No. 1 Reason For Rising Divorce Rates - R Madhavan Explains
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Today, on this special episode of The Ranveer Show, we welcome R. Madhavan. He is a popular Indian actor, writer, and film producer who primarily works in Tamil and Hindi cinema. He has appeared in numerous successful films and is known for his versatile acting skills.
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Social media aesthetics is ruining everyone's heads.... People are getting delusional and having over expectations... So good to hear Madhavan sir... He is pretty genuine!
Yeah 100%true . Due to social media ppl expect more makeup 😂 ppl. At end reality hurts ..
💯 correct
Exactly
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Lol that’s not the reason. The surge of divorces started before social media.
One reason for late divorce is children are adults now. There are so many marriages that are abusive. I am not saying only women are victims, even men too. We realize that it’s only us standing between the abusive person and children. Because if we die, the children will become the target, so yeah we need to be alive to protect the kids. But one day when they are old, we just want peace.
Young people, be careful whom you marry. When people show who they are believe them. A lot of socio/psycho move around under the garb of charming, friendly, broad minded and helpful people.
Absolutely right 👍
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
The main problem is that men don't want to be responsible in marriage anymore, they do not want to spend money on their woman. For the whole world, he may be a helpful, friendly, charming guy, but to the wife he is a different guy. And the woman enters into marriage thinking he will be there for her. Forget financially, even morally, the husband just puts her down giving her no chance to stand up. That's why the woman leaves, not because she is characterless.
@@anons090 Why on earth should the man help the women? Women can do everything on their own.
@@girishramakrishnan4015 I never mentioned he should "help" the woman, I said to others he looks like a caring, decent guy while the actual story is something else. If the husband acts like a classmate, roommate or competitor the relationship will not sustain. If he is there to exercise authority and express jealousy, compare with others, then it's hell for the woman. And yes, women can do everything on their own. They don't need the man's "guidance". No need to be sarcastic.
Please understand that marriage is not a fairy tale. It requires lots of work, a bit of compromise, trust, respect on both the sides. Main factor is proper communication and a very good bonding. It is a good team work
Agreed 👍
Tons of respect for Madhavan...he is a great actor, a very intelligent man, and a good guy
*Very true* 💯
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Adultery & financial issues are the top most reasons behind broken marriages
Right
Couldnt agree more
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Not agree
@@VicT-fl3flkya har jagah spam kar raha hai? Maat kar shadi. Maat paida kar.
My father says always remember why you married in the first place - to stay together. So you stay together. I argue all the time, that this is wrong. You marry because you have someone with whom you get through the hardships of life together. If the partner itself is the source of hardships then there's no point staying together
Well said
People who advice like this usually have great chemistry with their spouse or is the spouse that is benefitting from the marriage. Most divorces are done after a lot of fighting and trauma … that is far more traumatizing for children.
@@VicT-fl3fl Agree. Judges/ and other people who shame that kids are caught in custody battles.. don't know the reasons why custody becomes a battle. Not all cases are selfish parents trying to use kids as a bargaining chip. There are egotistical parents who dont want to let go of their spouses and wage custody battles just to spite their spouse.. Its complicated and very very unique to every case. So such one size fits all, holier than thou attitude advice givers... should keep quiet, and count their blessings
We are supposed to evolve, change & should change with time! Change is constant and natural
The Question is are we changing for the better? Or changing for worser?
We are not SUPPOSED to change and evolve. We change and evolve. It happens naturally, we don't have to strive at it. It's an organic natural process unstoppable.
Problem is we all don't grow in the same way. Each of us have unique character, unique circumstances and unique reactions/responses. No 2 humans can have the same character, circumstances or responses/reactions.
This was not conspicuous previously in the pre internet age, but with internet, it became fast and sometimes sudden with the advent of FB, WhatsApp and its cousins like signal, Snapchat or telegram, then Google too and Instagram and whatever evil apps broke out when pandemic broke out.
And hence the changes (as we grew,) became visible.
So when 2 people living together in a marriage grow in the current sociotechno era, they grow in different directions and hence even a compatible couple suddenly find they are no longer compatible.
The couple that married before internet descended on us didn't know how each of the partner would take to internet. Whether both are techno savvy or not? And if they're, are they on the same page or not ?
Both could have had patience and tried to walk together learning together but which human being has patience in today's internet speed age?
