INFP Shyness Explained
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- Äas pĆidĂĄn 4. 07. 2020
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Why are INFPs labelled as shy? One reason is because they fear failure. Find out more in today's video!
INFPs, let me know your tips to overcome shyness & become more proud of yourself and your skills in the comments below. đ„ł
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i donât think many of us fear failure as much as we measure success very differently. in our case, success is more internal and measured more in terms of personal growth. weâre not as interested in material wealth or status. so from the outside, it doesnât look like weâre successful but in our heads, weâve created our own metrics for success that we may never even share with others - so most people will not understand how much weâve actually achieved. and for many of us, measuring ourselves against our own internal yardstick rather than that of society will be enough (provided that we can meet our needs).
but sure, some of these points may apply if we do wish to have âsuccessâ in the external world, if we can find a way for such external success to mesh with our values. a lot of the time, though, we see societyâs demands as icky or at least meh. so we donât bother đ
I think this describes me better.
i think this is the Enneagram 4 response possibly - at least in my case. maybe 2s are the more ambitious/perfectionist ones? and 9s will want to please the tribe more i guess.
I think this is a great way to reframe: Find your own standard of success and become confident in yourself and your own ideas about what is right and wrong, and it becomes less stressing to deal with societal standards and expectations. Make sure you know where your standards come from. But don't avoid becoming successful in the real world too-- you can thrive in society and at work while being true to yourself. :)
indeed I think INFP-9s are more susceptible to people pleasing than INFP-4s. Important distinction! :)
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A lot of this type isn't compatible with current society that is so morally diseased and regressive in general where money and status are the bottom line instead of quality of life.
I agree. It feels like society is paying you to not reach or potential rather than for reaching it. Most of the things in my life seem average but sometimes I reach that place where I can learn something new without reward structure just because I can. I believe INFPs have a problem with dealing with risk/reward. We want to contemplate everything with never making a move. Itâs like playing a chess game and winning never even moving a piece. The moment you move the piece you feel like youâre doomed to failure.
yes
Society is awesome if you are extroverted, live off of attention from others, are fake, live in the moment and self absorbed, self saturated or borderline narcissistic. Common courtesy? Think of others? That isnât comfortable for the people around you. We are weird and invisible.
True :)
Sadly, this is very true. I have this strong fear of being incompetent. When I really want to get something done I push myself and work a lot for many hours, I overanalyze everything to the point I think it is acceptable. Then something happens, for example the result of my work is not what I expected it to be or I realize that I am a fool because I wasted so much time on small unnecessary details, and my attitude changes completely. I become a person that has no aspirations at all and just wants to do the work and forget it.
I have a hard time of assessing how much time and work I should actually spend on certain things so the outcome is worth my efforts.
I wonder if other IP types have similar issues.
I do have them, also INFP
Same here. Hug.
Very similar experiences, thank you for describing it so accurately
Erik, i would say this is more of a power related issue rather than a fear of failure. The inner world is the most sacred place to me as an INFP. And when we let you enter our sanctuary we donât just open the door, we take off the whole roof. This makes us vulnerable to criticism because it would not just destroy our front door. It could burn down the entire sanctuary. In other words, the more we value something, the harder the critisism will be because itâs closer to our human core. At that point itâs not about our thoughts and ideas, itâs about who we are. So we tend to protect ourself.
amen to that!
damn..why so accurate đ«đ«đ
I have a closed INFP friend .I think that your writing about INFP is so closed to his traits.Thx for posting this,to confirm that I treated him well.( hopefully)đâ
the. exact. words.
As an INFP, I appreciate you so much!!!
5 or 6 years ago I was so shy that I didnât even had friends until my Literature teacher found out that I had the âspeech voiceâ I guss đand I can write stories, she trained me how to speech and actually made me do the speech for my school formal celebrations and signed my name for a short story contest, If she didnât do what she did I would be more shy and introverted, Iâm grateful for her â€ïž.
