but also, if you tend to wear a lot of black clothes, get a black one. the necklines of shirts is often larger than the binder's, and you can sometimes see the binder's neckline, and it's usually less visible if it's the same color as your shirt. idk if im clear lol but if it's black, it's more likely to pass as your shirt or just as a tank top you'd be wearing underneath, but a skin-colored is more likely to get people wondering "wtf are you wearing under that?"
I totally agree but also if you tend to wear shirts with wider necklines then I'd recommend a white tank binder because it just looks like an undershirt
There is totally next year and next decade, and it will almost certainly be so much better then. All the trans people I know are doing so much better later.
guys please don't slouch 🙏 I've been slouching most of my life bc of dysphoria and i was just insecure and turned out i also have some genetic spine disease. my jaw and neck hurts so bad almost every day, it's getting harder for me to do any physical activity even walking so please take care of yourself 🙏🙏🙏
THIS COMMENT!!! It causes spine problems and nerves getting stuck WHICH IS ABSOLUTELY NOT SOMETHING YOU WANT TO HAVE. Also imo the shrimp posture is always less attractive than straight one
Thank you. Recently, my mother has been telling me how much she actually hates that im trans, and how she wishes I get over with this 'phase'. She says binders are products that only take your money to the trash and that she finds it useless for me to hide my chest, claiming it 'isnt that big'. I will always find comfort in your videos, and I hope life treats you well.
I tried binders, like really big sizes, but they literally don’t work on me because of my chest being big and I hate it 😔 so they did end up being a waste of money for me lol
@@P0txt9I saw someone mention using trans tape under your binder to help flatten bigger chests more, not sure if you are able to use trans tape or not but it might be worth a shot 🖤
A friend of mine started using transtape. He loves it for around the house, and it makes showering so much easier. He still wears at least a sports bra in public, but without the tape the bra isn't enough. He said the combo of the tape and the binder (from forthem, he loves it) is the most gender euphoria he's ever felt. I'll have to ask him about the adhesive on the tape. He has skin issues, so I guess it isn't that bad if he wears it a week at a time. He does take breaks though Update: he said his skin irritation is minimal as long as he uses oil to remove it. He also has been letting his skin rest a few days before putting new tape. He isn’t sure how much of a difference that makes since he’s only been using it for about a month
Thank you about the tip of pulling away your own attention from my chest rather than desperately trying to bind it even if it kills you. On some days its just impossible to hide my chest and the idea of taking a different route of distracting yourself from it is an idea that Ive never thought of before.
You have to be VERY careful to never let slouching become part of your daily routine. It's surprisingly common for transmasculine people to end up with some kind of spinal issue due to the poor posture from hiding their chests this way
@@irisolympiaif you do please include some for curly hair! I can only ever find the same haircut for curly hair (in all fairness the one i have) but i would love to change it up
A really useful thing for me (Trans boy, very much a minor, no T, no op, no binder, all improvised) Is wearing a tank top underneath you shirt and tucking it TIGHT into your waistline, if you get it to lay right it can pull taut and not only hide a lot of the shape of the pointy mfing honkers but also kinda flatten them out if they aren’t already compressed. And for those wondering about heat, it is noticeably hotter and more humid but so long as you aren’t running a marathon in full sun you should be fine, note that I am from a southern state in America, so other countries may have hotter summers or weaker people idk
“Weaker people” is so funny 💀 yeah no it gets probably about as hot as the southern US here in South Africa, but it gets fucking cold in winter so usually I’m wearing so many layers that I can get away with not wearing a binder at all
something that helped me recently: a necklace! I have one with an adjustable leather strap with a large tooth, and having that be a little bit longer actually does that "taking away attention" thing really well
i truly hope you know how incredibly strong you are for recognizing you weren't happy in your previous relationship, paid attention to your ex's (transphobic) red flags, and leaving while still doing your best to hold your head high and know that you deserve SO MUCH BETTER! i was in a situation like that in high school and felt so low about myself that i forced myself to stay in it and semi-closeted for way way WAY longer than i ever should've. thank you for you being so open and true to yourself, and thank you for being such a blessing in so many people's lives ❤
Ive been trans since i was a kid, but i decided to just ignore it because i knew people wouldnt understand as i was just a kid. Now that im older, ive cut my hair, use binders and dress "masculine". Ive come out to my whole family, even though they dont understand and areant as supportive im still happy. This also really helps me for when i need chest binder breaks and i still wanna hide my chest. I cant be openly trans where i live because its a transphobic community. But i sometimes get called a guy by people who dont know me. Which makes me happy, and im gonna go on testerone in a year or 2. Thank you for this video
my gender is basically girl/boy with a hint of enby, and i have no idea what that falls umder but i genuinely do not care about labeling my gender even though i love presenting feminine, i want to bring out my masculine side more (and even if im presenting very fem, i still want a flat chest). i very much need this video (hopefully one day i can get a hysterectomy and top surgery otherwise i will lose my mind)
just an important note: non-binary doesn't mean just having no gender. it's an umbrella term for anyone who isn't 100% male and only male 100% of the time, or 100% female and only female 100% of the time. having no gender, being male but only sometimes, being male AND female, your gender changing, and anything else are ALL non-binary identities!
Here is what I did to get a binder incase it helps anyone. I told my family i was planning on doing some cosplays that needed to have a flatter shape because they were male characters and I showed them pictures of said character so they got me them and then after I got them I said that I can't do them this year because of the cost of the other things that I would need. If this helps give anyone ideas or anything I'm glad I could help.
