Bo Burnham: Make Happy - Lower Your Expectations (REACTION)
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 15. 06. 2024
- Reacting to Lower Your Expectations from Bo Burnham's Netflix special Make Happy.
This song was funny and had some good one-liners but overall I think the message of the song is something everyone should consider.
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00:00 Intro
00:18 Dick Jokes
01:45 Lower Your Expectations
16:30 Outro
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Anyone relate?
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Been loving your videos! Do you have Instagram?
Yeah in the description of all the videos. Just started it though so nothing on there yet
I feel concerned for anyone who can't sit through 18 seconds.
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Love is a choice.
This is why local love is easier than long distance love.
It has to be earned in a way that both chooses to.
It will need consent in it's deepest ways ans it will always be a choice to do so.
Love is choosing to be.
With Choice comes power, with great power comes great responsibility, with great responsibility comes great fulfillment.
We all deserve Love.
To be chosen, to choose.
7:40 I love how your cheeks pink up and the tips of your ears turn red when you say "...tickle her throat with" đđđ
11:30 Love is an action verb...To love someone is the act of caring for that person in a meaningful way.
When he said "But last week she died" I didn't think he meant that it was cuz men have slightly lower expectations than women, I just thought he was leading up to the same line but since it was changed it made the joke more funnier XD
+++, wanted to write same
comment, but you did it first đŹ
I agree with you. Actually, in 1st verse it says "Lower your exceptations a few" and in the 2nd verse it says "Lower your expectations a lot", implying men have higher ones.
You are 100% correct and people in these comments are reading WAAAAAY to much into just classic comedy techniques. This particular line isn't deeper than that, at all.
thatâs what happens when people go from watching inside first and move to his older content, all of it is good but what and make happy are a lot more straightforward and easier to understand on the spot, probably because they were created to be performed live in front of a crowd, jokes need to land.
The comment section in this area is perfect. I appreciate you.
I think "she's real, but last week she died" was just to throw off the audience because we all expected (lower our expectations?) him to repeat the same lyric
yeah it was just a joke
Exactly. Thereâs not a deeper meaning, just playing on expectations for comedic effect.
Could be! Lots of different ways you can interpret it
@@ChrisReactsToThings the implication of taking that line literally is that Bo thinks there is a perfect woman who can be ideally and unrealistically contradictory, which is antithetical to the intent of the song.
Yeah I think it's a case of looking too much for subtext and missing the actual text. He straight up says to women "lower your expectations a few", and to men "lower your expectations a lot."
i dont think the "your perfect guy doesnt exist" vs "your perfect girl does but she died last week" is about who has more "realistic" expectations regarding the whole romance thing, he's probably saying that women are more pressured to perform a certain way and are held to a higher standard (regarding appearances at least) by society in general, which often leads to mental health problems, eating disorders and other shit like that, hence the whole "she was what you wanted but she died last week" bit, which is really fucking sad to think about
yes! this! this this this!
youâve hit the nail on the head with this one, 100% agree!!
Yeah, was just going to comment something similar.
I donât think he was trying to say another gender has higher expectations than the other- both have these societal rose-tinted standards. And then, thereâs your interpretation that makes a lot more sense if you had to read into his comedic bit.
spot-on!
I said the same thing in another post but you articulated it so much better than I did!
Im pretty sure the dick joke in the beginning was just a dick joke. Not everything Bo writes is some deep philosophical statement. I think he was just trying to get a giggle with that one, and it absolutely got one out of me when i saw it when this special came out
If you refer to his old videos, like 15 years ago in the "My whole family" song, he sings how his family and people at school thought he was gay. He's been writing and hinting towards those times even in his newer content. So maybe it actually came from some place.
@@kso35 Yea i mean ive been watching him since he uploaded New Math and he's even said that most of those first songs were just silly songs he wrote for his brother who was away at the time. Dont get me wrong, im not here trying to say Bo doesn't write some of the deepest shit i've heard, but there is a generous amount of his comedy that is literally just comedy. But hey, im not Bo, so i wont say it absolutely WASN'T deeper
Generally speaking, obviously it doesnât apply to all, but men get unrealistic expectations from porn and women get unrealistic expectations from romance movies. We are all guilty. đ
hearing this song again and hearing the "last week she died" for me it seems like the girl tried so hard to be perfect that she ended up killing herself over it. like you said you see all these people on social media constantly presenting as perfect and women tend to try to truly become what is impossible.
