What wedding moment made you think "they're not gonna last long"?
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When in my cosuin’s wedding part of the bride’s vows was “Loving you has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever done” and then there was no “but”, she just moved on to the next point. They lasted less than a year.
dafuq why marry then?
I can empathise with this. Me and my son's father never got married but 9 months into the relationship I started thinking this, then a year in I said it a few times to him, there was a but though, I said 'loving you is hard, very hard sometimes but I will love you anyway cos you need it' and he did, he still does but the way he goes on with drugs and mood swings (especially his violence and verbal abuse due to an angry mood swing or due to drug abuse) I tried helping him and supporting him in whatever way I could but nothing helped and he couldn't change, so I tried to get him diagnosed or have psychiatric help to see if it was something specific we could treat or if he had like ADHD or a type of autism he couldn't control or acknowledge but there was no self help during the wait and bringing our little boy in the world it was dangerous and I had to leave, not cos I didn't care for him but because I had to keep our son safe. I didn't demand anything off him, I just left and told him if anything just to look after hinself. He is on the list to be tested for ADHD and\or autism as he has been cleared for bipolar and BPD. I hope he gets the help and support he needs, until then, though he deserves love from a girlfriend, he probs shouldn't be with anyone cos it's toxic and confusing and scary :\ he deserves a lot more for himself and in his relationships, I just couldn't put ou r son in that fluctuating environment and neither could I cope with the emotional turmoil and anxiety :\
😂 what a hilariously awful thing to say at your wedding ceremony
Geez I would’ve left. And my dad probably would’ve decked the groom
@@jipsileigh4903 Hey Lady... Momma.... I UNDERSTAND! My kiddos Pappa had CHALLENGES, and while I can see the damage caused by him, I didn't split with him until it was verging physical danger to the kiddos. Even then, it could be argues that it "verged" long before, but I always managed to be super-human-mom and deal with things that way. It wasn't until he actually got some help, that he was starting to be in barely controlled rage rage 24/7. I couldn't do any more. He had to go.
That was almost 11 years ago. He lost his job in his calling, moved away to his folks place, almost lost his life.... and he somehow never gave up!
HE IS DOING BETTER!!! He has worked his ASS OFF and is LIVING AGAIN! He has a wonderful job in his calling, he is a wonderful father, we co-parent, he is appreciative and supportive of me.... he got there. (He definitely is AuDHD, and is a wonderful role model not in many ways for our son!)
BUT - I just got out of a relationship that, in hindsight, was nothing but a mistake. This last man also had so much GOOD... but he never saw his own faults, was older and apparently addicted to being a victim, stopped therapy because it was "too hard".... etc
Also, while the kids I have are better for having a dad, and this man in particular is grateful and looking to "pay it back" for all I sacrificed supporting him and our kids, I never will regain even a fraction of what I lost. My life is set, and there's no changing it now. I struggle on the daily to find something that can be "ME" in my life, because such had been consumed .... etc etc
(Oh, and he and I will never again be a couple. Part of him figuring himself out is acknowledging how wrong we were for each other from the start.)
So, I DO UNDERSTAND. Your ex might indeed get better, and be a true dad some day. IF he works, for YEARS, never gives up, he can indeed get there! It is up to him though.
You talked about what HE deserves, do you consider what YOU deserve? Please?
I was raised to believe that if I "deserved" something, it would be given to me, but if I tried to get a "deserved life" for myself I was in fact horrible and deserved horrible things.... which is pretty common for females it seems.
It took my ex 15 years total to "come around" and he still has challenges. During that time I nearly destroyed myself being a mom to our kids AND a support to HIM, all while having absolutely zero support myself. Life is a bit better now, but I will never get back what I've lost.
Additionally, the most recent ex was nothing but loss for me, and I will never get THAT time back, either.
So, I understand and respect your compassion and your strength! In my case, and perhaps in yours, the kiddo's best chances were a dad, and ACTUAL DAD, in the picture with mom, and I see all of what I believed possible borne out in what now is. If I could have done this WITHOUT losing myself though? YES! ALSO, this is a "unicorn guy" type of thing - kiddo's papa is not, unfortunately, the norm. I could so easily be left with the absolute nothing I have, AND have him either still a mess, or being devoid of any sense of responsibility now for my own welfare....
Please, look at your own self? Recognize that YOU, ALSO, have been through A LOT and maybe could use some support to process it all? You will also FACE a LOT as a mom, with a kiddo's papa in serious challenges. I went years with him unable to see the kids unsupervised, and it truly almost did me in.
Also, consider please for a moment your wording? WHY such emphasis on what HE DESERVES, with little to mention of yourself? THAT I resonate with, HARD... and it scares me for YOU 😢😢😢😢
Be it this man, or in years another man or men, you are VULNERABLE GIRLY!!😢😢😢
If you are VERY like me, it may not be possible to think of this for YOURSELF - ok. That's ok. Think of it THIS way then - YOUR KIDDO NEEDS a whole, deserving, strong, supportive AND supported momma who demonstrates healthy self-worth! Without that, you WILL BE SO VULNERABLE to more relationships where you are "needed" by a partner - who will not fulfill your own needs. Those relationships are NOT the experiences and environments you want for your kiddo - no matter kiddo's gender, I PROMISE YOU.😢😢
PLEASE - consider and tuck away my words? I wish I had more time and a more awake brain to make sure this isn't as rambling as I fear it is 😅 but ... this is what I've got for now.
