This is why people should love themselves. Cuz once u reach ur 30’s-40’s, you’ll realize how u wasted ur youth trying to “fit into the standard”. This is truly, truly inspiring.
30s and 40s are still the youth, I know you didn’t mean anything by it, but it’s depressing how people think that you get “old” in your 30s and 40s when in fact you really start living in your 30s and 40s.
This is so true young people these days spend most of their youth trying to fit into some kind of standard thinking that they have to please others with how they look and I didn’t realize that there are people out there who appreciate and will love them for who they are inside and out and they don’t have to change anything to make anyone else be happy if you want to change yourself you should do it to make yourself happy never somebody else
@@IHHA99999 I only agree on the part which you said 30s and 40s is when we start living BUT let's be real here. 30s and 40s is behind youth, meaning that we are mature enough, hence why we really start living fr from then. ✌🌼
What she's showing you is she used to. Like a lot of people she's saying she (me too) wasted a lot of time trying to be happy working hard to be something we weren't, only to NEVER be happy. Once we loved ourselves it didn't matter we could color our hair or wear it black, we could wear glasses or contacts, *It doesn't matter, because we love ourselves* and once you do that you will be much happier with yourself.
@@gesttina and family that does too helps innoculate you from that bs and not care from an earlier age. Family policing skin color and weight from an early age messes you up, and is very different from a family that doesn't care about your skin color only that you protect it from cancer, and helps you have good food and exercise habits unrelated to pressure to looking a certain way. The focus makes a huge difference: end result focus to achieve an arbitrary social goal is toxic, process focus centered around making yourself have beneficial habits for your life (no one size fits all) is great. Like giving someone a love for hiking and nature is very different from making someone obsessed with their exact waist measurements. Giving someone a love for healthy delicious dishes and teaching them to pay attention to their body's hunger and satiety signals is different from giving them orthorexia or anorexia/bulimia. Like that whole "eat everything on your plate that I loaded up too heavily no matter what your stomach tells you" attitude just gives people eating disorders.
As a person with an astigmatism, my favorite comeback to any one who says I look better without glasses is to take off my glasses and say “you’re right, you do look better without glasses!”
@@MichelleBrovey nice, everyone just looks like a blob (think when your camera is really out of focus) to me without my glasses, so I really can’t see them very well 😂
We are all naturally beautiful in our own way:) our face and body show pieces of our ancestors. It shows pieces of our lives and what we’ve gone through. Beauty is in individuality. Beauty is in diversity. Celebrate who you are naturally, inside and out, to the best of your ability. It’s easier some days than it is others, but you’re worth it. You’re beautiful.
As an Asian, I understand this on a whole other level. People expect us to be the perfect Korean idols or the fashionable Chinese girls when we’re really just humans
It's sad how Asians make things so much harder for themselves. I'm American, but "ethnic" so growing up with the racism here that also dictates what are "desirable" looks messed up my mental health for the whole of my teen and young adult years. And even though being a girl/woman is terribly hard everywhere, it really seems that Asians are especially punishing to themselves, even while living in Asia where everyone looks the same (unlike in the U.S.). 😔
The axe forgets, but the tree remembers. No one remembers the terrible things they say to drag us down, but we never forget how it made us feel. So happy to see you moving past that and finding your own happiness. The scars on the tree forms the strongest points of the bark; you're simply gaining your strength that will carry you through the strongest storms. ❤
im lucky that i was one of those kids who realized in elementary/middle school that changing myself to be the standard was never gonna make me happy, cause people were going through it in high school for real
I am one of those highschool kids that went through it 🙋. Graduated this year but seriously it was so rough, I hated myself so much and was surrounded by toxic people that only made me feel worse about myself. I ended up with only 1 friend in senior year and starting college now it has been very lonely but I’m learning how to be authentic again. I am managing my anxiety and self loathing a bit better now but holy shit was it bad in highschool. I feel like I wasted those years trying to be something “better”.
same, I was always an outsider and because of my autism I don't follow society's rules too often, only if I see purpose behind them. like being kind to others, respect their space, don't be racist or homophobic or any other sort of hateful bigoted ideology, do your best to lower your carbon footprint and don't litter, stuff like that. but I never followed silly arbitrary rules like trends, watching your weight, wanting to fit in, ect I was alone for a lot of my life but I'd rather be alone than keep up a constant facade. if someone becomes my friend I want them to befriend the real me otherwise what's even the point. I want someone to enjoy me, not someone else I pretend to be sometimes I'm glad I have autism really (if you don't like my comment I won't see you reply if you do. I only get like notifications)
@@Snowflake28936AJ good job!!!! I'm proud of you!!!! soon I'm sure you'll get friends that like the real you, you just gotta be patient (I know from experience)
I cried watching this video :') It's so relatable and shares such an important message. Uyen looks so happy and beautiful being her true self at the end :')
THANK YOU!!! I am so happy to be watching this with my 12 year old daughter who loves your channel and looks up to you so much. She is autistic and constantly misunderstood and judged at school. My voice as a mother is strong, but the influence of other confident women blazing trails in such a dignified and TRULY beautiful way as you are have such an impact to reinforce that she is beautiful and worthy and wonderful exactly as she is in the clothes and hair that make her feel good, and interested in the things that fire her soul, not to please others, even me! So thank you from my heart and soul. ❤❤ Never underestimate the power of being courageous enough to live satisfied and thankful in your own beauty and power and break free from the manipulative and toxic 'beauty' standards of the parts of this media/money/greed/judgement driven world that want our young ones so busy and obsessed with changing themselves that they fail to be the change that is needed and are stunted from waking up to realize their Power and Potential!!! 💪🥰💪 To the kiddos and young adults out there: the next time someone puts you down, laughs at your physical traits or what your wearing, or says something that makes you feel terrible: ask them why they did that. Ask them if they are okay and be truly interested. If they are baffled, kindly let them know that happy okay people don't hurt others on purpose and you actually care. When someone puts you down, 99 times out of 100 it is about them and their own insecurities, not about you!!! The 1 exception is if you are not being a good human to others. If that's the case, change that and then if and when someone puts you down you will have the power to know it was about them and not let it hurt your soul! ❤😊
@@firedevils5402then try to find some time to figure out what things you do like about yourself, it can be even a small thing like maybe you might like your funny or you are great at listening
Change isn't bad. But change bc you want to. Not to please anyone else or become the beauty standard that's not even real bc of filters and dramatic makeup. I choose comfort in my own skin and loose and sporty clothes...makes me happy 😊
but people "want to change" to get attention or make a point. Usually people who want to change are unhappy with themselves but the fault of that is their own view on themselves.
@@user-wq9mw2xz3j We change for many reasons, including growth and maturity. It's a natural part of life. There are, however, some poor reasons to change.
@@user-wq9mw2xz3j believe it or not there’s people who change because they’re insecure about their appearances and things they don’t NEED to change, and then there’s people who try to change because they’re toxic, mean, generally hurtful, etc. … or even just close minded and they want to learn more. people can change in different ways and positive change is when you’re changing for the betterment of yourself and people around you. negative change is when you’re doing it to satisfy an insecurity which doesn’t go away. in fact for insecure people the only thing they need to change is to stop being insecure, or they’ll always find flaws to be upset about.
@@user-wq9mw2xz3j other than body dismorphia (wich was worse before i started training) i feel way better, the exercises are fun and i feel refreshed every month seeing what i achieved, and so is everyone else that i know that does it... I dont know, maybe it's different cultures
You're inspiring me so much! My body and weight was changed after school and my family started to shame me. But then I look at your videos and feel more patient and comfortable. Thank you so much 💓
Youre beautiful babe! But i think saying you do nothing with your appearance is wrong, you should do some skincare, don't get me wrong! But skincare is really good, your skin need it, not for how you look, but how you feel, and exercise too! If you don't do that, its the same as you didn't love yourself! But keep up the goods and dont listen to toxic people! 🤟
As an asian, I totally understand what society tells us to do. Get a thinner waist, pale skin, long hair and a thin face. It isn't same for everyone. You are unique just the way you are.
Pale skin being standardized is such a damaging thing on many communities!!! It is not only an issue among Asians; Afro-carribeans, Africans, Indians and more are negatively affected by this racist/colourist beauty standard!!
