Getting cheated on, divorced & hiding our 12-year-old from the internet w/ Kay & Tay | Ep. 51

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    This week we were joined by @KayAndTay. We discussed their previous marriages and divorces, Tay's experience being cheated on while he was in Afghanistan serving in the military & Kay speaks on why she keeps her 12-year-old daughter out of the spotlight.
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    00:00 - Episode 51
    02:32 - Why we eloped
    09:41 - Finding love after divorce
    16:01 - Becoming a single mom at 22
    20:17 - Finding out my wife cheated on me
    31:26 - Red flags in an abusive relationship
    36:10 - We didn’t think we could have kids
    42:19 - Having a newborn at 30
    51:17 - The military incentivises marriage
    56:48 - Breastfeeding isn’t one size fits all
    1:01:52 - Why I don’t share my daughter online
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  • @UnplannedPodcast
    @UnplannedPodcast  Před 3 měsíci +4092

    It was midnight when we recorded this so that's why we were all yawning 🤣🤣

    • @NoahSchnackybiggestfan
      @NoahSchnackybiggestfan Před 3 měsíci +50

      Oh 😂😂😂😂 I love you guys tho

    • @CrazyCrystal8175
      @CrazyCrystal8175 Před 3 měsíci +83

      I'm so glad you pinned your comment because I was seriously sitting here like Why is Abby starring at Matt like that and What is going on with all the yawns😅😅...lol...y'all are Amazing and I'm Obsessed with your podcast❤ I also see how you changed your format a little bit and I'm totally here for it!❤❤

    • @NoahSchnackybiggestfan
      @NoahSchnackybiggestfan Před 3 měsíci +1

      @@CrazyCrystal8175 😂❤️

    • @Katy_WelcomeToHolland
      @Katy_WelcomeToHolland Před 3 měsíci +30

      Love this, thanks Matt and Abby!!!
      Congratulations on your sweet girl Kay and Tay!!
      My fiance and I share the same kind of love and appreciation every single day for each other, we have special needs children and have to work together as a team to get through things thrown our way. He's a veteran too, thanks for your service Tay 🇺🇸
      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @amandareyes9391
      @amandareyes9391 Před 3 měsíci +21

      I was wondering 😂 first time ever watching you guys and a short clip about Kay & Tay came up on my FYP. I am so glad, to say the least , of finding you guys and I only came on here because of Kay & Tay and I couldn’t love it more. Excellent podcast , love it all , and keep up the amazing work. (K+T if you read this… I’m obsessed with you guys! I’d love to comment about everything you guys spoke about but I would never finish lol) Much love & support!

  • @mydirtymind8205
    @mydirtymind8205 Před 3 měsíci +3978

    She didn’t trust men, he didn’t trust women, but they trusted each-other because they understood each-other

    • @myreality5959
      @myreality5959 Před 3 měsíci +39

      Great way to look at it

    • @Framokamc
      @Framokamc Před 3 měsíci +35

      Somehow this happened with me, I was 19 didn't trust men and he was 22 and had bad experiences of attempt of relationship that didn't even started, we immediately connected and since then our relationship is great ❤

    • @user-dd8zw3xf7m
      @user-dd8zw3xf7m Před 2 měsíci +6

      Perfect

    • @escapeiv
      @escapeiv Před 2 měsíci +3

      cope

    • @Just-wiggling-thru-life
      @Just-wiggling-thru-life Před 2 měsíci

      Exactly! This was my husband and I also. I was married 2xs and divorced twice by the age of 24. It was devastating to say the least. My 1st was riddled with DV and SA. I left quick due to our 2 year old. I married again and got pregnant. I found out when our son was 10 months old he had been cheating on me for over a year and he ended up leaving me for her. So here I was 24 and a single mother for the 2nd time with now a 6 year old and a 10 month old. He was married once and she had cheated on with my word like 6-7 guys. I mean his son’s baseball coach, his other son’s gymnasts coach. It’s was so crazy. We met when I was 27 and married just 2 months later. I know crazy insane. We just absolutely both knew. We laid it ALL on the table prior to our first date even. Then again we both had 2 sons so getting free time to date was limited. We’ve now been married 18 years and our 4 sons are adults and the most amazing kids. I swear we are so dang blessed. 🥹 🥰

  • @cr7_cr7.
    @cr7_cr7. Před 3 měsíci +1736

    I think that the fact that she doesnt show her daughter shows how much she respects her, her father and that she loves her very much. I respect that and love her for that

    • @phoenixx736
      @phoenixx736 Před 3 měsíci +71

      ​@@samanthamulligan344 What are you on?! Not showing your child's face when they don't want your to is the best thing to do, she is respecting her daughter and her daughters father. That is respect, and real love

    • @myalo3917
      @myalo3917 Před 3 měsíci +54

      @@samanthamulligan344Protecting her daughter from predators is bad? Interesting.

    • @shaylajane3380
      @shaylajane3380 Před 3 měsíci +15

      @@samanthamulligan344 do you know them? I didn’t think so. your comment is crazy 😅

    • @jaymeisaacson7199
      @jaymeisaacson7199 Před 3 měsíci

      @@phoenixx736it’s not because her older daughter doesn’t want her face shown. It’s because her older daughter’s dad doesn’t want her face shown. And they show it on Kay’s instagram but just not on their joint account that’s more popular

    • @Corbyn0624
      @Corbyn0624 Před 3 měsíci +6

      @@samanthamulligan344yes she does.

  • @AphonicRoar
    @AphonicRoar Před měsícem +300

    Taylor is being humble. If he was air force in a FOB he was doing some serious stuff. Thank you for risking your life for us

    • @kubauhlir1730
      @kubauhlir1730 Před 25 dny

      Do airforce personnel of FOBs do anything else than JTAC?

