[FULL STORY] My Sister and Her Husband Wanted to Throw My Parents Out of Their House So They Could..
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- čas přidán 21. 06. 2024
- My Sister and Her Husband Wanted to Throw My Parents Out of Their House So They Could Live Happily in It, but I Said No. Now I've Lost My Girlfriend and My Sister Won't Speak to Me. Aita?
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This man is a good son he sacrificed his relationship with his girlfriend and sister for his parents wishes w man
OP dodged a nuke 😅
His sister is selfish, self-centred and egoistic 😢. 😮😮
GF was a pawn of the sister. IDK what she was bribed with.
Nah, that wasn't a sacrifice, that was being smart and having a spine. If he had given in, his life would have continued this way.
bro didn't sacrifice anything, he cleaned out the garbage.
Eventhough i don't know this man i'm proud of him. Thank you for not abandoning your parents in their time of need. They need you son! All the talk about professionals being able to take care of them better is BS meant to manipulate you. Nobody could take better care of 2 people than their own flesh and blood that loves them.
What a man! Hats off to him ❤ I don’t understand how the sister didn’t even think about her parents while planning her wedding. The sister rly sounds entitled and doesn’t have any empathy for her parents.
Sister needs out of OPs life. No way should she stay, cut out that toxicity.
Dude should make sure his folks Will is updated and ironclad… wouldn’t be surprised if the sister tried to contest it regardless of how it’s split based on her father’s mental competence…
He seems like an amazing guy. The only advice I have is to not tell Emily about his feelings at all unless she confesses to feelings for him, or if/when she is no longer his parents nurse. Telling her this early into knowing her could be a bit creepy to her, and she may get in trouble if caught in a relationship that may affect her job, and I don't think it'd be good for your parents if Emily had to stop being their nurse.
This is exactly what I was thinking. If she doesn’t reciprocate his feelings it might make her feel uncomfortable, and many care agencies have policies against nurses being in relationship with family members of their patients so this could also pose a conflict of interest. If he tells her about his feelings she might have to be replaced by another caregiver.
I’m so happy he found a good person in the end. He is a good guy and deserves a good girl.
OP is the son you want
and know you don't deserve
Couldn’t have said it better.
The sister is stupid. She needed to understand that not everyone can spend the money and time for a destination wedding. OP dodged some nukes.
No no no she is smart. The sister is on the take. She just wanted to get rid of the parents and take their home. She is a nasty manipulative piece if work
You're not being selfish you can't go to the wedding because you have work and all that and you have to take care of your parents I'm glad you gave up your girlfriend and your relationship with your sister they were bad people anyway
It is more like the girlfriend gave up OP because she was drinking the sister's kool-aid
Lol, jokes gonna be on the sister when her parents leave the house to OP.
If your sister is wanting to kick them out, she should be the person who has to pay the full cost of the care facility
Go NC with the sister, when someone shows you who they really are believe them!!! When the Ex comes back, they always come back, don’t give her a chance to explain, just block her!!! She will blame the sister, hormones or whatever but don’t take her back and go NC!!! These are snakes and they will bite you!!!
His sister and her husband should , Should have bought their house. In the first place Trying
kick out they elderly parents' out of their own home😠 n also You deserve a better woman that can see his point of view
The fact that she said he was selfish is crazy he is the absolute opposite of selfish
Narcissistic sister is projecting her own selfishness onto OP. And she recruited people like the cousins and girlfriend to be her flying monkeys to harass OP. What a disgusting and vile woman. 😠
If OP was to put the parents in a care facility, the sister would not have received any inheritance, as, assuming that it’s the UK, the system will have not only used the parents’ savings first, but would have expected the family to help with their savings as well - plus any money that they have coming in - even if they get help from social services, the parents’ savings would be used first, then the home would be sold - so, having put the parents in the facility, they couldn’t live in the house as it would have had to be sold to pay for it!
NTA. Look out for those who looked out for you.
Definitely not the ahole. It's beyond rude to consider putting your folks in a home to quote "live your life".
If there is no other choice fine but it's rude af to try to put someone out of their home so you can take it.
Apart from that to put your folks in a home when there's a way not to is the worst kind of betrayal, when you use the argument "so you don't have to sacrifice your life and time for them" is even worse considering they sacrificed their youth to raise you and gave you all the love a parent does to their kids and you can't sacrifice a few years of yours to ensure they get to enjoy the last years of their life after all they did for you and let them enjoy the retirement they worked and planned and saved so hard for is beyond rude and verges on selfish maliciousness.
Definitely not the ahole.
NTA! OP'S THE CHAD!
He be dodging Nukes and bullets from all sides and still standing!