Your happiness is the most beautiful asset. It deepens your smile, it brightens your eyes, and it makes your whole skin glow. We love you and want to see you happy.
The whitening cream is something that i can relate even as an Asian male. I was born with darker tan skin compared to my other siblings. While they were praised for their pale skin, I was called racial names by my own family and relatives. This is something that most poc men will never admit but we all have tried to make our skin lighter secretly. I was one of them. But I've learned to love my tan skin and i would never change anything about myself.
Omg I’ve literally had the same experience as a female Pacific Islander. The rest of my siblings older and younger have light skin. Relatives would literally gift me whitening cream 💀 I got my brown skin from my dad and my grandma was a busy body who was always tanned. They are both intelligent and upstanding so I never thought I was objectively less than anyone else but it certainly made me meek during family gatherings. You’d think literal pacific islanders would not care but you can’t escape colorism not even in paradise. It makes sense that even men have insecurities about their skin when being darker skinned can so casually be thrown around as an insult. Man or woman, hearing such a thing would still hurt. I’m happy to hear you’ve come to love yourself as you are.
Same! I'm a girl, my brother has pale skin like my mom so they always team up to call me "black skin" and "burnt pole" even though my skin is relatively already pale compared to others, just not flushed pink. My dad has super tanned skin so I probably got that from him. My mom would call my dad "dirty". I cant stand her when she's like that.
Blood, I am a Bavarian. My second lady was a born Colombian, tan like coffee. Why can't you find a German girl? Thank you. Around 5 years later I had a Saxonian, from Germany. Blue eyes, blonde, really pale white. Why her? The girl you had for nearly a year, the Colombian, was so nice, even if she was too young. Same person... 🙄 Start to learn to give a fog. Sometimes my Nepal friends nag me for my weight. If some people's starts anger in their restaurant they love me for my build. 😁
If it makes you feel better, white people are constantly trying to get a tan. 😂 My grandma would beg me to keep going out into the sun because I was "as white as cheese or a ghost". I guess we all want what we don't have. 🤷🏻♀️ The key is to learn to love the skin we're in and if others don't like it, tune 'em out.
This seriously made me cry. You seriously defined our generation in like the first 10 seconds of the video. "Originality always takes the best form than a copy"
Had a little cry watching this. Beauty standards can be so toxic so it's amazing when you have someone who loved you for who you are and helps you find value in your looks ❤
Your gorgeous in every way,shape,and form. Every hat,shirt and pants, every bracelet,necklace,and earring. And every bruise,freckle,or Beauty mark. You’re perfect.
Asian beauty standards suck so much. I struggle to achieve it as well. The kpop boom never really helped with my self-esteem too. They always say to love yourself, easy for them to say when they are pretty. It's kinda hypocritical when they say that too considering some idols had undergone surgery to be able to keep up with standards. Then one day it just clicked. Once I reached 20, I realized that I have more important things to deal with rather than obsessing with my looks and how subpar it is. I don't need to be part of a standard. Being able to think that you look pretty without comparing yourself is fine as it is. Another thing that I realized is that Asian beauty standards seem to describe a child as an ideal type. Petite, Small, Small face, small nose, cute mannerism, etc. It weirded me the fuck out. Why the hell would women and even men infantilize themselves? They do this in kpop and kdrama by acting aegyo.
Facts. It glorifies young people in such terrible ways too. How are you old and busted once you hit 26?? Or even 30? Like you don't just suddenly forget all that training and experience once you're not in your teens. But ageism is really big in the music industry in general.
The worst part - when you realize that kpop is about childlike mannerisms and behaviors - it is all about the perverse promotion and sexualization of children. How many grown men still love girls generation or blackpink, etc.? It's gross.
YESSSS!!! I thought I was the only one who was affected in such a way by the Kpop boom. At first I was just interested in the music bc I’d never heard it before then I started getting trapped by their beauty standards. I was very vulnerable at the time mentally as I was trying to get over depression, anxiety, and poor body image. I binged to cope with emotions so I was overweight and I wanted to lose weight thinking it would help. At the same time I was being bombarded by Kpop beauty standards online since CZcams was just spam advertising me literally every Kpop video or Korean video about weight loss. It also made me more aware of beauty standards in my own country by recommending me Western weight loss videos as well. One idol caught my attention and her name was Somi. I thought she was really pretty and I liked the music and interviews that were recommended to me. In one interview she stated that in order to lose weight for her comeback she only ate 3 bananas a day. Now I was pretty f(u)cking shocked by this & was like what!!! But since it was in Korea none of the adults around her gave the same reaction as I did so this to me as a kid in middle school basically gave me the go ahead that this was ok. Bc y would these adults condone a teens bad eating habits…😅. I remember I did exactly what they would do and tried to starve myself but I would always break and start binging then feel like crap afterwards. I even went so far as to buy diet pills (I'm still in middle school at this point btw!) luckily my mother found them before I could use them and she gave me the wake up call I needed saying that it’s ok to want to lose weight but I should never go to the extremes to achieve it bc I was still a kid and sh!t like this isn’t healthy for me. I started to realize how much I’d spiraled after that. I originally just wanted to lose weight to feel better about myself and now I’ve become so obsessed with losing weight I’ve been damaging my physical and mental health even more than before. I was nowhere near happier or healthier. I completely stopped the dieting and extreme workout regimen after this. I found videos like Abbey Sharp that helped me understand why I was binging and how dieting the way I did was so harmful. I started doing my own personal research into health and wellness by reading accurate, evidence-based, current, person-centric, and trustworthy articles. I adapted something called mindful eating. Mindful eating is a technique that helps you gain control over your eating habits. It has been shown to promote weight loss, reduce binge eating, and help you feel better. Mindfulness is a form of meditation that helps you recognize and cope with your emotions and physical sensations. It’s used to treat many conditions, including eating disorders, depression, anxiety, and various food-related behaviors. Mindful eating is about using mindfulness to reach a state of full attention to your experiences, cravings, and physical cues when eating. Fundamentally, mindful eating involves: eating slowly and without distraction, listening to physical hunger cues and eating only until you’re full, distinguishing between true hunger and non-hunger triggers for eating, engaging your senses by noticing colors, smells, sounds, textures, and flavor, learning to cope with guilt and anxiety about food, eating to maintain overall health and well-being, noticing the effects food has on your feelings and figure, and appreciating your food. These things allow you to replace automatic thoughts and reactions with more conscious, healthier responses. Mindful eating helped me heal my relationship with food and my body while achieving a sense of body neutrality. I was the most comfortable I’d been in my body for the first time in my life and when I went to the doctor a year later I had actually ended up losing about 15 pounds. The coolest part of this whole exchange was how little f(u)cks I gave😂. It was so exhilarating to not feel like my self worth was determined by a number on the scale anymore & I could already see the results in the way I acted and how I felt. Another year later I started working out again. When I would work out when I was in a bad place I would overdo it. Afterwards it was more so about motivation and finding a schedule that worked for me because I would always fall off. I finally did find a routine that works for me and I at first lost 5 pounds after I started working out in the beginning but recently I’ve gained it back bc 💪🏽. I flex literally all the time 😂. After leaving all the extreme diets and workouts behind me 4 years ago I am much more happy, strong, and confident in myself. And it all happened once I stopped giving a sh!t about beauty standards and stopped letting people profit off my insecurities. I wish more girls my age would do the same.
@@f_u_love8424 I think you should start your own YT channel and be a good influence on people. Your experience and what have you learn can be beneficial for others as well.
@@gothbat676 sure, it's not like his stories are some of the most well known ones, having been translated to a lot of languages, etc. You might not regard him very high, but the rest of humanity thinks otherwise. But that's on you to be a special snowflake ❤️
That red hair with purple-ish undertones is SO HARD to pull off and can I just say you killed it!! You took that color and made it look like it was made for you.
red hair fitted you but what fitted you more was that smile at the end 😊 I know how it feels to be told to look the way others want you to, but what's best is to be surrounded by people who like you being just you.
