Dads, Sons with ADHD & Power Struggles - ADHD Dude - Ryan Wexelblatt
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- ฤas pลidรกn 8. 07. 2024
- I often hear from fathers about the power struggles they get into with their son, or from mothers who feel caught in the middle when their sons and son's husbands/son's father get into battles. In this video I explain to fathers why their son's get into power battles with them and how to end them.
These strategies are taught in Scaffolding Better Behavior & Self-Confidence, the ADHD Dude Parent Behavior Training program available at the ADHD Dude Membership Site. This is the first Parent Behavior Training Program specifically designed for parents of kids with ADHD. Learn more at: www.adhddudecourses.com
๐๐บ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐น ๐๐๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ด๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐๐ผ ๐ต๐ฒ๐น๐ฝ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ธ๐ถ๐ฑ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ต ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ถ๐ฟ ๐ณ๐๐น๐น ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ฎ๐น, ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐น๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ถ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฏ๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐บ๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ฎ๐ ๐ฎ๐ด๐ฒ ๐ฏ๐ฌ.
๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฅ๐๐ฎ๐ป ๐ช๐ฒ๐ ๐ฒ๐น๐ฏ๐น๐ฎ๐๐, ๐๐๐ฆ๐ช, ๐๐๐๐-๐๐๐ฆ๐ฃ.
๐จโ๐ฆ๐ฅ๐๐ฎ๐ป ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ณ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ ๐ฎ ๐๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐๐๐, ๐ฎ ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐น ๐ฆ๐ผ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น ๐ช๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ฟ, ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ต๐ผ๐ผ๐น ๐ฆ๐ผ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น ๐ช๐ผ๐ฟ๐ธ๐ฒ๐ฟ, ๐๐๐๐-๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐น ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐น๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ผ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฎ๐น ๐๐ธ๐ถ๐น๐น๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐.
๐ฆ๐ถ๐ด๐ป ๐๐ฝ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐ฑ๐ฒ ๐บ๐ฎ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐น๐ถ๐๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ถ๐๐ฒ: "๐ง๐ผ๐ฝ ๐ฒ ๐๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ฆ๐ฝ๐ผ๐๐ ๐๐ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ ๐๐ฎ๐บ๐ถ๐น๐ถ๐ฒ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ถ๐ฑ๐ ๐๐ถ๐๐ต ๐๐๐๐":
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We have done years of OT, counseling & even did intensive in-home therapy for months for my daughter. I even have my own ADHD coach, and not one of the professionals has ever told us to stop prompting, to validate and move on when they are making noise or given these details on how to stop power struggles. Iโve jut watch 5 of your videos and took pages of notes. Thank you so much. You are right, all the things with teaching tools and techniques do not work because she cannot access her previous emotions to learn from. ๐คฏ๐คฏ
I'm so glad to hear it was helpful, thank you!
Im a single mom with soon to be 8 year old kid. I guess he have a severe kind of adhd. He has his own teacher (aka best friend) and his own room in the schoolbuilding. He does not want to be in the classroom at all and havent bin for most his schooling, except for arts and crafts and stuff like that. He does have friends in school but his social skills are not the best so its verry mutch about other kids who has to adoubt to his games. His a social high speed or low speed. What we choose to call it and do at home is coworking for are day to day life to work. Its verry important to choose your badles. What i found most hard is the surroundings lack of understandment. And there arent so mutch for him to do as after school things, if he isnt bringing a friend home. We have tried soccer, ski and scouting. But it involves to mutch of structure that he finds it verry hard and not enjoyeble. His anxiety gets thrugh the roof. So we do stuff together in the woods and stuff but i wont him to be more around other people, because he is verry social and i want to work on his social skills. Im not saying i know alot about adhd i struggle alot, but i dont want to show that to my son and im eager to learn more. ๐
Please check out the videos in the "start here" playlist at the channel Thanks
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Fantastic and clarifying video! Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
Great video! Thank you
You are welcome!
So good! As always! Thanks Dude!
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These Dad videos are so helpful . Thanks Ryan
Really glad to hear it, thank you!
Thank you sooo much! Finally someone who really gets my kids. So my next question is when avoiding a power struggle I may let my child take out the trash later (as they say they will do) but then they forget and there I go again having to prompt. Iโm exhausted from being the executive functioning for my kids and from weathering the emotional intensity over the smallest things. ๐ข
So you have to decide you're going to provide them with "scaffolding" to start using their own executive functioning. This is covered in the Executive Function Crash Course for Parents series here: www.adhddudecourses.com
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good stuff. I've subscribed. Thank you for sharing this content. It's important.
Thank you Erik, much appreciated!
Phenomenal content and spot on with great specific strategies. Thank you Ryan.
My pleasure!
Thank you so much for sharing this kind of helpful information. God bless you and your family.
Thank you so much and same to your family.
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Great advice as always Ryan! This is so helpful not only to dads but also to me as a mom. My son and I get into power struggles constantly but thanks to your content i've learn to disengage and allow for both of us to cool down before we can talk again. Thank you!
