5 Tools That Changed My Personality Type
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- čas přidán 10. 01. 2022
- In this ~personal~ video, Chelsea gives us a behind-the-scenes look at how she changed her personality type from chaotic and disorganized to Type A and reliable.
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Chelsea can you do a video on how you use your spreadsheet? Do a small goal - if possible and show the process. Thanks
I’m becoming a type A thanks to your channel, thank you!
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Chelsea is very much that cool successful aunt with a mildly checkered past
Yes! Or, in my case, that very cool successfully niece w/a mildly checkered past 🤣
i am both 🤣
Laughed out loud at this 😂
OMG this is the best explanation ever!! Absolutely on point!
this is the exact vibe
Being a Type A is also associated with hypertension, and heart disease. The message of this video is about being more organized not being a Type A !!
- Sincerely a Psychologist who loves TFD
Oh good. Haha I was like, I'm not about that type A life.
I knew it! It's unhealthy to be a perfectionist.
@@Mondoshawn Perfectionism is associated with higher levels of anxiety
Definitely this. I am very very Type A and deal with a few health issues due to my obsession with perfectionism and need to control. It's not always a good thing.
I WAS THINKING THAT THANK YOU
I'm a night owl and introvert, 100% agree that either (and both) make it way harder to function in our society. Great video - thank you! This gives me hope that I can cultivate some good type-A behaviors.
I'm a bigger night owl than Chelsea described (going to bed between 1-2am and waking up between 9-10am would be a dream for me lol), and I agree that does make things a bit less productive in life. I will say tho at least three are improvements in technologies that help people like us out in mitigating that. Little things like online banking (I can't remember the last time I've stepped into a bank), online shopping, grocery delivery, online tax prep, working from home, etc.
I still desire to make myself into more of a morning person tho, every day is a new battle!
Yep. Same here.
I feel you on this. I actually prefer to sleep in the daylight. I used to feel ashamed of this but then I learned some of us descend from night watchmen. We would have been the people who took watch over the village at night. It’s hard because the world doesn’t operate for our natural body rhythms but I don’t feel bad about it anymore. Most of my family are night owls and we aren’t lazy. We have jobs and we work hard, we just prefer to do it later in the day, even late at night.
Covid the Great Equalizer. No more nosey coworkers and their funny looks and mental notes of start time, bathroom schedule and weird tics at the desk.
Be yourself
Great video 👍. I really recommend watching all of it, but here’s a quick overview of her 5 tools:
1. Spreadsheets (especially helpful to break down tasks into small pieces)
2. Moodboards (can help with compulsive spending)
3. Accountability buddies (friends work best)
4. Therapy (helps to reframe how you think about yourself)
5. Constant reminders (calendars, alarms, …)
I'm actually crying right now. I'm going into intense daily therapy starting tomorrow because I'm having a lot of difficulty right now. Just hearing someone say that "I can do it" made all of my emotions come rushing out. Thank you.
Therapy is amazing. Good luck to you and congrats on taking that step!
I hope your first session went well. Good luck to you.
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I hope u get the tools u need luv.
This is exactly what I needed to hear at this point in time. I have been following TFD since my early teens and this is my first time commenting. I graduated college and entered my first corporate job this year. It was possible for me to remain ahead of the curve without needing to put real effort into it so far but I am finally starting to see that I can't just 'wing it' forever. Realizing that I relate to Chelsea's old self to a horrifying degree was the wake up call I needed. Planning on making real changes in my life with a friend's help and I hope I can come back to this comment in another 6 months to tell you guys I did it! Thanks TFD
Hey! 👋 How's it going?
The next 6-8 months we can make so much progress. Hope the rest of your 2022 was full of milestones!
Chelsea’s mood board notebook was so wholesome I almost cried a little.
I started using a bullet journal for work and a journal for my personal life. Never understood the idea of self-expression until I started thinking about what I wanted to tell future-me about current-me's worldview. Chelsea's journal (colors, imaginary versions of a space she wants to occupy) is a goal.
I don't really care what topic Chelsea is discussing, i'm just here to watch her be sassy.
I'd literally watch Chelsea talk about what happened to yellow phone books, I don't care 😂
SAME.
I love her laugh. Kills me.
Yaaasss!! 🔥🔥🔥
sassy pants
Hell yea!
Love this video! Licensed mental health counselor here- the concept of personality is pretty loose and not super functional for a lot of the things we want to use it for. I often redirect folks to consider patterns of behaviors and be mindful that none of us are as "predictable" as we often believe
I would LOVE a spreadsheet overview, especially for your moving out process.
