A hero of mine died not long after I met him (Chester Bennington from Linkin Park)
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- čas přidán 2. 08. 2017
- Chester Bennington was a huge inspiration to me in pursuing music. I met him not long before he died, and looking back through the footage I recorded, I felt the need to say some things.
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Why is it always the good ones
Alphatrout 9741 too true
Because they're the ones we notice
Alphatrout 9741 The good die young...
Alien Child it was picked before it fully bloomed
Alphatrout 9741 only the good die Young..
His death shook me in such a way that it still doesn't feel real. RIP
Aoife Butler same here. I didn't cry or feel sad, I think I am still in denial kind of. It's strange.
same, i still cry a lot... it does not seems real at all. it's like my brain can not process that he's no longer here.....
SuperMKi1 same
i understand this feeling i've lost so many people that when another person pass time kind of slows down and it makes me reflect on how much time i have left it could be over in a flash
same.
"And don't resent me
And when you're feeling empty
Keep me in your memory
Leave out all the rest,"
About 4 years ago, I won a meet and greet pass from a raffle Linkin Park did for a show at the Hard Rock in Las Vegas. It was one of the best nights of my life, I got to meet the band and the people that had opened my eyes to so much music and emotion and so much more. Call it a phase, call it whatever, Chester inspired me to be the kind of person I am. He was an inspiring person, he was an amazing vocalist, an amazing musician, and an overall amazing person. Chester, Im going to miss you, Dave thanks for providing me more perspective on his personality and documenting this overall amazing man.
Soracion i'm Subbed to you, buddy. :') ❤
Ima sub to you now real quick,you,really strike our hearts for making such a long comment.
I'm also gonna subscribe
Thank you for making me realise it's okay to not cry. Lots of people call me psycopathic because I don't cry and it just makes me feel empty.
Felicity Ounsworth I understand how you feel
Felicity Ounsworth when my grandma died i didnt cry and i asked my dad if i were being an asshole. He said this and it stuck to me ever since "each individual expressed their pain and sadness in their own unique way. There is no "must" in such a thing". Keep that in mind buddy:)
Felicity Ounsworth understandable that is me on alot of things
Felicity Ounsworth Is it okay to not feel anything at all? Most of the time?
you'd be a sociopath not to cry more than a psychopath
lots of people are partly sociopathic don't feel too bad about it
Poor Dave, R.I.P. Chester :(
vortex1929s I love the juxtaposition between your comment and and your profile picture
Fabien Dolan I was gonna say...
I wish that someone had said that to me when my dad died, that you aren't a bad person because you don't cry. This was beautiful, I really appreciate how obvious it is that you try so much to consider how your words affect people and the power that they can have - and that you try to make that positive.
It really means a lot that even when you're struggling you still try to put your truth out there. It really normalizes it.
Seriously beautiful.
Many people would be scared to.admit that on the internet, bue he manages to get his truth out. Amazing. I really value that.
Everyone deals with emotions.differently. it is okay to not cry, as it is to cry.. doesnt mean you dont miss him, it means you just not get overwhelmed..
I didn’t cry for a year when my Dad died, then it hit me.
It doesn’t always make you cry when you lose someone, no matter how long- everyone copes in their own way.
My brother never let out his emotions. he'd laugh and joke around probably get mad but he'd never really let them out especially the sadness. then when our grandfather passed away he broke he was so incredibly mad and he started weeping. it was pretty terrible to watch but I would say I'm pretty different. i won't cry at things like that, i didn't want to cry when he passed either. seeing my brother break didn't make me want to cry, but when i begin talking about my emotions i start cracking. it's very unusual for me to cry. or feel. i don't understand it.
I wish someone had told me this when my Nanna died too. She was like a second mum to me, and I lost my safe place to go when my parents didn’t understand me, as well as her warm and loving personality... and microwaved meals each week, and holidays with my siblings going swimming... so much just disappeared.
I didn’t know how to cope with that. I think that’s when I started self harming. I have always had depression. I have always had anxiety. But I didn’t cry for years.
When I finally cried, like 2-3 years later I just burst in to tears somewhere and everyone was like “are you okay?” And I responded “yeah my nanna died”... they seemed to think it had just happened. But it happened years before and it had just finally hit me how hard and I finally accepted she couldn’t just somehow be there and I was having a nightmare or something...
It’s okay to never cry. It’s okay to cry every day. It’s okay to feel however you feel.
I didnt cry when my grandfather passed, but its because everyone copes differently. I also just didnt want to make my mother upset anymore than she already was, and especially my sisters, because everyone can affect anyone. I just laugh and joke about the good times we had, just to keep it positive.
This is 2021. Dave hasn't posted in a year on CZcams again. He recently posted about trying new meds and whether he'd overdose it to make it work quicker. Dave, remember, 'I care.'
I remember crying to Linkin Park music while suicidal thoughts frolicked my mind.
I survived an attempt.
For us, for people like Chester, Dave, sometimes it's important that we sing 'one more light' to ourselves in the mirror.
Chester is gone. I pray for Dave to be okay now.
.
thank you for being here
It's been 3 years
3 years now. Where is he dude
when I heard about his death, one of the first thoughts I had was "I really hope Dave is okay"
Eccedentesiast mine too
Eccedentesiast same
exactly.
Yeah me too. I got really worried and I was just hoping he wasn't going to do anything to himself.
+Reb Domine I don't think he would hurt himself
RIP Chester. You will be sorely missed. Mental Health is no joke. It does not discriminate famous or not.
Jack Rota true words dude amen
In the end, it really did matter. R.I.P.
