Why Twin Flames Don't Have Children Together
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- čas přidán 11. 06. 2024
- Why don't Twin Flames have kids together? In this video, correlating to last week's video on children in the Soul Family, I explain why Twin Flames cannot have children together.
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Dont believe everything you hear..believe your intuition .tf journey is unique and different from each other .❤❤
I've had multiple signs and downloads about having twins with my DM and several sources say that TFs can have babies together; just that it's less common. Not that it doesn't happen. I don't agree with her making a video like this with a sense of absolutism that contradictis so many other sources . I just hope she was well meaning with this video and I see it as an important reminder for us TFs to look within for the answers, to trust our intuition, to listen to the stillness. @@Crl.aa_set
@@Crl.aa_setno many people think they met their twin flames but in reality they have a karmic relationship that they want to seem it’s special
@@Crl.aa_setbabe the ‘runner’ is usually every man, many men came back to my life to see if I’m willing to take them back it’s not soulmates , karmic, tf it’s just men being men. They love to have options to choose from. Women just want to make it special as an excuse to stay or keep entertaining a karmic but that does so much damage. This is why many people don’t like to talk about twin flames because it confuses people and makes them stay in toxic situations , basically all being in their head
@@Crl.aa_set I don’t speak your language
@@Crl.aa_set theres no need to be rude or butthurt, its a fact babe. I do believe but its rare thats why I said many don’t like to talk about twin flames because then people misunderstand and confuse themselves. And I do know about it that’s why im commenting ☺️ twin flames don’t cause pain to each other neither is it so complicated like many people are in the comment section. Aim for soulmates they’re so much better and healthier for the soul. Bye ✌🏼
Well I have been on the twin flame journey for 6 years now and we have 2 children together. So this is simply untrue🤷♀️
A huge part of our mission here is to restructure the family unit, including how children are raised. And no, It's not a soul mate connection, just to save you the time of contemplating that.
I HAD A CHILD WITH MY TWIN FLAME 😂😂😂😂😂
Seeing a lot of very triggered egos, I'm sorry for those of you who are feeling badly about this message. I'm very new to this topic and not really sure I'm even on a TF journey, but as far as I can tell, this isn't a very "romantic, happily ever after" type journey at all. As a Mother of three prior to meeting my potential TF, I feel that this type of connection between Twins seems truly detrimental to children who need so much from their parents. The child becomes the priority or at least should be IMO...This journey seems all about the self, there doesn't seem to be much room for little hearts and souls. I truly hope all of you who are yearning for little ones with your loves are granted the experience, I also hope you are not on TF journeys as defined by Alexx, because children deserve so much more than a parent on a journey of self-realization, experiencing ego degradation, separation and all the other lessons that come for those on this path.
This journey is all about the big I, not the little i. The self this journey is about is happy to prioritise mumming before fitting in a bit of ego death, shadow work ❤
I think what twinflame journey really teaches you is to follow and honor your own individual path, learning to trust where universe is guiding you, and no it's not egoist to raise someone with the healthy love that you and your twinflame has attained. We as twinflames have our own purpose in life and we must learn to follow our own inner guidance to fulfill that, rather than listening to people on internet. We learn to come into our soul and that means we open ourselves to any possibility or dreams. Twinflame journey is the hardest but it also teaches you to live your life with an open heart.
So I'm sorry but twinflames wanting a happily ever after is not egoist,
because I believe if God is guiding us to union with our twinflame and to raise a healthily loving family with them then it does have a purpose, honor that.
I am currently pregnant with my twin flame x
YAAAAY Congrats 🩷🩷
Is he running?
Amazing
You're giving birth to your TF?
@@minuit6305 the result of the love she feels with twin flame. A product of that
whatever this might be my ego speaking, but i’m choosing to disagree.
I find it hard to believe that it’s the ego that wants to have children as an attachment to each other? that sounds pretty toxic to me.
I believe having children is an extension of your love and your bond. Having the opportunity to heal like that during a twin flame journey, and creating from that love together, that to me sounds like a beautiful and healthy way of raising a child.
Beautifully said
Exactly on the same page here ❤️ such a beautiful love to create from and believe these children are so much happier and feel so much more loved as a byproduct of this union because they experience and are mirrored this powerful love of the union that made them. 😊 Not to say they are loved less if not born out of a twin flame union but I believe they have a difference confidence in the world and a stronger belief in love and family and union which makes them happier and to feel more love in themselves.
I agree. Often times, the divine feminine heals from abandonment wounds/feeling unworthy because of their dynamic with one or both parents. I, for example, had a narcissistic mother and grew up never feeling lovable or good enough. My twin triggered all these wounds which I now have healed and I feel that my purpose in this lifetime is to be a mother, the type of mother I wish I had. This is what a 'transitional character' in a lineage does. They refuse to pass on the pain that was inflicted on them and subsequently put a stop to generational trauma. Who better to have children with other than my twin with the unconditional love that we have for each other?
Thank you so much for saying this. Having children is NOT egoic. Children are an extension of the parents connection. Creating life is NOT egoic. It is an honor as human beings to create, the masculine and feminine coming together, and uniting to raise their children the best they can to elevate the planet going forward. Being a parent is not easy, and it is a duty that mature couples can take together.
The whole premise of this video is 'having children is egoic'. Excuse my language but I call bs. Sure, do some people have children to fill some kind of void in themselves? Yes. Do some people have children with their partner to force their partner to stay? Yes. However, not everyone is like this. Especially not healed twin flames! For some people, having children comes from a place of love, of giving. What this planet really needs is healing and what better way than to stop the type of parental trauma we have been subjected to? Stay away from 'spiritual' beings who have a disdain for humanity. Trust your journey and trust your pure intentions in your heart when you do decide to have children or not.
Is this not “ego” of this channel to declare that twin flames never have children.
So true. Nothing is set in stone
I was thinking the same thing
I agree with just about everything here, except any absolutes.. but she did say 90% at the end, to be fair. 😊 "always" and "never" to me are just duality.. another clever egoic disguise. I do see the point behind the words though. If you want to have children for egoic reasons, it's probably not going to happen.. or it's going to with someone else. But I could see it happening if it's part of the experience your soul (higher self) wants to have. For instance, if the twin and all the other soul family members didn't instill the lessons that having a child together may instill. Don't let the fact it might be possible give your ego hope that it will.. I agree with her there, it won't if that's what it's about.
