Our thoughts on Casual Dating | The Unpopular Opinion UG
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Prim is always real,raw and saying it all on topics she relates to 🥰
😂😂😂 I laughed out loud when she asked, ' you think we finish banging and shake hands?'
Smoking is unhealthy but droves still do it.
I totally agree with prim. There are levels to this casualship thing especially when it's properly defined. You all look amazingly beautiful. ♥️&💡 From 🇳🇬
I'm here for Prim! Prim! Prim!!! You're so authentic I love your sense of humor! I love how comfortable you are in your skin and how you're basically YOURSELF!
Sending you ladies love from Kenya🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪
I can identify with Fiona on this. Over thought is my default setting: it even extends to friends; there's a psychospiritual element to any of my relationships and I am quick to stop any situation that's not good
Ohhh I love how Prim is open. I love u gal😘
She doesnt pretend
Casual dating, like the ladies have pointed out, has a lot to do with knowing yourself and being TRUE to self. There is nothing "cool" about jeopardizing your own peace of mind for no substantial reason.
Also, if you indeed decide to take the casual route, stay protected! be smart about it always looking out for yourself.
My analysis on casual dating is that we all value sex differently...for some of us especially people with a religious background come thinking that sex is holy that its supposed to mean something ..but others among us don't attack that value to it.. sex is for pleasure to releive that itch so casual sex and relationships will be easier for them.. in generally we shouldn't really judge others coz this value chages with time .
I really enjoy how Prim goes raw, and related to this topic 😍😂... Naye mutuwabudde late nnyoo 😭😂
It's never too late😂😂
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I know😅
Congratulations ladies on the 20k subscribers milestone!🤩🥳🎉
Thanks hun ❤
I love Prim's authenticity about topics and how open she is.
But Prim is effortlessly funny. I envy you guys for having her around you most of the time. As for Claire….😂😂 there is a way she just laughs out loud every time Prim says these really hilarious things
That was a wonderful lecture from Clare at the end. Thnx ladies
Claire you look beautiful!
First view and comment ever love you all so much Kemi it’s you for me❤️
Thanks gals for the great topic 😘 am really touched am gonna change my ways
The people who normally get hurt are the women and I 💯 percent legit blame women. Don't get me wrong I am a woman myself.
Like you have all said : the rules need to be clear and most importantly as women we have to be true to ourselves. The most important questions any woman should answer are 1) what is the type of man I want to eventually get married to/ accept as a husband? 2) if this casual relationship quickly escalated what would you do? Accept or walk away? Ideally you would accept if this man fits in question no 1..
3) what are ur reason for this casual relationship? I can tell you that most women accept casual relationships because deep-down they hope the man will see them for the woman they are and probably get them to marry them. If this is u, then ur already failing the casual relationship!!!!
Now the problem is many of us dnt even know the husband material we would want... we are hoping to be chosen by the men and we forget that the power to accept them is held by us! And the moment we have sex a couple times feelings kick in and once they do... we forget that this man doesn't even cut the line for the man u want!!!!! The man is being nice to you, taking care of u and u think u have arrived. Suppse the man is just naturally a nice guy? We forget that there are reasons we had categorized as he dnt fit in to what we want.
The other scenario is u thought this man in the casual relationship was a total loser but then when you get to actually know him you are pleasantly surprised that he is actually awesome! That's when you go straight to him and tell him this can't work because of abcd.... not actually staying there in the hopes that the man will choose u eventually. A few of them do, but largely u would be wasting time
This is because men always know what they want! Even the losers actually have the ideal wife they want and they have already categorized you...either you fit or u dnt! And they won't change their minds about it simply because you have great sex.
No 2: men know when to run away when feelings get involved. Especially when you have good sex, good personallity but still dont fit in the wife picture they have for a few personal reasons. That's where they start ghosting us from.
Anyway my 2 cents: as women we dnt even know what we want so we pick the most thing thats available or familiar to us. And we also dnt have the balls to be true to ourselves and walk away.... anyway truthfully we have no balls. So hahaha.
I honestly loved reading this! ❤️
absolutely correct
Setting goals before casual dating will help you Never catch feelings .....FWB is the right word here...Prim thank you
Thanks guy for the topic cause for sure you have really helped alot in my life. I Leary to believe in me en also loving myself to what ever cost it take banange I appreciate your efforts ladies 🥰🥰
The sound today was very good
Causal dating is moving out with a part of your fetish or someone who has something you like, but is not your full spouse material.😎
I think I relate with Fiona. It's very difficult to separate these two. Sex and casual kind of don't rhyme no matter the itch. It's literally knowing oneself as she says... what can one handle?
