️
I melt when they call me " suga"
“When someone takes the time to give me a hello and a smile...hey, I notice you”! Yes, Patricia, yes!
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That's the real struggle!!
"Do you have sweet tea?"
"No, but we got sugar."
"... sigh, can I have dr. Pepper then?"
you just blew my mind...I go to this one diner with a tea from the mcdonalds next door because of this
"Sorry, we don't serve Dr. Pepper, is Pepsi okay?"
Unsweetened tea comes from pit of hell nominative her for president
Amen!!
I’m from Maine. I have absolutely no idea why anyone would ever like unsweet tea. 🤢
@@eclecticchicken5676 💖
I drink unsweetened tea because I have to watch my carbs. I have a legit medical excuse. 😊
You people don’t drink sweet tea. You drink SWEEEEEEET tea. P.S. the only thing that needs THAT much sugar is rhubarb pie!
I think this channel needs more Patricia! She's a ray of sunshine!
Is Patricia the name of the woman in the pink dress? If so, I completely agree with you! She's AMAZING! Huge YES to more videos with her - LOTS MORE - please & thank you!!!
@@AB_Evans Yes! That's her! She's so great!!
Yes! Can we put to rest that we are all sexist, homophobic, transphobic, and racist? It exists down here just as it does everywhere else, but that's not even the majority. I grew up a gay woman down here and I've been just fine. It exists, but it does everywhere else too.
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In my experience, and even as a Christian who loves everyone, I've seen more hate for the things you mentioned in the north than I ever have in the South. The South would be so much nicer if there were less Yankees. And, just because you live up north, that doesn't make you a Yankee. Being a Yankee is an ideology. When everything hits the fan, being Southern isn't every man for himself. It's, "Hey, y'all need help so you can come with us?" or just simply checking in on your neighbors to see if they need anything.
Exactly! Im Bisexual and i've yet to face issues and im proud to be southern and Christian.
Not the mention the large number of LGBT and minority groups.
I'm from Minnesota, and southerners DEFINITELY have the best manners. Oh baby, I love it!
If I visit the US, I would love to meet southerners, they feel warm like the people I grew up with.
For the young lady in the video who mentioned Southern History- thank you- Southern History is important, all of it, and not just the pleasant parts. Nice to see a young person who cares about our past.
absolutely
I'm from a very old southern family and it is hard to get some parts of my family to look honestly at the ugly parts of that history. Just getting them to acknowledge the connection to the black families in the same small town who share the same, not at all common, last name was agonizing.
Sadly, when you say "The South" to most people not just in the northern United States, but the world over, they'll almost inevitably come back to at least one of four things: the Civil War, slavery, segregation/Jim Crow, and/or the Southern Cross flag. The problem is, as I pointed out to a friend about a month ago, 'The South' is like that fly that was caught in amber...it is stuck in that moment of time as far as most people are concerned. And sadly, just about every other stereotype emanates from there.
Why? Well, I believe that part of it is that, like any historian will tell you, history is always written by the victors. The other is that I'm guessing that most of those stereotypes were heavily embellished - or even made up altogether - by northern writers looking to make fun of 'those Southerners'. (Thing is, just about every country/culture has that, a group that they can look down on and mock...here in Canada that would be people from the province of Newfoundland and Labrador, who are referred to as 'Newfies'.)
Quite frankly, I'm disturbed by this current attitude of tearing down monuments and erasing names from history because of connections to a past that some find offensive, simply because it is offensive. As I've seen mentioned before, history is not there for you to like, history is there to teach you something. I'm not saying that we need to glorify certain things that should *not* be glorified, or as was said, just focus on the pleasant bits. No, I feel that we need to look at the whole picture, warts and all, in order to understand what has happened in the past so we can move on into a better future.
(But then, I'm just an 'old stock' white Canadian guy of UK heritage, what do I really know about things? 😉)
@@davegreenlaw5654 No, you really don't anything about these statues.
The overwhelming majority were not erected in the late 19th century. They were put up during the civil rights movement era of the 1950's and 1960's. Beyond that why should the Tennessee capital have a statue of Nathan Bedford Forrest, the founder of the KKK, in it which was placed there in the 1970's!, just as one notorious example.
These "monuments" were erected by white supremacists to very directly say they were the ones in charge.
@@KenS1267 Forrest recognized the KKK was bad and left. He had only attended some meetings and found he didnt agree with them. He spent the rest of his life fighting with them, fighting for civil rights, and at his death in Memphis TN thousands of black Americans attended to honor his life.