😂 no it’s not true I’m sorry but I really do talk with the spiritual guides I post it on my page not for money likes only to wake people up to the truth and the truth is not everyone is on the twin flame journey and the ones who truly are understand the true person and the true twin flames definitely be the right ones to bring a child into the world because of the true and full meaning of unconditional love to pass down to their child
@tamikagates what a load of rubbish!!!! This journey is far more than bringing a child jnto the world, it is about connection to source, it is about changing the way people see the connection, it is about balancing male and female polarities, it is about having peace here on planet earth!! Of course some will go on to have children, but this is not a quick 3d romance that naturally leads to a marriage and children straight away!!! That is a soulmate love!! This journey is about coming into self, self awareness, this the souls journey to finding personal power and freedom from within, nothing to do with creating a family!!! That may come at a later date if you reach inner union to get to that outer union .
Not meaning to offend anyone here but many people think they're on a twin flame journey when theyre not. If you dont have doubts on this journey it says to me its a soulmate connection or karmic and its ego telling you youre 💯 sure 💫
We all go through doubt on this journey
Talk about doubt.... Sometimes I doubt there is anything called a " twin flame ". I think maybe it's some " New Age make believe ". Lol.😂
@@Flufero23 well it's not!! The energetics are very real and only a person not on the journey would come out with a comment like that. Unless you've felt it and experienced it you don't know it x
@Flufero23 I've felt the same way at times 😂
@@PatriciaSmith-bb1tq absolutely. It's not a journey you can think you're on. You know because you feel it in every core of your existence from simple things when they're thinking about you to feeling when they're having sex 🤦🤯(sometimes) It's not a connection you can know with your mind just because of visions, dreams, seeing numbers or their name.
Once I met my twin I had several strong and vivid visions of us having a daughter together. These visions have appeared both while together and while in separation. I’ve seen her and him at many stages over the coming years. When I fear that it will never happen, my twin runs, when I fully accept the visions, my twin comes back in. When I refuse to believe it my energy is blocked, when I do believe it my energy flows. Though I agree with the egoic concept, I sense there is a missing piece here…
YESS!! I am sooo glad I finally hear another story about this experience. This means a lot to me, thank you for sharing. I know I will have a son with my TF. And the soul of our son is since 6 months with me, guiding me through everything. It's magical and I know my TF feels it too.
Same. I also keep having visions of a daughter together. ❤️
WOWWWWWWW. I wonder why is this? My twin keeps telling me that he wants to have a daughter with me. And I keep sensing a little girl spirit. I dreamt of her once. But I have an urge to have a baby with him but I do not want it.
Same here. I feel her and my purpose as TFs is to have a daughter and that doing so will clear out any remaining generational trauma we both have (final clearing of karma that we're already aware of) and create a child of pure love to emanate unconditional love into the world and help heal it. I never wanted children before I met my TF (and I'd already been married for 18 years), but I feel this is part of our path. 🙏
@@paulskalleberg I’m 40, and though I always thought I would have children it just never happened for me. I didn’t want kids with the man I was in an 11 year relationship with, it just never felt right. I had toyed with the idea of having children on my own though. But once I met my twin flame the visions started, they were very clear and strong. Though I questioned the first few, when they kept happening to the point where it was like I was actually living in those moments, I couldn’t deny it anymore. It’s part of our path… it’s easy to say it’s an egoic concept but from my experiences on the journey I simply cannot discredit what I keep being shown. I’m being shown it for a reason and I know it in the depths of my soul.
I recently met my twin, both of us have been married previously and neither of us have children nor any such desire to bring another fractal soul into this very unpleasant realm.
This is a definite sign for me. I have not been watching content or as intentionally engaged with the journey for quite awhile now. I've reached a place of peace and feel like myself again, but better. New and improved and calmer than I've ever felt in my life. Anyway, in the past I would sometimes think what if we were supposed to have a baby and we never did. And today my head just said "we would be enough" out of nowhere and I just casually realized that we weren't supposed to have a baby, thats not our purpose and who we are in this space
I think its really dangerous that you are speaking as an all knowing authority when you know just about as much as the rest of us. You are asking ppl to trust you above themselves and their own guidance which contradicts the point of this journey.
I've never spoken as an all-knowing authority. In fact, in many of my videos I've told people to stop watching me if I don't resonate with them. However, if you'd like to know more about my knowledge, you can watch my video "We are the same: a bit about me"
@@wearethesamenergy there is nothing you can tell me that would be evidence that your knowledge is more priviledged or accurate than the information available to all of us.
Its one thing to offer guidance, its very different to declare an opinion as fact. It is your OPINION that TFs "never" have kids. And since we cant prove that anyone is a TF, it is manipulative.
You dont get to invalidate other people's experience because it contradicts what you want to believe.
Though some ppl may use the label and not truly be TFs, we dont actually know for sure who is one. So declaring that if someone has kids with someone else the coparent cant possibly be their TF id manipulative because there is no way to prove that.
It is absolutely unfair for you to declare something to be a fact that would apply to others, denying them their own self-knowledge, guidance, and experience just because it contradicts what YOU believe.
In a Universe of infinite possibility where we are here to expand what is possible, declaring something to be impossible soley based on YOUR OWN BELIEF, contradicts the purpose of life.
We didnt come here for one specific universally applicable dynamic. We came here to BREAK NORMS, and BREAK THRU LIMITATIONS.
You should take this video down.
The essence of what Alexx, is conveying is that twin flames do not mean to generate new traumas together, rather their interaction serves to bring to the surface preexisting emotional wounds.
But if you still want to have a child with this person, nothing stops you to do so..
False I’m so sorry but that is false one of the problems is people fully don’t understand what and why a twin flame exists it the reason is because everyone isn’t a twin flame so they don’t understand they may want to be and even may think they are but it you are not connected to 4d or 5d you truly full don’t understand twin flames are made to break the cycle we were chosen because we fully understand oneness of humanity we were put in place to experience things within in the bloodline to break the cycle like war , racism, poverty, we understand that race don’t exist there is not culture and each culture is a puzzle piece is connected to one big picture which is unconditional love on all counts so the real twin flames would be the best people to have kids. And I got this information from my spiritual guides that are in my profile pics and the ones that have on video on my page
Very well said ❤
Yes you’re right I came out of a karmic situation 2 years ago just met my twin physically last year after ghosting her some years ago because it was something about her I didn’t understand but now we have a kid together & she ghosted me a month or so before the due date saying I played with her feelings which ik I triggered her on many occasions I accept my wrongs but she’s been running from me since I should’ve been better but I can’t control the situation anymore so I’m just working on myself and hoping soon I can see my daughter and twin it sucks getting hurt by the one you care about 😩
Then the title she used is misleading. What good comes out of being misleading?
