I was homeless, did drugs, went into prison, where I got to know God. He changed my life. Now I have a home, a wife and a lovely year old daughter (zoe), and a stream of income that gats me $47,000 weekly. Plus a new identity - a child of God, Hallelujah!!!🇺🇲❣️♥️❤️
We are all guilty of all sin because we were born into sin. We can't do anything to make ourselves righteous. No man can pluck you from the Father's hand
I appreciate your teachings SO MUCH! I feel the Holy Spirit's presence so strongly as I listen to you teach His Word! God is using you as His vessel, not because you are great but because HE IS GREAT 😍📖🙌🏼🕊️ such peace, life & joy in His Word!!!
Great answers and explanations! Love enduring word. I have used it many times and learned and understood scripures so much better after using it. I am also very impressed with your grace for the extreme and negative comments against you. You show great love and grace for sure. Wish I had that strength. One of those areas I need to trust God to help me in for sure.
I appreciate you addressing this. It’s an issue that is deeply personal to me, and has affected me deeply for the last 8 years. I recently did a deep dive study on it, and watched Mike Winger’s 3 hour long video on the topic, and also read the book “Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage In The Bible” by Jay Adams. For a variety of reasons, the SIN of unbiblical divorce and remarriage CAN be forgiven. No one should make light of the breaking of a marriage vow. But it also is not a second unpardonable sin. I can’t tell you how glad I am that I serve such a merciful God, who is faithful and just to forgive me of all sins that I have truly repented of. “God have mercy on me, a sinner.”
I'm struggling so bad with this right now. I am remarried with a 4 month old baby girl and two boys almost fully grown from, a previous marriage. I so just want to be a godly wife, homeschool my little girl, and let her have a father there for her daily. I went from praising God for allowing me a second chance and blessing me to fearing I'm going to hell. To think my only option for not going to hell is to destroy this baby girls family makes me sick to my stomach and so very very sad. I made a promise with this marriage too. I have broken more than one promise to God and I truly dont want to do so again. I dont even think I'd ever remarry after this if this marriage fell apart for any reason. This uncertainty is not something I'd chose again. I believe God has confirmed for me more than once that He is still with me. I once prayed and told God that my heart is troubled and asked that he bring me peace over this. The very next day a pastor I listen to who teaches book by book and chapter by chapter taught live on what to do if we are troubled. He then said to pray a prayer like this...and then proceeded to repeat almost verbatim the prayer that I prayed silently the night before. I had asked God to be bold in bringing me peace too. It doesn't get much bolder than that. But I still struggle. My poor little girl shouldn't have to be punished for my sin.
@@Kra-ri6fdMy heart truly goes out to you. I am also unbiblicallg divorced and remarried, and had the exact same fear as you do. I urge you to watch Mike Winger’s video on marriage and divorce, and to read the book I mentioned in my original comment by Jay Adams. They really put my mind at ease. I believe there is forgiveness for the sin of remarriage. And I don’t believe that just because I want to believe it, but because I believe it is what the Bible teaches. I have prayed more than once that if I have deceived myself in this that God would open my eyes and not allow me to remain in perpetual sin. I would be willing to do whatever it takes to not be in sin, including divorce and stay unmarried if that’s what it took. But I do not believe that that’s what the Bible teaches us to do in this situation. Though if I were widowed from my current husband, I believe I would stay unmarried. Please look at the two things I suggested above. They will answer all your questions. I pray that God can give you peace over this!
@@Franquie Thank you! I dont know if it's possibly post partum depression (not diagnosed just suspecting) that has me weak to this fear but I'm literally in tears. Thank you so much. It's hard to find people to talk to about this. I'm happy my husband hasn't been offended over me voicing my concerns over this. God bless you. I sure hope I find lasting peace in this.
I was married and divorced and remarried and it's very refreshing to hear your input on the topic of marriage and divorce David, thank you very much, I truly value your opinion but that's what bothered me so much on a different topic but I'm very happy to hear your input on this topic!!! For the relationship that I had to get a divorce in the man left the state and I had to get a divorce through publication. The man I remarried has been there for my kids and me for over 20 years when the other man had no interaction whatsoever with my children with the other man. My now husband treats my daughters as his own.
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Thank you for this. I am on my 3rd marriage. I think about the woman at the well. Jesus said you had 5 husbands and the one you are with is not your husband. Then He said, go your way and sin no more.
I'm sorry I am late listening to this Q&A! I am very thankful that I can listen and watch anytime. I hope this will always be so! thank you Pastor Guzik and narrator!
My eldest sister, a lifelong, church attending Baptist. Several of her daughters and granddaughters became pregnant out of wedlock, married the baby's biological father, then ended up getting divorced and re-marrying. I consider my eldest sister the most knowledgeable Christian I know. I got a divorce after 33 years and we were talking. She asked me, "Did God release you from your vows?" I said I guess so. I have decided not to re-marry. But back to my sister, she said God released her daughters and granddaughters from their vows. I have never seen that in the Bible and feel some manipulate the WORD to allow them to go on. It's not my business.
Pastor, you are def not a false prophet. You are spot on indicating that we need to study the Word within the context of scripture. Some people no matter what you teach will only believe what they want to believe. I am challenged with this as well as I teach the Word. I so appreciate your teaching, Pastor David!!!
The problem is not divorce but with the remarriage is where the problem lies. Luke 16:18: "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." 1 Corinthians 7:10-11: "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife." In other words, a divorced person is expected to remain celibate.
That's difficult. I had a relationship after after the separation and during divorce of marriage. It did not last. I didn't remarry. But deep down I pine for the husband I had, before satan came in an broke it apart.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sure you miss him a lot. Perhaps your prayer can be for reconciliation. God is a god of miracles, and he can definitely restore your marriage, if he can bring Lazarus from the grave, he can bring your marriage back to life, have faith and the mountain will move!
It would take a completely changed man. I think some people are of the mindset that just because a divorce is done. That it is done. Yes physically and complete distance. But the heart is never done.
Divorce would be a sin, also, as God hates divorce-He said that. A divorced person should remain unmarried (yes, unmarried) if the divorce was for reasons other than the two exceptions given in the Bible: sexual immorality and abandonment by an unbelieving spouse. (Matthew 19:9 and 1 Cor 7:15). Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39 are applicable to those who were not divorced Biblically as they would still be within the marriage covenant and still have spouses.
But aren't we allowed to repent for our sins? If we remarried after divorce and didn't know the severity of it? Doesn't Jesus (Yahuahshua) forgive if we ask?
I must say I'm disappointed. I have greatly enjoyed your content and this is the first time you have come out at a different place than what I believe. Yes, the Bible gives room for divorce in the passages you mentioned. I agree. But nowhere does the the new testament give permission for a divorced person to remarry. Instead it specifically says the people who do that commit adultery. I would challenge you to study the scripture again and see the difference between provision for divorce and the permission to remarry after divorce
I agree with you. In Matthew, Jesus' disciples understood that too: 9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” 10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, IT IS BETTER NOT TO MARRY.”
I agree with this statement, that Jesus said. It's clear and concise, from the words of jesus, our 'chief shepherd'. Hard to accept, yes, it is. It does seen unfair, that why we shouldn't remarry. But if that is God's will on marriage, just need to respect it.
