Adrienne Opens Up About When She Knew It Was Time to Move On: ‘Your Presence Made Me Feel Alone'
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- čas přidán 9. 05. 2022
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"Single doesn't always mean lonely and in a relationship doesn't always mean happy" No truer words have ever been spoken 💯💖
someone tell jeanie nobody gaf about her dumb relationships in the past
That’s a word! Amen 🙏🏾 ❤️
I'm single now and it's the happiest I've ever been. People are so obsessed with this myth of love. It's propaganda to continue having babies.
Love this
@@aprilgarrett2596 I don't know if u remember the show Xena Warrior Princess. The character Callisto said the same thing. And she said, "And I want no part of it."
Adrienne’s relationship advice is always gold as she’s not afraid of being vulnerable and telling you exactly what it is. She tells you it’s hard she tells you it’s scary but she is living proof that in the end it’s all good. Like her life is such a testament that when she gives advice I LISTEN
Yes! And I love that she’s not afraid to tell the embarrassing stories from past relationships. Because no matter how embarrassing it was to experience….at the end of the day, there’s a lesson that she learned, and she wants to share that w/ the world 🙏🏾
Please don't cancel this show. It's the best talk show ever.
LOL GOOD ONE!
Right!
@@TheEndOfABloodline How's that funny😊 it is for some people maybe not for you but its your opinion whatever floats your boat🤷🏽♀🥴😁 I mean that in the nicest way possible no offence
Nah let it go!
@@alexandraanderson3988 Sorry about laughing about a totally relevant show that everyone should watch. This is definitely what an intelligent human being should feed themself to maintain their astuteness.
When Loni said, “I knew it wasn’t going nowhere when I slept with his brother,” I almost choked on my food! 😂😂😂
Then she said it’s a joke 😂😂 then when Adrianne said it loni goes it was good 😂😂
@@liguezv I definitely heard her say it was a joke but by then, it was too late for me to not cough!!! And what she said to Adrienne had me cracking up!! 😂😂😭😭🤣🤣🤣
@@aic0809 I can with loni she’s hilarious
Why did I cuss out his mama? 😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
Addreine was so deep, OMG I SWEAR SOME PPL MAKE ME FEEL LONLIER
TEARS!! IM LITERALLY IN IT RIGHT NOW!!!!!! Wow 😢
@@houseoffoxx4878 get put of it sis, it's not worth it
I felt that
You guys don’t understand how much I appreciate this show from the beginning of time.
I do, trust me. I'm going to miss them a lot 😢
@@Dala-sn5to ...Where are they going 🔎
@@NatoriLoisAngela that's their last season. The show has been canceled 😞
@@Dala-sn5to real life tears going out to the real 🥹
I'm still in denial tbh lol. Let's see what I've missed over the ages
Started watching this show when I was 14 and have been a dedicated viewer since then. Almost 10 years later and you all have helped me grow as a women so much. Came from a broken home and this show has been my escape and I’m so so grateful. Love you ladies!!
Has it been on for almost 10 years now???
SAME! They’ve been with me on my journey to adulthood. I love and appreciate them so much.
Same they’ve helped me a lot
this was so good. Grown women talking about grown issues with grown evaluations and advice. I love what this show has become. I'm sad to know it's wrapping up. I think you guys have really found something special. Maybe another network can pickup
I was w my ex bf for 24 years, left him 3 times went back & it was the same crap NO change from him to value me & our only one son, we were not his 1st priority, he took us for granted & didn't appreciate us. Never was a family man NO quality father son time. It's his loss how dad has no memories to look back @, was a neg relationship for many years I was f... Done!, left this man Jan 2013 & didn't look back. I had to be that strong 💪 woman to move forward. Many years wasted of my life, my happiness is more important peace & clarity. So ALL you women out their not to take crap from your other 1/2 have your dignity & self respect
I really hope so!
@@debbieechiribel1860 that’s the biggest loss to me is the TIME WASTED! The years I wasted, good years when I was young and beautiful and healthy and resilient…I wish I had valued myself more and cut the ties sooner. It took years for my heart to fully mend but almost immediately My life actually became brighter and more fulfilled. With better job opportunities etc
@@HH-gv8mx when we have gone thru the rough river & we asked ourselves when is this going to stop? theirs always happiness @ the end of the 🌈
@@debbieechiribel1860 🤗
If your peace leaves when they’re near you and returns when they’re away from you, that’s a sign from God. That’s how my ex made me feel.
