How To Get Over A Breakup
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- How to get over a break up and get on with your life.
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Hit the gym, eat right, read, & invest. You didn’t lose her, she lost you 🥊💯
beauty
Boss shit!!
“Attachments create suffering.” Needed that!!
Yoda!!
Powerful stuff.
Let everything happen naturally, anything that is forced just ain't worth fighting for ❤
Girlfriends I get over in a month, 4 at the most. But it’s different when it’s a wife with kids. Didn’t just lose the identity of a husband but also the family home… coming back home to my little girls. Got 50/50 custody but still not everyday I come home to them. That’s the part that gets tough. I think I’m over the woman, she’s just ordinary and I know I can do way better but it’s the family etc. I did suffer for a whole year like for real started from nothing. New career where I’m thriving, just got a raise and now a new promotion so things are looking bright for me. I’m still failing at staying focused at times but it’s fine. I’m getting my shit together, slowly but steady. My girls adore me and look up to me. Baby momma is annoying but it is what it is. The better I do the more she gives me BS. It’s beginning to look a lot like I told you so lol.
Good for you!!!
Shaun this strikes deep with me. My ex of two years left me basically out of the blue because she met a guy she liked at work. We lived together for a year and a half. Things were going well, we planned our future together, had pets, had friends and couples over at our place on weekends, our families met. All the usual serious stuff. Around the time when she got her new job she started acting differently towards me. I ignored it at first but then started to get real suspicious. I don’t trust these women Shaun, they’ll say one thing and do another.
Next thing I knew I got the “we need to talk” line. She was honest enough to say we needed to break up and that she tried to change her feelings but she wasn’t honest enough to give me all of the details why. I had to piece things together after the fact. All her behavior and things she said started making sense once I figured out she met another guy. The final proof was the fact that she actually brought the guy over, that was her admission of guilt, and still at that time she had my mind so twisted and confused that I thought she was doing that to push me away. But that was her way of telling me she had met another guy.
She hid all of that not only to protect my feelings but I’m guessing to remove accountability and guilt from herself as she felt really bad for not staying loyal. At first she gave me the typical BS reasons like “I need to focus on me” and “it’s just not working anymore.” AKA be able to go and be with other guys. She even said I was a great boyfriend and that she was a bitch but still I took it hard and took a lot of the blame not realizing her part in all of this.
It took multiple years of healing and realizing that the problem was her and not me, she tried to hide so much knowledge from me, I would’ve respected it more if she just told me the straight up truth. Her trying to cover things up caused a lot of confusion and miscommunication. Had I known what I know now I would’ve reacted differently but I take it as a learning experience. Sometimes we get made out to be the bad guy when we did mostly everything right and the problem all along was them. She even said that I should make sure that my next girlfriend isn’t a bitch. It’s a sad story as we said we were in love with each other and I’ll never fully understand what really went on but I’m ready to leave it in the past and move on for good. Thanks for reading brother Shaun.
@AndlOtd763 It's hard because you loved her. When a man loves, he loves. Please don't blame yourself for it. She made a choice (using her agency - like we all have). You're human.
DON'T TRY TO UNDERSTAND OR ANALYSE WHY SHE DID IT BECAUSE YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND THE WORKINGS OF ANOTHER PERSON'S MIND. That's why even torture in war has a low success rate. It's hard to extricate information from someone's mind.
As you said, you'll use the experience as a lesson, and I am sure you'll be a vessel of sage wisdom to someone else because it is no longer textbook or movie stuff for you. You've been through it.
I'm telling you., as Shaun and others said., "ACCEPT the reality. You popped into this world alone, and you go alone.
We were created with healing capabilities- physically and mentally. You will heal from this. Start working on some of the recommendations Shaun has, and soon, one day, you'll realise a day has gone by without you thinking about her, then a week, months, etc. You become indifferent but not negatively or evilly because you've evolved, and it won't be for her, but for you - it'll be a new state of being for you, not vengeance towards her. When you get to that level of development, you will see her as someone else - like any other people you see on the street. Of course, as a human being, you will still have an "attachment" because the brain doesn't forget that you once knew her deeply. Still, no emotions of love are invoked - if that didn't happen, that would mean some element of cognitive dissonance, albeit small - else you wouldn't be human (it's the same as bumping into that junior school girl who thought you would marry 😂), but it does mean you want to get back with your ex. It's just biology, so it's not a surprise you'd feel a certain way [as Shaun would put it]
Bro, you're your own man and focus on bettering that man, but WiTHOUT the intention of getting her back. It's about you and you alone. I can tell you if you apply the principle Shaun articulated here, you'll come out as a better and more evolved human. I am not sure how old you are. Still, if you ever watched the first 3 Matrix movies, I think in Reloaded, there's a part where Neo got trapped in the train station. He would traverse to one end (believing it was an exit route only to find out the exit route was an inescapable one that brought him back to the same spot he had started from). So he was trapped. It's like those complex cyclic dependencies in software engineering that are hard to resolve, but through a stepwise approach, you'll eventually fix the dependence of the code. I'm trying to get you to see that even a ball of rubber bands can be dismantled if you're patient and kind to yourself.
