I like to be up really late or really early because I can take a deep breath and know that NO one is awake thinking about or perceiving me in any way 😂
@@JulsLittleBeirutAnarchy yes, but more. It’s the desire not only to not be looked at, but to know that at the moment, no one is even aware of you (and your body) at all.
Overstimulation is one of the hardest things to explain - like the environment doesn’t have to be greatly stimulating for me to be greatly overstimulated and some days this level of everything is fine but today all of the things are painful and there’s not much anyone can do about. Particularly frustratingly for me I am unable to cope with silence either because the inside of my ears and mind make noise. Thanks for making content that validates and educates and is just generally cosy :)
It's so nice watching videos like these because I find people who are like me. I'm really high functioning so sometimes people don't understand what it's like for me when I get overstimulated. Some days I could go without getting overstimulated and sometimes doing something simple for someone else may be the worst experience for me to do that day.
@@brookiejoy1692 like demand avoidance? I find that often what pushes me over the edge is someone asking me to do something trivial when I’m just trying not to shut down but also they have no idea of that
When I btch to myself for having first world problems I remind myself it matters zero to my nervous system whether I am having so called first world problems.
And the thing is that people in third world countries also have the same problem that they should be getting help for, they could be autistic but not get diagnosed & not understood or helped. Yet we live in a first world country so you would think that would mean we have a better chance to get understanding & help but no we’re told the problem doesn’t matter and that it’s not anything worth getting support for or caring about, that it’s just a little annoyed complaining & being dramatic for attention when really attention for what’s wrong with you is the last thing you want & you don’t even get the attention when you express it.
I have been trying to explain this idea of needing people to stop percieving me when I am struggling. It is hard to explain the way another person makes me need to mask to escape the percieved judgment
I hate it when people look at me when I'm overstimulated. It's like their eyes are flipping a switch inside me to mask, but I don't have the energy or resources to mask at that moment. I can feel the pressure, and they're draining me, but there isn't any outward result. I don't have the energy to be human right now, please get out 😖
Real problems? Overstimulation is the most real problem in my life. It is more obvious, because I don't understand emotions sometimes, but I can instantly feel how loud sounds effect my body.
haha this i was staying at my aunts in the summer and i took the clock off the wall and hid it in the closet bc i couldn't take the noise and was already burned out in general and socially
‘If you could just stop perceiving me’ - I felt that, I felt that so fucking hard. I’ve literally thought that before. Too many times. 💔 I wish people would realise/ admit when they’re being a bit insensitive. It would go a long way. Not far enough that it would make life entirely manageable- but still a long way. It would also be nice if people didn’t accuse others of being ‘too sensitive’. They won’t though- so if they could just leave me tf alone and ‘stop perceiving me’ that’d be great.
My aunt always had a million people in her house, mostly relatives. I liked all of them but it was too much..a lot. I would retreat down to the basement which was just a cellar with a rocking chair and I would read.. my other Aunt always thought I was broken and tried to fix me so often I had to tell her to go away because she couldn't or wouldn't understand me.. I told her the last time to please mind your own business and leave me alone, she passed away shortly after those are literally the last words i said to her... 😢 I believe she understands now that she is gone that it wasn't being mean I just need alone time and she NEVER did so ahe could not understand. ❤
I was home alone at my house all day while my family was away at my sisters soccer game. So around noon i started getting incredibly overstimulated to the point where i was crying and could barely breathe. I was having a panic attack basically. So i went to do what i do and change into my clothes is set aside for overstimulation days and… they were dirty I had spilled coffee on then the other day. I went to toss them in the washing machine and that was full. So i had to transfer them over into the dryer and them pout my OS clothes in the washing machine and bc all the clothes were dirty (including my option 2 OS clothes) i had no clothes that would help soothe me. It was laundrey day so yeahhh. I basically ended up rocking back in fort stripped down to my bra and underwear in my storm shelter cause it was the quietest place.