Or didn't, depends on the lens you look at it with.
Papa John he means Chester B’s emotions/deppresion
;-; Isn't that a song....? Because it has been stuck in my head today and that's the fourth time today I have gotten deja vu lol
Audrey Cordova yeah, he was referring to 'one more light'.
He really had to fall to lose it all
There's this one line in one more light that really hurts whenever I hear it "Just 'cause you can't see it, doesn't mean it isn't there."
Or
“In the kitchen, one more chair than you need”
That one always hits me hard
@@Max-dd4ow the "I do" in the bridge kills me
Life has become really sad without Chester singing no more.
:'(
He tried so Hard...
okay sorry.
We've still got Damon Albarn to listen to.
Teemo haha so original hahahah ha ha
wish it was u and not him
ThreeNPlusOne I swear on yeeezy if Damon dies next, I'm gonna take over for 2D's vocals. I will practice the fuck out of his voice till I master it. The Stuart potters are the strongest army. I really hope Damon will stick around.
Teemo lol i liked that.
Honestly as soon as I heard the news you were the first person that popped in my mind.
Gio Zaffini Yep same. :/
He was so blissful having the chances to interviews his childhood heroes :( It's such a sad thing
Same here :(
same
I found out today and I just started thinking about his read hair
My mom went and get a tattoo the day before her birthday, of the logo and watercolor. This was on the 20th, the day Chester passed away last year...
My mom has always loved Linkin Park and has always helped her through life. Once it happened my moms cried ever since, especially the day before her birthday...
Rip Chester Bennington. We love you.
Still watching this vid huh? You miss him don't you? Is alright mate. Be there for your friends and family stop h8n keep lovin.
I took a few days for the news to sink in for me and i felt really unreal.
RIP Chester, the generation you inspired will keep your memory alive
I'm not really a Linkin Park fan, but Chester seemed like such an amazing person, especially from the interview and clips you showed us. I just wish he had experienced more genuine happiness in his life. RIP :(
Also, I agree that people should stop saying things like "he's left his kids behind, etc". Yes, he has. But you need to understand, when you're in that mindset, you start to think that everyone in your life would be better off without you. Like taking away your life would be doing people a favour, as horrible as that sounds. And for all we know, that may be how Chester felt. Depression completely takes over your brain and it's not something you can control, it overpowers everything...I should know. I wouldn't take my life, I am trying to find ways to turn my life around, but people need to understand IT ISN'T EASY. Especially if you're going through it alone. Is suicide a bad decision? Yes, a terrible one. But does it make you weak? No. It means you've been as strong as you've managed to be for a period of time, but you didn't get the help you need. That's not the person's fault and people not going through depression, anxiety and other mental illnesses need to stop making people feel guilty for having these - they can't control it. The first time I opened up to someone about my depression, that was exactly what I got...no helpful suggestions, no comfort, just "no one will ever forgive you for taking your own life". And I hadn't even mentioned suicide. I never brought it up since. I wish more people were as understanding as you are about this topic, and I feel like this needs to be more widespread.
I hope you are getting help too. Don't mind those people who don't believe you or call you a coward, it's ok.
Thank you for this comment
chill a bit
ASSASSIN ANGEL35 - two wrongs don't make a right.
I was always very much against antidepressants. I never judged anyone for using them, I just never wanted to use them myself. Until, I started having a very tough time pulling myself out of increasingly consistent horrible moods. My temper was getting worse, I started crying a lot for stupid stuff and feeling really bad about myself. It started affecting my marriage where I always seemed to be apologizing for my moods. That was when I decided to try antidepressants. I felt like I lost all control of my feelings. It sucked. Now, I know starting antidepressants was the best decision I have ever made. I thought I would feel like a different person. But, I actually just feel like myself again. Don't ever feel ashamed to get the help you need. It can be therapy, medication or both. You deserve to be you without feeling miserable all the time.
30Chompi Same. I went 2 years without them, constantly feeling as if the world around me was in slow motion. It was scary for me at first, but I’m getting better and I hope you are too
I don't feel comfortable telling my story but I relate
exactly. if you're struggling, it might take some time for you to realize what you need, and like you said, a treatment you use now, might be something you used to be against. in the end.. god, i don't know how to sum it up. basically.. uhh, yeah. i really don't mean to be insincere, i'm just having trouble putting words together here.
I definitely agree, and I just wanted to say to anyone reading this post, that just because one kind of antidepressant doesnt work, do not give up. As this guy said, it takes time to find the right medication or doctor. Best wishes to you all, from another daily fighter of depression. Yall arent alone, peace.
I know someone who feels about antidepressants the way you used to, and is in a similar situation mentally. Is there anything I can do to cause them to be more open to them?
My heart is still aching
Dan Smith same mate
Dan Smith it may be January right now, but he will always be remembered. and same
Me too. Its making me so depressed... idk why
Same, and it's fucking March. Don't know when I'll get over it..
2018
Still upset about it
Chester Bennington hit all of our hearts
oscar phoenix yeah... I can’t imagine how his family feels...
Crawling in my crawl
Deez Biscuits I don't think it was meant to be funny
@@NoName-tu6ul if you watched the interview, Mike shinoda said he liked the linkin park memes, so yeah, it is funny
He really did though
No!
He was a talented guy
R.I.P Chester
Much more than that
Hey mate.
I know this is extremely late.
But, I have severe depression, I've been going through this for several months, I've seen at least twenty therapists, I've tried various antidepressants, nothing worked.