That's why too many divorces. There's no point in living together if you don't understand each other. Language is not sufficient to communicate. We need to know how the idiom has changed today.
For couples born and married after the advent of internet, it's totally another new ball game. It's very vicious. They chase each other on internet and drive each other crazy.
We didn't change for better or worse. The internet is a villain bigger than Thanos.😅. Gen Z and their descendants will find a solution to it which will be acceptable to them; for us retro and pre-independence people, it will be blasphemy.😢😅
Social media did ruined alot of things. Apart from good things there are tons of BS are filled in social media which are over exaggerated. Like before 6/7 years these BS's are not even exist.
Good things are way more less than Bullshit.
What's good about social media?
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Its because in past they dont have divorce option😂@@VicT-fl3fl
Relationships are easy. You don’t need to put “it’s difficult” label on everything. The moment you believe that, things actually become difficult.
Having that mindset, sensitivity to your partner needs, a segregated loyalty (that your only partner deserves) is paramount that ultimately brings a couple n their expectations to the actual ground. Expectations are healthy when they are in your control! Mahadev ♥️😊
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Amazing response , great maturity in thinking !
India mai humesha se 90% marriages troubled rhi h
Par log kbhi baat nhi krte the ye soch k ki society kya khegi
Aajkal log vocal h female employed h toh logo ko lgta h divorce rate bdhi h
True
Trueee
Female ko alimony bhi milti hai isiliy bhi badh rahe hai rates, aur iske baare mei actually koi baat nhi karta
Haan bade jaagruk h na log to ajkal 😅
Even after 32yrs of marriage thinking of getting devorce.
Someone injected something into brain
Don't do it.
What will you do by divorcing now😢
@@Nabhuthese questions kill someone's happiness
@@NabhuAtleast you don't have to focus your energy(negative) on someone- constantly- anger- grinding -
One of the reason of late divorce is early age marriage and age gap in that marriages. Let them enjoy for sometime. Live their life and then got the feeling of settling down. This make people more serious and mature about marriages.
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Well said
I have been through that pain where as i gave multiple opportunities and chances for him to change for 10years. And got betrayed and assasinated everytime i gave a chance
I feel sorry for you 😔
marriage summed up perfectly by Mr madhavan sir...as usual unki best acting ki tarah hi best way mein unhone bahot marriage related misconceptions dur kiye hai iss podcast mein thanks Ranveer for bring him in this podcast and on this topic...a little bit compromise and adjustments are needed in marriage especially when 2 people start living together for the rest of the life after marriage with their habbits, likes dislikes and choices and opinions and family behaviours, etc
One root cause of divorce for couples in their 40s and early 50s is actually menopause. There's simply no awareness about it, among both men and women. Men think their wife isn't the person she used to be. Women going through it usually don't get the support they need, and think their husband isn't caring anymore. They divorce thinking their partner has suddenly changed, without suspecting that menopause is the root cause. These days there are treatments that can prevent this situation.
Can we please have a discussion on menopause in this podcast? It's become a hot topic internationally in podcasts these days. It'll be nice to know what Indian experts in the field think.
Not only for women actually. It's around the same time men also start getting low hormones and testosterone. Suddenly depression and all kinds of mid life crisis starts happening. I dont think it's much talked about but need to be addressed
Very pertinent point. I was 13, and had a teacher who I respected from the bottom of my heart, because in the 2 years then that I had known her, she was a brilliant teacher in every sense of the word - kind, empathetic, firm in her demeanor, upholding ethics, caring, great at teaching her subjects, and dare I say, very good-looking. When I was 11, a classmate brought her an expensive gift to present her on his b'day. But she politely declined, saying she doesn't accept gifts from any student.
Now, 2 years down the line, she must have been in her early to mid-40s, and suddenly was doing some very uncharacteristic things - coming on to a student, dressing differently than she usually did and asking for that student's opinion about it. It ended with the student confronting the teacher directly as to whether she was going through a mid-life crisis. The teacher was taken aback by the student's awareness (this was 1995 and in India) about this topic, but opened up her heart to the student about problems in her marriage. When word reached the principal, he issued her a stern warning and suspended her for a week. The student eventually got admission to another good school for entirely unrelated reasons. It can be safely said that the teacher's age was playing a major role in her decisions and behavior.
@@simonpegg1196 Unbelievable 😢
Spot on Madhavan, value for relationship is to compromise on many adjustments and you had it laid out to us on the palate. Now to digest and move on., or the new generation will have a hard time to handle.