It might be too late but as someone who moved more times than I can count. Put everything in boxes even things you don't feel like need to go in boxes. And tag everything and go deep. Ideally heading and several paragraphs. And put very important things you can't live without in one or two boxes so it can be accessed quickly and easilyin the final destination. Good luck with your move! 🚛
It’s so good to hear you’re a fellow night owl. I am 100% happier, more energetic and social in the evening and my favorite bedtime is around 2-3 am. In the professional world this is a major struggle and I drag a lot in the morning. The working world is just structured against us! Ugh
Chelsea’s origin story reminds me of the movie Confessions of a Shopaholic.
The book was better
@@Luna-ml7id good to know, I’ll add it to my TBR
« My authentic self takes a lot of effort » - I love it! That’s what I’ve been saying, practicing and preaching to the people around me. This mindset will change your life for sure. Chelsea spitting out gems !
Just in time for my new personality for 2022! 💕☺️
same here! :D good luck and loads of patience to us all! ✨
I’m an introvert with ADHD, but I didn’t know I had ADHD until a little over a year ago. I just thought I was lazy, stupid, unmotivated, and just not capable of achieving the things I wanted. Turns out there’s a reason for that, and I can fix it.
While I do have neurological reasons that make life a little harder, I have learned to find the right supports (meds and therapy and a LOT of self acceptance) that help my mind catch up with reality. I love the way you phrased that - our mental perception needs to catch up with reality. I’m becoming a morning person, I’m more realistic with what I can do with my time, and I’m less afraid of setting goals. I do think I am still type B, in the sense that I’m not motivated by external rewards, but rather I am motivated by my own expectations of myself. Instead of wanting to be the best among everyone else, I just want to be the best I imagine myself to be. I think just having that awareness has made a major impact on my quality of life.
Right on!! And being intrinsically motivated (motivated from within) That is very much a type A personality trait. Keep up the wonderful work on your awesome self :)
Congrats! I have my first appointment with an ADHD specialist in a couple weeks, but I might also have autism so idk. I was wondering, if you feel comfortable sharing, what did you realistically learn in therapy for ADHD? I have some bias against therapy from going undiagnosed for so long and having multiple experiences with practitioners that gave unhelpful advice.
@@amentrison2794 I had been going for several years as needed, but in therapy leading up to and after my diagnosis, I learned not to judge my thoughts and feelings. I’m a very logical person but I also feel things strongly, and often I’m too hard on myself. I’m working on being neutral about things instead of thinking “wow, you’re stupid, why didn’t you already know this?” or “you’re so lazy, why can’t you just fold your laundry?” now I say to myself, “here’s a chance to learn something” or “it’s just laundry, I will get around to it.”
I’m also learning how to work with my strengths and not keep trying to force a square peg into a round hole. If something just is not working for me, like a morning routine, I can just change it. I don’t have to mask my symptoms and try to be like someone else when my brain is different. I also lean in to when my brain wants to hyper-focus, it can be a strength when applied to something I am interested in!
Fellow ADHDer working on self (radical) acceptance and being realistic with my time and being my best self! I don't know why I keep trying to be *that* person who finishes 25 important tasks a day. 100% agree that my own expectations of myself are a main motivator (or a dismotivator if they're too unrealistic). Also with C/DBT just giving myself consistent affirmations no matter what I got done is becoming rewarding. I don't fail I simply did my best for *that* day given where I am in my journey
Hi I’m someone who feels similar to you and I’ve been wondering if I’ve had adhd for a while but am finding it difficult to find a doctor. Can I know what pushed you to finally see a doctor? No one else around me seems to believe that I have adhd and I’m at a point where I’m wondering if I can just figure things out and do well on my own
You can tell how happy Chelsea was when she brought out her mood board! I can relate. When my cousins and I planned a trip to New York they turned to me and asked when we arrived what we were doing. I was like “thank you for asking” as I took out my bullet journal and showed the map I made of Manhattan with dots and codes as to where to go and what subways to take
I loved this ! I regret not watching earlier. As someone who was always told that I'm disorganised, scattered, always late, etc. I really want to tell those people around me : "this in not all of me. And you saying this is my identity is not helping". So i love this idea that progress and growing is possible. Thank you !
I would love to have an episode of TFD with @howtoADHD I just got done talking to my therapist about how overwhelmed my adhd can be. And even thinking about doing these feels so overwhelming as a person with ADHD.
