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  • čas přidán 21. 07. 2024
  • 00:00 1st story:
    My SIL wants to be pregnant with my baby (ReservoirKat in r/JUSTNOFAMILY)
    17:07 2nd story:
    Parents abused me, found out they did it to my sister too; cut contact? (wormywitch in r/raisedbynarcissists)
    23:38 3rd story:
    I just found proof that my pregnant wife has relapsed (u/Left_Dark_8887 in r/TrueOffMyChest)
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Komentáře • 81

  • @Echo_9
    @Echo_9 Před 18 dny +154

    i will never understand why people let toxic people back in there life

    • @superiorrule34
      @superiorrule34 Před 18 dny +18

      Because they see other families getting along and they want that.

    • @erickaennis2738
      @erickaennis2738 Před 18 dny +20

      This Op and her husband are exhausting. Just stay NC. JEEZ.

    • @connormclernon26
      @connormclernon26 Před 18 dny +10

      The rest of the family whining “bUt FaMiLy!”

    • @naturebehindglass6512
      @naturebehindglass6512 Před 18 dny +9

      Because when you grow up with toxic people, it's 1) normalized, 2) trauma bonding, 3) people who don't get unconditional love as kids, crave love and will try to feel loved. But since they have normalized very unhealthy relationship/connection patterns, they tend to unconsciously either seek out other abusers, or try to "fix" the relationship with the original abuser. They are driven by the thought " if I try just a bit more, they will finally see me and love me"
      5) they don't necessarily recognize that they are being abused, because they grew up that way. And even after realizing that they are abused, it takes a huge amount of effort, guided by a professional, to heal from trauma. Trauma will literally change your brain structure. The brain has great neuroplasticity, an can be trained back into a healthy structure, but it's difficult and takes a while.
      And if you are getting traumatized during this phase, it will take much longer and become almost impossible

    • @freneticobserver4174
      @freneticobserver4174 Před 18 dny +5

      Because they are weak

  • @WardenSpectreCommander
    @WardenSpectreCommander Před 18 dny +93

    OP and Husband; We're not having kids.
    🦇💩crazy Sister: And it became personal with me.

  • @juanhaines7295
    @juanhaines7295 Před 18 dny +99

    Always be ready when that restraining order expires.

    • @victormontes7007
      @victormontes7007 Před 18 dny +4

      Why do they expire anyway hey this person is a great danger to me make me constantly prove I am in danger to make the law keep them away

  • @noonespecial7730
    @noonespecial7730 Před 18 dny +37

    When I first read the title I was like, "What?!? That's crazy and disgusting!" Then I thought, "Oh! Mabye they're gay and OP means the SIL for some reason wants to carry OPs child not her brothers child. That's still crazy but makes more sense." But no. SIL is just a batsh!t-crazy creep. I seriously feel so bad for OP.

  • @alfredmarcos1761
    @alfredmarcos1761 Před 18 dny +33

    Sweet home alabama where the skies are so blue sweet home alamaba

  • @ChinchillaQueen
    @ChinchillaQueen Před 18 dny +13

    As someone with the least dangerous form of eds, i do have two children but that was absolute hell on my joints. Its a sucky disease.

  • @JezebelNeverDied
    @JezebelNeverDied Před 18 dny +55

    What in the Alabama trailer park is this? She wants her BROTHER'S baby in her. Even if it's OP's egg and it's done in vitro that still horrible and gross. OP, I AM proud of you for making the hard decision to think about the well-being. And hey, if you decide to be childfree there's nothing wrong with that too. SIL is absolutely nuts (and racist to boot)!

    • @lindah3803
      @lindah3803 Před 18 dny +7

      There are plenty of cases that involve a sister being a surrogate. The difference being that it was introduced by the couple. It was disgussed by all involved. It was agreed upon by all involved. This story is Nothing like those situations. This is SIL being dangerous and completely off her rocker.
      I will never understand how/why they thought it would be a good thing to let her back into their life.

    • @harleyquinn5774
      @harleyquinn5774 Před 16 dny +2

      I know of a story or two of a grandmother carrying her grandchild/den for he infertile daughter. She was young enough to do so because she was a teen mom (got pregnant at 16). There was even a Lifetime movie about one of the cases.

  • @xxiSHTAr9000x
    @xxiSHTAr9000x Před 18 dny +7

    Just reading that first summarisation is nothing short of mortifying, and reading it was even worse! It’s people like that sister that are the reason why the Asylum should receive more funding!

    • @victormontes7007
      @victormontes7007 Před 18 dny +3

      Blame Regan and Nixon for axing american mental health care

  • @quintenfrye5874
    @quintenfrye5874 Před 17 dny +6

    Am I the only one loving the borderlands vault tattoo?

