Accepting You're Gay | My Acceptance Story
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- čas přidán 25. 08. 2024
- Hey guys, thanks for watching! I feel coming out and acceptance are two different terms, however they do go hand and hand. You need to accept and love yourself for who you are, never let society phase you. Be you, be happy, and live life. Most importantly never give up, there's always a reason to smile. :)
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Ideally, yes, you want to be able to accept yourself for who you are, to be happy and at peace with your gay feelings. -- But sometimes, you may not be to that point yet, and you still need to learn to accept and love yourself as a gay person. It is OK to love someone of the same sex. It's OK for you to want and need emotional and yes, physical / sexual love with the same sex. All those things, including the spiritual side to it, are involved in genuine love. -- Those first feelings can be confusing and difficult to figure out. For instance, where does that boundary of good friendship. go, and does that blur into the sexual or other aspects of love for someone? When you are first getting those feelings, at the same age most other (straight) kids get them, it might be more obvious to them that they like a person of the opposite sex. But your feelings may blur between extra intense friendship and those budding sexual feelings too. -- But eventually, something is going to clue you in that you like them tat way too. And somewhere in there, you have to figure out if you can talk to a friend about it, or if they'd like you that way, and, well, that is not easy to deal with, always. -- If you are very lucky and they like you too, or are curious enough to experiment, yay! Good for you both. But if not, getting over that crush can be tough. -- Feeling bad for liking someone of the same sex, well, that is rough. But surveys say that as many as 1/3 of all guys will do something with another guy at least once in their lifetime, and somewhere between 5% to 10% would prefer a same-sex partner exclusively, if they had the choice. For it to be that high means it is not so uncommon or weird, it is just that our society is homophobic about it. -- And oh, do I wish my crushes had liked me back, or some friend had ben OK to talk to, or that some friend had loved me so much, that he could've got past my insecurities enough to show me he really liked and loved me that much, or at least to have those first good experiences, instead of negative ones, whether mediocre or really bad. My first awareness of those feelings was at 11, and my first two major crushes were at 14 and 15. If friendly boys had gotten through to me then or later, oh, it would have helped so much. I knew how I felt, but didn't know anyone to talk to. There were fumbling attempts to, but those didn't work out plus, there was bullying and other negatives. I wonder how different my life would have been if some friend could have gotten through to me back then, sooner.
This was beyond beautiful and so true. In all honestly becoming your true self is a huge process and once you stop caring what others think of you the happier you will be. Sometimes you have to cut people out even ones you love but that sadly something you have to do in order to be authentic yourself. If they truly love you they will stay. Who should make videos about your experiences, I’m sure it would help others who feel the same. 😊
Your awesome John . Super inspirational 😀⭐️
Thank you so much! :)
dude this is the same exact thing for me I fell in love with my friend but I can't tell him or my friends I'm terrified