This is why Chelsea is my favorite
The anecdote about learning Spanish was so relatable. I never liked French in school and would get sent to the office because I would cause problems in class. Now, 10 years later, I have a partner who’s fluent in French and I have never been more motivated to learn it 🇫🇷
HELP: I would love to see your spreadsheets in action - starting with your wardrobe seasonal change spreadsheet and how you use spreadsheets to prioritize your goals.
SUGGESTION: Add a color wheel and a list of your favorite decor colors to your Mood Board notebook to help find complementary colors for your paint colors.
GRATITUDE: Thanks for this thoughtful video and for sharing your growth story and the key lessons you've learned through therapy.
I absolutely love the way your comment is formatted
I totally agree about seeing the spreadsheets in action!
Girl when she said she had a spreadsheet with a mood board I thought How can you be my leader? Show me the way oh wise one🤣😂🤣
@@mchicago01 yeah she’s so productive
I would love to see even a faux spreadsheet and faux mood board. It looks so awesome and helpful! Please and thank you!
“I’m a night owl and I’m still worthy” 😂 I needed to hear this
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Could you make a "How To" video on scheduling reminders and the tools you suggest for making them effective and efficient? And spread sheets, I am at a total loss on how to utilize them for pretty much anything.
Thank you for this video, it has come at a time of need for me and I am sure many others. You give hope to thoes of us still struggling to find our way to a more responsible "adult" self.
Or red for cancelation put no on attending and it will cross it out but leave it there, you can invite people attending via attending
I think this is my favorite TFD video to date! I'm also and introverted night owl, so thanks for helping me realize I'm not simply "lazy" or "bad at mornings." My mornings just start later!!!
This was probably the most helpful (for me) video you’ve made. It’s a freeing feeling that I can become the personality types I admire and that it doesn’t always have to be a fight against just “who I am”
You look smashing in your new sweater, love! And to be honest, I think your glasses make the sweater even more glam and the sweater makes your cute glasses pop! Rock out with it lady!
I was type A aF until I had baby #3. My life has basically been 100% chaos ever since.
It's beautiful
IDK what i loved more, the adorable sweater flex, the therapy dance or the spongebob sing along. :-D Love a happy, thriving Chelsea!
*I love the sweater too!*
I always hated anything resembling mathematics and when we learned to use spreadsheets in class, I thought "This is too hard to understand for me, I suck at math and it's useless". Now I actually enjoy keeping track of my monthly expenses on google sheets and I'm proud that I managed to create a simple personalized sheet from scratch.
I love Sheets and Excel because they do the math for you
I feel this so much! I literally just said to my new boss last week “it’s so funny I told you I don’t like to work with numbers, but I just spent my entire Friday evening in a new tool (Notion) that consisted of organizing data and creating formulas”. I sent this on Slack at like 12am 🤣
I’ve noticed that my “i suck at math” attitude stems from math class ptsd 💀 like it wasn’t the easiest subject for me and teachers didn’t really spend lots of time individually w students to help them progress so i felt like i fell behind and was just somehow moving along w the rest of my class.
Come university and I have to take calculus and statistics for my major. I held off calculus till my senior year. Stats was incredibly fun and I was somehow? Great at it. I memorized the formulas and everything because I attributed everything to the stuff I was learning for my major. It wasn’t “math” class.
When it was time for calc, I fucking sucked horrible on the first time. Then i buckled down and I was actually doing well!! It was so weird because growing up i always thought “u just suck at math” when it’s like “no u just need someone to explain it in a more clear and relatable way for you”
Right? It’s so fun to make spreadsheets especially to run little tests on future results
I started reteaching myself algebraic concepts like the quadratic formula, and it makes me wish i had known how to study/learn when I was in highschool.
Wowzers. I'm working through basically all of those adjectives mentioned up front & self confidence in therapy right now & this was 100% on point & exactly what I needed to hear. I will for sure be rewatching this one. Forever appreciate your open realness, Chelsea!
This is one of the greatest videos you've ever made. Changing personality type is so important. You are incredible! Thank you!
That sweater is 🔥🔥🔥 Also, I love how you didn’t necessarily “abandon” past likes, desires, or interests, but rather developed healthier relationships with existing aspects of your personality as you grew into the person you are today! That’s so inspiring 😊
Hi Chelsea
Loved this video! Please do a sequel showing your different spreadsheets. I’ve tried making spreadsheets in the past but they quickly become overwhelming/unusable. Thanks!