And then I met the people who are now my closest friends, they've helped me through the depression, and they have seen changes apparently, they said that I might be getting better, then the day I heard that Chester died, I had a mental breakdown. I tried to hang myself two hours later, but my friends found me tying the knot and ripped the rope out of my hands, Hell, one even hugged me and let me cry into her shoulder. She was the first true friend I had, I've known her ever since I was three. Linkin Park's music helped me through a lot of shit. Your videos have as well. I appreciate both of y'all.
Edit: Apologies for the late response to y'alls comments. But thank you for the support, I got through my depression last October. Ty guys again, stay healthy during this pandemic.
- Shadow
Darth Shadow i hope things get better for you
I hope you get through this soon. I'll pray for your success.
you made me cry
I hope you’re still doing ok, honestly, from one dead inside person to another ...
@@kura6 I hope u r doing good .. bro I m there for you never feel alone .. after Chester passing away
This is a beautiful tribute to a beautiful man ...
I'm really sorry Dave, I know how much he meant to you and I just want to pay respects.
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I'm so sorry. You were the first one I thought about when I found out. I can't imagine how you must feel. Stay strong. I love you Dave!
Same, RIP
yo boyinteband, just gunna say your right some people can talk about abuse n' the shizzle they have gone through and cry to no avail, you can cry and talk but your in an ocean of guilt sadness and... it hurts I wish I could soak up all the pain in the universe and have no one else feel pain anymore only joy, I think Chester may of been a little bit like me, he just wanted to bring everyone joy... even if it means cutting himself up on the way
same as soon as I found out I immediately went to dave and checked up on him because I know just how important chester was in the fabrication of who he is today and his passion for what he does
didnt know he was dead so sad- i belive this some illuminati shit
Sad Finley same innit
Just seen this video after a bit of time from him dying and I still teared up watching ur opinion on all this. Great video thank you...
Me too. It was a great video. We'll always remember Chester and his wonderful music. R.I.P. Chester Bennington.
lord bawnchie me too and it’s now fall 2019
Early 2021 and people still the same, I'm sure. I feel a sort of emptiness after watching this video, I've never met this man in my life but I care so greatly for him. It's such an unusual feeling.
today's april 11th,2021 and I just miss him so much,i just cried so much watching just the first few minutes of this video, it his me really hard.
Chazzy, I care if one more light goes out.I miss you.Hope you found whatever you needed.
Rest in Peace Chester, much love.
"There is value in saying obvious things" love that quote
My best friend killed himself when i was 10 and i developed depression and anxiety, than his sister killed herself, so i developed PTSD. I'm always around death and feel so alone... I used to have a self harm problem and shit. You talking about something like this makes me feel not so alone... I'm sorry for your loss. I loved your videos since you started CZcams i just want you to know that you are a very talented human.
Karina Pot i dont know who you are, but stay strong ♥♥♥♥♥♥
Karina Pot hope you get better,you are strong,you can get throught this!
Stay strong ,my elder brother died in a road accident.
i'm sorry to hear that...but i'm sure you can be strong and find joy in your life,no matter how hard these losses may seem.unfortunatly we all get to experiance the death of a human we loved......and it hurts.i wish you the best friend.
Karina Pot I totally relate to you... I'm currently also struggling with depression and selfharm, trying to safe others from it in the meanwhile, so yeah I know how it feels. Stay strong, we'll get through this💛💪
to all saying the last album was a call for help, no it wasn't.
He's been singing the same type of lyrics for years, talking about his depression for the longest of times, most of the songs he produced were a call for help, not only the last album.
I'd say his entire life was a cry for help, like he was trying to tell everyone it was gonna happen and they didn't do anything about it. It's also why I'm not a fan of videos and comments like this. Its all too little too late.
@@jackisback4873 Well, we can't change that Chester is dead, but we can help other people who are struggling with suicidal thoughts right now to get away from that, speaking about it, not doing it etc.
You know? The more I listen the more I think that the whole album it was a farewell and ready-to-go message instead of a cry for help. You know why I think is that? Because, while previous albums are full of energy, rage and sorrow, I remember that the first time I listened "One more light" I felt... Peace. I still do. Some suicide survivors claimed that months, weeks, days before their suicide attempt they felt peace. So... There it is. This album to me is a farewell love letter from a man to his family, friends and fans
442 Dislikes....... some people have no soul
Chase Ralston all the dislikes r people who cried so hard that they missed the like button
People have their reasons :/
You shouldn’t say they have no soul. It’s how internet works, you can’t make everyone happy, or relate, they might have their backstory, but that’s just that. You never know their backstory, so you shouldn’t judge just because you only see one side of a story. Sometimes it is people who just dislike because they feel salty, but who made them salty? That’s a question that can only be answered by them.
also 65 thousand likes, personally i'd say if you don't like it, don't watch it, if someone still feels the need to "hate"/dislike stuff just... because then that's them, i don't have to care about them because i know that more than 100x as many people know better
@@cherry03512 You don't know if you truly like something or not unless you try it
Indeed
I reacted in a very similar manner. I have also been a huge fan of Chester and Linkin Park for about 15-16 years now, saw them many times and actually met the band at a meet and greet in 2014. They were all really friendly, but Chester in particular was so incredibly nice: he told me it was an honor to meet dedicated fans such as myself and shook my hand. At first glance it sounds like the typical thing a rockstar would say to his fans, but he made it clear that he was being sincere and truly meant it - that meant the world to me.
Last year, roughly a month before we lost Chester, I attended one more show of theirs in Berlin. I stood in one of the front rows and towards the end of Papercut, Chester actually got off stage, came to us and finished the song with me! While I rapped Mike’s part, he sang and then shared his mic with me during the final line...
