STOP: Healthcare Workers Late For School Drop Off
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- čas přidán 1. 04. 2024
- We’ve also had late days due to every day parenting struggles like tantrums over the wrong color cup in the morning. The reason really shouldn’t matter when you have little kids, just my opinion 🤷♀️ However, this example is just to showcase that you never know what someone was dealing with just an hour before you are seeing them. Let’s all be a little more understanding and show kindness and empathy towards others.
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I watched it and like I get that they wouldn't make exceptions since they don't for everyone but like come on
I am a trauma surgeon and the day that process gets "easy" or "comfortable" for me is the day I retire, because I no longer have the requisite empathy and compassion to continue practicing. I might go to teaching but definitely retiring from day-to-day practice.
What play button where?
Thank you so much for what you do.
I'm so sorry you have to be the one to deal with that.
May God bless you and your family may you be safe protected and prosperous
Honestly even the cut off for the short still manages to make a perfect point across 😭
This is why people just need to say, “oh sorry you hit traffic, hope you have a good day.” It’s absurd that you have to make excuses as a parent dropping their kid off at school, next time I’ll just stay home!
@@puffdaddy69No offense but as someone who has gone to public school all my life, yes it absolutely does
@@puffdaddy69 just because it never happened to you or anyone around you, doesn't mean it doesn't happen anywhere else.
@puffdaddy69 Oh, it absolutely does. I grew up dirt poor and my mom worked three jobs just to get by. We couldn’t keep the lights on at home so we had to buy two dollar store candles to carry around our small apartment until my mom could find the money to pay the electricity bill. Because of this, I would walk to school late in dirty, wrinkled clothes and dry toothpaste around my mouth, on an empty stomach and teachers would STILL make my mom feel horrible for being 20 minutes late. Their job is to teach, not to judge parents who are just trying their best.
@@esaiii7Teachers are legally obligated to report suspicions of child abuse and child neglect, and it seems like your teachers were noticing concerning patterns about your poor hygiene and hunger pains that made them worry about your welfare. And it sounds like they chose to speak directly to your mother about their concerns, instead of just calling the authorities on her. Maybe your teachers weren’t the villains that you remember them to be, you know?
@@puffdaddy69 You really think you're special and that the world revolves around you don't you?
I'm a grumpy old mean mechanic that's not exactly the most compassionate person around, but there's no way I could handle what these healthcare workers see every day. God bless every one of your and may he help you through the tough days.
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Couldn't have said it better.
Sounds like you never know what someone is going through. Try being a little nicer and it might come back around when you need it.
@@zaynegrey7056I think that what he said is the best way it could’ve been said, wasn’t even rude at all?
When I was 4 I lost my dad. For a couple years after that my mom was on antidepressants trying to make it as a single parent. The number of times teachers yelled at ME for being late, when it wasn’t my fault at all. My mom was doing her best. I can’t believe the audacity to reprimand a literal 6 year old for being late to school.
Thank you healthcare workers for all you do ❤
The same thing just happened to me and my kiddos. You guys are so strong. Bless you!
When I was a teenager, I was in band and my parents just didn't care. They'd see my brother play football, but didn't come see me march. Anyway, there was an away trip and I called my parents to come get me to go home. An hour passed, they hadn't shown up. Two hours passed, my band teacher was mad at ME. Finally, she just left me in the school at midnight, alone, to wait for my parents.
@@wastingmytime7258wow I’m sorry
@@wastingmytime7258this exact thing happened to me
@@aimeepinna I'm so sorry to hear that. Wishing you all comfort and plenty of support to get by.
At my 18-week sonogram, the couple next to us found out that their baby had no heartbeat. There was only a curtain separating us. We all stayed very quiet and cried with them. I felt so lucky and guilty. You never know what someone is going through. Be Kind.
damn.... just damn
I was that parent who found out their baby had no heartbeat... Clearly, not exactly the people you encountered, but I was in a shared room with some other people separated by a curtain in the ER.
16 weeks went in for bleeding and found he had passed a couple of weeks before based on his growth. I knew before the doctor even told me. My baby wasn't moving at all, and I saw no flicker of the heart. The pain of that rips you to pieces. We induced, and I held him, and then we had him cremated and brought home. I was not going home without my baby. That was in 2018, and I still wonder what kind of person he would be...
Happy news, I'm now 35 weeks pregnant with a lively boy and go in 2 weeks to be induced. Hoping all goes well.
I had that ultrasound at 30 weeks with our 2nd child. You're right. It is a hell I wouldn't wish upon anyone. We had 4 more children after that loss, ending with surprise twin boys.
Much love to you and your family@ItsLadyJadey
@@ItsLadyJadey wishing you all the best
the most haunting sound I've probably ever heard was my mom screaming and crying after my little brother was hit by a car. he got away with pretty minor injuries, all things considered, but I'll never forget that sound.
His guardian angel had his back.❤
My grandma's cries the morning we found out my momma passed away broke my heart more than it already was 😔 there is truly nothing quite like soul crushing feeling of losing a child. Something I hope I never have to witness again or experience 💔
Same here! I was 10 at the time my brother was 4. I ran down to the house screaming for her as she stepped out the door I couldn’t barely get the words out but once I did she took off running screaming my baby my baby! That scream forever haunts me.
@@mystearicanohr9521The Lord God had his back bc God made sure to dispatch the guardian angel 😉
i’m glad he’s okay
As a paediatric doctor this is so real. I once turned up late and apologised. Forgetting i had mascara streaked down my face. I had left work and cried my eyes out after spending time with an infant whose parents couldn't be with them when they died. Some shifts are just the worst
❤❤❤ thank you for what you do.
Omg I couldn't even imagine.
Youre amazing for spending time with that baby even if though I imagine it was hard ❤
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Best part about this video is it not having an ending to the story, because it never ends. As someone who is in and out of hospitals constantly for my disability, thank you, every one of you
It does have an end though. (Theres a tiny play button above the initial text the ahort was posted with)
As a kid who grew up with a paramedic/firefighter dad and RN mom, I was FREQUENTLY late to school and got in trouble for it. Parents tried talking to the school but they were unwavering. Also they refused to send a bus because we were "close enough to walk" even though it was over a mile through some bad neighborhoods. In elementary.
Seriously? I used to walk home from school (Dad drove me *to* school) until bullying at the crosswalk got so bad that my parents signed me up for the bus. Obviously, I lived within walking distance. My house was *less* than a mile from school and the only hazard was crossing Main Street.
Also, the bullying didn't get any better with the bus.
man schools are trash and the fact that we subject kids to them is awful. half the teachers dont give a shit, the other half cant do anything if they do care, and some kids are demonic little hell goblins that will eat you alive if you let them like something from national geographic and if you try to do anything to protect yourself you get in more trouble than the bullies!