He is caring and logical Absolutely Nta
Sister sounds like she is they type to have a second wedding
Never stay with someone who give ultimatums
If the sister wanted her brother at her wedding so bad she wouldn't have had an expensive ass destination wedding 🤷♀️
My dad did the same with his parents, he hired a caregiver to watch them when he went to work. Mom supported him completely! You will find a good women who understands you and respects you. Good luck
Sarah is selfish and fumbled a gem. I hope OP can find someone better (maybe Emily?) to have a life with. When one door closes...
Why were Parents not invited.
Yeah way
Because it's out of the country. And they're not in the greatest health. It's in the video . smh
@GothicRose. Way to show that sis doesn't actually give a crap about her parents, she just wants the house!
That actually got me thinking, why wouldn’t OP’s sister invite her parents? Selfish ngl.
The sister may not be wrong about the facility, just because if you have to go to one eventually it is better to do it early (some do get violent as they get worse). But if it can be afforded it’s always better to keep the parents in their home and with a caregiver
The sister is the most selfish person ive heard of lately
OMG if i can get back one more day to be with my mom. i miss her so much.l l admire anyone dedicated to taking care of elderly parents.
She chose to fly away, to marry, she's the A hole, for expecting people to pay so much, for the thrill of her wedding. I can't understand Bridzillas, I just wanted a life with my man. I didn't need a circus, to start it.
This man is wonderful. He deserves better
What a bunch of waiters.
They're just waiting for the parents to die.
The sister got her own place she why would she continued like that
She is looking at the parent's home with just dollar signs.
Its okay that OP didn't attend, last month mut uncle got married with no one other than his wife's family side with him, we all called and attended online, i got dressed and he talked to us and explained how the wedding works.... it was AMAZING
All the distant relatives that suddenly begin harrassing the OPs of these stories makes them so unrealistic.
When members of family start aging out family from everywhere has a tendency to show up to see if there's anything that they can try and get out of it. I have seen it multiple times with close family of mine and friends whose parents are starting to deteriorate physically and mentally.
Opie there's a subset of lawyers who do nothing but geriatric law and protect the aged against abuse. I would look into getting your mother on board and hopefully your father will have a good day where he can participate in this. That way their wishes are put down. So if something inadvertently happens to you and you aren't able to take care of them for a short time, there is a plan in place for your parents. This will also more than likely deter your sister from sticking her nose in and stirring the pot. She could possibly depending on your state's laws be committing elder abuse by getting your father stirred up and upset. The fact that she's already interfered with one of your relationships to push her agenda means more than likely she will continue to do it. Get your parents a good lawyer. That way they get what they want and your sister can kick rocks if that's what they choose.
Naw, sadly that's all too common. My dad got a similar treatment having to look after my Grandma and my uncle whom had a second brain surgery. My grandpa sadly passed the day after my uncles surgery and the doctors told us to not tell my uncle about grandpa, and my grandma about my uncle for their health..
Our distant relatives then chewed into my dad for doing this. Irregardless of being told we had too.
Too this day my dad questions if he did the right thing. Eventually grandma sussed out something had happened to my uncle, and we told her about the surgery, and luckly my uncle recovered in time to attend my grandpa's funeral but god damn will I never consider distant realtives in a postive light again.
It's so sad this happens.
When my grandma had her last stay in the hospital prior to her death, my uncle and aunt convinced her that the best place for her was a home. My sister called in hysterics while I was at work. I said I'd handle it the next day, and handle it, I did. I made her voice what she actually wanted and told her we'd figure it out because she deserved to make her own choices and the family would deal with it or deal with my sister, dad, and I. Dad took care of her(he lived next door) til she died in her own home as she wanted. My sister was a cna at the time so she took care of personal care once a day but dad did everything else.
That isn’t selfish it is selfless because they are caring for there parents
He’s a great son, but his parents need to respect his life too. They probably didn’t envision him giving up having his own family to serve them.
If they did, they had children for the wrong reason. I don’t know any parent that doesn’t want their children independent, happy, healthy, and giving them grandchildren. I don’t get the feeling he’s happy with his life, only bound by a sense of duty.
Your parents* not only yours parents. she just wants the house
I can hardly wait to hear how this lost OP his GF . . .
.. you've been what people called "a good boy" - caring for your parents in their waning years
.. definitively NTA
.. the turn of events reminds me of the saying about the universe closing one door -- only to open another _( and he's still a good boy )_
If he were in Asia, this wouldn't be a issue at all as I still doesn't understand most of american and european countries concept of throwing parents out when they need you. In Asia, it is pretty common to stay with your parents till their end of time and even taking care of their finances.