Yes that’s us. 🙌 We have a blended family and raising kiddos that are each others. Both healing family lines and stop patterns. I can see your point of view. Thanks 😊
Thank you for yet another confirmation of what I already knew on a soul level ❤
People don’t realize that high level karmic soulmates can act in VERY similar ways as TFs with the back and forth energy. If I had come across TF info while I was with my high level karmic soulmate ex, I would’ve thought for sure he was my twin from the info out there. I also innately knew I didn’t want children from a young age, as my first spiritual awakening was at 14. Esoterics have been my number one passion since. And yes, starseeds/lightworkers on a mission in this lifetime typically don’t want children, because of the karma it incurs. Thank you 🙏🏻💕✨
I met mines before I met my twin she told me god sent her in my life to teach me a lesson and when I say my love life haven’t been the same since & now I’m going through a twin flame separation currently while we have a newborn together ig I waited to let go of the past and focus on just us & now I’m looking and feeling crazy knowing I was hanging on to my karmic cycles which I broke her trust 🤦🏾♂️
Remember, people: EVERYTHING that’s said out there about TFs is JUST OPINION! Don’t take anything for facts. Some people on social media will talk about TFs like they’re experts on the subject. There’s no such thing as an expert on TFs. TFs themselves don’t really know anything for sure.
Don’t listen to a video like this and just believe what you hear. It’s just someone’s opinion. Create your own opinion and challenge anything you hear that doesn’t sit right with you.
Nobody knows anything for sure. People spread a lot of misinformation! Reject anything that doesn’t sit well with you. And don’t ask IF you’re a TF or not. If you have to ask, you are NOT. TFs know beyond any doubt. ✌🏻
I commented the same and my commnet was deleted
Absolutely! Had never seen this woman before and i nearly piuck listening to this bullshit. Poor her she better b protected (as true TF are.) And a true TF would never just go out there and spread this kind of BS as absolute truth. Such pathetic people out there….who even watches her 😅
Sitting right here watching this video, fully understanding what you are saying, being in seperation again, finally experiencing Inner Union, while also knowing I will have a son with my TF. Since the activation of our soul (I was 24, he was only 22), I'm having these visions about our child, and he also told me in different ways (without me telling my experiences of our 'future' child) how he longs for having a child with me. Too afraid to commit to me, because he knows that once he does, he would want this child immediately and 'doesn't feel ready' to be a dad. I know you will say these are stories of the ego. But I trust on what my soul is showing and telling me. It's just a deeeep knowing, I don't doubt it at all 🤷♀The visions also show me very clearly we will raise our son together.
Could these visions be your inner child as in both of your inner child as you are one of you are twin flames?
@@markanthony2258 visions like giving birth to our son, walking in the park with the 3 of us and visions of the exact appartment where I will give birth aka where I live now since April? The precense of the soul of our son is with me now 😊
@@evacoudyser then maybe he's not your twin but soulmate? And also visions like dreams are not always to be taken as they are....just like bible stories they're allegorical descriptions of who we are as souls not real events. I'm not saying you're not on a twin flame journey but alot think they are which is a sure fire way of telling that they're not. Take care and have a blessed life regardless.
I know what a soulmate and karmic feels like and I can tell you he is not 😂After 2 years of separations and reunions, doubts about him and about my visions, I know for SURE what I'm feeling and what our connection is. I don't like the label twin flame, but it is what it is.. I let go of the stories my ego tell me about all these experiences and am in Soul, which brings me back into knowing what I feel 👁Anyways, thanks for your input!
I’ve also had visions of my daughters birth. In my visions I’m always myself looking at them both and experiencing the exact emotions of the moment as if I’m there in that moment. In my visions it’s always the 3 of us, I am not our daughter. I’ve had many premonitions throughout my life but this is different, it’s intense, it’s real and I’m continuously shown that I must believe it. He is also 100% my TF.
I also believe that karma and quantum physics play a role but not necessarily as karma is explained here. But it’s still an interesting perspective nonetheless…
Totally agreed 💯...bcoz already if u hve children before meeting ur twin flame n u r acting as single parent it simply means u hve overcome many hurdles in ur life n now on a much stable n higher frequency bcoz ur children teach u soo much patience n affection n compassionate for others as well n now u tend to think as a nurturer n not just a simple normal being n it all requires to handle ur twinflame journey with much ease..❤️❤️
I know about twinflames who have children together....everything is possible.
Thinking a lot about this and it's reminding me of the video were Alexx says about how narcissists can't be a twin because the chaser wouldn't be able to cope with the lack of self awareness & inability to have oneness from the runner.
In a similar way when I think of how difficult it is when running and separation happen & intense triggering from each twin. The idea of a child watching their parents go through the ups and downs of that dynamic would be traumatic and the kid wouldn't be able to understand it (think how difficult it is for us to get it with it happens).
I wish more people could have a twin connection because the world needs it but wouldn't want my own child to be anywhere near that intense pain both parents would feel when triggering happens. So it makes sense twins focus on their relationship
Twins can´t be narcissists because they embody divine love for each other. A narcissist is the opposite of this as they embody lack of love. It´s not the lack of the runners´s self awareness, because often they are unaware in the beginning. But energy doesn´t lie that´s why it´s not important for the "chaser". The chaser are also unaware and in their ego although they are more spiritual.
Most twins don´t have children together but you can of course have a child with another person and meet your tf. That´s also difficult even in separation. Most twins meet and then part very quickly, there is not much of a relationship going on. Twin flames having kids together would also mean and is only possible if both have healed their pain bodies. After acension the triggering will not be the same as before, that´s why you go through this
@@danalana111I was highly narcissistic as a DF before awakening. DM still is.
@@alchemicalsoul It probably depends on how you define that word. Egoistic yes, but narcissistic no. Real narcissists don´t ascend in the same lifetime...never. They are abusive and manipulative. It´s the lowest vibration you can have. It´s the complete opposite of love.