Close enough to school means they didn't even need to make a big detour to reach you. It would only take a few mins.
Sometimes these front desk, administrative ladies are over caffinated, self righteous and over paid flying monkeys. Somewhere along the lines they lost kindness.
This is why I can’t stand people who make others feel bad for being late. You don’t always know the circumstances and your assumptions are often wrong.
Ah, because then they wouldn't get to have their little power trip and feed their superiority complex by judging someone else and making them feel inferior.
I hate how people make tardiness a "zero tolernace" thing. It's a similar mindset to people who oppose social welfare programs because "someone will abuse the system!"
Sure, some people will abuse your compassion because there's always an asshole. But would you rather punish everyone to preempt the asshole or worry about the asshole when they reveal themselves?
@@Elaan021the reason they make it zero tolerance has nothing to do with your kid’s learning or missing something important at school and everything to do with the fact that if your child isn’t counted on that roll call the school does not get the funding for that child that day. I actually got the principle to admit to that fact. My kids, both straight A students, never in trouble, one already sworn into the airForce and headed out after graduation this summer, was complaining during winter (we live out in the country and the roads are a nightmare! We had to dig out the cars and plow before leaving that morning after an unexpected extra six feet of snow. Nope we don’t get snow days out here or kids would never go to school ) I actually got him to say and I quote “I don’t care if the kids are getting D’s and F’s as long as their buts are in their chairs in the morning!” So I looked at him and calmly repeated. So what you just said was you do not care about the grades the kids are actually receiving, you do not care about weather or not they are learning anything just as long as you get the funding for their little behind sitting here in the morning… he tried to back track sand I said no! You just stated very plainly that you could care less weather or not your students do well just as long as you get paid! I told him to go bother the parents of kids who are failing or barely passing not my kids who are continuously getting the highest grades regardless of a late morning here and there due to weather.
@@kirstenornelas881I mean he is a government employee, the only thing they care about is a paycheck.
Over-reach- its not even something they should be asking. we're literally paying thier paycheck. do we ask HOW they spend it?
I’m a paramedic and my standard response to “how was your day?” Is “it was ok” Because if I gave ppl an honest answer they’d regret ever asking.
It crazy to be in this position in health care because even for the better days your responses have to be vague enough to maintain patient privacy and suddenly even funny stories lose all the context so you wind up just bottling most things unless you talk to other healthcare workers.
Not a healthcare worker, just someone with chronic illnesses. When someone asks how my day is going and they're just being polite, or I don't want to honestly answer because it really sucks, I just tell them I got to wake up today so today is a good day. Not everyone gets that opportunity. Shuts people up real quick. Just thought I'd share how I deal with nosy people who aren't truly genuine.
I work in EM and will continue to after nursing school and was just relating to someone how every time I am asked about how work goes I say "fine" because of exactly what you said above.
we need a code language for ya'll like, "how was your day?"
"It was bitter grapes."
"Bet, let me get the healing oil and buy you a nice meal after a massage"
im SERIOUS xD its tough T-T
When the day was bad and they ask me I say “It was a day” that usually sums up the conversation
yup...I've heard that scream, down the phone when I was an ambulance dispatcher and a teenage girl who had decided to take her own life was found by her father. I had to keep the mother on the phone for as long as possible to find out what was happening while the father tried to revive the girl and while the paramedics were on the way. When they arrived she dropped the phone and followed the paramedics up to the girls room. You can never forget that scream regardless if you have children of your own or not.
When my father died when i was a kid, it was a nurse who yeld me while i cried so my mom could be held by the rest of the family. I had been pushed out of her arms and was the only one not comforted. That nurse made me respect all nurses more then i already dod. He atayed aith me while my mom and two brothers went in to say good bye to our father. I knew he wasnt there so saying bye to his empty was worthless.
When my mom passed the ICU nurses made the whole process easier. Yet again it was a nurse who comforted me. My ❤ goes out to all healthcare workers who sees these instances everyday at work. Nurses, Doxtors, CNAs, PAs and techs all see us at our worsts and sometimes at our best. It takes a strong person to care for others.
Thank you for everything you guys do. ❤❤❤
honestly, as a teacher, you should absolutely do this. if they're being passive aggressive intentionally, they'll shut right up-- if they're genuinely concerned for your child, they'll be a lot more lenient going forward. you're incredibly strong and i can't imagine doing this every day-- that's coming from someone in *one of* the most difficult and overwhelming jobs, ive known i could never work medicine. you're incredibly brave and empathetic for doing this line of work ❤
hell no, a teacher never has to be passive aggressive and/or an ASSHOLE
I just want to give that nurse a hug.
@@melodypaz7247She’s a doctor ❤️
exactly!! some people are shitheads, others are just trying to look out for the kids
Fellow teacher, and 💯👆
Ive heard that cry. It was so long ago. I had nightmares for weeks. Slept on the floor of my daughter's room for a month. I can still hear it if i think about it.
I heard it from my own mom. She'd just been told about my older brother... it's not the type of thing you ever forget.
Same
Sometimes you go about your day and that scream comes out of nowhere in your brain and you’re just left with the emotions all over again
Wishing you two (and your mom) peace
I heard that cry when I was around 9 from my dad. I have never seen my dad cry. That cry woke me up from my sleep. My brother had passed away while I was sleeping. When I went to see what the commotion was about, my uncle’s ex wife came to me and told me. I just laid in bed staring at her not knowing how to process it all.
I heard that scream from my best friend when she lost her 3yr old son. It’s not something that can be described.
Unfortunately, I've heard that scream before. Many times. t's something you never forget and sometimes hear in your dreams.
I’m at the “none of your business” stage in life…I came from one of those generations that had to explain themselves to death. I’m done. Unless that person is able and willing to fix the problem, they have no need for the information.
I hear you. I just don't care anymore and realize that too many people are just judgemental and or have little compassion no matter what is said.
what generation was that? The silent generation?
I was thinking that, too. I would just have said it's none of your business. What are they gonna do?
A harsh but wonderful visual reminder of the old saying (my paraphrasing) “everyone you meet has a life has complex and complicated as your own“
Thank you very much for sharing and reminding. I am blessed not to have those exact situations, but it makes me appreciate the fact that that I don’t.
”A scream of a parent losing their child“
that sentence just gave me chills all over my body
I teared up and felt a lump in my throat
I've only heard fake screams of these in a theater play, and it was done hauntingly well. I can't imagine the real deal.
@@5Demona5I remember one time I was in the kitchen and I heard a faked version of that scream from the TV in the living room and I immediately felt like I’d been doused in cold water. I had no context whatsoever for what my dad was watching in the other room but I *knew* that that character had just lost a child (and I did go in and ask; I was right). There must be something instinctual about recognizing the sound of that level of grief. I hope I never ever have to hear a real version of that scream.