As soon as I read the gospel on the and heard jesus words. I believed in what he said on marriage. It reached my heart. To me it's like the way he restores me from my sins, to turn away from them. Even if the bond of the marriage I had in broken. To me that promise still stands. Even st Paul reiterates jesus words on the matter. A woman is till bound to that man (sadly),as long as he lives on this earth. That's the way I have received it from hearing jesus words and st paul in the bible.
It didn't need to give permission. It was going on anyway as it severed the marriage covenant if the divorce was Biblical. If you aren't under bondage, you are free.
Wouldn't it be amazing to get a download of everything you needed to know upon believing?! I didn't know about biblical divorce, remarriage until after I had remarried. I studied and prayed hard. I come to the place of Now I know what the Bible says, I will not divorce again no matter what. And if my husband were to leave, I would remain alone. I missed the mark out of ignorance, I will not knowingly miss it again.
@@DavidGuzikEnduringWord Pastor, the woman who asked about Matthew 12:36 (At about 42 minutes of the video play) wrote that 'we are not going to be judged other than for rewards only' as Christians. Obviously, she embraces the once saved always saved gospel and she is confused about being judged for our careless words, which contradicts the false doctrine that she has embraced. She is supposed to know that many Christians go to hell as well for their words because once they got justified, there were failures in their sanctification process in which they did not allow the Holy Spirit to deal with those sinful habits like gossip and slander.
@@Thomas116-m2n No. It's simpler if I put it this way: You need to overcome the devil as a Christian in order to enter into heaven. If, for example, you fail to be free from gossip after receiving Christ, the demon of gossip will claim your soul after death. Salvation is the starting point and not the end. Unconfessed sins or sins that you failed to overcome will take you to hell in the end. You work with the Holy Spirit in the process of putting to death the old sinful conduct once you are saved (Romans 8:13). This is called sanctification by the Holy Spirit as He helps you to be free from the power of sin after salvation (justification) (2 Thessalonians 2:14). Without holiness no one will see the Lord (Hebrews 12:14). The salvation that has been worked inside of you must show in your conduct by the power of the Holy Spirit (1 Peter 1:15). There must be effort on your part to work with the Holy Spirit in order to bear His fruit in your conduct (2 Peter 1:5-7). It's not once saved always saved. That's a lie.
If I Take the bible in its entirety, I would see that our story begins with marriage in Genesis, and ends with a marriage in Revelation. I would see even though God judged and condemned the world of wickedness with a flood, he remained faithful to Noah and his family. Even though he judged and condemned Sodom and Gomorrah, he remained faithful to Lot. I would see God even though betrothed to Israel, was cheated on spiritually as they committed adultery with other God's and separated themselves from God. God being just, could have divorced himself from Israel, since he was only betrothed and not married (He would not be married yet to his bride until the book of Revelation). He could have abandoned the covenant he made with David, to have a descendant of Israel reign on his throne forever. Except he didnt, he kept a remnant of Israel, called them Judah, and continued his faithfulness. Hosea 3:1,"The Lord said to me, “Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another man and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes.” And even when Judah became corrupt and strayed away, God was faithful in this, Even being sinners, God showed his love by sending His own son, to die for them, and us, that whomever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life. Pastor Guzik, with all respect, and with all love, If I take the bible in its entirety, I will see that that marriage is like baptism, God keeps his promise unto death, until the very end. Once we are baptised, we are saved until the end, our salvation is not dependent on works anymore, but on his covenant of grace. And to further illustrate my point, just look at how God deals with covenant. We can only be part of the new covenant of grace, ONLY and ONLY if we DIE. There must be a death to be free of the covenant of the law of sin and death. Just like marriage, we are ONLY released from our covenant to our spouses, ONLY if we die, or they die. Romans 7 is clear. Baptism is the best example because just like marriage, in baptism we respond to God's invitation of covenant, and once we respond and accept God's faithfulness, our salvation could never be put into question. We are saved until the day we die, and even in death, that is GAIN thanks to christ. To live is christ, to die is gain. From Genesis to Revelation, God has been faithful to humanity even after our constant adultery against God, that is what I see if I take the bible in its entirety. Marriage is unto Death pastor. no. exceptions. "Jesus told the Pharisees, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6)
I agree there is very slim margin for people to remarry and that’s why for me I’m a single person my husband just passed away and I’m 60 so it’s not a very big market out there of people that have not been divorced one or two times but I have committed myself to the Lord that he can bring me someone who is widowed!
I am a divorced person. With only that fact it seems I am crucified by churches who find out I am divorced. Nobody ever ask me my circumstance or even cares about it. I am constantly told I can't help serve because it just doesn't look proper. But I thought when I became a Christian I died to my old man and put on the new man. I want to serve ... I want to help out in a church .... I would love to join a church. But doors are constantly slammed in my face. And I will be honest... It hurts. That policy that our doors are opened to all are true but certain people have to stay on the back row. I thought Christians were suppose to be different. I'm confused. The churches that don't follow the Bible invite me into their crazy churches... 😳 But the churches who do follow the Bible who really teach the Bible ... Their words say one thing but their actions are another. I am bitter ... I'm sorry .. but all I seen to see are a bunch of Pharisees in churches today.
I’m sorry to hear about your experience. I think it may be a valid reason at times not to have a divorced believer serve in certain ministries if the marriage that was broken was not biblical , for example adultery is permissible but mandatory of course if the spouse is repentant. Or if the divorce happened before coming to Christ. I think the ministry that is desired should be weighed with the divorce circumstance. I don’t know all the specifics but I’m sure some of the churches were trying to be protective of the ministry and to who it ministers. But I do think they should have listened to your story and explain as to why or why not serving is fitting. But the Church as a whole is being sanctified and is Christs bride and I would be careful when speaking so harshly about His bride. Jesus Loves His bride. There’s many Churches that aren’t apostate and are faithful to the Lord
Thank you for your response. I do hear your words. I didn't want my divorce ... my husband chose a new path in life and I was not included in that path. I'm not going to bash him or put blame anywhere because as a new Christian I see my own fault too and I am down in my knees praying and repenting. I don't blame God because God has been the One who has helped me through it all. I understand churches being careful with who they choose to help out at their church.. but it seems I am judge so very harshly for a decision my husband (Ex) decided on. I didn't sign my divorce papers . I didn't want it. I have been divorced for 13 yrs now and I don't date or even will I ever re-marry. I loved my husband ( the man I married.) I don't know or understand the person he is today. But that's the circumstances in life I have been given. I want to praise God in a community but when I go to church and everybody is so nice and then they ask , "well how long have you been a widow. " And I tell them I'm not I am divorced, everything changes. Everybody not so friendly anymore and I start hearing, "well it wouldn't be appropriate" or when they have a call out needing help with VBS or Sunday school I'm not asked. I don't ask to join the church because I understand it's a "no" . I understand what you are saying about being careful about Talking about God's Bride. But a good church today is so gun-shy about people that when they do have someone with a true and honest heart they have forgotten how to welcome them into their family. I feel I don't fit in in the Christian world because of my past but I also don't fit in the gentile world because of my faith. I am praying and seeking my Lord for advice. It just seems the harder I try to serve among churches the more I am not accepted. Sir, I just want to learn about the Lord and make sure what I'm reading and thinking are right. Im seeking commentaries and I want to learn correctly what the Bible is giving me. I just want to hear it in person sometimes instead of through a tv.