    • @naylisyazwina6836
      @naylisyazwina6836 Před 22 dny +5

      I’m been following Kay and Tay for a couple of months now and see they have so much chemistry and love for each other. Never knew this backstory. Gonna watch it when so wake up later though since it’s 1:20 am. But just seeing the first 40 seconds, dang that’s crazy

    • @rociodiaz9137
      @rociodiaz9137 Před 11 dny

      😊​@@kubauhlir1730

    • @LadyGeckoFoot
      @LadyGeckoFoot Před 7 dny +2

      I would never have known based off anything we've seen of him.

  • @sandrinetaschereau423
    @sandrinetaschereau423 Před měsícem +208

    Am I the only one who loved how Taylor rocked the baby carrier almost the whole podcast, like that was sooooo cute!!!

  • @MegaTelenovela
    @MegaTelenovela Před 3 měsíci +2582

    Before this podcast I had no idea their past history and trauma. Thank God they both have healed and found each other

    • @gabriellesmith4552
      @gabriellesmith4552 Před 3 měsíci +15

      Same here! I still love them though

    • @zaylamunoz8379
      @zaylamunoz8379 Před 3 měsíci +25

      I didn't even know she had another daughter

    • @tashaax1993xanimalloverx
      @tashaax1993xanimalloverx Před 3 měsíci +6

      These ppl need some sort of privacy

    • @GinaPressley
      @GinaPressley Před 2 měsíci +2

      What trauma? Explain?

    • @fz1ry
      @fz1ry Před 2 měsíci +4

      @@GinaPressleyhe was in the military so that in itself was traumatic for him, he was also cheated on by his wife while we was stationed. she was in an abusive marriage when she was just 19.

  • @madisonreynolds9243
    @madisonreynolds9243 Před 3 měsíci +2530

    “That’s why I don’t like the word fight” he’s so sensitive to her well-being all around. That’s very sweet

    • @DOOBISOFT
      @DOOBISOFT Před 3 měsíci +26

      His ex really Fumbled him 😂

    • @carmencorleto1479
      @carmencorleto1479 Před 2 měsíci +6

      I love their honesty

    • @carmencorleto1479
      @carmencorleto1479 Před 2 měsíci +5

      Kay as a registered nurse I'm concerned about your constant bloating. Please get a CT of the abdomen just to make sure you are well.

    • @anon02970
      @anon02970 Před 2 měsíci +10

      Taylor was arrested for domestic violence in 2019.

    • @toninicoledouglas8581
      @toninicoledouglas8581 Před měsícem +4

      This didn’t age well 😬

  • @cupcakesimulation
    @cupcakesimulation Před měsícem +122

    I didn't even know there was another child. I almost actively don't go digging into someone's personal life off screen unless they make an effort to share it. I have so much more respect and admiration for their recognition and respect for their children's autonomy, which is something that i wish was more common in adults.

  • @saltymilspouse
    @saltymilspouse Před 3 měsíci +58

    We lose 22 military members PER DAY to ‘self exit’.
    My retired veteran husband is involved in a few social media groups to help bring awareness and help for soldiers, past and present. He has stayed on the phone for hours talking service members down. The fight is real to save our soldiers, to remind them that it’s just a bad day, not a bad life.
    Love you guys and your choice of guests, I love watching you young couples starting out. It brings back such warm memories. This one has been my favorite.
    A short 35 yrs ago I was the single mother to a baby boy that met a handsome soldier far from home. It took 4 months and the patience of a prince to break down the walls. We married 2 years later and proceeded to have 3 more babies, in rapid succession.
    We are still learning new things about each other, enjoying being grandparents, and our lazy days alone.

    • @kaykhairunnisa6644
      @kaykhairunnisa6644 Před 22 dny +3

      Oh my god, it's so heartbreaking for those soldiers after everything they did 😢

    • @lmc2375
      @lmc2375 Před 20 dny +3

      It's pain, trauma those soldiers carry. It has to be released, make space for healing to come in. No one can heal until they let go. Forgive whomever, even self if necessary to be able to release it all. The way to gain control, rebalance self, is by just letting go. For some reason we all tend to cling to and carry pain, but it is a choice, as we do not have to. Any need to manipulate or control, being difficult or stubborn is deeply rooted in fear. What one tells their mind is everything. The mind believes what you tell it. We need to start telling it only the best things, speak it out loud, telling selves even the impossible to achieve it. We attract what we emit All things are energy, and vibration. The highest vibe available to all, is love. That includes self love, care and knowing own worth - that is our own inner strength. It is imperative to see our own self worth. No one can do it for us. Once had, retained, we will soar. ❤🙏💫💥🌱🌎

  • @tajat866
    @tajat866 Před 3 měsíci +2655

    Now that I know their backstories, I like them even more. Such nice people

    • @maddiereinhardt2004
      @maddiereinhardt2004 Před 3 měsíci +26

      Me too. I follow them but I only saw cute little glimpses of their life, I’m glad I know more about them now

    • @belindanavarro7666
      @belindanavarro7666 Před 3 měsíci +4

      Same

    • @sarahashley5783
      @sarahashley5783 Před 3 měsíci +12

      Same! Seriously! I would love to see more longer videos with Kay & Tay

    • @SublimeSubliminalHeir
      @SublimeSubliminalHeir Před 2 měsíci +1

      same!

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci +5

      Look for Taylor's police report for being a domestic abuser then tell me how much you like him

  • @user-cn1ph8xc5m
    @user-cn1ph8xc5m Před měsícem +147

    I love the fact that she respects her daughters fathers opinion. And just how much they respect each other. They’re so genuine.

  • @jaynerebecca8604
    @jaynerebecca8604 Před 3 měsíci +676

    I would actually be interested in long form content from Kay and Tay. A lovely interview - thank you!