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
It's not about time. It's about the experience... some abuses in 6 months leaves life time mental stress! The flaw in Indian marriage is adjustment is demanded only from women!
Madhavan sir is not just an intelligent, brilliant actor, Fantastic director... But a mature,wise person!! What an indepth analysis of life..Huge respect!🙏
I love madhavan as an actor, so let’s get that out of the way.
Seriously! This is his explanation of why marriages don’t work. How about women and men being more educated and finding the voice to express what they want. And isn’t it a good thing that people evolve . Imagine at 40 having your same thought process as you were 23! “West” and social media is not all to be blamed. Our very old traditions and own society pressurize people to stay in abusive marriages .im glad that we have grown to voice what we want in life and move on. Im glad that divorced parents can co exist and co parent. As a child psychiatrist myself I can guarantee you the amount of healing the kids have when that happen is real than when they see two people fighting every day of their lives. And his idea of finding your soul mate is probably more of a movie plot than reality. I think marriages are a work in progress at any stage of your life. Some are just not worth that work and in that case you move on!
I don't think divorces are rising in India. India has had negligible divorce rates so far. And its not an indication of a healthy society. Just like how 50% divorce rate in USA is not healthy. Its not that people have always been happy in marriages here. A significantly high proportion of people live separately because going through a divorce is such a headache in India procedure wise also. Now people, who are in unhappy and toxic marriages are realising that okay getting out of it is also an option. Even though the society is going to judge you and the judicial process is hectic, they are choosing what is good for them. And adjustments and compromise are goods, but only when done by both the parties involved. India being a deeply patriarchal society where patrilocality is a norm, women are the ones who are always expected to compromise. Its just that now women don't want to. Good for them. Marriage is an institution of choice not compulsion. Choose whom to marry carefully, try making it work together. If it doesn't, it's okay, step out of it. No big deal
It's not a big deal until you have kids ...
I feel that mindset should change,if the adjustments make it work and no abuse,then okay but just for the sake of kids no one should stay in an abusive relationship.
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Healthy society .?? Women still stay married because of stigma or children.. or else they would long have drifted apart ..
Bhai mera thoda sa law ko manly banoo aur dekha kitna bada hit aayga
I still didnt know 40th bday is an event until I listened to this...am I living in a different world...sudden realization😢
*Celebrating birthday after the age of 10 is bullshit and to get attention from others for doing nothing*
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
No,you're normal
Stay in that world brother / sister ,don’t come into this
well said by Madhavan. Everyone have their own path and the problems can be completely different or partially different or same at some point and different at other point, so solutions will be unique and to each their own. But unfortunately many people are not ready to accept and especially parents and relatives try to somehow make the marriage work even if the couple know that they are poles apart. I mean this is one type of problem.
So true. Thank you Madhavan sir for enlightening the true face of relationship.
Genuine Family Counseling + Lessons learned from others periodically and constantly = Happy marriage
Sir, aap bahot ache actor hain. We really appreciate your acting skills. Kisi ko heart pe kavita likhna aa sakta hai, kisi ko Dil pe gaana gaana, magar ek cardiologist hi heart ko medically samajh sakta hai. Kuch examples le kar hum ek Vishal Desh ke logo ko "divorce" jaise sensitive topic pe gyaan nahi de sakte. Society, ye ek bahot complex phenomenon hai. Sociologist and baki associated field ke experts ko iss sensitive topic pe sochne dijiye. Koyi agar 20/ 30 saal nark mein rah leta hai, uska matlab ye nahi ki baki zindagi bhi nark mein hi bitaye. Aisa agar thik raha hota toh courts kyun kisi ko divorce file karne dete ya kyun unhe divorce granted ka judgement dete?
Beautifully said🎉
Divorcing after 25 yrs is the best thing I would say.. How can he say not a good thing?! One has waited, sacrificed, gone through so so much being in a wrong relationship just for the sake of the kids.. once the kids became adults now you don't have to worry that the Divorce is gonna affect the kids ! So atleast in thier last yrs they can live a life as they want! They can enjoy freedom!! What's so wrong in them 🤔
Look around your friends, relatives. Are they happy in their marriage. Some are really unhappy. Some just tolerate it. Some are ok. I think, people marry because they haven't found the alternative to marriage yet. Married: not happy. Unmarried: not happy. No solution.
