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- She has had enough of everything but still wants to save the marriage. He doesn't see any point in dragging the fight and wants to resolve the issue. Who do you think is right?
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Womens was always wrong ghar ko todti hain 👎👎👎
Love u guys . All of your videos are amazing. Keep it up guys. Love u and god bless u.😊
@@madhujadas4809 i to you
@@naryankartik3314 nice to listen that
@@madhujadas4809 y are so sweet hunny
His demand for marriage was a working bride. But later he forced me to leave the job as I was earning far beyond his own. Then he started forcing me to look for a job with low salary. After 10 months of my marriage I left him as his family started forcing me to conceive. I couldn't let a new life suffer. People often advice that I should give a little more time to fall the things at right place. But nobody understands that I could not afford a baby with such a man.
Its okay i understand parenthood is a choice not compulsion so you dont need to clarify your self its totally your choice because u will give birth to a new life so its your right to decide weather u want a baby are u ready for it or not
The earlier the better(in such cases) ! 👍
You are absolutely right
Well we shouldn't always speak truth about our salary to anyone because nobody knows when situation /circumstances changes..
Always have some savings without telling anyone because it will be there till end...
Btw it's just a suggestion
you did good! peace of mind over pieces of mind any day.
I think every married girl can relate to this
So do I
Miss manisha before marriage u should tell ur man that he should be isolate from his family.
My advice to you dont marry because you cant understand relationship
Same here... Specially mother in laws use to be the main culprit of every breaking relationship... They are always jealous of there daughter in laws !!
@@shaktiborah2928 better u don't marry. Good for the girl
@@manasamvs8300 did i say something wrong? Before mareage girl should have clear discussion with man that he should be isolate from his house after marrage. Now a days this is kind of trend going on.
Dont live with parents after marriage...thats the golden rule...if neither the guy nor his parents understands this, then better live and die single....
not after marriage, after getting job they have to live on their own... independently...
This is my life right now I support ananya .... struggling with the deadly intervention of so called mother in law ...
Same problems here
Obviously, Ananya has the point and why should all the time girls should compromise ?
A marriage is a participation , not anyone's responsibility and both ends have to deal with the situations, not all times the girls.
True
Absolutely true, I agree👍
Logical
Stay with the wife's parents for 2 years.. Then see how it feels.
Best comment!!
So true!
I even asked my husband d same...lol...bt u knw men can't
This whole marriage system in india should b changed.....atleast western societies are superb in dis matter!
पहले लड़के से ज्यादा पैसा कमाओ और तब बात करना।
और जब divorce होता है तो लड़को को ही अपनी आधी प्रॉपर्टी देनी पड़ती है।
और लड़कियो को कुछ नही
लडकिया सब शादी कर के आती है, तो अपने husband और mother in law को अलग करती हैं,मैं सारी लड़कियों को नही कह रहा हु।
लड़के सब जिन्दगी भर अपने मम्मी पापा को अपने साथ रखते है, और उनकी सेवा करते है, वही लड़की सब शादी के बाद अपने मम्मी पापा को छोड़कर भाग जाती हैं।
और एक बात और हम लड़के अपने मम्मी पापा को कभी नही छोड़ने वाले चाहे कितना भी wife अलग करने का जोर लगाले।
हमारे मम्मी पापा ने हमे जन्म से ही पाले है, उनको उनके बुढ़ापे में हम लड़के अकेले कभी नही छोड़ेंगे।
@@user-cy6vj8jk3s bhai sahab...toh apke kehne ka matlab hai ki ladkiyon ke maa baap ne uhne nhi pala? 😃🙏
Girls leave behind their parents coz dey r left wid no choice.....so if the customs, boy or d in laws are responsible for their separation from their parents its entirely boy's n in-law's responsibility to treat girl with love, respect n care dey get in their parent's home....n yes dun ever abuse a girl physically 🙏
Ab batao "Ghost " bhai sahab kuch zyada demands hai ladkiyon ki???😃🤭
Ananya is correct. She is trying her best to assimilate in the family however isn't able to do so since two years. Meanwhile Yash should understand efforts made by Ananya.
Ananya is correct, kya baat kar rahi h madum, maan lete h aapki baat sahi h, lekin jo ladki do saal main bhi teen logo ki family main adjust nahi kar pasi, to kya garanty h ki wo devorce lekar dusri shadi karke unki family main adjust karegi, aur waise do saal ka samay to bahut hota h kisi ki pasand ya napasand ke baare main jaanne ka, maine apna parivaar chod diya tumse shadi karne ke liye ab tum unhe chodkar mere saath raho, ye kis tarah ki maansikta h annanya ki.
@@AashishKumar-vj8wi atleast ananya sacrificed compromised.. What has yeah did?ap jese ladke ke liye aj desh ka iye hal hain
@@simranhossain368 zara soch samajh kar boliye madum shayad apko mera comment hi pasand nahi aaya isiliye baat ko aap tere mere par le aayi h, maine kya galat kaha ki do saal ka time bahut hota h adjusnent ke liye, aap shyad tasveer ka ek pehlu dekh rahi h, tabhi to aap aisa comment kar rahi h
@@AashishKumar-vj8wi i am not here to fight you...i just want to say"yash ki bhi galti hain"and why alz a girl has to adjust... Ha thik hain ladki o ko adjust karna chahiye but boys also should do the same...aur galti dono ki hain..ap bas ananya ko kaose galat kehe shakti hain...yash ki bhi galti hain...atleast ananya tried to correct them...yash hasn’t tried.. aur main nahi ap tasveer ka ek pehlu dekh rahi hain...and its usless to secrefice and compromise for boys..cz they dont understand and value it
Main bhi yaha aapse fight karne ke liye baitha madum, galti aapki bhi nahi h shyad aaj hamari mansikta hi aisi ho chuki h ki agar mard ki galti ho to bhi log kahenge ki wo galat h aur aurat galat kare to bhi samaj kahega ki mard ne hi ghagda kiya hoga, madum main kisi ka paksh nahi le raha, aur aakhir main ek hi baat kahunga ki jo mahila sughad, samajhdar aur sanskari hogi wo kabhi teri meri galti ke peeche apna samay barbaad nahi karegi, agar uske ghar main koi baat ho bhi jati h to wo apni samajhdari se uska hal aise nikaal degi jaise kabhi kuch hua hi na ho, khair mere comment se aapko takleef hui ho to maaf kijiega.