I explained it to someone sort of okay-ish the other day! I said, “I need to not.--------- For a while before I can meet you.” I think they might’ve said something in that blank space, but the fact that I stopped intentionally, they seemed to understand a little bit.
I have no Idea if I am autistic, but I have add and the stop perceiving!! I have two children that I looooove, but sometimes I can feel their gaze on me even when they’re in their rooms (I guess it’s their expectations or attentions) when I send them to play and it’s like someone’s hands weight on my shoulders. Maybe I am being really really weird now 🙈 But for autistic people I believe that they are just super conscious like a Huge zoom and apparently not especially when they choose to… I
Yeah and I can’t handle change aswell bc of my autism so when my clothes are bothering me I don’t want to change because that’s what I planned to wear what else would I wear if that’s what I’m supposed to wear?!?
“ if you could just stop perceiving me” lololol
Spot on!
Yeah, that line really spoke to my heart!
I like to be up really late or really early because I can take a deep breath and know that NO one is awake thinking about or perceiving me in any way 😂
Like looking at her?
@@JulsLittleBeirutAnarchy yes, but more. It’s the desire not only to not be looked at, but to know that at the moment, no one is even aware of you (and your body) at all.
Like for real! That's literally all I want when I'm emotionally overwhelmed!
Overstimulation is one of the hardest things to explain - like the environment doesn’t have to be greatly stimulating for me to be greatly overstimulated and some days this level of everything is fine but today all of the things are painful and there’s not much anyone can do about.
Particularly frustratingly for me I am unable to cope with silence either because the inside of my ears and mind make noise.
Thanks for making content that validates and educates and is just generally cosy :)
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the irony of how i listen to extreemly noisy music loudly but a quiet room can be to much LOL
to be fair music is like the best
@@pisscvre69 Maybe you get "lost" (in a good way) in the music and it takes you away from everything else?
It's so nice watching videos like these because I find people who are like me. I'm really high functioning so sometimes people don't understand what it's like for me when I get overstimulated. Some days I could go without getting overstimulated and sometimes doing something simple for someone else may be the worst experience for me to do that day.
@@brookiejoy1692 like demand avoidance? I find that often what pushes me over the edge is someone asking me to do something trivial when I’m just trying not to shut down but also they have no idea of that
I agree I just got a letter through the post saying I got diagnosed with autism
The thought of having to explain my overstimulation to someone demanding *while* I'm overstimulated gives me a lot of anxiety...
It's like the mental health equivalent of someone asking how EXACTLY it feels while you're bleeding out
When I btch to myself for having first world problems I remind myself it matters zero to my nervous system whether I am having so called first world problems.
Good point
And the thing is that people in third world countries also have the same problem that they should be getting help for, they could be autistic but not get diagnosed & not understood or helped. Yet we live in a first world country so you would think that would mean we have a better chance to get understanding & help but no we’re told the problem doesn’t matter and that it’s not anything worth getting support for or caring about, that it’s just a little annoyed complaining & being dramatic for attention when really attention for what’s wrong with you is the last thing you want & you don’t even get the attention when you express it.
I have been trying to explain this idea of needing people to stop percieving me when I am struggling. It is hard to explain the way another person makes me need to mask to escape the percieved judgment
Doesn't seem like a problem until it is your problem.
I hate it when people look at me when I'm overstimulated. It's like their eyes are flipping a switch inside me to mask, but I don't have the energy or resources to mask at that moment.
I can feel the pressure, and they're draining me, but there isn't any outward result.
I don't have the energy to be human right now, please get out 😖
Real problems? Overstimulation is the most real problem in my life. It is more obvious, because I don't understand emotions sometimes, but I can instantly feel how loud sounds effect my body.