...these are memories I will cherish for the rest of my life!
It is truly tragic that it’s often the kindest and funniest people who inspire joy and courage amongst others, who suffer the most in secret.
I saw Mike again this year and will see him at yet another show next year and that really helped cope with this entire situation, as Linkin Park have shaped me throughout the majority of my childhood and my adult life. But that doesn’t make the loss of Chester Bennington less tragic.
Nevertheless, this situation really opened my eyes in terms of mental health and made me evaluate my own state of mind, helped me take care of friends who suffered. This kind of inspiration, though acquired through tragic and sad means, should help us appreciate what and whom we have in our lives and it is our obligation to #makechesterproud !
Greetings from Germany
OK, You are spot on when describing depression. I have dealt with it since I was in college, so about thirty years now. I totally understand why he not just did it, but went through with it. I am in the same bubble as Chester. You would never know I am depressed. People say to me all the time, "you are so happy all the time". Or that they would love to have my positive attitude. You can have all the money in the world or the biggest family ever or the love of your life. It does not matter. There is an emotional disconnect privately from all this. Think of it like walking through a ghost town in a bubble and looking out and seeing a normal world where people are enjoying life. There is this disconnect. I act happy all the time because I am selfish. I don't want to take the time to explain to people why I am the way I am if I were to be totally honest with them. Way too much trouble and I just don't want to deal with that. Chris Cornell was someone that was walking with Chester in this ghost town bubble and when he was gone, Chester's link to life was gone. I did not feel sad that he died. How could I? I get him. I thought to myself that we all stand on the precipice of death and some people take that extra step. That was Chris. That was Chester. Hopefully that won't be me, but I can't promise you anything.
I don't know much about depression, but I can say this; no matter how bad you feel and how much you dislike yourself, there are always people in the world that love you, whether it be your friends, your family, or your fans. Don't let your depression make you forget that.
Tocaraca I totally respect and understand your position. I really do. But I can tell you from first hand experience that on the outside, you can feel great that you have a loving family and friends, but there is an emotional disconnect that makes all that love irrelevant. It is a societal norm that people are supposed to react a certain way to this kind of behavior, and most people will ascribe to this behavior and some people are helped by this, but for most people with depression, it works as a coping mechanism.
Pete That sucks. I hope you can recover and find your 'missing link' and start to enjoy live more. Once you take that step, there's no comming back. How they say, 'It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem'. Stay away from that pitfall. We need you alive, and I hope you find reason to love your life. I know you can, if you just look for it.
Pete please keep fighting
the world is stupid shit but please, I hope you do
Don't get me off on the wrong idea because not everyone goes through their own depression in life. It may not seem that way, but the only thing stopping them from the thought of living is not knowing when to keep moving forward and to keep cherishing those moments that they shared with those around them. That is not a coincidence, it is called deep thinking: outcomes that can cause different choices such as a deep thought process that becomes more active like being in a state of depression. Because once you're in that state of depression, it is hard to get out. So think hard of that bright side of life and how you can see things differently. And dig your way to the surface to tell everyone that you know you can be positive about those life choices, because no matter how hard it is, just think of how your gonna acheive greatness without looking down on the world by judging them. Thanks for the memories chester. And dave thank you for being honest with your words.
The most considerate and kind people are usually the ones suffering the most...they care so much because they don't want others to go through what they do.
"you're not a bad person if you didn't cry"
Not sure how to put this, but I felt that.
Dave, it's going to be okay, honey I'm gonna be supporting you forever
As am I.
me too
Dave, I found this very touching and honest. My uncle who was very famous died a few months ago and due to family fuckery and my aunts wishes not being carried out when it came to informing the family of his death I didn't find out until it was released to the press two days later. I found out when friends, even people I don't have close relationships with these days started sending messages of condolence. It was fucking awful that not only had I lost my uncle who was a massive influence and support through my life but it was all right there in my face no escape, his picture on the front cover of the papers however, I was surprised to find that the outpouring of love and respect from the general public was a huge comfort and I was so very touched by the way people marked and mourned his passing. Given that one person in my family caused me (and my siblings and our children) to find out in such a public way I was so surprised to find that the public nature of his life and the fact that millions of people who didn't know him still 'knew' him enough to share in the grief his close family was feeling was a source of great comfort and if I'm honest a massive part of what got me though. In the past over the years that fame and sense of 'ownership' that people had over my uncle was hurtful, frustrating and invasive but when it came down to the crunch, the outpouring of love and respect made me feel like I was being hugged by millions.
You may feel like you were a fan who met him once but you are way more than that and your thoughts, feelings and grief at the great loss matter, they matter allot and very well may matter more than you could realise to his family and close friends.
headshotmaster138 Robin Williams
Jen Burton tldr
No not Robin Williams, he died in 2014. I'm not going to drop names just that he died a few month ago from illness and I'm British.
For to:dr guy, I don't care, didn't write it for you and since it was too long for you to read why bother dropping a comment?
Jen Burton Well Prodigy just died a month ago so it could be everyone. But I hope he's in a better place now. Lots of love to you (:
Jen Burton I'm so curious as to who he is haha. My condolences however, my dad died in december. it sucks.
As soon as I heard from my mum, I just froze and kept asking her over and over if it was true. When I told my nan, I said 'a CZcamsr I like interviewed him and he seemed fine at the time'. But that's the thing. Anyone can smile.
I wish i would've found this Video earlier. Linkin Park, and especially Chester, were my childhood. He helped me through so much. he wasn't just a musician. He was a friend. When i found out that he died, i cried like i haven't cried in years. It was like a part of me died with him. After hours of crying ...i just felt numb. It still hurts. Now i'm sitting in my room, looking at the poster and pictures of him on my wall and for the first time since a long time, i cry because of him. I miss him so much. But i'm glad i was lucky enough to have him as a part of my life.