I heard that scream when my SIL was told that her baby at 3 months old (my nice) didn’t survive her 5 heart problems that 2 doctors "missed" 😢
I work in an ER and have heard that scream and it’s truly one of the worst things ever
I heard both the scream and also sat with a mother who was pregnant while my colleagues tried to resuscitate her ten year old son… I knew he wouldn’t come back and she knew too but she kept asking if it was real then broke down crying. I sat with her until the rest of the family arrived and that was one of the hardest things I did so far… (I’m a pediatrician resident)
When I was a 5th grader, my mom, a veteran ICU/CCU/ER RN Charge nurse, gave a very similar story to my condescending vice principal explaining why I missed my first 3 classes...The VP ending up vomiting in her trash can when my mom went graphic. Mom was awesome!
Always make a point of making them feel as bad as possible!
People lacking empathy truly deserve this level of honesty to humble them off of their privileged high horse and back into reality with the rest of us.
Bad a$$ momma.
Great job. 🎉 Love ❤️ your mom
@@JessicaPradoHanson they clearly didn't lack empathy if they vomited from hearing words. It's their job to keep parents accountable for bringing their kid to school, they're not bloody psychic. They have to ask and they have to be strict about it. They're putting the child first.
If you have worked a 24 hour shift you shouldn’t be driving especially driving with your child in the car. You’d be putting yourself and others at risk, it’s as bad as drunk driving.
Make an arrangement for your child to be picked up for school.😊
it's common for healthcare workers working long shifts to nap when they get time. they're not continuously working the whole 24hrs, they're just "on call" for that time period
Literally all police, military, and EMS, have done this. Your soft hands dont mean that caffeine and smelling salts dont work. Its garbage, but when people are dying you do your job first and sleep later.
Are you volunteering to help?
I guess the kid will just miss school then 😐
Yep, this tracks. The fact that you made it before the teacher put away the attendance clipboard is miraculous.
Matching passive-aggressive energy like this sound be the gold standard
In what way is explaining in detail the really difficult day you had passive-aggressive?
@@msjkramey The whole point of being passive-aggressive is to indirectly shame someone.
The mom could have just said she had worked late and left but decided to go into detail about her day to shame the teacher for being judgmental towards her. While the mom is justified, it is still passive-aggressive
@@brokenandcraked to be fair, the teacher can be taken as indirectly blaming the parent for being irresponsible, thus making the child late for school. I don't blame the parent for the trauma dumping with the day they went through
@@myxjoaquin6576 neither did I. The teacher was being passive-aggressive and blaming the mom for being irresponsible. So the mom was being passive-aggressive right back and shamed the teacher for judging her when she was going through a hard day. I was applauding the mom for not taking the teachers crap and matching her energy
@@brokenandcrakedso if being passive aggressive is wrong in this situation would aggressive be the proper response and what would that look like. “Hey you judgy bitch I just lost an infant this morning and then had to inform the parents their child died, so how about you not be so damn judgy and passive aggressive about me bringing my child to school late!”
I've heard that scream, when my sister lost one of her three year old twins. I still hear it 18 years later! Always be compassionate, you never know what someone is going through.
I’m so sorry for your loss ❤
"Be kind. EVERYONE is fighting a great battle."
When I was a waitress,a lady flipped out on me calling me all sorts of names, etc because I forgot her glass of milk that she ordered after I was already helping someone else. My manager had to go calm her down. What that lady didn't know was my dad had just died, but I was still at work. My manager knew this but asked me to just help out until the rush was over. I will never forget that woman who freaked out over a glass of milk. Yeah, lady, there are some things in life more important. Like someone's dad dying. Ugh.
I honestly cannot fathom how some people can have the audacity to be that rude. 🤦♀️
I have heard that scream as a radiology student in the ER. It is a sound you never forget. 😢
There is NOTHING more heartbreaking than the sound of a Mother’s grief over losing their child. You never forget it.
I used to work in funeral service. The second embalming I ever did was an 11 month old baby girl. Brain tumor. She was beautiful, did not look sick at all. I can still hear her father’s cry of grief when he saw her dressed and ready for her funeral, over twenty years later.
During nurse training I met a lesbian couple that was trying to adopt a newborn baby. In my country, with the type of adoption the mother put her baby up for, she has a few weeks still to decide whether or not she wants to change her mind about it. Meanwhile the baby was in our pediatric care for medical reasons and the lesbian couple came to see them every day, waiting to be able to take them home. But then the mother decided she wanted to keep her baby after all. The agonized scream from one of the supposedly adoptive parents still rings in my ears ten years later.
Not a hospital worker, but my mom is the county coroner which means she gets called all times of the day to go pronounce people dead. She never knows what she’s gonna walk in on. It could be a 90 year old man that passed in his sleep or a 2 year old girl who was hit by a truck because her parents left her alone in the front yard (both true stories that she had to deal with). I was often either late for school or just barely on time because after she got up at 2am, spent 3 hours on scene, and then another hour trying to comfort the family, my mom obviously had trouble waking up on time.
You never know someone’s circumstances. Leniency isn’t showing weakness. It’s not letting disrespect pass. It’s human courtesy. The courtesy to realize that the person you’re looking at is also human and trying their best. Don’t forget that.
@@RedArrow808 she’s talking abt something serious. There’s no need to be rude or act like a fool when nothing is funny abt what she said.
@@agreen12345womp womp
@@TheGreatDanish okayy... don't be mad you have nothing better to do with your life but make stupid remarks on other ppls videos.
Well said! And your mom is a hero. ❤️ that’s got to be a hard job.
@@agreen12345 Some people will never understand and/or ever grow up…
Healthcare workers need more appreciation❤️
Healthcare workers are so overworked and under appreciated, I hope you stay strong out there and keep fighting the good fight
This is unimaginable to me and I’m so grateful for the healthcare workers that go through this thank u
Humanity has to relearn the highest level of empathy, understanding, patience and forgiveness. We are utterly falling way behind.
I'm not sure we ever knew those skills. Some days I fear we're like children, unaware of how much we still have left to learn. But we have to keep trying.
Not at all. People are beautiful, caring and amazing. Real people. Not internet people. All around me in real life are people who care for others and those who care for themselves so as not to burden others.
As a guy, I had a day that was just completely not normal. Fully overwhelmed. Got to a fuel stop (I’m a trucker) and the girl behind the register asked how my day was. I said ‘you wouldn’t believe my day’, only for her to quip back ‘yeah, I don’t actually care.’ Absolute shock to my system, a wonderful reminder that many of us suffer quietly because other people don’t care.
Sad that she went through that day. Talk about soul crushing.