Be well. Consider much, please. YOU DESERVE MUCH. YOU CAN still support and believe in your ex, while learning to value yourself more... and again IF you are SO like me, you may have already learned to do so much more than you USED TO, but still... consider, please, as if you were your own child. Would you want your child to feel about themselves as you do about yourself, to have those expectations, etc? Every day, every interaction, somewhere in the back of your head "Is this what I want my child to learn from me, how I want them to have THEIR life?"
Because in the end, that's the only way I found the strength to value my own self - by seeing what it would mean to my kiddos.
I am DEFINATLY rambling now! 😂😂😂😂
Take care!
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Any time someone shoves cake in someone’s face. I never approved of this “tradition”
We did it pre planned in our little wants lol it was fun.
@@taraellis8279 Preplanned is one thing. Against one's wishes is another.
@@StealthTheFoxz thats why i mentioned it. The right way.
About story 10, it was not on the groom, that bride was absolutely abusing him. Maybe not physically - hell, maybe she was - but definitely emotional abuse was happening. It’s so difficult for victims of domestic abuse to be able to leave their situations, and this includes men being abused by their wives. The sad thing is that while women aren’t often believed because “he’s such a great guy!”, men aren’t often believed because “women can’t abuse men, that’s impossible!” I feel so bad for him, and I hope he genuinely does get his happily ever after.
Exactly. It's easy to say from an outside perspective that an abuse victim is stupid for not leaving, but the fact is, domestic abuse is specifically designed to keep the victim from thinking clearly like that.
I played the organ for a wedding . The ceremony was delayed 45 minutes because the bride had been late for the rehearsal dinner and the groom felt he needed to punish her by being late for the wedding. After 30 minutes of playing prelude music I went to see what was going on. The bride was in the bathroom completely hysterical. A former girlfriend of the groom had showed up. Just an absolute mess of a situation.
How long did they last?
@@CaeliSterlingtheFirst I don’t know, I didn’t really know them-I had been asked to play for the wedding because the regular organist wasn’t available. I suspect they didn’t last long!
I don't get why get married if their relationship is so rocky?dude sounds like a jerk...
The groom turned up wasted, we heard the groomsmen saying he'd been drinking since six am. The wedding was at two in the afternoon. She kept dragging him around, forcing him to hug and kiss her, shouting at him when he didn't do what she wanted. She also screamed at guests to shut up several times.
After the ceremony, several of his friends said he didn't want to get married or have any more kids, he'd been married before, but his fiance 'forced his hand.' They're still married but he's put his foot down and they aren't having kids.
Do not pressure a man to ask him to marry you... it will end in tears because it wasn't from his heart honey.
Agreed. Plus you can have an amazing, lifelong relationship without ever getting married. The pressure of being forced to commit and the immense stress of planning a wedding can kill a relationship.
And if you share economy you can just have a contract about that if you want the safety of marriage.
I see this more as setting boundaries. Marriage can be an important value for many. If you’re in a longterm relationship and realise that your partner doesn’t plan on getting married, you have to look for someone else who share your values.
If your partner never wants to get married but has no desire to end the relationship, why ruin a great thing.
Yes because you never know why they aren’t proposing. My husband took 5 years to propose and it turns out it’s because he was saving up because he wouldn’t promise to me anywhere but Paris❤️ Worth the wait ❤️
BRIDES when HIS family tells you NOT to marry him... BELIEVE THEM.... Prince Charming then say "I do" the bell rings ROUND #1 With Mike Tyson...
Remarrying an ex is like reheating McDonald's fries in the microwave
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The greatest gift you can give your relative for their wedding is _event security._ Who answers to them, not you.
People do what's good for them .... Everyone knows how to build a family..... If they want to...
Honestly the one where she summoned him and he held her train was giving more "femdom" than "abuse" to me. We really don't have enough information to tell either way, but the image of OP feeling so sorry for his friend being treated like a servant while the groom happily simps for his wife is kinda funny
Lmao, same. I thought it was just their thing or something. Dom/sub dynamics
Or just doting.
Honestly, if that's the kind of relationship they both want and it's all completely consensual, I really don't see anything wrong with it. Just because it isn't someone else's "normal" doesn't mean it's bad or abusive
@@aprettygothichick I have a pair of old friends who are together with a "pet" kind of dynamic. Visiting them is a wild experience each time, but they're both incredibly happy and supportive about the relationship!
I immediately thought "mmmm, some kinky stuff going on there!" People who can express that dynamic without rubbing it in peoples' faces in an obvious BDSM fashion usually have VERY healthy relationships in my experience because they are very open with one another and that helps TREMENDOUSLY to solve problems in a relationship.
To answer your question about our own encounters at doomed weddings:
my uncle called me to complain because i didn't come over to his wedding
he has divorced 3 times
"You must come, it is once in a lifetime moment for me"
and I replied "Is it?" and he got mad at me
i was sick of saying same toast 3 times
not ready to say it 4th time
Few months later they did end up divorcing.
😂😂😂I feel a marriage is doomed if there's a cake smash and either party is unsuspecting or unset. Like if it's mutually agreed upon that doesn't count but it spells divorce for anyone who pranks their newly wed spouse with a confectionery surprise attack. 😮
If one of the partners thinks a surprise cake smash would male their wedding reception memorable - how come they don't arrange to trip , so they get covered in cake? It's about controlling the other person.
My husband and i pre planned it and it was so much fun!
The old narrator is back.(Edit: I honestly don’t care but it’s funny seeing chaos.)