Thank you for that Video Dave.
I had a similar reaction when I first found out about his death and being the fact that I was critical of OML, it added more fuel to the reaction. It sucks i'll never get the chance to meet him or see him perform in concert with Linkin Park ever. He was tragically too consumed by his locusts that he forgot how much his voice and personality meant to millions of family members. Depression is like a parasitic demon that sucks the life force inside of you to the point where nothing matters except ending you're internal suffering. I've obsessively listened to In The End countless times since Chester's passing, including my favorite covers of the song from other musicians like Jonathan Young because I personally think it's the most important song that describes the fate of Chester and the band very well with a scarier dose of truth behind it.
Everyone responds to death differently and the fact u said" it's okay if u didn't cry" really shows that. Everyone is different.
Dear Boyinaband.
Honestly, if it were not for watching Linkin Park videos in light of Chesters passing, I would never have landed on your youtube channel tonight. And if i hadn't, I would never have had the chance to be so utterly blown away by how smart, funny, entertaining and insightful this channel is, from education, mental health, happiness, music, art, you name it. The intelligence astounds.
People talk about entertainers leaving legacies, and i'm actually so glad that one of the legacies Chester Bennington may have left behind is by leading more people to videos like yours. I like to think unfortunate events can sometimes have socially positive impacts. One of these may have just happened. You are just amazing Boyinaband, and for what it's worth, I'm sure your hero would have been very impressed.
I never clickd so fast in my life...but most importantly i was worried bc after i heard you were gone for 2 weeks...
Same.
kyl0ji Same here
I'm listening to them since I was 5 yrs old 😭
I actually felt more angry than sad... The guy was an amazing person and inspirational and was a rare talent. One of the most incredible voices. God this year sucked...
MobileGamingReviews wtf, “god this year sucked” that shows what kind of guy you are
EggRollz f you he just liked chester and he feels this year has been bad but you just come and be a downer saying he is a this or that kind of person SO SHUT UP WE MISS CHESTER
So far 2018 has been awful for me personally. Also eggrollz, you domt know how bad this year was for him.
@@eggrollz6095 you're posting flat earth videos bud, fuck off hahahaha
I don't know why I'm crying watching this video. You said everything I wanted to say. Thanks for this tribute/video.
You are not the only one brought to tears over this, however I know why I am crying. I have struggled with depression most of my life. It is like clawing your way uphill through wet clay, just in order to get through every day. There was a number of points that Dave hit on in this video that were incredible pertinent in my life.
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Stardust I get that youre showing that youre apart of the clique but nows not the time in this comment section
Jennessa Beckett you and me are both lucky we escaped depression, 2 years ago i was really close to committing suicide but chose not to do it, and that was the best decision i have ever made in my life
Stay alive |-/ (and I mean it)
I stalled on watching this video. I had it open in a separate tab for seven hours, then I closed the laptop, walked away, and only just now finally started watching. I haven't listened to Linkin Park since I heard what happened, and that was just a few hours after it hit the media. I remember that whole day feeling... wrong. Like something was missing. I felt uninspired, and yet I was bursting at the seams with feelings I wanted a way to say, but didn't have one. I was devastated, though that word still feels... not enough. Even now, I'm swallowing back a lot of emotion. I don't want to cry again. Maybe I should, or maybe my restraint is going to help me learn that I can get past this. I wanted to give a few thoughts of my own, for anyone who wants to read, and just... try to express those words that, since my mom told me, have been buried underneath a lot of confusion.
1. Depression is a monster. It doesn't hide under the bed or in the closet. You can't scare it away with a night light. It's always there, laying next to you. It makes you feel cold and distant, like the world is so bright and colorful and you're trapped in greyscale. You feel as though everything is a mess around you, and that nothing is really worth the fight, even when you know that isn't true. It feels like you've been wounded, even when you haven't. But the wound never heals, the wound never closes, it never scars over. At least, that's how it feels, at the time. Every time the monster cuts you, you think it's deeper than the last cut, you think it'll stay forever, and you think there's nothing that can possibly save you. And sometimes, you're more sure of that than others. Sometimes, the delusion that comes with mental illness is all consuming. Sometimes, you attempt suicide. As someone who has, on multiple accounts, made plans or attempts to commit suicide (luckily with no success)... I can't blame Chester for what he's done. Do I think it's right to leave family behind? No, but I can't fault someone for the delusion that there's no other way, because I've _felt_ that delusion. It burns. I'm deeply saddened by the way that the delusion claimed him, this time. I just hope that the good that comes from this is that one person will see videos like this who might not have before, and that it'll help them take one more step towards the light.
2. Chester Bennington was a genius. I don't just mean musically. He was creative, intelligent, and compassionate. He had a way with words and with sound that genuinely stuns me. I hear his lyrics, I hear the pain he sang to the world, and I feel it. Now, more than ever, I feel it. I feel the hope baked into the verses and the sorrow in the words. I feel the depth with which he communicated every thought he ever had, and the intricacies have never been clearer. Chester was a man of multiple wonderful talents, and I'm only glad I got the one in billions of chances to live my lifetime at the same time as he did. I feel so blessed to have witnessed his talent, his rise, and to have basked in his legacy. I feel such deep sorrow for his children, but also, in a way, weirdly grateful for them. They exist. They can make lives, they can make families, they can make a difference. They can continue the legacy of a brilliant musician and performer, and they can show the world that it doesn't end here.