Wow đgreat teacher can notes great student đđđđđđâ
You're like the ultimate INFP whisperer. There was a lot of what I need to hear (the helpful imagery you used to help us keep criticism at a distance, describing it as being outside of ourselves and harmless...in addition to the 3 things to-do list, super helpful). But the following - so sweet and what I want (and need) to hear: What we create "... because it's an extension of yourself it is worthy of love just as everyone is worthy of love" is what really got me. Also "...so, it's a beautiful thing no matter what". Music to my INFP ears.
ItÂŽs weird, on one hand i really couldnÂŽt care less if other people think iÂŽm strange or nerdy or whatever but on the other hand i just hate to feel like i make a fool of myself, like itÂŽs my own reaction that scares me rather than that of other people or something like that. Also i think many infps have been bullied to some degree some time in their lives and that makes you extra on the alert, like you donÂŽt want to give people something they can use to make fun of you for free so to speak.
I'm an INFP and have come across a lot of instances where other INFPs like myself have endured dysfunctional childhoods. It is easy to see how this happens. The Sensor type is the highest % of society which therefore means there are a lot of sensor orientated families. Many Sensors have some trouble understanding Intuitive types and if you add feeling to that as well, then some of these families will view the INFP as weak, shy, slow, day dreamer, etc. Another factor is if the parents are Judging types - they tend to think of the Perceiving types as lazy, disregulated, ADD, woo woo etc. So when these families are also dysfunctional, it magnifies the ways INFPs are perceived and judged. Lastly INFPs are one of the few types who are distinctly different from what society considers normal/average. So it is almost inevitable that that they are going to experience at least a few difficulties concerning not being liked and judged for being different. Add to this that the INFP is sensitive and deep thinking, so these hurts will be keenly felt.
Itâs like you read my soulâs experience & exposed it in a CZcams comment. Wow. You summed this up perfectly. Thank you.
Thank you. Your video came at the right time. Iâm an INFP and self criticism and failure tends to keep me from moving forward and just giving up before Iâve even started. Thinking it doesnât matter because I wouldâve failed anyways. So your comment of setting little goals made me realise I donât have to set myself unattainable goals. That little ones are just as good too. Thank you đ
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The only failure that I fear is that I don't live to my full potential. I fear I'm on the wrong path for me and maybe wasting my life in a mediocre job to pay the rent. How to find the right path is a mystery.
Consider being self employed or entrepreneurship (ecommerce, digital marketing, dropshipping) and develop passive/residual income streams so you dont have to worry too much about maintaining yourself and thus have more energy freed towards your creative projects...Good Luck
Erik, you make a really good point about INFPs fear of failure. I recently did a video that links negative emotions with procrastination based off of a recent study, and I can see how the fear of failure can also be that negative feeling which then leads to INFPs procrastinating to avoid failure. Thank you for sharing this, you've inspired me to research further and possibly do a follow up video. đ
Indeed, negative emotions can easily lead to procrastination, most of the time, it is unresolved/repressed feelings of anger = procrastination.
@@ErikThor This is so new to me! Very precious info!
@@ErikThor yes, very much so, for me it's the feeling of not being heard or listened to. So the fear that's usually lurking is that of, if I put out a piece of work, there's an opportunity for "confirmation" that I don't deserve to be heard. I'm now aware of the triggers and my behavior, which is helpful because it used to be a pattern on autopilot.
Success driven society where money and status are the bottom line with little value given to everything else what could go wrong....
procrastinating to avoid failure ... forever ... lol that's me in a nutshell
I donât know about fear so much. Iâm an INFP and I am really good at public speaking.I donât really care about others criticizing me because I am my own worst critic. I always put too much pressure on myself to be perfect and if I cannot perfect a skill right away I just lose interest
starting off the video saying there are few infps that succeed really helped my self esteem thanks đ
People generally think that introversion equals shyness. I'm an INFJ, and I prefer to listen to listen and observe rather than talk, and a lot of people have mislabeled me as shy for that reason. Sure, I have my insecurities and inner conflicts, but I do not consider myself shy. I have a lot of confidence in the things that I know I excel at.
This applies to my husband so very much. While trying to respect his wishes, I am his biggest cheerleader...he is an amazing infp with such wonderful insight.