  • @Mop222
    @Mop222 Před 18 dny +8

    First story, bizarre. Why does that couple keep putting up with that nonsense? And what kind of people who know they are at risk goes to a party, even if it is just family during a pandemic?
    The husband of the addict, why not take the responsibility of making sure you don’t make another baby after the first experience?

  • @emzbemz
    @emzbemz Před 18 dny +6

    Lass from the first story my EDS is exactly the same but because of it I can’t have kids at all but baby your story made me nod along with you when you mentioned have a bad day I am so glad you have such an amazing husband both of you deserve medals 🥇 🎖️🥇

  • @arynkoeings668
    @arynkoeings668 Před 17 dny +3

    Being an opioid addict pregnancy is always gonna trigger a relapse fact is anytime she gets pregnant shes gonna relapse pregnancy is hard both emotionally and physically

    • @blvdurocher3255
      @blvdurocher3255 Před 16 dny

      Anything literally can cause relapse. Just gotta kno your triggers and what to avoid to remain sober. Opioid is something that destroys you mentally for the rest of your life once addicted. Can never create natural serotonin.

  • @nangma07
    @nangma07 Před 18 dny +28

    Sorry but you don't have good memories with your enabler of a dad, you just have slightly less horrific trauma with him than you do with her.

    • @djdomain
      @djdomain Před 17 dny +2

      Abused kids tend to mistake the absence of abuse for love when it's really indifference to their well-being.

    • @nangma07
      @nangma07 Před 16 dny +1

      @@djdomain I'm 56yrs old and only recently have I been set straight. My "happy" memories was actually me comparing them to my incubator abuser, and no the abuse in 9 different childrens homes didn't come close to what went on at home.

  • @develyntwocentshenderson5739

    and remember, sperm donor did not protect you, big deal he was nice.

  • @lindalmiller429
    @lindalmiller429 Před 18 dny +7

    SIL seems certifiably insane.

  • @katherinehutton9870
    @katherinehutton9870 Před 18 dny +6

    This is like House Of Dragon goes on redit.

  • @SummonerOrthan
    @SummonerOrthan Před 17 dny +3

    Lmao thats almost as Weird as demanding someone hand over their kids. Why are people like this!

  • @DumbAsh00
    @DumbAsh00 Před 17 dny +3

    Addiction is awful. Very very very hard to come back from. It doesn't only ruin the users life

  • @AlekzanderTamayo-ln8bf
    @AlekzanderTamayo-ln8bf Před 18 dny +19

    NO ONE IS MENTIONING THAT OP FROM STORY 3 MARRIED HIS SISTER?!?!

    • @FullMoonOctober
      @FullMoonOctober Před 18 dny +12

      I'm hoping that was an AI mistake, because later on it said they met when she was 26 and he says "her family" like they're not related to him.

    • @AlekzanderTamayo-ln8bf
      @AlekzanderTamayo-ln8bf Před 18 dny +2

      @@FullMoonOctober I hope so

    • @cheetahcreep
      @cheetahcreep Před 15 dny +1

      I was also really confused when it was sister then wife 😵‍💫

  • @lindawoods8125
    @lindawoods8125 Před 18 dny +3

    Man, when you have a bad day you really have a bad day 😭

  • @shinatina2466
    @shinatina2466 Před 18 dny +8

    I have eds as well. And I hold the same views on children and my bf understands so when we are ready for kids we'll adopt. I have hyper mobile eds so my joints pop in and out of place and it's a 50/50 chance the kid gets eds and since I was a small child (kindergarten) my ankles and hips pop out all the time. So i completely understand you're point but this sil is insane

  • @ghostislosingit
    @ghostislosingit Před 17 dny +4

    Oh, story 2's OP. Being with CAMHS (Childrens And Adolescent Mental Health Services, a service in the UK) who can be overstretched, underfunded and not the greatest help and then everything with your parents as well and your sister too. I hope OP is able to heal and their sister too.

  • @jenniferhalstead3680
    @jenniferhalstead3680 Před 18 dny +9

    If and when you can I would sell the house and buy something that doesn't have an hoa no one should be able to tell you how to live and what you can and can't do with/in your own house and/or property.

  • @cyndirankin
    @cyndirankin Před 18 dny +12

    OP needs to try medical marijuana. They make creams, that seems to help ppl with her disorder. I know someone in rl that it helps.

    • @shinatina2466
      @shinatina2466 Před 18 dny +4

      I have eds and it really does help with pain, blood flow and just generally not feeling like shit ALL the time

  • @honeydroptheunicorn6557
    @honeydroptheunicorn6557 Před 18 dny +11

    7:12 sil is crazy

  • @mizal321
    @mizal321 Před 18 dny +2

    There is a limit to how much you can do to me people in these stories take too much

  • @donnaosborne2462
    @donnaosborne2462 Před 3 dny

    Even with family members sometimes you just have to walk away no matter how hard. Your kids safety both mentally and physically should be the 1st and only concern. Bless this father,and them babies

  • @lachlanp3365
    @lachlanp3365 Před 13 dny

    The correct way to ask if someone is pregnant is 'I have not seen you in months/ages whats new?'
    If they don't say anything leave it.