The runner behavior which might look narcissistic doesn´t have anything to do with real narcissism. It´s both rooted in trauma but narcissism is due to lack of growth at a soul level. Twins are "advanced" souls (which means they are not better, they just have more experience), they are the opposite of a narcissist. So in view of ascension this makes no sense at all
Ok this makes sense. It really does. I've had all my children before meeting him, and now just want to focus on raising myself at this point in my life. 😅
I actually didn't watch the last video because I don't have or want children 😂 and thought it wasn't for me but I watched both. Wow. They're spot on! I have children in my life through family and the karmic lessons are brutal, possibly more scary than twin flame ego stuff. Loved that you said it's always old lessons too. ❤
The ego and karmic lessons go together because of the ego wether it’s fragile or strong to the surface is what plays a major role in us creating our karma or dwelling in it until we heal, accept and let go to free ourselves from ourselves lol which is the ego
Thank you for this video. I’m someone that met my TF 10 years ago, moved on after he ran multiple times, and then met my now husband and have 2 kids. I’ve always had this inclination that my kids were out on this earth to teach me something even greater. It was actually after I had my son that I had my first Dark Night of the Soul experience. I remember being with my TW at the age of 19, taking a pregnancy test in utter fear. It was negative of course. Its all taking me back…
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I got a huge 😂 at the "ego urinating on the tree". OMG! That was rich.
One thing everyone should remember is that "outlines" are not definite. Everyone's journey is different and to tell the universe it can't is contradictory to life manifesting how it chooses. Children are not always karmatic. It has to do with so so much more and you can have kids and not need to reincarnate again just as you can not have kids and still need to reincarnate again. Please allow your own intuition guide you because everything expands and evolves including perspective of the universe. This is just one perspective so take it as it resonates ❤
So is not wanting children in this life time also connected to being on a twinflame journey? I’ve never wanted a kid ever since I could remember and I’ve been on this journey for almost 6 years since I was 16. Everyone says I will change my mind about how I few parenthood, but I literally cannot see myself with kids.
And do not feel pressured to procreate this time, the societal pressures are a bit much, stay true to your heart and journey 💗
@samanthacringe7123 No, they're not necessarily connected.
Children are expensive so cult leaders don't wan't you to have them so you can spend all your money on the cult.
Children are also a danger to cults because parents often start feeling natural maternal/paternal/family feelings and wake up from all this cosmic/carmic/newage bs.
This is completely a characteristic with my TF situation. I haven’t heard of this as being common to the TF journey. I’m stunned! 😮 Ironically, while we literally can’t have kids at this point in our lives, she makes me want kids (with her) in a way I have never felt with anyone else.
I had his baby and he ran while I was in labor.. he looks just like him so I am constantly reminded of him.
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As much as people dont want to hear this, you are absolutely correct!
My twin and I had a child together and when we are in separation it is hard
I have two grown sons from a previous union, and my TF and I met late in life so having children together was not a possibility. I would have loved to have this experience with him, although tbh the intensity and separation cycles in our connection do not create a stable environment. I’m happy there are no children in the mix. Thank you Alex 💜
wtf? so you’re saying i’m not gonna have children if i choose to end up with my twin flame?
wtf
No, I'm not saying that.
I watched this video yesterday and reflected on it, and this morning during meditation I got this download from my guide:
A lot of what Alexx says here is true for many twin flames. However, there are different waves of twin flames that come with different set of intentions. What Alexx is saying here is true for the 1st wave of twins that meet later in life.
For 2nd and 3rd waves of twins that meet quite earlier in life (in their 20s or for some 3rd waves even their late teens) this is no longer necessarily true. Here’s why:
1. The older twins came with the intention of taking on more karma and working through them, therefore meeting their twins later in life. The waves of twins that meet at a younger age have less karmic loads to work through, although still significant.
2. As Alexx says in other videos, you can still be healing yourselves after union. Which means you can still work through some karmic lessons with your children with your twin.
3. While children has been mostly karmic up until recently, as the Earth ascends its frequency from 3D to 5D, Earth will no longer be a planet where souls incarnate for the purpose of working through their karma, as karma simply will no longer resonate with the new Earth frequency. So many younger twins have intended to start a new generational cycle where parent-child relationship does not carry karmic load or is based on anxious attachment, but rather non-attached unconditional love.
There you go. Whatever wave you belong to, what you’re doing is incredibly helpful for the collective. I love you all, and I thank Alexx for starting the conversation.
Ps.
A lot of twin flame couples report having late term miscarriages. It’s because the child’s vibration is a lot higher than what the mother’s body is ready for, so the baby abort themselves to protect the mother. Doesn’t mean you’re not meant to have a child with your twin. Doesn’t mean they’re gone, they can come back in another pregnancy when the mother’s more ready. Doesn’t mean you have to keep trying if it’s too painful-they’ll find another couple to birth them if you exercise your free will to stop trying. Whether you want to keep trying or not, it means that it will be much lighter for your own body to keep releasing heavy thought forms that no longer belong to you. Love to you all.
If everything is the same, then why could you have a child with person A and not with person B - no matter what you call it? 🤔 Also for me personally - I’ve read/seen so much regarding TF including your book. It’s not that I ‘want’ to be in a TF connection, but I’ve got all the signs of a TF connection. Separation after 6-8 weeks, random declarations of love during this period, huge ego degradation/dark night of the soul after break-up, telepathy, feeling his presence when I wake up etc. In my case, I’ve always wanted children and my TF as well. He even mentioned having children together several times. Also, we are both still young - 30 and 31 (we met when we were 26 and 27). So my question is: how can we know that TF aren’t able to create children? Perhaps it is good for children to be born with less karma. Also, how can we really know karma exists? Is this concept of reward/punishment also not born out of duality? 🤔
Karma is a subjective and Egoic concept. I talk about this in my video "What is Karma?" So no one is born with Karma
Is induism your religion?why you should believe in karma? You shoudnt even use the word.
Dont even worry about it, like the sin, i dont think exist.
Some of the comments. People are getting so upset. You're not listening to the content of what she is saying
She is not saying the truth she doesnt know it . And you just cant replay with “its your ego that speaks”
Wow!!! How beautifully explained🙏
I really needed to know this.
Thank you so much dear Alex🙏
Wow, this message triggered so many egos 🙏✨ and I'm sure it leads to a quantum leap to so many souls on their journey
Has it triggered egos or has it triggers ppl BS meters.
