How To Help An Alcoholic Son: Addiction Treatment & Recovery
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- How To Help An Alcoholic Son: Addiction Treatment & Recovery
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What's up guys Jason Here!
In today's video I give you exclusive tips on How To Help An Alcoholic Son! These tips are tips that I utilize everyday in my treatment facility with people who are dealing with addiction, and with people who are dealing with their loved ones addiction. As a Professional in the Addiction Treatment world I've seen first hand the effects of alcohol addiction on my clients, their families, and their relationships. I'm here to guide you through the process of getting help the RIGHT WAY. Please take the time to watch this video, while utilizing me as your professional resource. I proudly want to use this platform to share my expertise as someone who has been on both sides of the addiction platform.
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I'm letting my son feel his pain, it pains me also. I feel he's also suicidal so my fears are terror. I'm physically sick with worry and sadness, never thought this would be my life.
Bobbie, I am so so sorry for the pain you must be experiencing. I would like to offer a little solution that will help you feel better. Here is my life's work in the book, Unhooked: How to Help an Addicted Loved One Recover. unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
Bobbie, I am there right now. I am scared he will hurt himself but also so mad at his choices. All I do is check on him everyday and cry. I feel your pain.
@Donna Kaye I'm also sorry you're experiencing this pain. You repeat and repeat to nothing but false promises. I literally sound like a broken record. He knows what he needs to do he knows he's ill, I can only pray he strong enough to overcome this existing not living. I now say you know what I feel. you know what you need to do. I'll be here for you every step of the way. I hope before tragedy strikes he will get help. There is no way getting them committed, nor is there any support or help unless they make the choice. My God keep them safe here with us. Good luck to you
@@bobbiechavez7416 Thank you. I am not giving up hope.
If you want to keep him alive, tell him to come over on drugs or not. Do not buy into the enabling BULLSHIT
im 22 year old man and had a problem whit alcohol since 18, started drinking on the weekend when i was 17. relapsed for a week long bender after a month of sobriety. feeling sick and tired of this. i have commit this time to sobriety.
Tell him to buy from a reliable person, that you'll always be there on drugs or not. Remind him that addiction is a complete fabrication and he can stop whenever he wants
As difficult as it is, I'm an addict myself and the best thing that happened to me was all the doors closing. I also learned this in al anon. It's detachment. It is not easy. But doable ❤
I have an alcoholic adult son. Can you please help me? This is affecting my entire life. 😢
So do I. I don't know what to do. I'm a very weak mom. A single mom.
Thank you for the video. As a parent, especially a mom, it’s very hard To set boundaries but the more it is emphasized to me the more I believe it. I keep telling myself let go and let God.
You sound like you’re working and progressing. Would you like another resource? Check out
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I so appreciate this video. even though this was posted 5 years ago, it speaks exactly to the NOW of what I'm going through with my Son.
And my daughter . I need accountability to stay in my lane with her .
Thank you. I needed to hear all that. It's so hard as a Mom to just let him go.
Sheila Hartley I am so glad that it is helpful. More to come :-) also check out my new book 👍 and course.
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Same here, Sheila! Hugs!
Praying for you sister 🙏🏼
Me too but i want to tray let him go tomorrow 😭😭
My brother was a moderate drinker until he started a relation with his gf. He started consuming excessive alcohol and food, resulted in rapid weight gain. Not only health issues, moral issues showing up such as making parents pay for what he purchased online. My parents still respect him as an independent adult and letting him go, but always worry about him because his life style & health condition remind them of my grandfather who became bedridden in his early 40s.
Thank you for contributing.
Thank you so much for your video I don’t know how to help my son his a alcoholic he’s 23 years old. It’s so painful journey and he lives with us.
I thought I was over it the fear or anxiety I feel knowing my son (41 yrs old) is out there without family he’s on his own he’s failed so many times all because he can’t say no to drinking so I visited your video here and I know I’ll have to hear more on how to help my alcoholic son but I too need help when I keep busy I don’t worry so much but times like now when I sit still my mind and emotions go crazy !