    • @KayAndTay
      @KayAndTay Před 3 měsíci +78

      It’s coming! ❤

    • @cathirodrigo2933
      @cathirodrigo2933 Před 3 měsíci +4

      WOOHOO 🥳 I’ve always thought I was too stupid to find it!!! I’m so excited to see the content ❤❤❤

    • @oliviagrace7487
      @oliviagrace7487 Před 2 měsíci +5

      Me, too! They are such a lovely couple.🥰

    • @finnanagans5055
      @finnanagans5055 Před 2 měsíci +3

      @@KayAndTayI love love love your content❤thank you for sharing some of your lives with us 🫶

    • @RiverWoods111
      @RiverWoods111 Před měsícem +3

      @@cathirodrigo2933 Girl, would you say that about someone you loved dearly? I doubt it, so why would you talk about yourself that way? It is more important to love yourself and say wonderful things about and to yourself, as it is what you say to others. Here is a secret, people will treat you the way you treat yourself. You need to know just how wonderful and beautiful of a human being you are!

  • @JordyB652
    @JordyB652 Před 3 měsíci +434

    The unplanned podcast makes sense now. Bc almost everyone you guys bring on here always has unplanned things they went through to talk about. GENIUS

    • @kalijanis8288
      @kalijanis8288 Před 3 měsíci +6

      Facts 😂 very true

    • @jaime4890
      @jaime4890 Před 3 měsíci +6

      You catch on quickly 😂

    • @JordyB652
      @JordyB652 Před 3 měsíci +2

      @@jaime4890 you’re so funny hahaha

  • @user-ck1gr6ov3g
    @user-ck1gr6ov3g Před 3 měsíci +1291

    Who else ran here from tiktok immediately they saw Kay and Tay🤭❤️❤️❤️

  • @MrsCarrieSnyder
    @MrsCarrieSnyder Před 3 měsíci +143

    I just recently found Kay and Tay on YT shorts, and I love them. After this interview I love them even more. I’m 41, but I have such a similar background as Kay. Married at 18, had my daughter at 19, divorced at 20, met my current husband at 21 and we just celebrated 20 years together and 16 years married. My husband has been in my daughters life since she was 2.5. I love that y’all found each other. 🙏

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci +4

      Look up Taylor's police record of him being a domestic abuser

    • @Allsummergirl1789
      @Allsummergirl1789 Před měsícem +2

      Omg

    • @Myarose2000
      @Myarose2000 Před 17 dny

      ​@@casandrakelsey6702 dude people are capable of changing in 5 years. I'm not the same person I was 5 years ago. Stay salty

  • @shannonbullock2202
    @shannonbullock2202 Před 29 dny +17

    I totally get Kay when she says “I’d still be doing it if it wasn’t for some autoimmune conditions that I have.” Most people don’t truly get what that means. It sucks! U feel like you’re not contributing financially but you’re actually contributing so much more to your family than if u had a boss. Working your own schedule allows you to be more present and care for the people u love when your body won’t follow someone else’s schedule to get a pay check. It took me several years to stop feeling guilty for not earning when the entire time my husband told me to stop working and just take care of us like I already was. I finally feel like my contribution is not just enough but important. Thank God for good men ❤

  • @tabbylawson5491
    @tabbylawson5491 Před 3 měsíci +338

    Abby zoning out and going quiet but jumping in like nothing happened is so me

    • @JosephMartin7
      @JosephMartin7 Před 3 měsíci +14

      54:39 is golden 😅😂, i find the trying to stay awake entertaining

    • @pgrberthelot67
      @pgrberthelot67 Před 2 měsíci +14

      They said they filmed this at midnight so they all were tired and sleepy lol

    • @tinatutic7400
      @tinatutic7400 Před měsícem +2

      Died laughing😂

  • @amandajohnston9150
    @amandajohnston9150 Před 3 měsíci +280

    Matt always compliments their guests every episodes, even complimenting Abby every ep. It’s so nice and refreshing to see someone straight out compliment others consistently and make them feel valued

  • @staceypennington919
    @staceypennington919 Před měsícem +33

    I agree with what Abby said at 23:45 about having more context as opposed to short videos online. I started to love Kay & Tay then I was thinking she is so immature until I heard what they have both been through, so I changed my tune. They have both been through it, so I have so much more respect.

  • @seungheetahimik583
    @seungheetahimik583 Před měsícem +30

    I loved the military relationship perspective! To see y’all both grow and know that most people marry in the military for the wrong reasons, you guys decided to be together for the right reasons! Love it! Thank you for your service!

  • @brookemathis9275
    @brookemathis9275 Před 3 měsíci +246

    The pregnancy craving videos is what got me hooked 😂

  • @the_sammi_p2455
    @the_sammi_p2455 Před 3 měsíci +267

    i’m so glad i watched this im not normally a podcast person but this gave me a huge insight into how they made such a strong relationship off of broken hearts their relationship really is a diamond coming from coal and it is precious

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Look up Taylor's police report from him being a domestic abuser

    • @bearmotorcycle7305
      @bearmotorcycle7305 Před měsícem

      @@casandrakelsey6702Since you are in the know, you look it up and post here.

    • @animangle
      @animangle Před měsícem

      @@casandrakelsey6702 actually???

    • @animangle
      @animangle Před měsícem

      @@casandrakelsey6702 ohh yeah, you're absolutely right :c

  • @jimmiebeachmccoyuwuz7851
    @jimmiebeachmccoyuwuz7851 Před měsícem +20

    my husband is truly my best friend been married 20 years and I thank God for him everyday

  • @daniellar2165
    @daniellar2165 Před 3 měsíci +51

    Knowing their backstories makes the videos I’ve watched and love make so much sense. Especially when she was saying he makes her feel safe and okay to be herself and soft and sensitive💜 That is so beautiful!