The ending when she smiled felt so wholesome because she was happy that he liked her for who she was, and thought she was beautiful without making those changes to herself. ☺️
I love this.. she's not dolled up in layers of beauty and telling people beauty doesnt matter.. she's just herself and i love her for it❤❤❤ you go girl!
In your 20s, you worry about what everyone thinks. In your 40s, you stop caring what everyone thinks. In your 60s, you realize nobody was ever thinking about you to begin with. I heard that and liked it.
@@yak_attak ikr, nobody is ever really thinking about someone else and when they do, it's only for 20secs and within that 20secs they spare 10secs to tell you how your look is this or that... Like bro, I'm not changing how I look for 20sec of your attention like wth
I was an overthinker for the longest time until I've heard something like this. I did a lot of self-questioning every time I catch myself thinking "What if this person thinks I'm..." "What if they remember I did..." The reality is that I can't remember anything others did because I'm simply just focusing on myself for the most of the time. And I can't assume what they're thinking unless they told me so. Them judging us is their job, not mine 😂 To me as long as the action is not illegal, morally wrong or hurting anyone, I have every right to do it.
@@StrawmnMcPerson this is where the phrase “what others think of you is not your problem” comes into play. Their validation or not of you is irrelevant at the end of the day. It’s up to you to continue growing and changing for the better, regardless of what mold others want you to fit. I understood this in my teens but it still took years to put into effect though, so I understand it’s easier said than done. It just helps to relieve anxiety knowing that no one determines your worth but you.
As someone with black hair, I will say black hair is amazing with every other hair color. don't listen to what others say and just remember you are beautiful In your own way. sometimes the boring things are the best things. :)
Same in teenage years...we think we are not good enough....insecure ...models with makeup are inspo.....but now when we see people like you whose sweet smile bring a smile on our face ...its true beauty abd true confidence ...and i see and appreciate how beautiful i am myself when i look in mirror.
the black hair and whitening cream thing is so relatable. Im black but I always wished I was white with blonde hair and lighter skin, but I realized I’m beautiful the way I am
funny, as a blonde white girl i liked darker skins and darker hair. latinos, asians and africans were so pretty to me! white was boring and you easily look sickish and too pale.
I’m a pale girl and I have always wished I could be tan. But I eventually learned to love myself because that’s what’s god gave me and screw what other people think lol they should love me for who I am too. I have an amazing bf who thinks that. Y’all needa keep negative ppl out cuz they just jealous
@@BlondeQtie I don't think you are realizing that society validates white skin constantly. Every face you see on TV is white. You had your experience, but what marginalized groups experience is totally different. Society tells people that white is beautiful / the norm. It isn't okay.
@@ITI-xi5zx i realized that in my late teens. i am pretty „thankful“ now that i kinda match the type that is most desired, although i find it a shame that others are put down for their beautiful appearance.
I like the last one best. Being yourself and being happy is always more beautiful than hating yourself. If anyone out there is struggling, I promise one day you will be happy again!
So accurate. Once I hit my 30s and survived cancer, I learned to laugh at the standards thrown at me and say, "What do you know about the right way for ME to be ME?" When you're young, everything seems so big and severe; and then you get older and see zero results for all the effort you put into other people and becoming what they all wanted. Something snaps in you and you're just like, "FORGET IT. If I can't make you happy being what you thought you wanted of me, I might as well be me and find the people that are put together enough to accept that." Thank you for sharing this, it's such an awesome transition. =)
Same for me. Just before hitting 30s when it happened for me. Spent my twenties trying to please others only to realise that it was a total waste of time. They never cared enough about me anyways and it never pays to give up your life for others. Live your life. For you. Not for anyone else.
I'm Mexican but this is exactly what my childhood was like. My mother really made me hate everything about the way I looked. Now I'm almost 30 and I can still hear her criticisms in my head, even though I don't talk to her anymore
Yo no hablo mucho inglés.. Pero la heridas de los padres siempre se quedan. Bloquea con pensamientos positivos y esperanzas nuevas todo eso que te ha estado haciendo daño y, disfruta de ti y las oportunidades que se te presentan! Por qué perder tiempo en sentimientos/pensamientos negativos, cuando no son reales. PORQUE CADA QUIEN ES HERMOS@ a su manera y ser tan diferentes es lo que nos hace hermosos, no lo que digan los estándares o gente cercana ♥️
I feel like a person is in their most prettiest point if they look confident. There is nothing more beautiful than a person actually enjoying their life and being happy
Yes! Absolutely! Each person has their on charm and everyone shine brightest when they accept themselves and are confident and comfortable being who they are
The "you'd look better without glasses." Really hit me hard, when I was in 7th grade everyone said I looked better without glasses, so I got contacts, I still wear them but now I relise I should have gotten contacts on my own time or reason.
Lol I had this the other way around, got my glasses in my twenties and everyone says the glasses look good on me and I shouldn't get contacts, but I don't like the way I look with glasses. Even my eye doctor was discouraging me from getting contacts.
@@britischenadligen3760 it’s fine if ur afraid, I wear glasses.. well since my sister lost mine at a pool during the summer.. I got contacts and they weren’t hard to put in.. it’s just they were cold and my eye keeps avoiding it.. unless they put numbing drops in my eye and getting my mom to put them in..and MY DARN eyelashes get in the way.. i haven’t tried on contacts since.. it’s still hard for me to put them in.. but I would get them when ur. comfortable like when ur in high school or during middle school.. yet my parents wear contacts.. i plan to practice putting them in.. but I don’t know.. but yea they are cool to get.. if hard to get them in.. practice touching ur eye at least 4 times each day so when u get contacts, they are easy to put in.. yw 🐤
most of the time I wear contact lens because of convenience. Sure sometimes it looks better, but sometimes it is better with eye glasses. I eventually quit wearing contact lens everyday but my eyes are too dry💀💀💀
I actually really like the way glasses looked on me but I got LASIK for convenience since I was pretty blind. Now my face looks like an egg but at least I won’t on my hands and knees looking for my glasses like Velma 😂
@queenofidlis She's got a great complexion match for that color. But if she's happy with natural, that's that! I would dye my hair more often because of the fun colors, but upkeep and cost are a pain.
Honestly she's so beautiful as herself. She has such a warm smile and aura to her. Like this might sound weird but she both feels like the loving mom and the cool best friend. She's gentle but goofy, energetic but caring. Her hairstyle gives her a very cute and young look and she has beautiful skin. We will always hate our own bodies even when there are so many in the world who will see us as the most beautiful and wonderful person in their lives. It's hard we never see ourselves the way others see us
That's what I was thinking when watching too. She's already so pretty and doesn't need to change herself. However, if she wanted to dye her hair and wear contacts then she looks great as well! She just has "that something" that makes you like her and want to be around her.
The only reason a person has to hate their own body is because they care what people think about them.... Once you stop caring about how people see you you won't hate your body .... I went through life like that and now at 27 years old I don't and never have hated my body and so never dealt with all this body hating.... Just try and remember if someone says something bad about you that is because you have something that makes them jealous.... Believe it or not it's true.
SHE IS ACTUALLY DROP DEAD GORGEOUS okay she sounds like a super sweet personand her personality matters,not her looks, Im sorry but I actually think shes pretty on the outside but her personality really sounds beautiful,let me call her beautiful it is what I want to say,please don't tell me she isn't pretty.If you think shes not pretty,please go ahead thinking so my opinion says that shes beautiful
This video plus the german cities videos have convinced me that you rock EVERY hair color, from your natural black color, to red, blonde, etc. 😂 and any fringe/bang shape! Wish your 20 year old self could have realized this!
I feel lucky. I feel like I still had fun trying all the different phases. Not to say the insecurities part was fun. The branching out and trying new things was fun. That's youth though. The fun in everything new, and everything is new. I miss my blue hair, not the maintenance. Happiness looks beautiful on everyone. You look beautiful.
The moment you presented yourself the way you wanted to, you just radiated inner beauty and confidence. That's so much more attractive than outer appearance in my opinion, i love when people just don't care and do what they want to. It looks so good on them.