I second that ! I just ended a 7 year relationship cause of that same reason. The minute he came around I felt on edge, irritable, empty and my peace literally left. When I was on my own I felt fine. That's when I knew he wasn't the one. That is one of the biggest signs God gives you.
Firstly, whoever is responsible for Garcelle’s entire look today, WELL DONE! Everything- hair, make-up, but especially the outfit- looks amaaazing together!
Back to the topic: as an introvert, I like spending time alone; I rarely feel lonely. So, if I feel lonely when I’m ~with~ you, you’ll soon be given your marching orders. You can’t be taking my precious energy without filling up my heart!
Wow! Well said 🙌🏼 thank you for this. I needed it.
A word!
I wish I could give him his marching orders but we live together and just signed a year long lease! Unfortunately in this economic climate I can’t afford to move out and actually NEED his help financially for rent and bills -> Everything, including the rent has doubled this year.
I am the exact same. My nr one criteria these days is that if Imma be with someone its gotta be someone whom I actually LIKE being around and spending my time with. I love being by myself and am nearly never bored; i love working to grow smarter, wiser and becoming more at peace with myself. If imma invite someone into my sacred little bubble, my inner world, and offer my precious time up to them, they are gonna have to be even greater company than I find my own company. I wont have nobody come disrupt my peace.
I’m going to miss The Real😭😭😭
I agree with Adrienne. Every time I dated a guy I always felt even more lonely with them because they are never emotionally there for me and I expect that, so I'm always let down and disappointed. I break up with them and feel so much better because at least I am not disappointed or expecting anything and just building myself up. Hope to one day find someone who doesn't make me feel worst and actually makes me feel better.
Give yourself the love you give to others. Find your worth inside and the rest will follow. Create a life you love. Find books on emotional intellegnce, self love, attachment anxiety, confidence etc whatever you struggle with. It will help you build the foundation you need to grow. Don't settle because of these current feelings. Figure them out then when you're ready the right man can be found once your not seeking love out of fear. Good luck be kind to yourself but also hold yourself accountable. Never too late to change .
The way I needed this ! Exactly what i'm going through right now, especially what Adrienne said.
" When you feel happier alone " the confirmation I needed.
Same. This is the sign I needed.
@Kaylin Carey I completely hear that sis, I pray for guidance and peace in your situation ❤️
Wow Adrienne, "your presence makes me feel more alone"...👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I needed this I’m currently leaving my marriage I felt like a single mom and my partner every time I’d bring up my loneliness hed say that’s not his problem but going through this divorce now I’m happier
Yes girl you deserve better. Go take back your life!
Friend, I don't know you, and only God knows your heart. But please, the advice on this video does not help our families remain strong. They are basing it off of "self seeking happiness", which is a fleeting emotion. In real life, kids need strong two parent homes, women and men need each other, women run out of options to find suitable mates the older we get, and being single in old age is sometimes unaffordable on a single person salary.
These women are rich women, and only one of them is single, and not by choice. Please get advice from a reliable source, I'm not saying you're making the wrong choice, I don’t know the situation. But these women are not for families, they are for "self", and they are unrealistic. In real life, we destroy our foundations and families by looking out for “ourselves only”. Humans, we are stronger as units. Please seek advice from people who have shown themselves respectful to families, not just the individual. God bless your family!!!
@@ineedya123 I agree
Hang in there... I was felt the same way In my marriage. Now I'm thriving without the dead weight. Choose your burden be at peace with the decision you make 💪.
I filed for an annulment today, after being. Married for 3 months. I’m not wasting years. I’m not. And I love him dearly and he is beautiful. But his Deamons I could never tackle for him. They came out full force once he knew he had me. And the woman my father raised couldn’t stay. The husband my mother told me I deserve, i wasn’t able to settle. Peoples tru colors show. And I’m at peace. I do love him dearly. He was the best. I’m sad. But I’m so proud of myself. I couldn’t stay knowing he stole my peace and was breaking down who my parents built. I just couldn’t. 🙏🏽❤️
@Roxanne B nothing will ever feel better or be good for you Long term as always respecting yourself and loving you enough to not let someone use your time. I really had to say “my dad would not be good with this”. And I am proud everyday I wake up. It physically hurts. It does. But I’m so proud of myself.
Adrienne is so authentic. Truly love and respect her. What a beautiful woman she is.
