Criticism Activates Threat
Vložit
- čas přidán 10. 09. 2024
- Criticism Activates Threat
--------------------
The best way to get up to speed on my concepts surrounding pain and getting well can be found on my Getting Started page at: www.PainFreeYo...
If you'd like some help on your road to recovery, check out my online course and group coaching program. PainFreeYou.com... - Hope to see you in the program.
Not a CZcams subscriber yet? Please subscribe so you don't miss any of the videos. Check out the video archive here: / painfreeyou
If you'd like to make a donation to support my efforts and free daily videos, you can do that here: paypal.me/DanB...
Want to join my private Facebook Group? Come join us here:
/ painfreeyounow
Man the inner critic topic is a BIG one! You could talk about this for weeks and it would still be helpful. Thanks for the vid
Hello Dan and PFY community- I never realized how self-critical I was until this journey. I do not allow others to speak to me with disrespect and unkindness. All of the people in my life are extremely supportive. Today I walked 30 minutes and with each step I said, encouraging words to myself, and it felt so good❤
No wonder every time I go to visit my family and father in Florida. My symptoms get 10 times worse because my father is very critical and criticizing a judgment of people me things around me and now that you're speaking on this. Now I can see why I always feel worse when i'm there
Hi Dan so true. I try not to criticize myself... Having a really hard time my flare up still getting up find myself very very angry about Corine not being there anymore. My symptoms are unbelievable...being calm and sooth myself breath etc in tears again. I miss her sooo much 😢😭ok love you Dan. See you this afternoon in the meeting and you lovely people tomorrow 😘😘😘
I am so sorry you are so sad and angry. This video may help a bit. I know you may have seen it, but it may be worth a watch.
czcams.com/video/2wZTUonNM88/video.html
@@PainFreeYou watch it again ty still sad and angry 😢🎈
Sending you love and hugs Lenneke ❤
@@NicoleFitnessCZcams ty ❤️
Self criticism has been one of my biggest hurdles. It’s tricky to unravel a lifetime of negative self talk. But I feel hopeful now that I’ve made the connection between the criticism & TMS. It’s all about the mindset! - Thank you for this video🙏🏼. I needed the reminder!
Yes, makes sense, thanks Dan. I am self critical and self judgemental. Moreover I get annoyed by some people. This all results the pain to jump immediately!!
I'm so glad you covered this topic. I can see how this has definitely been true in my life. Thank you for shedding light on this.
OMG! I needed this! Today I reconnected with a person I needed to avoid because of criticism! Now I see why his actions hit me so hard! Thank you for this!
Makes sense. ❤ The woodpecker from your house followed you to the lake. 😂❤️
Didn't even realise that the self criticism was sending warning bells to my brain doh😂. Am also gonna watch how I speak to those I care about. Very fine line to how you come across. Today I'm limping after hurting my leg yesterday. Not so much of a big walk but I got out. Other sensations are high too but whatever. I had a telephone doctor appointment and ended up in tears, wtf. Anyhow better out than in. Wishing the community a happy calm week ahead. X
You said you hurt your leg yesterday... Did you have some trauma happen to your leg? Or did it just start hurting? Sometimes an acute onset of TMS feels a lot like an injury. What happened? czcams.com/video/hPDCXkHxRs8/video.html
Was cautiously crossing the lock gate over the canal(not done since I broke arm a year ago)when my heavy bag swung over and hit me in the thigh, nearly knocking me in the water. Luckily I grabbed the rail, somehow got across but pain in leg hurting. Saw blood spots bruising swelling (so I know my body healing) but hobbled back across and uphill to my car. My fear was I'd fractured a bone after osteoporosis diagnosis, fight n flight n panic. Still difficult to walk painfree n I'm sure some is now PDP.
@@PainFreeYou I just watched the link. Omg. Ten minutes earlier I'd had severe panic attack sitting in church. I chatted to an old bf then thought I'd head to the canal(my happy place)& this time try and cross the lock gate & sit. Have avoided this since arm was broken last year, never felt confident enough in my balance. Maybe I was tense (fear)that when I got hit by my bag(water bottle n lots of crap in bag lol)it felt like a hammer. I then panicked I'd be trapped, not able to walk or drive. Wow. Am now sure despite a visual physical injury there is PDP TMS element now keeping it high. I'll give it two days for bruising to come out n carry on as normal as possible. 🙏
Thanks Dan. It’s interesting how many factors we can over look. And this is an important one to look at within our self. Some how we think we are helping ourselves with self criticism but that is not always so is it. I try to remind my piano students and my self to learn from mistakes but not beat our self up over them. Interesting how we literally beat our selves unknowingly. May we know and understanding when and how we are causing harm and then learn to let go of those ways. ❤
Self criticism is huge for me. And hidden in many places (like comparison to others who are doing “better” than me on this journey). Every day I wake up in a flare it feels like a personal failing. Today I choose to acknowledge I have no control over this. I can’t control my pain - if I could, I’d be out of it by now! It’s not my fault I’m here and still experiencing pain. I release my tight grip on this goal of becoming pain free, because each day I wake up in pain I then feel at fault. Not helpful! Letting go of the goal and simply living the path today. Thanks, Dan. ❤
It's totally NOT your fault. Just where you ended up. Focus on recovering from fear, not the symptoms. czcams.com/video/VSmTe8zPXh0/video.html
All resonated but the bit that struck a cord was the part about judging yourself as not good enough is basically criticising yourself. That hit me in a different way today. Must of been my time to really hear it. Thank you.