I just wrote a post exactly the same about how it triggered so many egos I find that interesting
@@noahalexander26 🙏 We are all the same and connected
Your comment is of ego and so is absolutist thinking. People speaking on their inner knowing and other sources which contradicts this video isn't automatically ego based.
It's ego based to assume that others are triggered and not just simply stating that the video contradicts their own sources. It's of ego to make her video the ultimate truth.
One of my biggest lessons is to stop ignoring my intuition, my inner knowing...and therefore I'm not going to allow anyone nor anything gaslight what truths are within.
It is very likely that you and your TF aren't meant to have children together but that doesn't mean it's the case for everyone.
@@ceridwynnhaven6236 thanks for your comment. I resonate with everyones journey is individual. With triggering I meant that some egos where shaken up and that was the purpose of this video and the message. There is no absolute truth. 🙏✨
So i am just hearing non attachment is different to detachment. I did not actually get that until now and i have been into this a long time. Wow. Thank you and thank you for this whole video, so helpful and clear. I felt no desire to reproduce with my twin or rather no sadness that we too old for that, i did find this strange until you clearly explained it.
In my series "Non-attachment and Union" on my website, I have an entire video on detachment vs non-attachment 🙏
I would love to hear your opinion on unplanned pregnancies. Do you believe this unborn baby is a gift from god or a mistake to be terminated?
Omg I just got told that on a reading I could be pregnant but I never had sex with my twin flame we talked about it we only hanged out 3 days we kiss it is something we both felt that was unbelievable different we felt like we've been knowing each other for years we had so many things in common we wanted kids but we're both in relationships I left my relationship but he can't leave his because she has mental issues and she threatened to hurt herself if he leave
Is there any instance where twin flames could have children together (even by accident, as that’s how biology works)? Or in your opinion would that always disqualify them? Also, can twin flames adopt together?
It's just her opinion, and one of many of such "Twin Flame" teachers and coaches out there.
Per observation and interpretation of the dynamics of the vast majority of TF pairs out there, she is making a fair and rather accurate assessment. But to imply it's never going to happen because "TFs don't create karma through children," because children are only karmic lessons...I think this is an overreach. I have drafted out a longer comment to this video that I will post later.
Someone said real twin flames never stay together if they are real twin flames.someone said that real twin flames never knew about the term twin flames ever before they encounter that person so she and his partner not qualify as twin flames.always is very odd for me seeing twin flame couples, someone will say they are also soul mates only
Others said there is a bubble phase only for soul mates because the twin flame love is too pure and if they are not ready when they meet they simply avoid any contact with that person so..
Others said if they have mental issues is a karmic but many good people have mental illnesses so they cant have a twin flame?
Or any of this really exist and everyone is just confusing or evryone is talking about their experience or what they want to believe for them to be true
no one knows ..no one because we are all humans and no one has lived before to know better or had speaking with god or whatever our creator is , so …its just what they think ..
they do the channel for money ,they create a problem and sell you the solution, we can discuss about it but we can’t teach or affirm with 100 per cent security anything.
I have a very important question, how can you differentiate between your own emotions and energy and your twin’s. I have a hard time and can’t figure out weather it’s mine or theirs. It’s so confusing to feel their feelings when there’s also something happening in your life. I often feel like I’m overreacting or being overly sensitive to things I’m used to, and that typically don’t effect me.
Have you watched my video "Signs of Twin Flame Connection (During Separation)?"
@@wearethesamenergy i have that same question,
I can name twin flames that have a kid together. Also, before I had ever heard of TFs, 10 yrs before I met him.. my spirit guide told me I would meet him and have a son with him.
In my country italy , they say is a clear sign that you are a twin flame, a real twin flame never ever before heard that term untill they meet their person, because creation want it that way so we can evolve and dont be misguided by confusing information
@@______heart5889 I agree. I hadn't heard the term until I met him. I should have clarified that when my guide showed me I would meet him, he didn't say TF, just that there would be a man coming that I was meant to be with. It was at a time when I was making a major life changing decision and he was explaining why I had to make one choice over the other. Then I forgot about it until way after I met my TF and I realized my guide was talking about him.
@@______heart5889 that’s what happened to me, every time anyone would even mention soulmates i would think, how sad, poor little idiot probably still believes in the Easter Bunny too- don’t worry I always try to be polite. But the first time I heard the term twin flames, it was a coworker who asked me if I had heard of that term AS HE ( my suspected Twin Flame) WAS WALKING IN THE ROOM. Even then I thought, yeah, right, sure whatever. But then my life got all science fiction-y and to say I was obsessed with him is an understatement. So once you see that life is not as it seems, you are no longer so attached to the idea that you are human and all perception changes completely.
I dare to disagree. I want to have children and I'm nearing towards union with my TF day by day. I agree with everything you say except this.
Yes in my case it´s also impossible to have kids with each other. I´m not sure if it´s impossible for everyone but as twin flames are not about the romantic fairytale in the first place it would make sense
We both never wanted children. I also heard about that being associated with your final lifetime here. Don’t want to cause drama here, but having a married life with children and living a happily ever after is not the primary focus for twin flames anyway because it’s the mission sense.
I met him when I decided I didn’t want to have children.
Mel Brand and Nicole have a son Jeremy. Mel has since passed but they were a powerful TF couple (goldraytwinflame) one of the first on CZcams (2010 ish -2021)? Wondering if "waves" have differing experiences. Alexx's message definitely resonates in this time for me.
This is not true keep in mind a lot of these CZcamsers will say absolutely anything for content because more ppl watch their videos they will get paid more...the more ppl subscribe & like the more money they make so you have to understand the motivation & driven force....the agenda is not helping ppl & teaching others the agenda is money & we already know the kinda things people in this world does for money.....don't believe anything u see or hear on the internet but do ur own research!!!
Haha! You say "research" like you know what that means. How many studies have you conducted?
You do realize that Alexx is telling a truth that people don't like, and that's made evident by how many people are TRIGGERED.
If you know, you know. If you don't, your ego will use words it doesn't understand.
@@a.p.3204 lmfao looks like ur very familiar with this person you even know her by name or is this your other account Alexx? 🤣 I know exactly what research means & had you done that yourself & read some of the comments you will see im not the only one disagreeing....not sure why a subscriber would be so triggered? only the content creator would be this triggered & offended for being called out....better luck next time with ur research Alexx hahaha 🤣🤣
@Sunnynyc718 My name is public information, many people have it. By the way, CZcamsrs make $3 per 1,000 views on one video, so it's not very profitable.