Now that's an well informed individual!❤
You are amazing dear maddy❤❤
I know many elderly people stay one with one child and other with other one.. and many couple stay together but it’s the dependency, and many times only one person is in love,and many cheat and let their not know and say Indian marriage system is great . So get out of the disease that marriage is forever. We grow and we outgrow our partners, our needs change and we want to experience different things and explore.. so be prepared to say goodbye and ready to have heartaches.. but be resilient. Divorce loss everything should be experienced and it’s for good. Don’t be delusional be practical. Don’t stay if don’t want to. Be honest to yourself and to the one once you loved and will be for cared later on
SO FAR ONE OF THE BEST PODCASTS YOU HAVE DONE LOVED IT 🥰 ❤
Everyone’s experience is different even mine was a love marriage we were working in the same office we both were Architects by Profession before marriage he was very kind use to speak well but after marriage he was the worst person he was very abusing & use to assault as well...some people cheat as you don’t know who they really are until your married he ruined my life as well as my kids life as well...MAY his KARMA come back to him then he will know what he done
I'm glad that you had the knowledge about that pain ... Now accept that persons I denied n get them away from me please 🙏🙏🙏
Awesome 😊I love u both ❤Madhavan sir is my fav actor 😊and y r my fav host Ranveer 😊
Wow that's so true
What he is saying is correct in some cases don't generalize it..
The preset scenario couldn't have been more well explained. Absolute truth, Maddy ❤❤❤❤
I agree to what he said to an extent
Best reply from Madhavan till date in this question. We can listen to him for mins and hours !😊
I cried when I heard and realise what he said.
Please be kind to yourself if you have been cheated on by a partner/left for your friend. And Madhavan is just sharing what he thinks is the truth. It is not THE Truth
Don't get divorced
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Words of wisdom..
Agree 💯
I’m in my early 30s and I completely understand what he’s saying. I can’t stand a woman who’s feeding off of social media attention.
Lucky my marriage is great. Now im having a daughter I will try to teach her be an women more than try to achive something in life.. My wife agrees with it .I'm just lucky to get a good wife due to arranged marriage.
@@drbh6331 happy for you
Very true
Saas bahu politics, mobile ediction, drinking become status symbol are reasons for the same
honestly, I didn't understand anything what Madhavan was saying,
Thank God...I thought I was the only one....I have no clue either of what he was trying to say there....
Maybe many people are not able to relate to him because he said at the end he is talking this from his experience and many people may not be able to relate. His wife, if he is divorced may have had bickering issues and must have asked to 40th birthday parties and may have found some one from his friend circle attractive or may have cheated with one. Just a wild guess to what he is saying and he sounds hurt in describing all that so it can be personal.
What he is saying is not a new phenomenon. Indians till now lived in bad marriages because divorce is unacceptable to society. Today most women are not putting up with a wrong spouse and walking out because they are empowered. Also we are in a transitional generation however parents still control our lives and think know better even though our education and exposure has been different to theirs. We still get forced into doing things which we know is not what we want and invariably at a later stage it crumbles.
Cheating is one of the reasons .especially with working wmen
Love this guy always
Man…some truth bombs in this one 💣
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Maddy speaks so much sense. Love u maddy. U should have got more meaty roles. Industry is not fully utilising your capabilities. And glad celebrities like u are making it clear that we need not have to follow the west!
Spot on Madhavan!
Let everything happen organically our generation used heart more than mind in marriage that was so Simple to enjoy life
In India especially marriages are OVERHYPED!! 😓😓😓😓Todays generation might be opting for divorce quickly BUT people who are wanting divorce after 15 years or 20 or 25 years of marriage are actually the RIGHT CANDIDATES. Coz they are the ones who really NEED a divorce. 😐😐When the husband or the wife or both realise they are actually not happy in the marriage and are together either for the kids or the society or their own insecurities and fear should really opt for divorce. 😐Divorce can be a blessing for such people who are actually ruining their lives because of kids or their own insecurities. Kids are a part of the family. People who especially give kids excuses should really start considering their kids as a part of the family. And if the kids are really a part of the family then the kids too should understand that parents ki apni life apni khwahechey bhi hai. Parents too have their own life. And why shouldnt they?? The kids excuse is the most life ruining. Kids are anyway going to have their own life. Agar bacchey ke saath koi problem hoti hai toh parent samajhta hai toh wohi parent yeh kyu nahi sikhaata apne bacchey ko ki jab parent ko koi problem ho toh baccho ko bhi toh samajhna chaiye. And a kid who has a heart who understands his her parent will surely stand by his her parents in divorce also. Divorce can be a blessing for the kids too coz when parents are really happy with their right partners they can take better care of the children. Sad parents, compromising parents, fighting unhappy parents anyway ruin the childs life. A divorce can be a blessing for couples who are together only because of their children or their insecurities. Release that partner also with whom you are just suppressing your dreams and happiness. I hope wisdom shall shine upon such people who are just wasting their life in unhappy marriages ❤❤❤❤❤
Plz make Hindi podcast with R Madhavn sir..