I´m sorry she was so unkind to you!
I can’t stand the way we are often treated as parents by school staff. They seem to forget that we’re NOT children and I don’t need their permission to be late. I completely understand if it’s an ongoing issue but I got lambasted by admin for taking my daughter to the gynaecologist. I don’t know what it’s like in other countries but in Australia you pretty well need to take whatever appointment time a specialist offers you (otherwise you can be waiting for an eternity). This admin dingdong wanted me to cancel the appointment we waited 5 months for and change it to outside of school hours. That would have resulted in a 9 month wait to get an appointment in school hours. My daughter was in extreme pain but that apparently wasn’t adequate enough for admin, they repeatedly suggested I take the appointment in 9 months time. Suffice to say I told them I don’t need their opinions on how to handle my child’s healthcare needs. The audacity of teachers & admin staff is astounding. Why are so many of them miserable human beings that think they have a right to tell me how to parent my child when they can’t even remember her name.
I stopped working in the ER for that reason. A mother's screams in absolute agony of losing a child does something to you, seeing people who walked in cracking jokes and smiling and the next lifeless in their hospital bed, does something to you. I couldn't stay in the hospital environment. But my heart sends blessings to all the healthcare warriors out there. ❤
Thank you for helping people when you could, and thank you for doing what was the best for you and stepping back when it became too much. I'm sure you probably helped a lot of those people feel a lot better about passing on.
Neither could I. I still help people but being a general surgeon was a grind I couldn’t sustain. I jumped ship and became a skin doc.
Snowflake
Humans aren't meant to be dealing with loss of life and families on the daily.
Wow, I am so sorry you went through that. No one has ever put it in a way that helped my understanding in the way you just did.
I must say, through the death of both my parents, the health care workers were one of the biggest sources of comfort. ❤ even though you had to stop, what you did is something those people will never forget.
As a mom who lost her newborn the day after he was born from an infection, we got at the hospital, thank you for all you do
I’m sorry ❤your baby is in Gods arms bless you
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤ wishing you and your family the best.
I'm so sorry
My condolences at the loss of your precious baby. That is so devastating, I would be surprised if you ever trusted a hospital again. I understand if you are bigoted against all healthcare professionals, forever. I would think your anger would be palpable, even today. I am so sorry, dear. God bless you.
My mother is a senior NICU nurse of over 30 years. I’ve been told countless work stories that are in essence the same as yours here. God bless people like this who help our most vulnerable…
My mom is a nurse and when she worked for the hospital she would do several 16 hour shifts in a row. When I was in third grade she had done four in a row, and her day off she overslept so I was late to school. The student teacher raked me over the coals in front of the class and gave me detention(it was my first time being late that year). My mother was furious and tried to explain to her why I was late, that she was tired and overslept but was told that was no excuse and the detention stood. So mom came and sat in detention with me, teacher asked why and she said it was her fault, not mine so I shouldn’t be punished. She let us go a few minutes later when she saw my mom was serious. People need to have a little compassion for others, especially not knowing what goes on in their home life.
When I was in high-school I was short, quiet and in a building full of people that were very aggressive and often shoved me out of the way. Literally. They'd take my books and toss them randomly around making me run to pick them all up (plus all the papers that flew out)
A backpack was just a far easier method for them to grab me. So I was often making it to class seconds after the bell despite running as soon as I got my stuff back.
I received a lot of detention and late slips. I tried explaining that I felt unsafe and how it wasn't my fault to the teachers but they never listened. After a few meetings with campus police on why I was so late all the time (Them explaining I'm a terrible person and destined for meth and mcdonalds)
My mom finally got called in to discuss why I was having issues. The social worker didn't listen to anything my mom had to say and said that if I was even one second late to my next class they had all the authority in the world to throw her in jail. My mom raised me single handed so I would've had to go into foster care because I was being bullied by other students.
I found a better school (a night school) and when we sat down with the school to get my transfer dealt with the social worker was visibly angry and was demanding to know why she was pulling me from such a great school to a second rate school for delinquents. (It literally was just a nightschool.)
My grades not only skyrocketed to A's (except math I got a B in 😂) but I graduated a year early with honors. I skipped my entire junior year because I was teaching myself and was allowed to go at my own pace.
Schools are horrible places with a few good teachers. I cannot imagine dealing with all of what you do then having to deal with rude teachers who want to catch you being a terrible parent despite having no evidence. I loathe the school system.
I hope you do actually tell the teachers this because maybe, possibly, they might understand or even have empathy.
I'm so glad you got out of that school! I homeschooled my daughter and ppl just don't understand how quickly you can get thru school when you're given the time and tools to do it your own way. 😊
yeah, no kidding. my autistic brother went through hell in every school he went to. in his junior year of high school he was suicidal and got sent to a correctional school for kids with behavioral or mental issues, and it was EVEN WORSE than going to public school. the kids all had unchecked issues and had teachers who weren’t trained to handle them, and would lash out at them just for being overstimulated. and when they were overstimulated, they’d be locked in an entirely white room with no one else inside and told to study. it was awful, and I wish teachers and school staff like that could get jail time for the way they treat those kinds of kids.
reminds me of my middle school experience..... i wasnt physically bullied, really, but there was a boy who would never leave me alone and eventually hed try to touch me, and for some reason he was in like all my classes but one, and he always sat next to me. in my math class, i tried telling my teacher to move him (he sat in front of me) cause he was harassing me and she literally pulled the boys will be boys card...... he tried touching my legs that day and i punched him in the jaw... point is, so many people will always disregard you, its disappointing to see it in an environment of vulnerable children but these people really are always gonna be out there sadly...
As a former private school student and public school teacher, I came home from work every day and made my boyfriend promise me that we would not have kids unless we could homeschool them.
Schools are awful places, in elementary school my family caught hell for me missing school for orthodontist appointments (had to go monthly for appliances and later braces and everyone worked swing shift so the only time I had a ride was during school hours). I missed more class and still had the highest grades, so that goes to show how useless the teachers were.
Honestly I'm a little shocked I became a teacher after how traumatizing school was, but middle school and high school were an improvement and I found as I got older I really loved teaching. I did have students who were chronically late, they would come at the end of first period and apologize and I told them not to worry about it, just get here safely and when you come in check the agenda on the board and get to work. A lot of my chronically late kids were my best students, not their fault the bus system ran late, or that they were living in a homeless shelter, or whatever else had happened. Anyway, after 5 years the abuse from the admin and a few other teachers led to me quitting and switching to online tutoring.
It takes a rare kind of person to work in that field. Please and thank you. No words can express the respect that you’ve earned.
Thank you for being there for those distraught parents. We need more nurses like you!!!
I have been the mom who screamed. Thank you for what you do.