I’m a 40ddd and I feel you so bad. It’s hell trying to find any compression tops or binders because it just doesn’t fit right, the chest ends up too tight and my ribs and far too loose, like I could fit a whole ass first into the rib area
I get you! Even though i'm nowhere near a DDD, I'm still pretty big! I'm a 40D, and i'm not exactly a thin person (i'm overweight), so it's very difficult for me to hide my chest most of the time! I tried two different binders, but it's nearly impossible for me to pull them over my head and chest! I struggle with them, even though one has a zipper in the front, and it's very uncomfortable for me to wear them for more than like 20 minutes and actually make me feel like i'm short of breath. So i think those are definitely not gonna work, and i won't be buying others! I guess maybe i'll just try and go with a bralette and sports bras under big t shirts 😅
@@AirGoddess1087 are you sure it’s not too small size? Because sure it’s uncomfortable as hell to wear to but it should go over your head fine and you should still be able to breathe
I don't really identify as queer, but I've always hated the functionality of "feminine" looking bras and like to be a bit more ambiguous with my styling choices. Thanks for the vid, love your style, and I'll possibly try a couple suggestions to get some summertime confidence! Always hated summer styles for this reason.
thank you so much, im a 16yo tgirl who started diy hrt a few months ago and am gonna have to start binding around my family because they're transphobic and i have no knowledge of binders so this is extremely helpful
I don’t have enough chest to need a binder (sometimes yay, sometimes sad). You bet I’m gonna watch the vid and drop a comment, they’re a really good resource and super cool!
Ty, as a minor this is so helpful. ALSO, I FEEL THE SLOUCHING PART. I do it subconsciously and honestly have no clue when I'm slouching or not, simply because of my chest. Mainly due to my voice which already makes me self conscious, because I feel like people can automatically tell that I'm not a bio male. Word of advice guys, don't worry about how your voice sounds! Especially if you're still under 18, it's hard to ignore/deal with, Ik. But it'll be okay, promise, just try to distract yourself or do something that you like. So that you aren't as worried about your voice, which I know is easier said than done but you've got this! ✨
trans tape has been my lifeline this summer, i recommend urbasics so so highly it’s the only tape i’ve tried that doesn’t give me any blistering at all (and i have super sensitive skin), no redness just remove it in the shower under warm water and you’re set. it’s so comfy and breathable and soooo much nicer than a binder especially in the heat
I unfortunately am not allowed to get a binder, and I’m struggling with telling my parents and friends. Thank you for these tips, I really appreciate it :)
I can't use binders and never really liked any bras, even if they're very loose, because it makes me feel like I can't breathe. But I tried tape now (I can't buy proper trans tape here, so it's just normal sports tape, but many people use it for that too) and it's really good? I was worried for sensory issues too, but I feel it much less than bras or anything. It can be a bit itchy because of the glue, but maybe proper trans tape would be different. I don't thnk there's any dangers or health risks, as long as you take it off with oil or cream. After wearing it some time it also goes off easier. For me it's fine as long as I don't wear it longer than like 8-9 days. My skin gets a bit irritated by taking it off but that's gone after a bit. It also helps to put cream on before putting the tape on...just not everywhere bc then the tape doesn't stick.
This is cool, I really appreciate how informative this is. I struggle with major size difference in my chest, in that if I don't consistently wear my prosthetic breast it could mess my spine up (in the past I used to literally start walking the direction the heavier one leaned lol) it also sucks that i'm quite large-chested too, I yearn for the flat chest. But then again, we seek what we don't have, is the common truth. In the future I hope to get surgery so I can get rid of my prosthetic for good, AND wear a binder!
Thank you for the tips! I like my chest to look flat but I tend to get uncomfortable with any compression on my chest, even regular bras feel too constricting. What helps me the most is layers, which is tricky in summer. I like to wear lightweight button up shirts over tank tops or bralettes. They are nice to wear in the summer as long as they are breathable fabric and they also are good to keep the sun off your skin. I also got some overall shorts recently and I love to wear them in summer because it adds an extra layer to cover my chest without being too hot. When I do wear a binder I wear my old one that's kind of stretched out so it's more comfortable.
I am transfem, however the video was interesting, and the thing at the end, wearing things that just make you happy, even if it isn't gender euphoria does still rly help, as just being in a better mood abt sth makes dysphoria way less, that's sth i realised recently as i was rly stressed over sth irl and for 2 days my dysphoria got worse than it had been in more than 3 years (currently 2 years on hrt, overall i'm really happy with my body/the changes, just external stuff influenced my mental health and the dysphoria that was still there felt like it was "zoomed in")
im not even trans i just absoulutley hate having visible boobs idk why😭and always wanted want my chest to be smaller even when its already kind of small your videos are so helpful xx
OMG I HAVE NEVER BEEN THIS EARLYBON ONE OF YOUR VIDEOS!! Hi iris!! Your first binder video was really helpful to me because I'm just starting to get my chest and it gives me super dysphoria, so THANK YOU OMG YOU SAVED MY SANITY
i have a lot of sensory issues and i do want to hype up trans tape, its my favorite binding method! it takes some time to perfect (i have a larger chest as well) but its the most comfortable for me from a sensory perspective, like i literally forget that its there!
A binding method that I use without a binder! :D Get a tank top bra, preferably with adjustable straps! Put it on, fold it in half, and adjust to your liking! In my opinion, it’s very comfortable and easy to wear, and hides my chest pretty alright! Even if you’d like, try a size lower than your size! Not sure if it would be comfortable as I haven’t tried, but I’d love to hear! :D
mix of ketchup mustard and bbq sauce for fries!!! needed this video i’ve been having a lot of dysphoria n ur my comfort youtuber tbh. hope you are doing well and sending all the love!!! 🍟❤️
So I’m a trans woman who is currently working on growing breasts through HRT! I can’t relate to this video much, but it’s nice to see what other people do for gender affirmation. Thanks for sharing!