I love the way he thinks❤it reflects his intelligence.
What nonsense. 90%? Among all the divorced people I know, not a single one of them got together with their partner's friend. Maybe this happens in the filmy world and Maddie is seeing that?
Yeah I feel main reason is abusive partner and both men and women now being financially independent can afford to divorce.. seriously these filmy people should stop acting like they are experts on everything 😅
I don’t even think he knows what he’s talking about. This guy has no time for these things. He writes, directs, produces, acts, runs businesses, manages properties, debt and also needs to take care of his family. These people don’t live normal lives, they are super busy. Just imagine the amount of weddings he is obligated to go because of all the people he knows being a celebrity. So many ministers, MPs, directors, producers, actors, business partners, technicians, top police officials. Because they will need all their help to run this smoothly for them.
That what is cleared as well in last
True ..
Hos perspective, take with a pinch of salt 😊
So accurate he is saying❤❤
Mother of both partners and financial stability are 2 major reasons. That's it. Selfish people aren't ready to see your pressures of life.
Relationship is compromise and adjustment with lot love and respect between each other
If we actually tell an Indian male what they will be subjected to in case their marriage fails , 80% of them wouldn’t marry .
It’s simple
You would not get a soul mate in a wedding.
It’s not a restaurant
Where u order something and u get it on ur table .
You have to live with someone diametrically opp person.
You need to manage .
true
Not everything goes as per plan in life.
The crux of the issue is that women changed a lot over the last 20 30 years and men have not. In the olden days as a man your job was to bring home your salary and that was enough. Today that's not enough, you have to learn to cook, contribute to house hold chores, take her out on dates, shopping, travel but all of this requires money which women understand but don't want to accept because social media highjacks their brains. Sorry if this is hurting your sensibilities but any sane person who can see things for what they actually are and not fall for narratives can easily see these things happening right now in our society.
agreed
I am in a happy marriage for 12 years. I am happy i married when i was 24. We both had a time to change for each other and change each other for good.
Love marriages or “union of soulmates” does not guarantee a good marriage. There is no hurdle-free path in life. It boils down to what your priorities are. Do you want a companion? If yes, then be ready to meet them halfway. If not, then lead your life single and happy. The notion of romantic love is very short lived. Once life gets real, you want someone you work well with. Remember folks, we are all walking our unique paths and no two paths are alike. So any relationship you want in your life, whether is friendships, good relations with parents or a marriage, it’s gonna require some level of work regardless of how it originated. Divorces happen in love marriages all the time. Look at the western world.
Shadi karo to nibhao dil se loyalty se dono ladki or ladka ..warna akele hi raho ..
Ranveer always wants marriage advise, he desperately wants to get married
Bhaiya apne apni podcast mein bola tha ki female content creator can make 25 lakhs for one reel
Can you please make a detailed video 🙏
Madhavan Sir is so right!
Also these days people want everything whether it fits their budget or not...they will buy various things n if they r not able to then also relationships suffer...very immature of such people.
One of the rare real gem in Bollywood...thanks Maddy 🙏🙏
Yes true
So I suppose if a person is single at middle age, they should not get married, is that correct?
That is why u need a emotionally intelligent man , mature
💯 its union of two souls. People can only understand this if they are spiritual.
Choice is always the reason
I am close to marriage age, and I am not ready for reasons very similar to the ones Madhavan shared. But people around me are making me feel weird.
They aren't troubling me, but there is a tone in their comments and jokes that makes me feel something is wrong with me that I am unwilling to marry.
Everyone, do not marry because "everyone does". It is a life-changing decision. Be careful.