Btw I'm on a deep dive of your Bo reactions and they are great :)
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I like to think it's because many guys before they start dating like to put girls on a pedestal like they are these innocent princesses when in reality very few girls deserve that kind of accolade.
but what you're saying does make sense
I just love that with women, its "lower your expectation a few" and for men is lower your expectation a *A LOT*
Imagine missing the point of the song this much. I'm embarrassed for you. You are exactly the type of person he is making fun of.
Itâs just the rhyme scheme
I totally agree with you! I think Bo said that very intentionally but of course (most) men don't want to hear that
@@dontbstingy3587 Wow i feel bad for you.
Nah, Actually I don't.
(Kinda funny you went down here to see what it is, sad really.)
@@mysteriousmask8847 K. I don't have to scroll to read your comments in notifications. Not sure you know how CZcams works. It's all just, like, condensed into one sentence and gets rid of all the spaces soo... I didn't get the joke. Funny. You're funny alright. Anything else or are you gonna sit down and be silent like a good lil kiddo.
I didnât interpret the âbut last week, she diedâ line as menâs expectations being more realistic. If anything itâs just as fanciful, because he cited a single woman in billions. Like this divine joke of; PSYCH, you never would have known her anyway. Plus, yeah, subverting our expectations too.
Yeah but also there could be acouple different meanings
The reason he said "Last week she died" is because for a joke to work it often needs to be a surprising punch line. It was the best way to get a laugh.
This video actually helped me a lot. I recently realized that I am aromantic which has hurt a lot of my romantic relationships because I never had the âI love youâ moment. But when you described love as less of a feeling and more of a commitment, that really struck home and I think is going to really help me down the line in relationships.
In love, as in all of life, the thing that ruins most things is expectations. Anything good becomes bad because it wasn't great. Nice things suck because they aren't spectacular. Good people are seen as boring because they're not exhilirating.
Bo actually makes a good point. Just pick someone and love them. Don't imbue them with undue expectation that they can never met. Sometimes we are the architects of our own destruction and loneliness.
I think you're exactly on point with this comment and you deserve more likes for it.
Iâve never been this early.
This is definitely one of his songs that leans more toward the meaningful sort of side and it has the little bits of comedy poking through. It has a really good meaning and it also just sounds so amazing. Itâs a beautiful song. You did a great job of analyzing it.
Same
vacuum like a completely empty space, not the machine
Your âlove is difficultâ discussion is such real talk. Completely agree with you about love being WORK, and that we need to take care of ourselves and be in good working order before bringing someone else into our lives.
I find it difficult to use a urinal if thereâs even the POTENTIAL of someone walking in and using one next to me so I definitely feel Bo on that
Although Bo's lyrics, songs, and jokes often have much deeper meanings than it seems, sometimes he's actually just joking around like with the beautiful d*ck bit or the line in the song that others are commenting on. If you continue to react to his older stuff after you finish this special, I think you'll see more of just silly jokes and less super deep and meaningful stuff....except for "art is dead" of course
Yeah and what. has some... huh... moments and bits that are just glorified dick jokes đ To Chris: don't read too much into them. If it helps, play Problematic at the end of watching.
"Love isn't just a feeling... it's a choice and commitment"
Man I love your reactions. You have great takes and you go beyond just "heh that song funny." Keep up the good work.
I think the beginning bit is about, like the rest of this show, trying to subvert expectations as much as possible.
But thatâs just my take, Iâm not entirely sure đ
i think it was just a dick joke ahahaaaa
I love this song, because it's so true, most of us grow up with the idea that love has to be entirely "romantic and perfect" but that doesn't exist!
The thing you said about "Love at first sight" very much resonates with Tim Minchin's "You Grew On Me" song. I know you are doing Make Happy right now, but I think you should put that song to the list.
I love Bo and this song is sweet but I think the line I agree with most is the last one about his age.