Is it only me or does this Emily person look a major red flag. A tiny bit to sweet and caring.
Nope I don’t know about that. Isn’t South Korea for example facing its worst senior poverty situation at around 30 percent? With their children working long hours there’s no time for taking care of aging parents, also don’t want to know how it’s going to be in China with the generation of 4 grandparents, 2 parents and one working aged adult. Societies are changing. Now I must admit no clue about the situations in countries like Uzbekistan or Pakistan etc. But many issues are happening everywhere and people have to find solutions. I’m from Europe and all my grandparents stayed at home until the end. But that’s a luxury, because depending on health conditions, you need to be able to provide an environment that aging family members deserve and still remain as autonomous in as possible. My great aunt had to be put into a elderly facility cause she would leave the house in the middle of the night due to her Alzheimer’s. It was dangerous for her to be at home even with one of her children having moved back in. But at least one of her children and other family members visits daily. And honestly… she loves it there because she’s met more people in her age (she’s over 90)
I think this story could happen anywhere where people feel entitled to something which they are not. Whether it be like you mentioned Europe, the Americas but definitely also Asia or Africa. It just depends on the possibilities available and how individuals are behaving. Please remember, other areas of the world also have a culture of multigenerational living, with a sense of responsibility for older and younger generations.
Emily is a bit weird if she would mix her professional work with a romantic relationship. But there are some great home care nurses who check in regularly. They tend to become family if you see that they’re treating your family well and youre working together. So I don’t see a red flag in how she’s checking in but I’d see a red flag if she would say yes if OP were to pursue a relationship :)
This reminds me of my parents. After my great grandmother died, my dad’s grandparents gave their house to him (the house we currently live in) and in my great grandfathers last years he stayed in the room that is my room now. And they took care of him. And before you ask, their daughter (my grandma) was dead at the time. And I wasn’t born when this happened.
Nta but I understand the ex gf perspective too.
Sister a ah but a relationship with a partner takes time and energy.
Op seems to be doing his best and cares sm for his parents which is a great thing about him.
And I'm glad he took the advice to get professional help so he can have the free time.
Ex was right in a way he can't spend 24/7 on his parents care.
He still needs breaks and time for just him and potential partners too if he wanted to be in a relationship still while caring for his parents.
So I'm glad he realizing this and taking a step back he needs with the help his family deserve
Hope they're still going strong 💕
They really drifted apart in their toes
If she needed him to come to the wedding so bad then she shouldn’t of had a wedding so far away and practically try to guilt trip him into coming even though she was aware of his and his parents situation and I understand that it is her wedding but if she wants a wedding so far away that would undoubtedly be expensive for everyone attending then she shouldn’t expect everyone she wants to come to come
0:59 for ppl coming from the short!!!
actually you never know as my cousin met his 2nd wife while she was a hospice nurse for his stepfather
I understand that he wants to help out his parents and they need care all that but to sacrifice his own future completely thats not fair on him and it's also selfish from parents side but it's up to him.
I personally would like my kids to live their own lifes and be happy
I actually kinda agree with the sister in some ways, it’s obvious that OP is mega tied down with his parents and doesn’t really have any freedoms and it might be sad but i feel like at the end of the day his wellbeing is much more important than his parents but at the same time i don’t think it’s right to take the house and if OP really wants to take care of his parents then thats very good as well.
If you are talking about him not going to the wedding, it was already not easy to get to because of the location. he could not swing the costs and take the time off.
@@smsff7 no i understand why he can’t go to the wedding
I agree. I am in a similar situation. My dad needs care, and my brothers and I all live out of state. They expected me to take care of him since I am the girl, but I am unable to (and they don’t want to), so they’re saying that they are going to put him in a home. I wish I could help, but I can’t put my life on hold again (I did it when my mom was dying). OP is doing a great job, but I can definitely understand his sister’s side.
If anything any hope at mending things depends entirely on the sister.
15:44 you should take some time to think about it but honestly, I think Emily and you could go for it like maybe you should take some time you know get to know her more
Don’t fall for the hired help, she’s just doing her job and you can easily come off as a creep even just confessing your feelings. You are letting your loneliness and inability to meet females around your age due to your responsibilities get to you.
(Ik he won’t see this)
Nah just a Gaslighting stuff, after his sister went ahead to throw away their parents., cause him his breakup he is still hoping to reconcile with his sister... Better stay single and not ruin someone else life... Still his parents and sister are alive
R u Bailey Zimmerman he made a song called rock and a hard place
think imma start considering any story with Sarah as the gf or wife is fake. I know it's a common name but fuck man xd
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Ugh learn how to spell if you’re going to do these Reddit videos, some of us are partially deaf and need to be able to read it
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