Me trying a new hobby/learning something new: wow, for never having done this before this is pretty good
anyone: oh yeah that's not too bad. If you keep trying you could become pretty good!
me: you're right this sucks. I suck at this. why do I try?????
I like your reflective personal comments around 8:00. Itâs very helpful to reiterate that failures are essential to the process. I tend to forget it when the anxiety takes over. Society can be cruel. I somehow think I can soften the response by putting high standards of catering to the realm of the benefit of the doubt. As of late, I âmantraâ Iâm not responsible for their cruelties. I make mistakes & practice *really* hard not to project their/our preprogrammed cruelties into my head & heart space. Other than counteracting them, your reminding bit helps glue it together to accept it without taking it personally. đ§Ą
I've enjoyed what you have to say. However, one thing that has varied in my journey from what you said has to do with when you mentioned the things we create are an extension of ourselves. I had to learn the opposite so I am only sharing in case someone else needs to hear this.
I used to draw so much of my self worth from how good the tasks I completed at work were. To the point where I would intensely focus on a task and strive to complete it in pain staking detail. An example would be trimming the corners on laminated sheets. I would try to make sure the corners were rounded and even on all sides. It took a lot of baby steps to not have to round those corners anymore and now a job that used to take 3 hours only takes me an hour.
My point is that because I viewed my work as an extension of myself, and I had such a fear of imperfection I was holding up my ability to be successful at work. It was like everything that bared my name had to be the best and anything less was worthy of the harshest self criticisms and was an immediate reflection of my inadequacy.
To anyone who needs to hear it, everything you do is not a reflection of yourself. You will not always produce work that meets your standards all the time and that is okay. Please think about the trade-off triangle. I couldn't attach an image but the basic principle is that when completing a project there are 3 factors in completing it: Time, Quality, and Cost, and you can only pick 2. Generally, the goal is to do things in the shortest time to the best of quality, while minimizing the cost. In my above example that would be only taking an hour, rounding the corners, and not fixating on them. This allows me to not feel burned out after and be able to finish all my job tasks for the day. The trade-off triangle helped me a lot and I feel it is a good place to start when trying to rein in perfectionism.
Iâm a 48 year old INFP and I thrives in university after taking special courses on how to study and created my own short hand for note taking because I knew I needed help with organizing and study habits. Applying these new and detailed instructions on how to do college (more artists than degrees in my family) I made Aâs and those Aâs fed my need for validation and built my confidence in my abilities to organize and execute. I definitely donât like to fail but I also think My fear of anything (for many years everything) drives me much in the way you described, I charge fear head on because I like to get the most unpleasant things done first to get them out of the way as quickly as possible. One the charge has begun on any task or project it is on like Donkey Kong. I get shit done and well. And everything I do has to be done as if I will sign my name to it. I am just learning to be more open. I always surprise people with the variety of of skills and interests. However I remain perplexed by peopleâs reactions to me or things I say. I seems like I can say something and when the person responds it seems as if they completely misunderstood what I said and it confuses me so much I kind of check out. Any other INFPs have this experience?
I do have a massive fear of failure. Sometimes I cope by, like you said, lowering expectations. Other times I comfort myself by reminding myself of my capabilities, potential and opportunity for growth.
It's something I've struggled with for a long time and that I've been aware of since I was about 12. At 23 I'm a bit better at doing the latter but it's still a struggle
99.9% of the INFP personality is made up of fear of failure a criticism lol ... it manifests in every part of my life. I push myself to do what I fear anyway these days, but the fear never goes away. I don't care about failing by society's idea of success (which is good, because fear of failure has kind of held me back in the area lol), but I'm terrified of trying something and failing with other people watching and I feel awful if I fail at a personal goal because I know that if I tried hard enough I would have been capable of it. I've always failed on purpose to avoid failure, like you said. I lost a spelling bee on purpose when I was a kid so that I wouldn't have to lose it not on purpose lol
Sometimes (okay, a lot of the time) I'll even meet a goal and it doesn't feel like enough. Or someone will compliment me and I'll find a way to turn that into self doubt. If someone thinks I'm doing well at something, I'm constantly anxious because I feel like it's only a matter of time before they realize they were wrong about me. And that thinking can make a lot of INFPs not try for success. It's just so stressful that I think we can subconsciously not even want to be successful because success doesn't even feel like success.