@melissarhea149 dear, I suggest quitting that church. God will show you a church where love truly reigns. You are in a season where you need to be surrounded by people who truly love you. Don't look down on those churches that you said are not following the Bible; you could be wrong about that. That church that isolated you because you are divorced is lukewarm. Nothing is worse than staying in a lukewarm place where you cannot grow. God bless you. ❤
- Enduring Word Team: @KMBL9384 Wonderful encouragement, very well said! Very sorry to hear about your situation and your ex husband Melissa. Although, without knowing anything (other than what you've written) about the situation, it doesn't sound like you're divorced at all. If you really didn't sign any papers, such that there is still legally or technically a marriage between you and your ex husband in the eyes of the law, it may be the case that you're simply separated, or perhaps legally separated, and not officially divorced. Presenting your situation as such to whatever church you attend could make all the difference in how people perceive you. OR, if I'm misunderstanding things, and you ARE in fact legally divorced from your husband, it could still be quite beneficial to introduce the matter to others as "my husband left me," or "my husband separated me" instead of simply saying "I am divorced" Also Melissa, unless you were explicitly told by members of the church that you are not allowed to serve in the church or ministry because of your past divorce, there could be other reasons for not allowing you (or simply not asking you) to help serve at this time. Especially with VBS or children's ministry, many churches take those positions very seriously and often don't accept help unless it goes through the proper channels. Just be mindful of this, especially if you do attend a new church! Blessings, - Enduring Word Team
Thank you David for addressing this. The Lord is always concerned about the heart. Too many people try to over simplify the Bible. It's interesting that as important a subject as marriage is that there is really not that much said about it in the Bible. Matthew chapter 5 also says to be perfect. How are you guys doing on that?
Is remarriage after divorce even possible? Because Jesus says in Luke 16:18: "Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery." Remarriage after death of the spouse is possible according scripture, but not after divorce, it seems.
If the divorce was Biblical, it severed the marriage covenant. (Abandonment by a nonbeliever and sexual immorality). Matthew 19:9 has the sexual immorality exception while Mark and Luke do not list it; however, that doesn't negate it in Matthew.
I was told by an online pastor that my husband died so that i wasn’t caught in adultery when Jesus comes. Or that I will be left behind because I was divorced from a violent man as a non Christian, eventually I met someone new he was an atheist, I became a Christian, a while later he became a Christian we got married after seeking God so apparently either I should have stayed with a violent man or lived alone. So it seems even if wee sinned by remarriage as new Christian’s then find out we shouldn’t have so wee repent but stayed together . So I can repent from sin of any time and I’m cleansed with the exception of remarriage I lost my husband in 2021 and now have to live with him being taken deliberately so I can go to heaven.
@@happy777abc there's always that yes, but. Paul gave us great advice. "Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling." People know what they should be doing, deep inside themselves. They need to go to Scripture, work through the Spirit. Grow in their relationship with God. As time goes by, together, they will rectify their past and their present. With the word and the spirit and hopefully some biblical guidance from their pastor. We need to remember that love covers a multitude of sins. Approach every issue and understand that there's a human being behind the issue.
and she was the one to share the Good News with the rest of her kin! Yet, I always wonder how her relationship with the guy was after that encounter with Yeshua
Yes. And she was supposed to have been. That's why Jesus pointed it out. Even though she was living wrong, he was still engaging her. Showing He loved her.
Hmmm, does this mean that maybe is has been divorced and is remarried? 🤔🧐 It seems to me that what he is saying is you can remain in any sin and just repent of it. Jesus Himself told the adulterous woman to go and sin mo more. He did forgive her of course, but told her to go and sin no more, not it's ok now for you to just keep on doing it. I have not found one exception when it comes to this subject.
You are so right...people so often take one verse, or one law, that is written in God's word, they home in on that...I was eating some lobster and some one told me, don't you know the Bible says you should not eat anything from the sea that has a shell for a covering? One bit from one set of laws....I looked at him and laughed...I feel sorry for people who think like that...I am divorced....my husband was an alcoholic/gambler and smashed my face in, after trying to strangle me....I am a domestic violence statistic.....I married again, and stayed married till my present husband died,.
These people who simply dont understand Gods mercy and understanding being thst God knows what happens behind closed doors are in my view in a way saying that maybe better to kill the abusive or cheating husband and then repent because there is forgiveness for homicide but not for divorce. These guys are so unempathetic and unwise. I know a woman who was forced to stay and, in the end under the breaking of her soul committed suicide. Leaving behind 5 children
Given that a marriage is an entire unit. Sometimes a part of it can cause the entire unit to go to damnation. Would not the verse about the whole body apply. If your right eye causes you to sin, cut it out and cast it aside. Better to pluck out that portion, than have the entire unit go to damnation. I know this is perhaps uncommon way to look at it. , but it seems to be applicable in some cases. There are times when divorce is the right thing to do.
Interesting idea. It can be said that is wrong to teach that if one is sinned against in marriage by sexual immorality, the only godly option if for them to forgive, reconcile and remain married. It is important to note that in Matthew 19:3-9 does not command the spouse who has been sinned against to divorce the spouse guilty of sexual immorality. There are many times when there can be forgiveness and restoration, especially when there is genuine repentance from the guilty spouse. We can also say that this is in general accord with God’s hatred of divorce (Malachi 2:16) and forgiving nature. Nevertheless, the permission God gave for divorce is real. It is a concession to the weakness and frailty of fallen humanity (“because of the hardness of your hearts”), but it is a real concession, nonetheless. To say that God grants a concession, but God will never allow it to be used is the twist the Word of God and to place unrighteous and unbearable burdens upon people. Read more of Pastor David's biblical understanding on this issue, as documented here: enduringword.com/answering-wrong-teachings-marriage-divorce-remarriage/
Divorced women in that day were put out. Men divorced the women, women were property. Jesus wasn't happy she lived with her lover. Why do we know? Because God never changes and it was unholy and of poor reputation to live with your lover. A woman of ill repute
@@DavidGuzikEnduringWord No where in the Bible does it say that the woman at the well was divorced. People have made that assumption. Also, regarding the story about the women at the well, Jesus was not giving a teaching on divorce and remarriage.
So the naysayers you were quoting think sin sends you to hell, even after you’ve been saved? I realize there are “Christian” denominations that believe this. They obviously are confused.