Adrienne,
TEARS!! IM LITERALLY IN IT RIGHT NOW!!!!!! Wow 😢 Happier when I’m Alone
But I’m comfortable in it! I’m Scared I’ll find worse in this Day and Time ain’t the same
@@houseoffoxx4878 lol I know that feeling or fear rather, that you could find worse.
I understand you when you say this!!! 💯
It was Garcelle's answers for me...she is imparting wisdom...she glows from the inside out and you can see it in her eyes.💯💖
She and Loni literally have the least depth...
This whole conversation was A WORD!!
Wow Adrienne...🔨 Relatable
I laughed sooooo hard when Loni made the joke about sleeping with his brother and nobody really got that it was a joke 😂😂😂
The walking on eggshells part is so relatable. I hope I'm not the only one in the past who has been afraid to speak my truth. But, in not doing so, you sacrifice your whole relationship or even friendship with a friend. Honesty will not break down a sturdy relationship/friendship. Now I know. What do you know now that you didn't know then? And love yourself for knowing it now, without the regret of not knowing it then.
Wow! This is so good. This really resonated with me!🙌
0:24 I agree. When you find yourself in any relationship whether it be love, friendship or with an associate, and you find yourselves trying over and over to make "it" work....just leave. Say goodbye and love them from a distance. It's the healthiest thing to do.
When I think of the relationships that fit into this category, it 100% of the time came down to poor communication and we didn't share the same morals and values. I'm not going to change just to keep them in my life and I know they aren't so....bye.😘
Preach Ade! I really going miss these ladies
Totally true... life is far too short. Leaving my toxic abusive relationship has been like a weight lifted off my shoulders and such a relief... this conversation has been so relatable ladies ❤
Good for you. You got this!
@@carmenblk440 ..thank you ❤
I cannot with loni 😂😂😂😂😂
I'm with Adrienne for sure, when they are in your presence and you are more lonely, than if they were not there.... that's the true tail. Leave ladies if you aren't yourself with them.. there is so much more out there, to include you. Be happy with you. 😊
Been there with my 1st husband. Awlful spouse. Good friend.
@@soriyazz same..
Great point Garcelle, "Singleness doesnt mean lonely, and a relationship doesn't always mean happy."👏🏽❤
I can relate to everything Adrienne said. I was in a relationship where I was doing everything I could just to please him, but I wasn’t making time for myself and he wasn’t giving me the same in return. And you can be constantly surrounded by people, but still feel completely alone.
Lonnie Love she's right happiness is very important in a relationship and your precious time
When my boss fired me 👀 😂 it felt like a weight was lifted. I thought I was gonna be stressed looking a for a job but I was actually relived and happy immediately after I read the email. I giggled and even teared a little. Everything worked out for the better too. **this was in reference to Lonis comment in the end btw**
Yes! Exactly, don’t be afraid to move on
Listen to your intuition it’s always right and also if your not happy leave both parties will be much happier. When I got separated from my kids father I waited 5 years to start dating again and Found and reunited with my high school sweetheart after 45 years now we just celebrated our 5 wedding anniversary I’m so happy and we are compatible, we can have normal conversations we get along lol, it’s a solid marriage. God bless our union.
This is why I am going to miss this show and ladies so much because they get so deep! You just connect with them on such a level that other shows fail to do.
When are they ending I just started watching recently so sad?
Oh Adrienne …. You’ve have said some words of wisdom 👍
Adrienne spoke my story..as well as Loni..I spent 15 yrs trying and trying
If I didn’t have to work or at least work from home, I WOULD BE TUNING IN LIVE TO WATCH YALL ON TV. Fortunately I able to watch snippets on CZcams and I’m so grateful for that bc I just love hearing these real a** conversations. You guys bring so much to the table it really is so sad to know it’s coming to an end😢 but I will be forever rooting for y’all in the end 🥳
Adrienne made a great point👏🏽. You can physically be sitting next to your partner and feel completely alone and sad. If that is not a sign things are going left, then what is mate. Life is too short to be miserable in your own space.
Don't be comfortable or settle easily.
Girl! Yesss. "Get that release." - Loni. And when Adrienne said, "I knew it was over when I realized I felt lonelier when you were around?" (paraphrasing), that hit me so deeply. Whew. Empowering conversation, Ladies.
Damnnn I felt what Adrienne was saying HARD. It was over for me with my ex of 5 years when I realized I'd rather sit at home watching podcasts than go out with him, like literally hearing other people's conversations were better than trying to have a conversation with him. The chemistry was completely gone but like Loni said I had been making excuses that I have invested 5 years why break up bla bla bla.