As someone who wears trans tape a lot (usually to exercise + move) and has a lot of sensory issues I would definitely recommend, just make sure you buy baby oil and read the instructions thoroughly many many times - also cover the sensitive areas of your chest because the tape can damage them if not properly covered
bro my sibling literally came into the room at the end just to ask me what the song was!! entranced bc it was so pretty gahhh. also tysm for this video
Another good binder option is Tomscout, it’s made in my country which is known for being pretty hot and humid (30 Celsius average temp) so it’s good for summer weather. I was kind of disappointed because I thought my chest would be completely flat as a board, but ig with my size that’s just not realistic. It’s a pretty comfy binder and the fabric is nice and breathable
I have to mention that binding tape also exists and can be used, even for bigger chests. It's less restrictive/hot than a binder and easier to hide under clothes. It's not as flat as a binder but leaves your chest looking much more like pecs. Your mileage may vary, of course. I find it makes wearing tank/muscle tops so much easier for me because the feeling of bras and binders drew my attention to my chest way too much.
After also having my initial discomfort with a gc2b binder, Shapeshifters was my upgrade. Liked the customizeability of the size/cut and options for zipper placement (I put it on the side to I could unzip it without anything showing, as I also wear it like a shirt with nothing over/under it).
Schools starting and our uniforms are so bad. Plain T-shirts that are very hugging and there are no bigger size options they are just longer. Being overweight and not being able to bind is just so bad when you are forced to wear tight tops but your videos really help and maybe I'll be able to convince my mom to buy a sports bra!
actually i can wear a binder in the summer but my parents found it and burned it... so i couldn't wear some clothes that i didn't feel comfortable in without binder so i had to find ways to hide my chest so this video is very helpful
OH MY GOD TYSM FOR THIS, i live in a really hot country so even just wearing a bra under my clothes is nearly unbearable, but i still want ways to make my chest look flatter
im pretty young, and im not trans but im really insecure about my chest. ive tried slouching before but my dad now thinks i have a back issue .. and he makes me do exercises that he finds from the internet to help “improve my posture”. i dont think i can get a binder either? (fear of homophobic parents). but thank you for the video !! i think it helped me alot :DDD
I'm a cis woman, having 0 issue with my chest, but this video was interesting regardless. A great hug to all trans, non-binary and genderfluid people out there!
I’ve been putting two sports bras. The first one normal and the second one turned around. It works pretty well and my chest is not that noticeable. My parents and friends probably would accept me if I actually asked for a binder, so this works well.
I’ve been avoiding wearing a binder or any kind of bra at all like this! (Tho I’m more on the smaller side thankfully, otherwise I would probably not be able to pull it off). It feels so much less dysphoric. I get sensory issues from binders so I kind of have no choice. I second all of this advice about shirt choices and stuff (tho I haven’t tried the cutting up shirts thing). I love your accessories btw, especially that choker with the spikes, it looks really cool!! (Also I tend to call them “chest things”, calling them anything like “boobs” would feel way too dysphoric. Another one I’ve seen that I find really funny is “chesticles” XD) Edit: I almost forgot to say this but another piece of advice about shirt choices is avoiding very regular, geometric patterns, especially ones with straight lines like checkered patterns! Though it’s sometimes worth it to try something on regardless to see if it really has that effect. Patterns like that emphasize curves. Actually, playing with more messy patterns can sometimes help if you like patterns. I personally like camo, it really hides shapes like that which makes sense since it was designed to hide shapes and make people blend into the background in forests and stuff. But plain black or otherwise dark fabric is also ofc a safe option.
This is incredibly helpful! I can't safely wear a binder (connective tissue disorder makes my ribs dislocate too easily, even some sports bras do the same thing so I have to be very careful) and binding with tape, while more comfortable, is expensive and I get friction blisters so easily even if I do everything right. So seeing different ideas for disguising my chest is very helpful!
i just realized ive BEEN wearing a zip up binder- ive never actually known because i have such a flat chest- 😭😭 (edit) i LOVE the way you cut the shirt but i feel like my dad wouldnt let me ruin my shirts- also you are SO pretty/handsome
Recently I read welcome to st hells had a binder tip was the front panel for a binder in a normal vest top because Lewis found normal binders uncomfy and I'm definitely going to try it with my old one that's too small now
The algorithm was on its top game with showing me this video. ❤ I super appreciate the way the side by side examples were set up and how this covered specific ways that different articles were for sensory issues and why it helps with better shaping.
I need to get this out somewhere bc it's going to kill me lol Recently I've reconnected with a trans friend and he's kinda helped me realize that people really don't give a shit about me here (which is good actually). And ever since I was young I wanted desperately to get rid of my chest, I hate it how I look so feminine when I feel less than connected to being a girl than a guy. Like, I don't mind saying I'm a girl, but I wish I were a dude sometimes, and most of the time neither fit me. When I ask to buy a binder just to feel a bit more "me" I'm told I've been hanging out with the friend too much and "you're too feminine looking to be trans" which I never mentioned, so just trying to be gender ambiguous isn't exactly easy. I don't understand myself and if it is just a phase or whatever but like.. I've been so vocal about not wanting to look like a girl since I was around ten. Isn't that a sign?? Anyways, rant aside, I'll be trying these tips, so thank you for showing up on my feed. Cheers :3
Kinetology(?) tape is great too and cheaper than transtape. I personally use that and i never had issues with it. I think there are also some biodegradable versions but its more expensive.