  • @nanadiaries9189
    @nanadiaries9189 Před 7 dny

    First story had my jaw dropping 😭😭

  • @jadevenom48
    @jadevenom48 Před 9 dny

    “su-rah-guh-see” 😂😂😂

  • @blvdurocher3255
    @blvdurocher3255 Před 16 dny +1

    The sis inlaw dead set on being surrogate because she sees $$$$$ on op and her brother. If she offered to do it free she could turn around and sue the shit out of them. Or try to get op and bro to have a girl so she cant claim she has a daughter lmfao shes freaky

  • @VetaRoberts-sj7sw
    @VetaRoberts-sj7sw Před 13 dny

    Get this in writing,call police

  • @brianahyler381
    @brianahyler381 Před dnem

    My cousin has EDS and had four girls... and back surgery before age 35 due to complications from them.

  • @AbbyKenobi
    @AbbyKenobi Před 18 dny +7

    As someone with EDS, the second story made me legit so mad lol. Please respect people who make the decision not to have babies. I also will not be having kids. It's so fucking annoying when people are like "Oh, you never know! You'll want them someday!" Ugh.

    • @RagingWoody74
      @RagingWoody74 Před 18 dny +3

      Weird how people get so bent out of shape when someone says they don't want to have kids

    • @viv7810
      @viv7810 Před 17 dny +2

      @@RagingWoody74 I agree with that. Though I think the SIL may want to have some control on her brother’s fertility. I also infer that she may be regretting having kids herself or had a traumatic birth, seeing how she treats her sons. Thus she wants Op and brother to suffer from child rearing like her.

    • @stephanienoblet8503
      @stephanienoblet8503 Před 16 dny +2

      I don’t want kids either I have a movement disorder called dystonia it’s hereditary 50/50 the kids could get it but I’m not taking a chance

  • @MJohn319
    @MJohn319 Před 16 dny +1

    What. The. Hell.

  • @lorifiedler13
    @lorifiedler13 Před 14 dny

    Was that really the end of story 1? An ending would be them going NC with the whole family or moving without telling anyone their address.

  • @alise45647
    @alise45647 Před 14 dny

    Story 3:
    Off topic: DID HE SAY SISTER!?!
    On topic: dude, if your wife is having problems and doesn’t want help ya should have left in the first place.

  • @failingartist3524
    @failingartist3524 Před 16 dny

    Second op just has issues

  • @user-rb3rm8nw1m
    @user-rb3rm8nw1m Před 2 dny

    . Mossberg time 8:30

  • @ZoeNightshade96
    @ZoeNightshade96 Před dnem

    Story one my mom has the same disease and got is it bad no matter how bad it is

  • @rebekahlowe4288
    @rebekahlowe4288 Před 18 dny +3

    You have to leave her, divorce her and do what you can to get her family to drop her. She needs to be left to do or die, as long as addicts have support in any way they will abuse and manipulate their way through life. As far as the pregnancy get CPS and the courts involved, make it as hard on her as you can. She has to hit rock bottom with no one to use, no one to help but the professionals. These professionals need to step in with consequences to push her further, make her so miserable, put so many consequences on her that the only way out is to get clean. I had to be left to do or die and e everything got so hard, I had to make my choice when I almost died. Now I hated being an addict, I wanted to be clean so much. That's no so with a lot of them, especially ones in denial, you have to make her addiction so hard, so miserable that she hates it. All the while continuing to live your life and be happy so she can see the choice clearly. Its a hard path but she needs it, call in a search on the house, tell them you've seen drugs there, hopefully you've taken pictures, that you are afraid for your daugters life and can't go back. So many ways, get advice from a long term addict because they can help you more than anyonr else. They know how the mind works, how the disease kills and the possible treatment that will begin healing.

  • @VetaRoberts-sj7sw
    @VetaRoberts-sj7sw Před 12 dny

    Did you take pictures of her stuff

  • @user-rb3rm8nw1m
    @user-rb3rm8nw1m Před 2 dny

    C P S it's abuse

  • @nowsmile790
    @nowsmile790 Před 16 dny +4

    For the first story, I hate to be a victim blamer but why the fuck would you ever want to hang out or be around any of those people after doing all of that some people literally have no survival instincts or common sense on telling you.

  • @keithpryor411
    @keithpryor411 Před 14 dny

    Maybe don't include eight recaps of the same story in a row