I agree with you having good clothse and looking decent is important but it's that self-confidence that make some look like they're meant to be in those clothes that make them look good and that's what draws us to
I thought all of those things looked good on her, especially the red hair. But happiness about being herself looks infinitely better. It doesn't matter what I or anyone thinks of your looks, the only opinion that matters is yours.
it's even better when you realize that she truly looks the best in her own style of comfy clothes not just because she looks happy and content, but it suits her the best too aesthetically. fashion trends aren't going to suit everyone so it's more important to find what works for yourself and what you're comfortable in :D
This almost made me tear up. You‘re a beautiful human inside and out and you have such a positive influence on so many people‘s lives. Even if they are just short videos, so many people see them and smile because of you. Thank you for being yourself and for being so awesome!!
After turning 25, something just changed in me. I'm so chill about how I look, I go to the gym to feel good and dress up in things I actually like. I wish I could give this feeling to my younger self.
Disclaimer: I think a beautiful soul is the best quality in a girl : BUT: girls who don’t take care of their looks should not have high standards when it comes to partners. You can’t expect to look however you want and also get the best looking partners!
@@NEO_MusicProductions the thing is, to what extent is this looking good should be taken to 😬 Because nowadays it is getting frighteningly out of hand and extremely unnatural…. Where do men draw the line when it comes to choosing a ‘beautiful’ woman? If they only chase beauty, then they will never ever get satisfied because the human body naturally changes with age/ stress/ circumstances and no amount of ‘taking care’ of one self would be enough for a woman to stay perfectly ‘beautiful’.
@@omaymahassanin7616 everyone should chase reality not unnatural standards. By looking however I mean, excedengly overwheight, unshaven, unkempt hair etc, not plastic surgery, not even make up.
Honestly, I felt the same way, when you're told something for so long you start to believe it, weather it's truthful or not, but the best thing Is being comfortable with yourself, you e helped me through my journey, thank you so much, I only wish one day I can meet my favorite influencer❤️
This is why people should love themselves. Cuz once u reach ur 30’s-40’s, you’ll realize how u wasted ur youth trying to “fit into the standard”.
This is truly, truly inspiring.
30s and 40s are still the youth, I know you didn’t mean anything by it, but it’s depressing how people think that you get “old” in your 30s and 40s when in fact you really start living in your 30s and 40s.
the same with plastuc surgery
This is so true young people these days spend most of their youth trying to fit into some kind of standard thinking that they have to please others with how they look and I didn’t realize that there are people out there who appreciate and will love them for who they are inside and out and they don’t have to change anything to make anyone else be happy if you want to change yourself you should do it to make yourself happy never somebody else
@@IHHA99999 I only agree on the part which you said 30s and 40s is when we start living BUT let's be real here. 30s and 40s is behind youth, meaning that we are mature enough, hence why we really start living fr from then. ✌🌼
You are beautiful. Yes. YOU.
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SO damn cute!
@@itsme9297 just thinking that
Truee
For real🥺💖💖💖
Can we just talk about how absolutely adorable this woman is please
Yessss🎉🎉🎉
Protect this one
Her smile at the end is everything 🥰
YAAS ABSOLUTELY RIGHT I'm in love
she is so cute!!!!❤
This is my ,-by far,- favourite youtube channel. I love reading the comments and it's just a bunch of positive people. Very rare on CZcams
Yeah❤
The only couple I watch! And it’s wonderful how 100% authentic Uyen is absolutely gorgeous ❤ funny how that works 😘
I just confessed my undying love and respect. 😘😘😘😘😘
Ikrrrrr. Its all just too wholesome. I love uyen
This is why I love Uyen so much. She doesn't try to follow the strict Asian beauty standards and is just herself.
What she's showing you is she used to. Like a lot of people she's saying she (me too) wasted a lot of time trying to be happy working hard to be something we weren't, only to NEVER be happy. Once we loved ourselves it didn't matter we could color our hair or wear it black, we could wear glasses or contacts, *It doesn't matter, because we love ourselves* and once you do that you will be much happier with yourself.
Amen ❤
having a man beside you who loves you for who you are helps a lot too.
@@gesttina and family that does too helps innoculate you from that bs and not care from an earlier age. Family policing skin color and weight from an early age messes you up, and is very different from a family that doesn't care about your skin color only that you protect it from cancer, and helps you have good food and exercise habits unrelated to pressure to looking a certain way. The focus makes a huge difference: end result focus to achieve an arbitrary social goal is toxic, process focus centered around making yourself have beneficial habits for your life (no one size fits all) is great. Like giving someone a love for hiking and nature is very different from making someone obsessed with their exact waist measurements. Giving someone a love for healthy delicious dishes and teaching them to pay attention to their body's hunger and satiety signals is different from giving them orthorexia or anorexia/bulimia. Like that whole "eat everything on your plate that I loaded up too heavily no matter what your stomach tells you" attitude just gives people eating disorders.
We must defeat all beauty standards
As a person with an astigmatism, my favorite comeback to any one who says I look better without glasses is to take off my glasses and say “you’re right, you do look better without glasses!”
Damn brutal..
Good
Awesome! I need to use this. Plus I will see a 3rd eye 👁 on people depending how close I an without my glasses. They do look better as a Cyclops! 👾
@@MichelleBrovey nice, everyone just looks like a blob (think when your camera is really out of focus) to me without my glasses, so I really can’t see them very well 😂
For some reason I don’t get this 😭😭😭
Even if everyone should look as they want, the red hair looked stunning beautiful on you 😊
True story! Not everyone can get away with dyed hair, but our Uyen did indeed pull it off. Stellarly, at that. 😎
Was going to say the same. Hard for a non-red head to pull off red hair, but Uyen really did it so well.
I also agree. The red hair was gorgeous but you are gorgeous anyway. So glad you found someone who loves you for you and not some fake image.
Riiight!
Yeah she look like a rock star ⭐😊
Sis Uyen is so cute and i love how she's not afraid to be herself! Made me appreciate myself and how i look naturally more
We are all naturally beautiful in our own way:) our face and body show pieces of our ancestors. It shows pieces of our lives and what we’ve gone through. Beauty is in individuality. Beauty is in diversity. Celebrate who you are naturally, inside and out, to the best of your ability. It’s easier some days than it is others, but you’re worth it. You’re beautiful.
Her last smile tells everything. Most shining ,lovely.
2k likes and no comments? lemme fix that
2.1k likes and 1 comment? lemme fix that
@@ssprngv It's OK , Didn't know I got so many likes, first time in my life.
She looks so warm and cozy in that part
@@noodlesandwich2945 Yes!
As an Asian, I understand this on a whole other level. People expect us to be the perfect Korean idols or the fashionable Chinese girls when we’re really just humans
It's sad how Asians make things so much harder for themselves. I'm American, but "ethnic" so growing up with the racism here that also dictates what are "desirable" looks messed up my mental health for the whole of my teen and young adult years. And even though being a girl/woman is terribly hard everywhere, it really seems that Asians are especially punishing to themselves, even while living in Asia where everyone looks the same (unlike in the U.S.). 😔
And one other thing she didn’t mention is body hair. We tend to have more body hair(especially Middle Easterns) than most European people
@@blackeyedsusan727some kind of expectations are good, like don't be fat for example. But dying hair, not wearing glasses and whitening skin isn't
@@taraneh363east and sea asians rarely have a lot of body hair
which is what she is
@@taraneh363 thats kinda true cause i have a lot of body hair so yea
The axe forgets, but the tree remembers. No one remembers the terrible things they say to drag us down, but we never forget how it made us feel. So happy to see you moving past that and finding your own happiness. The scars on the tree forms the strongest points of the bark; you're simply gaining your strength that will carry you through the strongest storms. ❤
Truer words are never spoken. I still remember every mean comment some random guy told me when i was a teen. And i am a middle aged woman now. 😢
@@theHoptimist383 and I bet you're incredible; strong, beautiful, and empathetic. A quality those foul-hearted people will never comprehend.
beautifully put ❤
this made me cry …
@user-cv2vo5wn9m don't worry, the mightiest of willows weep, love. It never broke them and it won't break you ❤️
"i love you better when you love being yourself" ❤️
putting on that cardigan was like superhero transition 🙌🏻❤️
Lol it was so good
Honestly it made me tear up a lil…confidence in just being urself…self comfort over trying to appease others❤
True that!