Idk if this is just me but transtape hurts my skin really bad, so, if you are trying it for the first time, test it on your arm or smt with a small piece to make sure it won’t irritate your skin (It hurt for weeks after bcuz it messed up my skin so bad i couldn’t wear a binder for a while lmao)
I don't think binders are an option for me. I already bought two different pairs, and they were nearly impossible to pull over my huge chest! I can't wear one for more than 20 minutes, or i start to get a tightness in my chest like it's hard to breathe! I even went with an XL, which is the size i usually get for shirts but i guess that doesn't work with binders too. So i don't think i'll be buying another one. I think maybe i'll give a bralette a try and just stick to sports bras with no padding and big t shirts 😅
they are definitely not for everyone! but if you want to give a binder another try, be sure to take your measurements and order accordingly! different brands have different sizing
one thing you can do if you cant afford a jacket is wear a short sleeved button down over a t-shirt! it looks summery, and you can also tie the bottom front ends together to further hide the “boobage” :3
Great video! Love the tips! I've hated my chest since puberty due to assault and have always been interested in, yet intimidated by, finding a good binder. Currently i just have a few sports bras that are super comfy and somewhat reducing. But they're old and i can't even read the brand name so soon I have to do some shopping. I love the zipper one the most. So easy to get on and off and looks comfy as heck.
yo this is awesome! I don't bind for sensory reasons (or bra) so the distracting tip is going to be super helpful! any tips on styling or whatever in a way to alleviate hip/leg (?thigh?) dysphoria perchance
Have you ever tried binding tape? Bras and binders were too much for me but binding tape feels much better when I apply it correctly. Also, for the pants: you can't minimise hips so instead try to create a straight line from hip to ankle (or hip to knee for shorts). Think wide, straight-cut pants. Your curves will be swallowed up.
Thank you so much for the tips!! As a closted enby this means a lot to me!! I already do a lot of styling to make myself more comfortable and I hadnt thought about minimizing the way the fabric lays around the side-boob area- thanks again
im a huge fan of transtape/kinesiology tape! i use it mostly full time personally! (i take breaks and use a binder here and there!) though there Are a lot of downsides with the kind of freedom you get with it 1. removing it is a Pain. its a long ass oil soak then a 20 minute shower once a week to get it off without removing your skin with it (which if youre impatient you WILL. its not fun). some brands might be different, but the tape i use is super waterproof so the adhesive is pretty full on lol 2. its kind of pricy. the tape i use, a 6m roll of kinesiology tape, is $15 aud which kinda adds up compared to a one time price of a binder. i typically use 6 pieces of tape measuring maybe 10cms each time so $2.50 a week! 3. its unfortunately only feasible to get a FLAT chest with smaller breasts, though ive heard people with larger chests use tape in tandem with other binding techniques to shape and get those thangs Secured. it really comes down to anatomy and technique, like personally i can get relatively flat, but its not guaranteed? i still find its really worth it to try, it lets me do a lot of active things with the freedom of having a flat chest and to wear shirts more comfortably. my biggest tips are to: shower and then clean the area with alcohol before putting on the tape (so no oils interfere with the adhesive), round out the edges of each strip of tape to minimise lifting, warm up each strip with your hands to activate the adhesive (and rub over it after applying), and get a good flattening sports bra because wearing it over top helps lock everything in especially in the first few hours! also if the tape itches you probably didnt wait long enough between applications lol. hope this helps someone!
🍟fries for the comment section hehe 🍟🍟 mine come with ketchup & ranch wby?
fries dipped in a chocolate shake is the best combo
@@KawaiiKellysooo true
@@KawaiiKelly best combo frfr
@@KawaiiKelly yess
I'm going with honey mustard, my favourite :)
I saw someone refer to them as chesticles and I think that's amazing
s3rl reference
I do that :3
S3RL
Shoulder Boulders reference
Chestnuts 😂
A little tip for binders, get the closest color to your skin tone so you can wear clothes that are more seethrough like white tshirts.
this!!
but also, if you tend to wear a lot of black clothes, get a black one. the necklines of shirts is often larger than the binder's, and you can sometimes see the binder's neckline, and it's usually less visible if it's the same color as your shirt. idk if im clear lol but if it's black, it's more likely to pass as your shirt or just as a tank top you'd be wearing underneath, but a skin-colored is more likely to get people wondering "wtf are you wearing under that?"
I have a bright red binder and it's the best for white t shirts
I totally agree but also if you tend to wear shirts with wider necklines then I'd recommend a white tank binder because it just looks like an undershirt
Can't safely wear a binder out, I've been nervous about my mental health during the school year but I think this will help. Thank you so so much 🫶
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There is totally next year and next decade, and it will almost certainly be so much better then. All the trans people I know are doing so much better later.
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@@irisolympiayou’re my best friend I really like you Iris ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@irisolympiayou’re very pretty
guys please don't slouch 🙏 I've been slouching most of my life bc of dysphoria and i was just insecure and turned out i also have some genetic spine disease. my jaw and neck hurts so bad almost every day, it's getting harder for me to do any physical activity even walking so please take care of yourself 🙏🙏🙏
hope you'll be ok 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@totyazina_ ty 🙏
THIS COMMENT!!! It causes spine problems and nerves getting stuck WHICH IS ABSOLUTELY NOT SOMETHING YOU WANT TO HAVE. Also imo the shrimp posture is always less attractive than straight one
THANK YOU! im not trans but having a larger chest at a young age is the worst and this helped so much me :D
ikr?? i wish i just could have breast reduction surgery already 😭
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SAME:(
Thank you.
Recently, my mother has been telling me how much she actually hates that im trans, and how she wishes I get over with this 'phase'. She says binders are products that only take your money to the trash and that she finds it useless for me to hide my chest, claiming it 'isnt that big'.
I will always find comfort in your videos, and I hope life treats you well.
I tried binders, like really big sizes, but they literally don’t work on me because of my chest being big and I hate it 😔 so they did end up being a waste of money for me lol
@@P0txt9I saw someone mention using trans tape under your binder to help flatten bigger chests more, not sure if you are able to use trans tape or not but it might be worth a shot 🖤
@@Jadethealienx thank you, I’ll see if I’m able too do that :)
A friend of mine started using transtape. He loves it for around the house, and it makes showering so much easier. He still wears at least a sports bra in public, but without the tape the bra isn't enough. He said the combo of the tape and the binder (from forthem, he loves it) is the most gender euphoria he's ever felt. I'll have to ask him about the adhesive on the tape. He has skin issues, so I guess it isn't that bad if he wears it a week at a time. He does take breaks though
Update: he said his skin irritation is minimal as long as he uses oil to remove it. He also has been letting his skin rest a few days before putting new tape. He isn’t sure how much of a difference that makes since he’s only been using it for about a month
thanks for sharing!!
