I used to get told that no one will love me like he does. No one will understand me or put up with me like he does. That I was perfect. Yet everything I did was wrong. My cooking was wrong. My job was wrong. The intimacy wasn’t good enough. And when I finally left, he still controlled me over the phone for a year. I can’t wait to see this movie. Just remember that in leaving, you may not feel immediately what you think you will but the fact that you did it will change your life forever in a way that will save it. You deserve more. No relationship is better than only one relationship that keeps you captive and alone.
Thank you for sharing what you’ve been through! proud to see you made it out stronger than before! I broke up with my ex one year ago and now he is literally blowing up my phone black mailing me , threatening to leak personal info to my friends and family. I told him I would get a lawyer and restraining order but he still won’t stop…
Girl. So proud of you to share your story and I hope you are far away from that trauma and abuse. I have a version of your story so know that this is out there happening to many people and have faith that you are not alone.
You are such a strong, brave, and inspiring woman, not only for seeing the bad pattern and getting out safely but also for sharing your story with us ❤
Laura E - that's hard to read. But I'm glad to see that you moved on. I don't know anyone like this but it's handy to know so one can watch out. I worry about my teens entering a relationship that has negative components like this. Did people close to you recognize/realize his controlling tendencies?
I've seen relationships like this; not only is it terrible for the victim involved but destroys family connections and friendships... The victim slowly isolates herself and then tries to rationalize that it's "us against the world". Hope this can be a wake up call for many people in a toxic relationship.
Yeah... I will probably pass this movie for this very reason. It hits too close home :( But I really hope some other people will see it as a warning soon enough.
Very well said. This extends to cognitive dissonance and becoming an extremist, political or otherwise in their world view and of family/personal relationships
do u realize that u have the whole responsability of not leaving him before? it is really easy to blame the rest and not assume that the only person that u really can control is you.
My sister was in an abusive relationship for several years. They completely cut off communication with our family until she called us in the middle of the night to drive her to the police station and get a restraining order. It happens to so many more women than we think.
And this is why one of the biggest red flags in a relationship is 'I don't want you to spend so much time with your friends' or any variation of it. I encourage my fiancé to go out with her family and friends because living too close isn't healthy for either of us.
@@JakeBor I mean, good? That's what friends are for. Should he want his fiancé to only be with him because he didn't let her out of his sight or spend time with other people? Things will work out between them, or they won't. That's life. If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. Just enjoy the time you have with people. Not all relationships last forever, that's fine, doesn't mean they don't have value. If things stop working, or people change, it's okay for the relationship to change too. It's a good thing. Why would anyone want to stay married to someone who no longer wants to be with them?
@@JakeBor I mean is divorce a sin? In which religion? Who was talking about sin anyways, he was talking about supporting his partner and you brought up divorce. But okay lets get religious. You know what else is a sin? Self righteousness and selfishness. "Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. ~ Philippians 2:3-4" If she's unhappy, why should he make her stay? Because it pleases him? How selfish. Who are you to judge the pain or blessings of others. Her friends putting her needs above their own concerns is the very opposite of that. You know what else is a sin? Fear and fearmongering. "Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10" What good are you putting into the world by trying to taint this person's life with fear? You think you're serving your God by spreading these ideas of the worst outcome to strangers just sharing some part of their lives? Sounds like for someone of faith you're living in fear dude. Another one? Okay, how about pride. "But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” ~ James 4:6" "Everyone who is arrogant in heart is an abomination to the Lord; be assured, he will not go unpunished. ~ Proverbs 16:5" This guy is talking about how much he cares and trusts his partner, about the way they try to ensure the welfare of their relationship, their mental wellbeing, and you have the pride to think you know their life better than them. Who are you? What gives you the right? Here's two more for good measure. Gossip and Judgement. "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. ~ Ephesians 4:29" "Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler. ~ Proverbs 20:19" and "So then each of us will give an account of himself to God. Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. ~ Romans 14:12-13" It sounds like if you're worrying about sin, the first place you should look is in the mirror. Me, I'm not religious, I don't pretend to be. So I can judge all I want, and I'm saying you're bit of a wazzock, and you should keep your mouth shut if you have nothing nice to say. Take care!
