It's Deeper Than Anger
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- čas přidán 17. 06. 2022
- Sons… it’s crucial that you understand that a good father’s discipline is rooted in love (Heb 12:5-11).
Fathers… it’s imperative that we learn how to articulate the root cause of our anger, before our actions become toxic (Eph 6:4).
#FatherandSon #FathersDay #WagingWarWithin
Being a father myself and after hearing this for the first time, now I understand how Jesus feels when I sin against Him… After all He’s done for me; not just the material blessings, but the shedding of His Blood, and the giving of His Spirit, to be connected with Him in partnership, for Him to adopt me as a son and me to turn to lesser things for pleasure or an answer is to spit on all He’s done. Lord I Repent!
It all comes back to sadness and hurt. We need to learn how to let ourselves feel that pain and not immediately try to solve it. Anger is a secondary emotion. But it's hard to dig that deep. Most folks are not so introspective.
Happy Father's day 💙
Anger can also come up when people don't let you express yourself. Like if someone hurts you, and you tell them that they hurt you, you become the bad guy. Like you are wrong, and may even have to apologize for letting someone know how they hurt you.
Your feelings are often marganalized and made fun of, even by our own family memebers. So we get angry at those people for not caring about or pain / hurt. Since they hurt us, now we want them to know how we feel, we want to hurt them. Sadly that's often times the only we can get them to understand our pain, is to make them hurt too.
"the anger iceberg" is a great visual to understand what goes on with anger. As tough as it is... you can actually get a bit vulnerable about what is under the anger and share that! (not needy... not playing victim but sharing calmly how you feel with no expectation or blame of the other person to "fix you") It can really help the other person be on your team and support you more and come to better understandings.
Just test the water first to make sure you aren't being vulnerable to the wrong types of people :)
Even if they obey as they should, it is still about the acknowledgment, the gratefulness about realizing that loving parents do what they can to give us a better headstart in life, with that consciousness they can turn an obligation into a natural act of support for the family. Usually kids don't know any different so they take the environment for granted, like asking a fish what is water. Parents being the responsibles should find a way to communicate the value of all of it, and I mean the value not only the price.
That's an interesting perspective on that type of situation and it makes much sense. Thank you for sharing with us, sir.
REspect!!!
Well, yes and no. It's complicated. If you want a child to respect your orders, they need to make sense to them. It should be clear why these are good orders and that you actually mean well and that it is necessary. You need to be articulate and have an emotional connection. You cannot just command and demand respect. You cannot lead by force. But you can lead by mutual understanding, connection and love.
God bless you sir,
Name of the full episode please?
Teaching boys not to manipulate their moms
Did you find it ?