She left you. There is nothing much you can do about that, and as Shaun advised, listen to R. Kelly's song. In the lyrics, he even says, "Listen to these words as the record plays." [paraphrasing]
We're here for you, bro, and you'll look back and realise it happened for a reason(Shaun has another video on that, too - that everything happens for a reason).
It's painful, but you'll look back (if you put in the work to self-improve) and realise it was a blessing.
And to my man Shaun, I'm praying for your channel to keep growing, and I believe it will. Peace ✌️
Did she ever try coming back or regretting it? Hope you rejected her..
Been free from a narcissistic girl who ditched me out of nowhere for 7 months and I could not be happier
Best channel ever, forget no contact and kill your hope.Thanks to my heartbreak, I discovered and found comfort in philosophy, Stoicism, Taoism, and Zen. I realised am not my body, brain or mind, those are just my experience in this lifetime that build up my Ego... meditating i am watching them, and I regain control over them. As you said in the video, just reading a book won't work, keep notes, go back to it daily, it has to become a mantra that you embody in everyday life and situation. Sharing my experience with you all, i hope guides someone to the right path. Thanks again Shaun, you help me so much during my darkest hours.
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Shaun is the more educated version of AMS! I just watched an AMS short video on what to not accept from a woman!
It hits a little different when the woman you trying to get over was your wife
The major line in this video "do that for yourself" one of my partner say a line keep your stock up!
Thanks, G needed to hear this. Had to break up with her after she told me she's pregnant with another man's child from a previous relationship.
Brother, what a great pleace to be when you dont want your ex, dont want to be in a relationship and dont even feel like you want dating and dealing with women. Just you, your grind, family and interests, plust all the things on your bucket list
Thank you! all these videos about getting your ex back, doing this, sucking this blabla you put me on the bottom from this delusional Trip.
They are an ex for a reason. I learned the hard way. Better off with out a woman and work on your self,get better,get fit, and move on. When you see that you are the prize, you don't need game. Stay stoic with them and you can get any woman.
This subject! Experience is the word.....my ex ended up screwed after years of doing wrong! It actually hurt me to see her so damaged mentally, financially, emotionally. How bout dat!
It took my last ex getting pregnant for me to finally be able to fully get over her 3 years later. Once a woman has a man’s baby, she will forever belong to dat dude regardless, if they are together or not.
Great video as always. Thank you
Very well spoken! Thank you
Facts on Facts 💪🏼
thanks bro, needed this. i was in a relationship for 1.5 years off and on. after the 3rd time she broke up with me. fucked up, because i somehow tried to get her back. after 4 months i am good and focusing on myself. of course some days are still like shit but i know I will get over this, grow and make money like never before. if you put the WORK!!
Great words Brother. Tell it
I needed that man, listen to this alot thanks man
Zachary always keeping real
EXCELLENT ASF 🙏🏆💯💪
This is the way!
You fall into a rabbit hole of shit if you get caught in the Web of attachment. Watching shit to help you cope, like "will she return" videos. All you need is a rabbit hole full of "Shaun Zachary" RT. Takes time guys....and your timeline cannot be predicted, you just got to ride the wave of constructive habits that contribute to you getting over it....consistently! Get em shaun!
lady over here, came for your thoughts but stayed for the smile. 😘
Thank you 🙏🏼 🙏🏼
@@ShaunZachary you’re welcome
im already loving this channel
Truth needed on time. Like as usually
Great words of encouragement bro people need things like for sure sure.
Bro I agree ! Tips on trying to get an ex back is the worst shit I’ve ever heard. Focus on moving on and self improving 💯💪🏾
I just found your channel, Thanks for keeping it 100% some of us need to hear your Gospel.
Fantastic wisdom and I appreciate the gems you share with us Coach Zachary!
Bro you spoke facts when you said everything is temporary 💯🙅🏾♂️realist video ✊🏾🔥
Thank you for changing my life Shaun. Keep up with the good work, you are really helping us 🙏👑👏🔥🙌🇿🇲💯💥
Most valuable video for all men.... love you man
Bro you’re speaking truth. I’ve 100% experienced this. Coach Zachary 💪
My bratha thank you for your videos they helped me tremendously and helped me become a monster ..
Yes bro your word's are like strong food for mature people only
Thank you and God bless you!
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Enjoy your weekend Coach. FACTS! It's time for some new Devils. Whole new levels. Peace Big Bro.
Real
The irony is that the ONLY way she’ll come back is when you truly, sincerely, honestly, deeply, and most importantly, noticeably dont een gaf no more.
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Thank you, Shaun, you're the brother I never had. God bless and keep up the good work.
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I have watched a lot of how to get your ex back videos and I am gratefull for them and for the creators, it helped me start my healing process, to process my emotions and get back my rational thinking over emotional thinking. Basically it helped me starting to detach from her mentally. Now it's time for guys like Shaun, Masculine Energy or even Tate to fully recover and become the best versions of ourselves.