Patriarchy is not an even playing field and, while I admit there are some young women with unrealistic dreams of what love will be, women are more trained to NEED more then anything not to be alone.
Boâs song ârepeat stuffâ speaks to this well.
Women settle IN MASS for men who not only provide little work in the house and the relationship but even abuse or kill them and these women are trained to keep loving him and lower expectations constantly.
Many men grow up seeing a perfect girl is promised to him to be his therapist and mom and sex doll and when he doesnât get this - well, thatâs where incel culture comes from.
I am, of course, speaking in extremes and there are a lot of people in the middle of those margins - but nothing is an even comparison within patriarchy.
I saw this line about girl dying more like a reference to the fact that some women try to live up to expectations of men so much that they end up duying in the process. Like by plastic surgeries, injections and all that stuff. For me it also shows that expactations of men for women are so high that no one can live up to them without dying.
Also noted how Bo sang "lower your expectations A FEW" for women and "lower your expectations A LOT" for men
Thanks for the vid~
Well it was just a simple "set up, pay off, set up, subvert" comedy structure, but I mean, Bo is also correct in saying that, with billions of people in the planet, odds are there _is_ someone out there who ends up fitting every little crazy criteria someone makes up for their perfect partner... Odds are that person lived about 200 years ago on a whole different part of the planet but hey, they existed, kudos... There will never be another just like them, stop looking for perfection and lower your expectations. That's how I took the "last week, she died"
11:28 What ur saying reminds me of this song from Tim Minchin (Similar comedian to Bo) called "You grew on me" where he talks about this exact thhing!!
Love how it is the same 4 chords as repeat stuff, he took his own advice for this whole song
Can't stop watching your reactions, you're my go to reactor, super relatable to myself keep the bo reactions coming
âI donât have that problemâ thanks for letting us know, we all care.
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Loving your reactions in this series!!
I can't wait till you get to one specific song in this special lol. also for the last song definitely record your reaction to the bits before it, the whole last twenty or so minutes of this special is fantastic
3:18 busted. You def have a thing for feet based off of your natural reaction to those lyrics. 100% fact :P
Definitely not a feet guy... Unless? đł
Totally agree that love is not just a feeling. Love is an act - and you gotta keep at it every day!
I remember watching this special right when it came out and I might just be misremembering now after so many years, but I believe the line "she's real, but last week, she died" actually referred quite literally to a real person who died not long before the special was filmed. It was some porn star or a famous actress and it was recent news, which was why the audience reacted the way they did because they knew who he was talking about. That being said I've spent like 30 minutes now just going through obituaries trying to figure out who it was and I can't seem to find it so I could just be making this up or it would be weird nobody else remembers. Bo was a lot edgier though back then and he was a kid so a lot of what he wrote for specials like what and make happy really were just simply for shock value.
your reaction was perfect and I won't settle for less
The way I interpret "she's real but last week she died" is that culturally, we've moved away from how things used to be in the past, where women were more blatantly oppressed than they are today, and during those past, more patriarchal times maybe the reality of having a wife aligned more closely to what Bo describes as guys' expectations in the song, but in today's age we have become more progressive and women have more freedom and agency in their lives, so guys are fooling themselves by holding those outdated expectations and not actualizing with the times. I could be reading way too deeply into it, since some people are saying it was just a funny line to subvert our expectations in the hook, but it could also be both imo.
edit: at least in the USA. I know in other countries the patriarchal culture is still very real to this day.
++ i have the same interpretation
also, USA is pretty patriarchal for my opinion
This is one of my absolute favourite songs by BB
when you think of love i only come to a simple explanation, love is(in like love for another person) wanting the hapiness of someone even if that means you will not be happy., thats when love is true, when you stop thinking of yourself for the other person.
I honestly thought the whole "she's real, but last week she died" I thought he was talking about a blow-up doll...
"Every bit should come out of a vacuum" means it should stand on it's own.
Honestly don't think he was saying guys expectations are closer to reality, I think he just did the 'last week, she died' for the misdirection laugh since it's live performance
My bar was set at "Tries to remember my name at least 50% of the time" and I still had to make exceptions. Yeahhhh, haven't dated in years and have no plans to go back, haha.