Thank you for commenting! Have you checked out my new book for family members? It will absolutely help. All proceeds go to treatment scholarships.
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I too feel anxiety over my son. He is in a rehab at this time and should be discharged soon. This time he cannot come back to the house. I am working so am keeping busy. He comes into my thoughts and it is painful. I think about how he was before he became this. He was supposed to be better than this. I still do not know what brought this on. I do know that I am his mother and I tried to help, but I could not. damn alcohol, social media, cell phone apps to buy liquor.
Hes a jerk! Go get a life and forget him.He chose to fuck shit up and put you through hell
Do nothing for him
Let him go
He needs to have no mommy
The hell w that bastard
Our alcoholic son lives with us. He is almost 40. My husband is enabling him and this has been a battle between us for years and is much worse now. We are also in Utah. One of the hardest things is that he has 50/50 custody of his 2 year old daughter:-( I am hoping to get my husband to watch this.
Ly heard of a young man set totally free. H😊e was on his way to suicide when his dad hugged him. He cried out in repentance and was set free
So glad I listened to your video. My son is drinking again. I can't take it anymore. I needed advice. Thank you.
So sorry for the delay. Check out my book here. It will help I promise. www.unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
Thank you I was nearly going to cave and let my son come back but this has helped knowing that feeling the pain and being desperate is where change can happen.
Angela Gardner absolutely! May I also suggest checking out my book that will take you to the top of the learning curve. Here is the link.
Angela Gardner unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
Thank you for sharing your story! Seeing pic of you and your mom, hit me! What a strong woman who faces her fears! As a mom, all you want to is rescue and help snd knowing she got through this and seeing your success, gives me hope!
I thank you for your comment. It’s a journey and there are resources to help. Check out my playlist coaching calls. Also, here is the link to the book. It will help.
unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
Finally a clear concise explanation of what to do with your adult extreme alcoholic son thank you. new subscriber. need to learn more.
Thanks Angie! Sorry for delay. Have you checked out my book yet?
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Thank you for your book Unhooked and your videos. They have made such a difference for me deaing with my son.
Thank you for sharing. I needed this tonight.
Sondra Harris you are so welcome. 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Love your videos Jason! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you Jonas.
Thank you
I am that mother, who tries to help my son by control my sons life
Now I have learned
I was on the wrong path to help him
Thank you
Jason... Thank you so much... God bless you!
I appreciate your effort to teach mom how to best bring the right responses. I’ve been saddened and of course the guilt is all consuming, ugh 🙏
Thank you. These videos will also help a great deal.
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needed this...walking thru it now
P L I’m so sorry for delay. I hope these vids are helpful.
Oh Thank you so much for sharing your story
Oh my goodness, this must be the second time watching this. Natural consequences which he needs to feel the pain.
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I am so lost, your video help me, i am going through this same thing. But i can leave my son alone. he is too precious for me.
Arjun Pandit 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼
Arjun I am a parent going through my son’s addiction what is your situation if u could please share with me please
@@maryreal3825 He was going through the sessions with therapist, He understood that only he himself can help. He is taking therapy, now by grace of god he is doing quite well, lots of supports from family and AA group and his sponser.
Iam going thru this.. Tonight was bad.. Alcohol.. Drugs..
Sex.. The most loving person when off alcohol.. I have been told AA is the key.. Prayer to Jesus..
This was helpful! So fearful to think of the discomfort he will encounter in this relapse!
Thank you for your comment. If you want more meat, check out the Coaching Calls playlist on my channel. Also check out my book Unhooked on Amazon or Audible 🙏🏼
Thank you so much!! You put this wonderful
So glad to find this ! I am struggling.
This is exactly what I needed. Thank you!
You are most welcome! Have you check out the videos on the playlist “coaching calls” on my channel?
@@brickhouserecoverytv6668 no but I will . Thanks. I live in Utah as well.