Thank you about the tip of pulling away your own attention from my chest rather than desperately trying to bind it even if it kills you.
On some days its just impossible to hide my chest and the idea of taking a different route of distracting yourself from it is an idea that Ive never thought of before.
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We even got a slouching tutorial to hide the chest lol
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You have to be VERY careful to never let slouching become part of your daily routine. It's surprisingly common for transmasculine people to end up with some kind of spinal issue due to the poor posture from hiding their chests this way
@@acespades2387 ye I got scoliosis lmao
Yeah, don’t do that. My neck and shoulders are fucked up from slouching most of my life
@@lyeondoe4990 lmao same
Can you please do a video on different non-binary haircuts or haircuts that could give non-binary people gender euphoria?
ooo this is a good idea!!
This is such a good idea, I would love to see something like this!
The wolf cut and mullet styles these days feel very gender 💅
PLS
@@irisolympiaif you do please include some for curly hair! I can only ever find the same haircut for curly hair (in all fairness the one i have) but i would love to change it up
I’m mainly actually watching this for my boyfriend. I’de love to have ideas on how to support his dysphoria and I also just love these videos
By support his dysphoria I meant help him with it. Wanted to make that clear lol
Awe that's so sweet
A really useful thing for me (Trans boy, very much a minor, no T, no op, no binder, all improvised) Is wearing a tank top underneath you shirt and tucking it TIGHT into your waistline, if you get it to lay right it can pull taut and not only hide a lot of the shape of the pointy mfing honkers but also kinda flatten them out if they aren’t already compressed. And for those wondering about heat, it is noticeably hotter and more humid but so long as you aren’t running a marathon in full sun you should be fine, note that I am from a southern state in America, so other countries may have hotter summers or weaker people idk
thank u for sharing!! 💌
“Weaker people” is so funny 💀 yeah no it gets probably about as hot as the southern US here in South Africa, but it gets fucking cold in winter so usually I’m wearing so many layers that I can get away with not wearing a binder at all
And tank top under the skirt and other top cloths it or atleast was verry normal for all cis men before. Also protect the overtop from sweet
something that helped me recently: a necklace! I have one with an adjustable leather strap with a large tooth, and having that be a little bit longer actually does that "taking away attention" thing really well
ooo noted!
i truly hope you know how incredibly strong you are for recognizing you weren't happy in your previous relationship, paid attention to your ex's (transphobic) red flags, and leaving while still doing your best to hold your head high and know that you deserve SO MUCH BETTER! i was in a situation like that in high school and felt so low about myself that i forced myself to stay in it and semi-closeted for way way WAY longer than i ever should've. thank you for you being so open and true to yourself, and thank you for being such a blessing in so many people's lives ❤
thank you ❤️ i feel like myself again
@@irisolympia i'm so happy to hear that!!! 🥰
Ive been trans since i was a kid, but i decided to just ignore it because i knew people wouldnt understand as i was just a kid. Now that im older, ive cut my hair, use binders and dress "masculine".
Ive come out to my whole family, even though they dont understand and areant as supportive im still happy. This also really helps me for when i need chest binder breaks and i still wanna hide my chest. I cant be openly trans where i live because its a transphobic community. But i sometimes get called a guy by people who dont know me. Which makes me happy, and im gonna go on testerone in a year or 2.
Thank you for this video
my gender is basically girl/boy with a hint of enby, and i have no idea what that falls umder but i genuinely do not care about labeling my gender
even though i love presenting feminine, i want to bring out my masculine side more (and even if im presenting very fem, i still want a flat chest). i very much need this video
(hopefully one day i can get a hysterectomy and top surgery otherwise i will lose my mind)
real!!!
just an important note: non-binary doesn't mean just having no gender. it's an umbrella term for anyone who isn't 100% male and only male 100% of the time, or 100% female and only female 100% of the time.
having no gender, being male but only sometimes, being male AND female, your gender changing, and anything else are ALL non-binary identities!
Here is what I did to get a binder incase it helps anyone.
I told my family i was planning on doing some cosplays that needed to have a flatter shape because they were male characters and I showed them pictures of said character so they got me them and then after I got them I said that I can't do them this year because of the cost of the other things that I would need.
If this helps give anyone ideas or anything I'm glad I could help.
oh my god i did this exact same thing to get my first binder lmao. great minds think alike fr
That’s actually really useful for the heat wave my city is currently in, so thanks for the tips iris!
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Ty!! I'm a 26DDD (yes 26!!) and it's literally the most awkward size ever. I feel like I have such limited options when it comes to hiding my chest 😭
I’m a 40ddd and I feel you so bad. It’s hell trying to find any compression tops or binders because it just doesn’t fit right, the chest ends up too tight and my ribs and far too loose, like I could fit a whole ass first into the rib area
I get you! Even though i'm nowhere near a DDD, I'm still pretty big! I'm a 40D, and i'm not exactly a thin person (i'm overweight), so it's very difficult for me to hide my chest most of the time! I tried two different binders, but it's nearly impossible for me to pull them over my head and chest! I struggle with them, even though one has a zipper in the front, and it's very uncomfortable for me to wear them for more than like 20 minutes and actually make me feel like i'm short of breath. So i think those are definitely not gonna work, and i won't be buying others! I guess maybe i'll just try and go with a bralette and sports bras under big t shirts 😅
@@AirGoddess1087 are you sure it’s not too small size? Because sure it’s uncomfortable as hell to wear to but it should go over your head fine and you should still be able to breathe
as a 34H its fr so hard to bind because the way im built lol
Mood, 38 DD ;;-;; yeh sure im also not exactly thin but ah man i want top surgery so bad that way i can be the bear i was made to be u-u
I don't really identify as queer, but I've always hated the functionality of "feminine" looking bras and like to be a bit more ambiguous with my styling choices. Thanks for the vid, love your style, and I'll possibly try a couple suggestions to get some summertime confidence! Always hated summer styles for this reason.