This was my life for 10 years. Although the fighting and argument didn't happen much. Because I was too scared, too lonely to fight for basic human rights. Took a long time and lots of patience to achieve my happiness. We moved only 3 miles away and now everyone likes everything. Food somehow tastes better, house somehow looks cleaner and decisions somehow get the approval we craved for 10 years.
happy for you. It is a tough road and hard to decide to oppose the norms or be submissive?!?! Living in a joint family is good and bad! Good as we have our own supposrt system, and bad because at every step there is a demand for "adjustment"! "Taali ek haath se tau nahin bajati!
I am really happy for u. But lots of ppl r not able to achieve this n in to go thru separation. If u could share how it all went nicely n u managed to move a few miles away. It will help . Cheers...👍
This is our society.. rules are meant only for girls.. and if someone doesn't follow all starts telling we have also suffered a lot... Even our parents do this so what can we expect from husband and in-laws
Dont listent to society, Society always cooks something up
Listen to what you want
True!! Rules are made for girls by the girls. So sad
When a daughter is born,the parents are mentally prepared right away that she has to leave them some day and keep themselves secured for old age.Whereas when a boy is born the parents start having a lot of expectations and anticipation from their son and develop insecurity.It is the responsibility of couples not to place lot of financial or emotional expectations from their kids, rather focus on their spouses in old age.Couples forget themselves and focus all energies on kids.This conditioning needs to change for things to get better.
Also insecure people will always create trouble. An insecured mil or fil will play spoilsport to display their concerns.
Mythili Srinivasan wow so well said you know I have a son and I will surely prepare myself that my son will have his own house his own life
A sensible comment finally from a women...in the entire comment box...
This channel is actually demonizing and questions every traditional aspect of Hindu marriage..
It's that sick indian mentality again. I'm from Singapore and no one asks us here about marraige or like so when are u gonna get married. Marraige is just an add on you need to love yourself first.
Finally! A sensible comment
Parents shouldn't be too dependent on their kids... Parents raise their kids so that they can pursue their dreams and have their own life... The kids actually repay this by investing on their own children... So parents should have self respect and should not expect too much.. They should spend their last special moments with their partners and leave their children at peace... Children of course are there to support you.. But they are not your slaves.... That's all
Very nice finally someone spoke this point out old to sabke parents hote h but girls can leave their parents and boys can't 😂🤦♀️
It's as if they took the story from my own life, but I fought silently till there are 30% improvements in their behavior towards me. I did think of divorce so many times, but my parents asked me to exercise some more patience. Without anyone to support you in the family, a husband's home feels more like a jail where you are serving lifetime punishment rather than a home.
Anaaya is right, she has tried adjusting for 2 years , she changed her job, she learnt cooking, what efforts has husband made?
Additti Kapoor I agree with you what adjustments has he made?? What has he bought to the table nothing! So why should we as women adjust to them... He should go and live with her parents and see how it feels...
Well said..... 👌👍
Exactly, these morons just want the girls to be perfect and adjust in every little things. Bastards
@@RespectTheVoiceless24 all men are not morons. 😁
@@jasminhealyourself7034 madam u said well, only reason behind this issue is unrespect the views of ladies naa
But one thing mam there are many restrictions to boys other than the girls also
What the girl explains goes against the male ego, hence he refuses to understand that change n space can resolve the very root of the problem. Sometimes it's quite tough for in-laws & spouses to adjust, giving each other space buys time n makes relationships grow stronger, not weaker
In laws are never happy when girl's parents visit their house .... When you avoid her parents then why do you expect her to welcome your parents.... Either both nor any
I do not get this. Why shouldn’t the parents visit? Is it only one persons home? It is a ridiculous statement
True. mein bhi yahi sochti hu ki jinke ghar se apne bete k liye ladki select karke laaye hain usi ladki k ghar valo ko pasand nahi karte fir ye bhi expect karte hain ki bahu sasural k poore khandan valo ko accept kr le.ye kaise ho sakta hai.
Gorgeous Aniyah this is IndoPak family problem. Even my mom visited me first time in US at the time my son was born and she brought so many gifts , at the same time my mother in law was with us because if her pota was born my mother just came for one month and my mother in law stayed for 6 months. She always telling my mom oh tum meray betay kay haan aayee ho, then my husband and his mom used to criticize me that your mom tou bohat ajeeb hein koi kaam hee nahein kertein jub un ko baar baar yeh bataya jayey ga kay tum meray betay jay haan aayee ho
Then I gave some gifts to my mom and family as they sent so many things anc my husband is physician so there is no problem from money side, but the same day my mom left my mother in law was screaming and telling my husband that esa taaraazoo mein tol kay cheezein dein jitni nundoun ko dein itni upni behnoun ko dein khoob credit card use kia although we gifted gold sets to three of my sister in laws, but still she was unhappy to give gifts to them and my husband was quietly listening to her!!!