I can relate with Prim so much. On the other hand, depending on how someone perceives the societal structures around relationships, there's more freedom in casual relationships. Even freedom to be faithful, do you know how awesome it is to choose sb when you're not obliged to? I personally think it's a way to start if one is afraid of commitment at the moment, because they could grow and learn or want to. There's no harm in upgrading a situation ship to a more official relationship is mutual. For me it comes off as pre-dating. It's a more objective session of experiencing each other, sounds like keeping it real for me. You can agree that the official relationship is no guarantee they're completely committed. Sounds like a risk I'd take, at least at this point in my life.
If the feeling is mutual ***
Finaaaaally!! There's a download button!!🤣🤣🤣👍 watching y'all from Kenya 🇰🇪
Thanks for another real interactive video.
sometimes you won't need to be in a relationship at a certain point in your life and they just feel overwhelming and a casual-ship is a perfect fit AT THAT TIME
@kemi I can relate bambi... I also question myself about this whole casual dating and how some people feel chilled with it. 🤔
The eye rolls at 21:09 😂😂.
Lovely conversation ladies
prim never laughs at her own jokes which makes it even more funny😂😂
Claire is right there representing me in the introductory part💫
Thank you Nyonyozi Prim
Banger and bangee😂😂😂
I really like Prim. Her views are on point.😉
This is calm. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
Prime is my spirit animal whatever that means 😂😂 same exact life approach ❤️
Same
what Fiona said should be the take from this video. Evaluate if a casual relationship is for you or not so that when you see yourself sliding into one, knowingly or unknowingly you run quickly even if it feels good while it lasts. If you know how to separate feelings and all then why not have your fun, we all got needs.
That self evaluation is important.
Kemi lovely hair
They say in a casual relationship, atleast one person is lying!!
Nice conversation 💯
I wish you talk about how church misleads women to stick with cheating and ungrateful men for the sake of marriage.. it's really upsetting to me.. I love God but women need to be empowered than to be told pleasing a man is the right way to succeed in life
They did.. check through their uploads... am sure u gonna land on it
But women are just delusional, women cheat on men more, but men are never loud about women cheating. Women are loud when cheat on, this makes it look like the men are the ones cheating in marriages. Women are loud so it looks so but reality in our neighborhood, you hear women that slept with Jaj guys …. anyways the thing about cheating men in the name of being strong with be calm and absorb things when cheated on.
True
Thankyou for this conversation....the number of young women who get caught up in that nonsense.... me also being a victim 😂😂😂😂 but funny enough after a few heartbreaks I learnt what I wanted out of a relationship and am very unapologetic about it....🤘
Weldone
There are very many layers to casual dating but one thing for sure unless you have talked about it and laid down the terms of this thing someone is ending up in a situationship. Now obviously talking about it doesn't guarantee feeling not being caught but at least everybody sees that heartbreak coming.ps. women are more prone to catching feeling but guess what very men too.
Casual dating favors those who can separate emotions and physical things. Like men, they are able to casual date because they don't associate sex with feelings.
I love you Prim
The honesty in you🥰🥰🥰
casual relationship to thrive , will definitely require a lot of communication ,,, otherwise another banger would be hurt ...
Can never be me! Can never be me! 😂😂😂 Claire that was funny
Its the reality of many but confusing it to be alove relationship
Exactly. The red flags are always there but many women believe they have the power to change a man 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂and please women remember that whether you are 100 yards of 'wife material ' if a man is not ready to settle down, your beauty, your booty, your intellect, your witchcraft, ...nothing will make him settle down.
I hear 100 yards 🤣 point taken
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I can relate with Prim 🤩
I can totally relate with what Claire…..! That last bit…..,eeeehhhh! These men be specific en they stick to the plan😂😂 despite being all nice en romantic en all. He means it when he says he’s not in for anything serious. 😂
I love Prim 😍
I am with phiona. When you think about casual sex in a spiritual context, it's spiritually not okay. However, the conversation is important for us ladies or if you don't talk about it, the earlier you realize and act accordingly, get out or make the rules, the better
kemi always struggles with any topic to do with sex.
Clare, you and me both. Can never be me!!! What if I catch feelings? 😂😂😂😂😂😂
Please host some gentlemen on this specific topic to get their views too. thanks for the topic though. Eye opening.
Nze Prim mpagila gwe..Y’all amazing women thou
I don't agree with Claire on the most women have casual relationships because they think they will change a man..... Currently it's either money or good sex or just sexcapade women are tayad u people women have too many responsibilities so that one man that expects nothing is a prince .. and Claire women easily compartmentalize better than men.