I'm pretty sure the line at the end was just him doing what he talked about in Unpaid Intern. In order to defend himself from criticism he does it first. That criticism being as a 25 year he's making all these grandiose claims about relationships and expectations when he is still fairly young and hasn't experienced as much.
Love is not a feeling: it's a promise.
I love this song. People really need to hear this. I have lately been reflecting that love is painful.
I donât believe love is actually painful. I see it as high risk/high reward. You canât experience love without opening yourself up to be vulnerable. Like obviously you are less likely to experience pain from external forces if you just stay home alone, but there is a hard ceiling on joy with that. Love involves a certain willful loss of control over what happens next because there is more than just your input.
@@Matthiass721I donât disagree with what you describe, but Iâm getting at the feeling of being attached to someone. It hurts to care, much as it hurts to be alive and not numb. I suppose a person has to be sensitive enough to feel the sweet pain. Grief, as an example, is evidence of having cared. Nothing lasts forever and doing relational work is hard and often painful. Worth it, but not simple or easy.
love is all about taking big risks. it's risky to care about someone, to open up to someone, but you need all of those things for love. it shows that you trust them a lot, that you really want to work something out with them. it can go wrong very easily, and then you experience some of the worst pain you can feel, but it's all worth it in hopes that it goes right
You hit it spot on basically man. Idk what's wrong with all the people saying read too much into it or whatever, that's his whole scheme is trying too wake people up n all they want to do is laugh and whatever, it's depressing...
i really liked your comment on love and your bo burnham reactions are on point, i love how introspective they are. here's my suggestion for reaction: scottish comedian daniel sloss, he isnt a musical comedian, but his specials are really good in my opinion, with lots of jokes, but lots of things to be discused. there's two on netflix "dark" and "jigsaw" and one on hbo "x".
i never noticed how he looks longingly back at the mic
8:39 I think he just wanted a funny way to say the same thing without repeating himself.
I don't normally watch/sub to reactions, but I'll give ya a sub since your a small channel.
A compilation of Chris's singing in this channel so far would amount to: đ” Go to bed, go to bed⊠in your mindđ”.đ
I'm excited for the next song, the "problem solving song" as a reactor called it thinking he could get in trouble with CZcams if he used the actual name of the track. (He might not be entirely wrong though: my comments recommending it got automatically censoredâŠđ€đ)
I love lower your expectations, it's surprisingly sweet for a Bo Burnham song... or maybe I'm just a hopeless romantic lmao
Then I found the fairy tale cuz I've been with my man for 20 yrs and we still are very best friends and we laugh our asses off together. Wow. Didn't realize it was that rare.
are you gonna react to the bit immediately after??
I think the I'm only 25 line is part of Bo being self conscious about coming off pretentious. He really is brilliant, well beyond his years. He often mentions that he's young so he he may not know what he's talking about, even though he certainly seems to
ayy a new one!!!
hey chris! canât wait to see how you like this one :)
Chris, in Bo earliest content as a high-schooler in his bedroom he wrote and sang alot about how his family and people at school thought he was gay. And throughout those year he wrote more about it. To this day, he will still write bits that poke at the people who thought he was gay when he's not. I recommend watching "my whole family" uploaded 15 years ago. It's on his CZcams. đ this is in regards to you saying that you weren't quite sure where Bo was coming from on the gay bit at the beginning.
Good stuff.
Yeah not every man has lower expectations than women. People are all different but it's that we all have high expectations in love. I've seen some chick's who will put up with a man who abuses her & dudes who genuinely want a girl that will stay hot forever, so we know it's not that only girls have higher unfair expectations of men. Bo was speaking about ALL of us. And in couples therapy you will find that we all have imperfections to work on & compromise with your partner.
The last time I was this early, I lost my girlfriend.
You uh wanna talk bud?
Came*
She might want to lower her expectations a bit
Dude really listened to the whole song and think men's expectations for women are lower. đđđ
This song was like 8 years ago, nowadays it's the women who would have to lower their expectations a lot, while the men are just sitting there confused, contemplating if banging the new 37th gender that came out last week is considered gay, straight, or a new sexual orientation.