That was my mom first and last visit. Even my mother in law complained to my mom that she is not working after less than one week my son was borned and even I made many dishes before that in advance. There is a long list that she had been used to say now she got aged and shows me that she was such a good mother in law, but those things got stuck to my head. Can’t forget her misbehavior.
@@durdananaqvi8606 husbands listen his mother quietly bcoz they have no guttz to say anything to his mother .chahe vo Sahi ho ya galat.ladke sochte Hain ki sirf unki maa be unki paida Kiya h r BADA Kiya h.girls to bas aasman se tapki hain.i think sometimes father in laws are good than mother in law.
2:25 as if wife ke parents kabhi old ni honge 🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️ I would totally support the girl she was right
Absolutely right.👍
@@vedashreejoshi4413 thanks😇
Yes bhavy.. As if koi amrit piya hn wife k parents ne jo kabhi old ni honge..
@@madhurigowda5782 exactly
Mam there is no matter like that. It is the duty of men to keep the his wife's parents as same his parents
Salute to such women who standup for themselves! fully support them!
The girl is absolutely right.... she tried her best, adjustments are done by her, solution also presented by her to save marriage by living separately. She will damage her own self esteem if she stays with his parents who keep putting her down all the time.... this ain't good for her.
What should be the solution? Serious Advice please
@@90sHarmonyHub the man must speak a little boldly to his parents that she's trying to adjust u please also accept her as your own.look away from every fault of hers.
@@criptions5654 Yes
And he needs to respect her career choices and what she eats
I totally agree to this.
@@90sHarmonyHub it would be best for the couple to stay separately, I see you are Christian and teachings in the bible says, honor your father and mother and yet in Genesis it says, that a man shall leave his mother and father and join with his wife. And the two shall become one. We are told to respect our parents but not ignore our partners. A priest I know who is marriage Councillor always said, that couples after marriage atleast for 1 year should live separately that they may get to know each orther well and bond together without interference. In this case both are adults and have their career, jus take a separate place and live together, bond, heal and work that marriage with love...
The age of 20-40 is prime time in every one's life. Fights and mental tension will only hinder progress for the entire family. The older generation should learn to keep themselves busy instead of interfering in others life..
Anaaya , she is right. Most women suffer with this everyday fights. It's better to stay nearby inlaws. And to be there when ever they need us. And live every day happily.
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I m married for long 18 yrs...
For first few yrs it feels that am the one who is adjusting..
But believe me guys...
Now I am a mother of 14 yrs old boy...
Now I understood..
That my in-laws have done to me.
Their love support acceptance..
That was priceless
Shareing ur life..
Ur love of your life is not easy
A daughter goes to someone else's life... That is different
But a person different from u n ur culture.. always trying to prove u wrong n herself true..
But if want ur child to b with u..
U have to tolerate all things..
It's quiet difficult
I blessed all people who liked this video must have a daughter not a son
This is the same story of all the Indian married girls.
Deepti S not only indian same problem from Pakistan. Culturally we are on the same boat.
True...
Same with me 😥
@NAVIN OJHA accha toh agar tumhe lgta hai ladkiyan adjust nhi krte toh tum thoda adjust krke dekho na !!!
@@aishikapal3267 nai.. Male ego hurts.. Dey can't adjust.. Becoz dey r man of the houses.. They love to dominate and still living in stone age.. Yakin ni hota aaj b aise log hn 2020 mn..
Ananya ! Why does the husband and the whole society expects only the wife to adjust or understand. Whyy ?
Well I support Ananya
As it's tru that from beginning girls have been taught to adjust but according to this modern world even boys should try to adjust
Girls r not the only person who should adjust boys should try it too as for boys adjust is just a word where as for girls ADJUST means hard work and patience
It is not easy to adjust as easy it is to pronounce it...
This same case happened with me and were about to separate but my husband's friends convinced my husband about the seriousness of the matter and now we live in another district..now in-laws realised my importance and the relationship is also saved..
Every Married girl can relate this more or less !!!
Yes, more aur less but unless and until people don't change their mind set such things will keep happening. I don't understand why in laws forget their past ? They must have gone through such time ? All most Everyone in this world is selfish or self centred, they don't want to remember what happened with them when they got married ! So the bottom-line is education and change of their mind set can only b the solution ! Till then we will have to see this, unfortunately.
@@dipakdesai3173 thanks for understanding...
Exact...it is a pity that in laws do that.
Thank God I am happily unmarried 😉
People who supports the girl - like
People who supports the guy - comment
Its not about boy or girl..its all about a perfect mairrage and its complications..!!
It's just a complications not about boy or girl.everyone is correct at their own situation 😊
@nasrin parveen well said..!!👍
It's not about girl and boy, ager both discussion ko sunai to
asa laga ki ek thak chuki hai adjust kar k or ek adjust karna nahi chahtay, if koi ek kadam agey barata hai to dusray ko b barana chahiye join family mai saas ko ma banna hoga or bahu ko beti, parents ko b samajna chaheyee, ma bap sai alag hona solution nahi but respect b both sides dena chahiye.
Ananya
Ananya is correct for sure....her husband's mother can try to learn cook ananya like her daughter but if sasu maa only give order that's not right yarrrr
I m suffering from last 5 years....i always support my husband rather then my parents. A complete arrange marriage .....and at the end...I what I got....I hv nothing. ..finally I m here to take decisions for my own...just leave him is a option for me
Good.
Look at your future as well rather than being with sick men as shown in the video -_-
Yes speak up if you are suffering
if they wont accept,divorce
Just a advice
You can take it or not
@@mirroruniverse9331 haa haa she will accept "adjustment" with others but not with her husband and/or in-laws! Maybe she will regret but the bridge would be burned by then! No point of return.