Adrienne's face when Loni made that joke!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
Adrianne thank you mija for never been afraid to show to anyone that you love Jesus our Lord and our Savior... blessings to you my dear sister.. I dont really know why they are cancelling the tv show but when one door close is because the good Lord have open another bigger and better..
I love these girl chats and I’m going to miss these ladies 💕🌸🌻 The Real needs to stay on for real!
Adrienne said a word right now!
As a get older I've realized being happy isn't anyone else's responsibility but mine. Choices indicate where I would rather be and I don't have to repeat past mistakes. Love set free even when it's not from it's advantage however difficult
I’m so on par with what these ladies are saying, I spent a whole year with some dude recently and I wasn’t seeing things going or evolving nowhere. Of course it’s sweet and nice to have that “relationship” label but if it’s empty inside it’s not worth it, called it quits rather than spending another year and probably still going nowhere.
I feel Loni, I haven’t even been married 2 years and I feel that sense of relief when I think about being free. I feel ashamed to take that step though, especially for my little one. I feel like I owe it to her to try to save the marriage and make it work.
You owe it to her to be happy mom!❤️Don’t be ashamed.Humans especially children are social contagions they feel when you are not happy and in turn absorb that negative energy.Wishing you the best.
I have been really sad and missing them and I really needed this today, so thank you
I have been in a friendship like this. When I feel bad around you. I’ve had some friends who were bullies. And the friendships were not good. It’s best to move on. I just put two women on block. I can not stomach them. When I think of them. I want to throw up. Today was the day to just move on. I had to block them because they won’t stop calling and here is the sad part. They care nothing for me and they were not good friends. The question is well why are you here and please stop calling me. My actions were clear in thst I didn’t don’t to be bothered. So I’ve got to block them
Growing up with a mother who suffered from postpartum depression and was in a marriage where she was giving love but didn't feel like she was recieving it i learned from her that my feelings need to matter and that i should never be afraid to express those feelings to my partner if i'm not feeling satisfied about where we are in the relationship. I definitely feel like if money and having a place to live weren't hurdles for my mom she definitely would have felt more comfortable with getting a divorce. She stayed married i think because she chose being comfortable over being happy. From when she was 22 till she died at 49 she spent her entire adult life with someone who she at times felt like wasn't treating her like she deserved to be. A lot of deep rooted insecurities had her feeling this way and it was sad to see
And speaking on Loni’s last point of getting that release…It’s so crazy how it can take SO LONG to get over that person, and it can be so hard to stay away from them. But when you finally get over them and are able to more on, it’s like you’ve never been happier. All that stress and anxiety and feeling horrible about yourself is just gone.
Damn "A"...smh
That was a WORD!!!
Yes Adrienne! Certain relationships with people actually make me feel lonelier. Shallow connections make me feel lonely. I prefer deeper genuine connections with reciprocity or just do my own thing. Until I can find those kindred spirits, I’m finally in a state that I’m not lonely just a loner enjoying the interactions but not needing all the relationships, if that makes sense. For example, I love going to a get together and enjoying the company in the moment but if I didn’t feel any genuine deeper connections, I’m not exchanging phone numbers just because.
This is so true … thanks for sharing .
I remember the times I felt lonely while I was with my ex. It was the most jarring paradox of my life. How could I be near someone physically yet feel so disconnected? It was perplexing and disheartening.
Loni is that ideal no judgement Auntie that you could go to with anything 😭 She might crack a joke, but she gone tell you like it is, forreal. I’d love to be besties with Adrienne, Jeannie, and Tam. She was so right that when you don’t look forward to their presence, feel weighed down when they come around, and like being along more than their company that’s REAL! The convo I needed today to stop going back. 😭
I don't want the show to end do a different network
Okay if this show is really ending y'all better give us a podcast.. I'm not joking here!
Ade♥️♥️♥️thank you, needed to hear this 👌
And Loni is absolutely right! If something doesn't feel right, don't stick it out longer than you need to by telling yourself what your feeling isn't valid or isn't real. A big part of life, I think, is knowing the difference between when we need to let go of things/leave the room, or put more effort and stick it out. We've gotta tap into our inner compass. Something's just aren't meant for us, and THAT doesn't make us inherently a bad person. Sometimes we just need to, and staying in that same "room" starts to suck the life-force out of us. It's a choice, and it's ours to make, no matter what anyone else says.