It also very much manifests as intense fear of criticism and social anxiety a lot of the time. And this is with everyday things, I won't even get into how it is with private things like personal feelings, private writing, artwork. I can't imagine subjecting most of that to the possibility of criticism, or even positive attention. Myself and other INFPs who have the same issues often note that most people can't really tell that we feel this way at all. We're usually pretty good at hiding, well, everything (I assume because we have introverted feeling). Sometimes I can't wrap my head around the idea that other people don't live like this or feel this way because it's such a huge part of my life and always has been.
We need introverts artists writers etc. Just know your identity and do it!
That is very true. I know for sure that being an infp and also a highly sensitive person made me prone to have social anxiety and to fear failure and judgment
I used to think it was fear of failure, which is there, but I think the bigger problem for many INFPs is some executive dysfunction issues mixed with our Ne. It's very difficult for us to organize our ideas into a simplistic something. I get paralyzed with every project I try to accomplish. This creates anxiety/sadness, bc little turns into reality or a masterpiece. INFPs and sometimes ENFPs need help with structures and systems in order to produce. If the detailed steps were laid out for me every vision and project idea I've ever had, wow, I'd have a lot produced. Art is easier for me to just do, but it doesn't produce stable income. Just my thoughts. And ty... you always seem so conscientious and kind in your videos!
Normally coming up with the details to fulfill a vision is what Ni users are good at but INFPs do the Ni vision through Si(what was done before) step by step by the book plan to achieve their Te goals...Good Luck!
Even though I've been faced these problems so much as an INFP, I personally still can't through that easily. Because failure is not what I'm worried about, but Disappointment. Fear of Disappointment. When I do something wrong, I don't mind if it's for myself. But if it's for the others, I couldn't stop thinking, especially when dealing with stranger or not-so-friend people.
I think it's naturally to have this kind of "must be perfect" behaviour, but you were also right about being reasonable and realist.
And don't forget. It's okay to tell your failure to the others, they might wanna help too. I mean, they can't help you if you don't tell them. Just, being better at it. đ
I wonder where the fear of success fits in with MBTI. People can have fear of failure get in the way of success but another success blocker can be the anticipated pressures of success and the attention it confers.
Yeah to me success seems like failure. Just look around at the âhappyâ people and they donât seem so happy. To me it seems like success is some kind of weird scam. I want to help people but I want them to forget I existed.
Hello Erik! At 44, I am probably close to twice your age, and I am getting so much out of your videos. Keep up the great work đđ»
You full on described my fuck it button. It's gonna fail, might as well do it. My working on failure has been a embracing of zen. I was doing lsd a lot for years, picked up zen through it, and after the trips ended the zen was still there. Not that I don't flow in and out of it constantly, but I can see. The last 2 months have been all shadow work, a lot of the dark sides of me have been out, but in a more tame but witnessable manner
Yes! I would always do things when I know I will not fail. Not because I want it to be that, it is just because of the judgement of the society. And I set high expectations for myself... I struggle with this so much!
This has helped me to understand my son a little better. Thank you đ
Wow thereâs people trying to understand their children.
I have been thinking of my goals lately and I did notice that they seem impossible.
I also had my yearly review at work and I became self conscious if I am at the level of knowledge that I should be. Of course I felt like I wasnât because I feel like I should know more or be able to do more.
Sorry for my ranting but this came at the right time.
That was really helpful, thank you! I think a fear of criticism is mostly what I battle. The fear of failure comes at work, since when I fail there is a greater chance I could disappoint the people around me (or I worry it could happen)... Fear of criticism causes me to be quieter around people and avoid taking action. I do withhold information from people as far as my skills go or what Iâve learned, because I want people to feel comfortable around me. Also, if someone takes what I say the wrong way and feels criticised or belittled it bothers me alot (unless Iâm in a bad mood and say it on purpose lol đ)
Wow. This fear of failure, idk how you found out, but this is the most important thing I have ever found out from studying my type online. Ive always thought fear of failure was something that just didn't resonate with me, that only happened to other people. But from this video I realised why it took me so long to find this out about myself, and why the other INFP's in the comments probably have an equal fear of failure, they just don't know it yet because its such a subconscious thing.