@@meerabakshi2676 just loved your point ❤️
@@meerabakshi2676 Deep analysis. Loved it
I am shocked to see the husband's point of view, he asks rather demands for unjustified adjustments from his wife but if she asks for the same he takes it as an option. Amazing how people can demand for adjustments and changes from a girl when she gets married, but they are not willing to accept the girl in their family
What unjustified demands .yaar yehi keh rhe na ki jaha ja ri ho bta ke jao isme kya unjustified hua .even our parents say that and they also ask kab tak aaogi .and they are expecting to cook food so isme kya unjustified ho gya yaar itna to koi bi expect krega na apni wife se ya bahu se . Ab ekdum swing m betha ke rakhne bologe to vo to ni ho skta .or jab hum job krte h to usme bi adjustment krne pdte hai apna time , kaam ,apne shokh ke sath par waha to ni bolte apne boss se ki hum adjustment krre h because there u get paid so muh band ho jata hai .and ghar me u didn't get paid to waha itna akad ki kyu adjust kare hum
@@bhawikadiwan4735 bilkul sahi
@@bhawikadiwan4735 respect for you Sister.
@@bhawikadiwan4735 shayad tum jb Saas sasur jab maa baap Ko gaaliya dete hoge toh naachti Hogi... Yahi tumhara self respect h... Aur haan paise de rhe h toh kya.. Wahan b self respect Hogi toh hi kaam krna chahye... Aur ghar aur office m difference hota h... Shayad tym waesi hi ladki ho Saas sasur ki juti ke neeche rehne wali
@@bhawikadiwan4735 it’s not about adjustment.. it’s all about loosing yourself… home is a place…where we want to live in comfort …whether it’s your birth home or home you live after marriage..but if these kind of taunts, restrictions , fights…occur it deteriorates one’s mental health.. and loosing yourself..means you r just compromising in every situation… adjusting and compromising are two different things … so family members also needs to understand girl’s perspective … and they should also try to adjust…and accept their daughter in law thoughts .
There are times were we all need our personal space and so Ananya is absolutely right .
Male partners will start understanding their female partners one day when d rule reverses and the male start leaving parents or their own home and moving to wives home and parents after marriage.. then they will undertand "adjustment" is not an easy thinh unlike the word it sounds to be.
I really liked the line - roz roz ke ladai jhagde se atcha hai na kabhi kabhi mile aur happy rahe. Tum khush wife bhi khush aur parents bhi khush itna adjust karna toh banta hai shaadi me
Being a girl, I can totally relate to this video.. boys should also adjust.. they need to understand and adjust accordingly. The one who is a new member in the family will always try to adjust bcoz she knows that nobody in the new family understands her
Ananya; why should always Female adjust and compromise and sacrifice.
Once why can’t the Male
Because the Male Ego will hurt
Yes
If ego goes off from people they will lead a happy life
Lavender Salah yes male ego is extremely fragile.
I support Ananya....the same is happening with me.....from day two, in- law started torture....buy ur tiffin from outside bz it is an extra money fr us, do not use washing powder daily for washing clothes instead soak it in cold water and dry it, do not use AC, do not watch TV, bz of love marriage son lost many matches that offered crores of dowry and lots of property etc....
when she got married , she separated from her in laws ....but now she wants her son to stay with her even after his marriage...
She can dry her clothes inside the house but when I do, she objects. One day when it rained , from terrace she collected her clothes and her son's clothes but left mine ...
One day when am packing my lunch box fr office, she took the food from my hands and argued that until her son wakeup and eat i shld not eat...
One day When my husband went to market to buy veggies, she took an empty bag n went on to road shouting....that i bet her son ...so son ran away from home...also i bet her and sent her out it seems....she framed a story on me...
After all these still my husband asks me to adjust but never asked his mother that y she did so....
When she does mistake , he never ask her infront of me....says to me that he will talk to her in person personally.....but when i do nothing but still confronts me infront of her........
As our's is a love marriage, For my husband , I went against to all my family members and married him....if at least husband supports us...that is enough...but no support from him
Same thing happened with me.
Mother in law can neva become a mother. Ask yr husband to talk to his mother and teach her some manners and ethics.. Or else take a stand fr yrself. Tit fr tat...
@@madhurigowda5782
Hm....true....mother-in-law never become mother or any of our family members.😑😑
No use of talking to my husband regarding his mom and her behaviour as already many times I said to him and he also know abt her behaviour and he never confront her abt her mistakes....😡😡😡
But nthg like we both wife and husband have issues. We r happy but when she interferes with our life then prblm comes....
So I warned both of them like if mother-in-law continues to ill-treat me the same way, am gonna book a domestic violence on them.😠😠😠😠
So my husband took a decision like to keep her in our native place ( Andhra Pradesh) and we both stay at Chennai as we both r working....
Yearly once or twice she visit us for 15 to 20 days. She left for her native in December ending 2019 and recently she visited us in November 2020.... almost 1 yr😅😅😅😅😅
Right now we are happy until she won't interfere with our life.