I don’t hate feminine looks, I just think my boobs get in the way sometimes wearing those bras😂
@@Sirawxy RIGHT???? 👀
the second you mentioned the slouch, I felt called out 😂
stopp your voice is actually so beautiful WHAT
hehe thank u!
thank you so much, im a 16yo tgirl who started diy hrt a few months ago and am gonna have to start binding around my family because they're transphobic and i have no knowledge of binders so this is extremely helpful
commenting to boost bc iris said we should lol
🫡 thank you for ur service
@@irisolympia lol yw
yessss, they r so underrated
I don’t have enough chest to need a binder (sometimes yay, sometimes sad). You bet I’m gonna watch the vid and drop a comment, they’re a really good resource and super cool!
Ty, as a minor this is so helpful. ALSO, I FEEL THE SLOUCHING PART. I do it subconsciously and honestly have no clue when I'm slouching or not, simply because of my chest. Mainly due to my voice which already makes me self conscious, because I feel like people can automatically tell that I'm not a bio male. Word of advice guys, don't worry about how your voice sounds! Especially if you're still under 18, it's hard to ignore/deal with, Ik. But it'll be okay, promise, just try to distract yourself or do something that you like. So that you aren't as worried about your voice, which I know is easier said than done but you've got this! ✨
Thank you for this! I’m a cis woman but I don’t have much of an attachment to my chest and would rather squish them down and not worry about them
As someone studying personal stylist in a country where summer is the 80% of the year. I like this!
If they won't love you no matter where your transition may end up, they don't truly love you🎉
trans tape has been my lifeline this summer, i recommend urbasics so so highly it’s the only tape i’ve tried that doesn’t give me any blistering at all (and i have super sensitive skin), no redness just remove it in the shower under warm water and you’re set. it’s so comfy and breathable and soooo much nicer than a binder especially in the heat
I unfortunately am not allowed to get a binder, and I’m struggling with telling my parents and friends. Thank you for these tips, I really appreciate it :)
I've been straightening my back these days even though I really want to slouch 😔
You are stopping long term back hurt!!! (I would know)
@@Starl1ng.real, I have neck and shoulder pain constantly and ik it’s because I slouch😭
i’m not trans (i’m a demigirl) but sometimes i wanna embrace my inner adam sandler so this is very helpful!!
demigirl is in the enby & trans umbrella, so you're trans
@@Hann551 ohh thank you!!
I can't use binders and never really liked any bras, even if they're very loose, because it makes me feel like I can't breathe. But I tried tape now (I can't buy proper trans tape here, so it's just normal sports tape, but many people use it for that too) and it's really good?
I was worried for sensory issues too, but I feel it much less than bras or anything. It can be a bit itchy because of the glue, but maybe proper trans tape would be different.
I don't thnk there's any dangers or health risks, as long as you take it off with oil or cream. After wearing it some time it also goes off easier. For me it's fine as long as I don't wear it longer than like 8-9 days.
My skin gets a bit irritated by taking it off but that's gone after a bit. It also helps to put cream on before putting the tape on...just not everywhere bc then the tape doesn't stick.
This is cool, I really appreciate how informative this is. I struggle with major size difference in my chest, in that if I don't consistently wear my prosthetic breast it could mess my spine up (in the past I used to literally start walking the direction the heavier one leaned lol) it also sucks that i'm quite large-chested too, I yearn for the flat chest. But then again, we seek what we don't have, is the common truth.
In the future I hope to get surgery so I can get rid of my prosthetic for good, AND wear a binder!
Thank you for the tips! I like my chest to look flat but I tend to get uncomfortable with any compression on my chest, even regular bras feel too constricting. What helps me the most is layers, which is tricky in summer. I like to wear lightweight button up shirts over tank tops or bralettes. They are nice to wear in the summer as long as they are breathable fabric and they also are good to keep the sun off your skin. I also got some overall shorts recently and I love to wear them in summer because it adds an extra layer to cover my chest without being too hot. When I do wear a binder I wear my old one that's kind of stretched out so it's more comfortable.
I am transfem, however the video was interesting, and the thing at the end, wearing things that just make you happy, even if it isn't gender euphoria does still rly help, as just being in a better mood abt sth makes dysphoria way less, that's sth i realised recently as i was rly stressed over sth irl and for 2 days my dysphoria got worse than it had been in more than 3 years (currently 2 years on hrt, overall i'm really happy with my body/the changes, just external stuff influenced my mental health and the dysphoria that was still there felt like it was "zoomed in")
im not even trans i just absoulutley hate having visible boobs idk why😭and always wanted want my chest to be smaller even when its already kind of small your videos are so helpful xx
i'm so glad i found ur channel, covering actual topics i struggle w, of which nobody in my life is even fully aware/supportive
OMG I HAVE NEVER BEEN THIS EARLYBON ONE OF YOUR VIDEOS!! Hi iris!! Your first binder video was really helpful to me because I'm just starting to get my chest and it gives me super dysphoria, so THANK YOU OMG YOU SAVED MY SANITY
yayyy thanks for watching!
i have a lot of sensory issues and i do want to hype up trans tape, its my favorite binding method! it takes some time to perfect (i have a larger chest as well) but its the most comfortable for me from a sensory perspective, like i literally forget that its there!