The lady in the pink dress nailed it. My favorite southern phrase that I use is, "you're not from 'round here, are ya?"
I'm from the north. My response to that is a very genuine "but I wish I was."
Mine is “thank God I am now.”
I had the opposite experience last week or so- moved up north to be with my fiancee. I was at a meeting at my local VA, which I'm very new to, and the chair was asking me which team I'm for to make small talk outside. "Or do you just not do sports at all?" And I said "I'm a fan, but folks usually stop asking teams once they know I'm not from around here."
She replies, "honey, _the second you open your mouth_, people know you're not from around here." 💀
The older woman was a delight to listen to!! Sounds like my Grandma. Maybe because they've been through much more "life" than us younger people. So much to learn from their experiences. 💕
“Bless your heart, but you’re just not as bright as you could be, are you?”🤣🤣🤣🤣
I was born in Georgia, and raised in North Carolina. I didn't venture out of the south until my mid-thirties when I visited New Jersey. I won't be doing that again any time soon.
I have seen too many "Ask the Southerner" interviews and discussions to keep track of; all of them were somewhat disappointing. This is one of the best representations of the south I have ever seen.
Jada, you are lovely and thoughtful and a true credit to the south. Your character and humor are truly refreshing and captivating.
Chris, you're the kind of person I would love to just sit down with and have a conversation. You remind me of a dear friend of mine whom I don't get to see very often. Thank you.
Lesley, despite your obvious youth, you remind me of my sister. You'd be part of the family at one of my family's cook-outs.
Bradley, you're a sharp young man. I expect you will do quite well for yourself and are a real point of pride for your family. We need more young folks like you around here.
Alec, your comments on "y'all" make me think you might be from Georgia. Wherever you're from, young southern gentlemen like you seem to be a rarity these days. Thank you.
Miss Patricia, I expect you're probably younger than I am, but you make me think of the aunties that helped my single Mom raise me. When you said "peppa jelli" and managed to wring an extra syllable out of the first two letters of "peppa," I was suddenly nine years old again and fell in love with you. You are a blessing and a joy. Thank you so much.
Older southerners can have multiple mommas everyone raised us I would get a woopen from my friends mom if you screwed up at her house
Same thing in Hawaii lol everyone gets a turn if you sass off to any elder lol
Right! I have at least 8 mommas lol
Takes a village to raise a child
One of the worst whoopin, was from my best friends mama
Woopen 😂
Moved to the north almost fourteen years ago. People still can’t understand my accent on certain words, it is almost impossible to find decent BBQ, and potato salad is almost always a tasteless disappointment unless I make it myself!
yep, can relate ! I made the best egg salad just from the smell because I hate mustard for my Utah in-laws and they thought they had died and gone to heaven! Went to a bbq place in Utah .. you know what they gave me ?! 5 thin sad little slices of "brisket " with a pickle no okra and told me to get my own watery catsup with seasoning from a dispenser >:/ it was hell.
“What is one Southern stereotype you want to put to rest”
Oh boy, I have a list
-That we’re all racist/bigoted.
-That we’re inbred(especially in Alabama)
-That we’re dumb
-That we still speak like it’s the 1860’s
THANK YOU! I’m so tired of hearing that all of us in Alabama are inbred. Even if someone says it as a joke, it’s not even remotely funny.
@@crusadermemes8067 Oh hallelujah, someone that gets it! Usually I’m not that sensitive to dumb jokes, but why does everyone like to pick on Alabama for that? I’ve lived in Alabama for almost my entire life and I have never met any inbred or incestuous people.
For real, I live in Alabama and those inbred jokes get so old!
The incest jokes is really getting old
AMEN!! ❤️
"Mama always said not to wear a hat indoors." I still take my hat off passing through the door anytime I go inside any building, & the voices in my head grump a little if I see someone else wearing one!
I moved to the south from Oregon. I fell in love with Southern people immediately. The warmth of the Hello and open door to the Yes Ma’am. I walk out my door and my neighbors smile and wave at me! I also love the good manners. My husband is from Texas and he says I should getting my southern card in the mail any day now. He said I finally understand and can pronounce Y’all.