  • @user-st2vs9pz2j
    @user-st2vs9pz2j Před 3 měsíci +600

    Who else sees how tay is using his leg to rock the baby’s sitter while talking 🥹🥹

    • @maryc1849
      @maryc1849 Před 3 měsíci +7

      He's such a good, sweet man❤

    • @tinakelpsas6597
      @tinakelpsas6597 Před 3 měsíci +18

      Yes hella hard😂😂😂 I’m like damn your bouncing that baby like he’s a basketball but he’s very cute and a good dad

    • @karenlee2092
      @karenlee2092 Před 3 měsíci +8

      I was thinking the same thing, but the angle the camera is I think it looks more intense 😂

    • @pgrberthelot67
      @pgrberthelot67 Před 2 měsíci +4

      Yes and it calms babies down quickly and sometimes will fall back asleep. I did this exact thing will all four of my kids. They only time it wouldn't work is if they were hungry. Other then that if I stopped rocking their bouncer with my foot then they would start crying. Lol. My leg foot and leg would end up getting tired so my hubby would take over lol. It was so cute and adorable!

    • @nancynorris9822
      @nancynorris9822 Před měsícem

      It's automatic. Push a button and let it rock. Battery operated. Our daughter had one. Both couples are adorable! They could be my grandkids! 💞

  • @jayannakelley9051
    @jayannakelley9051 Před 3 měsíci +205

    My respect for you both sky-rocketed when hearing you are not pushing your 12 y/o daughter on social media! It’s also for her safety as there are so many weird predators out in the world.
    Thank you for respecting her wishes.
    Good luck to you both in your future lives together (including your newborn ❣️) 🌟

  • @IVYABBOTT_
    @IVYABBOTT_ Před měsícem +23

    I love how when the baby was crying Tay immediately checked on her.

    • @wellwellmymichelle
      @wellwellmymichelle Před 22 dny +3

      Are you for real? lol" I loved he he checked on her?" Thats what he's supposed to do!

    • @IVYABBOTT_
      @IVYABBOTT_ Před 22 dny

      @@wellwellmymichelle Well sometimes parents just ignore the baby.

    • @jonathannocon
      @jonathannocon Před 10 dny

      Like with the topic(s) in this is, it all depends on perspectives. If your fortunate enough to have experienced/seen a man doing real dad duty and not only acting the role then a dad comforting their child is not always a given sight unfortunately.

    • @IVYABBOTT_
      @IVYABBOTT_ Před 9 dny

      @@jonathannocon yea

  • @jasmen4you
    @jasmen4you Před 3 měsíci +62

    Kay & Tay need a reality tv show. I love their little life & this interview made me love them more. U just never know what people have gone through from the outside looking in! 🥰

  • @crystalvazquez1758
    @crystalvazquez1758 Před 3 měsíci +659

    i was so ready to watch this podcast! im a single mom to a 7 month old baby boy and hearing their story makes me feel like some day i will be able to find someone who will accept me and my baby.

    • @TexasbyStorm
      @TexasbyStorm Před 3 měsíci +57

      I was a single mom to 4 kids. My college sweetheart cheated on me with a co-worker. I was 33, 4 kids, had been a sahm, starting over. I honestly thought I was going to be single forever. I found my husband, he loves me more than I ever knew was possible. We celebrate 20 years together this year! You will find someone, don't settle for anyone that isn't 100% committed to you, but also remember, nobody is perfect.

    • @mariasigma2575
      @mariasigma2575 Před 3 měsíci +2

      I wish the best for you

    • @teeandkids937
      @teeandkids937 Před 3 měsíci +2

      @@TexasbyStormthis gives me hope

    • @cudgymercy8574
      @cudgymercy8574 Před 3 měsíci +6

      girl you got this ❤ i ain’t a mom,but my sister is (and i helped raise them) a single mom to 3 and suffered abuse. i just wanted to let you know that you’re doing amazing, and i’m so proud of you for being able to be so strong to be a momma. you will find someone ❤️

    • @beccaroo1990
      @beccaroo1990 Před 3 měsíci +4

      Same! I'm a single mom to my 2 yr old and have a good co parenting relationship with my 12 yr Olds dad. This gives me hope & also makes me feel not so alone knowing Kay has another child from a previous marriage & still found her happy ending and someone who cares for both babies❤

  • @4secondsofhaley
    @4secondsofhaley Před 3 měsíci +31

    It’s so nice to see them interact in a different form because it affirms that they’re genuine. It is definitely hard to tell from TikTok but they’re so sweeeeeet and I love hearing their backstory.

  • @susanheath2361
    @susanheath2361 Před měsícem +20

    It's great that you can be "vulnerable" with each other. It says so much about the trust and love you have for each other.

  • @glitzzygem
    @glitzzygem Před měsícem +6

    Kay in this interview was so quick to give explanations to their choices they made as far as money or takes over awkward conversations or explanations. That's what I do too when I don't want something to come off wrong.

  • @ChelseaPrice
    @ChelseaPrice Před 3 měsíci +141

    Does anyone else fast forward through the “ads” or is that just me 😂😅😅

    • @shiffyweinberg1493
      @shiffyweinberg1493 Před 3 měsíci +7

      Same. More ad than video.

    • @kateblackworld3767
      @kateblackworld3767 Před 3 měsíci +5

      It feels like every episode is more ads 😅 I get that everyone needs to pay bills etc but it’s so much

    • @Petra_Ko
      @Petra_Ko Před 3 měsíci +6

      Exactly...like how mamy ads do you need to put in a video? 🤦‍♀️ And they don't even know sometimes what they are talking about 🤦‍♀️

    • @anothermomma1379
      @anothermomma1379 Před 25 dny +2

      Always fast forward

    • @lenatilley4445
      @lenatilley4445 Před 8 dny

      Always fast forward

  • @JulieIreland
    @JulieIreland Před 3 měsíci +195

    I love the way Matt and Abby look at each other. There's so much genuine love there. 💕 Also, can we talk about their guest line-up?! Every single guest they've had are just amazing ppl! There's so much to learn just by watching other couples interact. We love you guys!

  • @katieleitwein1417
    @katieleitwein1417 Před měsícem +4

    It’s so nice to hear someone talk openly about having to take meds to use the restroom, I really don’t hear about it a lot. I cannot eat or use the restroom without medication myself and hearing from someone who has overcome the social stigma of it is amazing!!