The chaos has been great to follow 😆
Maybe they're taking turns narrating to get videos out faster?
@@crealol2 DING DING DING. I'm a narrator on the other channel, that's the goal (at least for now).
Both narrators are good tho
@BengalEmpire767 the last one (not the original) had a bad sense of humor and wasn't as "heartfelt" There was no real relationship in his voice just overall not great
Story 28 the marriage should have been ruled invalid, as the bride was obviously compelled to go through with it. The judge failed in his duty.
I really want to know the name of the judge. You know, just to talk...
My ex wife and I were one of those couples for others. There were some incompatibilities and I heard more than one person say we wouldn't last long with that stuff in the back.
Now we're indeed getting divorced... after 19 years of being together, 17 years of living together, 14 years of marriage and in mutual friendship. We made work what wasn't supposed to work and I'm hella proud of that.
*SON ALLERGY*
Lmao
It means he hates children
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OLD NARRATOR IS BACK
My dad was drinking up the entire bar from free drinks and my step mom just had a few shots and margaritas. My dad had to lifted into the van . I think that set the mood for the marriage. They drink most nights and leave the entire bars worth of empties near the back door. I live under the philosophy that if you drink you’re unhappy or can’t have fun without drinking.
You ever had a damn husband?
@@shitneyb5562 he drinks to deal with you.
19 year old married 41 year old with 18 year old daughter. Right before the wedding they were fighting and she was having a meltdown over votive candles. Very immature and we all were against it. They annulled the wedding two months later. She said she wanted alimony. Judge laughed. It was a no.
I was not even 18 when I got married and my husband to be was 21. It was 51 years ago...we are still married.
Honestly I am ok with 2 narrators for 2 hours a day of videos
Honestly, the stories are interested but the car driving in the background makes me dizzy. Couldn’t continue watching
I actually really like the car
@@helloelenajust listen to it then
If you're normal but have a racist family, i would totally go black and white, a vanilla and a chocolate cake, and two choices of meal, but i wouldn't make it seggregated, let people choose.
Idk, I guess if both people really want to then sure. But as a person with a Black dad and a White mom, centering your (as in people in general, as are all the rest here) wedding day around your family’s racism is so strange to me. Would actually be a red flag for me. Is the thing you want to express at the event meant to join two people in marriage a middle finger to your family, a statement on racism, or the love shared between the two?
Are you marrying a Black person or any other person of color because of their race, to piss off your parents, or because you love that person? I know that you can both be marrying someone for the right reasons and simultaneously be happy to put a middle finger up to your racist family, but what you choose/want to be the center theme of the day I think can say a lot about where your focus is, and for me that would be something to get to the bottom of before going through with the marriage.
Maybe couple #1 should have prolonged their relationship with a ski or city vacation.
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That polite hesitation on "drama people.... love drama. :)"
Wouldn’t you be just as miserable married as dating?
YES! Only worse, because now you're "stuck" and if you break up, it's a divorce.
That being said, you would be surprised how many marriages can be salvaged if the spouses are willing.
Go get some therapy,learn to love yourself and keep it moving!!!...sounds like a solid plan to me😁😁
I was MOH for a good friend, as long as I’d known her she dated women (before dating groom). Before marrying her husband, said she hadn’t told him about her history AND said it wouldn’t be his business if she had affairs. They had a child together and were divorced but apparently were able to remain friendly. I think she was mostly getting married to escape her parents.
my own wedding lol...we were getting married at the courthouse...we were in a room waiting to go into the judges chambers to be "counseled"...when the bailiff called us, my fiance had disappeared...he thought he was funny...he was in a corner behind a potted plant, rocking back and forth and repeating the word NO, over n over...i just thought "oh this isnt good" lol...and it want, what a nightmare
Is 'counselling' a normal thing either with courthouse or American weddings? When I was at school in the 1970s, we learnt something about French customs during French classes. (I don't say French lessons, as it used to imply something dodgy). :-) One of the things we were taught, was that before getting married, couples see a lawyer to decide how to divide the property in case of divorce.
@@GillianBergh where im from, whomever is marring u can say they need to council the couple...and if they dont think u should get married, then they can refuse to marry the couple.
@@babosplace That's really interesting! I've never heard of such a custom. What country/region are you from, if you don't mind me asking?
One of the things I see or hear in videos or reddit reads that is telling is if there is a violent cake smash. Not just a little cake or frosting boop on the nose, but the full on, basically hitting someone's face with a slight cake buffer, or slamming their face into cake on the hard table. Wedding dresses, wedding makeup, and wedding cake are all usually fairly expensive and complicated, so to ruin that effort and money spent on a surprise mean spirited and violent act towards someone you're supposed to love? It just doesn't make sense to me. How do you rebuild trust with someone who treats you that poorly on a day that is supposed to be about how much you love each other?
Birch, yes the tree, is a good YT safe alternative for the b word, but honestly, even if my fiance yelled, "Shut up, woman," at me, that would be it for me. I knew that the c word was more common in Aus, but I hadn't heard that calling someone birch was more...acceptable? as well. If your SO is yelling and cussing at you on our wedding day, then that's a HUGE red flag! Plus, if someone "self medicating" that hard, then they probably have other things that should really happen first, like therapy or counseling, and possibly treatment from a psychiatrist.