im lucky that i was one of those kids who realized in elementary/middle school that changing myself to be the standard was never gonna make me happy, cause people were going through it in high school for real
Same here! In 5th grade I was dying my hair, and wearing makeup, the makeup just made me get acne, but I stopped that and realized how toxic it was
I am one of those highschool kids that went through it 🙋. Graduated this year but seriously it was so rough, I hated myself so much and was surrounded by toxic people that only made me feel worse about myself. I ended up with only 1 friend in senior year and starting college now it has been very lonely but I’m learning how to be authentic again. I am managing my anxiety and self loathing a bit better now but holy shit was it bad in highschool. I feel like I wasted those years trying to be something “better”.
same, I was always an outsider and because of my autism I don't follow society's rules too often, only if I see purpose behind them. like being kind to others, respect their space, don't be racist or homophobic or any other sort of hateful bigoted ideology, do your best to lower your carbon footprint and don't litter, stuff like that. but I never followed silly arbitrary rules like trends, watching your weight, wanting to fit in, ect
I was alone for a lot of my life but I'd rather be alone than keep up a constant facade. if someone becomes my friend I want them to befriend the real me otherwise what's even the point. I want someone to enjoy me, not someone else I pretend to be
sometimes I'm glad I have autism really
(if you don't like my comment I won't see you reply if you do. I only get like notifications)
@@Snowflake28936AJ good job!!!! I'm proud of you!!!! soon I'm sure you'll get friends that like the real you, you just gotta be patient (I know from experience)
@@iiBleuFloraii good job, I'm glad you got out early!!!!
I cried watching this video :') It's so relatable and shares such an important message. Uyen looks so happy and beautiful being her true self at the end :')
SIS ME TOOO I'm in fcking tears
THANK YOU!!! I am so happy to be watching this with my 12 year old daughter who loves your channel and looks up to you so much. She is autistic and constantly misunderstood and judged at school. My voice as a mother is strong, but the influence of other confident women blazing trails in such a dignified and TRULY beautiful way as you are have such an impact to reinforce that she is beautiful and worthy and wonderful exactly as she is in the clothes and hair that make her feel good, and interested in the things that fire her soul, not to please others, even me!
So thank you from my heart and soul. ❤❤ Never underestimate the power of being courageous enough to live satisfied and thankful in your own beauty and power and break free from the manipulative and toxic 'beauty' standards of the parts of this media/money/greed/judgement driven world that want our young ones so busy and obsessed with changing themselves that they fail to be the change that is needed and are stunted from waking up to realize their Power and Potential!!! 💪🥰💪
To the kiddos and young adults out there: the next time someone puts you down, laughs at your physical traits or what your wearing, or says something that makes you feel terrible: ask them why they did that. Ask them if they are okay and be truly interested. If they are baffled, kindly let them know that happy okay people don't hurt others on purpose and you actually care.
When someone puts you down, 99 times out of 100 it is about them and their own insecurities, not about you!!! The 1 exception is if you are not being a good human to others. If that's the case, change that and then if and when someone puts you down you will have the power to know it was about them and not let it hurt your soul! ❤😊
From an autistic adult, thank you ❤
The prettiest people are the ones that are just themselves, cause they're happy with it and it makes em look so much better with it.
👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Compliments makes me happy😄
That's why I try harder
Nothing makes me happy about being myself
@@firedevils5402:(
@@firedevils5402then try to find some time to figure out what things you do like about yourself, it can be even a small thing like maybe you might like your funny or you are great at listening
Right .. when someone tries so hard it will look unnatural
You can't hate yourself into being happy.
That's so simple and so powerful! 😮
Ouch
Just like you can't shame yourself into being better.
Had to learn this the hard way
No truer words have been spoken with regard to this topic!
I'm fangirling so hard right now. She looks so happy in the last shot, paired with that song... You go girl ❤
So real, beautiful and unique. No need to try to be anybody else. We love you as you are.
Change isn't bad. But change bc you want to. Not to please anyone else or become the beauty standard that's not even real bc of filters and dramatic makeup. I choose comfort in my own skin and loose and sporty clothes...makes me happy 😊
True, took me a long time to realise that ❤
but people "want to change" to get attention or make a point. Usually people who want to change are unhappy with themselves but the fault of that is their own view on themselves.
@@user-wq9mw2xz3j We change for many reasons, including growth and maturity. It's a natural part of life. There are, however, some poor reasons to change.
@@user-wq9mw2xz3j believe it or not there’s people who change because they’re insecure about their appearances and things they don’t NEED to change, and then there’s people who try to change because they’re toxic, mean, generally hurtful, etc. … or even just close minded and they want to learn more. people can change in different ways and positive change is when you’re changing for the betterment of yourself and people around you. negative change is when you’re doing it to satisfy an insecurity which doesn’t go away. in fact for insecure people the only thing they need to change is to stop being insecure, or they’ll always find flaws to be upset about.
@@user-wq9mw2xz3j other than body dismorphia (wich was worse before i started training) i feel way better, the exercises are fun and i feel refreshed every month seeing what i achieved, and so is everyone else that i know that does it...
I dont know, maybe it's different cultures
Oh, Uyen. You're not beautiful like a model. You're beautiful like a meadow. Radiant, natural, impossible to imitate.
Wonderful
Wow that may have been the most genuine compliment I've heard in a while. It's so very true!
Ah that's such a beautiful compliment.
agree for suuure 😭❤️❤️❤️
That was really well said.
the red hair is actually adorable on you! you are so adorable in any form.
You're inspiring me so much! My body and weight was changed after school and my family started to shame me. But then I look at your videos and feel more patient and comfortable. Thank you so much 💓
A reminder to myself that I'm the most beautiful when I'm doing nothing to my appearance. The simplest me is GORGEOUS
I love that confidence
No, not exactly
Youre beautiful babe! But i think saying you do nothing with your appearance is wrong, you should do some skincare, don't get me wrong! But skincare is really good, your skin need it, not for how you look, but how you feel, and exercise too! If you don't do that, its the same as you didn't love yourself! But keep up the goods and dont listen to toxic people! 🤟
@@ririen exactly, but i don't want to sound rude, like, who am i to tell people to take care of themself, right?
@@yourdadnevercomebackbcsofme yeah
As an asian, I totally understand what society tells us to do. Get a thinner waist, pale skin, long hair and a thin face. It isn't same for everyone. You are unique just the way you are.
Same for me I'm Hispanic
@@hellokittyfan234 hispanics also want pale skin?
im a guy but same here in the philippines
@@ilemraz It's very hard to convince my Philippine wife that brown skin looks good, still after all these years....
Pale skin being standardized is such a damaging thing on many communities!!!
It is not only an issue among Asians; Afro-carribeans, Africans, Indians and more are negatively affected by this racist/colourist beauty standard!!
That genuine smile at the end made my day and maybe even more.
Thanks uyen
Your happiness is the most beautiful asset. It deepens your smile, it brightens your eyes, and it makes your whole skin glow.
We love you and want to see you happy.
The whitening cream is something that i can relate even as an Asian male. I was born with darker tan skin compared to my other siblings. While they were praised for their pale skin, I was called racial names by my own family and relatives. This is something that most poc men will never admit but we all have tried to make our skin lighter secretly. I was one of them. But I've learned to love my tan skin and i would never change anything about myself.
Tan Asian men are so hot. Hopefully more Asian guys apreciate their skin
Omg I’ve literally had the same experience as a female Pacific Islander. The rest of my siblings older and younger have light skin. Relatives would literally gift me whitening cream 💀 I got my brown skin from my dad and my grandma was a busy body who was always tanned. They are both intelligent and upstanding so I never thought I was objectively less than anyone else but it certainly made me meek during family gatherings. You’d think literal pacific islanders would not care but you can’t escape colorism not even in paradise. It makes sense that even men have insecurities about their skin when being darker skinned can so casually be thrown around as an insult. Man or woman, hearing such a thing would still hurt. I’m happy to hear you’ve come to love yourself as you are.
Same! I'm a girl, my brother has pale skin like my mom so they always team up to call me "black skin" and "burnt pole" even though my skin is relatively already pale compared to others, just not flushed pink. My dad has super tanned skin so I probably got that from him. My mom would call my dad "dirty". I cant stand her when she's like that.