  • @brittanystone1338
    @brittanystone1338 Před 3 měsíci +16

    It’s nice that you’re able to relate to the guest they have on their podcast, just shows you that they are everyday people too and have been through struggles like everyone else

  • @sweetlittlesheila71
    @sweetlittlesheila71 Před 3 měsíci +95

    Hubby and I have been married for 34 years come Otober 6. His mom passed in 2014 and left him some money. We spent about $8,000 on a 10 day, all-inclusive trip to St. Lucia. It was AMAZING! We never had an actual honeymoon. We were 19 and 20, and I was 3 mos pregnant. Life went from 60 to 💯. We were mostly comfortable financially but had to utilize some state aid programs such as WIC and medicaid for the kids. Our daughter passed away on April 14, 2015. Unfortunately, she lost her battle with mental health. She fought hard, though. Our son is now married with 2 kiddos. 💙 When we went on the trip, we had so much pushback and judgemental comments about our choice in spending that much $ on a vacay. Us? We couldn't be happier. It was almost surely a once in a lifetime trip as my health has declined significantly since then. We are seriously nothing but thankful we went. Like I said, 34 years on October 6th. When we said, "I do" at our $150 backyard wedding. ❤

    • @JessicaWalkerGeorgia
      @JessicaWalkerGeorgia Před 3 měsíci +5

      I teared up reading this, but in the best way! I am so happy for y’all, for y’all choosing to do this for yourselves. I’ve always heard at some point you have to invest in yourself, I also believe that to be true for a marriage. You have to invest something, love, time, energy, so why not invest in a trip as well. Reading this I feel like you both made some incredible memories while on your trip, it’s something you can tell your sweet little grandbabies about💗🥹! I’m so sorry you lost your daughter, my heart broke for you reading that. I hope she gave you some kind of sign when you were on your trip, maybe a special sunset, just a little something to ease your heart. Thank you for sharing this, it warmed my heart during a time of sadness for me. Much love and I pray your health gets better. 🙏🏼

    • @user-wj8ji9pn1t
      @user-wj8ji9pn1t Před 3 měsíci +1

      That's so sad and sweet i'm so happy for yall. i have also been to St. Lucia it is so pretty there

    • @sweetlittlesheila71
      @sweetlittlesheila71 Před 3 měsíci +3

      @JessicaWalkerGeorgia Thank you. 🙏 We absolutely made once in a lifetime memories. If I could go back in time, there are so many things I'd change. This trip is not one of them. In fact, one of my changes would be traveling the world before having kids. Travel while we were young and healthy. We could have utilized hostels and such. Travel is always my answer when people ask if I would change anything. Lacey was still here when we went on that trip. The trip was the end of Dec 2014- the beginning of Jan 2015. She passed in May. But I believe I get messages from her now and then. I sure miss her. She was my mini. 🥰

    • @sweetlittlesheila71
      @sweetlittlesheila71 Před 3 měsíci +1

      @user-wj8ji9pn1t Thank you. It's really is, isn't it? The temp is perfect, the rain smells so good, the waves sound so peaceful, the water color is gorgeous, and the water temp is Uh-Mazing! And the food...🤯🫠😍 The all-inclusive part was great, too. 🥰

    • @alicecain4851
      @alicecain4851 Před 23 dny +1

      Congratulations and great choice!
      Take care. 🎉🎉🎉

  • @Bigbuddy0692
    @Bigbuddy0692 Před 3 měsíci +308

    Matt and Abby always bring a smile to my face, this is such a healthy relationship on both sides and you don't see that very much anymore.

    • @lauravioletvlogs972
      @lauravioletvlogs972 Před 3 měsíci +3

      so very true. It is so healthy to see and hear positive couples. Especially these days, it's very vital to see positive people.

    • @anon02970
      @anon02970 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Can’t be THAT healthy considering Taylor was arrested for domestic violence against Kay back in 2019…

    • @catb8834
      @catb8834 Před 23 dny

      Which it looks like they have worked through. It’s not an uncommon situation for vets. Kay has a good head on her shoulders. She knows what’s best for her and her daughters and it looks like that is Taylor .

    • @jeanmariemissale5663
      @jeanmariemissale5663 Před 19 dny

      All four of you guys are great !

    • @aimeebaldwin5600
      @aimeebaldwin5600 Před 9 dny

      Really? ​@@anon02970

  • @aleahberylaine5311
    @aleahberylaine5311 Před 3 měsíci +9

    Honestly this was so sweet to watch. I would've never guessed their story. Good job to Matt for asking hard questions.

  • @DesertMav
    @DesertMav Před 3 měsíci +3

    This was a really fun podcast episode since I literally started seeing Kay and Tay pop up on my feed within the last month or two. I really feel for both of their backstories and I enjoy their content for how wholesome it is. I also didn't know that Kay had a 12 year old daughter, but I am honestly quite happy that they are not forcing her to be in the content and following her wishes.

  • @NagyMedia
    @NagyMedia Před 3 měsíci +35

    I'm so proud of these two. Kay and I used to be neighbors and grew up together, and to say she deserves this beautiful relationship, family, and success would be a massive understatement. Love to see this growth.

    • @KayAndTay
      @KayAndTay Před 3 měsíci +12

      Thank you so much for the kind words William. Hope you’re doing well! 🫶🏼

  • @fridayys97
    @fridayys97 Před 3 měsíci +23

    Its so good to get to know more about creators like this. Their history and personal life like struggles and stuff. I love this podcast for that reason! ❤️

  • @biglugaming8378
    @biglugaming8378 Před 2 měsíci +2

    Thank you both for being so understanding of the guests, especially Tay when he spoke of his military experiences. He spoke of everything accurately and I’m pretty sure I rotated in after him.

  • @hannahjacobs294
    @hannahjacobs294 Před 3 měsíci +5

    You guys are on fire! You literally host the people I watch on my shorts and want to know more about. You two are just spot on with your picks!!!