As for why a man would marry someone he doesn't like much less love? He's probably found someone he thinks will take care of him. There are lots of men out there who are looking for a maid or second mommy to take care of them and clean up after them. They think that their job is the only effort that they need to put into the relationship. Romance and acts of love beyond their own physical gratification? Nah, they did that while dating to get them that far. Laundry? Nope, that's "women's work"! Cooking and cleaning? Mommy never taught him how, so now he's useless and it's "too late to learn." (Weaponized incompetence) Parenting? Hell no! The woman handles all that. They work a career, then they play or relax leaving the hard work to their partner. Manchildren.
My parents were engaged 6 wks after MEETING, no friendship or getting to know you before dating, and yeah they both rushed into that one without thinking, and it all blew up in my tweens to teens (because middle school didn't suck enough as it was, right?) They've been divorced for over 20 yrs now, longer than they were married. Dad still texts Mom on their anniversary, which is a bit weird, ngl. While I wouldn't call them friends, they are civil, live only a few mi apart, and do still care about each other in some capacity, which is much better than many divorced couples. We've been able to have holidays together and such, and if Dad or I need something small, we're both disabled and are living together, Mom is usually willing to help.
Not exactly a wedding moment, but a wedding downsizing.
My friend group and I were all skeptical of our friend's relationship because his gf seemed to share no interests or beliefs with him, seemed to isolate and control him (he moved out of state and she didn't let him use social media), and money was always extremely tight. Originally they were gonna have a normal wedding open to friends and family, but then decided on a private ceremony to save money. Miles away from all of us, money so tight that they can't afford to have 5ish old friends around.
He got divorced about a year and a half later. Financial stress got to him, though I don't think having polar opposite political views and no shared interests helped either.
Yes, OG narrator! 🤗
Old person
Getting married at 18 is not the flex they think it is.
I believe my cousin was in, or a part of the costume wedding party. Some points of that story sound incredibly familiar
Fun fact! No body has finished the entire video yet! At the time of writing this the video was uploaded 18-19 mins ago.
I have a chrome extension that allows me to watch videos at 4x speed, try again. (didn't understand a single word said in the video)
@@UnderSparked4x? Rookie numbers I prefer 6x ( I have no clue what was happening)
@@UnderSparkedthat’s still 25 minutes 🤓
@@Henryeatspbj6x? Rookie numbers, I watch my videos at 24x! (It goes so fast that the screen is nothing but epilepsy triggers)
@@Thebigpiiggtry that math again 😂
I was at a family members wedding and the night before the wedding the bride found out the groom had been cheating for a while. There was a rapidly deteriorating grandparent and the bride insisted the wedding go ahead or the groom would never see or hear from her again. Their marriage was annulled before they had even returned from the honeymoon of 2 weeks.
Did wedding photography once, was so chaotic I never did it again. Groomsmen jumped in front of the camera constantly even after the bride (my aunt) asked them to stop because they were ruining all the photos. Groom egged them on and asked me to photograph him smushing cake in her face and tried to fire me when I refused.
They divorced 2 years later
My time to shine! It was a lifelong friend, she's like a sister of mine.
Background: She'd known this guy when they were kids, but he moved away for some reason and they lost touch. So he comes back to town and they meet up to catch up...48hrs later they are engaged. I wish I was joking here, but that's the exact timeline here.
I was a bridesmaid, so I got an inside look at how doomed this relationship was from the jump. Friends and family were making bets on when it'd end, no one was excited about it at all, we were just there to be involved in the life event of our loved one. The day of the wedding NO ONE on his side even showed up. None of his family members, none of his friends and none of the wedding party, they had to get her brother to stand in for the man of honor. If you look at the pictures from that day we look annoyed or exhausted, even the bride and groom. If you had no context, you'd think it was from a forced school function or something because we all look like we'd rather be anywhere else.
They lasted a few years, it probably would've ended earlier if she hadn't gotten pregnant and almost died in childbirth.
Any idea why things moved that fast?
I'm not German, but we have a similar tradition in Poland (and apparently many other countries since it started in ancient Rome): the bride and groom take a shot of vodka and throw their glasses backwards over their heads. It doesn't really symbolize anything other than a gesture for good luck. I started doing research and apparently the newlyweds will experience as many years of happiness and good luck as many pieces of broken glass they managed to count
My aunt's 1st wedding. I was around 7 years old, and I was the flower girl. They were highschool sweethearts and in their early 20s. He was in the military and had to travel to another state for training. She wanted to move out with him. My grandma said no because she is the baby of the family. With my mom's persuasion she decided to let her get married before she left because she had to be a "virgin." I don't think she was at this point. She was always a troublemaker. I don't remember much of the wedding as I was so young. But what I know they were having trouble having kids. The doctor told him he needed to lose weight to be able to have kids, and he refused. He ended up cheating, and she met a twice her age guy online and moved in with him before the divorce was finalized. They lasted 6yrs. With 2nd guy, she got married and had 2 kids. After around 13 years, they were divorced. I met him once, but he is super masajonistic and ah. They would call the police for their fights constantly. 4 months after the 2nd divorce, she married a 3rd guy behind everyones back. He is a nice guy, but my aunt constantly cheats on him with her kid's father. Poor man doesn't even know. For the high school sweetheart, idk aperently what my mom tells me he is married and happy.
I listened to this whole thing and two other longer videos while doing some art projects. Thank you for motivating my unhealthy obsession ❤
Hearing Polterabend in an American accent just made my day 😂😂😂
2:37 To be fair I'm sure some dresses can be very limiting, so she might not have been able to. I'm giving the benefit of the doubt.
I used to officiate at weddings.