If you see this Iâd wonder if youâd react to or just watch in your free time âgrew on meâ by Tim minchin . I think it conveys your thoughts on love fairly well
Love at first sight doesnt exist. 15 minutes is the minimum
i think the explanation for "last week she died" is not that men have less expectation on women (obviously not), but that women expectations in general are considered delusional while men expectations on women is basically a pressure from a whole entire society, since we are kids we learn to please man, that we should know how to cook, clean for or husband, to always look beautiful in the outside no matter what it takes, so what bo is describing is something we face everyday, so that's why she "die", this women die trying to achieve man/society expectations.
i feel like you'd enjoy watching the e-girl trilogy by wilbur soot! they're three music videos and the artist was heavily inspired by bo :)
put the time of the show you're watching so i can watch at home at same time and see better whats happenning on the show.
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So, I'm extremely lucky. To quote someone "I got 99 problems but a bitch ain't one." I married my best friend while I was in the military to get paid more. When I got out we figured it can't get any more serious than married so lets give this a shot. We've been married for 12 years now, hardly ever fight (each other, her family is fucking crazy though) and we beat the doctors who said she couldn't have kids. Our son is about to turn 5 in December. This not even mentioning the crazy coincidences that led to us meeting in the first place. I was evacuated from Katrina and she fled South Carolina to get away from her family. We sat down in cricket customer service training. I looked over and saw her drawing a hatchet man and said "Hey, my girlfriend is a lette, you wanna smoke after work." My wife and my gf from that time still talk to this day. I do tell her we have a movie relationship because it's so rare and crazy. Idk why I felt like sharing this but here it is. đ đ€
been married for twelve years, this December will be thirteen. We're still very much in love and he's my best friend.
I think that the line âbut last week she diedâ could potentially have a much darker meaning.
In trying to pursue my idea of what âthinâ is, and what men find attractive, I almost died because I was losing weight too rapidly.
Weight insecurities are extremely prevalent among women, and having anorexia increases the risk of suicide exponentially.
I think that girl was trying too hard to be perfect and ended up dying of exhaustion.
While make happy still has a lot of meaning in it, not every bit has loads of deeper meaning like in inside
Hey Chris really enjoyed your video would you like me to do your ironing for you đ
I'm fairly certain "She's real, but last week she died." is just a throwaway line for shock value, but if you were to try and read a deeper meaning into it I think it makes more sense that it's less about men having "more realistic expectations" and more that both men and women have completely unrealistic expectations for each other, but women are more societally pressured to meant those impossible standards than men are.
I sorta see love as a blurring boundary along your sense of self as you grow together with someone. Thereâs an acceptance and a sense of vulnerability thatâs rewarded with a warm feeling of being more than just yourself. Itâs beautiful but messy. I think itâs low key more toxic than most admit, but only because I think our culture is so anti-social that the fear of that bond ending and never finding a new one causes us to cling to what we have past the point where it shouldâve ended, even if thatâs ultimately worse for us. Idk what the solution is tho.
"Last week she died" Making news headlines in the crime section!!!! only way in which many men would actually pay attention to worthy women who are everything they want/need but get dissed because of some list-item missing. By the time they notice them, it's extremely late or just late.
Metaphorically: That exact girl used to exist but she "died" because she changed after being told she was never enough or exactly what someone else needed or thought they wanted.
Can't wait for you to get to the break up song lol
Sometimes Boâs dick jokes are just dick jokes lol. It makes it even more impactful when he slips it in with some heartfelt stuff.
I can't believe there's any way that Bo meant men have more realistic expectations than women do with his second verse, I'm pretty certain it was just classic misdirection for a laugh. And I love your analyses (I've binged like all your Bo reactions, great work!) but I also have to disagree with the bit about women 'misunderstanding' men as being sexual. I don't think we misunderstand it, it's just something we HAVE to be privy to, that we HAVE to assume, as women.
OF COURSE not all men are inherently sexual, and it IS a harmful stereotype - one rooted in patriarchal norms. But the fundamental sexualization of women in almost every area of life is so indicative that men, on an institutional level NOT on an individual one, are sexual. Almost every iconic female character in media - even children's media - have been sexualized in some capacity. The fetishization of female-dominated occupations (nurses, secretaries, etc.). The sexualization of wlw. We don't 'assume' men are sexual out of naiveté, but because for the most part with men, we have to operate under an ulterior-motives-until-proven-otherwise type deal. Just my thoughts!