I`m not into psychology much, just worked that test couple of days ago through recommendation and it came out with an INFP result. I`m aware these tests are on the fringe of science, but they are funny and even you could find something of substance reading or watching videos about different personality types. However, the fact or `fact` that there are just 16 types and that billions of people could be put in 16 folders and that`s it, just doesn`t resonate with me.
I never felt scared out of failure or speech or exam in school and university. I was very confident. Just later I became tired of people and maybe misunderstanding, misjudgment, or imaginary misjudgment.
Thank you for your videos.
Wait, I really thought youâre an INFP! You give that INFP vibe!
As an INFP, I think I have faced a one major life failure for me and after it I donât much fear failure.. Well, I donât fear failure as much I fear criticism or judgement, I guess..
One time we were supposed to show our design portfolio to the professor and it happed ed that the whole class also saw it and I felt so uncomfortable because I am showing my true self to people I am not close to, not just that, but that portofolio work was close to my hear that I dont wanna show it to anyone. I think INFPS here do understand. I remember I really got angry in myself that day... but at the end of the day I remind myself that no one cares and they will probably forget this..:)
"Don't worry NoOne cares " I hv written this quote on my study table
What a gem of a channel, thank you
Thank you for this video đ
Thank you đ for a word ... it means a lot đ
Iâm not afraid of failure. Iâm afraid of success. Someone will say itâs the same thing but I disagree. If I succeed people notice and I feel anxious about keeping myself in that spot. Failure gives me a chance to be disappointed in my self and move on.
Excellent video, loved it thank you for that helpful insight đ
thank you for making this, eric! ⥠it helps me to get to know more about myself as an infp-t too
I'm an INFP-T too and also a HSP. I've been researching recently to see if there's a link between the two. Just out of curiosity, are you a highly sensitive person too?
Yes, most HSPs are iNFPs. :) It's because your type, just like INFJs, tend to be weak in Extroverted Sensing/Extroverted Thinking. Elaine Aron who coined the term has already said there's a relationship between Ni and HSP. :)
(She's a Jungian!)
@@ErikThor thank you so much for the input đ I'll go read up on that.
Seriously, everything you said is on point! Esp the one about keeping some of our abilities to ourselves. I never tell people that I like to sing and I may sound pretty good when I sing? (See, even after being confirmed by my friends that I have a good voice I still donât feel that confident with myself). But yeah I surprised my friend on my birthday a few months ago and and sang in front of them. To say they were all shocked was an understatement! Cause I never talked about it, showed it let alone bragged about it. Iâm currently in grad school and they joked that I should just drop it and pursue a singing career instead đ
This is one of the best INFP illuminations useful for other types that I've seen. Thanks for seeing us and getting us Erik Thor.
This was beautiful â€đâ€đâ€
YES!!!! This video resumes me soooo much. Besides the fear of being alone in this world without the people I love, I do have the fear of making mistakes and it's constantly present in my life in everything I do or that I want to learn to do. I think that, more than being afraid of criticism of other people, I'm just protecting myself from being disappointed and frustrated and have to work so hard and my mind is always like "if you can't do this easily it's because its not for you or you aren't capable of" and I KNOW it's wrong to think like that, but I can't help myself but bring me down all the time.
Thank you. I do learn so much from you about me
I love Erik.
Yes.. Spot on .. Thank you
Thanks so much Erik, as before :)
omg, I watched few more videos on INFP traits, how could you be able to build all the theories out of your observation? That is very impressive. As an INFP, I just want you know that I love your videos.
Thank you, this is very helpful, good advice, you are such an INFJ
Thanks Ananda, I appreciate your kind words across my videos
@@ErikThor Thatâs nice that you noticed ^-^
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How many perceiving types here have a fear of failure and was punished for their mistakes as a child?