Generally, the ones who spend way too much on the wedding or have a bridezilla failed a few years in.
That 100 years one was sad but it could have been so cute. X and I have been married for one year but it feels like 100, we've created a lifetime worth of memories and experianced more love than I thought possible. I wouldn't change it for the world and I wish you two the same happiness
Phrasing and tone makes all the difference...
My friend married a sexist idiot. They were dating three months when he proposed (without ring). After that, she paid for everything (she was single mother and still he didn’t pay for anything, only thing he paid for was $50 for his suit). That was first “they not gonna last”. I was bridesmade. When we wanted to make her bachelorette party, he didn’t let her go unless it will be bachelorette/bachelor party, both together. So we all watched how he got wasted, while she must silently sit in the corner. That was second “they not gonna last”. We all told her not to marry him, but she was pregnant and didn’t want to be alone with two kids. So she married him. And after ceremony, I was talking to her uncle and cousins, when groom came and start talking about my boobas, like if I was not there! He start asking them if they are real or not, and how he touched (he didn’t, I would never let such discusting guy touch me!). I said my piece of mind about him right there, he was angry I humiliated him. I think he deserved it. Well, they didn’t last even a year. He stoped working a few weeks after wedding, forced her to go back to work right after birth so they have money, but still wanted her to do everything at home. She was nothing more than maid and brood mare (the baby will be boy, or they will have emediately another. They had boy, and when she get pregnant again, he forced her to abort, because she couldn’t work if pregnant, and he had his boy already). She also find out he owed a lot of money, and because she married him, now half of it is on her. The last thing was, when he got jealous because she talked to another guy and he beat her. Badly. 😢
When the bride's sister called the groom a jerk during the toast.
After the reception, my dad with his horrible anger issues that only begun to surface after he and mom got married, began bickering with his family in front of my mom's family. He also refused to meet guests, said he needed to take a nap. During their reception. They're still married but I don't want to think about whether she even loves him anymore. Kinda depressing to watch your parents crumble and fall like that. Their relationship is one of the main reasons why I'm very hesitant and scared to get married.
Also he was the one who really pursued to win over my mom's love in the first place. Idk what even happened to that and neither of them seem to want to talk about it.
my oldest sister's wedding. she married a narcissistic abuser. everyone was telling her not to but she did anyway, got divorced 8 years later. most traumatic thing in her already trauma riddled life. her current bf is a really cool n awesome dude and im glad she has been able to heal and learn from what she has been through. she and i have always been close and ive always looked up to her. she is thriving now
Woah this is nuts! My brother had a narcissistic wife who also had bpd and she was very abusive, he called the police on her and he got arrested, I bought him a camera so he could put in his living room, she got arrested and they divorced a year later! But he still needs a ton therapy and he hasn’t been able to trust women and he’s gay now.
@@vanisebassett1001that escalated
THE RETURN OF THE KING
It's amazing how people can ignore such big red flags. The one with the groom playing video games right before the ceremony was just unbelievable. Thanks for putting these together!
I could see it as a destresser if the bride was ok with it
You’re back! So glad!!!!!!!
I also got married in a Temple, wih far better results. And I was not the cheeriest bride, I admit, because I have brutal anxiety and am Autistic and we’re famously bad at change. So even though I wanted this, I was in a state, man. And since the nearest Temple was four hours from my parents’ house, we had the wedding a couple of days before the reception.
So after the wedding my parents suggested going out to lunch with the people who had been to the wedding, just a handful of family. But I didn’t know the city (and had no appetite what with the anxiety) so we went to Olive Garden because my brother loved the unlimited breadsticks. I mean, fair, but then that douchenozzle spent the next hour dropping political topics, like meat into a pool of piranha, and watching my dad and my husband’s ex-step-mom, two know-it-all old farts, have a “well, actually” competition. This is both a bad memory for a wedding day, and kind of a hilarious story. He just had to feed that ADHD need for mental stimulation…
Anyway, the good news is we had nowhere to go but up after that. Nice wedding, very peaceful and sacred, stupid lunch, chill reception because I knew I’d hate anything too fancy so it was just an open house kind of thing. And our 31st anniversary is in May. And we’re still in the Church. Can’t blame the girl in this video for being disillusioned after what she went through, though. Homeboy should have changed his mind then, rather than torture her. Sounds like a real creep.
And if anyone is still reading… we went to a wedding a few years later that fit the description here. Everything was for show. Groom’s mom got her officiant’s whatever so she could perform the wedding, made a comment about them sleeping together before they got married (dude… this is why we have someone else officiate), the whole wedding party was plastered BEFORE the wedding… so of course at the reception they’re staggering around all over the place. The only path to the bathroom was a narrow route between extra chairs because the venue seemed to think just shoving off to the side was fine. Only one person could move through at once and one sloppy groomsman always seemed to be at the other end when my pregnant self was trying to get through and he always decided he got to go first. And yeah… they didn’t last long. When the main focus seems to be on presenting a big show instead of starting a marriage I tend to doubt how long it’ll last.
I liked other narrator. He was funny, had some real charm. Always happy to hear your voice as well.
I felt real bad for that feller that couldn't read, until I heard he was cheating on his wife WHILE SHE WAS GIVING BIRTH. Nah son, he's for the streets. But fr, our education system is fucked if an adult can go through and come out without being literate.
Hi UnderSparked, I'm curious what that racing game is called in the background? I haven't played a racing game since I was a kid and this one looks neat
For story 46: That guy was in the most uncomfortable situation. Like how do you not leave when someone's underage daughter is bouncing around like that? At least ask someone to get her in a better fit.