Seconded!
Chelsea, thank you!!! This is literally groundbreaking and I want to share it with all my friends now! I felt so vindicated for always trying to improve my approach to doing stuff!
I actually relate to this a lot now you bring it up. As I have grown into my late twenties, I am really discovering a part of myself with agency - organised, accountable, no longer procrastinating. It is a virtuous cycle where I feel much more confident in dealing with the world, therefore less avoidant. I think our routines and adaptations to our environment shape us much more than is acknowledged. I now take a sense of pride in being reliable, and not answering every email with an apology or excuse for the delay(!) Thanks for the vid, Chelsea.
We are who we practice being. So, insight gives us the skill to objectively self assess. Judgment gives us the skill to decide what traits we choose to continue and discontinue. Practice over time realizes those choices.
Girl! This video is everything. So insightful and needed right now. I'm in the process of being a self made type A! Thank you for the content!
Ahhhh spreadsheets! Made a beautiful one for my internship applications to keep track of companies I wanted to apply to, deadlines, location of position, coverletter written, and application submitted. So satisfying and definitely helped keep track of everything!
FANTASTIC video, Chelsea. I loved hearing about how our attitudes and behaviors go hand in hand for helping each of us become the person we want to be.
This video was so bomb on so many levels! Like, "who you were, isn't who you have to be". Woo! Chelsea was preachin' that good word! lol! Really needed this one! Thanks love! :D
I completely feel this. I'm now coming out of a PhD and while I still feel that in a hot mess others have called me super organised.
This was amazing! Thank you Chelsea!
Thank you, Chelsea, for the inspiration!
Hey! I absolutely love TFD and really appreciate your tips! I also love your support for therapy, but for anyone with chronic mental illness- therapy may be a consistent and long term necessity. I think it’s important to go to therapy with goals in mind, but also recognize that just like medicine and exercise, therapy may be a tool that folks consistently utilize for years and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Thank you for your transparency & encouragement!
as someone with a similar past relationship to money that really damaged my self esteem, i needed this reminder that who we choose to be and work hard to be IS who we are. i feel so motivated and inspired to set reminders, update my calendar, commit to my budget. thank you ❤️
Wow! This was the video I never knew I needed! Thank you so much for making it!
OLY CRAP! This just motivated me intensely. Especially to hear the beginning of how big of a mess you were. Im semi new to his channel and I just thought you were like always this well planned A+ student and all well rounded person your whole life. I wasnt aware you can change your type.
It really helps to know how different your life and behavior used to be. It’s so easy to just assume that everyone with their life seemingly together has always been that way, but knowing it’s not the case for every one gives me hope that people can change when they want to and try
this was the best video you’ve ever made!!
I needed this today. Thank you, TFD.
Excellent, Chelsea! Thank you et bravo to you!
this video came right on time. I needed to hear this TODAY. Right now. Would love more videos on changing behaviors and habits. Thank you!
I noticed the sweater and loved it before you even mentioned it. Well done.
I'd love if you shared your wardrobe change-over spreadsheet! Also proud to say I've been a TFD follower since the early days (not since the Tumblr-era but around the time Complexly gave it a boost). I continue to be in awe of your (very sustainable) growth and willingness to change and I can't wait to see what TFD becomes in the next few years
For me the one tool that has really helped me has been bullet journaling, it sort of forced me to do a lot of those other things too, like having spreadsheets and reminders.
*and yes we night owls are the real oppressed class
That sweater is gorgeous! I can tell it's soft like the cable knit detail, structure, and puff sleeves. What a steal.
I’m loving the notebook moodboard! Or a perfect option for a vision board instead of a poster on a wall! Love the inspiration thank you😁
I need to be allowed to be a type B woman in the world- still doing the important ish but not in charge of every event and looking perfectly polished. God knows the men in my life aren’t held to this standard of organization!
Great suggestions! And your therapy-specific comments are especially bang on. As a CBT/DBT therapist, it’s so gratifying to see people’s perceptions of themselves evolve to align with new habits.
This was such an excellent video, thank you!
"you can create the person that you want to be" 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 let this video be the inspiration to improve myself this year! two weeks isn't too late for a new years resolution, right ?😅 you're awesome chelsea!
I found this video to be filled with so much value and extremely relevant to where I’m in my life at the moment! I will probably come back to this video again as a reminder 😉 about who I want to be and how I can get there!