Fantastic video. TMS peeps have self-criticism as a personality trait. We have to slowly and steadily work to shift that inner critic. We don’t have to believe it or even listen to it. We DO need to practice self love every day. Even if you don’t believe you are worthy of Love, start telling yourself you are - do it daily. With time, you will believe it and embrace it. I’m living proof of it 😊
Yes probably most of us have experienced criticism (wife & son for me) theyre worn out although im soooo much better. We re often the self critical type too. Bieng good perfect likeable. We (I) need to be a bit selfish ultimately its we us that need to progress. No one else can do it. Schubiner said: stand up for yourself
Or?..when someone criticizes me..just consider the Source! I tell myself..God Loves me..that is all that counts. Self-Love is Important! I have learned this! As a perfectionist..I have been one of my worst enemies! Tell YourSelf only Good things! I am Okay! I am Good! I am Strong! I am Well! Do not Worry about others opinions. Just Counter the attack in your own mind and Stay in Peace! 😊❤ May God Bless us All!
Great stuff Dan. Thanks
Thanks Dan for another great video. I have had a very strong inner critic, I have been ”working” with it and it’s getting better. To be aware is the first step. ❤
Awareness - the first step to change.
That is was wonderful!
I am my worst critic. I must admit. Friends cheer me on. I need to be a better friend to myself. Thx for this video, Dan. Now…get back to your zen place, as I will try to do. I’m just not yet sure where my zen place is. But I keep looking. Almost zen places for me: Monhegan island, ME and Venice, Italy. Ah…
✋🏻very self critical.
I am very self critical. No one close to me really is. The question are you a perfectionist. I always answer no. Well I'm not. Except with myself. I beat myself up. I'm tough on myself. Migraines. Not any better still every damn morning. And now the worst ibs in 20 ÷years. Since antibiotics and anxiety. So I'm not doing at all well. Like I was last September thru December. Thus year has gone nowhere. And it's down to me to do this. But I now have costochondritis. Nothing helps that or the gut pain. I should fix this. But I'm just not able right now. Yes criticism. Guilt. No one else. All me. 😢sorry for long post.
Have a good one. Chilly nights in England.
Thanks Dan ❤️🙏🏻
Feel this was made for me 😁. For me its my spouse and Dad - I always feel I have to be careful around them .I definitely feel different peoples energies affect me - some I can be myself with .What do you do when the critical person doesnt want to listen and instead shouts at you ? After trying to explain it to my Dad and meeting with a deaf ear I find myself having minimal contact with him
Thanks Dan
Hi dan
Its a bit worrying if you get criticised that your sytem is going to get ramped up, isnt there a way you can quietly mentally respond to this with a positive outcome.thankyou
Best wishes
Terry
Yes, we can offset criticism with accurate and positive thoughts. But if we can stop the self criticism and minimize it from others, that's even better.
Yes, I don’t want to feel like every time I’m criticized that my symptoms will flare. That ramps up the fear
@@jackiefrale2861 We can teach ourselves not to respond with pain. That is the entire focus of our work here. To show the brain that perceived danger is not actual danger and does not need to hurt.
What about when WE are the ones criticizing?
That being external or internal. Like internally going into old conflicts etc.
Video for another day?
I discuss self criticism a lot in this video.
Hi Dan and PFY community,, Let me tell all of you than just yestarday I have a big argue with my husban because we where at store waitinng for something and one old woman that was walking so slowly and limping a little and also she looked heave and with some wheith passed in front of us angoind inmediiatly he said to me look in a few year you are going to look like her of course I just reaccioned very ungry and I told him that his comment was very offesive and negative he answered to me that he said that for to help me because he is woried about me. Can you belive that. So my question is how I can control my reaccion?? how I can avoid don't feel anger. Because of course the pain just start again and I know is because my anger emotion. But again how can I work in that. How I can be Indiferent to this kind of criticim esciality when is coming fron somebody so close to me and he supouse love me???
MEE!!
🙋🏻♀️
A friend said a hurtful critical thing to me, in a running conversation, just unthinkingly, but my brain picked up on it and symptoms are ⬆️ It wasn’t even about my condition, totally unrelated. Wow. I get what’s happening, but my thinking brain is feeling like i need to live in a bubble to get better. Seems like everything triggers this silly subconscious. Thx for the video, it explains why I’m feeling worse and what i need to do about it. 🤍🌹