@@swethabotsa5587 happy fr u 😊 stay blessed
@@madhurigowda5782
Tq so much🤩
Definitely I will go with Ananya. Agyakari beta hone ka ye matlab nhi ki you don't support you wife when she is right. He must also tell his parents and should not take their parents side. A bad husband I think just giving execuses to save his parents. This is really unfair. A caring husband is one who takes side of his wife when she is right. Why should every adjustments is done by wife? A husband should also, their family members also should adjust to according to new married wife. Mai to yaha tak bolunga agar bahu ko apna banana hai to uski shadi se lekar 6 mahine tak uske liye pure ghar ko adjust karna chahiye. Reason ye hai ki woh akeli sab kuchh chhod ke aayi hai aur usko jyada care aur pyari ki jarurat hoti hai. Agar husband aur uski puri family sirf apna sab kuchh aur pura dhyan apni nayi bahu pe lagaye to ye problem lifetime tak na aaye. Aur waise bhi nayi bahu deserve karti hai ye sab. She is 100% percent right. She has right to be involved in decisions. I don't know why major parents don't behave with her like their own child? This is really unfair. Jaise ek ladki apne maa baap ke saath hak se rah sakti hai, aise hi hak se woh sasural me kyu nahi rah uski? Usko kyu waha apnapan aur pyar nahi milta? Bas adjust karne ke naam pe mental torture? Ananya is 100% percent right.
girl left everything for him so he need to understand and make her feel safe and happy
Yes she sacrificed a lot for him and at last she isn't happy
Very true basically guys ko humari society main bas paisa kamane ki machine banay jata hai ghar ke rishton ke liye sensitive koi ni banata. So he never understands ki apne parents ki taraf se bolun ya wife ki taraf se usko nahin samajh aata ki sahi ki taraf se bolna har relation ke liye important hai fir chahe vo wife ho ya parents. Jo jis situation main sahi lage uski taraf se bolna dono ke liye zaroori hota hai. Har galati ladki ki nahin hoti parents bhi kabhi galat ho sakte hain. Ek beti jab apne parents ka ghar chodkar jati hai. To uske parents ko pata hota hai ki vo ab kabhi kabar hi mil payenge apni beti se to ese main they look forward for such moments jismain vo usse milenge. Aur agar vo moments bhi ladki ke saas sasur ache se unki aav bhagat nahin kar sakte to unko kitna bura lagta hoga. Infact koi ladki nahin chahti alag hona coz she knows ki badon ka sahara hoga jab vo family badaeinge but jab in laws us ladki ko beti ki tarah accept hi ni karte to vo ladki kaise unko accept karle parents ki tarah.
@@mridukapoor1744 but nowadays girls don't stay with in laws ,doesn't matter they are modern or whatever. Before marriage they start thinking that husband is my property but life is easy when you stay separate .I m mother in law that is my experience bcz girls wanted rights not duties
yash....bocoz in this video ananya is wrong....if you think from right things....if you think from modern world ladkiyo ko har chiz ki ajadi honi chaiye bahu ke faisale chalne chaiye then yash ki parents galat he....mein itna hi kahunga always think positive....agar nagativiti dekho ge toh no one is perfect in this world....agar sab kuch mil jaye jindagi me toh tamanna kiski karoge....adhuri khwahise toh jindagi jine ka maza deti he....
@@harinderkhangura2568 Very bluntly girls place a condition on the matrimonial profile "NO PERMANENT IN-LAWS"! Wow...and oblige the boy saying she does not mind visiting them and/or inviting them once in a while. It would be good to have good relations staying separate! What generosity! And nowadays, many parents are choosing to stay separate just to save the situation where they see their sons being crushed between wives that is their responsibility as married men and parents that is their duty to care in their old age.
Every girl is expected to leave parents but if she ask same thing from a guy then she is wicked. Very very unfair. I clearly support girl.There should be same responsibilities and rules for both wife and husband. Why the DIL is not appreciated? Why the wife is not given preferences? The guy is wrongly justifying his parents.
Sometimes we need to tell our parents to understand and instead of telling girl to wait and adjust we need to tell our parents to wait and adjust 10% of there life style because the girl lifestyle has been changed 100% then what it was before marriage
Hope u have applied same in your home too..
@@foramchoksi1216 not married yet but yes thats the thinking for me right now it might change in future but now I full agree with what I said
Family means.....Parents,husband,wife,children and relatives too....but most important of family elements is Love,understanding,adjust,each other, sacrifice either you expected others to do. If you left any of these may lead you to arguements, fights,etc. So contribution must be from both side for every relationship.
Both, wife & husband should have a strong bonding & in laws should also try to adjust with the girl should make her comfortable in the new house & give her importance as they give to their son. After all everything is as new for the girl as it's for them. On the contrary they are matured so should handle the situation with care.
1000% true......
No in laws don't adjust. They expect daughter in law to adjust and keep her mouth shut.
Sad that they have lived their life but still do such things.
Thats true inlaw adjust nai karte sirf bahu ko hi adjust karna hai har cheez main khane se leke har cheez main please yaar tum loog bhi karo adjust wh ladki bhi apna style n all sab kaise change karde thoda tum karo adjust thoda wh karege
Well said
actually hum ldkiyo ko bachpn se yahi bola jata h ki humko adjust krna hai..... or sbse jyada to unko muskil hoti h jo intercast ya love mrrg wali hoti hai.... meri tarah.... kyuki mujhe hr pal bataya or jataya jata h ki tum hamari cast ki ni ho hamara khana alg type ka hota h.... kbhi kbhi to lgta h kya sch me pyar krke galti kr di ya pyar ke sath rahne ki chah me maine jindagi barbad kr di or to or mere husband b mujhe ni smjhte....... taklif hoti h khud ke liye... kya thi or kya ho gayi in logo ke liye..... mera 100% b kam hi lgta hai.....😥😥😥😥
Annanya ofcourse that point hit me soo badly when she said y all important decisions are taken withiut consulting me.i
Same
Guys Will always b mummas boy
His parents r getting old , toh girl ke parents are getting younger?
Chahe kuch ho jaaye , guys will always take their parents side.
Yes 100% we are bound to take side of our parents no matter whatsoever
@@indranilDey227 moron
Either he should support his wife at HOME and tell his parents that everyone has feelings so understand the value of word's while speaking at home or try to feel the experience to live with your partners parents,
Both are right in their own way
My suggestion is don't marry be happy...