I think "she's real, but last week she died" was referring to women's empowerment, cuz in our century they can not try so hard to fulfill men's desires
React to âyou grew on meâ by Tim Minchin.
I don't believe in love at first sight or soul mates. Love is a lot of work and communication. I'm quite a bit older than you and have yet to find someone who's able to do that in a HEALTHY way, but that does exist. I've seen people close to me have it. It's out there.
Personally, I always thought of it as the men's expectations of women exist, but those women are desperate enough to change themselves and it's usually a dangerous life of abuse or addiction that they live or something else that might cause them to live a short life. Either that, or he just changed it up to catch people off guard and make the punch funny again.
When he said "But last week she died", I don't think he's saying that men have lower expectations for women (if anything, it's the other way around), but is rather making a comment on (domestic) violence against women.
no... what he's trying to say is that it's a joke.
Lol. Of course he doesnât get it. Someoneâs uncomfortable with their sexuality.
11:07 The "I'm 25" thing is the same as in "Kill yourself" - however profound it sounds, take it with a grain of salt.
Sometime's a joke is just a joke my dude, doesn't ALWAYS have a deep meaning.
"Last week, she died" is just funny because we were set up with one thing and given another that's completely different. Don't look too far into that one lol
Why yall acting like theres only one answer or enterpretation for any specific line. Everyone is going to pull the lesson they relate to or need to learn and its not always going to be the same thing you got
Chris started talking about porn addiction and then an Onlyfans ad played.
I've been enjoying consuming the content produced by your reaction to Bos content.
But of course, there exists the possibility that the exquisiteness of your reactions is due to the rabid, wild speculation that YOU ARE ACTUALLY BO THEMSELVES!!
Wait, I'm quite drunk at the moment. So there's a 28% chance that I am being preposterous right now.
I was born in nineteen-nintey and have been a fan, and thusly observed the maturation of the internet at a similar pace since, but, the advantage of a more distant perspective, ... Oh no! It's happening again. I focused too intensely on something. Oh , that's some nice punctuation that the current iteration of Google speech-to-text felt like including.
Doesn't any of this matter ... internally?
The people who are trying to make it out to be a competition about who has more realistic expectations really missed the point of this song and are just trying to cope with their own negative traits by directing attention at other people.
Saying "I have unrealistic expectations, but that guy is worse than me" doesn't redeem you in any way. The point is that there's value in loving and being loved, not whether it's unfair that certain men expect you to be a nympho model while you're "only" expecting them to be able to read your mind, be a simp and be born rich.
Love how you irgnored or at least didn't react to the comments that point out the intended message that you completely missed
What's up with all the jump cuts on this one? We can handle your unedited ramblings. We actually _expect_ them! đ
I never edit out any thoughts or anything. Just silence or ummâs. Stuff like that đ
@@ChrisReactsToThings umms are fine specially when you did have so much to say about the topic! đ
I disagree and think the edits make the videos immensely more watchable. đ€·ââïž
I think sometimes youâre looking too deep into it. The dick joke with the urinal was just a dick joke, and I think the lyric change in âyouâre rightâ and âlast week she diedâ is just a comedic misdirection. Bo likes his deeper meanings but theyâre not EVERYWHERE
Bo says to women, lower your expectations a few. For men he says, lower your expectations a lot. I agree.
Pretty sure the bit in the beginning is just a funny joke. Not really made to be looked into too deep. Nothing about sexuality. Lol
Nobody:
Me a lesbian watching this full well knowing that my only standards are "not abusive" and "genuinely likes me back":
Edit: I'd like to say that most men most definitely do not have realistic expectations for women, considering half the things you stated can go towards men's expectations for women, you'll find a lot more sexism forced towards women than men, I'd now, I had a guy get mad at me for simply BEING lesbian, I understand you were coming from your end, so here is an opinion on mine (no hate ofc)
Yeah, looking back on this video I feel like I definitely didnât express my feelings in an accurate way. Totally agree with you and also fuck that guy