"Bless your heart" originally and mostly means a sincere, sympathetic "You poor thing", like if your whole family had the flu or Grandma's not happy in the nursing home. But, yes, it can be used to throw shade.🤣
I can honestly say I’ve almost never heard “BYH” used in anything less than a heartfelt compliment/condolence way. Very rarely to “throw shade. “
I’ve heard both. I’m not from the south, but lived there for 2-3 years. Now when my friends say that someone said BYH to them, I say “hold up! Clarification is needed. In what context did they say it?”
This is an "order of operations" problem. If someone tells you that they have 3 family members who have tested positive for Covid, "Bless your heart" is a valid and sympathetic response. Now if you say something snide and follow it with "bless your heart"... that is just being ugly in a polite Southern way. Example: "That boy fell out of a stupid tree, and hit every branch on the way down... bless his heart"
I never use Bless Your Heart in any capacity other than affection or sympathy. Just not in me to do otherwise. But I can eye roll hard enough to give myself a concussion! And I cannot sleep if there is no bread or milk in the house, whether it is 98 degrees or blowing up a blizzard! 🤣
My mother always said, “Bless your little black heart,” which translated most accurately to a very polite but emphatic FU....
The farther north you go, the more "southern" we become. All the way up in Alaska, we act just like Southerners. When I was down in Memphis for a conference, I never felt more at home. The only difference between the south and Alaska (besides the obvious difference in the weather) is y'all have the heat with humidity. We have the cold and MASSIVELY dry air. It's so incredibly dry, especially in the winter, we have to have humidifiers running all over the house. If we don't, we wake up with severe cotton mouth and throat, it's awful. The static is epic. We can't even make a snowball....pure powder. The only time of year we can make a snowman is during breakup just before spring when it gets so warm during the day that the snow turns mushy. If I move away from Alaska, I'm definitely moving to the South! I love y'all! ❤️ btw....we have sweet tea EVERYWHERE, even McDonalds. You actually have to request unsweetened if you want it.
Don't we have mosquitoes in common too? I heard that they were bad up there. I was shocked.
@@tonyawallace5297 oh yeah. We jokingly call mosquitoes the Alaskan state bird. They're HUGE-and there are a ton of them. In Fairbanks they want it to get to 50 below during the winter just so it kills a lot of the larve. Good times. Lol
Oh my gosh I’ve always been fascinated by Alaska and now I know why. It has a Southern heart.
As someone who lives in Alaska and came up from the South! This is so so true 😊
I am a Northerner that has lived in the South for several years. And I can definitely see all these beautiful people and their point of views. There are amazing people in the South!
I can remember when we didn't have to say "sweet" in front of tea.
if you ask for tea at our hardee's you better say unsweetened if you are diabetic because that shit with be sweet as shit
When people make fun of the way i talk or southerners in general i remind them that nobody retires and moves up north.
Yes Southerners have the best manners!!
We thankyee!
We write thank you notes. And in a timely fashion
You can definitely tell if someone was raised right.
When a Verizon call center opened in my hometown, I could tell the northerners who came down with the company by the guys that either didn't hold the doors open OR would hold the door after they'd already gone through it.
younglaster
exactly
younglaster One of the first things you’ll notice up north. Gentlemen don’t hold the door for you. When people do it here I will always smile and say Thank you.
Holly Moore idk most people hold the door up north in my experience.
@@eleltoro Maybe you are from a central southern state? I spent my childhood in CA and most people didn’t unless you were directly behind them.
I would like to give you a sincere
THANK YOU.
For work I moved to South Florida 26 years ago.
My joke is the southernmost borough of New York City, after New Jersey; is south Florida. And just because the word South is in front of the term south Florida does not mean that it's Southern. You leave the true South when you stop seeing a Hardees. That's about Orlando.
I had to drive to Birmingham twice in the last 8 days for family issues. I stopped off at a buffet place I enjoy in Valdosta Georgia on the way back Thursday. Two of the sweetest black ladies are having lunch on the table next to me. We struck up a conversation. I realized then I was back in the south. Our culture and ways Run Deep. And they truly know no lines.
To be Southern is a cultural subgroup like Italian New Yorkers or Miami Cubanos.
We all eat the same thing for New Year's and celebrate holidays the same ways. Like it or lump it, Southerners are one big family. And we are not who we were 60 to 75 years ago. That's the stereotype I would like to stop. Amen
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I'm from the Midwest but now live in the South. The first time we went back to visit family, at a restaurant I asked for a half and half tea. The young server got about 10 steps from the table and turned around to clarify that I wanted half & half (dairy) in my tea. Bless his heart!
