Flirting/Bantering has been a huge struggle in my life. On the rare occasions that I can pull it off with a few people(mainly co-workers or friends), It's the initial response but after that I was always clueless. I remember so many times where a woman was giving me shit or flirting and I just didn't know how to take it or how to respond and it would only be AFTER the conversation was over that it clicked. Sometimes even after, I didn't know what the hell just happened.
One day I went into a fancy Hotel Lobby, and got to the front desk guy. He was with a very pretty blonde girl. I asked him for the restroom. He very serious told me they don't have restrooms.......I should have got shocked for about five long seconds. Then he suddenly open smiled and said: just kidding they are that way. I was amazed and figured out why he had that girl interested. Now I undestand the dynamic
This clicked instantly for me. It was perfect the way you projected the energy with your voice to help understand the differences. Gave me the idea to record the presentations I’m giving at work in addition to what you mentioned, to have more practice at noticing
This is a really important video. Thanks Brian. I appreciate how you’re taking a subtle concept like “push / pull” and presenting it in an easy-to-understand (and implement) way!
the audiovisual of this videos are great, love the landscape background where brian walks, and the song of fearless in the end of the videos is amazing.greeting from argentina, thanks fearless family!!
Yes but u can build that over time. Just feel the tension on the small pushes and then take a little step up the tension scale each time. You will get there as long as ur consistent.
When i was in highschool somehow i created a lot of tension with this hot girl even though I was utterly not confident in my sexuality. I couldn't talk at the time but i was not serious nor heavy energy so i tried to compliment her but it came off as a "yeah i agree you don't look pretty today" comment, i was not meaning it as i said that(unintentional pull lol). She said something like "i know". After 5 sec i did a push with a follow up compliment she suddenly realized the tension between us then blushed while giggling i still remember how she went crazy over that one haha. So my answer is not always
@@dmax1 yup i had a similar experience in high school a friend of mine was teasing me in front of the hottest chick in school i teased back in a playful but solid way. She wouldn't stop staring at me after that lol.
I would argue the "you are trouble" the way you said it, is a sexual innuendo not a push. Demonstrates your sexual experience and confidence. It's a non verbal form of sexual escalation.
I understand it logically, but for the problem is that i don't have as much fun in life as i used to. Back then there were other times with alcohol. I just don't like laughing at stupid shit anymore with 40. Often i am to serious also in my curiosity and there is a push in it !
"if you're not having fun don't do it" - that's one of the many problems with me, NONE OF THIS IS FUN. i tried teasing a girl about 15 years ago and she cried
I was doing everything what Brian was telling but now my problem is I just having sex with a prostitute and now I don't know what to do or how I control my self from doing this...
Flirting/Bantering has been a huge struggle in my life. On the rare occasions that I can pull it off with a few people(mainly co-workers or friends), It's the initial response but after that I was always clueless. I remember so many times where a woman was giving me shit or flirting and I just didn't know how to take it or how to respond and it would only be AFTER the conversation was over that it clicked. Sometimes even after, I didn't know what the hell just happened.
Before I watch this masterpiece of a video i would like to say that I find your content so crucial and groundbreaking in these times...keep it up man.
One day I went into a fancy Hotel Lobby, and got to the front desk guy. He was with a very pretty blonde girl. I asked him for the restroom. He very serious told me they don't have restrooms.......I should have got shocked for about five long seconds. Then he suddenly open smiled and said: just kidding they are that way.
I was amazed and figured out why he had that girl interested. Now I undestand the dynamic
This clicked instantly for me. It was perfect the way you projected the energy with your voice to help understand the differences. Gave me the idea to record the presentations I’m giving at work in addition to what you mentioned, to have more practice at noticing
This is a really important video. Thanks Brian. I appreciate how you’re taking a subtle concept like “push / pull” and presenting it in an easy-to-understand (and implement) way!
Thanks for your support, Pierson. Glad to have you as part of the team.
Landon, TFM
the audiovisual of this videos are great, love the landscape background where brian walks, and the song of fearless in the end of the videos is amazing.greeting from argentina, thanks fearless family!!
A question to put out there: could you say that the more tension something creates, the more confidence it takes to say it?
Yes but u can build that over time. Just feel the tension on the small pushes and then take a little step up the tension scale each time. You will get there as long as ur consistent.
When i was in highschool somehow i created a lot of tension with this hot girl even though I was utterly not confident in my sexuality. I couldn't talk at the time but i was not serious nor heavy energy so i tried to compliment her but it came off as a "yeah i agree you don't look pretty today" comment, i was not meaning it as i said that(unintentional pull lol). She said something like "i know". After 5 sec i did a push with a follow up compliment she suddenly realized the tension between us then blushed while giggling i still remember how she went crazy over that one haha. So my answer is not always
@@dmax1 yup i had a similar experience in high school a friend of mine was teasing me in front of the hottest chick in school i teased back in a playful but solid way. She wouldn't stop staring at me after that lol.
I would argue the "you are trouble" the way you said it, is a sexual innuendo not a push. Demonstrates your sexual experience and confidence. It's a non verbal form of sexual escalation.
This guy is a jedi
I understand it logically, but for the problem is that i don't have as much fun in life as i used to.
Back then there were other times with alcohol. I just don't like laughing at stupid shit anymore with 40.
Often i am to serious also in my curiosity and there is a push in it !
"if you're not having fun don't do it" - that's one of the many problems with me, NONE OF THIS IS FUN.
i tried teasing a girl about 15 years ago and she cried
Man look at that BEUtiful Realestate ♥️♥️♥️
Nice.
Hey Brian. Do you drink alcohol?
He drinks moderately as a means of connecting with people. Personally, I don't drink and find I can connect just as easily.
Landon, TFM
I was doing everything what Brian was telling but now my problem is I just having sex with a prostitute and now I don't know what to do or how I control my self from doing this...
LOL!