Thank you for your comment! There is precedent for this thinking, though it is misapplied in this specific context. Remember, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 does tell us clearly that _Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God._ The thinking in this case, though, is that there is a continual, unrepentant adultery occurring in every remarriage - based on an incorrect belief that God does not allow divorce in any circumstance. And even for those whose divorce was not allowed nor accepted in the eyes of God, and have remarried, such people must repent of their sin of adultery (being still bound in the eyes of God to their initial marriage), and must do so in full confidence of the promise of 1 John 1:9, which makes it clear that: _If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness._ But the solution that Another divorce will repair the damage of the first divorce is neither biblical nor logical. Each of the specific arguments, divorce scenarios and their consequences are explored and addressed by David Guzik in this outline: enduringword.com/answering-wrong-teachings-marriage-divorce-remarriage/ - Enduring Word Team
We can disagree (and I do!) but not be disgusting. Should more preparation and teachings were done before marriage perhaps we'd have fewer divorces. One view about the importance of family must take in consideration not only the differences between the OT and NT (Israel vs Church) but the seriousness of this divine plan, at the level the disciples understood it after the teaching of Christ, when they exclaimed : (If it is so - - like Jesus put it) better not to get married.). PS: Personally I understand there is no "exception-clause", but an "excluded-cause" in the famous passage from Matthew. May I reccomend David Pawson here? 😊
I can't help but remember Jack and Connie. One Sunday, the ladies had crossed the center aisle and were sitting with the other's husband. They were attempting to make right a previous mistake. I am still confused. I do think the word "polluted" suggests that the two have become one in the sharing of blood product. How is it that an entire town or an entire nation can not be saved--why must their civilization be obliterated? I supposed they are all polluted?? Maybe that pollution is inherited to the fourth generation. That's a lot of maybes and opinion.
In a no-fault divorce culture, how does Luke 16:18 apply? When a spouse (wife) divorces you aren't you free to remarry? Consider if we followed Levitical law a spouse (wife) who committed adultery would have been stoned to death. Not an issue now since the wife who divorced me died twelve years ago, so who would say the first nineteen years of my second marriage were adulterous but suddenly the last twelve are not? Malachi, God hates divorce. Does that mean God haves divorced people? May it never be. It is the loss of relationship and the grief it brings to people created in His image that God hates. Feel free to convince me otherwise.
Pastor Lance replies - What culture we are in has no real bearing on obedience to God. If a spouse divorces you, that is abandonment - and so a legit reason for divorce.
Pastor Lance replies - Rose, That is not correct. I think it is best for YOU to check the context, not Pastor David. The context is quite clear that what Peter is saying in verse 9 is that God doesn't want ANYONE - period - to perish. Not only does the context make that clear, the grammar does as well. If what the ve4rse means is what you say, then it is a tautology and Peter would not have penned it. That interpretation has Peter saying, "God is not willing that anyone who will not perish, won't perish." That is a tautology, a statement that communicates no information. Peter's statement DOES communicate important information - That God is not willing that anyone perish, Knowing that, our prayers for the lost can be filled with confied3nce that we are agreeing with God. If you take a look at any good Bible commentary, you will find that inserting "the elect" into verse 9 is improper. It's in only required by the doctrine of Calvinism but it is neither supported by the context or grammar.
l didn't want to have sex outside of marriage and made a number of mistakes marrying people who forsook me and I was also inequality yoked. I finally understand what the problem was in me and even though I am drawing near to The Lord. I just want to Honor Him and if He wants me to remain single, so be it.
The truth is God frowns on divorce. However everyone has bypassed faith in God and what he can do...is he not the restore of the broken family. The problem with divorce is that man and women forget God And what he says about forgiveness. As he has forgiven us to restore the relationship and reconciliation. We don't believe in what he has said and that's the sin we do not trust in God. What is broken is the covenant promise for the couple to God we break his heart.
I would like to note a few things: X - it is understandable that David expects to be sympathetic to those already 'in the problem' of remarriage following divorce. This seems better than people who are indiscriminate in their judgment and condemnation. However, he seems to rush into okaying/endorsing it given his sympathy. Here's why it is a bit hurried. X - Among others David needs a tighter grip on the basics of sexuality n marriage. The teachings of Jesus (and Paul in i cor 7) come from a point of technicality (hardly sympathy). Among others here are some killer basics that are absolutely discernible in the broad breadth of Scripture n the specifics of Jesus n Pauline teachings: X - That virginity is exactly what makes a marriage. It is the marriage consummation that seals the full n irreversible union. X - Also that there are differences between the sexes. That women being the ones receing the seed, ought to keep to a single partner for life (so choose carefully, or manage intelligently) whereas men if they remarry (for reasons as adultery of the spouse), marry a virgin. (This is precisely the point of Paul. X - And it is from this fountainhead of prescription n the divine construction/ordination of marriage/gender/sexuality that we insist the marriage be held sacred. Anything beyond this that people themselves do, it is better to remain silent if afraid of coming across as hurtful, or recommending course correction in the lives of their children (say they're tied in a remarriage already). David, you are sympathetic, and that is heartening indeed. But you cannot 'allow' precisely what Christ has expressly disallowed. You might do well to say some things without saying it, or remain silent. Much can be communicated through well timed silence. Cheers
Modern Christianity has really down played divorce. I see went to CC for 20+ years and I would say 80% of the folks I knew have all niw gotten divorces, many when they were "mature" believers in their 40's, not youngsters. My best friend who is a "devout" Christian has been married and divorced 5 times. Her last marriage which her pastor officiated lasted 1 year. What kind of pastor performs a marriage for someone 4×'s divorced...would you Pastor ? but they always have excuses and talk about grace. I mean if 1 or 2 divorces are allowed why not 3,4, or 5....
Wow, on the lead question some people's response to the video about marriage in my opinion is kind of crazy. What people need to understand is that there's constantly contraversy about the word of God, doesn't mean that anyone is wrong. On a lot of the Bible there are different views.
I get what you are saying you are true about matching up first reverse. However, you feel to accomplish what you say. Cuz you have not attached scriptures or forgiveness. That is your downfall
Hallelujah ^^ The name of Jesus is the name of God's life, and the heart of Christ comes from the life of God, so the name of Jesus is the heart of Christ. In other words, it is the name of Jesus, or the heart of Christ, that comes out of the fulfillment of the new covenant.
I was homeless, did drugs, went into prison, where I got to know God. He changed my life. Now I have a home, a wife and a lovely year old daughter (zoe), and a stream of income that gats me $47,000 weekly. Plus a new identity - a child of God, Hallelujah!!!🇺🇲❣️♥️❤️
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This man is not a false teacher. Study the Word, don't just read it. Don't take things out of context. I did that for many years. Boy, was I wrong!
Great comment!
We are all guilty of all sin because we were born into sin. We can't do anything to make ourselves righteous. No man can pluck you from the Father's hand
I love pastor David’s teaching. His blue letter is my guide/reference when we study the books of the Bible.
Wonderful, thank you for your kind words and your support! Blessings in Jesus' name
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I appreciate your teachings SO MUCH! I feel the Holy Spirit's presence so strongly as I listen to you teach His Word! God is using you as His vessel, not because you are great but because HE IS GREAT 😍📖🙌🏼🕊️ such peace, life & joy in His Word!!!
Reading the Bible and your enduring word commentaries….keeps me on the straight narrow path to Jesus 🙏Thank you 🌺
Great answers and explanations! Love enduring word. I have used it many times and learned and understood scripures so much better after using it. I am also very impressed with your grace for the extreme and negative comments against you. You show great love and grace for sure. Wish I had that strength. One of those areas I need to trust God to help me in for sure.