Blood, I am a Bavarian. My second lady was a born Colombian, tan like coffee. Why can't you find a German girl? Thank you. Around 5 years later I had a Saxonian, from Germany. Blue eyes, blonde, really pale white.
Why her? The girl you had for nearly a year, the Colombian, was so nice, even if she was too young. Same person... 🙄
Start to learn to give a fog.
Sometimes my Nepal friends nag me for my weight. If some people's starts anger in their restaurant they love me for my build. 😁
If it makes you feel better, white people are constantly trying to get a tan. 😂 My grandma would beg me to keep going out into the sun because I was "as white as cheese or a ghost". I guess we all want what we don't have. 🤷🏻♀️ The key is to learn to love the skin we're in and if others don't like it, tune 'em out.
Your boyfriend is lucky to have someone with such amazing self-confidence
I guess that her boyfriend had a mentionable impact on her self-confidence
@@mariusg8824 Yeah
When two people are together, they influence each other or the relation is not an healty one.
to be honest red hair are amazing on her!!!
That smile at the end is everything 🥰
Okay you're gorgeous but you lowkey look stunning with red hair ❤
Fr ❤
Fr
Yes, red hair looks great on you as well!
YESS
No, fake red hair sucks. Only natural red hair is good
This seriously made me cry. You seriously defined our generation in like the first 10 seconds of the video. "Originality always takes the best form than a copy"
There’s no such thing as originality, never has been😂
@@ShutupandListenevery person is born unique and original. thats what the phrase meant.
I’m ur 100th like-
right
@@zaraokok yea and everyone is different. even twins.
Her smile in the end was so adorable
❤❤❤❤❤
Had a little cry watching this. Beauty standards can be so toxic so it's amazing when you have someone who loved you for who you are and helps you find value in your looks ❤
“The more insecurities you fix the more you see”
-a wise person
Not true, once I lost weight I was truly happy with how I looked.
Same
@@plantcraftie4141yes, because that's not something you should do to fit in, but to be healthier.
I had a glow up wothout even boticing becusse of this. Once i stopped hating myself i actually began to appreciate myself
True I lived it
This made me teary I’m so happy you’re choosing comfort and loving yourself.
141 likes and 0 comments, lemme change that real quick
I love this comment. So wholesome!
Your gorgeous in every way,shape,and form. Every hat,shirt and pants, every bracelet,necklace,and earring. And every bruise,freckle,or Beauty mark. You’re perfect.
This why I love Uyen. She's always herself ❤❤❤❤
Asian beauty standards suck so much. I struggle to achieve it as well. The kpop boom never really helped with my self-esteem too. They always say to love yourself, easy for them to say when they are pretty. It's kinda hypocritical when they say that too considering some idols had undergone surgery to be able to keep up with standards. Then one day it just clicked. Once I reached 20, I realized that I have more important things to deal with rather than obsessing with my looks and how subpar it is. I don't need to be part of a standard. Being able to think that you look pretty without comparing yourself is fine as it is.
Another thing that I realized is that Asian beauty standards seem to describe a child as an ideal type. Petite, Small, Small face, small nose, cute mannerism, etc. It weirded me the fuck out. Why the hell would women and even men infantilize themselves? They do this in kpop and kdrama by acting aegyo.
Facts. It glorifies young people in such terrible ways too. How are you old and busted once you hit 26?? Or even 30? Like you don't just suddenly forget all that training and experience once you're not in your teens. But ageism is really big in the music industry in general.
The worst part - when you realize that kpop is about childlike mannerisms and behaviors - it is all about the perverse promotion and sexualization of children. How many grown men still love girls generation or blackpink, etc.? It's gross.
@@princessinatent add Twice since they are the ones who do cutesy concept.
YESSSS!!! I thought I was the only one who was affected in such a way by the Kpop boom. At first I was just interested in the music bc I’d never heard it before then I started getting trapped by their beauty standards. I was very vulnerable at the time mentally as I was trying to get over depression, anxiety, and poor body image. I binged to cope with emotions so I was overweight and I wanted to lose weight thinking it would help. At the same time I was being bombarded by Kpop beauty standards online since CZcams was just spam advertising me literally every Kpop video or Korean video about weight loss. It also made me more aware of beauty standards in my own country by recommending me Western weight loss videos as well.
One idol caught my attention and her name was Somi. I thought she was really pretty and I liked the music and interviews that were recommended to me. In one interview she stated that in order to lose weight for her comeback she only ate 3 bananas a day. Now I was pretty f(u)cking shocked by this & was like what!!! But since it was in Korea none of the adults around her gave the same reaction as I did so this to me as a kid in middle school basically gave me the go ahead that this was ok. Bc y would these adults condone a teens bad eating habits…😅. I remember I did exactly what they would do and tried to starve myself but I would always break and start binging then feel like crap afterwards. I even went so far as to buy diet pills (I'm still in middle school at this point btw!) luckily my mother found them before I could use them and she gave me the wake up call I needed saying that it’s ok to want to lose weight but I should never go to the extremes to achieve it bc I was still a kid and sh!t like this isn’t healthy for me.
I started to realize how much I’d spiraled after that. I originally just wanted to lose weight to feel better about myself and now I’ve become so obsessed with losing weight I’ve been damaging my physical and mental health even more than before. I was nowhere near happier or healthier. I completely stopped the dieting and extreme workout regimen after this. I found videos like Abbey Sharp that helped me understand why I was binging and how dieting the way I did was so harmful. I started doing my own personal research into health and wellness by reading accurate, evidence-based, current, person-centric, and trustworthy articles. I adapted something called mindful eating. Mindful eating is a technique that helps you gain control over your eating habits. It has been shown to promote weight loss, reduce binge eating, and help you feel better. Mindfulness is a form of meditation that helps you recognize and cope with your emotions and physical sensations. It’s used to treat many conditions, including eating disorders, depression, anxiety, and various food-related behaviors. Mindful eating is about using mindfulness to reach a state of full attention to your experiences, cravings, and physical cues when eating. Fundamentally, mindful eating involves: eating slowly and without distraction, listening to physical hunger cues and eating only until you’re full,
distinguishing between true hunger and non-hunger triggers for eating, engaging your senses by noticing colors, smells, sounds, textures, and flavor, learning to cope with guilt and anxiety about food, eating to maintain overall health and well-being, noticing the effects food has on your feelings and figure, and appreciating your food. These things allow you to replace automatic thoughts and reactions with more conscious, healthier responses.
Mindful eating helped me heal my relationship with food and my body while achieving a sense of body neutrality. I was the most comfortable I’d been in my body for the first time in my life and when I went to the doctor a year later I had actually ended up losing about 15 pounds. The coolest part of this whole exchange was how little f(u)cks I gave😂. It was so exhilarating to not feel like my self worth was determined by a number on the scale anymore & I could already see the results in the way I acted and how I felt. Another year later I started working out again. When I would work out when I was in a bad place I would overdo it. Afterwards it was more so about motivation and finding a schedule that worked for me because I would always fall off. I finally did find a routine that works for me and I at first lost 5 pounds after I started working out in the beginning but recently I’ve gained it back bc 💪🏽. I flex literally all the time 😂. After leaving all the extreme diets and workouts behind me 4 years ago I am much more happy, strong, and confident in myself. And it all happened once I stopped giving a sh!t about beauty standards and stopped letting people profit off my insecurities. I wish more girls my age would do the same.
@@f_u_love8424 I think you should start your own YT channel and be a good influence on people. Your experience and what have you learn can be beneficial for others as well.
“When you try and please everyone, you end up pleasing no one.” -aesop
Edit: omg I’ve never got this much likes on a comment thx
Andersen was and amazing writer.
Hans Christian Andersen didn't say that quote 😂 Aesop did
@@ekaterina9940 no he wasn't, he was mid at best
@@gothbat676 sure, it's not like his stories are some of the most well known ones, having been translated to a lot of languages, etc.
You might not regard him very high, but the rest of humanity thinks otherwise. But that's on you to be a special snowflake ❤️
@@neonraytracer8846 "The rest of humanity" now that's we call a reach sweetheart.