This is.. exactly what I needed, I'm shocked that YT knew because this isn't usually the content I watch lol. Thank you for this!! New sub
thanks for watching!! ❤️
Loved the video, especially the tip about cutting up your shirts is great, I always forget that I can diy my clothing
A binding method that I use without a binder! :D
Get a tank top bra, preferably with adjustable straps! Put it on, fold it in half, and adjust to your liking! In my opinion, it’s very comfortable and easy to wear, and hides my chest pretty alright! Even if you’d like, try a size lower than your size! Not sure if it would be comfortable as I haven’t tried, but I’d love to hear! :D
mix of ketchup mustard and bbq sauce for fries!!! needed this video i’ve been having a lot of dysphoria n ur my comfort youtuber tbh. hope you are doing well and sending all the love!!! 🍟❤️
🥹❤️ thx for watching
shoulder pads hide chest size too! this works great for me cause 1. i already have broad shoulders and 2. i wear lots of 80s & 90s stuff
now THIS is what i want to agorythm to show me; thank you so much Iris
So I’m a trans woman who is currently working on growing breasts through HRT! I can’t relate to this video much, but it’s nice to see what other people do for gender affirmation. Thanks for sharing!
i love your hair sm bro 😭
As someone who wears trans tape a lot (usually to exercise + move) and has a lot of sensory issues I would definitely recommend, just make sure you buy baby oil and read the instructions thoroughly many many times - also cover the sensitive areas of your chest because the tape can damage them if not properly covered
Your singing is beautiful 😭❤
thank u!
bro my sibling literally came into the room at the end just to ask me what the song was!! entranced bc it was so pretty gahhh. also tysm for this video
This ia gonna be so useful
Another good binder option is Tomscout, it’s made in my country which is known for being pretty hot and humid (30 Celsius average temp) so it’s good for summer weather. I was kind of disappointed because I thought my chest would be completely flat as a board, but ig with my size that’s just not realistic. It’s a pretty comfy binder and the fabric is nice and breathable
you're so pretty?? 😭😭TYSM BTW
I have to mention that binding tape also exists and can be used, even for bigger chests. It's less restrictive/hot than a binder and easier to hide under clothes. It's not as flat as a binder but leaves your chest looking much more like pecs. Your mileage may vary, of course. I find it makes wearing tank/muscle tops so much easier for me because the feeling of bras and binders drew my attention to my chest way too much.
I can recommend Transtape if binders or even sportbras feel uncomfortable on your ribs , because it doesn’t give tension on your ribs
no but like, why are you so prettyyyyy???? N THANK YOU!!!
ngl youre my comfort person rn
they're so pretty omg
After also having my initial discomfort with a gc2b binder, Shapeshifters was my upgrade. Liked the customizeability of the size/cut and options for zipper placement (I put it on the side to I could unzip it without anything showing, as I also wear it like a shirt with nothing over/under it).
love hearing your singing! I always rock out to your end song too, would love to hear a full version if it exists ☺️
i love the realness and just overall honesty of this video! thanks so much!!!🥺🥺💝
Your hair looks awesome :o
Schools starting and our uniforms are so bad. Plain T-shirts that are very hugging and there are no bigger size options they are just longer. Being overweight and not being able to bind is just so bad when you are forced to wear tight tops but your videos really help and maybe I'll be able to convince my mom to buy a sports bra!
actually i can wear a binder in the summer but my parents found it and burned it... so i couldn't wear some clothes that i didn't feel comfortable in without binder so i had to find ways to hide my chest so this video is very helpful
OH MY GOD TYSM FOR THIS, i live in a really hot country so even just wearing a bra under my clothes is nearly unbearable, but i still want ways to make my chest look flatter
Okay speaking of binders my actual favourite binder is CB01 print edition. It's comfortable and binds well and the pattern is fun to wear :)
im pretty young, and im not trans but im really insecure about my chest. ive tried slouching before but my dad now thinks i have a back issue .. and he makes me do exercises that he finds from the internet to help “improve my posture”. i dont think i can get a binder either? (fear of homophobic parents). but thank you for the video !! i think it helped me alot :DDD
I'm a cis woman, having 0 issue with my chest, but this video was interesting regardless.
A great hug to all trans, non-binary and genderfluid people out there!
I’ve been putting two sports bras. The first one normal and the second one turned around. It works pretty well and my chest is not that noticeable. My parents and friends probably would accept me if I actually asked for a binder, so this works well.
You are good at singing!
I’ve been avoiding wearing a binder or any kind of bra at all like this! (Tho I’m more on the smaller side thankfully, otherwise I would probably not be able to pull it off). It feels so much less dysphoric. I get sensory issues from binders so I kind of have no choice. I second all of this advice about shirt choices and stuff (tho I haven’t tried the cutting up shirts thing). I love your accessories btw, especially that choker with the spikes, it looks really cool!!
(Also I tend to call them “chest things”, calling them anything like “boobs” would feel way too dysphoric. Another one I’ve seen that I find really funny is “chesticles” XD)
Edit: I almost forgot to say this but another piece of advice about shirt choices is avoiding very regular, geometric patterns, especially ones with straight lines like checkered patterns! Though it’s sometimes worth it to try something on regardless to see if it really has that effect. Patterns like that emphasize curves. Actually, playing with more messy patterns can sometimes help if you like patterns. I personally like camo, it really hides shapes like that which makes sense since it was designed to hide shapes and make people blend into the background in forests and stuff. But plain black or otherwise dark fabric is also ofc a safe option.
This is incredibly helpful! I can't safely wear a binder (connective tissue disorder makes my ribs dislocate too easily, even some sports bras do the same thing so I have to be very careful)
and binding with tape, while more comfortable, is expensive and I get friction blisters so easily even if I do everything right.
So seeing different ideas for disguising my chest is very helpful!
i just realized ive BEEN wearing a zip up binder- ive never actually known because i have such a flat chest- 😭😭
(edit) i LOVE the way you cut the shirt but i feel like my dad wouldnt let me ruin my shirts- also you are SO pretty/handsome
Love the idea of cutting shirts! So many neck lines are too tight!
Recently I read welcome to st hells had a binder tip was the front panel for a binder in a normal vest top because Lewis found normal binders uncomfy and I'm definitely going to try it with my old one that's too small now
I'm unsure about your comment, but please don't wear a binder that's much too small.