Hi, my son is an alcoholic that works in construction and lives in a sober living facility. He's been doing this for over 5 years. I've let him live this hard life excepting him to turn things around when he became so uncomfortable with his situation but it's never come and he's just getting worse. He was in the hospital for acute alcohol poisoning last month. I've set boundaries let him feel the pain of his decisions. I don't see my actions as helping him recover. I'm lost
In my opinion, it sounds like you are doing more good than you may realize to help him. Have you checked out my book unhooked: how to help an addict and loved one recover?
I'm so angry about this subject. So proud of your parents (even though I don't even know them)Thank U for sharing.
I really needed to hear this!
Thanks, great information!
Thank you so much for this video!!!
Thank you. This video was very helpful.
Thankyou. Very helpful x
Thank u so much im a mother and my son is alcholic and its a painfull journey keep up the good work
This book will really really help you. Trust me. unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
Thank you for sharing
Great suggestions @
Thank you, I just began this process it is not easy.
Oh my gosh, he lives with us. DUI, court, attorney, lie after lie, threats, this is so awful. He is not ready to leave, not enough money, extremely bad attitude.
Autumn Meadows I hope you’re doing well, Autumn Meadows!
So sorry for the delay. Check out my book here. It will help I promise. www.unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
I live the same way my son is 26 and such a bad alcoholic.He shakes like he has Parkinson's without it with bad seizures and he is killing me and my husband.
My brother is 28 on the same page as your sons. I really want to help my parent get through this. I ordered the book (waiting to receive it) Have you found more resources that have helped? Do you kick him out of the house if he refuses to get help?
@@emilybuffey5617 We did a thing called the Marchman act here in miami dade county. It is supposed to give the addict a chance to recover by outpatient and if that does not work, inpatient. Well this is his second time and I just don't know. I do know that I miss who he was. Presently, we are practicing self preservation. The damage caused to his family has been monumental. I despise alcohol.
Thank you for this video ❤
Thank you for watching, we all make a impact(:
incredibly helpful thanks
Thank you
This showed this morning after my wife and I had another talk on where we were to go with this very issue. Wonderful segment thank you so much. We will go through more segments.
Thank you so much Websterlee7708
Benefited from your video. Just one comment I struggled ignoring the music played. But please continue with more help
Gordon Croft I totally agree. We are coming up with some new videos to fix the issue.
Thank you!!
Such a helpful information I am starting to put it into practice
Your comment means the world. Have you checked out my book Unhooked?
Thank you
This video was brilliant.
Thank you for commenting! Have you checked out my new book for family members? It will absolutely help. All proceeds go to treatment scholarships.
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It was very brave and hard for your parents, and thank god for you and them, this strategy worked. Do you think some people will just not be helped, whether due to personal choice or incapacity to help themselves. Our son has lost his business, his home and his children. We are helping him with a place to live, and although he has started to work again, it’s two steps forward and a few more backwards....we are at a complete loss....it is the fear and the guilt to let him go completely, which stops us.
Mahvash Pibworth I have more insights on this struggle you’re in. Take a look at my new book and let me know if this answers all your questions and gives you the path to freedom and influence.
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Thank you for your work
Thank you, and thank you for taking the time to comment!
Excellent Information
This is what I needed
I thank you for the kind words with immense gratitude. May this book build on these principles and take you to the next level. unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
Thank you!
Absolutely welcome. Do you want to check out the coaching call videos on the channel? They will help. Also here is another resource to help. All proceeds go for treatment for others.
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thank you
great story especially for us moms!
I loved the information you shared!
(The background music made it challenging for me to pay attention but that’s an issue I have most of the time so it’s my problem, not yours)
Thank you.
Hi thank you for this video, I just subscribe to your channel im staring this journey with my son 😢
My brother is 29 years old who doesn’t want to work, wants to stay in bed all day. His routine so far is sleep late drink wakes up late eats and go goes back to bed sleeps. He has access to wifi, food. Everything. He Currently lives with my parents. My mother always talks to him with love and explains how it’s affecting his health. He says he’s fine that he just needs to find a job. This has been happening for a year and half now. Everytime he finds money he goes and buys alcohol. Even when he doesn’t have money he finds a way to get more. At this point we don’t know what to do with him it’s frustrating. If it wasn’t because of my caring parents he would be homeless by now. At this point what else can we even do?