Miss Patricia needs to be a motivational speaker. Or at least in a place where people all over the globe can hear her. She's the South at its best. Hats off to you, ma'am. God bless.
please tell us these people will be coming back they're so fun.
Is Miss Patricia lookin' to adopt a grandson. She's my fave in this one.
Or a granddaughter?!?!?!?!?!
@@aubreysummers1729 Get in line!😂
@@Kit.E.Katz45 😂 I will, I will!
No, the manners come from being whopped up on the side of your head until you learned to automatically give the correct response
Or on the fat of your leg where it makes more sound than actually hurting you.
And it happened the “INSTANT” you did something wrong. No warning, no count down, no “I mean it this time”.
The answer they're looking for is "yes ma'am"
Can we all agree that North Carolina has the best manners?
@@josiahalcorne born and raised in North Carolina and no we don't lol. Just being honest.
Thats what I loved the most the 3yrs I lived in Jackson, MS... everyone says good morning, good evening and smile. Men open the door for you, and say have a nice day. I hated having to move back to the North. 😔
We were raised to do that it’s just normal
When she said she's lactose intolerant, I laughed out loud.
Northerner here, but "Ya'll" is simply the personal plural and all English speakers should universally adopt it, do you hear me, Ya'll?
y'all, not ya'll.😘
@@younglaster sorry. Posting too quickly.
Y'all (correctly pronounced "yawwwl") is the singular form. The plural is "awwwl yawwwl". Get that down!
Sounds good.
Or yinz (the Pittsburghese equivalent to y’all) if in western PA.
Not all southerners drink sweet tea. There are those, like myself, who are diabetic and have to order unsweetened tea. Of course as soon as I get it I add Splenda.
So, you still drink sweet tea. We don't discriminate. haha!
The real question is: How were Southerners so lucky to be born Southerners. Answer: The grace of God.
There was no luck in it brother. Keep on truckin’. May God Bless you
American by birth. Southern by the grace of God!
@@LoneCrusader wanna ask question if someone comes from other country and wanna join southern gang because he/she loves southern way would call them southerner or welcome them in your group
chetan khope in that very specific case; I would say that Southerners are traditionally born in the US. With that said, I would still say that if you move to the south from another country you would have to join the southern culture.
Texan by birth, Aggie by the Grace of God!
"Unsweetened tea is from the pit of hell" facts
I'm starting to love the South. Love from Africa💜👍
I knew a waitress in South Texas that would say "You're so pretty" instead of "Bless your heart". South Texas Mama's know how to throw shade and compliment at the same time. :)
Texas isn't really the south, Texas is Texas.
@@dhwave1 Was just about to comment this. Texas is our own thing, NOT the South!
That is some serious shade.
The only part of Texas that is the South is East Texas. Go to Tyler and tell me Texas isn’t the South. The rest of it is Texas.
@@sonsoftexas Nah, even East Texas is closer to Texas than it is to the South.
As a Canadian prairie guy, my perspective is that y'all elude a very warm, caring, and welcoming culture. I hope that God grants my wish and allows me to move to the Southern US and if it snows, it will be my pleasure to drive you guys around. A few feet of snow doesn't bother me.
Come on down.. we'll welcome you with open arms!
Lol "a few feet of snow" doesn't exist south of Tennessee
You would definitely be welcomed. Some of us just stay home so we can play in the snow and roast marshmallows by the fireplace. I even got a picture of individual snow flakes once......simply beautiful.
Keep your citizenship so you can have decent healthcare and move to where the have Canadian medical centers. Usually Florida.
we can drive a few hours to the mountains and go skiing and come back to the beach...its great!
I came here looking for something to laugh at, but Ms Patricia's words about saying "hello" and smiling meaning that you've taken notice of and invested in someone really moved me. Thanks for your wisdom!
It's true. It's called being kind and caring to someone you don't even know. People really appreciate being noticed. It is like telling someone that they are important. I speak to strangers daily.
Army vet here from NYC, grew up in Beaufort SC. I married a southerner. Most of my closest friends are from the south. And like the man in the video said, you’ll survive in the woods with a southerner lol. I love my southern friends 😊
that lady in pink really just said "crazy thing is I don't even drink milk..." omg I'm dying
As a southern no matter how your day is going you will give the greeting of the day. When I lived in the north they did not believe in it. I was very happy to come back pass the Mississippi River🙏🏾
yah I went up north for a job and those assholes didn't even wave at me when we drove past one another
What not to say to a Southerner: Why do you love MoonPies so much? They aren't even that good.