That's the damn of it. My ex thought after everything he was totally innocent and that he didn't do anything wrong. It was all my fault. I remember him saying to me "you forgive me, right?" Like no buddy after everything you did?!?! Get the f out.
After i watched Pitch Perfect trilogy and A simple Favor with Blake Lively she became one of my fav actress. And these movie seems so good and very up to date on some toxic issue in relationship.
Unless you have been there, you cannot possibly understand. Then you get judged by others- especially men. It would be nice if our world could be more compassionate. I was there. My ex was abusive in so many ways. I told my church. The pastor said I was suffering for the Lord, and God is against divorce. Glad I left him and that church.
Oh booooy, this looks good! I've seen relationships like this up close and man is it bad for anybody involved as well as the victim. This looks like a must see!
I can relate. He wanted me, he made me leave a partner of 20 years, he trapped me emotionally then turned his back and when I made a move he moved backwards and when I tried to leave he moved forward. He said that he couldn't live without me. He needed me but didn't want me. It took me five years, my best years, it cost me a relationship, some friends, my house and my money but I got free. A year or so later I looked at him one day when he asked to meet as a sad pathetic person. I have been alone since 16 years now, I won't take that chance again. They have good camouflage.
@@self-publishinghelp8596 In a way you are right but it also shows that you have never been in the grip of a narcissist and how powerful their will can be over your own free will. My ex of 20 years has always been one of my best friends over the years and twice when I moved, he and his partner also moved to be near me. They are my direct neighbours now. I had many reasons to leave him other than the influence of my narcissist, years of domination and control and refusal to have children wore me down so meeting this guy just pushed me over. I cannot regret anything I've done as today I am in a fairly good place, alone since 2006 by choice.
@@JainaTargaryen Love thyself ! I have dogs and honestly they don't hold back, are never grumpy, are always up for a cuddle and don't tell me that my ass is big in these jeans !
@@self-publishinghelp8596 Stephanie is right in her answer, what you've just said is what normal people that do not know about what narcisists are able to do say. Until you know how to detect them and get out as soon as possible, is very easy to fall under their influence and "charm". Once they get you is very very difficult to escape. I'm glad more and more people is learning about these kind of behaviours and that movies like this can rise awareness into the colective consciousness.
NEVER cut ties with your friends or family because of a lover. This is how they isolate you. Plus who do they think they are? Damn, that must be fucking boring and suffocating to stay with one person all the time, so not healthy!!! We all need family and friends to balance our lives. Someone who really loves you wants to be friends with your fam and friends, not to stop you from seeing them.
Well, actually listen to this and don't rely on subtitles🤣 The first few times said it read "my beautiful cow" LOL I had to turn up the volume to check on that one.
Wow this looks intense. I used to be with someone with anger management issues and I was always walking on eggshells around him… I hope this movie helps some people, but honestly the trailer gave me anxiety!!
Oh lordy, that looks terrifying. Perhaps it should be shown in high schools instead of just focusing on sex-ed. I’d do very bad things to any guy who he ever thought he could treat me like that.
I am pretty good at manipulating women but I think I will watch this to study his technique. I want to avoid his mistakes and make sure I learn how to keep them isolated and learn how to maintain absolute control. Any of you ladies on here want to go on a date?
I know these dramatic, suspenseful iterations of abuse make for good entertainment, but when it's the only way abuse is portrayed, it creates this idea that there is only one kind of abuse. The general public thinks an abusive relationship always looks like this because it's all they've seen, and while it CAN look like this, it often doesn't and focusing solely on this dramatized version means that the less overt, less dramatized abuse gets to fly under the radar. I wish someone could capture the subtle, insidious abuse that most women being abused live with, often because they aren't actually able to identify what's happening to them. I personally lived with abuse for 5 years because I thought if I wasn't being hit, stalked, or threatened ominously, it couldn't be abuse and it was disrespectful to "real" victims for me to even compare my situation to a "real" abusive relationship. Most abuse is nearly imperceptible! Where's THAT movie??