I guess I don't have any more numbered points. No large bulleted things to throw out into the endless internet void. All I have is a heavy heart, a heavy mind, and even more will to go out into the world and make things better. Linkin Park, their members, their music, the humor from their interviews and videos... they've changed me, genuinely, as a person. I will no longer bow my head in shame because I feel for their loss, or because I feel personal loss myself. Rather, I will thank God I had the chance to be here, to see him, and I will pray that he is finally at rest.
_"Weep not for roads untraveled. Weep not for sights unseen. Maybe your love never end, and if you need a friend, there's a seat here alongside me."_
We'll miss you, Chester. Until we meet again.
I rewatch this because... Late nights and CZcams. My mom died a year ago and I wanted to speak about grief. The grief process is strange. We all know we grieve in different way but we all must go to the funeral, and people expect you to be sad. But you are kind of glad and suprise of the amount of people showing up. Grieves are weird.
He was such a sweet soul...
My Birthday is on July 20th, I will forever remember Chester.
RIP Chester Bennington
Still in disbelief . Never gonna accept the fact that he is gone .
Such a wonderful human being who left traces in our hearts and memories .
😢😢😢 💔💔💔
The hardest part of Ending is starting again.
😔😔😔😔
I almost cried when I heard the news. He died a week before I was supposed to see them for the first time in my life. Rest in Power Chester!
Chester was a hell of a childhood hero to me too. It's really sad to lose him.
Never cared about Linkin Park. Never had that 'phase' or anything. It was weird though when I read he died just because I had just become aware of him as a person through your videos and their appearance on GMM. Both of those things were so recent, it felt really weird.
Exact same thing here. It still made me feel very weird. Hearing about something like this is always sad.
Todesnuss I listened to one Song and it was one of my favorite songs for a while. When I heard the news i instantly thought of that song .
I_SUCC_DIX_4_SUBZ You're a sick bastard making a comment like that on this video. Please, just think about how there are different places to fuck around, and a video where both the creator and many fans are grieving about death isn't at all appropriate.
I_SUCC_DIX_4_SUBZ You're a sick bastard making a comment like that on this video. Please, just think about how there are different places to fuck around, and a video where both the creator and many fans are grieving about death isn't at all appropriate.
then probably u are born in this century
Almost 3 years, still crying.
Chester had that personality that made us feel like we personally knew him..not only was he the most amazing rocker EVER, but he was also just an amazing person..he is missed so very much❤❤#fuckdepression #makechesterproud #iamthechange
I hope you can try to find a way to send all your raw footage to Talinda, i think she would really appreciate.
This is a really good idea.
Heather Ann like heathers comment guys if you think Dave should do this I think that would be the best thing to do for the people that cared about him
Bump.
Heather Ann Dave you gonna try it?
mike's wife actually retweeted the vdo , so im assuming that she showed it to her .hopefully ;bc it 's a heart warming vdo im sure it will make her feel better
rip Chester.
It was like a punch in the gut when I found out. He was such a big influence of who I am and who I will be
This was rly helpful. I myself have dealt with rly bad depression
chester was a great human...
#MakeChesterProud
To this day I still can’t believe he’s gone. Linkin Park was such a massive part of my life growing up and it shaped my music taste and opened me up to a whole bunch of music. I dont know if I wouldve ever picked up the guitar if it wasn’t for them.
Chester was an amazing musician with a voice that carried a whole generation of kids. God I really miss his voice. Rest in peace Chester. Thank you for everything
As soon as I heard the news, I thought about how hard it would hit you. R.I.P
I was wondering how you were holding up after hearing the news...
I'm so sorry Dave. We all miss him. He had a huge impact on so many people.
When you interviewed him... he even said, “I’m all feeling” ... and when you are that way, the world is really heavy. It can be incredibly light and beautiful but so extremely dark and weighty. RIP Chester... you are so missed.
I think I can speak for all of us when I say that he died too young and we're all gonna miss him a lot. He has been an influence to me since I was 7, I still can believe he's gone
I'm crying.
My Mom Your mom
5000 Subscribers And I'll Do Something Epic! My Mom is your mom and your mom is patrick's mom and my mom is me
My Mom preach it brother from another mother
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jake paul love the role playing there, jake Paul telling his mom to die, sounds about right
Thank you. I needed this. You helped with my own closure.
Cody Osborne someone's fucking edgy
Patient Ache I'm not acting. He was having s hard time with s death that's not edgy, me constantly wishing for mine is more edgy than that guy saying Dave there helped him with some closure.
SwHk ELITE bro, I mean his profile pic
Patient Ache it's just a mask how's that edgy I have several
A very kind tribute. So sorry we all lost him.
I was nine when I started listening to Linkin Park. I'm turning twenty nine in June. When Chester died it was like I lost a family member. I cried, and didn't stop for a while. Every time I hear a song by Linkin Park and Grey Daze, or hear his name I feel heart broken all over again. I never got to see a Linkin Park show, which makes it harder because I loved every album, but this last one was a farewell album. Before he was screaming out his pain, then he was more peaceful and ready. I truly believe this was his final good bye to all of us. Sometimes all the family, money, or resources you have isn't enough to make you stay. I miss you Chester, you'll never be forgotten.
I got instantly worried about you as soon as I heard about Chester. But, Im really glad you got to meet him. I also love how you look at mental illnesses, and honestly, watching your videos helps me with mine. So thank you for sharing your amazing moments with him.