First off *buddy,* it's "ain't."
Second of all, *who hurt you?*
If that ain’t the most southern thing I’ve ever read. First we’re addressing the fighting words/ manners THEN we help.
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But they aren't! And I'm from Georgia!
@@dualkitsune3813 *ain't
😂😂😂😅 found this channel by random. I am from Hamburg 🇩🇪 and know I really like to visit the south of the U.S because it seems so friendly and peaceful and funny. Even though it’s never gonna happen.
Don’t know why but I can’t stop watching your videos.🥴🤩🤪
So you really erased some of my prejudices. Because all I know about the south is from tv shows and movies and as they say in the video, it’s full of stereotypes.
Never say never! You never know where this life (or the next) will take you.
You should definitely come visit sometime. It might be a big culture shock at first because the southern US is like the polar opposite of Germany, especially northern Germany, but I think you will love it. 😊 (I lived in the Wiesbaden area for three years when I was a teenager.)
I know this is an old post, but if you get to visit I know the people who settled here from Germany would love to have you. Especially here in Texas. My family settled in North Texas but if you want a good blend of Texas and it’s culture you should visit San Antonio. San Antonio would also give you easy access to Austin and Fredericksburg.
In the South we think a stranger is just a friend you haven't met yet.
I'm a housewife for 39 years. Making 3 meals and snacks for my husband and I love what I do. I didn't need a career outside the home to submit to a boss for money, but content to submit to my husband in the home raising our children up and loving my family. Teaching my children.
Milk is used for SNOW CREAM!!!!
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSSS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Snowcream is the BEST.
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My sister is from NYC but has lived in Atlanta for 25 years. When it freezes over, she gets out her ice skates. They don't have enough salt to melt the ice because, why would you keep that handy if you only need it once every few years, so the ice builds up and you can skate.
Lord have mercy, yesssssss! I couldn’t wait for it to snow when I was little, mamaw always made snow cream out of the second snow of the year. She’d make a big ol mixing bowl full. I thought that was the best stuff I had ever ate in my entire life. ❤️🥰 You know it is true, there ain’t nothing like your Mamaws or Mommas cooking. Even if it was something as simple as snow cream, to me hers was the best. No body can do it like they can!! You sure do miss that when they pass on. 😢
@@katelynthompsonturner3083 I agree! Btw, Mayfield Dairy sold 1/2 gallons of "Snow Cream" ice cream. Idk if it's still available, but I bought it a few years back at my local Kroger, Winn-Dixie, & The Pig in central Alabama. No, _of course_ it wasn't as good as homemade, but it was tasty!
My family has friends up north and we went to go visit them. And one day we went for a walk and my dad waved to a guy driving by and the son of our friend asked him why he did that. I was completely taken back I was like y’all don’t do that.
Most places in the world don’t do that. See it as a special thing, but also realize that many parts of the world rather mind their own business (especially East Asia).
I wave so much, I do it at night too
@Jessica B. My mom moved back to Korea after living in the US for almost over 25 years... she and a stranger made eye contact and she gave a smile to her... and ended up feeling weird about it since it was replied with a weirded out look from her. For me personally I’m fine with no interactions from strangers since I’m an introvert but my mom, an extrovert, had to remind herself to stop doing that.
Know its really late, but I had that issue when I visited family in Pittsburgh. I live in a smaller city in Georgia and everywhere I go even the sketchier places that look more like Atlanta when you pass someone you say "hello" "good morning" and tip your head a little bit. Almost like you were tipping your hat. Now not everyone, but you greet someone when passing.
Did that in Pittsburgh like I have done for years and they looked at me like my head was on fire.
Back in the day if you misbehaved and a neighbor or teacher whipped you you didn’t tell your parents because back then their response was “what did you do?” And could be followed up with another whipping because your behavior when they’re not around is a reflection on them as parents so you’re embarrassing them.
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There was a girl from SoCal who came to a southern university, She started to unpack her car, she got to her room, and there was a "parade" of people following her with her stuff and offering her tea and Cocola when she was finished. It took her a week before she figured out that people actually look at each other when they talk. It was a total culture shock. True event.
I dated a girl from Canada at one time. She was super polite but Canadian polite not Southern polite. She was a bit of a fish out of water.