Thank you for watching. :)
Just found your channel through an ADHD support group. Weโve struggled with my 8 year old daughter for along time and she was recently diagnosed. I wish I had this information years ago! Itโs great!
Thank you very much! Please feel free to join the Facebook group if you haven't already. :)
Thank you for the video! Really helpful advice for me and my son and also for me when I'm elevated. Now I just need to watch it 12 more times to let it really sink in lol
Really glad you found it. Please join the Facebook group if you're not there already.
I just found your channel and feel so heard. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and helping future generations of kids and parents. Your work now compounds forward and I'm here for it. Cheers.
Thanks Tom, that really means a lot to me. Cheers
Same here.
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We BOTH have ADHD, it's been a difficult journey being firm and fair. And an exercise in flexibility for us both. It's gradually improving.
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Yes, it definitely can be an exercise in flexibility for both parent and child, it was for me.
My wife has it too. Plus we have 3 boys.
Is medication necessary in adhd
This sounds like most kids. Unless my daughter has ADHD and was never diagnosed with it. My son has ADHD that's why I love watching your videos. Keep it up!
Thank You!
This is brilliant! My 5YO is struggling with all of this and we are getting better but these tips are great, thank you!!!
Glad to hear it, thanks for watching!
@@ADHDDude if only you were here in Canada I'd be signing up to 1:1โs
Thanks, I do parent coaching sessions with Canadians all the time. :)
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Parent Coaching is not covered by insurance in the U.S. or Canada
I am Currently struggling with my 3 year old son. I have been trying to to reach for help from Edwin Lobo I first suspected ASD due to the red flags including delays speech
Recently itโs been a rollercoaster of emotions for the whole family my partner is mentally becoming exhausted my child is displaying aggressive behaviour โฆ
Everyday is like a battle physically drained canโt remember last time I slept a good 4/5 hours without disruptions The family Doctors done nothing I was forced to register my son with another Family Doctors.
Physically I am constantly tired and having palpitationsโฆ I am worried of the system delays to have a proper neurological assessment and a diagnosis to address the real issues with behaviour therapy or prescribed medicationโฆ
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Oh my goodness! This is a whole new world! I've never felt more understoodwith my son. I'm certain I have adhd, and he does for sure, although he's only 5 and not been diagnosed. He's shown signs since he was a new born. How do we stop his worked up behavior?
Hi Evelyn, the idea is not to "stop" his behavior, but rather how to provide more "scaffolding" to help encourage the behaviors you want. I suggest starting with the "Start Here" or "Behavior" playlist at the channel.
A couple of things I was thinking, listening to this very good video. First, if the child's working brain doesn't work properly, won't he forget what the problem was by the time you wait to calm down? Second, I've read some very alarming things about when Oppositional Defiant Disorder is combined with ADHD. It said if a person has ODD, they don't really care if they have hurt your feelings.
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Ryan, what do we do about hitting? My son doesn't hit me (mom) but he has no problem hitting his dad. We've been having such a hard time understanding how to handle it. Im a member of your site. Have to get in on office hours! Thanks!
Hi Sarah, I would need much more context for understanding the situation. I can't answer a question with this little information, sorry
Your voice reminds me of a cross between Anthony Pompliano and Joe Rogan. Lol Great information!
Hey thanks, I didn't know who Anthony Pompliano was so I looked him up, I'm going to listen to his podcast. Really appreciate you watching! Thanks, Ryan
What if he is being physical with myself or their sibling?
Hey Ryan, My wife and I have been dealing with power struggles with my son. We noticed that my son has massive blowups when we get onto him for bad behavior. He tends to say things that are extremely hurtful & pointed at my wife and I . What are we to do in these types of situations?
This is comprehensively covered in Scaffolding Better Behavior & Self-Confidence, my Parent Behavior Training program which you can read about at www.adhddudecourses.com
Hi I am an Indian mom of a six year old bo with adhd, he has been constantly on therapies since he was 3.5 years old and I have seen improvements. But at times his impulsive behavior is too difficult to handle, is medication necessary in his case?
I'm not a licensed medical professional and even if I were it would be inapropriate for me to provide medical advice online. Please see my videos about the long-term research data about people with ADHD who go unmedicated. For your son's age, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommended treatment is Parent Training (provided through the ADHD Dude Membership Site) in conjunction with medication management.
what about when you ignore his power struggle but he ends up throwing stuff, slamming doors and ruining the house?
You're going to need to not give the behaviors any attention because the more attention they get, the more they reinforce the effectiveness. You also need to enlist supporters. This is all covered in detail in Scaffolding Better Behavior.
Can I tell you how much you help me? We are STRUGGLING at age 4 lately (son is autistic but, lots of adhd qualities-I know well I have adhd as his mama, lol)
Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!
What about when they start to act violently? Like trying to break stuff in the house cause they didnโt get their way ๐ข
I teach how to handle that in Scaffolding Better Behavior, my parent behavior training program.
Sounds like my daughter. Does the same thing apply?
Absolutely could, this really is not gender specific although this video is.
Dude your basicly telling us to let the kids take control of the house . Well let me start streching cause ima get bent backwards
That's the exact opposite of what I teach parents actually.