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤ wishing the best for you and your family.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Theres a reason i switched from 'active' care to Pathology.
Seeing a dead patient is a thousand times easier than seeing a dying one.
Still sucks, but i can give better closure to families like this. Its seflish, but after more than a decade of working in Trauma, palliative/hospice, and psychiatry, jumping from specialty to specialty as my mental health wore down, this is the one that lets me do what i wanted, without worrying that one day, i might have had too much.
What a terrible world where working in pathology is "selfish". Thank you for all you do and what you did before.❤
My Dad works in local news. There would be times when he’d come home and do something seemingly random before anything else. Mom and I wouldn’t question it. We knew it was probably because of something horrible he’d seen that day. He changes all the batteries in smoke detectors monthly because of an apartment block fire that almost no one survived after the alarms failed. The saddest was always when he’d needed to hug me for a long time. Always meant someone else wasn’t getting to hold their child anymore.
I worked in medical records at a hospital for several years so I didn’t directly see patients. But I was leaving work one night around 11pm and they had just told this group of teenagers their friend died and they were in the parking lot hysterical. It was a car accident while they were out celebrating their high school graduation. I’ll never forget that patient’s name because of that scene. I have a few stories like that. I can’t imagine being on the floors and having to give the news the people AND watching their breakdowns. You’re seeing someone at one of the worst moments of their life or possibly THE worst. Empathy is important but sometimes I wish I had less of it because I feel their pain like it’s happening to me and it’s devastating. I don’t feel like I can do anything to help them in that time because nothing could take it away. All you can do is be there.
12 years ago I heard a mother's broken cry. It was outside the nicu and her baby boy didn't die but she was just told that he needed immediate heart surgery but due to his preemie size wouldn't survive the surgery. My daughter was a preemie in that ward though doing good at that time. I remember grabbing a couple of my daughters prayer rocks along with a prayer card handing it to the mom then giving her a big hug. Her body shook on my arms. Her little boy briefly shared a room with my daughter but I heard about a week later that he passed. I remember seeing the comfort cart (just a car full of drinks, snacks and tissues) outside the lullaby room which was the room where families got to hold and sat goodbye to their little ones as they passed on. During the 120+ days of my daughters stay the I saw that cart outside that room 4 separate times.
So thankful that my kids go to a school that I not require an explanation for why they are tardy sometimes. I’m not a hospital worker, but I cannot imagine having to deal with all that, and then have to explain to some judgmental person why my child was maybe 10 minutes late.
They’re judgmental because they’ll have to take a pay cut for that day if they already took role.
@@KRYMauLUm … no.
They're judgemental after a blatant lie. 🙄
@@lauras1553I mean after that kind of shift I can see why someone would just claim traffic over explaining what actually happened.
@@lauras1553 honestly there are so many reasons parents get late and it can be very personal. if it becomes an issue, having an actual conversation rather than this bs scolding checkpoint is the adult way to have a conversation.
I once had to tell a young lady cradling a newborn that her husband didn’t survive his motorcycle crash. That was 17 years ago. I can still hear the scream and remember every detail, including the smell in the air, to this day. I know it wasn’t my loss, but I felt (and still do) that empathy pain and sucking at my chest that was unbearable. I don’t think we acknowledge the mental trauma that healthcare workers and casualty notification personnel experience to near the degree that it should be acknowledged. I know it’s nowhere near the trauma that the families endure, but the repetition of that trauma that the workers experience over and over and over throughout their careers is extremely devastating. And just because they become numb to it or stop showing emotion outwardly over time doesn’t mean they’ve “toughened up”, it means they’ve lost a piece of themselves to the trauma. And that is also a tragedy
I think this is a reminder that you never know what someone is going through and to have more compassion 🙏
I had surgery for my cancer and I remember telling my nurse to use time to check me to cry. She didn’t understand until I told her my
My worked for a hospital so I know they are exspected to keep cool despite the pure SHOT they go though daily. I remember holding my nurses hand and tell Ong her I was sober enough to hear her pain. She told me about a few dead paitents and I told her to hug me for a few mintuesz .i told her I’d say it was my demand and I would refuse help if I didn’t get a hug. Sweet woman hugged me and I held her tight and remember kissing her forehead. It was merely minutes but she said it gave her the release she depretely needed.
Later she tried to give me a gift and I told her to keep it because she deserved it more than I did.
I even got weird looks trying to contact her month after I was healed. I manageded to get a few minutes to tell her she made a difference and to never give up on her dreams. She got me a free lunch from the cafeteria. The food be bussin for staff. Lmao
My husband's brother lost his 2yo daughter just under 2 years ago. I will never forget the sound of my sister-in-law mourning her while the rest if the family gathered in the waiting area 😩
No one deserves to go through what they went through.
No one deserves to lose their babies. My mom was told that she couldn't have kids because of PCOS, and she got pregnant at one point with my older half brother, her firstborn. Unfortunately, he was weeks early and had to basically live in the NICU hooked up to machines to help him breathe and stay alive. My mom made the choice to unplug him, because she didn't want him to live life bound to a hospital bed hooked up to a bunch of machines. I wasn't born yet, but I can only imagine the sound of a mother's cry.
As a widowed mom of 5 children, this hits me hard. My husband died suddenly, and just 4 weeks after he died, my own mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer. That year was a blur of shock, pain and grief. The fact you understand and have compassion at what your mom endured shows what a wonderful job she did raising you.
Sorry you had to go through that but I am glad that family had a strong nurse to be there for them.
This is what I do when people ask me, "what's the worst thing you've ever seen?" More often than not I'll tell them the truth. Aren't you sorry you asked?
There are times, where I will keep those nightmares to myself so I'm the only one traumatized. (I'm a retired paramedic)
I wouldn't ask ..I don't need to know that sh*t
Ive heard that cry, when my mom was in the hospital a lady's son was declared brain dead and she had to agree to pull the plug so his equipment could be used for someone else who needed it (there were very few available and a long wait list) it was heartbreaking. she was our neighbor in the hospital and we would occasionally eat together. When it was time to try and talk to her about unhooking him the nurse asked my dad to talk to her. He was a teenager, apparently had just gon swimming with friends and stayed under the water too long. Couldn't imagine.
I’m sorry you had to go through that or be put in that position. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. She’s very fortunate to have had y’all there for her. The kindness and compassion of a stranger is an amazing gift ✌️❤️🐶
I can't imagine the sound of a parent losing their child but I can imagine the sound that my dad will never forget. When I face planted into asphalt after falling off of my bike at a bike safety event and losing my adult tooth, I let out the most blood curdling scream that he will never be able to forget.
everything my mother had to manage on her own when I was a kid. how could I ever have imagined. Nurses and doctors are hero's.