Hahaha so true
Baba wali idea dia he be
Very true
Yeah 😎🤘🤘
Actually
I will support Ananya, as she spent 2 years for him, and he should also support her.
No Controversy Plz.
Correct
Correct
Right sir
It takes time to adjust but the couple has to be a unit and they can tackle the whole world. Allow other relationships to flourish too. These issues need to be discussed before marriage.
M not married but it's so relatable as I have seen my mother's life.
I agree with wife coz my hubby is very understanding supportive , ND he always understand wht his family behaviour's with me
It's time to adjust, dear men ! Please include the word "ADJUSTMENT" in your dictionary.
@Nehal Chudasama kitna bhayankar surname h aapka. aap ko yeh surname aapke husband se mila h? Agar haan toh bhul jaayei ki wo adjustment waali baat ko samjhega.
fuck off mahajan
@@aar2950 Mind your words. You'll never change. I pitty u!
@@mirroruniverse9331 fuck you....fuck off
Yeah Treat everyone equally
I'll definitely support Ananya.. because I also facing the same problem.. even we came out from my in laws family still my husband mom creating drama for each things.
This is my story...
Only difference is, I made this though choice after my twins came into my life...
And now m happy with them and my hubby is missing their childhood coz he didn't wanna make the rite choice of adjustment....
When you expect your daughter in law to be like your daughter, first step is to treat her like one, the girl has been brought up in entire diffrent family and has diffrent opinions and habbits still she tries to accept her inlaws or hubby's habbits or opinions. Instad of taunting her for her daily activities try helping her to adjust.
Very true and very good suggestion..👍👍👍
I feel both should adjust...where ananya is giving her effort, her in-laws also need to do something to get adjusted with her...no one should expect adjustment only from one side..
Adjustment should be made from both side...otherwise a relation can't last long
Agar one side adjust hota h to to adjust kabi respect me ni badal skta in laws k liye. Qki inside she is sad and frustated
Yes, both side has to adjust. Nahe tu yeh b sach hai ki life hell ho jati hai. Esi leye miya biwi ke beech understanding hona sab se zaroori hai.
u r right
True
Thank God I got a very nice family full freedom and care😊😊😊😊
Ananya..... Its right to support ur parents bt at the same time understanding ur partner is also compulsory
Going through the same phase, unfortunately Husband has the same behavior & thinking like of in laws.. n now gonna get separated in few weeks.
Shruti Sawant feeling really bad for you. But stay strong. May be life has better plans for you.
Be strong..I know every girl is strong to handle herself..but due to society pressures we succumb to the situations adjust n make our lives miserable.dont think what others are thinking about you. YOU ARE NOT THEM AND THEY CANT KEEP THEMSELVES IN YOUR SHOES. stay happy
Shruti Sawant I have been living in this situation since the last 12 years .. I have given the final decision now to my husband too... god bless
Shruti first of all you chose a wrong person in your life. Before taking big step like marrage people should think twice
Believe me he won't leave you if he love you but don't ask for divorce go cry and tell the situation as hard as you can to your husband
God bless u
The wife comes to her husband's house on her husband's responsibility. It is her husband's responsibility also to make the surrounding environment suitable for her. Because if he talks to his parent then they might try to understand and the girl will start feeling that it's her home also. As someone is there who gives her importance. But sadly, it is happening with most of the girl.
I am a woman and a wife but because I feel in my own marriage too the husband should be the “Bridge” between me and his parents, so when I go wrong or live according to my parents home he should guide me, not yell or accuse me and when his parents seem to be explaining things to me the way their household works the husband should explain to the wife the way she understands, otherwise we have to ACCEPT each other the way we are and unless it’s a big issue we shouldn’t discuss and hurt each other. All homes aren’t the same, all children aren’t raised the same and of course all parents aren’t the same so when we bond together or get married we have to understand and be understanding. Not make issues with trivial issues, after all once married we are a “family” and that word means ALOT. If you let each other be the way they are, in future we understand how each one of us are, and the same issue wouldn’t come up, like “I told he this and she’s still doing it or saying it” instead we’d be like “oh he doesn’t like this” or “she doesn’t like it when this or that happens” or even “he/she really likes”
Meri shadi ko to sirf 6 month hi huye h ...Or sab samjh aa gaya .... husband ne bol diya Rehna h to adjust Krna padega , jesa bolu wesa Krna padega , phone use nhi krogi ,kisi se nhi milogi ...Maru bhi to mar khani padegi....mere bade bhaiya or Papa k sath rehna padega....or me jo kru rokogi nhi ...6 month ho gaya aaj tak unka phone tak nhi dekha password nhi pta ...or mera phone pure time unke pass hota h .....Bache bhi mere hisab se peda krne padenge rady ho ya na ho ..etc ... Life hi majak ban gaii h ...or hasi bhi nhi aa rhi h ....2 month se bat tak nhi kr rahe h or me bewkuf roj unke msg or call ka wait kati hu 😒😞
Each indian girl is hearing a word from her birth that u r d person to go from here to another home.after marrge her family have send her to another family and they are not ready to take her back.but in her husbands home she s somebody came from outside.she didnt have any role in dat family also.she already went out from her family and her husbands family will not accept her as a daughter.dat means she didnt have anyone to support her.ds s d truth happening to most indian girls
Very true.. i hv alrdy experienced dis thing.. f
Same here in Sri Lanka also. We ladies always have to adjust and even no one consider us and not have sympathy about us neither from own parents nor from parents in laws.
Parents in law never accept us as their own daughter.
Its absolutely true... I am experiencing it...
I would suggest them move on there own
Girl had tried a lot to adjust according to this video
I am with annanya . She tried her best and just expected a little . She is right
I support ananaya what she said is 💯% correct. In every marriage adjustment should be from.both the side. not only from girls.