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I appreciate you addressing this. It’s an issue that is deeply personal to me, and has affected me deeply for the last 8 years. I recently did a deep dive study on it, and watched Mike Winger’s 3 hour long video on the topic, and also read the book “Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage In The Bible” by Jay Adams. For a variety of reasons, the SIN of unbiblical divorce and remarriage CAN be forgiven. No one should make light of the breaking of a marriage vow. But it also is not a second unpardonable sin. I can’t tell you how glad I am that I serve such a merciful God, who is faithful and just to forgive me of all sins that I have truly repented of. “God have mercy on me, a sinner.”
I'm struggling so bad with this right now. I am remarried with a 4 month old baby girl and two boys almost fully grown from, a previous marriage. I so just want to be a godly wife, homeschool my little girl, and let her have a father there for her daily. I went from praising God for allowing me a second chance and blessing me to fearing I'm going to hell. To think my only option for not going to hell is to destroy this baby girls family makes me sick to my stomach and so very very sad. I made a promise with this marriage too. I have broken more than one promise to God and I truly dont want to do so again. I dont even think I'd ever remarry after this if this marriage fell apart for any reason. This uncertainty is not something I'd chose again. I believe God has confirmed for me more than once that He is still with me. I once prayed and told God that my heart is troubled and asked that he bring me peace over this. The very next day a pastor I listen to who teaches book by book and chapter by chapter taught live on what to do if we are troubled. He then said to pray a prayer like this...and then proceeded to repeat almost verbatim the prayer that I prayed silently the night before. I had asked God to be bold in bringing me peace too. It doesn't get much bolder than that. But I still struggle. My poor little girl shouldn't have to be punished for my sin.
@@Kra-ri6fdMy heart truly goes out to you. I am also unbiblicallg divorced and remarried, and had the exact same fear as you do. I urge you to watch Mike Winger’s video on marriage and divorce, and to read the book I mentioned in my original comment by Jay Adams. They really put my mind at ease. I believe there is forgiveness for the sin of remarriage. And I don’t believe that just because I want to believe it, but because I believe it is what the Bible teaches. I have prayed more than once that if I have deceived myself in this that God would open my eyes and not allow me to remain in perpetual sin. I would be willing to do whatever it takes to not be in sin, including divorce and stay unmarried if that’s what it took. But I do not believe that that’s what the Bible teaches us to do in this situation. Though if I were widowed from my current husband, I believe I would stay unmarried. Please look at the two things I suggested above. They will answer all your questions. I pray that God can give you peace over this!
@@Franquie Thank you! I dont know if it's possibly post partum depression (not diagnosed just suspecting) that has me weak to this fear but I'm literally in tears. Thank you so much. It's hard to find people to talk to about this. I'm happy my husband hasn't been offended over me voicing my concerns over this. God bless you. I sure hope I find lasting peace in this.
I was married and divorced and remarried and it's very refreshing to hear your input on the topic of marriage and divorce David, thank you very much, I truly value your opinion but that's what bothered me so much on a different topic but I'm very happy to hear your input on this topic!!! For the relationship that I had to get a divorce in the man left the state and I had to get a divorce through publication. The man I remarried has been there for my kids and me for over 20 years when the other man had no interaction whatsoever with my children with the other man. My now husband treats my daughters as his own.
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Thank you for this. I am on my 3rd marriage. I think about the woman at the well. Jesus said you had 5 husbands and the one you are with is not your husband. Then He said, go your way and sin no more.
you respond to your critics with knowledge and grace.! thank you!
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My eldest sister, a lifelong, church attending Baptist. Several of her daughters and granddaughters became pregnant out of wedlock, married the baby's biological father, then ended up getting divorced and re-marrying. I consider my eldest sister the most knowledgeable Christian I know. I got a divorce after 33 years and we were talking. She asked me, "Did God release you from your vows?" I said I guess so. I have decided not to re-marry. But back to my sister, she said God released her daughters and granddaughters from their vows. I have never seen that in the Bible and feel some manipulate the WORD to allow them to go on. It's not my business.
Pastor, you are def not a false prophet. You are spot on indicating that we need to study the Word within the context of scripture. Some people no matter what you teach will only believe what they want to believe. I am challenged with this as well as I teach the Word. I so appreciate your teaching, Pastor David!!!
A tough topic for many.
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The problem is not divorce but with the remarriage is where the problem lies.
Luke 16:18: "Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery."
1 Corinthians 7:10-11: "To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife."
In other words, a divorced person is expected to remain celibate.
That's difficult. I had a relationship after after the separation and during divorce of marriage. It did not last. I didn't remarry. But deep down I pine for the husband I had, before satan came in an broke it apart.
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m sure you miss him a lot. Perhaps your prayer can be for reconciliation. God is a god of miracles, and he can definitely restore your marriage, if he can bring Lazarus from the grave, he can bring your marriage back to life, have faith and the mountain will move!
It would take a completely changed man. I think some people are of the mindset that just because a divorce is done. That it is done. Yes physically and complete distance. But the heart is never done.
Divorce would be a sin, also, as God hates divorce-He said that. A divorced person should remain unmarried (yes, unmarried) if the divorce was for reasons other than the two exceptions given in the Bible: sexual immorality and abandonment by an unbelieving spouse. (Matthew 19:9 and 1 Cor 7:15). Romans 7:2-3 and 1 Corinthians 7:39 are applicable to those who were not divorced Biblically as they would still be within the marriage covenant and still have spouses.
But aren't we allowed to repent for our sins? If we remarried after divorce and didn't know the severity of it? Doesn't Jesus (Yahuahshua) forgive if we ask?
I must say I'm disappointed. I have greatly enjoyed your content and this is the first time you have come out at a different place than what I believe.
Yes, the Bible gives room for divorce in the passages you mentioned. I agree. But nowhere does the the new testament give permission for a divorced person to remarry. Instead it specifically says the people who do that commit adultery.
I would challenge you to study the scripture again and see the difference between provision for divorce and the permission to remarry after divorce
I agree with you. In Matthew, Jesus' disciples understood that too:
9 And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.”
10 His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, IT IS BETTER NOT TO MARRY.”
I agree with this statement, that Jesus said. It's clear and concise, from the words of jesus, our 'chief shepherd'. Hard to accept, yes, it is. It does seen unfair, that why we shouldn't remarry. But if that is God's will on marriage, just need to respect it.
As soon as I read the gospel on the and heard jesus words. I believed in what he said on marriage. It reached my heart. To me it's like the way he restores me from my sins, to turn away from them. Even if the bond of the marriage I had in broken. To me that promise still stands. Even st Paul reiterates jesus words on the matter. A woman is till bound to that man (sadly),as long as he lives on this earth. That's the way I have received it from hearing jesus words and st paul in the bible.
Maybe not bound in that marriage with the former husband. But it's a promise, 'till death do you part'
It didn't need to give permission. It was going on anyway as it severed the marriage covenant if the divorce was Biblical. If you aren't under bondage, you are free.
Love all your teachings David!!
Wouldn't it be amazing to get a download of everything you needed to know upon believing?!
I didn't know about biblical divorce, remarriage until after I had remarried. I studied and prayed hard. I come to the place of Now I know what the Bible says, I will not divorce again no matter what. And if my husband were to leave, I would remain alone. I missed the mark out of ignorance, I will not knowingly miss it again.