  • @karliarmstrong5300
    @karliarmstrong5300 Před 3 měsíci +13

    I literally love Kay and Tay and so happy they’ve opened up there lives a bit more for us all because it just made me love them more, they seem like such genuine good sweet people and I’m so proud of them for being at the place they are in life now

  • @marypagebradley9703
    @marypagebradley9703 Před 3 měsíci +20

    I’ve recently come across Kay and Tay’s content and really enjoy it. I think it’s wholesome and sweet, but learning more about them and the way they interact with each other and their daughters makes me like them that much more!

  • @kaycandy79
    @kaycandy79 Před 3 měsíci +11

    Tay is so cute giggles when taking about Kay . he loves her so much.

  • @Thewitchesflame
    @Thewitchesflame Před měsícem +2

    When you truly like each other, when you respect each other, actually talk & communicate, your bond continues to strengthen. More need to live like this.

  • @WoodFamily4
    @WoodFamily4 Před 3 měsíci +29

    I loved this interview! I already enjoyed Kay and Tay because they're so wholesome, but I appreciate them even more after hearing their story.

  • @carolynturk-hu7je
    @carolynturk-hu7je Před 3 měsíci +112

    My oldest brother is 13 years older than me and it's no big deal(I don't think being siblings close in age necessarily makes you close relationship wise). He has always been present in my life and as adults we've been able to listen to one another in support with losing our spouses.

    • @lemonCutie37
      @lemonCutie37 Před 3 měsíci +2

      Im 25 with a 14 yr old sister. We have an 11 yr age gap and i wouldnt have it any other way honestly 🫶🏻

    • @HAnnB24
      @HAnnB24 Před 3 měsíci +3

      I'm sorry each of you has experienced losing your spouse, in what ever way that happened.
      My younger brother and I have a 11 year age gap, we have other siblings in the middle too, I wish I was around more for his childhood, but as he's getting to be an adult we are reconnecting more.

    • @laurensutch509
      @laurensutch509 Před 3 měsíci +2

      I’m so sorry for what happened to you with your spouse, me and my youngest sibling have a nearly 14 year age gap, and honestly he’s the most precious thing on this earth but being so far away in age to him worries me that we won’t always be as close. The way you relied on your sibling in times of need is exactly what I want to do for my little brother, thank you for reminding me that I can be close with him when I’m older

    • @juanitamatlock7001
      @juanitamatlock7001 Před 3 měsíci

      My mom had 4 children younger than one of her sisters; it’s weird to tell people that I remember changing my aunt’s diaper. When sh was a infant

  • @qreeneyez916
    @qreeneyez916 Před měsícem +4

    *very rarely do I find great podcasts that keep me entertained, but you guys rock at this. You ask the right questions, let them talk, you help the audience understand it also*

  • @sarahjane7740
    @sarahjane7740 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I’m so happy you had them on the podcast learning more about them really makes me respect them more then I already did love you all ❤

  • @evelinacatrinar2926
    @evelinacatrinar2926 Před 3 měsíci +20

    I can understand the crying thing and being too sensitive, I cannot relate more ! Im glad that there are people out there not hiding because I am told to be more tough all the time.
    Also I love the honesty and warmth you guys bring.
    People make assumptions only out of things they are exposed to and now I think you guys will be more successful than ever because the content got even more interesting ❤️❤️ very nice I loved this 😊

  • @lauravioletvlogs972
    @lauravioletvlogs972 Před 3 měsíci +16

    I love Kay and Tay!! I am so happy to hear this podcast and hear them speak to hear their background. My favorite couple. I am for sure Kay. I have always show my emotions and I can cry about almost anything.

  • @user-uc9dx9cz3b
    @user-uc9dx9cz3b Před 3 měsíci +2

    This was so great and encouraging just to know what other people have gone through and come out on the other side of it. Very relatable and great advice

  • @katherinegodwin925
    @katherinegodwin925 Před 3 měsíci +2

    Such a fun and great podcast! I love how Matt & Abby really let their guests talk, then come in with deeper questions that show they are listening and care.
    Kay and Taylor are amazing and I love them.

  • @user-nz6lx6xf5o
    @user-nz6lx6xf5o Před 3 měsíci +64

    I love Kay and Tay I have followed them since finding out about Ellie their relationship is so inspiring along with their story of the past! I feel like I can connect on a personal level in ways. I think after seeing this and learning their story just brings me more drawn to them as people and not just part of the social media world! Tay is so good to Kay and Ellie and she deserves nothing less! ❤

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci

      Tay police records show he is a domestic abuser good look them up he's not a good man

  • @clairemanley6899
    @clairemanley6899 Před 3 měsíci +8

    Okay so I don’t watch every episode of the unplanned podcast. Seriously though I love it. It’s always so genuine and funny. I always feel more joy after watching. Also, I feel like I am in the room with you guys just talking with friends. This is the side of social media I love. Real , happy , sweet people sharing their lives. You guys don’t pretend and are truly genuine. Please don’t ever stop making this podcast. It’s amazing and you guys have such an impact on people. Thank you so much for bringing Joy to the world.

  • @joebirdwelljr629
    @joebirdwelljr629 Před měsícem +3

    I love Kay and Tay's content. It was nice to have an opportunity to learn more about them on a personal level. I love them even more...

  • @restored777
    @restored777 Před měsícem +2

    Really enjoyed this episode. Hearing what they have been through and coming from a similar situation as Kay really connects for me & makes their content that much sweeter.

  • @angelcarter9795
    @angelcarter9795 Před 3 měsíci +41

    I love that he is ok with you being "sensitive" and showing emotions. I have been told you need to hold it together so much even though I am the same way. Shamed for having emotions. Y'all are precious. Love both these couples.

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci

      Taylor has police records of being a domestic abuser he's not sensitive

  • @anjanamahale2200
    @anjanamahale2200 Před 3 měsíci +27

    I literally relate to what Kay said about her ex. Thanks for this, guys!