@@wearethesamenergy but yet there are soo many content creators that do this full time? Hmmm 🤔
@@Sunnynyc718 No, they do it alongside their day job. You need about 30k followers to make approximately $1k per month in ad revenue
My twin flame became my soulmate and vice versa… we have children together
is it possible for a gay relationship to be on a twin flame relationship
Yes!!!! 💯 A twin is showing you you are everything and two people of the same sex can experience that experience of being everything, in a romantically feeling way because "you" are everything no matter the bodies sex
Absolutely, and absolutely to what @SpecialDewi said
No.
Twin flames can have children together. For years now I received a prophecy that I will birth a son with my twin flame. My twin and I have never been intimate but once we do, it will happen. I have dreamt about our son plenty of times. I have had plenty visions of our future together. So please get your facts right!
Same here.. This lady has no idea about wat she's talking.. She does not sound like an illumined twinflame... True twinflame know that it's a possibility... rainbow family 🌈 with crystal kids 🦄✨
Did not watch the other video recommended first, but 100% understood everything discussed here. Must be because of the stage of the journey I am on.
I realize recently I’m on a TF journey and I just had a hysterectomy. Good old divine timing. 😂
Oh my! You’ve really triggered the masses with this one 😂 She’s not saying twin flames aren’t capable of having children with each other (the sexual energy is always through the roof after all). All she means is that creating a life with someone where you’re getting children involved is an egoic concept-therefore not part of a twin flame journey. How can it be when this journey is first and foremost one of healing and learning one’s core karmic lesson of either self love or self worth? How can one learn to let go of expectations and be non attached when you probably SHOULD have expectations for the other parent? Who would be the runner and chaser between parent twin flames when this is how twin flames heal? If there is running and chasing between two people with children, it is most likely a karmic type relationship. If there is no running and chasing between two people with children, it is most likely a soulmate type of bond. Any kind of strong preference or desire to live a certain way (like the decision to have or not have kids) is quite literally what your ego is meant to transcend on a twin journey. The bit at the end where she postulates the likelihood of true twin flames having different beliefs or situations regarding children absolutely checks out then. Alexx, I am in awe of how you understand the energy and thank you for keeping it real!
Thank you! 🙏💜
Yes. My twin and I met very late in life. He is divorced and has a daughter. I am divorced and have two sons ( and two grandsons).
Are you guys together?
No. He left for another after four years with me. I am nearing my inner union after inner work. Surrendered all to the Divine.💕🙏
B O O Y A H 🏆someone had to say it. Having them childs; It’s ego alright 👏 . Another banger , oh this is offensive to some but turns out, that’s ego too! Nobody wins in this one👌😂 Blessings to you, I love your info❤
Thank you for saying this
But tho its ppl married and or just having sex w/ there TF and then they get pregnant cause that’s how the machine we call a body works then what????
It’s true in my case. I don’t have kids (wanted but couldn’t) while he has two. We met when he only had one. His karmic falling pregnant with the second was a huge trigger for us and led to our soul and energetic merge. We are now so closely connected in our minds and souls that every thought creates an instant energy change. His energetic presence is still very often with me as we are both aware of our connection.
Being conscious of thoughts however is very exhausting, so I am learning non-attachment as we speak. It’s quite a challenge.
There was a time when just the thought if having kids together brought us to a near orgasm state.
After three years we are closer to surrender.
Oh, wow, just like every single one of your short, yet so profound teachings, divine timing layed out this one on my path, like a huge spotlight beam pointed right at me! 😊
Thank you so much Alexx, keep on spreading your light! 😊🙏❤️♾️☯️
Well , I disagree. I have always thought of Pierre and Marie Curie, Victoria and Albert....lots off kids there. I think sometimes you are very radical. Just finished reading your book. Very radical. There are no absolute truths in the world. Even the idea of TF is egoic, for that matter. Where is your "expertise" and radical knowledge of this matter from?
Wow this is so crazy.
I've been on this journey for 7 years.
And my twin and I have tried over the years to have a baby and we could never get pregnant or stay pregnant. We've seen some many specialists, etc.
And there's nothing possibly wrong with either of us.
Wow. Tough pill to swallow but this video makes sense.😢
💜💜🙏🙏
Do keto diet or carnivore diet, pregnancy and delivery will happen easily.. Due to prolonged high carb diet, humans are becoming infertile.. Study ketosis and Intermittent fasting.. you will understand everything.. staying together with TF is a great achievement already., there should be a child for your divine love ❤
@@bharathit1173 thank you I will try your suggestions. It's take alot of work daily. Disconnecting from the mind and aligning with soul.
Whenever am in soul his there.
Dont believe it just because she is saying it. She doesnt hold the true, she is repeting what she learnt or believe to be true.
No one know or have any clarity on this twin flame phenomenon
So you're saying, if a couple has a child together there is automatically a 0% chance they're twin flames?
I am currently pregnant with my twin flame so it definitely is possible x
Alex said if you're on a true twin flame journey. Which would means the odds won't be 0% because true twins aren't as common as people think. As in both parties on a true journey, not The ego convincing someone that a person is their twin. The need to have a child with a twin could actually be part of what creates separation too & would need to be addressed.
@@SpecialDewi if she claims that real twins can't ever have children with each other, then the odds would indeed be 0% - what else could there be? If they're not on a real twin flame journey, they aren't twins - keeping it at 0%...
It's interesting though, that she avoids answering the comments that seem to challenge or even deny her claim, while engaging with the ones in agreement.
@@l.s.4347I've read the comments and have only seen one where a person says they're pregnant with their twin. And so far none of people saying they have children with a twin. Which backs her theory
Anyone on a journey can still have children with someone else or in their life somehow. So the experience of a relationship with a child isn't denied by not having one with a twin. Ego sees this as no child = 0%, you lose out, when there's many ways to have the lessons children teach.
I learnt that myself through my brother having a load of kids and me having none & they stuck to me like glue until I healed some things.
I don’t understand, twin flame is such a painful journey and u can’t even have kids? What has ego got to do with kids? And where is it written that u can’t have, who is declaring all of it? This channel?