I'm southern raised living up north and ill never forget when someone told me bless your heart is only ever an insult and I was wrong.
Never EVER tell a southerner that "y'all" and "ain't" ain't words
If someone says that, best repose is "So? Y'all obviously understood what I meant because you felt the need to correct me so why does it need to be corrected?"
@Heather Faulk that’s my problem with grammar Nazis in comment sections, like if you were able to correct me you understood what I meant, also most of the time it was just a typo and I’ll notice it on my own without your help, it also annoying when it’s something minor like sometimes when I’m tired I might mix up there, their, and they’re. It’s also annoying because English isn’t always everyone’s first language.
Something else you shouldn’t say to a southerner is “You don’t sound like you’re from here. Where are you from?” I have a very light southern accent and have lived in New Orleans all my life. I find it very rude to be misplaced to another state.
I get that too. I have virtually no accent and have preferred my iced tea unsweetened since birth.
I'm born and raised in deep south, yet have zero accent. I just find it funny when people can't place where I'm from.
I grew up in New Orleans and have very little accent too. People are surprised when I say where I’m from. Then they inevitably start calling it naw’lins and it kills me. Like please no.
@@christinajackson2662 I have family there - they don't say Nawlins, but they dont say it like a Yankee either ;) their accents are subtle, but there are some interesting ones, like the old school Irish Channel pattern - probably pretty rare now.
I am from NC, my mom is from Al and my dad is from Ok. I only have an accent when I am really tired. No one ever knows where I am from until I tell them.
I wish Miss Patricia lived in my neighborhood. I would be honored to be asked over for some of her sweet tea.
I love the South! Nicest people ever. We are seriously considering moving to the South when we retire. Every time we go there, everyone is so welcoming and kind
There's no such thing as a southern accent. We dont all sound the same. East coast southerners sound nothing like folks from Tennessee. Neither sound like people from Alabama. Louisiana is a whole nuther with its on accent languages and culture. The south is not homogeneous. Each state has its own unique traits. Even within some states there are regional differences.
Very much so! I grew up in SC, and you can tell whether someone is from the Upstate or from Columbia or from Charleston.
@@sisterhoney61 indeed, the accent varies from east, middle and west TN. Its easy to tell where you're from if you've lived herein enough to know the differences.
Don't forget Atlanta is a place all on it's own.
@@Cent4man What's the difference between middle and west, east is easy to distinguish.
@@ridetn7695 Eastern TN has Appalachian influences which bring it closer to sounding a bit like North Carolina accent but, without the Arcadian French influences found along North Carolina's coastal regions. Middle TN is a smoother less defined, softer version of East TN but, there are some Northern Alabama influences as well as a bit of southern Kentucky accent infused. Now remove the Eastern Appalachian influences and add a bit of Northern Louisiana's Carole influences and you get the Memphis blues almost linguistically lazy sound.
Its actually an interesting topic.
I really want to meet the lady in the pink dress. She is AWESOME
Me too🙋
Me too! I just want to give her a hug.
The older lady is spot on with the race thing, my grandfather grew up in New Orleans in the 40s and 50s and everyone was friends with everyone else no matter their race where he grew up. Everyone was poor and getting by, there was no great divide between races.
Indeed! We in the South reconciled with each other 50 years ago. The North is just now getting around to it!
@@user-tq3rr8vy2w "Civil Rights Movement" and yes, absolutely. New Orleans is rather special, though. It's not like Memphis.
@@user-tq3rr8vy2w yes that was definitely a thing but thankfully there were places, like where my grandfather grew up, where this was not the case and there was a mixing of races even back in the 40s and 50s. Heck my dad grew up in a podunk Louisiana town and there it didn't matter if you were white, black, latino, etc, people were either a good person or a bad person, didn't matter what color their skin was.
It's always been the politicians (and now MSM) that want to keep people divided (racially, culturally, economically, and regular people sometimes fall for the trap unfortunately.
Apparently, things had improved after the war because my dad grew up in Looziana (as we said it), and there were prejudices when he was a kid in the 1930s.
I love the kid with the glasses. He puts a little bit of humor. Reminds me of my grandson.
Aside from being lovely, wise and obviously kind, the lady in the pink dress' nail game is so on point!
Southerners drive so much faster than Northerners I don’t know what that one lady was talking about.
She hasn't been on I-75.