  • @tanja9923
    @tanja9923 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I loved this podcast. It’s truly unique. Deep talk and really casual conversation, I enjoyed feeling as being a part of it :)

  • @snahg2356
    @snahg2356 Před 2 měsíci +2

    I'm glad i linked into this unplanned interview with Kay and Tay, i made a comment on their shorts about that pregnancy being there longest pregnancy i have ever endure. I'm 60 now and had five C-sections and each one felt like 9-years. Also it's fun to watch your reactions to each new stage and craving. You make it all felt like there first time. But TAY, you melt my heart when you come in the door with "Swwweeeeetttyyyy?!?!?!" Makes my smile everyone. Bless your souls.

  • @katythriftyunder35homeowne57
    @katythriftyunder35homeowne57 Před 3 měsíci +15

    I have IBS-C as well & have to take meds for it. I so relate to Kay's experience with that & also I truly appreciate her being open about her condition as a woman. ❤❤

  • @elizabethbandy8883
    @elizabethbandy8883 Před 3 měsíci +7

    SO excited for this one!! Always wanted to learn more about Kay and Tay’s sweet relationship!

  • @RenaRunyon-mx5nt
    @RenaRunyon-mx5nt Před 3 měsíci +2

    Thanks for having them on
    I understand them so much more now!
    Thanks Unplanned Podcast!!

  • @Stina85
    @Stina85 Před 3 měsíci +10

    I love Kay and Tay so much. I’m so glad they respect their first daughter enough to not put her out there on the internet to be criticized and torn down like the internet tends to do. Children are not content and cannot consent to being made into entertainment. Especially their everyday lives where there’s no separation of work and home life. It’s so refreshing to see healthy families like Kay and Tay make content that doesn’t center their life around being a family channel. There’s already going to be a whole generation of kids in therapy because their parents put the pressure on their kids to make them money on the internet with family channels. Kids should be allowed to be kids and not be put into a spotlight. The guilt and pressure of having to perform for the camera is just as bad as child labor. It’s really sad and hopefully the legislation will change to prevent those family channels out there from continuing to profit off of children.

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci

      Tay police record of being a domestic abuser I guess you haven't seen that yet

  • @aimeezoewalst8045
    @aimeezoewalst8045 Před 3 měsíci +49

    I have watch their video's a lot and I never knew that they have a 12 year old and it makes me love their content even more of how well they respect their daughter boundaries and keep her completely out off the video's!

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci

      Did you know Tay has a police record from being a domestic abuser l...go look it up

  • @amberhicks8061
    @amberhicks8061 Před 3 měsíci +106

    Kay my situation with my first relationship was so similar! I dated my highschool sweetheart and had my son right before my senior year of highschool. Wouldn’t let me get my license or go to college. So I graduated highschool, moved out, went to college and joined the army. I’m so proud of you and us.

    • @cristinamerlini
      @cristinamerlini Před 3 měsíci +3

      We are proud of you ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼

    • @erinhutson4
      @erinhutson4 Před 3 měsíci +2

      Tay was the one that married his hs sweet heart n joined the military .

  • @Wrathlon
    @Wrathlon Před 28 dny +1

    Its so nice to see that these 2 have found each other - they are both such lovely people and deserve all the happiness in the world.

  • @Sleepysleepjr
    @Sleepysleepjr Před 3 měsíci

    Heartbreak and relationships can be tough, especially not allowing yourself to get hurt and be bitter/cynical afterwards. But seeing them and how resilient and strong they are and were for each other during that time, truly gives me hope for whatever the future has in store
    11/10, you guys 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 by far my favorite episode yet!!!!

  • @WhiteJessica
    @WhiteJessica Před 3 měsíci +24

    My ex was the same way as Kays but we were long distance. Im so glad I got out almost a year ago.
    I completely agree with the kids on social media! Do what you want until they are old enough to voice what they want for themselves! That goes for influencers or just regular people.

  • @courtneywalsh106
    @courtneywalsh106 Před 3 měsíci +3

    Awh I loved finding out more! Such a lovely, honest and open conversation. Beautiful and wholesome ❤️

  • @dulcepena4007
    @dulcepena4007 Před 3 měsíci +22

    I love that Tay finds her funny. I love hearing him laugh during their reels/videos. You can tell her thinks her adorable.

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci +2

      He has police records of being a domestic abuser Tay is not a good man go look up the report

  • @Koskos504
    @Koskos504 Před měsícem +3

    Yep, Kay has that special melange of beauty, wit, child-like tendencies, humor, sweetness, purity, innocence, quirkiness and really, is there anything bad about her??? She is FRIGGIN ADORABLE!!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @gabby0930
    @gabby0930 Před 3 měsíci +4

    This literally made me cry bc I went through similar things that kay went thru with my past marriage but I also got thru it…. I love how they both treat each other ❤

  • @DelaneyWalker
    @DelaneyWalker Před 3 měsíci +7

    Another episode that I didn’t want it to end! I loved getting to know Kay and Tay more on a longer video type.
    Always having great guests on here!

  • @safhakawati5020
    @safhakawati5020 Před 3 měsíci +2

    This was amazing !! Thank you so much to Kay and Tay for this.

  • @nyramirez20
    @nyramirez20 Před 3 měsíci +39

    Kay And Tay, you are definition of Self Reflection, Healing and Couple Goals. Thank you for sharing more of your story. Knowing now that both of you had a rough past of your own, yet still managed to conquer that pain and turn it into something so beautiful and so loving, is what truly gives me more hope for this world. ❤❤

  • @stevendaniels9619
    @stevendaniels9619 Před 3 měsíci +6

    Honestly been waiting for them to come on thank yall so much for the weekly listen

  • @nikhiawelsch5382
    @nikhiawelsch5382 Před 3 měsíci +28

    Kay and Tay are so sweet! Love following their content! Also I love this podcast as it shows that ppl on the internet are really just normal ppl. Everyone has a story, struggles, joys and it is possible to be yourself on the internet. Also we can’t judge ppl when we only have those few puzzle pieces.