BEST NARRATOR!! 😊😊😊😊
Bride’s two year old grandson put his hands up the officiant’s skirt mid ceremony; my dad shouted ‘(bride’s son) is training him young I see’. To my surprise they’re going on five years
All these stories firmly cement my belief that 25 and younger is too young to marry
Such a captivating upload.
I got married over a decade ago and went through with it because my dad got the day off to go to the wedding. We broke up three days before the wedding. My now ex-husband filed for divorce and it was finalized just short of four years into the marriage. The marriage was messy. I was afraid of him and living in my car to keep myself safe. He called me one day and said that I was going to give him a child or he was moving on, I refused and he left. Filing for a divorce is the nicest thing that he ever did for me.
"The bride was belligerently drunk on their wedding day". Fun but only for unrelated spectators.
Edited to add that I laughed so loud I startled the neighbours when I got to "the drunk groom had a fight w a parked car that looked at him the wrong way".
First story.... yeah I get the guys issues. I have red hair, pale skin and I can get sun poisoning from the sun. An I did get really sick from school once because my innocent pale blue baseball hat might be "gang related" and from the 30 minute gym class I was so ill. I got to wear my hat after my mom chewed them out. Figured just sharing incase someone wonders how bad. Though I do wear sunscreen when out heh.
I have to speak up for my girl Jane Austen. Her romances are all about people understanding, honoring, and getting to know their spouse's character thoroughly BEFORE marriage and have tons of cautionary tales for when people don't take the time to open their eyes.
Edit: and as a word of advice FROM a conservativ(ish, biblical, not traditional) Christian, if a supposed conservative Christian is marrying someone who is not, best case scenario is they're making a horrible mistake. One of my best friends did that and her faith is the single biggest strain on their marriage. Ironically, her husband doesn't realize it's also the greatest boon for him as she takes her role as an ever-improving wife very, very seriously.
Ever improving wife? Aka doormat?
There is a sort of money dance in my region. You'd give a bill (possibly tied into a knot), get a shot, and dance with the bride. Usually these are small bills like 1's or 5's. More 1's than 5's. The occasional 10 or 20 is slipped in, but usually 1's.
That's creepy. Not all traditions are worth keeping.
Blackface tradition bad. Money dance bad.
@@JoshSweetvale......wtf
My husband wants me to tell the story of his horrible cousin's terrible wedding. So, he (Groom) was a good 10 or so years older than his future wife, bragged about how he was gonna go home and get her pregnant shortly after telling me how he had to wait for her to turn 16 so as not to get arrested. He had long standing alcohol and drug issues that his parents did nothing to get him help for & could barely hold a job down. So anyway, he gets her pregnant like 3 times in short succession & they decide to get married & play the big happy family with all their kids & the rest of the family in attendance.
My husband met Groom for a swift drink prior to the ceremony & he was already completely plastered. During the wedding, he nearly passed out at the altar & had to be held up by his younger bro who was Best Man - his mother's response to seeing him in that state was to shit talk him, quite loudly, during the ceremony. Maybe you should have done more to keep him sober??
We all retire to the reception venue, which was a lovely pub but very inaccessible... my husband is a full-time wheelchair user, so the steps between rooms & lack of a disabled toilet were huge problems & would have ruined the experience for me if it wasn't ruined by the rest of the night. We had our 2 kids who were with us, maybe 6 and 4 years old & so obvs I'm paying attention to them when not lifting my husband up or down steps or taking him to the mens toilets to support him at the urinals. And then I see that one of Groom's kids, a little girl maybe 3 or 4, is just running around barefoot everywhere. There's broken glass in the cobbles outside!! Broken glass in the garden!! Random dogs!!! There was an A road the pub fronted on to, that had a 60mph limit and that girl was constantly so close to just bolting into that road!!! I chased after her for over an hour. I mentioned it to Groom & he just said "she's not one for shoes, our (nickname)". The Bride didn't seem to care much either, despite how they both spent 80% of their time smoking outside neither of them did anything to keep that girl safe. Occasionally other people would help me keep her diverted & occupied for a bit, but if you took your eyes off her she'd run off at full speed.
Groom's mother, horrible witch that she is, commented on how I was running around after my husband, my kids & now her grandkid & how hard it must be & how hard I must work. I just shrug & say it's just how it is. She immediately turns to my husband & asks what he does all day if I'm out at work? Is he LAZY? He was looking after our kids. We left soon after that.
Groom has done several stints in rehab but still isn't clean, last I heard his witch of a mother finally banned him from the house after he stole some jewellery of hers for drug money. Bride & Groom are no longer together & I heard the Bride had lost custody of the kids after social workers showed up & she was doing coke while the kids wandered the neighbourhood. We don't see much of my husband's aunt & uncle anymore. Also, for context my husband's disability was from birth, and he's been in a wheelchair full-time since high school - his aunt, uncle & cousin were fully aware of his access needs & just ignored it *even though uncle is himself disabled*. He refuses to accept it though, just staggering around with crutches or sticks instead of accepting a wheelchair would make his life better. (He clearly thinks he's too good for that sort of thing.) I see his other son regularly, he's doing good & has his life together, but the rest of them can sod right off.
An interesting benefit of having a wedding that I had not anticipated is that the process is so fucking stressful that it will put your relationship to the test and quickly expose any issues or warning signs. Provided you plan the wedding yourself.