Jade Summer I actually do not consider most of the "illness" as illness, I rather consider them a disorder that can find its way back with time. Of course it can be helped by doctors and medicine, but it only needs some care actually, and patience before pushing the person further in cases like depression, or to push a bit in cases like fear to move on if it's like a phobia or so and I don't mean throwing the person in deep water, but give him/her a friendly push and support to fight it.(I talk from experience, there were times when I found my way out alone of it...but when a friend was nearby it was easier... also I rarely put my trust in a person I don't know... I actually think though that I would trust Dave if it was the case, as I feel like he understands things easier and stays cool even in strong situations.)
Yato Noragami the issue with friends making it easier to get out of depression is that (at least for me) when you are that far in you already don't really see anybody as a friend
Hidde Vente Well to be honest, the ones that can't stay beside the person at those times when he/she is at her deepest are not real friends for real. I mean, you know the quote 'A friend in need, is a friend indeed.' :) I think that is the true meaning of friendship, that they not nearby you and reaching you when you are having fun, but when you hate yourself, them, and the world itself. That moment they need to realize that the person in trouble doesn't really live in this world anymore, and don't take every word of his/hers personally, because a person in depression is in this way like a person in love, blinded, so anyone saying bad thing about their opinion without proof is instantly an enemy... And well, that is the point where a true friend can change things if he/she is a true friend. As this friend won't say "Pfff... solve your problems, idiot", but something like "Okay, let me see, why do you think that." .
Idk it may not work with everyone in the same way though, that's when they need a doctor, when nothing seems to work, and that is what a friend needs to realize as well, as the person who needs the help, will not call for help, neither go to doctor. They are too deep, but they don't want a psychologist to share their trouble with... so many go and take meds, and more meds, and in few cases they go into drugs, and so they get even deeper into their own hell instead of coming back.
So I think every person needs a friend there, and in most cases they are more fine with talking with a friend, saying bad things to them, even getting into arguements, then going to a stranger. :)
He passed away a month after I had been to their concert for the first time.. After the concert I kept watching interviews everyday and I stumbled across yours. I subscribed because I liked the interview and the passion you put into it. I was the one saying that I liked it but I felt like Chester was left a bit out. I'm sorry for saying that, I now understand he clearly wasn't. He had his way to get to you, not necessarily through words. His good soul transpired clearly through his attitude, his silly way of joking, through everything he did. He was a great force of nature. He managed to help me and my partner reconnect the day of the concert and we've been fine ever since. He gave us something that day which I cannot explain.. and that thing, whatever it was, stuck with us, it made us overcome some misunderstandings helping us throwing them behind our shoulders. He passed some of that strenght onto us.
When I heard the news, after crying desperately for days, I searched for your channel but I couldn't remember your name and I kept thinking about you because I wanted to say "hi, I'm thinking about you because I remember how passionate you were about the band and how great you were with Chester and Mike in the interview." Finally my homepage showed you again so here I am, as an old fan of the band and a person who hold Chester dear in her heart.. I'm sorry, I hope you are ok.
I send you my condolences together with a deep felt hug.
(sorry for any possible mistakes, english is not my native language).
... This is the first video in months, that somehow relates to Linkin Park, and Chester specifically that I watch.
When I got news of his death, I didn't really... get it, I guess. There was no impact. Like somebody threw a ball at me, and I tried to catch it while it's still flying towards me, way out of my reach.
And honestly, I still don't feel like it hit me.
I have listened to Linkin Park for years, I have so many songs that I love so much. It's one of the things my mom and I share together ... and when I heard of his death, I thought I could... honor him, and his work by listening to my favorite songs once more...
But it felt like nothing.
And I haven't listened to a single Linkin Park song since. I just didn't dare to. I didn't think I'd ... be able to honor anything... if that makes any sense.
Anyways... I don't know where I'm going with this, but you are right, one doesn't *need* to have something in mind when starting such a statement... or whatever this is.
I guess what I'm trying to say is, I feel you. I understand what you're saying, and you are so right with what you're saying about depression.
I am a borderliner, I have had phases of severe depression, and even suicidal phases... I'm glad to still be here. Linkin Park helped me through it too... as cliché and silly as it may sound...
Thanks for making this video.
15:02 -I think alot of people just can't admit when they need help, it is a difficult thing to open up to another person and show weakness, especially if you have trust issues or alot of anxiety. And also, some people get the feeling of, this is my burden and not theirs. There are many reasons people don't get the help they need when it's available to them, and that doesn't make them bad people.
I thought of your interview when I heard he died
We all leave one day, the thing that matters is what we leave behind. Our Legacy.
MasterTier_ Medic and then you're forgotten in the sands of time
Sad
are u tywin lannister?
MasterTier_ Medic I left my legs behind
Green Beats you clearly don't know what you're talking about.
MasterTier_ Medic is your legacy being a master tier medic
Wow. I miss Chester so much. It hurts. Still.
I was not a huge fan of Linkin Park at that time. But with „One more light“ they touched something in me. Deeper than my soul. This song helps me to keep up and just continue.
We cared, Chester, but we did not know it.
This is so fucked. I always thought people who got so upset over celebrity deaths were a little crazy.....but fuck me.....This one has hit me hard. I never met him....But I listen to what I do today, because of their records growing up. Hybrid theory helped shape my taste in music. They were the first band I ever saw live. Freshmen year, with my best friend. The song songs I learned to play on guitar, were One Step Closer, and A Place for My Head. It's honestly shocking to see, and realize just how much Chester..this band has effected my life....Depression is a fucking bitch. This man had...a lot of what we all aspire to have. Love, a family, respect, got to travel the world with his best friends playing music he loved, and had access to all kind of treatments, and help....And it was STILL too much for him...He saw this as his best option.....Fuck me, I cant even imagine....All these people with the "he's selfish, he had six kids, he's a coward"....Dave, I wish I had the self control you do to be able to not jump down someones throat..........Everyone thinks they know whats best, until they have been through it themselves....I lost the original records I bought years ago...thankfully amazon has them and all but...I honestly haven't stopped listening to them since this happened....Fucking hell.......RIP Chester....I hope you finally found whatever peace you were looking for at least....