Whatever it is , first think most of them ask is , is how much the man earns, wheather he has own house , car , bank bakance , its reality just need to accept it...😢
last line was the actual truth!
Whatever Madhavan has said is 100% spot on
For that first time Ranveer gets roasted... Madhavan sir..kalakiteenga sir....
Reasons for divorce, adultery, ego, social media, financial status, pseudo feminism and stress.
Love you Maddy from forever......in Sea Hawks, in RHTDM, in this podcast.....everytime I see u, I love u some more❤. Stay blessed
Availablity of options through social media, lack of culture & sansakar.
True
I personally know at least 3 families whose relationship can be termed as toxic and abusive, yet they aren't divorced because of their families & societal norms. So not going for a divorce doesn't mean it's a healthy sign.
I'm 18 y.o and I've stopped celecrating birtday from last 2 years
I admire his frankness and maturity
Bhai aapse milna hai
Aap kahan rahte ho
People want a wedding not a marriage.
People spending much more time on social media platform n try to leave or try to do like social media influencers and relate with influencers, this wrong, I think this is one of the reason of divorce
madhaban u r excellent
One can see the experience he has through his talks.
Reason human desire beyond there daily limits
VERT TRUE
Decide before marrying
Maddy making use crazy with his acting, looks ,point of views and now the morals ❤
Marriage isn't for everyone. If you know the other person really well and have the maturity to accommodate them amicably in your life, go for it. Even if you make a mistake, there's a way out. But it isn't an absolute necessity.
That is the biggest lie that has been spread by the movies and social media. Interact with the old people who have remained unmarried in their life and you'll feel the regret and loneliness that hounds them. You'll feel the insecurity and instability in their lives. It is the unspoken truth that nobody has the balls to talk about. If you get a chance to do so, work in a senior home in USA and you'll see the STARK REALITY of 85+ year old people who do not have any family caring for them in their old age. Instead of advocating for broken families, figure out ways to make marriage work for the entire family. If you don't do that, the ONLY person who will suffer is the person who chooses to remain unmarried.
Do you know that there are at least 81+ million men who are single in China and are living miserable lives because they do not have women with whom they can build families? This issue is a result of the one child policy in China. The Chinese middle class became extremely prosperous in the past 15 years, but the well-being has been shattered because they don't have stable families.
But divorce is only option left when the opposite person is already a cheater and has no intention in indulging in marriage
I'm not that person who's sharing everything with others ...
Madhavan sir❤❤❤❤
🙏🏻
I respectfully disagree with the assertion. The increase in divorce rates is not solely due to women being educated and financially independent, but rather reflects a broader societal shift towards recognizing individual autonomy and equality within marriages. Historically, women faced significant barriers to expressing their needs and desires within marriage, often due to economic dependency on their husbands and societal expectations of unquestioning obedience to in-laws. While financial independence and education have empowered women to assert themselves more confidently, the root cause of marital discord lies in outdated gender roles and unequal power dynamics within relationships.
It is important to acknowledge the sacrifices women have made throughout history, often enduring hardship and subjugation in the name of preserving marriages. However, framing the issue as a dichotomy between obedience and divorce oversimplifies the complex dynamics at play. Marriages should be built on mutual respect, communication, and shared decision-making, rather than one-sided expectations of obedience.
I encourage you to engage in conversations with your mother and grandmother to gain insight into their experiences and perspectives on marriage and gender roles. By understanding the challenges they faced and the sacrifices they made, we can work towards creating more equitable and fulfilling relationships for future generations.
Very deep and meaningful message
Good one
It’s funny you mention it. Not once did anyone suggest that it is one sided. So I don’t understand what you are disagreeing with.
I dont have anything against madhavan I think he is one among the very talented actors in india...I think in an interview when his web seeries decoupled releases he said that couples are falling apart because couples are starting to say" I value my priorities " I think few decades ago priorities were only a thing of men...n women were suppose to fit into those priorities...but now that women also started having priorities this gives rise to new set of challenges in the otherwise peaceful Indian marital constitution where the man should be her priority...n a womens job is only to fit in the mould created for her...which women in the present society who are more aware n independent find it to be constricting n suffocating...social media is a double edged sword along with damaging it also made men n women more aware n brought so many silent issues faced by women out into public discussion...I am not blaming him for his views but for men born in his time it is difficult to accept the chainging state of a woman as their view of a perfect woman is slowly transforming...