I think my own fear of failure and the reason why I am so heavily tilted towards perceiving over judging, is rooted in a traumatic experience where I was pinned down and got a frenzied beating for choosing to lie to my parents to escape a beating.
I think I have PTSD which has created a complex and could be the main reason I am a P and have hardly any J in my functionality.
I've done therapy and gotten out a lot of emotion and some resentment, but i still have this overarching complex it seems.
It took me months of mulling and procrastinating just to order rubbish bins for where I live. Meanwhile bags of recycling stack up.
I feared if I order and commit to the bins, something bad would happen. maybe my landlord would decide I had to move out and that would be "typical" life.
Recently got the bins ordered and I feel better, but nothing really has changed inside.
What do you do next, when you see the trauma and have a good idea of whats going on, and have talked about it?
It's all well and good to say I'm just a perceiving type and I need to work on my judging, but I sometimes think, this might not be going deep enough to address the underlying issues.
It seems if I can deal with that trauma, I might not have to try forcing judging over perceiving.
i welcome all ideas or similar experiences and solutions.
For me it mostly pops up as fear of getting caught, when will they catch up to me? A bit like imposter syndrom perhaps.
I mean, I know I didn't do it perfectly surely everybody else sees it to.
yes!
The problem in our society is that there is no balance between criticism and encouragement . As an infp I feel constantly fear . Sometimes , i hate myself for who I am and I don't appreciate things I am doing . I need help but I didn't find how , even if I discussed my problems to my family and some friends.
I have always felt we are not the most successful as the means to get ahead primarily involves taking advantage of other peoples which causes internal conflict. I've always struggled in the Capitalist environment for that reason.
damn really needed this video
You have us INFP pegged.
Iâm an INFP with depression and what you said is so accurate, like my fear is constantly holding me back and I always feel so inferior and incompetent it makes me hate myself even more. Anyway I figured that the only way to stop being so afraid of failure and criticism is to face it, to get out there and do things that are out of your comfort zone. For example I enrolled in a hip-hop class 2 years ago and while it was really hard Iâm slowly getting the hang of it with the help of my INTJ teacher(well he hasnât taken the test and he probably doesnât even know what mbti is but I assume he is INTJ) who told me that he went through something similar. Oh and sth irrelevant man you INFJs are awesome itâs a shame youâre the rarest type, my best friend is one and we are like sisters.
This type of thinking stopped me from being confident as a musician for soooo long and definitely still troubles me. My standard for myself is so far beyond what I'd ever hold anyone else to and it's kept me paralyzed. Now that I've been starting to come forward I've had such a positive response and I've really realized how ridiculous it is that I've been so shy for so long. Still a constant battle, though.
Omg I agree with this 100 percent
When assessing a situation, Fi doesn't want to cause conflict, Ne sees possibilities for conflict and failure, Si wants comfort, and Te is just unreliable.
I agree with Erik; fear is a huge obstacle for an INFP. Perhaps your beginnings , family life and early experiences in life could set you on a positive track or a negative, fear based track. That said, it seems this demon of fear has been with me from a very early age even in grammar school. Perhaps it is feeling different and not understanding that we see and perceive differently than others. Maybe not identifying this early and having those around us to then encourage us in who we are, uniquely created. Of course that is not realistic, but growing up in a very competitive world, and not dealing with stressful factors of performing, we can make poor decisions to cope setting us on a life course that makes for a difficult road in life instead of positive one that adds value and hope.
I fear both failure and success so... yeah, that's alot of fun...
"Hahaha wait what really??" đ
That profound quality is what I love about INFPs.
I think though overall they prefer the fantasy of success to the graft of reality.
Beautiful account of music/poetry etc. Is there a way we (as others) can nurture these precious talents?
in response to your question: yes - please send money đ
@@AS-jq4lb You'll only squander it - I wasn't born yesterday :p (INTJ).