I wish I could have a sign or handout for asking people to stop perceiving me, that would be wonderful 😃👍
haha this i was staying at my aunts in the summer and i took the clock off the wall and hid it in the closet bc i couldn't take the noise and was already burned out in general and socially
The stop perceiving me part is right on
‘If you could just stop perceiving me’ - I felt that, I felt that so fucking hard. I’ve literally thought that before. Too many times. 💔 I wish people would realise/ admit when they’re being a bit insensitive. It would go a long way. Not far enough that it would make life entirely manageable- but still a long way. It would also be nice if people didn’t accuse others of being ‘too sensitive’. They won’t though- so if they could just leave me tf alone and ‘stop perceiving me’ that’d be great.
How did you do magically capture this moment these things!!
My aunt always had a million people in her house, mostly relatives. I liked all of them but it was too much..a lot. I would retreat down to the basement which was just a cellar with a rocking chair and I would read.. my other Aunt always thought I was broken and tried to fix me so often I had to tell her to go away because she couldn't or wouldn't understand me.. I told her the last time to please mind your own business and leave me alone, she passed away shortly after those are literally the last words i said to her... 😢 I believe she understands now that she is gone that it wasn't being mean I just need alone time and she NEVER did so ahe could not understand. ❤
I was home alone at my house all day while my family was away at my sisters soccer game. So around noon i started getting incredibly overstimulated to the point where i was crying and could barely breathe. I was having a panic attack basically. So i went to do what i do and change into my clothes is set aside for overstimulation days and… they were dirty I had spilled coffee on then the other day. I went to toss them in the washing machine and that was full. So i had to transfer them over into the dryer and them pout my OS clothes in the washing machine and bc all the clothes were dirty (including my option 2 OS clothes) i had no clothes that would help soothe me. It was laundrey day so yeahhh. I basically ended up rocking back in fort stripped down to my bra and underwear in my storm shelter cause it was the quietest place.
most accurate depiction of my mean thoughts un validating how I feel 😢
This is how I imagine any interaction with others going in regards to my problems.
Real! I mostly get this in the class room when everyone is talking and I don’t like the feel of selves
Good blue light (+UV400) blocking glasses!! Or even gaming glasses. They’re helping me so much.
MEEEEEEE, my sensory issues with clothes has gotten so bad lately that I wear the same thing sometimes for 4 days in a row and only chage my underwear
So validating.
I explained it to someone sort of okay-ish the other day! I said, “I need to not.--------- For a while before I can meet you.” I think they might’ve said something in that blank space, but the fact that I stopped intentionally, they seemed to understand a little bit.
The clothes thing is something i have tried to explain to my mom for so long but she just never gets it
I feel too called out. I might have a touch of the tism.
THIS. I try to explain it to others. EVERYTHING is just...saturated.
I have no Idea if I am autistic, but I have add and the stop perceiving!! I have two children that I looooove, but sometimes I can feel their gaze on me even when they’re in their rooms (I guess it’s their expectations or attentions) when I send them to play and it’s like someone’s hands weight on my shoulders. Maybe I am being really really weird now 🙈
But for autistic people I believe that they are just super conscious like a Huge zoom and apparently not especially when they choose to…
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Its the clothes like 80% of the time, at least partially
SO RELATABLE
Yeah and I can’t handle change aswell bc of my autism so when my clothes are bothering me I don’t want to change because that’s what I planned to wear what else would I wear if that’s what I’m supposed to wear?!?
I totally relate! 58 undiagnosed
Very accurate, well done 😎
I'll only be happy when I can live in a log cabin in the wilderness 😊
The need is real.
I can totally relate!!
If I could just not exist in your mind until I’m okay that would be great😅
💜💜💜
when im overstimulated I need someone to comfort me/talk to me.. being an extroverted autistic is weird ig?
Same
Off topic but i think we have exactly the same hair colour atm :)
One of these days your gonna rip off your skin
Then move
Sometimes, there’s nowhere to move to, and even if there was, there’s pretty much nowhere that won’t have small, annoying sounds like a clock ticking.
@@spacegames_13 take the clock down use a digital one
YESSS.. my eyes and head start feeling weird. i feel like im gonna go crazy