I started reading Earl Nightingale because your recommendation in a previous video 🔥
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You dope my boy
You diserve higher recognition
Appreciate it bro, one day 🙏🏼
Experienced this pain a few months back to a similar situation. Wanted this girl so badly who I was friends with, but kept friendzoning me with hopes of one day. Then tells me that one day she found someone else she's interested in. That hurt like mf. But key is don't be attached to anyone, be attached to yourself and core values. Thanks for the ongoing advice Shaun.
Amen guy!
Best knowledge and wisdom keep bringing it my guy 💪🏿💪🏿👐🏿 mindset let's go we the prize ya dig ..but in reality woman come and go hit the gym chase money 💵 hey it's life ..
Time to level up. Fuck it!
Best breakup channel
great video bro. I broke it off with her after she started to disrespect me in many ways, and quite frankly I've been sipping for too long, doing whatever she wanted. The last few months of the relationship, I could see that shit through and even when I did make an attempt at changing it, she wouldnt budge. she would hit me with the "I deserve it". fuck that. I was mentally drained. after 4 years, I let her go & feeling purposeful and on my grind. Learnt my mistakes, and will continue to strive, and be a man. After all, turning 25 and a lot of the shit I used to put up with, I can't stand no more. Onwards and upwards. Ive been consistent with gym with her, but now its a different kind of level while im also on retention. 19 days straight of working out, good food and quality rest. lets go boys, whoever is dealing with a break up, pray to God & be spiritual, and get your ass active. We are man, we have to overcome & solve ourselves.
Preach
i really love how you say "fellas" 😅👍 joking aside though, Shaun you are THE MAN and i always enjoy listening to you and you boost my confidence like no one else, thank you and thank you again, for sharing your experiences with us🤜🤛
i am only mad at the fact that she was cold towards the end with all the excuses she can come up with , and i over looked them .
it's okay now , because i ain't gonna fall into the same trap anymore .
Attachments are dark! Spot the red flags early and leave before you are weakened.
That's very true because look at the red flags and just take a before it's too late because at the time I was weak and ignored all her red flags with my ex-girlfriend then I just end up getting my heartbroken and she just kicked me out to the curb. Because be very aware!!! Of her red flags and all her BS
I felt this one. Thank you!
Ya, you know when the "Goose is cooked" when you simped so badly that she literally called you a simp to your face! That happened to me years ago..🤦
You are the prize, it's her loss!
For the first time in almost a year, i feel some peace. I was still attached, i begged, cried, tried doing the no contact. And we live together. She prinly thought i was crazy, unstable. Shit i was unstable. Now, if she wanna go, then go. I went within, saw some shit i need to work on. I got a plan now. Sticking to it. I tripled my income since this betrayal happened. My daughters feel safer around me now, the outcome isnt my end all be all. Nah. My manhood is my end all be all.
Bro need waayy more subscribers.
Appreciate it bro! Slowly but surely
Ya you gotta leave those Narcissist alone
cheers
It’s about taking ownership of your faults and what you really bring to the relationship. Beautiful women, as cold. as they may be are like delicate flowers. Be nurturing and enjoy their beauty while you take care of them. Trust me. I understand it’s a two way street but they need to feel loved. It’s that simple. Love your woman Fellas
The power lies in time and distance. If she dumps you, going 0 contact is the best way for both parties. It’s best for you healing, it’s best for you moving forward.
Play it cool when she walks out the door like you don't care. Chances are she'll call you back when it doesn't work out with another man.
Facts: Most men don't understand that most women won't never be happy with or without u. U have one life don't waste it on anyone else.
Was seeing someone she said to me he was the love off my life should not left him to my face
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Same thing same story happened to all US men, man let her go she do him the same or he will her, let it go is all we can do bc they ain't loyal but say that's what they want from you, man it's all b.s
What I've learned more and more is that it's better to be angry than desperate. An art of gentle anger, not a destructive one. The anger at yourself for being so stupid, the anger at the person who broke up because with their arogance they believed they had done everything right in the relationship. Anger in silence, not in action or words. Not an aggressive beast, but a controlled beast. This power can be channeled into productivity.
Anyone can get angry, that's easy. But being angry at the right person, to the right extent, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way, that's hard. -Aristotle
"Anger makes more sense than despair" -The Terminator
Any videos for dating as a single dad, with custody of his kids?
Good video idea brother thanks
@@ShaunZachary thank YOU. You’ve been a big help for my recent situation. Keep up the great content.
She chose him over me Shaun
Life game GOAT #goldpill
My dude 🤜🏼🤛🏼
“She was raised in Illinois, right outside of Chicago” 😂
Some of the best cookin you ever had 💪🏼
Real sh*t..been trying to tell some associates of mind this...
They Still chasing...
Like my father say: let them hit it.
(Meaning let them see the consequences of their stupid choices)
Thats when they gonna learn.
Facts bro ✊🏼