22:44 When you decide to form your wedding around the "Interracial" tag
Aa he’s back yay
When she stabbed him in the back with a power drill before the ceremony.
Yay! I love your voice!
*This narrator is my favourite*
Marriage is a important thing to enter into, it’s disappointing so many people don’t understand that yet enter into it only to divorce months or years later, obviously there are genuine reasons to divorce I’m talking about the people who should not have gotten married but did.
Also (we) need to stop the overspending on weddings it’s ew.
what game is this? i’ve watched a bunch of your videos now and i feel so calm watching this, i gotta play it
I went to my ex-boyfriend’s wedding. The bride and groom were 19 and getting married after the bride gave birth to their baby. No one except the bride and groom thought it would last. Literally nobody. The entire wedding party looked like they were at a funeral. (Though that might have been because they were all hung over.) Anyway, too young, too immature and not getting married for good reasons. The wedding was fine, though, except for the grim looks on the wedding party. And, yeah, they got divorced not long after.
I was a karaoke host/dj for a wedding. It was in their back yard. Everyone got absolutely wasted. Bride passed out. Groom and one of brides male friends got in a fist fight. Noise ordinance said we had to be quiet after 10, and I turned off the machine at 10 sharp, because the neighbors had called several times and 3 cop cars were in plain sight on the road waiting to bust us lmao. (I was sober, I saved them from sooo much trouble). From what I heard, it lasted 3 months.
It's already bad enough to speak ill of someone behind their back, but if you're making fun of them, it shows you don't respect them. Wanting to marry that person under these circumstances is nonsensical, even from a twisted perspective
My cousin's wedding when Iwas in eighth grade. Nothing really stuck out that told me it wasn't going to last, i just knew. My cousin's mom, my aunt, had been divorced twice and was my cousin's primary role model. So if anything tipped me off to my cousin's first marriage not lasting, it was that.
The first story: 💀
I have a story:
It was my cousin's wedding. I found out about it when my mother said she wanted me to be a groomsmen at the wedding. I had to fly back to South America for it. No biggie. My mom and I planned a 10 day trip since i hadn't be back in 15 years.
I knew it was doomed when I casually mentioned that I hoped this guy was better than her ex. My mom corrected me. She was marrying the ex. I was horrified. See, this guy had once thrown a pot of boiling water on her. She has scars on her chest and face. And she was marrying him.
Well it turns out that i had to pickup a bridesmaid and take her to the church. We arrived 30 minutes early....to an empty church. It was me, the bridesmaid, my mother, our driver and the priest. Gradually the other groomsmen and bridesmaids arrived. Then the groom arrived. And still no guests. My cousin arrived an hour late. And we had the service with just my mom and the driver as the guests. It was one of the weirdest weddings I'd ever been to. We then all left for the reception and found everyone. None of the guests came to the service, they were all at the reception. I gave the wedding a year. They divorced after 18 months. But are still together because they have children.
Story 8: sorry to burst your bubble, he sounds like a narcissist and he probably won't be thinking of or wondering about her especially if he did the leaving. Narcissists generally don't unless they think they can still get something later.
When she invited all her exes. The cried to me about how they didnt come. Two weeks into the marriage she conplained about how she only will have one man and he isnt even attractive. All i could ask is why would you marry him 🙄 she is 3 years in and having an affair. I stopped talking to her after that, saying her husband is a good man and she should just leave him.
You should tell the husband 😢 poor guy doesn’t deserve to be treated like that
A cousin confessed to us, his family, the night or morning of the wedding day (it was like 12 or 1am) that he didn’t want to marry his girlfriend. Everyone was livid. We had been decorating the ball room for many hours and we were sleepy. I don't know how, but my aunts convinced him to continue with what was planned and honor his word.
Wowww that "frickin Jane Austen novel" girl reminds me of this so much..
3 days into knowing each other I moved in with him (I was homeless) 6 moths into relationship got engaged. 1 year into relationship he got violent for the first time. Idk when he became abusive, probably around our engagement (which btw was in public so I couldn't say no).
We were engaged for more than 3 years, I kept finding excuses. He was still better than the one before, though I had a feeling something was wrong..
I have BPD+depression over 10 years at that point +anxiety +ND +LOOOOOOTS of trauma +no home +addictions (that I successfully fought untill he came into picture).
He's a narcissist and also 5 years older than me, so it was reeeeally easy for him to manipulate me.
I was a kind, gentle but broken person back then.
We broke up because of the war that blew up in our country. He did disgraceful things and rven tried to cheat on me. I could bare a lot. But not this.
Now I'm 15km away from the front, with my new bf who is a soldier, clean from ❄️ for 2 years.
Thank you for listening.. this kind of stories always trigger this memories..
If I ever 'picked up' a homeless woman as a housemate, I'd be _very_ dilligent about _separating_ our living arrangement.
People need space to be themselves.
Heh, that includes me.
Not doing that has objectifying vibes.