@@bethanylowe8773 bah humbug đ
I feel a lot less like I'm afraid of failure as afraid of having wasted my time. I feel pretty sure I'm not actually as good at the things I'm good at as people think I am. I'm pretty sure I work exponentially harder just to achieve a decent job. I think if anyone else worked as hard as I do on my projects, they would have done it significantly better than I did.
It gets esyer as you get older we have to exept we are only humen you my fale a million times over its ok thats life you will dust yore self off and get back up the fear will hold you back and pervent you from movieing foreword its important to get out of yore stop thinking so much im 37 and trust me i know by now self loveđ and the understand ing of others and the humen raise âtruth live we all find that in are all time đ
You are NOT YOUR work you are NOT YOUR beliefs you are NOT YOUR thoughts and emotions.
you are one WHO HAS work, you are one WHO HAS beliefs, thoughts and emotions etcetera.
Me as an INFP scared to fart out because it would make noise.đ goes to another room and boomđ€Ł
Fear of failure vs self sabatage. If the others' sucess is my goal isn't failure to my advantage?
Does fear of failure stop INFPs from entering into relationship too? Is it a cause of ignoring their crushes? I am so attracted to INFP male and it seemed to be mutual until he suddenly became extremly shy and withdrawn. đđȘ
Iâm INFP and male. Relationships are not worth the hassle to me. Of course itâs not easy but life it too short the problems it causes. I would say INFP males are most likely to die never having a family.
@@MrInside20 Thank you for your time and response. I appreciate your openness.
It is hard for me to say because it is so many things at once. Even trying to progress into a relationship can be troublesome and they are constantly second guessing themselves because they have been burned before and are looking back on their past to gauge the situation with the present.
Another thing that can be really odd is that maybe what attracted you to them was that they were showing their more authentic self, and that self is rough. We know it is because we often feel like outsiders that fit nowhere. So when someone shows that attraction there could be putting up our walls once again to try to be a more idealized person but in turn being too reserved with showing who we actually are because we are too worried in making a misstep to ruin getting into or progressing the relationship.
Who knows what is going on in his head, the INFP is a day dreamer, so he probably ran many positive and negative scenarios in reaction to who he is or progressing into a relationship. It is hard to not think too much, trying to glean meanings from encounters and what the possibilities could be.
@@WPFreeinternet That was really so kind of you taking time to respond to me with such an insight. It makes sense. I am an ENFP the most introverted extrovert and can relate to some aspects you have mentioned here. He is my soulmate despite different approach we have, I can feel it. I hope if I stick around long enough he will take a risk and give us a chance. I know it could be long term wonderful relationship for eternity. I am a dreamer too đ
Absolutely.
What do you do for a living?
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im an infp but i am not shy i guess i overcomed that fear and i also dont daydream. am i the only one?
My whole conception was a happy little accident...
Erik a good video but I simply must point out that JAW and JOKE are not pronounced as if starting with Y but more a hard G sound
Do you know which country Erik is from? I mean Scandinavia for sure. But which one?
@@TheValwood sweden I think
đYou meant a soft g sound. Good and gravy have hard g sounds. Giraffe and and jaw and joke have soft g sounds.
Yeah. Just for the record. Us becoming more content with our ti, is not going to happen.
Feige Katarina i donât know how old you are but iâm 47 and my Ti is kicking in very nicely at this stage of my life. a lot better than my Te tbh đ
Why do you spend so much time figuring out INFPs? đ
@Derp Dee ...I don't need external validation. I am happy within myself. What do you say to that? You should agree with me I think.... Come on.. just say you agree! Please!!!
@@user-tf6vq9tz6b You INFPs are good the way you are
I don't like, nor agree, with the word "shy".
I think it's the wrong word to use.
There might not actually be a word to describe an INFP.
I can be super social and the life of the party.
I can also be the guy sitting in the corner making everyone go "dude, are you okay?"
It all depends on the day I was having.
The people I saw and spoke too
The people I'm with currently
Every little detail decides how I will be acting.
The quiet person factory setting that the INFP has is just us recharging.
Being shy is something entirely different.
Not saying we can't be shy.
But it's not a typical INFP thing, everyone that can feel shame, can be shy.
What INFP's do, well, that's something else entirely