  • @monicaseaton9794
    @monicaseaton9794 Před 3 měsíci +2

    LOVE Kay's stories..so proud of you speaking out. I believe you will do alot of wonderful things for women's mental health. And thank God for your partner who fills your cup up and other people's cups up. And just gives you the strength and clarity.

  • @valentinagonzalez104
    @valentinagonzalez104 Před 3 měsíci +7

    Literally my favorite podcast everrrr ❤❤❤ I’m going through the first weeks with my newborn, he’s 5 weeks old and this podcast has saved me!!

  • @lindseyatkins3251
    @lindseyatkins3251 Před 3 měsíci +6

    Matt and Abby,
    You both do such a great job interviewing people! You ask such great questions and you do a great job letting them talk. Keep up the great work!

  • @emilybeary3933
    @emilybeary3933 Před 3 měsíci +11

    I love this episode so so so much!! You both are my favorite creators right now and I idol you both. Kay and Tay’s relationship was actually what drove me to leave my abusive marriage. I would watch their tik toks daily and seeing how happy they were together and the fact that Tay goes out of his way to make her happy, made me realize just how unhappy me and my ex husband both were. Hearing her story with her ex husband had me in tears because that’s exactly how my ex husband was so hearing that was kind of a full circle moment for me 🥹

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci

      Taylor has a police record of being a domestic abuser but he's your favorite.....

  • @adriennewooley1979
    @adriennewooley1979 Před měsícem

    So glad you sat down with these 2. I have been such a fan of Kay and Tay, really enjoyed getting to know them a little. My husband and I have been together almost 7 yrs, we both came from 15yr marriages with trauma. We know exactly how they feel. It's hard to trust but thank God we did. We have been raising our blended family together and our children have been able to see a healthy relationship. Not gonna out my son's job but he sees Tay from time to time and always says he is such a legit guy. Makes my heart happy that they really are their content.❤

  • @akaemmaclaire
    @akaemmaclaire Před 3 měsíci +9

    they are such great guests for y'all!! I'm so happy 😭😭😭

  • @estherlouise924
    @estherlouise924 Před 3 měsíci +13

    I’m so happy they had them on the podcast! I just recently found Kay and Tay, and this made my day seeing my two favorite couples talking together!!

    • @casandrakelsey6702
      @casandrakelsey6702 Před 2 měsíci +2

      Taylor has police records of being a domestic abuser not cute

    • @estherlouise924
      @estherlouise924 Před 2 měsíci +1

      @@casandrakelsey6702 He does? How do you know?

  • @jesaann93
    @jesaann93 Před 3 měsíci

    This just made me love Kay and Tay more 🥺 I became a fan during her pregnancy and so I knew next to nothing coming in to this and they’re even more amazing than I thought they were!

  • @briannaraben5411
    @briannaraben5411 Před 3 měsíci +1

    I had no idea prior to this that Kay had a daughter but I absolutely loved this, best episode ever! All my favorite people in one place ❤

  • @fatimahsanton6342
    @fatimahsanton6342 Před 3 měsíci +3

    This is one of the best things I've watched and have looked forward to hear the backstory. I love Kay and Tay so much already but this podcast sealed the deal for me. I absolutely loved this entire video. Thank you for this!!!

  • @baileepond125
    @baileepond125 Před 3 měsíci +9

    I loved hearing about your love for your second child. I have an 18 month old and am 34 weeks pregnant. I get hormonal and cry over bring the new baby home and hurting my other babies' feelings. I also worry that I won't be a good enough mom for two, and I won't love the baby as much as my 1st. Everyone says that once they're here you just have enough love and it makes me feel so much better.

    • @WandaBedwell
      @WandaBedwell Před 3 měsíci

      You will love each child just as much as the first. I was young and thought the same thing but you adjust to a new schedule with another child and you will see your love grow. You can include your other child with the new baby by saying, Can you bring sister a diaper? Let them give the baby a bottle or cover them with a blanket. It will be good,I promise.

  • @sweetlittlesheila71
    @sweetlittlesheila71 Před 3 měsíci

    We have so much in common. I was a medical assistant/phlebotomist for 15 years. I now am on disability for my illnesses. Including but not limited to, UCTD (leaning toward Lupus), adrenal insufficiency, IBS w/chronic but intermittent gastroparesis, and most recently , a ulcer that perforated. I have constant low-grade fevers, high right now because I'm sick. I hear your story, and I'm just like, wow, other people deal with all of this too. Thank you for sharing your story. We are not alone in this, and you are helping people know that by doing so. I hope this flare let's up soon. ❤

  • @klarissamora636
    @klarissamora636 Před 3 měsíci

    I absolutely love watching Kay and Tay on TikTok. She has the sweetest soul ever!🥰 I love her and even Tay’s opinion on keeping the love and the relationship so fresh is absolutely worded beautifully and inspirational!🥰

  • @colinemonyatsi411
    @colinemonyatsi411 Před 3 měsíci +10

    I loved watching this episode, Tay and Kay are just a breath of fresh air to watch . ❤️

  • @carolynturk-hu7je
    @carolynturk-hu7je Před 3 měsíci +101

    Kay and Tay have a true love, soulmate relationship! So happy for them!😊❤

  • @shaunatrimble1935
    @shaunatrimble1935 Před 29 dny +3

    Absolutely love Kay&Tay. I don’t know how I came across this video, but I’m now following you. Learned so much more about them from this. Love it. ❤

  • @marcellareeves8018
    @marcellareeves8018 Před měsícem +3

    loved the podcast it brought a whole new light on their situation. I really thought Kay was in her early 20's. Love you guys.

  • @Bl0505
    @Bl0505 Před 3 měsíci +210

    Yay I’m so happy! I follow them and have always been so curious about their past