My boyfriend and I went with my family to Kansas for my cousin's wedding. The wedding was as cheap and tacky as can be. The whole thing took place in her family's backyard, the "wedding" cake was just a Dr. Who birthday cake with the words "Congratulations [bride's name] and [groom's name]" lazily slapped onto it. There were also Dr. Who birthday streamers dotted everywhere. They also wanted to do this entire event in August at night. Everyone was just shivering in their seats while the bride and groom were talking with the pastor. For their "vows" they played an extremely cheesy love song and just stood there in silence throughout that entire song. No one was dancing or even singing along, just uncomfortable silence. Once it was finally over and they did their kiss, everyone was rushing to the nearest fire pit to finally get warm. The food at the party was as cheaply made as you'd expect, and the cake had tasted even worse than it looked. I knew this marriage wouldn't last from that whole experience and I was correct. I found out that they divorced a few months after the wedding due to the husband being an extreme deadbeat waste of space. I also found out why they even got married in the first place. Turns out that she had gotten pregnant with this pos and that both families pressured them to get married before the baby arrived. A few months after the marriage, she misscarried, and that was the end of their life as husband and wife.
Ok the still married 25 years later made me lol 😂
the q&a lmaooooo
I'm calling it now, that husband in the first story was a friggin vampire.
Imagine letting someone who slept with your husband be in your life at all, let alone your bridal party.
“Sun allergy” 😂
It's technically correct. Photosensitivity works similar to an allergy. You're exposed to the sunlight, your body reacts negatively, sometimes violently.
"I take thee, Rachel..."
When they meet their partner on a cruise ship, while they were drunk the entire trip, then later get married without telling any of their family after dating for less than a year, only after that they obtained citizenship in partner's country of origin, and all of this was done before said individual got their own life together and stopped drinking. = "We all saw it coming from light-years away." said everyone who knew them.
My takeaway from all of that was: the partner introduced me to my favorite sorbet ice cream, the one time I visited them, it was a shame when it disappeared from the shelves. But even good things can go away someday.
i love the goldcoast bro
Probably my Uncle's third.
It’s not even at the wedding stage yet. It’s just that he’s gone to the same exact look (but younger each time) three times now.
It’s to the point that his oldest son from the second marriage (who is also my oldest cousin) is completely aware his dad has a type.
First dude is a vampire
How do you not realize up until after you kiss the bride that you “might be gay”.
Waited until marriage?
Every wedding I went to.
54:12. I live that the terrain there lost its textures
I love your pronunciation of Polterabend!
So I wasn't at the wedding. I haven't even been around my cousin her since the wedding, since we only talked on facebook and she married into an amish or memnonite or whatever family. I haven't been there, but my sister has since they share a summer cottage, and from everything she says, my cousin is just... Not herself. Always in a bad mood, always annoyed, complaining about the fact that they have to do work on the cottage since 'her husband doesn't want to work on his vacation'. Well, okay, but it's a 100-year-old cabin that didn't get wifi until 2020. Only got a modern phone line in THIS YEAR.
Last year my sister discovered that, in the six years since my father died, NOBODY had cleared out the brush at the top of the hill. Not once. So, my sister, in between preparing for her own wedding, helping my septugenarian and extremely unwell from Vitamin D poisoning mother, and rushing back home to take care of her disabled brother (hi), managed to bundle up all the brush at the top of the hill. My father, who would do at least some of that every day they were there when he was alive, would usually clear out one-two bundles of wood a year. Sister cleared out ELEVEN bundles, in only about two weeks, and drove ten of those to the dump in her truck. Only left ONE behind when cousin came up for her time in the cabin. Cousin got angry and chewed out my (rail-thin, 73-year-old) mother for not having done it and leaving them with something to do. Literally all they needed to do was carry a bundle of sticks to the car, drive to the dump, and throw it in.
The place is literally falling apart and cousin won't give it to sister, but also refuses to do anything to take care of it. Despite marrying a woodworker, and it's a wood cabin, she insists he shouldn't have to do anything because he doesn't want to work on vacation. Which, okay, pal, but then you gotta find the money to pay someone ELSE for it.
I know people will counter me and say this didn’t happen to them but every no kid wedding I went to in my friend group ended up divorced in 4 yrs. If I see that on a wedding I know to go with a cheaper gift and not attend. If they make it to the 10 yr mark I will send a nice anniversary gift but I have yet to need to do that.
IMO - the no kid wedding is always sign that couple can't handle stress. Thats how you know its gonna be a sh*tty marriage in the end. In my circle of friend - we got wiser and strict RSVP was imposed. Only immediate family kids and babies are welcome. They are not rejecting kids... they just have a strict head count. LOL
I disagree. Some people are really happy but really don't like kids. We all know many kids can be very hard to control and may even cause huge embarrassing problems. It's a reality, it happens. Not always due to bad parenting, there are several circumstances involved.
But it's a very specific form of stress. I think it's a fair choice wanting to avoid this specific risk whenever you have the right to. (Naturally I'm assuming the couple don't want kids, if that's not the case then I think the discussion does become more complicated).
@@ufazig I agree that every couple is different but my experience was what it was. I spent tons of money on weddings for my friends only to have them divorce really quickly so I just temper my spending now. Covid weddings don’t count in this example but we also got uninvited from all of them because I wasn’t immediate family so I still did big gifts.
@@ufazig also my favorite part of my wedding was my high school teacher’s kids stealing the DJ’s microphone and being super goofy 3 yr olds. Honestly it is my only good memory of my wedding.
@@alexacarrillo4339 That's fair. In fact, I think one possibility that everyone should at least consider is that for some unknown reason, we might be in contact with a larger quantity of exceptions. What I mean by this is, for example: Not all childfree/no-kids couple fit your description, maybe most couples don't, but you're simply having more contact with couples that do fit this criteria, and you based this on several reoccurring behaviours around you.
It's logical. I might have done the same thing, specially because nobody has an obligation of "spending a lot in gifts", and it's frustrating to see it "wasted.