Thank you, I felt what you said, it was great to have some kind of confirmation❤
I am hurting I lost our child at 18 weeks after separation, he had more children before separation they were children are both our ends. I love children. I love mine I pray for his children but our cummunion children didn’t make it left a deep hole in my heart
I'm sorry for your loss.
This is so incredible. I believe every word you have said.
2:58 💯 agree…. Almost there… still a work in progress.
3:16 I think, being the same biological gender as my twin has allowed me to see past that quickly and know from the very beginning that I haven’t chosen this journey to be in a 3D union with her (😊 8:06). There is a different purpose. We both have 3 kids each (what a coincidence 😊 ) with our spouses, and our first borns are the same age; but since the bubble phase, she assigned me as the second mom to her children. She keeps saying, I have to take care of them when she is gone, specially her little girl who is just 4 years old right now.
6:46 Spot on. My husband has been raised with the thought process that children are supposed to take care of parents once they grow up, and this has shown clearly in his parenting style. However, I’ve been quite non-attached in this regard from the very beginning, believing, I’m only responsible for providing a good upbringing to them and equip them well to make their own place in the world. No returns expected in exchange. They are their own lives and I have my own purpose to fulfill. Doesn’t mean I don’t love them… I’m simply not attached. For that matter, I don’t think I’ve ever felt attached to anyone.. never missed anyone ever… of course, anyone but my twin 😏
Amazing. This never occurred to me. One of the few conversations we had before separation was this very topic. How neither of us had children. And how we dealt with that door having closed. Crazy.
But I thought nothing of it at the time. Thank You!🙏
And actually twin flames are here to birth the new children for our planet so this woman doesn’t know what she is talking about it’s all about perception and anything is possible so what’s true to one person doesn’t have to be true to someone else’s beliefs
Soulmates can be your twin flame 🔥 it’s not popular but it can happen
From my understanding every TF journey is unique to their soul dharma so saying TF can't have children together is not fact.
Very true. We all have a different soul path and if you are meant to experience a child with your twin flame then you will
I got my tubes tied 2yrs before meeting him. He always always talks about having a child. Once I dreamed we had a daughter.
Thank you, this came to me in sync and I resonate 100
I've been really struggling with this...I'm 52 and my TF is 29...she's going to get married to someone else very soon and thinks she wants kids but already she basically can't afford the house she's bought with the guy...
I think it's not going to work out..I'm happy for them to get married...
But it's that all her female friends are getting married and she's making ego based decisions....
She knows how much I love her and has said she loves me...but she wants what everyone else wants...
When I was her age I was the same, wanting to impress everyone...I tried to have two serious relationships at that age but one partner cheated and the other went to live overseas..
Thanks for clearing this up for me .
Thank you for this Alex. Much appreciated. ❤
The video sounds accurate in theory but I think it's interesting because I've always had a vision of having a daughter potentially with my twin. Somehow It would eventually come about. When we were laying in bed together many years ago I had one child named on my list and it was one of the names on his list. He is very much unavailable but that's not really the point. Lol
I've met my guy (I don't know if he is my twin flame) after I've seen a vision of a little girl that i knew is my spirit baby. Few days later I've met him. I most likely can't have children anymore due to my age and i never wanted children before. After I've met him my heart started longing for a child but this didn't happened. We've tried while being together. We live on different continents. It's such a hard journey 😪
I feel like it’s ego to want a baby by your twin not to actually have a baby and everyone journey , story and lesson is different. Me and my TF have a baby together and yes he ran, we were In separation the entire pregnancy. Yes it was very miserable but at the time I didn’t know he was my TF, I got pregnant in the beginning of the journey and the experience did launch me into understanding the journey to balance the energies. I’m not offended by this message it just confusing when you, yourself talk about having sexual relations w/ your TF and the natural thing for the body to do is reproduce afterwards. I know not all of us are going to reproduce w/ our TF but some of us will.
Is there a video about how to let your twin flame know you will step away for a while bc of issues in your life (not tied to the twin flame) bc you believe you need to find a way to o work on the turmoil or get your head and spirit settled to find a way to work thru or respond to the turmoil (not tied to the twin flame)? Basically I have been the steady emotionally available aware twin flame and my counterpart was the runner. I want to communicate I need to step away for while not bc I love them any less. I can try to be available if the seek to reach me, but at this time some of the momentum weve had (he has returned or turned toward me) I cannot facilitate at this time. Also I am one of those people who needs to get their head or spirit around an issue (the turmoil I am dealing with or that which is arising) and it not at a place for me to really communicate about it with him. I am truly thinking of asking if he can think without ego,that I am not rejecting him or thinking any less of him, I just have some issues arising I need to find a view of how to walk thru. Any thoughts or suggestions? I am still reflecting and may decide to communicate a version of this..
Why do you need to let them know you're stepping away? Are you in re-union or separation?
@@wearethesamenergythey were the runner and they came to me finally admitting they are on board. Now 2 weeks after that time I have some personal issues coming up in my life where I know the reunification will be stalled. Ultimately I tried to connect with them and they messed up, sometimes afterward they came back and apologized. Now around 2 - 3weeks after their apology and stating commitment to me (we've had prob 3 discussions including the one when they explain they are returning) - I recognize I cannot return to them yet in a way that is perhaps an ideal or unspoken ideal bc I have other independent personal issues arising I need to walk thru. I guess from this I will work to communicate that some of my absence is not me abandoning, rejecting seeking to ignore or devalue them etc. I also see that if a person overemphasizes attachment esp when the bond or attachment may not be ready to unfold or move fwd in an active, present joint way then this misalignment or disjointment can create a lag and I suppose I my issues are causing this lag or delay. I think inwas embarrassed by this and interpreting this would be felt or viewed as rejection or abandonment by my twin.
I have a 17 year old son with my twin flame but we went a seperate ways and other had another son each so this is simple untrue ❤
Does it mean if two people who thought themselves twin flames get married and have kids, are not twin flames? Does it mean twin flames can never meet at a time when both are in their prime and are willing to have kids? And if they have kids, do they stop being twin flames because they've had kids?