I was too shocked to cry. But in my case, the fact my son died on the nurses shift and they didn’t notice his heart had stopped. Walked in pregnant with a living baby. Gave birth vaginally to a lifeless one (vaginally because they didn’t know when he died in a 5 hour period on their watch despite my repeated requests for heart rate monitors). Forgiving them is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, and am still doing. There are days I hope they wake up from the same nightmares I do, and that they do better by the next mom who comes in. I don’t know how they live with themselves, and honestly, they give a bad name to medical professionals. I know not all nurses and hospitals are negligent, but that’s all I could think about listening to this. My child died and they did not lift a finger to save him when they had the power too.
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤
Sounds like the kind of nurses that make TikTok videos, on the job, about the “icks” they get from patients. At least the TikTok nurses got their just desserts. 😒
@@mystearicanohr9521 yep, and with stillbirth, we quickly found that their are basically no laws protecting moms and babies because the standard of care in the US is so low. The hospitals hold all the power. We couldn’t even sue after talking to multiple lawyers.
What country was this? Also, they didn’t put any monitor on your belly? Just wondering. I’m not a baby nurse but I am a nurse. I’m so sorry for your loss ❤️
@@RedStorm1392 it’s the US in Colorado. I went in to be induced due to high blood pressure, but my baby was in the wrong position when we went in (transverse lie) so they were going to do an ECV, and a C-Section if that failed. I was in labor when I went in and was dilated to 4cms (did membrane sweep a few days earlier that got things moving) but wasn’t progressing because understandably babys head wasn’t on my cervix. They told me to “let them know if my water broke because there’s a chance baby could have a prolapsed cord if he flips” and to “go to sleep and not worry about the monitors”. And when I asked for someone to check on him, they told me that the “midwife was sleeping”. My water didn’t break, but in the 5 hour wait for the c-section / ECV he stopped having a heart beat, and when he was born he did indeed have a prolapsed cord (he had flipped head down on his own during the night and I assume that’s what killed him among other things). The first thing the oncoming midwife told me is that my bloodwork (which we got back an hour after admission) is that I now had preeclampsia (no one bothered to read my bloodwork the night before) and when Ari was born at 38.5 weeks he was 4lbs 11oz with severe undiagnosed growth restriction. Not once did they ever do a growth scan on him despite having gestational hypertension since 35 weeks pregnant, nor did they do a single biophysical profile. All they did was measure my amniotic fluid, and I was measuring two weeks behind on my fundal height and I had extra amniotic fluid, so they had every indication to measure him. It was my first baby so I didn’t know to ask for that, but frankly I shouldn’t have had too. So yeah, we talked to multiple birth injury lawyers and they all said we did not meet their requirements and wouldn’t take us as a client. Stillbirth cases are difficult to win in court apparently.
im in the hospital currently undergoing testing for horrible seizures. my nurses are absolute angels. blessings. i'm so thankful for all the healthcare workers.
I hope you're doing okay
You're thankful they are doing the job they get paid to do? You're part of what's wrong with society. We need to stop celebrating the BARE MINUMIM.
I have never been asked why I’m late when dropping my kids off…
It was almost 18 years ago that I saw my infant son in his casket. It hadn’t hit me until then but when it did…. I still remember it like yesterday. I layed a photo of his mother and I in with him and gave him a kiss goodbye. No person should ever have to go through that. Rip lil man. I’m still living for you every day🙏🏽🤙🏽
Thank you for everything you do.
I've heard that scream. I was in the hospital with a woman lost her son. It's something you can feel before it happens, and it rocks you to your core.
I have to mention this. I was working overnight as a healthcare worker. I would pick my daughter up from elementary school in the afternoon after getting a few hours of sleep. Somehow, I forgot to charge my phone or left it in another room. I slept past the time to pick up my daughter. The principal called me and left a message for me that my daughter was with her at the high school game nearby. I was so grateful! Because you could have child protective services called on you for not picking up your child. But she took care of her for me until I woke up. Of course, I apologized and everything. She made no fuss at all about it. She said she thought I was probably getting some much-needed rest. I'm telling you that lady blessed me so much that day. When I watched this video. I prayed for God to bless her. I pray for God to give me opportunities to be a blessing to others. I know me being in healthcare is a calling. I make sure that my patients know that I care for them and am there to encourage them. Yes, it can be exhausting sometimes, but it is well worth it.
An incredible story, thank you for sharing ❤
Caring is so inside of some medical workers to be empathy “aglow.”
Man I’m crying this is so sad 😢 nurses are amazing! My sister is a pediatric nurse and I just don’t see how she or anyone does it. I’ve heard awful stories and such heartbreaking things. Thank you for all you do!!
Parents, I worked in a school for 18 years and we had some amazingly understanding and supportive staff, unfortunately we also had some that were self riteous, disrespectful, condescending and dismissive to to parents, children and other staff; if you're unlucky enough to encounter these 'eye rolling' types, PLEASE report them IN WRITING to the governors, and refuse to deal with them... they do not have the right to disrespect you, they are not morally, politically or academically superior to you, their haughty, smarmy behaviour does nothing to help or support your childs learning, (it actually demeans the children, steals their confidence and prevents them from speaking out in class) and it needs to be stamped out. Children thrive best when parents and teachers work together as equals, you can't have this when a teacher is talking down to you in front of your chiid.
So important to give eachother grace and not be judgemental. We never know the lengths people were going to trying to be on time and the necessary efforts that may have gotten in their way. God bless healthcare workers!
Personally, I'd rather have the teacher just remind them of the consequences if the student becomes consistently tardy instead of that passive-aggressive comment. Giving the parent the benefit of the doubt and making sure that responsibility is established.
There should be a hero pass for parents who are nurses or doctors & don’t have the time other parents have to be home & with their kids because they care for everyone else & their kids.
Why exactly do they get a magical pass for the job they chose?
If you're giving out random awards, let's give mechanics that same award. Your vehicle wouldn't be running without them, and they get about as much time with their kids.(I work 14-16 hour days regularly. I work 7 days a week, with a day off every 2 weeks. But go off girly. They chose a job, they knew what their hours entail. Let's not glorify shit that doesn't need to be glorified. They player their roles in society the exact same way everyone else does☠️.
@@bigwahoo8686are you really comparing a car to a living being?
@@bigwahoo8686 stupid people like you are the reason why people value healthcare professionals because they do something not everybody can......you really watched a video on why a healthcare worker's life is difficult and you have the audacity to say this shit.
@@bigwahoo8686 because doctors and nurses get I’m not kidding up to I believe 72 hours on call (and I think I’ve heard of longer), and they often have to work overtime or late because of patients and not being able to change shifts like they are supposed to almost ever.