I think it's a bit unrealistic for you to ask your adult friend to go on a last minute trip with you for a WEEK. I get like three weeks of vacation a YEAR!
So this movie is to vicariously traumatize women? Or is it to make them feel revictimized? I hate Hollywood. I thought this was some kind of Alice in Wonderland movie.. guess not
"My beautiful cow" is so insulting! Just bc he puts beautiful in front of this large ton animal doesn't make it sweet or loving. #DisgustingPossessiveJerk
ΝΟΤ ALL MEN. Just the toxic , the abusive ones. Abuse can come in various forms and from various people and /or places. It can come from a woman against another woman , from a father to a child, a mother to a child. In this case we have a man and a woman who are in an intimate relationship and the man happens to be the abuser. Simple as that.
I have little sympathy for stupid women who get into bad relationships when they could've avoided it entirely in the first place by simply dating nice guys.
@@coach- Well even if they are too dumb to see a person's true nature before falling in love, nothing stops them from leaving afterwards when they do realize.
*good to see that people are saying that many PEOPLE, be it man woman or whatever, are caught in relationships like this, its not just isolated to women, some men out there with really abusive/crazy partners*
I feel trapped even watching this trailer. Can't imagine being in this situation
This is so real. There are so many women and men just like that, unable to get out of toxic and dangerous relationships...
Real talk
This trailer is a mini panic attack
I used to get told that no one will love me like he does. No one will understand me or put up with me like he does. That I was perfect. Yet everything I did was wrong. My cooking was wrong. My job was wrong. The intimacy wasn’t good enough. And when I finally left, he still controlled me over the phone for a year. I can’t wait to see this movie. Just remember that in leaving, you may not feel immediately what you think you will but the fact that you did it will change your life forever in a way that will save it. You deserve more. No relationship is better than only one relationship that keeps you captive and alone.
Thank you for sharing what you’ve been through! proud to see you made it out stronger than before! I broke up with my ex one year ago and now he is literally blowing up my phone black mailing me , threatening to leak personal info to my friends and family. I told him I would get a lawyer and restraining order but he still won’t stop…
Girl. So proud of you to share your story and I hope you are far away from that trauma and abuse. I have a version of your story so know that this is out there happening to many people and have faith that you are not alone.
You are such a strong, brave, and inspiring woman, not only for seeing the bad pattern and getting out safely but also for sharing your story with us ❤
That's absolutely appalling that you experienced that. Best wishes and strength.
Laura E - that's hard to read. But I'm glad to see that you moved on. I don't know anyone like this but it's handy to know so one can watch out. I worry about my teens entering a relationship that has negative components like this. Did people close to you recognize/realize his controlling tendencies?
The subtitles kept saying “my beautiful cow”. Wtf 😭
I've seen relationships like this; not only is it terrible for the victim involved but destroys family connections and friendships... The victim slowly isolates herself and then tries to rationalize that it's "us against the world". Hope this can be a wake up call for many people in a toxic relationship.
Yeah... I will probably pass this movie for this very reason. It hits too close home :( But I really hope some other people will see it as a warning soon enough.
50 shades without the bs
Very well said. This extends to cognitive dissonance and becoming an extremist, political or otherwise in their world view and of family/personal relationships
do u realize that u have the whole responsability of not leaving him before? it is really easy to blame the rest and not assume that the only person that u really can control is you.
My sister was in an abusive relationship for several years. They completely cut off communication with our family until she called us in the middle of the night to drive her to the police station and get a restraining order. It happens to so many more women than we think.
Not just women
@@pauloakes6952 you’re right, I should have said it happens to more people than we think
@@swmrgirl9979 It's okay I get what you meant.