Hey Melvindeleon10, that sounds like a lot to be dealing with. We are sorry to hear your family is going through this. you can call our admissions team at 208-650-7359. Of course, he has to be at a place where he is willing to make the change. We have many other videos you can check out that might be helpful to you and your family.
I have 2 sons. One has just turned 24 the other just turned 23. The 24 yr old is the alcoholic and his step dad kicked him out today for coming home drunk again after he promised a week or 2 ago he wouldn't do it again under the warning of getting kicked out the next time. My heart feels like it's being ripped out and my gut is in knots. His stuff is still here because he hasn't found anywhere to go yet. My 23 yr old took him somewhere as we were coming home this evening. Idk where. The alcoholic son has no job no money his truck is torn up. Idk what he is gonna do. I don't know what I'm gonna do.
Missi R I understand your pain!
So sorry for the delay. Check out my book here. It will help I promise. www.unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
My 26 yr old son is a severe alcoholic and my husband and I completely support his habbit and everything else.I wanna put him on the street so he could hit rock bottom but it's so hard.Im afraid he's gonna die.
😢I am sorry for what you are going through😢😢
Thank you thank you thank you.
I enjoyed listening to the good advice. My can't control drink and smoking weed. And doesn't want to work. I need him out my house so badly .so depressing
Thank you! We are suffering
Thank you!
My older brother has cirrhosis…he has been to rehab 5 times all paid by our father but it’s never worked he’d go back to drinking. Just 3 weeks ago, his wife finally kicked him out of their place after he refused to help her pay the mortgage and spend his money buying alcohol. He had my cousin drive him 433miles to my parent’s house because no one wanted him at their place….now he is at home with no job but he somehow buying alcohol and getting drunk everyday at the house, my father doesn’t know what to do with him. He refuses to believe he has cirrhosis and keeps trying to schedule appointments with different doctors just to be told the same thing. My brother says it’s from my father abandoning him after he got married to my mother, dad didn’t abandoned him, his mom took him away from dad and wouldn’t let him see my brother. My mother left my older brother in a different country just to come to America and yet my brother never felt abandoned and he doesn’t even drink and him and my mom are very close. We told my brother that we will send him to rehab if he wants to be helped but if it fails again then we will have no choice but to kick him out into the streets..both my parents are old and retired and they can’t be taking care of care of him forever he is 45years old and no one in the entire family wants him…..if my boyfriend agrees, we could let him stay with us but he’d need to get a job and have his paycheck given to us so he won’t use any of that money to buy alcohol…we’d send the check to his wife to help with their kids
First, I want to thank you for taking the time to share your story and be vulnerable. Its hard, especially when you are close to someone struggling. There are so many things that you guys can do to help yourselves in this time of need. Maybe see if you want to attend a Alanon meeting, or even check out the book Jason wrote, its called "Unhooked." I have attatched a link below.
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My family needs help. My mother needs help . My younger brother is 49 years old and has been alcoholic for decades . My mother has always been permissive of anything he does including letting him get drunk to the point where he’s falling all over the place . He gets drunk at 9am in my mother’s house when I talk to her about this incorrigible behavior , all she does is yell At me and tells me “to leave her alone “ or “ I don’t want to talk about it” . I instantly become the bad guy every time . She yells at me for saying I don’t want my children to be around this behavior . Im not sure who’s worse my brother or my mother who lives in perpetual denial . Should I just leave them alone and let them live in dysfunctional bliss?
I need direction with my adult alcoholic son. He lost a very good job due to his drinking. He just had an arbitration hearing g for that job and could very possibly get it back. But today he has been drinking. I don't understand why. I want to understand why. In a time that he should be trying to stay away from alcohol, he is drinking. Why? And even more important, what should we do?
I understand your story completely. I don't understand these things either . How did things go?