A new girl comes in the family leaving her parents, her lifestyle...in an uncertain situation.....unknown family....everyone should welcome her with open arms...instead of threatening her
True
@@moumitadalal3769 thanks
@@12345698662 I am not married yet
Ya right 👍
@@12345698662 🙄🙄🙄🙄
No doubt Annanya is right. Her husband even didn't bother to say few words to his mom on behalf of her then how can he deserve the super understanding girl? He should not even marry any girl and just stay as mummy's boy forever. Ananya leave him it will be much happier decision for you.
I would definitely agree with Ananya..She has the right point..All she was trying to explain to also see things from her side...but the husband anyways has every excuses he could make..He doesn't even want to agree with her....Each and every married or unmarried girl can relate to this, that the girl should only adjust with everything !!
Well done guys!!!! ☺great concept short videos big morals❤
Would love some video on life partners true meaning✌
No difference between mine and Ananya's life. Its exactly the same. Its been 7yrs now. Sad bit true
Same here, now im dealing with my hubby, if we dont move, then im going back to my mum... Im staying with my brother in law and his wife n my mother in law... The wife is showing me a hell now im tyed, by nrxt month if its not arrange im leaving the house.....
Yes,Same here
Leave !!!!!
This guy wants to have the cake & eat it too, wants to be with his parents & wants his wife to share the same thought. The wife is explaining her problems with his parents, he's justifying them (its only natural btw) by only siding with his parents' viewpoint while not heeding her concerns. As he's not considering her thoughts, Ananya has fair point. A person can only go on for so long.
90% of guys react like this only. Kise achha lagega apne mummy papa k bare me bura sunna. Even if they know their parents mistake, listening from somebody else seems to be humiliating
I guess you haven't heard his views properly! He had made it very clear that he would be staying with his parents as he is their only child! He is not a Ghar jamai that he has to get used to his inlaws! Striking a balance is the key to any successful marriage! The girl clearly lacks maturity as he had made everything thing clear to her from the time they were seeing each other! The husband is always sandwiched between his wife and parents! Last but not the least if the girl is the only child she should not get married and should take care of her parents and live the way as it is being followed in her maternal home! When a girl gets married she has to get changes in her and get accustomed to her in laws!
Guys only have courage to ✍️ comment box. Stand up for your wife when your parents are wrong or not civilized.. wife is human too.
@@pooja120683 listening from SOMEBODY ELSE.... Is wife somebody else? Her whole existence is invested in the relationship with the husband's family and still she is SOMEBODY ELSE???
A guy thinking like this is very healthy for a relationship. Mostly husbands want us to adjust only.. no matter what it takes
The best thing would be to gradually dissolve the institution of marriage and allow live-in relationships to take over. Divorce seems to have become a cake walk.
Tab divorce nahi honge ek dusre ka sirf use and throw ka use hoga. Marriege is better than live in.
I would support Ananya. If she can leave her old parents alone then Yaah also should do the same. In my life i am trying to adjust for last 13yrs. Bt they will never understand. They never accepted me as a part of their family.
These mumma's boys will never understand. I support the girl here. In fact she shouldn't explain anything. Straightaway divorce!
Such men don't deserve to get married because they don't know how to handle relationships.
BINAYAK CHAKRABARTI I think 🤔 you should stay away from so called marriage..!! Trust me it will help to make your life sorted
@@indranilDey227 reason behind your assertion?
BINAYAK CHAKRABARTI The reason for this assertion is something about you ask yourself and it is about your own thoughts...!! Trust me it will help you if you stay away of marriage...!! Marriage is not the cup of tea for every person on this planet 🌍...!! Well you will realise this soon once you get married but nevertheless you can ignore my advise as per your wish...! Best of luck...!!
@@indranilDey227 kuch zyada galat keh diya kya? Ya fir kuch karwa sach keh diya ?
@@binayakchakrabarti3007 thora karwa hai lekin bilkul sach hai jo tumne kaha hai
It's Ananya... She tried since two year. If yash understand her wife and made a balance.. Then there is no need for separation... She left everything but in laws and husband expecting she has to adjust.. Marriage is a balance between a gal and boy and with respect to their family.. This a common social problem and u people are highlighted it very nicely.
I don't know how she managed 2 years.. I can't bear all this even for a month
I am at the same point of my life. I would support ananya..
Even though i am not working, Being a housewife, things are drastically different.
They say their thoughts are old.. But seriously does that mean you ll hurt a new member in ur family every day.
This video literally shows every problem i have. There are even problems out of this boundaries.
Husbands of this generation has the need to understand this.
There is a limit of tolerance.
I would support the girl every step of the way.
Ladkiyo se had se jyada expectations rakhte hai sab.. job bhi karo.. aur khana bhi banao. Phir in-laws ki pharmaish Puri karo.. jaan nikal lete hai sab. Phir wo alag rahna chahe to mil k use kharab kahne lagte hai.
I can totally relate to this...😭😭😭😭
i think girl is right... marriage m donu ko adjust krna chahye or door rehne se rishte bnte h... ye mne personly experience keya in laws m jb sb sath hote h to kisi na kisi bt p roz jhgre hote h lkn jb sb alg alg. rhen or weeknds p mle to sb sahi hojata h rishta m kuchh misundertandings km hojati h...
It's really nice video and a concept very much relatable for many couples. Though I was recommended by CZcams about this video after 3 yrs, but I am grateful they did. I would request LifeTak team please make second part of this video as I am really looking forward to know what has been decided by the couple in the video. Please please LifeTak teamn make a video on their decision. And great work guys!!
Relatable to everyone who are married.. story of every home..