I love how understanding you are regarding mental issues and depression. You are very intellectual and I love the way you think. I'm sorry you lost your childhood hero. He was one of my idols too. People shouldn't judge on suicidal or mentally ill people. They don't know how bad it can be. Hope you're doing great Dave. xox
It's been 4 years and it's still so sad
he did say that when he's in his head he is wanting to escape through his depression which is why chester chose to do this Rest in peace Chester...
Finally someone with some sense! He could not help himself and even like Shaun from Seether said you don't even have to be depressed to committ suicide...fact is, most ppl snap and do it last minute!
I'm sure the demon inside got the grip n snap it.
Haven't give them much love these later years was one of my regret at this phase.
Yeah, that's something few people realize. Many, many people, a lot of them quite ordinary, have a thing called "the call of the void". It's when you're near something, and you get the urge to try it. It's especially common with large heights. Many people have had a slight urge to jump when standing at an enormous height.
So many people that commit suicide clearly found themselves unable to resist this any longer, whether through being worn down or simply not being able to focus on anything else than the jump.
This is of course speculation, but I'm basing it of my own period of relatively minor depression, when I found the call of the void so much stronger than normally. Now, I barely have any of it left, and it's going quite well for me IRL in most ways. But back then I had to stand extra far from the edge of the platform at the train station, just to be sure.
Ivain "call of the void" is such an interesting way to phrase it omg.
but i totally had similar experiences. when i was younger i had varying stages of depression. i had to throw out all of my pencil sharpeners etc and when i went to the city with school, we went to the tallest building everything inside of me was screaming just to somehow jump
I just remember ANGER...RAGE...and I snapped...
In French it is "L'appel du vide"
their new album is really good. really sad that we will never gonna heard his singing anymore. only the memories...
it took me almost two years to watch this video. i can honestly say that both you and Linkin Park have changed my life. i remember the day Chester died. it hurt so bad and i didn't wanna be around people, not even my own therapist, for a long time. but like you said, like Ches said too: you can't fight your mental health on your own. thank you for everything 🙏
I just want hug Dave, he looks so sad 😭♥️
When you mentioned the fact that people think he was selfish, I instantly remembered my mum's first comment when I mentioned it her. It's not making me angry but upset that she isn't seeing if I'm okay or my sister who is a huge fan of theirs and I have remembered her always liking them. Linkin park has always been part of my life, a memory of mine is when I was going to my first concert last year and my sister driving me either on the way there or back was singing the lyrics word by word to the album hybrid theory and it was a great day. Idk what this comment is but yeah people need to have respect for those upset when people who have taken their life.
Sim Sparkle
Yeah, it's so horrible that people can be like that, to not respect someone that left this world in such a painful way....
I cried for hours when I found out, I was broken
Well I cried ): and still do..
4 years ago. God it still feels like yesterday. It still hurts a bit when it gets brought up.
Stay strong. Chester would want that
Sharing the pain is part of the healing .
I hope you can move on in a positive way
and you should be proud that you made
a nice connection with them and they
were smiling .Chester liked taking the
credit for all your accomplishments .
I guess the pressure of being a star
is more difficult than people realise.
Will be forever missed. Thank you for being one of the first bands I ever listed to as a child, rest in peace. F
"I tried so hard and got so far but in the end it doesn't even matter"
"All I want you to do is be more like me and be less like yours, and I know you were just like me when someone disappointed you"
"who cares if one more light goes out, well I do"
"why is everything so heavy so much more than I can carry"
Who else was just waiting on this video?
I actually said that to my self when I saw the video!
First thing I thought of when I heard the news was how shit this had to be for you man. You have my condolence.
I, too, didn't cry when I found out my grandfather died, but I was really sad, and as you said, I felt disconnected. I have never cried over death (IRL) and I find it weird, cuz I am sort of a crybaby. I have always felt like a monster, just because I couldn't translate my grief into tears, and had to constantly tell people I AM sad, but they don't believe me. I am mostly met with, "You cry over useless shit, but you can't cry when someone dies?" I just feel disconnected and I always feel I will see them again.
Thank you for telling me that it doesn't make me a bad person.
Years later and I still think about him.
Same dude
I was never really listend linkin park but i'm just sad because i know how much he inspired a lot of people i'm a fan of now...
Keep being awsome❤💙💚💛💜
ChenChan time same. Starting listening to their older stuff and was like... Well this sucks (chester's death). Excited to see what else linkin park has done and will do with this huge change.
Ethan Young
should i try to get into them again?, itried two years ago and it sounded weird to me, but a lot change in these two years...
ChenChan time I like and listen to a lot of music. That being said I say sure. However, a lot of people argue that their older stuff is better. Either way, it wouldn't hurt.
I love every single from LP..'cause give me a courageous...... anyone in here have listened "The Carousel" from LP....that song is awesome!..
I listened to them when I was a kid, no matter how small it might have been he was a part of my childhood and it caught me off guard when he died
I'm sorry Dave, I feel bad for you and Chester. I love Chester too, But now , He is in a better place. Sorry Dave :(
BiRDiE i
One of the best Chester’s tributes I’ve ever seen
Thank you ❤