This may be in the comments and if it is, my apologies. How do you establish boundaries if he lives with you?
Need advice: my son's gf enables him by paying all their bills & driving him around. They live 3 hrs. away & never hear from them except see his drunken posts on FB:(
So sorry for the delay. Check out my book here. It will help I promise. www.unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
Is he ok now? My brother is in a similar situation. I know it is fun to drink with gf who also likes to drink, but it's too often & too much. I hardly recognized him when I saw his selfie recently as his face was bloated and looked sick. He wasn't like that last summer but changed so badly in 6 months.
I need help, i need to be connected to support group. My son is an alcoholic and I don't know what to do.
What do I do if my son has alcohol withdrawal seizures I’m an enabler but I’ve got to stop what do I do I buy him alcohol because im scared he will die from the withdrawals
I don't know about letting you sleep on the street I've seen so many homeless that started like you and their parents let them just like your mom. The difference is that you got an epiphany not everyone gets one. I would still help my son get into recovery or something but let him leave on the street.
Thank you. The principle is to allow the addicted loved one to experience natural consequences. It is different circumstances for each family.
Calming, hopeful and informative.
Thank you for commenting! Have you checked out my new book for family members? It will absolutely help. All proceeds go to treatment scholarships.
unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
I’m in tears as a mother I need help for my son before I loss him please help me hi already lost a child at the age of 19 he killed his self please help me please help me
I feel lost as a parent when I did the best I could raise him in the best of the best areas went to military school and now I just don’t know what to do he’s 27 now He graduated with a high score he went to college he took up a trade still trying to figure out where did I go wrong
Tears ?????????????
Yes that’s how I feel please help me I don’t know how to get On the offense
Do you want to snag a copy of unhooked? If so, I reference you to the third chapter. Also the Steps to Surrender so you can truly feel relief.
Me too. My heart hurts for you.
My16 yr son ayush is addicted since since yrs.now in worse stage.his fr is under after effect of stroke since 6 yrs ,now49yr .being his mom I am helpless .pls help me.i was after my parents ,in laws on their cancerous last stages as bystander.so he misused these times.not gog to school.hiding in the dark and from public. Pls help me
Such a painful subject.
I wish it had occurred to me to use CZcams as a resource years ago 😢
If you have any more questions feel free to reach out, we would be happy to show you some more of our videos.
My son is rehab now at his request and in 3 weeks he will be back in my house and I'm not sure how to help him. I travel a lot for 1 - 2 weeks and I am not comfortable leaving him alone while I'm gone or do I just stop traveling and stay home fulltime?
I know this sounds like a sales pitch but I highly recommend reading my book Unhooked as soon as you can. It answers this question in depth.
Good but tough to do.
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So hard to watch him slowly die. Can you tell me how to get your book??
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Thank you so much!
How do I get the book
Hello friend! Here is the link, or you can snag it on Audible and Amazon;) it will really help. I promise. If it doesn’t I’ll refund you.
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Why the music ?
Yes I am new I need help please
My son still lives with me just started drinking again
Were sorry to hear this, if we can help please reach out.
😢
Please help . my son is 28 , alcoholic and unemployed .
Hey Santoshvaid7565, you can call our admissions team at (208)-607-8395.
How do you do this when they live with you?
Such a good question because it’s unique to every family’s circumstances. I think you will really benefit from the free vids under my playlist Get Unhooked Coaching Calls.
Where’s the link
To the book? Check out unhooked.brickhouserecovery.com/
Great vid, but why "son" and not daughter too?
great question 5d512, this video is applicable to both son and daughter, this is based on Jason's perspective of being a son in addiction.
Please remove the music.
I agree. The music is distracting. I wish I could
Not an easy road
This may help you
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Attend Al anon.
Al anon is a great program for family/friend's who are struggling with someone in addiction.
Nice video but stop telling people to buy your book your just putting this relaxing music in the background with your soft tone sad story, give advice stop asking for money
Wondering if it changes your perspective knowing that 100% of sales is donated to help families recover through various resources.
I needed to hear this, thank you
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