I support Annaya.
I faced same situation in my relationship.
Moving out to a place close by best option. And Yash needs to look beyond his parents.
Ananya. I agree with all the points. Marriage does need adjustments, but not to the point of breaking your soul, and to question everything about yourself. A man should understand to build a relationship of trust with his wife, not just acting as a referee all the time. Women are grown-up people too, they do understand if someone is making the effort WITH them. It is wrong to always harp on k 'tumharey saamney nhi kaha tou iska matlab hai nahi kaha'.
And there should be a personal couple time, involved beyond the bedroom time to nurture their understanding of each other....
Yes Ananya is right ...similar situation I am stuck with and similar questions always run through my mind that why girl and her family should adjust..they have taken same pains as boys family then why one should adjust according to such people.
Every married couple has to adjust to each other. However, the husband wants his wife to do all the adjustments and he wants to continue his life like before. This is not a marriage where only one spouse has to continually adjust and comprise.
These issues are so rotten, it's just too overwhelming for a girl to deal with all this
His words are ' you need to keep them in loop, they are old school of thought, if i take your side it'll fuel the fire (which goes to show how toxic the parents are), nowhere is he even admitting the fact that they are wrong in treating her like this.
I'm also sick of my Mother in law......feel so sphocated ìn such situations. ..she is so right...even I've skip my state pcs exam when she went through major operation.....all my friends felt so sad for me that time....but that lady feel nothing for me....I've wasted whole year for such lady who doesn't deserve my help....but this year NO compromise with my career at all...even people called me rude(obviously Mother in law and their daughters )..I don't care...I've reached at saturation point now...we have only one life yarr..and this young age is our golden years ..we should sped it with people who really respects ,loves you and cares for you...after that incident now I'm so clear about which people really matters. .....and that's not possible without my mother in law..for that, big thanks to her
Your mother in law also your mother 1st you respect her then jo bolna hai bolo your exam is not important that time your family members are important
What if your own mother was facing the same situation? Would you still think you have sacrificed quite a lot? You do whatever you like, but relationships are important too.
I think what she is saying is that she is not the only one there and she shouldn’t be the only one responsible to take care of her mother in law. She have sister in laws as mention in the comment so they also have to fulfill their responsibilities. When a girl get married, the in-laws shouldn’t always have the expectation on their daughter-in-law to do everything cuz she also have a life
See when a guy and a girl get married, the husband and wife are two names of a single entity. They are not a separate being anymore. Insults and appreciation for any one of them is equally distributed. Adjustment and freedom should also be equally distributed.
The girl has tried for 2 years to save the marriage. Now the boy can also plan to stay separately with the girl for atleast those 2 years and by then if they have babies, even the girl will also understand the importance of her in-laws and things can get sorted out.
Ys..well said
@@amrithasubramonian6940
Thanks madam
Really appreciating solution...Master mind...👍👍👍
Nice
Don't waste your time on the person who expects you to do all sacrifice, he is simply not worth it.
100% Ananya. Why is the woman expected to compromise at every stage - whether with parents, in laws or children. It is time we as a society recognize women as individuals and more so as human beings rather than treat them as daughters, daughters in law , mother , sister etc.
Ananya... It's same in all house.. i don't understand if mother's can't share his son.. Why do even they get their son married?
🔴 The guy should spend next few months living with the girl at her parents home. And the girl's parents should treat the guy like their daughter is treated at her in laws place. Though obviously, it's too much to ask for and then there is that 'Damad Ji' thing😆😄😂
I agree. Let him have the taste of his own medicine. Then we'll see how much adjustments he does.
Women are not superhumans that they'll keep on adjusting first for their parents, then in laws and then kids.
Yes it should happen this way on the serious note... Label of adjustment should merely not be attached to some who remains outsider till parents of boy are there.
Son in laws are treated like gods
Jealous😂
Same story of my life.. still dealing with these issues..😭
Move out of relation.. it will only destroy u. You have only one life.. your way or in-laws way.. choice is yours
This is how are society is... Our parents have adjusted but our generation find it difficult and want to bring about revolution... Very difficult but not impossible if both families understand and adjust for a healthy relationship and mental peace...
Misunderstanding starts with miscommunication...
All 4 of they should sit and talk to each other..understand each other then only frequency's can get matched....
I dont live with my husbands parents , but for the time they are with me, i have pretty similar feelings like Ananya. I dont understand why a daughter in law always have to make adjustments, why the sons or sons parents cant make adjustments. Most importantly when will a husbands parents will accept a daughter in law as a daughter, if not daughter atleast a part of their own family. I think thats the challenge in every family! 'Acceptance' as a member of ur own where dils are not made to forget their ways that they were following for 30 odd years in the name of 'adjustment'
In that ditto condition I stayed 14 long years in mumbai where as am frm Hyderabad... Alhumdulillah since last one year we shifted to hyd due to fin.crisis, right almost at my mom's place....out of 4 daughter inlaws His parents stayed with us how I mentally suffered in those just can't explain and finally my husband took me to consult psychiatrist .Dr. always advised me 2 things that to not to expect any thing from any one except Almighty, and the situation will never change untill you change yourself or the Circumstances...Only tablets helped me relax my mind...And luckily we moved to hyd last year.and mother in law is with her daughter inspite of 3 other sons...This is really painful to see all the efforts won't work for some good ones also ...Really am training my daughter to train her mind postively even with negative persons even if they literally acts negative..I say make the habit to chill ..Must Have to take very light... This is very difficult but being very sensitive makes the matter worst ...Really, we cannot change anyone but we can change our self...
Nice video. I would definitely support the girl because she is right. Every parent have changed themselves to be friends with the new generation. Adjustment happens from both the sides.