Great video! Thanks Chelsea
Can we please get a follow up on exactly how you used the spreadsheet in conjunction with your mood board notebook to plan the purchase and renovations on your new home? I’m fascinated by the idea of this process. Also, in the last video you mentioned using an RSS feed to get updates on new listings. Please show me the way ma’am. I’m loving these process ideas!
Chelsea, what you say is so accurate. And so uplifting
I love this, the last bit about authenticity taking effort reminds me of a mantra in a meditation on insight timer- "presence takes effort"
This was so good!
This was a great video. The mood board and spreadsheet idea was awesome.
Really loved this video, very helpful ❤
Chelsea I love your advice so much!! Thank you for this! It helps give me an idea on how to plan things & succeed! Thank you! ❤
Love this! I became a runner by slowly challenging the notion that I wasn't a runner by slowly building up the amount I ran. Did I feel like a runner when I only ran for 20 seconds at a time? Not really, but by intentionally working towards that goal I was able to turn myself into a runner. It's so tempting to just stick with what feels natural or easy, but that's not how we grow.
Same!! I no longer say that I could never be a runner, because by definition, a runner is someone who runs! 😂 Am I the best? No. Am I really fast? Uhhh no. But am I making steady progress? Absolutely :) when we look at energy attributed towards our goals as an investment for the future instead of food for motivation, we trick our brains into believing we can already do the thing. Why would I need to “find” the motivation if I already know inside that I am more than capable of accomplishing it with time? We’ve got this. 🙌🏼
I literally cannot tell you how much I needed to hear this today. I love this!!! I see myself as disorganized, and I feel like I want to change it but I think "oh but I just can't" I call myself "non perfectionistic" but it bothers me that I don't try more. I trap myself.
I really love your channel. I appreciate your authenticity in these videos!
I just love your insightful videos girl, I mean I was doing a few things out of these too but the way you put it gives so much more clarity of intention and practicability. Keep on enlightening us! xoxo from India!
Thank you so much for this video!!!!
Setting Reminders to carve out time for things is a good one. I’m going to try that 🙏
I relate to this video quite a bit. This was awesome!
This video has so many helpful ideas in it that I have bookmarked it. Thanks!!
The tips on reminders is game changing. I totally have that exact issue with reminders
This video is everything!
This is such a great chanel. So much valuable info coming from a place of Empathy and Kindness.
Oh my gosh adding birthdays to my Google calendar has been huge. I even started adding reminders for when friends have moves or big life appointments they're nervous about etc so I can send them an I'm thinking of you
I am gonna wand re-watch this video every morning and apply religiously those advices. I am a moving toward becoming a "Type A" and seing someone who made it is SO inspirational ❤️😍
Thanks. I needed that.
I would love a video on how you use your spreadsheets! Some of the topics you said you spreadsheets will seem easy but others I could not even begin to imagine how you would break them down on a spreadsheet thanks so much!
Wow thanks, Chelsea! Would love to see a video of you just going through the way you use these tools. Especially the mood boards. As a person who struggles with defining goals, I feel like mood/vision boards would be really useful. Wouldn't mind some inspiration and guidance on it :)
yes!
thanks for this video!
Great video. I really liked your mood board journal. I am going to try that.
I really appreciate the way that you've led with great vulnerability in this video 🙏
I saw the sweater in the thumbnail and squealed like you did because it is glorious. I love it
I always considered myself lazy, but right now I'm balancing college, an internship, and three different jobs. I don't really believe in personality types, but if I did it'd be fair to say I transitioned from type B to type A
Love that notebook! Chelsea, we love to see it! 🤣 As a legally blind gal, recently married, I'm trying to figure out how to be more handy around the house - with the attitude of, what can I do? A lot more than my limiting beliefs lead me to think! Thank you for this video and sharing! I fractured my foot the other day(a bad fall) and I was like, I hate sitting stiiiiill but then I realized I could catch up on TFD!!!! Helps me realize that the boot is temporary, it could be worse, and this is literally an excuse to consume lots of media.
This seems like a new year's resolutions type of topic, involving setting goals for oneself. Resolutions are like HEADACHES: you forget them as soon as they stop hurting. (This quote is from a movie.)
Can you share some examples about the spreadsheets. How do you use them for wardrobe changes and cleaning? Is it to track progress like a to do list or calculate something?
Thanks! This is really interesting.
Love Therapy!! Its a game changer
There is so much good info in here it’s insane.
Thank you for the video