Just because someone does a needed job doesn’t mean they need the extra help with getting kids to school, but for doctors and nurses who have unpredictable schedules that are never what they are supposed to be, they should get a break
@@oliviavanbrink Absolutely agree. If this was the approach towards people literally tasked with Saving As Many LIVES as Possible maybe we'd have Less Empathy BURNOUT. Perhaps there'd be more people willing to become medical professionals if they knew that the community would support them. Forget the money, but the community support is more valuable than financial resources that continue to depreciate in value as inflation escalates.
When I did my hours to get my EMT cert, we had to tell a family that their dad was dead. There is no sound more raw than a person grieving a loss. I had never known anyone who had died, so I had never understood until that day just what losing someone you love does to your soul.
Healthcare literally never stops. There needs to be more grace given to the parents who work healthcare, especially triage, emergency, ICU and NICU. My aunt and uncle were both CNAs, I’ve heard a lot of stories about how long shifts get and how difficult days can be.
I'm done lying to people. I suffer from PTSD and depression/ anxiety. Sometimes I can't do things I'm supposed to. I now just say it, I have mental health issues and just can't do this today, I'm sorry.
I’ve learned to let go of my urge to dampen things for other people around me for the sake of not making others uncomfortable. I’ve been saying the truth more often, like “I had a waking nightmare about past abuse it was so bad that it triggered a depressive episode for 2 weeks so I didn’t shower for those 2 weeks and just stayed in bed because the thought of getting naked in the shower made me want to d i e and that’s why I didn’t finish my homework or show up to class for two weeks”
Amen.
I've gotten to the point where I ask them WHY they need to know?
Damn i was already curled up in a ball sobbing
This is why i could never do that job, i have so much respect for your strength 💙
Yeah I hope this is just a fictional story for the short, and not something real. But it sounds real. :(
@salemsmith2878 yeah I feel like if it isn't real then it's at least drawing from her experiences at work, I can't imagine how you'd leave that stuff at work when you come home to your family 😒
@@salemsmith2878
fictional... but it happens
its someone's little john or jane doe
sooner or later folks pass, what sucks for me is when folks die before age 50.
like I'd love for all folks to get the arbitrary age 85 plus. but sadly, infants, newborns, toddlers, kids, teens and young adults pass for reasons I cant even wrap my head around.
i mean at least for older folks its health and they LIVED A LIFE. albeit not "enough" but I mean we dont have immortality so it sucks but I can cope with it. I hate that my dad passed at 63, i hate that my great uncle passed at 94, my grandfather at 84.
but they have a story and folks they touched in life. kids passing is a peculiar one.
1) I've never personally had my own kid to pass so I didnt feel that pain
2) they didnt cross paths of folks yet
so it doesnt hurt the same way as a person who made memories but THAT is the very reason why children passing hurts that much more, they didnt get to make memories yet.
im just thankful infant mortality isnt like the 1800s. but yeah my brother had a MC, my mom side grandmother had an MC, one of my moms lady friends had an MC, and another had a close call but it was still successful birth.
I have nurse as a parent. These are real situations. The worst I’ve heard is one my friend’s parents had to do a three day shift where they got small increments of time to sleep
I just broke down in sobs and gasping agony with memories. But, thank you for posting, it is good to remind people that real life and death happen all around us.
When my daughter was 3 weeks old, she had pneumonia from aspiration. We were in the PICU and I heard the worst scream/cry I had ever heard in my life. The 2 year old baby in the next room died. I will NEVER forget that scream.
And then they go harass the kid like "you are not helpless, you can remind your parents in the morning to get you to school on time" disregarding the multitude of home life situations in which that would not be effective or possible.
Honestly this depends on the situation though. As a teacher, most of the time I don’t make a big deal about tardiness or occasional absences. It is what it is. That said, there are cases where it becomes irresponsible and a detriment to a child to consistently miss school. I had a mother who was a nurse make every excuse under the sun why her daughter couldn’t come to school more than 2-3 days a week. Now, if the child was doing well then that would be one thing. But this poor girl who was so smart and capable fell to well below grade level standards simply because she never came to school. She struggled to learn days of missed material on a weekly basis and was embarrassed and distressed that her peers clearly knew more than she did. She wound up having to repeat the grade because when you added up the number of days she was in school for the past two school years, it didn’t even equal 1 full school year. Her attendance this year hasn’t improved and mom STILL fails to bring her to school - this is despite us trying everything we can do to work with her - including agreeing that mom only has to bring her to school for 3 days a week and the other 2 will be automatically excused so mom can sleep. Well the mom STILL doesn’t even do that. Just because someone is a nurse doesn’t make them a saint or a good parent and I know for a fact her mother talks crap about me and my coteacher to other parents about how we “harass” her and are lazy.
stg i hated when teachers did this. like my bad bro i thought my dad was overdosing so i had to pick the bathroom lock again this morning so i couldn’t get ready and be on time. and it hurt worse because i was always good and cared so much about school. grown adults need to learn compassion smh
Ya they might get smacked for reminding/correcting their parent, who only superficially cares what the school thinks, or threatens to pull them from school all the time, but they are too lazy to take even token fake steps to homeschool...there are so many kids in violent and terrible situations but no one does a thing till they're dead...no one wants to step in and help living already-here kids with their untenable living situations or wholly unfit parents
@@Blueskies271 I understand that but I believe that is completely on the parent. The child is not and cannot be responsible for their parent(s).
I used to work at a daycare, and we had a 9am drop off cut off unless there was a Dr's appointment or another emergency. Had a parent call saying they were going to be late cause their son was having a rough morning. My director was about to say they couldn't drop off, but I reminded her that the son had non verbal autism and was pretty low on the spectrum in terms of stability. She had no idea. You never know what people are dealing with, yes, even early in the morning.
What’s the importance of having a strict cut-off drop off time for daycare? It seems a daycare is being paid for by the convenience of the parents. Is it really that big of a deal to have kids come and go by the needs of the parents? Obviously not including being picked-up late, it seems that should be the only concern.
My dad was on hospice when I was in high school. The principals and counselor both knew me and what I was going through at home. However the secretary in the office did not care that I had a permanent excused late arrival or absence. Had me in tears as I had to call my mom to get her to talk to the school
I relate to the parent loosing their child. I lost my only child through miscarriage. Hugs for all of the parents out there who've lost a child at any stage or age of the child.😢
I'm so sorry for your loss. ❤
Sorry but I don’t think you can exactly relate. That’s so painful but not close to the pain of losing a grown child you’ve had the chance to connect with.
@@potato1084how dare you?
wow, wild. i was insanely happy for my miscarriage. we all handle things differently i guess, but if i could go back in time i would never undo that miscarriage.