Needed to hear this right now! It didn’t feel right and I finally kicked him out
I really love Adrienne
I love your show. I can only watch CZcams clips because I am at work but your topics hit home every time. Thank you for all of the great laughs and insight. I will keep watching until the very end. Your awesome 👏
I (and I’m assuming other women as well) can relate to this! I literally just went through this not too long ago and what Loni said at the end… damn ain’t that REAL!
Shoutout to you ladies for always keeping it REAL with your stories and topics. You have no clue how this helps other women! Love y’all ❤❤
So true ❤
YES ,WHAT A RELEASE!!
I felt that Adrienne.
Life can be short, but u knw what life is usually looooonnggg. Longer than u expected.💝
I needed to hear this so bad. I was just dumped by my bf of 4 years. I tried so hard for him to love me the way I wanted him to, but he just didn’t. I always felt lonely in the presence of my boyfriend. Always walking on eggshells around him because of his temper. Always hurting because he wasn’t in love with me anymore and I knew it. I’m glad he decided to walk away because I would’ve spent the rest of my life trying to make the wrong person love me. I have a fear of being alone, but it’s better than being with the wrong man.
@Roxanne B I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You are strong and you did everything you could. There is a light at the end of the road. He may have said those mean things because he’s hurt which is definitely not okay. But try your best not to let that destroy you. You are beautiful and will get through this. You will be loved exactly how you deserve to be without hesitation ❤️
@Roxanne B at 23, you're too young to be in a bad relationship. No offense but a divorce might be better than being in an unhealthy relationship especially in your early 20s
@Roxanne B i'm so sorry for that. At 32 he is a grown adult, and he should just file it. I hope things get better for you.
Thank you Loni. You just made me realize something, and to make my final decision. Even though you made me crack in laughter making that decision 🤣😂😂😂🤣🤣
AH could not have explained it better. I lived though that in my marriage and it was a painful experience 😔
Loni is mad funny 😂
I relate to this so much. 💔
Wow!! Going through it now. It’s so hard
Whew, when their presence makes your feel lonelier is so real. When your walking on egg shells..I know that feeling and I’m so glad that relationship is over. These are dead give away signs that it’s time to get a trash bag and throw the whole dude away
Oh Loni your joke got me😂😂
So true
This was for meeeeeee today!
What can I do so they can keep this show going, please 🙏 😭
WHAT AM I GOANNA DO WITHOUT THIS SHOW😭😭😭 THESE MY BIG SISTERS!! ❤️🥺❤️💕
I feel the exact same way! Im gonna be searching their IGs and news and vids of them on CZcams, desperate for their good energy and wisdom 😂 ❤️
My beautiful sisters may you soon be blessed with miracles flooding your way of all kinds and leave you in tears of joy! Praying for your happiness, your sister from another mother, Zahra.
I love when A is honest!!! I went through the same exact thing where I was engaged to someone and I have never till this day felt more alone in a relationship then when I was with him. But because this was the 1st guy I've ever brought home that both sides of my family loved I stayed longer and it was such a waste of time and energy I will never do that to myself again.
Oh goodness, Loni's joke was my reality. I was dating a guy it was obvious that he was not about being monogamous, and his brother was. We dated for 5 ears then married, but we recently divorced, but we're still good friends.
Another one was I dated a guy and we told each other our deepest secret that no one knows. He told mine to his family because he was trying to get sympathy, but even through the betrayal, I still haven't told his.
Dang I needed to watch this.
Babies come when God knows you're ready! Jeannie is living her best life!!
People think that I am weird to say divorce was the best thing to ever happen to me....but it was, in so many ways.
100% true statements ladies.
Everything you hold on to must elevate you. If there are people or things in your life that bring you down, it’s up to you to disinvite them.
Wow... when you’re feeling lonely and the person who you’re in a relationship with makes you feel even more lonely by their sheer presence? That’s a definite sign to get out of it... I’m glad Adrienne shared that... that’s not a healthy relationship... I don’t even know what that is 😂
Adrienne's face when she made the "i done slept with brother"
You can't compare the Two. Friendship and Relationship. Friendship when you noticed there NEVER excited or happy about your successes. Relationships when you notice you are not there "Priority" Keep people in your life who make you feel loved.
Haha you funny Loni 🤣
Yes Loni!
I’m gonna miss you ladies 😭
I can completely relate to Adrienne, Iv been there 😞
You have to realize that there's a difference between "seasonal people," & permanent roots. Take inventory.-✌🏾️
💜💜💜💜
adrienne hit it on the nail