My twin flame has a boy who is the same age as my boy and a girl who is the same age as my girl. Could this be a coincidence or is there something to it?🙏
The ages don't matter unless your Ego puts meaning to it
That just isn't the reality at all. The human race is wired to procreate, but, it isn't even as simple as that. Some souls need to be born. I've raised my Kundalini and I not only knew that I would fall pregnant, I knew when and where I'd meet his father and also knew I would have a boy with him.. It happened about 6 months later.. My intuitive nature met my son's (blood) father, and also, my twin flame, (my son's "soul father") when my son was about 2 and had become single. It is well know that Yogi's have done this through the ages, even choosing to conceive children certain times of the year that would be beneficial with regards to the planetary alignments for them karmically, and when the soul is ready to be born. I was even told/channelled a name to call my son as well. 🙏💞
Dang, I was prepared to disagree. Darn ego! This makes so much sense. Thank you
What if disagreeing came from your Soul and you're speaking truth?
I fully agree with your video !!
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What if the child is not physically from neither of the Twin Flames? When I was separated from my twin flame for 7 years, she adopted a child when he was days old. I myself do not have any kids
I'm sorry, what is the question? Because you and your Twin do not have children together.
@wearethesamenergy the question is neither one of us have biological children but she adopted her son when we went together...but he feels like mine and if we had a child together he looks like us...and looks like and have the same mannerism. Does the universe plan things like this for Twin Flames?
@@edwinthomas618 It just means that there are more lessons to be learned, if it is in fact a Twin
My twin and I cannot have children together and he wants children. He’s working through that and what it means for us as a couple.
When you are in a true inner union journey (I don't like to call it twin flame), the ego and the soul become one, there's no separation anymore. I wonder why many teachers and gurus talk about the ego as a separated part of the self, while they affirm that they are one with everything else!
Because language is dualistic in nature and you can't speak on something without it innately causing seeming separation
Some people are refuting this by saying they or someone they know have kids with their TFs. Of course that could be argued against by saying they're not TFs, because let's be honest, it's not a provable or unprovable phenomenon. However, one thing I would argue is, if a woman who's ovulating has sex with her TF it's highly likely she falls pregnant. You can't tell me that being with your TF is 'spiritual contraception.' Basic biology can't just be thrown out the window.
If you would like to watch my other videos aside from this one, you will see the basis of my channel is psychology and science. Never in this did I say what you relayed.
Now the reason why I said what she said is not true is because once the true twin flames reach a certain level of consciousness when they can be back together in the physical they will truly understand the full meaning of unconditional love and are actually be great at bringing a new life in the world. I am 41 now when I first met my twin flame before our separation I believe we met in 2004 and I moved in 2006 she was more aware of our connection then I was she asked me doesn’t it seem like we have know each other for every I didn’t fully understand what she met. It’s crazy because I said something funny in my mind and she laughed out loud but I still didn’t understand then one day something happened and I have a premonition of her and I didn’t understand how but it really did happen with her so I started to feel weird because I didn’t know how to handle it but I still engaged with her right before I left something happened that I never felt or scene with anyone she said look at me and I looked and we exchange energetic eyes I mean i literally saw white light exchange between the both of our eyes and that had activated our spiritual journey this happened two days before I moved so I truly understand the meaning of a twin flame journey. Yes the part where she says to become a better version of yourself is true n the journey to bring more light until the world it’s unbalanced to much negative not enough positive energy is a negative and a positive we are both dark and light not just light and not just dark and right now the world is very dark check out my page if you want to see the spiritual guides I don’t want money and I don’t need likes I just want to wake up every one so we can fix what is broken
Whoa. That makes a lot of sense, actually. But if you have a lot of money and strongly believe you would raise children that would make the world a much better place, doing so with great detachment - meaning high spiritual respect for that child’s choice to incarnate through your manifestation efforts - it still might be worth doing? Idk. A thought. But yeah, great content.
Wonderful video and answers so many questions! My twin and i met at 16 years old. We had a handful of seperations and unions for 9 years. I was not aware he was my TF and didnt even know what the concept was until 6 months ago. I've been married to my soulmate for 22 years. I'm 52 now and never wanted children. My TF and I got back in touch with each other last year and decided to meet up just before new years eve. Omg the energy! Honestly i remember you doing a video about how you cannot be just friends with your twin. I believe that is true. We mostly now only communicate through text. We live 4 hours from each other. Since we are speaking and have both surrendered to the journey, but not physically together in the 3D, are we now in union?
Never wanted children since a young age. Still feel that way at 26, what about enlightened people who have kids after their spiritual journey? Ive heard that even after you acheive self-realization you can still create karma, but it doesnt matter since they acheived the purpose of incarnation.
Karma is Egoically subjective, so we don't "create" Karma. I talk about it in my video "What is Karma?" The "purpose" of an incarnation is also created by the Ego, so yes, purpose can be obtained, but that doesn't mean it's "real."
@@wearethesamenergy I use karma as a way to try to verbalize it in an understandable way instead of using non-dual language. What I'm attempting to say is after learning that ultimate lesson the person goes on to teach as well as living a normal egoic life after realization even if there is no reason to. Many yogis have continued on but are non-attached even if they have families they have egoic things but do not attach meaning. So how can a person who had realization create new lessons for a child? Maybe twins are built differently. And the "purpose" of any incarnation is for self-realization, and that's the purpose of twin flames also.
So wait is she saying that twin flames never have kids together? Cause I had three with mine!
Needed this video today ❤
You can practice non attachment with your unconditional love with your children with your twin flame ❤
Oh this titled just pulled me as I had put condition that I don't want children if need can adopt bcoz i was too confused who's the correct one to be Choosed so I asked to get moved if they wish as I don't know how long my life could be bcoz i was not having any option but now my own words triggers me why I did this but I knew I growed much in the journey and it will unfold better
Ich danke dir von Herzen fürs das Teilen deiner Weisheit...danke, danke, danke❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏‼️
Hello Alex, I have been following you for a few days and find your content very clear and refreshing after a few years of searching on this journey. Thank you for this. In the meantime, I have been a while further along in this journey and I have a bit more peace. Perhaps a question for the next video. My twin and I don't talk to each other. There have been barely two conversations in the past two years that I realized what this connection was. I have a boyfriend and that makes it hard to talk. My twin is also quiet and I don't quite know what he is thinking or feeling about all of this. I have to read everything in his eyes when we meet. Can this also help you grow sufficiently in your journey? Or is talking in 3D form also necessary? I do make connections in 5D every day. Thank you.
You can choose to go through your journey however you want, but 3D triggering is usually necessary to help both grow
My twin flame has always ran from me it’s painful