@@potato1084yeah, had a friend lose a 3 year old and also a 19 year old. trust and believe, the 19 year old is more missed than the kid who was barely 3 and nobody actually knew her for her because 3 year olds are like anyone else at 3, and barely bonded with. she often forgets that 3 year old existed... toddlers don't matter nearly as much as grown children and never will.
Sooooo true!!! I was once the mom whose newborn child didn’t make it. There must of been 12 different people coming to tell me it wasn’t my fault and sometimes these things happen. Then I began to hemorrhage and still was told that sometimes these things happen.
Then i found out why my baby died. I became a nurse to make sure that never happens to anyone else ever again.
It’s been 34 years.i became a nurse manager and 12 years later I’m retired and I pray I taught some really good nurses. Along the way.
I am so sorry for your loss. ❤ you sound like a wonderful person. Thank you for all that you do. ❤
@tsan206 Would you be willing to share why your baby died and how you learned about this? I am assuming you came to this realization during your education as a nurse.
I can’t thank nurses enough. Even though we lost our baby boy in the nicu, they made that 3months for my 26w old born son easier than it would have been without them. I can’t judge a mom being late to drop off or a dad because just every second with them is precious being on the hard dark side of things.
So true of a physican that cares. It's hard to just stop when the clock says it's time because life and medical problems don't follow a clock!
This is why people should mind their own business sometimes..if you don't need to ask why..why should it be asked..people have their own lives that don't need to be shared.. in the medical field or any specialized forces it's rly hard to share about that stuff.. Thank you to all medical staff and specialized forces for your work and dedication. And thank you lady for sharing what it's like as medical staff.
Doesn't that person asking seek for parental neglect?
@@LookingForFrogs Nope. Not the way she was asking it's not.
Will never forget the screams of my mother when we found out my sister was murdered. It still haunts me along with her death. I couldn't image working in a hospital and being exposed to that so often
And thank you for being a good doctor. Thank your parents for raising a good daughter too.
God bless these workers. Our daughter died 2.13.22 after 16hrs of labor, and an emergency c section i awoke to Charlotte, gone. 6 weeks later, i went down with her infection. Without these caring people, i would've died. Even my doctor now (not then) has fully embraced us, and she was there when it happened, didnt know me then. ❤
On a happier note, thank you to the nurse who responded to my baby's breathing monitor when it went off when I was asleep. You saved her life. Thank you!!
As the daughter of a mom that currently has a full time job AND in nursing school full-time, I understand this so much. I see my mom trying to support me and my siblings while trying to make it through school to be able to support us better. I truly respect healthcare workers that are mothers
I've heard that scream. It never ends and it never goes away. 💔
Sending prayers to anyone who had gone into this situation may the Lord bring you strength and healing for difficult times
Back in highschool I missed my first class almost every day the second half of my freshman year. We had to leave the homeless shelter we were staying in so other people could have rooms and the closest relative we could live with was over an hours drive away on a good day. It was exhausting, I would be up at 5 in the morning and still get there late.
This is why we be kind.
You did a wonderful job, summarizing a shift at a busy hospital. As a nurse I figured I'd seen it all .... and yet my patients never fail to surprise me. I also served in the Middle East.... most roll and tardiness monitors could ever understand what can happen even if they had been standing beside you! I once went a little off center when I was being berated as just a nurse... I told them (probably a little too loud) that "I and every nurse here are responsible for and have seen things that would leave you shitting your self in the middle of the street not knowing which way to turn .... is there anything else you want to know!"
I find it so stupid that we get in trouble for being late to school for so many reasons.
I heard that scream one time as a teenager and it broke me. Then again 3 more times as my mom lost my siblings. It sounds the same every time.
last year, my neighbor’s son died in a very horrific car accident. he wasn’t wearing a seatbelt. i grew up with him and we’d play soccer together in elementary school. he was one grade behind me so i got to see him a lot at school. anyway, i remember the cry of his mother at the funeral during the service. it was very heartbreaking to hear… it’s been over a year and his mom is still grieving over him. he was her youngest kid too; 17 going on 18 in july. i still think about his mom, wailing and crying over him. it haunts me.
I have learned throughout life that when someone is late, the correct response is, "Oh, I'm sorry! Is there anything I can do to help?"
It's incredible what a little kindness and offer of help can do to connect people.
That hit me right in the feels. That scream. Holy crap. I'm literally crying right now from hearing that sound so many times. I had to tell 3 of my friends Mother's that. I found them. Separate days. Thank you for what you do. I was a wreck for years just because of hearing that sound. I can't imagine what you go through. Thank you for being strong enough to help those people. I can't do it. God bless you and your family. You are an extension of His love touching all those families. This just shows the importance of each and every person. You think you can't change anything in the world. It is so huge. The real legacy you leave is the lives you touch. Talk to people. Wherever you are. You can change someone's entire life because of 30 seconds of your time spent recognizing them.
I used to work before and after school programs and I can’t imagine judging parents who are running late. If anything I was always highly anxious because I cared so deeply for their children I didn’t want the parents to dislike me 😂 at the end of the day if they’re judging you that is a big indication of their character and not yours. It’s just a reflection of their lack of empathy. Just keep doing you mama. Everyone else sees how hard you’re working ❤
This fr fr. I remember dropping off my cousin at school and this teacher had been my teacher in school once upon a time. She hadn’t liked anyone in our family so she always had given the boys and I a hard go of it any chance she could. She threatened to not let him test for an exam that morning important due to his tardiness.
I just explained I had one of my cancer patients I had been caring for the past 8 months die in my care and I waited until the sister and her 4 young children in her care came before anyone would move her to the morgue so they could have time with her. My manager then berated me about hcap scores and about holding up the bed while I called the funeral home after cleaning her up and crying with the sister, I finished charting and then I could go take the boys to school. I then explained it’s usually why I have someone else take them on days I work and why I usually put most my days on weekends. Both to prevent delays and to prevent the kids from having to watch me switch gears from watching people suffer for 12 hours to listening about Fortnite and enjoying their experiences in life 😂
Not me stuck on 24 hour shift, I've always been horrified that those exist I really hope you can take care of yourself and your health and get plenty of sleep cause like how??? I really don't think it should be legal to have to work that long and hard bless you!!!
You don't owe those people any explanation.
I'm an attorney that deals with truancy. Schools need an explanation every time a child is late. Enough unexcused absences or tardies will warrant intervention by the school and if that doesn't work, then the courts get involved. So yes - parents owe an explanation if the child is late. This may have been excused as a medical emergency that prevented the parent from getting to the school on time. It would have been enough to say that was late due to assisting a person with a medical emergency.
@@ChristophProbst God the government just completely owns us don't they? This is why if I ever have kids, my goal is to home school, although, I probably won't ever have any.
I'm so sorry xx this was so sad x and healthcare workers, families, people, are going through this all the time x