@@JustAHarmlessSoph no yeah that's why it's just sitting in my draw and I might use it for this hack because it only requires half a binder
The algorithm was on its top game with showing me this video. ❤ I super appreciate the way the side by side examples were set up and how this covered specific ways that different articles were for sensory issues and why it helps with better shaping.
RAHHH thank you so much I would luv to buy a binder but I haven’t come out yet and it’s just scary (I subscribed)
Nah you got the talent to become a music artist or smth
Thank you for this! I’ve almost had heat stroke 3 times from layering/wearing hoodies in hot weather :(
I need to get this out somewhere bc it's going to kill me lol
Recently I've reconnected with a trans friend and he's kinda helped me realize that people really don't give a shit about me here (which is good actually). And ever since I was young I wanted desperately to get rid of my chest, I hate it how I look so feminine when I feel less than connected to being a girl than a guy. Like, I don't mind saying I'm a girl, but I wish I were a dude sometimes, and most of the time neither fit me. When I ask to buy a binder just to feel a bit more "me" I'm told I've been hanging out with the friend too much and "you're too feminine looking to be trans" which I never mentioned, so just trying to be gender ambiguous isn't exactly easy. I don't understand myself and if it is just a phase or whatever but like.. I've been so vocal about not wanting to look like a girl since I was around ten. Isn't that a sign??
Anyways, rant aside, I'll be trying these tips, so thank you for showing up on my feed. Cheers :3
this helped a ton!!! thank you so much iris! :D
Kinetology(?) tape is great too and cheaper than transtape. I personally use that and i never had issues with it. I think there are also some biodegradable versions but its more expensive.
Idk if this is just me but transtape hurts my skin really bad, so, if you are trying it for the first time, test it on your arm or smt with a small piece to make sure it won’t irritate your skin (It hurt for weeks after bcuz it messed up my skin so bad i couldn’t wear a binder for a while lmao)
I don't think binders are an option for me. I already bought two different pairs, and they were nearly impossible to pull over my huge chest! I can't wear one for more than 20 minutes, or i start to get a tightness in my chest like it's hard to breathe! I even went with an XL, which is the size i usually get for shirts but i guess that doesn't work with binders too. So i don't think i'll be buying another one. I think maybe i'll give a bralette a try and just stick to sports bras with no padding and big t shirts 😅
they are definitely not for everyone! but if you want to give a binder another try, be sure to take your measurements and order accordingly! different brands have different sizing
one thing you can do if you cant afford a jacket is wear a short sleeved button down over a t-shirt! it looks summery, and you can also tie the bottom front ends together to further hide the “boobage” :3
Great video! Love the tips! I've hated my chest since puberty due to assault and have always been interested in, yet intimidated by, finding a good binder. Currently i just have a few sports bras that are super comfy and somewhat reducing. But they're old and i can't even read the brand name so soon I have to do some shopping. I love the zipper one the most. So easy to get on and off and looks comfy as heck.
Im so exciteddddddddd :3
Tysm! I cant bind or even wear a sports bra without my breathing geing all short and having pains so this helps
watching this video because autism makes me hate anything tight on my body lmao. nice tips!
omg this right before school season TYYYY IRISSS💕💕‼️‼️
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yo this is awesome! I don't bind for sensory reasons (or bra) so the distracting tip is going to be super helpful! any tips on styling or whatever in a way to alleviate hip/leg (?thigh?) dysphoria perchance
I have pretty narrow hips, so I don't experience this often, but I recommend sticking to veryyyy baggy jeans
Have you ever tried binding tape? Bras and binders were too much for me but binding tape feels much better when I apply it correctly.
Also, for the pants: you can't minimise hips so instead try to create a straight line from hip to ankle (or hip to knee for shorts). Think wide, straight-cut pants. Your curves will be swallowed up.
Thank you so much for the tips!! As a closted enby this means a lot to me!! I already do a lot of styling to make myself more comfortable and I hadnt thought about minimizing the way the fabric lays around the side-boob area- thanks again
got recommended this 5 months after top surgery 😎
I never saw fhis kind of advice this is SO helpful omg thank youuu!!
The youtube algorhythm knew better than me that I needed to hear people having the same problems as me lol
This is my acc that my parents don’t know of and they said they would kick me out if I was trans and this is so helpful thank you so much ❤
NOBODY IS TALKING ABOUT TYE SONG?!? SO GOOD
im a huge fan of transtape/kinesiology tape! i use it mostly full time personally! (i take breaks and use a binder here and there!) though there Are a lot of downsides with the kind of freedom you get with it
1. removing it is a Pain. its a long ass oil soak then a 20 minute shower once a week to get it off without removing your skin with it (which if youre impatient you WILL. its not fun). some brands might be different, but the tape i use is super waterproof so the adhesive is pretty full on lol
2. its kind of pricy. the tape i use, a 6m roll of kinesiology tape, is $15 aud which kinda adds up compared to a one time price of a binder. i typically use 6 pieces of tape measuring maybe 10cms each time so $2.50 a week!
3. its unfortunately only feasible to get a FLAT chest with smaller breasts, though ive heard people with larger chests use tape in tandem with other binding techniques to shape and get those thangs Secured. it really comes down to anatomy and technique, like personally i can get relatively flat, but its not guaranteed?
i still find its really worth it to try, it lets me do a lot of active things with the freedom of having a flat chest and to wear shirts more comfortably. my biggest tips are to: shower and then clean the area with alcohol before putting on the tape (so no oils interfere with the adhesive), round out the edges of each strip of tape to minimise lifting, warm up each strip with your hands to activate the adhesive (and rub over it after applying), and get a good flattening sports bra because wearing it over top helps lock everything in especially in the first few hours! also if the tape itches you probably didnt wait long enough between applications lol. hope this helps someone!