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@@DavidGuzikEnduringWord Pastor, the woman who asked about Matthew 12:36 (At about 42 minutes of the video play) wrote that 'we are not going to be judged other than for rewards only' as Christians. Obviously, she embraces the once saved always saved gospel and she is confused about being judged for our careless words, which contradicts the false doctrine that she has embraced. She is supposed to know that many Christians go to hell as well for their words because once they got justified, there were failures in their sanctification process in which they did not allow the Holy Spirit to deal with those sinful habits like gossip and slander.
@@GreatlyBlessed-ld7nh I'm confused. Are you saying that Christians are judged after salvation on their works alone?
@@Thomas116-m2n No. It's simpler if I put it this way: You need to overcome the devil as a Christian in order to enter into heaven. If, for example, you fail to be free from gossip after receiving Christ, the demon of gossip will claim your soul after death. Salvation is the starting point and not the end. Unconfessed sins or sins that you failed to overcome will take you to hell in the end. You work with the Holy Spirit in the process of putting to death the old sinful conduct once you are saved (Romans 8:13). This is called sanctification by the Holy Spirit as He helps you to be free from the power of sin after salvation (justification) (2 Thessalonians 2:14). Without holiness no one will see the Lord (Hebrews 12:14). The salvation that has been worked inside of you must show in your conduct by the power of the Holy Spirit (1 Peter 1:15). There must be effort on your part to work with the Holy Spirit in order to bear His fruit in your conduct (2 Peter 1:5-7). It's not once saved always saved. That's a lie.
If I Take the bible in its entirety, I would see that our story begins with marriage in Genesis, and ends with a marriage in Revelation. I would see even though God judged and condemned the world of wickedness with a flood, he remained faithful to Noah and his family. Even though he judged and condemned Sodom and Gomorrah, he remained faithful to Lot. I would see God even though betrothed to Israel, was cheated on spiritually as they committed adultery with other God's and separated themselves from God. God being just, could have divorced himself from Israel, since he was only betrothed and not married (He would not be married yet to his bride until the book of Revelation). He could have abandoned the covenant he made with David, to have a descendant of Israel reign on his throne forever. Except he didnt, he kept a remnant of Israel, called them Judah, and continued his faithfulness. Hosea 3:1,"The Lord said to me, “Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another man and is an adulteress. Love her as the Lord loves the Israelites, though they turn to other gods and love the sacred raisin cakes.” And even when Judah became corrupt and strayed away, God was faithful in this, Even being sinners, God showed his love by sending His own son, to die for them, and us, that whomever believes in him should not perish, but have eternal life. Pastor Guzik, with all respect, and with all love, If I take the bible in its entirety, I will see that that marriage is like baptism, God keeps his promise unto death, until the very end. Once we are baptised, we are saved until the end, our salvation is not dependent on works anymore, but on his covenant of grace. And to further illustrate my point, just look at how God deals with covenant. We can only be part of the new covenant of grace, ONLY and ONLY if we DIE. There must be a death to be free of the covenant of the law of sin and death. Just like marriage, we are ONLY released from our covenant to our spouses, ONLY if we die, or they die. Romans 7 is clear. Baptism is the best example because just like marriage, in baptism we respond to God's invitation of covenant, and once we respond and accept God's faithfulness, our salvation could never be put into question. We are saved until the day we die, and even in death, that is GAIN thanks to christ. To live is christ, to die is gain. From Genesis to Revelation, God has been faithful to humanity even after our constant adultery against God, that is what I see if I take the bible in its entirety. Marriage is unto Death pastor. no. exceptions. "Jesus told the Pharisees, “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6)
1Cor 7:10-11 Clearly points out Paul’s view on this topic. I think he understands this topic a lot better than we do. Why doubt this simple teaching
Yes. Paul also gives an exception in 1 Cor 7:15, abandonment by a nonbeliever.
Why did Jesus die for sins if we can be destined to hell for any reason? I'm sure glad Jesus doesn't see things the way people do
I agree there is very slim margin for people to remarry and that’s why for me I’m a single person my husband just passed away and I’m 60 so it’s not a very big market out there of people that have not been divorced one or two times but I have committed myself to the Lord that he can bring me someone who is widowed!
I am a divorced person. With only that fact it seems I am crucified by churches who find out I am divorced. Nobody ever ask me my circumstance or even cares about it. I am constantly told I can't help serve because it just doesn't look proper. But I thought when I became a Christian I died to my old man and put on the new man. I want to serve ... I want to help out in a church .... I would love to join a church. But doors are constantly slammed in my face. And I will be honest... It hurts. That policy that our doors are opened to all are true but certain people have to stay on the back row. I thought Christians were suppose to be different. I'm confused. The churches that don't follow the Bible invite me into their crazy churches... 😳 But the churches who do follow the Bible who really teach the Bible ... Their words say one thing but their actions are another. I am bitter ... I'm sorry .. but all I seen to see are a bunch of Pharisees in churches today.
I’m sorry to hear about your experience. I think it may be a valid reason at times not to have a divorced believer serve in certain ministries if the marriage that was broken was not biblical , for example adultery is permissible but mandatory of course if the spouse is repentant. Or if the divorce happened before coming to Christ. I think the ministry that is desired should be weighed with the divorce circumstance. I don’t know all the specifics but I’m sure some of the churches were trying to be protective of the ministry and to who it ministers. But I do think they should have listened to your story and explain as to why or why not serving is fitting. But the Church as a whole is being sanctified and is Christs bride and I would be careful when speaking so harshly about His bride. Jesus Loves His bride. There’s many Churches that aren’t apostate and are faithful to the Lord
Thank you for your response. I do hear your words. I didn't want my divorce ... my husband chose a new path in life and I was not included in that path. I'm not going to bash him or put blame anywhere because as a new Christian I see my own fault too and I am down in my knees praying and repenting. I don't blame God because God has been the One who has helped me through it all. I understand churches being careful with who they choose to help out at their church.. but it seems I am judge so very harshly for a decision my husband (Ex) decided on. I didn't sign my divorce papers . I didn't want it. I have been divorced for 13 yrs now and I don't date or even will I ever re-marry. I loved my husband ( the man I married.) I don't know or understand the person he is today. But that's the circumstances in life I have been given. I want to praise God in a community but when I go to church and everybody is so nice and then they ask , "well how long have you been a widow. " And I tell them I'm not I am divorced, everything changes. Everybody not so friendly anymore and I start hearing, "well it wouldn't be appropriate" or when they have a call out needing help with VBS or Sunday school I'm not asked. I don't ask to join the church because I understand it's a "no" . I understand what you are saying about being careful about Talking about God's Bride. But a good church today is so gun-shy about people that when they do have someone with a true and honest heart they have forgotten how to welcome them into their family. I feel I don't fit in in the Christian world because of my past but I also don't fit in the gentile world because of my faith. I am praying and seeking my Lord for advice. It just seems the harder I try to serve among churches the more I am not accepted.
Sir, I just want to learn about the Lord and make sure what I'm reading and thinking are right. Im seeking commentaries and I want to learn correctly what the Bible is giving me. I just want to hear it in person sometimes instead of through a tv.