I hear ya
True 90 miles a hr on I-95 is normal
I'm 43 years old, I've been smiling and saying hello to everyone all my life, I was just raised that way.
39 and shake their hand while introducing yourself.....even the girls do this
“Why do Southerners buy milk and bread when it snows” As someone who works in a NY grocery store, people go crazy over that too.
I lived just above the Mason Dixon line for a time. Experienced bad snow driving, runs on bread at the store and open racism against friends of color. Went back to VA.
JonSnowRadio Must have been from the yankees from up north that were racist.
@@HollyMoore-wo2mh it was the worst I'd ever seen. I was in a place that didn't get transplants and did not get treated very well as a new arrival with an accent they only knew from TV. Decades later there are classmates that won't go to reunions organized by POCs. Yet I have to hear constantly about how horrible southerners are regarding race.
JonSnowRadio I am sorry that happened to you but that’s not been my experience.
@@HollyMoore-wo2mh Bear in mind I am saying this as an ally, not a recipient. Of course it's not everywhere, but as a native Southerner moving north for a few years, it was a huge surprise to have people openly say things like to one another like "do you like black people? No? Me neither." That was a real exchange I heard.
Once in the late 80s I was speeding then pulled over in southern California. I played the "Alabama card" and acted like I was dumb as a door nail saying "what do you mean speeding ? I just say no to drugs ." The popo let me gogo!
Being a Southerner crosses the borders. In my home country, I was a Southerner. We talk in a similar manner like Southerners here. I now speak English like a Southerner, even though it is not my first language :)
In my area of the South we never say "Bless your heart" instead we say "oh honey" and shake our heads lol
I went to Birmingham and Montgomery last Saturday and let me tell ya it was beautiful there. Nice people warm weather and quiet. It was my 1st time in Alabama. Im from NC and its awesome here as well. Chattanooga is also beautiful with the Tennessee River and mountains there omg the best scenery ever. Lookout Mountain and Ruby Falls
I’m so glad you enjoyed your visit! I’m a native of Montgomery and we love meeting new people. We in turn enjoy traveling to your neck of the woods for the cool mountains and hiking. I’ve always said that southeast is so lovely with our landscape. Mountains, rivers, lakes, and beaches. Add in all the polite folks and good food, what’s not to love!
@@disneyjenn1671 Thank you for having me.
aw glad you liked it! north alabama here, about an hour from ruby falls. one thing about the south, we always got a glass of tea and a front porch swing ready for ya. y’all come back now!
Chattanooga is where I'm from. Never lived more than 30 minutes away from the Chattanooga city limits.
@@teesha3221 i loved it there. i am redi to go back.
Diversity in Birmingham is especially true. 30% of us weren't even born in Alabama. I couldn't find any information on who wasn't born in Birmingham. I moved here from Ohio, and I love that Birmingham is a place that people choose, not just a place that people are born to.
Birmingham is the best!!!
I lived in Birmingham for five years, coming from my home state of Indiana. I have lived in FL, MO, and TX - and enjoyed B'ham the best. I am back in Indiana, and my friends get tired of me telling them all the great things about B'ham - it is a Southern culture none of them have experienced. Thank you, Birmingham!!
Birmingham is a Great City, don't live there but I've been there, I live in Elkmont, Al
Unsweetened tea is from the pit of hell.
Unsweetened tea is hell
NC here and I love it! Glad to hear everyone express the love we have and respect because around where I live it is good! Not perfect but good! People depend on each other especially in the more rural and country areas. So when you see someone in need you are a brother or sister indeed!☺️ Love to all and be good to one another!
The Lady in the pink dress needs her own program. I could listen to her all day lol
They aren’t kidding about us wanting to learn as much as possible and being survivalists. I have a degree in early childhood education, I took and still use what I learned in auto mechanics classes, I know some French, and I can make kick-butt meals with dessert.
I wish I could give the older lady in pink a big hug. She's a wise grandma you want to have
Of course bread is a source of protein in the South - seeing that mac'n'cheese is a veggie side ;-)
"How do you spot a northner"
Why you hold the door like a civil human and they act like they don't see you. Like "thank you" is what you say!
I'm from Wisconsin. I always say please and thank you. I will say I don't wave at strangers or talk to them unless they talk to me first, but I'm rather shy. I find it awkward to just start a conversation with someone I don't know.
I want to visit the South now. Very much. Everyone I've ever met from the South has been so nice. They' re lovely.