And this is why one of the biggest red flags in a relationship is 'I don't want you to spend so much time with your friends' or any variation of it. I encourage my fiancé to go out with her family and friends because living too close isn't healthy for either of us.
Good luck with that. Her friends will be the ones encouraging her once she's decided to divorce you.
@@JakeBor I mean, good? That's what friends are for. Should he want his fiancé to only be with him because he didn't let her out of his sight or spend time with other people? Things will work out between them, or they won't. That's life.
If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen. Just enjoy the time you have with people. Not all relationships last forever, that's fine, doesn't mean they don't have value. If things stop working, or people change, it's okay for the relationship to change too. It's a good thing. Why would anyone want to stay married to someone who no longer wants to be with them?
@@Lurklen No. Not good. It's a sin to encourage another to sin, even if they're a friend.
@@JakeBor I mean is divorce a sin? In which religion? Who was talking about sin anyways, he was talking about supporting his partner and you brought up divorce. But okay lets get religious.
You know what else is a sin? Self righteousness and selfishness.
"Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. ~ Philippians 2:3-4"
If she's unhappy, why should he make her stay? Because it pleases him? How selfish. Who are you to judge the pain or blessings of others. Her friends putting her needs above their own concerns is the very opposite of that.
You know what else is a sin? Fear and fearmongering.
"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10"
What good are you putting into the world by trying to taint this person's life with fear? You think you're serving your God by spreading these ideas of the worst outcome to strangers just sharing some part of their lives? Sounds like for someone of faith you're living in fear dude.
Another one? Okay, how about pride.
"But he gives more grace. Therefore it says, “God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” ~ James 4:6"
"Everyone who is arrogant in heart is an abomination to the Lord; be assured, he will not go unpunished. ~ Proverbs 16:5"
This guy is talking about how much he cares and trusts his partner, about the way they try to ensure the welfare of their relationship, their mental wellbeing, and you have the pride to think you know their life better than them. Who are you? What gives you the right?
Here's two more for good measure. Gossip and Judgement.
"Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. ~ Ephesians 4:29"
"Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler. ~ Proverbs 20:19"
and
"So then each of us will give an account of himself to God. Therefore let us not pass judgment on one another any longer, but rather decide never to put a stumbling block or hindrance in the way of a brother. ~ Romans 14:12-13"
It sounds like if you're worrying about sin, the first place you should look is in the mirror. Me, I'm not religious, I don't pretend to be. So I can judge all I want, and I'm saying you're bit of a wazzock, and you should keep your mouth shut if you have nothing nice to say.
Take care!
@@Lurklen Too long didn't read.
I am literally shaking right now..😢
The thing that gets me is how most narcissistic abusers will never comprehend or care that they were abusive
That's the damn of it. My ex thought after everything he was totally innocent and that he didn't do anything wrong. It was all my fault. I remember him saying to me "you forgive me, right?" Like no buddy after everything you did?!?! Get the f out.
This.
Being in a toxic relationship in the past. I had lie out of fear and anxiety for petty stuffs sometimes.. this trailer was so triggering
Me too. I felt my heart try to climb out of my mouth watching this. Won't be able to see the full movie.
Me too!
Me three. It’s been 20 years. I am good, but I could feel myself sinking just watching the trailer.
After i watched Pitch Perfect trilogy and A simple Favor with Blake Lively she became one of my fav actress. And these movie seems so good and very up to date on some toxic issue in relationship.
She's really good on season one of "Love Life" on HBOmax
Unless you have been there, you cannot possibly understand. Then you get judged by others- especially men. It would be nice if our world could be more compassionate. I was there. My ex was abusive in so many ways. I told my church. The pastor said I was suffering for the Lord, and God is against divorce. Glad I left him and that church.
A fantastic film. Watch it if you haven't yet.
MY BEAUTIFUL COW 🐮
The subtitles in English for this video are just chef kiss
"what am I gonna do without you my beautiful cow"
@@Cashley22 🤣🤣🤣😃
Oh booooy, this looks good! I've seen relationships like this up close and man is it bad for anybody involved as well as the victim. This looks like a must see!