@melissarhea149 dear, I suggest quitting that church. God will show you a church where love truly reigns. You are in a season where you need to be surrounded by people who truly love you. Don't look down on those churches that you said are not following the Bible; you could be wrong about that. That church that isolated you because you are divorced is lukewarm. Nothing is worse than staying in a lukewarm place where you cannot grow. God bless you. ❤
@@melissarhea149 the churches you have went to are not true Bible believing Churches. We must be careful…some churches…the devil has a foothold.
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@KMBL9384 Wonderful encouragement, very well said!
Very sorry to hear about your situation and your ex husband Melissa.
Although, without knowing anything (other than what you've written) about the situation, it doesn't sound like you're divorced at all. If you really didn't sign any papers, such that there is still legally or technically a marriage between you and your ex husband in the eyes of the law, it may be the case that you're simply separated, or perhaps legally separated, and not officially divorced. Presenting your situation as such to whatever church you attend could make all the difference in how people perceive you.
OR, if I'm misunderstanding things, and you ARE in fact legally divorced from your husband, it could still be quite beneficial to introduce the matter to others as "my husband left me," or "my husband separated me" instead of simply saying "I am divorced"
Also Melissa, unless you were explicitly told by members of the church that you are not allowed to serve in the church or ministry because of your past divorce, there could be other reasons for not allowing you (or simply not asking you) to help serve at this time.
Especially with VBS or children's ministry, many churches take those positions very seriously and often don't accept help unless it goes through the proper channels. Just be mindful of this, especially if you do attend a new church!
Blessings,
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Thank u for your study of the WORD....
Thank you for your support! Blessings in His name
Thank you David for addressing this. The Lord is always concerned about the heart. Too many people try to over simplify the Bible. It's interesting that as important a subject as marriage is that there is really not that much said about it in the Bible. Matthew chapter 5 also says to be perfect. How are you guys doing on that?
Is remarriage after divorce even possible?
Because Jesus says in Luke 16:18: "Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery."
Remarriage after death of the spouse is possible according scripture, but not after divorce, it seems.
If the divorce was Biblical, it severed the marriage covenant. (Abandonment by a nonbeliever and sexual immorality). Matthew 19:9 has the sexual immorality exception while Mark and Luke do not list it; however, that doesn't negate it in Matthew.
I was told by an online pastor that my husband died so that i wasn’t caught in adultery when Jesus comes.
Or that I will be left behind because I was divorced from a violent man as a non Christian, eventually I met someone new he was an atheist, I became a Christian, a while later he became a Christian we got married after seeking God so apparently either I should have stayed with a violent man or lived alone.
So it seems even if wee sinned by remarriage as new Christian’s then find out we shouldn’t have so wee repent but stayed together .
So I can repent from sin of any time and I’m cleansed
with the exception of remarriage
I lost my husband in 2021 and now have to live with him being taken deliberately so I can go to heaven.
Amen preacher
To rightly divide the Word of God
It has to be line upon line
Precept upon precept
Here a little
There a little
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There's only one unforgivable sin. Have a nice day 😊
Yes. But we are not to live in forgivable sin. We must repent with a contrite heart, obey God's word and make right what we are supposed to.
@@happy777abc there's always that yes, but. Paul gave us great advice. "Work out your own salvation with fear and trembling." People know what they should be doing, deep inside themselves. They need to go to Scripture, work through the Spirit. Grow in their relationship with God. As time goes by, together, they will rectify their past and their present. With the word and the spirit and hopefully some biblical guidance from their pastor. We need to remember that love covers a multitude of sins. Approach every issue and understand that there's a human being behind the issue.
exactly, blaspheming of the Holy Spirit.
The woman of Samaria had many husbands and was living with the current lover.
and she was the one to share the Good News with the rest of her kin! Yet, I always wonder how her relationship with the guy was after that encounter with Yeshua
Yes. And she was supposed to have been. That's why Jesus pointed it out. Even though she was living wrong, he was still engaging her. Showing He loved her.
And she was the one who was put out many times by the men. Men divorced back then, not women. Living with her lover was wrong.
Hmmm, does this mean that maybe is has been divorced and is remarried? 🤔🧐
It seems to me that what he is saying is you can remain in any sin and just repent of it. Jesus Himself told the adulterous woman to go and sin mo more. He did forgive her of course, but told her to go and sin no more, not it's ok now for you to just keep on doing it. I have not found one exception when it comes to this subject.
Pastor Lance replies - If I understand you - Pastor David does not believe one can remain in sin. To repent means to change one's mind and behavior.
You are so right...people so often take one verse, or one law, that is written in God's word, they home in on that...I was eating some lobster and some one told me, don't you know the Bible says you should not eat anything from the sea that has a shell for a covering? One bit from one set of laws....I looked at him and laughed...I feel sorry for people who think like that...I am divorced....my husband was an alcoholic/gambler and smashed my face in, after trying to strangle me....I am a domestic violence statistic.....I married again, and stayed married till my present husband died,.
Maybe at least say it was wrong and voice sorrow for the family of the man killed 😞 thank you for your teaching
thank you.
These people who simply dont understand Gods mercy and understanding being thst God knows what happens behind closed doors are in my view in a way saying that maybe better to kill the abusive or cheating husband and then repent because there is forgiveness for homicide but not for divorce.
These guys are so unempathetic and unwise. I know a woman who was forced to stay and, in the end under the breaking of her soul committed suicide. Leaving behind 5 children
Divorce is more acceptable than murder. Desperate people do desperate things
David keep preaching truth..cant force people to hear.Jesus was called a false teacher you are just fulfilling scripture..love you bro
Only on unpardonable sin.
How many times has this guy been married, just wondering
Given that a marriage is an entire unit. Sometimes a part of it can cause the entire unit to go to damnation. Would not the verse about the whole body apply. If your right eye causes you to sin, cut it out and cast it aside. Better to pluck out that portion, than have the entire unit go to damnation. I know this is perhaps uncommon way to look at it. , but it seems to be applicable in some cases. There are times when divorce is the right thing to do.
Interesting idea. It can be said that is wrong to teach that if one is sinned against in marriage by sexual immorality, the only godly option if for them to forgive, reconcile and remain married.
It is important to note that in Matthew 19:3-9 does not command the spouse who has been sinned against to divorce the spouse guilty of sexual immorality. There are many times when there can be forgiveness and restoration, especially when there is genuine repentance from the guilty spouse. We can also say that this is in general accord with God’s hatred of divorce (Malachi 2:16) and forgiving nature.
Nevertheless, the permission God gave for divorce is real. It is a concession to the weakness and frailty of fallen humanity (“because of the hardness of your hearts”), but it is a real concession, nonetheless. To say that God grants a concession, but God will never allow it to be used is the twist the Word of God and to place unrighteous and unbearable burdens upon people.
Read more of Pastor David's biblical understanding on this issue, as documented here: enduringword.com/answering-wrong-teachings-marriage-divorce-remarriage/
How many times did Jesus say that the woman at the well has been married? that also means that she’s been divorced a number of times
Pastor Lance replies - Right!
Divorced women in that day were put out. Men divorced the women, women were property. Jesus wasn't happy she lived with her lover. Why do we know? Because God never changes and it was unholy and of poor reputation to live with your lover. A woman of ill repute
@@DavidGuzikEnduringWord No where in the Bible does it say that the woman at the well was divorced. People have made that assumption. Also, regarding the story about the women at the well, Jesus was not giving a teaching on divorce and remarriage.