Claire I like ur 👗
Oh it’s so beautiful
Claire looks. Pregnant
Ohh my God Prim is me iam Prim about this topic period 😜😜
Awwwww first here... love these guys
Thank you so much
❤ we appreciate you
May be you should make a survey if people enjoy the casual dating or they are just struggling, then provide solutions from facts
Naye Phiona
I think in most cases men rarely date women they love for its always hard to get those woman and in such cases we really feel like casual relationship is a real deal however, it really hard to start it... Most men deceive at the beginning but actual sense most prefer casual relationships.
yah but sometimes its hard to set the rules cause they lie to you tht they are in to you after sleeping with you the friend zone you
I love ugandan language 😅
Claire is so me😂😂,it usually ends that way n m wondering what i can do... What Prim is saying is true, u look at someone n yo attracted to them prolly because of the physical appearance or how nice they treat u...
However we need to hear from men in relation to this topic... it's too hot to be left just like that😛😛
Prim I love you 😀
In reality alot ov girls do casual ship and with a lot ov reasons
The God that created Prim should create a 100 more
The problem with causal dating is that one person ends up getting a sense of entitlement and that's how issues start...too many expectations that come along the way which both the parties did not see coming💀
Fiona and Clair need a uniform 😂😂😂
Exactly 😂😂
At some point one will fall that's the fact 💯
With Prim on this one. Just communicate lol!
*months later
Her: I saw Red flags, but I thought it was a carnival
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Banange "define" mujoggede late nnyoo 😭😂
Wow, amazing topic!! KEMI I get your place 100% Casual sex will haunt you years later and you would always wish u chose not to.
Bro and Siso for me
This topic had the potential to open up so much more and highlight the critical need for women, especially African women to liberate themselves from cultural and societal norms and embrace their sexual freedom.
I don't necessarily agree that "most women" are looking for relationships, (we'd need data collected anonymously to back this claim).. I think they've been conditioned to expect and proclaim as much with regards to their sexual needs. But truth is sexual urges from a phisiologial perspective are not exclusive to males. Feeling horny, being stressed out because it's been a long minute since you got some, is normal for all genders, at all stages and ages in life. You can be 50, 67,78,15,20 etc and have needs.. All kinds of varying needs depending on what season you're going through in life.
An African woman that owns her identity, is a free woman. I think the conversation could have really highlighted on the critical need for women to embrace their sexual freedom. How they can go about it, how to deal with the guilt of even thinking of being casual, of even being bold enough to go after what you want.. Not all the time waiting to be approached.. Of going after what you want! I think a lot of African women struggle with.. "but what will people say, how will I be perceived, am I giving too much of myself, will it affect my wife material points.." and sometimes, all your struggling with is putting your needs first.. Whatever they may be. Men have been doing this since forever.. And all genders should be able to.
I can’t do that as mi coz if I love I love casual dating isn’t for mi I say wat Claire said wat if I catch feelings then wat thx all
Prim is a mafia 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Fiona and I have the same thinking process- everything connects spiritually
I think most of dating a married person can fall into this casual dating
Because ,for some they want casual sex with some one outside their spouse
Prim🔥🔥 most of us here relate trust me 😂😂😂
My Gosh she said bangers and bangees😂😂😂
It's not a healthy thing for me!
I prefer casual nowadays nothing seems to work with serious relationships just couples faking to love one another 😂😂
Prim, you forgot to say "and we're sayinit all". At the end.🤣 Side note, I thought casual dating was just going on casual dates minus sex. I thought hanging out, movies, wedding dates, group dates.
Bakuwe uniform 😂😂😂😂
The slim lady is really hot
Kemi 👌, goals
Casual dating is for mafias not the faint hearted ones😩😩😩😩😩😩
Prim thank you for being too real,on this thing
You're a GEM baby girl🔥
Kemi, I am you, you are me. But to each their own I guess.
Am I the only 1 that is too afraid to engage in such a relationship???.. b'se there's no way I will not develop strong emotional attachment with someone after engaging in the act.. that's for sure
Same here. Even those things of leading on a man just to eat his money without giving him any goodies. I can't. It's not within me.
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before my thirties...maybe...after...nooooooo
Personally, I think what Prim is saying is right…..! Yeah…, the levels en all but it’s more like, I am not exactly answerable to you in a way…..! You don’t get to be jealous bse am talking to someone……, or things like those……! So you could help me with my car, we could meet up in spaces together so you keep me company, that doesn’t mean I have feelings for you 😂 they could grow over time, but it’s very possibly to casually date someone, sleep with them, do all these things with them, en still not want them for a partner 😖
Prim😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 booty call it is!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂much love from 🇰🇪
prim...yo me...totally :)
alll ears ....binyuma
Prim comes off so real…Well done Prim
Damn, I think iam actually in a casual relationship and iam the only one who didn't know this whole time, coz rules weren't laid😏😫
I farthom with you Kemi because I also feel same about sex i take it so scared and connecting in a way