Ngl, you do really look pretty with red hair 😍 but you do you 🥰 this inspired me so much 🥺
The most beautiful people only need to be themselves to shine ❤✨️
Your smile at the end made me tear up! You’re too precious for this world!
Me too ❤
why am i also crying awh
That red hair with purple-ish undertones is SO HARD to pull off and can I just say you killed it!! You took that color and made it look like it was made for you.
Yes! I thought so too
it did look nice
Isn’t it a filter 🏃🏻♀️
I concur ;)
So lovely, candid and beautiful. Thankyou for creating this and lots of blessings
red hair fitted you but what fitted you more was that smile at the end 😊 I know how it feels to be told to look the way others want you to, but what's best is to be surrounded by people who like you being just you.
Don't make yourself uncomfortable to make everyone around you feel more comfortable. We have fragile minds
Learned that one the hard way
There are no better words to describe my entire existence 🤣 Wow
Yes, you can´t make everyone happy. Either all of them are happy but then you are not. Or you are happy, but some of the others are not.
This is unironically a philosophical comment. Very insightful
The ending when she smiled felt so wholesome because she was happy that he liked her for who she was, and thought she was beautiful without making those changes to herself. ☺️
A smile is more beautiful than any makeup.
Loved the ending! 😩♥️
There is no he in this whole story. She learned to love herself and is shining from the inside out
Don't project if you feel happy only with a guy's approval 🙄
I love this.. she's not dolled up in layers of beauty and telling people beauty doesnt matter.. she's just herself and i love her for it❤❤❤ you go girl!
Your natural vainella skin ton matches just great with the red hair
In your 20s, you worry about what everyone thinks.
In your 40s, you stop caring what everyone thinks.
In your 60s, you realize nobody was ever thinking about you to begin with.
I heard that and liked it.
I realized that everyone is too busy thinking about themselves in my teens 😂 it was liberating.
@@yak_attak ikr, nobody is ever really thinking about someone else and when they do, it's only for 20secs and within that 20secs they spare 10secs to tell you how your look is this or that... Like bro, I'm not changing how I look for 20sec of your attention like wth
Nobody was ever *thinking* about you, they were *judging* you and deciding if you were worthy of life based on how inhuman you could act 🙃
I was an overthinker for the longest time until I've heard something like this. I did a lot of self-questioning every time I catch myself thinking "What if this person thinks I'm..." "What if they remember I did..." The reality is that I can't remember anything others did because I'm simply just focusing on myself for the most of the time.
And I can't assume what they're thinking unless they told me so. Them judging us is their job, not mine 😂
To me as long as the action is not illegal, morally wrong or hurting anyone, I have every right to do it.
@@StrawmnMcPerson this is where the phrase “what others think of you is not your problem” comes into play. Their validation or not of you is irrelevant at the end of the day. It’s up to you to continue growing and changing for the better, regardless of what mold others want you to fit. I understood this in my teens but it still took years to put into effect though, so I understand it’s easier said than done. It just helps to relieve anxiety knowing that no one determines your worth but you.
As someone with black hair, I will say black hair is amazing with every other hair color. don't listen to what others say and just remember you are beautiful In your own way. sometimes the boring things are the best things. :)
I agree! :)
Agree
Same in teenage years...we think we are not good enough....insecure ...models with makeup are inspo.....but now when we see people like you whose sweet smile bring a smile on our face ...its true beauty abd true confidence ...and i see and appreciate how beautiful i am myself when i look in mirror.
You are perfect the way you are. And I loved that happy peaceful smile in the end!
the black hair and whitening cream thing is so relatable. Im black but I always wished I was white with blonde hair and lighter skin, but I realized I’m beautiful the way I am
funny, as a blonde white girl i liked darker skins and darker hair. latinos, asians and africans were so pretty to me! white was boring and you easily look sickish and too pale.
I’m a pale girl and I have always wished I could be tan. But I eventually learned to love myself because that’s what’s god gave me and screw what other people think lol they should love me for who I am too. I have an amazing bf who thinks that. Y’all needa keep negative ppl out cuz they just jealous
@@BlondeQtie I don't think you are realizing that society validates white skin constantly. Every face you see on TV is white. You had your experience, but what marginalized groups experience is totally different. Society tells people that white is beautiful / the norm. It isn't okay.
@@BlondeQtie you cannot compare your experience with what marginalized groups experience.
@@ITI-xi5zx i realized that in my late teens. i am pretty „thankful“ now that i kinda match the type that is most desired, although i find it a shame that others are put down for their beautiful appearance.
I like the last one best. Being yourself and being happy is always more beautiful than hating yourself. If anyone out there is struggling, I promise one day you will be happy again!
This is perfect. I love uyen; like sooooooo much. She's exactly the kind of person i wanna grow up to be
that smile at the end is DEATHLY contagious.
So accurate. Once I hit my 30s and survived cancer, I learned to laugh at the standards thrown at me and say, "What do you know about the right way for ME to be ME?" When you're young, everything seems so big and severe; and then you get older and see zero results for all the effort you put into other people and becoming what they all wanted. Something snaps in you and you're just like, "FORGET IT. If I can't make you happy being what you thought you wanted of me, I might as well be me and find the people that are put together enough to accept that." Thank you for sharing this, it's such an awesome transition. =)
Yes! This is me now. Healthiest, happiest and most beautiful I've ever been in my life.
@@sheri8048 🥳🥳💕💕
Same for me. Just before hitting 30s when it happened for me. Spent my twenties trying to please others only to realise that it was a total waste of time. They never cared enough about me anyways and it never pays to give up your life for others.
Live your life. For you. Not for anyone else.
I am your 1k like!
Thank you for your comment. I wont forget this advice
I'm Mexican but this is exactly what my childhood was like. My mother really made me hate everything about the way I looked. Now I'm almost 30 and I can still hear her criticisms in my head, even though I don't talk to her anymore
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Yo no hablo mucho inglés..
Pero la heridas de los padres siempre se quedan. Bloquea con pensamientos positivos y esperanzas nuevas todo eso que te ha estado haciendo daño y, disfruta de ti y las oportunidades que se te presentan!
Por qué perder tiempo en sentimientos/pensamientos negativos, cuando no son reales. PORQUE CADA QUIEN ES HERMOS@ a su manera y ser tan diferentes es lo que nos hace hermosos, no lo que digan los estándares o gente cercana ♥️
Well, you look like your parents 🤷♀️
why she hates you if you are what she created lol only proves she failed as a parent
Mexican here 🙋🏻♀️
I was 125 lbs with muscle on me and my mom would offer to pay for my weight loss program every time I visited in my early 20s.
I wish I could like this a thousand times.
You are adorable I'm glad you embrace your looks.
I feel like a person is in their most prettiest point if they look confident. There is nothing more beautiful than a person actually enjoying their life and being happy
Yes! Absolutely! Each person has their on charm and everyone shine brightest when they accept themselves and are confident and comfortable being who they are
Its sooioo true
Trueeeeeeee… omg yas
And being a nice person. Really is amazing how being nice and being true to you is just wow.
Omg she's so cute when she smiles at the end. Gorgeous.
Frfr
The red hair fits to you, you look great 👩🏻🦰👌
Growth up in Vietnam, I so relate to that. Thank you for sharing, it hit a spot in my heart.
The "you'd look better without glasses." Really hit me hard, when I was in 7th grade everyone said I looked better without glasses, so I got contacts, I still wear them but now I relise I should have gotten contacts on my own time or reason.
Lol I had this the other way around, got my glasses in my twenties and everyone says the glasses look good on me and I shouldn't get contacts, but I don't like the way I look with glasses. Even my eye doctor was discouraging me from getting contacts.