So the naysayers you were quoting think sin sends you to hell, even after you’ve been saved? I realize there are “Christian” denominations that believe this. They obviously are confused.
Thank you for your comment!
There is precedent for this thinking, though it is misapplied in this specific context. Remember, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 does tell us clearly that _Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God._
The thinking in this case, though, is that there is a continual, unrepentant adultery occurring in every remarriage - based on an incorrect belief that God does not allow divorce in any circumstance.
And even for those whose divorce was not allowed nor accepted in the eyes of God, and have remarried, such people must repent of their sin of adultery (being still bound in the eyes of God to their initial marriage), and must do so in full confidence of the promise of 1 John 1:9, which makes it clear that: _If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness._
But the solution that Another divorce will repair the damage of the first divorce is neither biblical nor logical.
Each of the specific arguments, divorce scenarios and their consequences are explored and addressed by David Guzik in this outline: enduringword.com/answering-wrong-teachings-marriage-divorce-remarriage/
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We can disagree (and I do!) but not be disgusting. Should more preparation and teachings were done before marriage perhaps we'd have fewer divorces.
One view about the importance of family must take in consideration not only the differences between the OT and NT (Israel vs Church) but the seriousness of this divine plan, at the level the disciples understood it after the teaching of Christ, when they exclaimed : (If it is so - - like Jesus put it) better not to get married.).
PS: Personally I understand there is no "exception-clause", but an "excluded-cause" in the famous passage from Matthew.
May I reccomend David Pawson here? 😊
I can't help but remember Jack and Connie. One Sunday, the ladies had crossed the center aisle and were sitting with the other's husband. They were attempting to make right a previous mistake. I am still confused. I do think the word "polluted" suggests that the two have become one in the sharing of blood product. How is it that an entire town or an entire nation can not be saved--why must their civilization be obliterated? I supposed they are all polluted?? Maybe that pollution is inherited to the fourth generation. That's a lot of maybes and opinion.
In a no-fault divorce culture, how does Luke 16:18 apply? When a spouse (wife) divorces you aren't you free to remarry? Consider if we followed Levitical law a spouse (wife) who committed adultery would have been stoned to death. Not an issue now since the wife who divorced me died twelve years ago, so who would say the first nineteen years of my second marriage were adulterous but suddenly the last twelve are not? Malachi, God hates divorce. Does that mean God haves divorced people? May it never be. It is the loss of relationship and the grief it brings to people created in His image that God hates. Feel free to convince me otherwise.
Pastor Lance replies - What culture we are in has no real bearing on obedience to God. If a spouse divorces you, that is abandonment - and so a legit reason for divorce.
God never changes so why does His law change
the scripture that you have just quoted - 2 Peter 3 v. 9 must be taken in its context - referring to the Usward, who are these? God's chosen elect.
Pastor Lance replies - Rose, That is not correct. I think it is best for YOU to check the context, not Pastor David. The context is quite clear that what Peter is saying in verse 9 is that God doesn't want ANYONE - period - to perish. Not only does the context make that clear, the grammar does as well.
If what the ve4rse means is what you say, then it is a tautology and Peter would not have penned it. That interpretation has Peter saying, "God is not willing that anyone who will not perish, won't perish." That is a tautology, a statement that communicates no information. Peter's statement DOES communicate important information - That God is not willing that anyone perish, Knowing that, our prayers for the lost can be filled with confied3nce that we are agreeing with God.
If you take a look at any good Bible commentary, you will find that inserting "the elect" into verse 9 is improper. It's in only required by the doctrine of Calvinism but it is neither supported by the context or grammar.
l didn't want to have sex outside of marriage and made a number of mistakes marrying people who forsook me and I was also inequality yoked. I finally understand what the problem was in me and even though I am drawing near to The Lord. I just want to Honor Him and if He wants me to remain single, so be it.
The truth is God frowns on divorce. However everyone has bypassed faith in God and what he can do...is he not the restore of the broken family. The problem with divorce is that man and women forget God And what he says about forgiveness. As he has forgiven us to restore the relationship and reconciliation. We don't believe in what he has said and that's the sin we do not trust in God. What is broken is the covenant promise for the couple to God we break his heart.
.....only if your Catholic:)
But doesn’t Jesus words supercede say the Mosaic law ? We cannot go beyond the words of Christ but can go beyond the words of Moses.
@@ergo322 God gave us His commandments and Jesus showed us how to obey them: through love.
I would like to note a few things:
X - it is understandable that David expects to be sympathetic to those already 'in the problem' of remarriage following divorce. This seems better than people who are indiscriminate in their judgment and condemnation. However, he seems to rush into okaying/endorsing it given his sympathy. Here's why it is a bit hurried.
X - Among others David needs a tighter grip on the basics of sexuality n marriage. The teachings of Jesus (and Paul in i cor 7) come from a point of technicality (hardly sympathy). Among others here are some killer basics that are absolutely discernible in the broad breadth of Scripture n the specifics of Jesus n Pauline teachings:
X - That virginity is exactly what makes a marriage. It is the marriage consummation that seals the full n irreversible union.
X - Also that there are differences between the sexes. That women being the ones receing the seed, ought to keep to a single partner for life (so choose carefully, or manage intelligently) whereas men if they remarry (for reasons as adultery of the spouse), marry a virgin. (This is precisely the point of Paul.
X - And it is from this fountainhead of prescription n the divine construction/ordination of marriage/gender/sexuality that we insist the marriage be held sacred. Anything beyond this that people themselves do, it is better to remain silent if afraid of coming across as hurtful, or recommending course correction in the lives of their children (say they're tied in a remarriage already).
David, you are sympathetic, and that is heartening indeed. But you cannot 'allow' precisely what Christ has expressly disallowed. You might do well to say some things without saying it, or remain silent. Much can be communicated through well timed silence. Cheers
what about Matthew 19 v. 9. - KJV.
Pastor Lance replies - David answered this in the Q&A session
Modern Christianity has really down played divorce. I see went to CC for 20+ years and I would say 80% of the folks I knew have all niw gotten divorces, many when they were "mature" believers in their 40's, not youngsters. My best friend who is a "devout" Christian has been married and divorced 5 times. Her last marriage which her pastor officiated lasted 1 year. What kind of pastor performs a marriage for someone 4×'s divorced...would you Pastor ? but they always have excuses and talk about grace. I mean if 1 or 2 divorces are allowed why not 3,4, or 5....
Wow, on the lead question some people's response to the video about marriage in my opinion is kind of crazy. What people need to understand is that there's constantly contraversy about the word of God, doesn't mean that anyone is wrong. On a lot of the Bible there are different views.
What kind of church do you go to?
Pastor Lance replies - Pastor David attends a Calvary Chapel in Southern California; the same church he, until recently, pastored.
Thank you Pastor.
For further teaching on this subject check out Dr Leslie McFall.
Blessings
I get what you are saying you are true about matching up first reverse. However, you feel to accomplish what you say. Cuz you have not attached scriptures or forgiveness. That is your downfall
@@user-id8oh1yj9h You don't even make sense.
Hallelujah ^^
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