Was it hard transitioning from glasses to contacts? I've been wearing solely glasses for 7 years and want to try contacts but I am too afraid 😅
@@britischenadligen3760 it’s fine if ur afraid, I wear glasses.. well since my sister lost mine at a pool during the summer.. I got contacts and they weren’t hard to put in.. it’s just they were cold and my eye keeps avoiding it.. unless they put numbing drops in my eye and getting my mom to put them in..and MY DARN eyelashes get in the way.. i haven’t tried on contacts since.. it’s still hard for me to put them in.. but I would get them when ur. comfortable like when ur in high school or during middle school.. yet my parents wear contacts.. i plan to practice putting them in.. but I don’t know.. but yea they are cool to get.. if hard to get them in.. practice touching ur eye at least 4 times each day so when u get contacts, they are easy to put in.. yw 🐤
most of the time I wear contact lens because of convenience. Sure sometimes it looks better, but sometimes it is better with eye glasses. I eventually quit wearing contact lens everyday but my eyes are too dry💀💀💀
I actually really like the way glasses looked on me but I got LASIK for convenience since I was pretty blind. Now my face looks like an egg but at least I won’t on my hands and knees looking for my glasses like Velma 😂
I’m Asian (south Asian) and the beauty standards set for us Asians is out of the world!! Everyone can’t look the same!
True 😒
@@kmjloveskookliet4665 I’m Sri Lankan Malay!!! Omg 😭😭
@@s._0920 Really? I thought you're Indian or something.. Nice to meet you!
Well you Could try.
@@s._0920 so like u r of malay decent from the east
this is honestly so inspirational, thanks for this.
dress for your happiness!
I’m happy for you, Uyen. You found yourself and have an AMAZING fiancé! Congratulations you two! ❤❤
i dont know why but i am genuinely happy for you. you embracing yourself makes me and a whole lot others to want to do the same with ourselves
Same. The look of genuine happiness on her face makes me feel so good.
It’s empathy!
The red hair looks so good on her! 😍 But the black fits perfectly, too!
yep! the red hair is beautiful but so is the black hair! She could probably pull off any color she wanted
That red was rich and really suited her.
@queenofidlis She's got a great complexion match for that color. But if she's happy with natural, that's that! I would dye my hair more often because of the fun colors, but upkeep and cost are a pain.
She rocks the auburn.
I prefer natural beauty red looks kinda artificial (not a hate commet)
The red hair make your cheek looks blushing 😊
Granny sweaters, like an all day hug. The copper hair was good though!
Honestly she's so beautiful as herself. She has such a warm smile and aura to her. Like this might sound weird but she both feels like the loving mom and the cool best friend. She's gentle but goofy, energetic but caring. Her hairstyle gives her a very cute and young look and she has beautiful skin.
We will always hate our own bodies even when there are so many in the world who will see us as the most beautiful and wonderful person in their lives. It's hard we never see ourselves the way others see us
U deserve a heart
That's what I was thinking when watching too. She's already so pretty and doesn't need to change herself. However, if she wanted to dye her hair and wear contacts then she looks great as well! She just has "that something" that makes you like her and want to be around her.
I look similar to her and I feel the same way many times, like I’m not pretty enough and my face is too big ;-,
The only reason a person has to hate their own body is because they care what people think about them.... Once you stop caring about how people see you you won't hate your body .... I went through life like that and now at 27 years old I don't and never have hated my body and so never dealt with all this body hating.... Just try and remember if someone says something bad about you that is because you have something that makes them jealous.... Believe it or not it's true.
SHE IS ACTUALLY DROP DEAD GORGEOUS
okay she sounds like a super sweet personand her personality matters,not her looks, Im sorry but I actually think shes pretty on the outside but her personality really sounds beautiful,let me call her beautiful it is what I want to say,please don't tell me she isn't pretty.If you think shes not pretty,please go ahead thinking so my opinion says that shes beautiful
Don't lie it's worse than insulting, she's pretty but gorgeous is a big statement
@@4CelciusDegreethat's true.
i know you are being kind but bro, you reaching far as fuk with that one.
It’s true tho Asian women are..
@@4CelciusDegreebro if I would say she was pretty I would comment that too and I will so like what if she’s telling the truth?
Im so happy that we have this Uyen today, to make us laugh!
This video plus the german cities videos have convinced me that you rock EVERY hair color, from your natural black color, to red, blonde, etc. 😂 and any fringe/bang shape! Wish your 20 year old self could have realized this!
Wow.. Thats so nice
Yes lol everyone can rock any color just STYLE IT
This made me tear up. This is so beautiful and relatable. You're so beautiful inside and out! Thank you for being an inspiration!
I feel lucky. I feel like I still had fun trying all the different phases. Not to say the insecurities part was fun. The branching out and trying new things was fun. That's youth though. The fun in everything new, and everything is new. I miss my blue hair, not the maintenance. Happiness looks beautiful on everyone. You look beautiful.
Omg red hair really really suits you! But so does your natural hair!! You have such an infectious smile as well omg ❤️
The moment you presented yourself the way you wanted to, you just radiated inner beauty and confidence. That's so much more attractive than outer appearance in my opinion, i love when people just don't care and do what they want to. It looks so good on them.
I agree with you having good clothse and looking decent is important but it's that self-confidence that make some look like they're meant to be in those clothes that make them look good and that's what draws us to
Assuming that they've had a shower and smell nice etc.
@@wintertontoday bruh what? Where did that come from?
I thought all of those things looked good on her, especially the red hair. But happiness about being herself looks infinitely better. It doesn't matter what I or anyone thinks of your looks, the only opinion that matters is yours.
Her last smile was everything lovely ,true beauty, sunshine to me
Yess exactly
I've never enjoyed being let in to a strangers life more than your channel. Cheers from Buffalo, NY
Nah cause I firmly believe people just look their prettiest when they have genuine smiles
it's even better when you realize that she truly looks the best in her own style of comfy clothes not just because she looks happy and content, but it suits her the best too aesthetically. fashion trends aren't going to suit everyone so it's more important to find what works for yourself and what you're comfortable in :D
Yesss you said it best
True but the red hair is *chef’s kiss*
This almost made me tear up. You‘re a beautiful human inside and out and you have such a positive influence on so many people‘s lives. Even if they are just short videos, so many people see them and smile because of you.
Thank you for being yourself and for being so awesome!!
remember, you’re always beautiful
You almost made me cry❤
The cute smile at the end just made it omg
The cutest most lovable person is literally you
After turning 25, something just changed in me.
I'm so chill about how I look, I go to the gym to feel good and dress up in things I actually like.
I wish I could give this feeling to my younger self.
Same. It took me age 30 to realize it, but I feel so much better about myself. I think the pandemic helped alot of us in some ways.
Because at 25 that’s when your brain has finished developing 👍👍
@@royaleamira1307 I know, but that's just the prefrontal cortex. Doesn't really explain reduction in focus and overall anxiety.
@@PeaceOfMakefor me ,it happened at 30 , literally like a switch ,couldnt care less 😅
This makes me so sad and happy at the same time. There’s so so much pressure on girls to look “good” instead of feeling good.
People.
Disclaimer: I think a beautiful soul is the best quality in a girl : BUT: girls who don’t take care of their looks should not have high standards when it comes to partners. You can’t expect to look however you want and also get the best looking partners!
@@NEO_MusicProductions the thing is, to what extent is this looking good should be taken to 😬
Because nowadays it is getting frighteningly out of hand and extremely unnatural….
Where do men draw the line when it comes to choosing a ‘beautiful’ woman?
If they only chase beauty, then they will never ever get satisfied because the human body naturally changes with age/ stress/ circumstances and no amount of ‘taking care’ of one self would be enough for a woman to stay perfectly ‘beautiful’.
@@omaymahassanin7616 everyone should chase reality not unnatural standards. By looking however I mean, excedengly overwheight, unshaven, unkempt hair etc, not plastic surgery, not even make up.
@@omaymahassanin7616 i think you misunderstand me. I am against plastic surgery AND makeup.
I'm glad you learned to love yourself, you're so bubbly and cute! 🫶🏻🥰
Such a cute smile at the end ☺️
The best version of you is yourself don’t let anyone tell you otherwise ❤
my heart skipped a beat when she smiled at the end ❤ way to go sister
WE NEED TO PROTECT HER SHE IS THE SWEETEST PERSON EVER
Honestly, I felt the same way, when you're told something for so long you start to believe it, weather it's truthful or not, but the best thing Is being comfortable with yourself, you e helped me through my journey, thank you so much, I only wish one day I can meet my favorite influencer❤️