This looks really good!
I love her
I can relate. He wanted me, he made me leave a partner of 20 years, he trapped me emotionally then turned his back and when I made a move he moved backwards and when I tried to leave he moved forward. He said that he couldn't live without me. He needed me but didn't want me. It took me five years, my best years, it cost me a relationship, some friends, my house and my money but I got free. A year or so later I looked at him one day when he asked to meet as a sad pathetic person. I have been alone since 16 years now, I won't take that chance again. They have good camouflage.
Not all men are like that. You deserve love and to let yourself trust again.
Nobody “makes you” leave a partner of twenty years unless you are literally being taken hostage with a gun to your head.
@@self-publishinghelp8596 In a way you are right but it also shows that you have never been in the grip of a narcissist and how powerful their will can be over your own free will. My ex of 20 years has always been one of my best friends over the years and twice when I moved, he and his partner also moved to be near me. They are my direct neighbours now. I had many reasons to leave him other than the influence of my narcissist, years of domination and control and refusal to have children wore me down so meeting this guy just pushed me over. I cannot regret anything I've done as today I am in a fairly good place, alone since 2006 by choice.
@@JainaTargaryen Love thyself ! I have dogs and honestly they don't hold back, are never grumpy, are always up for a cuddle and don't tell me that my ass is big in these jeans !
@@self-publishinghelp8596 Stephanie is right in her answer, what you've just said is what normal people that do not know about what narcisists are able to do say. Until you know how to detect them and get out as soon as possible, is very easy to fall under their influence and "charm". Once they get you is very very difficult to escape. I'm glad more and more people is learning about these kind of behaviours and that movies like this can rise awareness into the colective consciousness.
I'm sure Tanis can get her crew, Wayne, Shoresy and the rest to straighten all this out.
I don't think I can watch this glimpse into the past. It's too real.
NEVER cut ties with your friends or family because of a lover. This is how they isolate you. Plus who do they think they are? Damn, that must be fucking boring and suffocating to stay with one person all the time, so not healthy!!! We all need family and friends to balance our lives. Someone who really loves you wants to be friends with your fam and friends, not to stop you from seeing them.
Can't wait....
I lived this for 5 yrs. Escapd 5 yrs ago. Ptsd for life. I dont sleep. Its hell
@ Dee Cohen,
I'm glad you got away from that person, I will pray for you
God loves you
OOOF! That was a flashback to my first marriage.
Not a problem. Tanis is there. Just have her call in the boys to take care of this fellow. And maybe even bring in The Ginger and Boots.
Subtitles: "my beautiful cow"
Well, actually listen to this and don't rely on subtitles🤣 The first few times said it read "my beautiful cow" LOL I had to turn up the volume to check on that one.
thats a well directed trailer.
Wow this looks intense. I used to be with someone with anger management issues and I was always walking on eggshells around him… I hope this movie helps some people, but honestly the trailer gave me anxiety!!
That's some intense stuff O-o
I watched a lot of horror movies and this one send chills down my spine more than any horror movie!
Always filming at King & Victoria, great location.
One of my least 3 fav (literally one of the luckiest) actresses ever, but for this role after all these years I bet she nails it.
Finaly a movie where Anna can Show her acting Talent
She’s not a good actress my friend
@@gcoleman18 she is. She got an Oscar nomination
@@janniklingnau6875 they throw those around like smarties!
She's consistently irritating in everything...
"My beautiful cow"
This looks good
Alright Tanis!
this looks like it will have many moments in which I cover my view of the screen with my hand
Will this just looks like a bucket of fun and sunshine.
Lol the name is so similar to Dont Worry Darling which the main character was also named Alice
'Still Alice' was also good
One of my favourite movie ❤
My dog acts the same way.
Just watching the trailer I'm uncomfortable, can't imagine being in that kind of relationship.
Oh lordy, that looks terrifying. Perhaps it should be shown in high schools instead of just focusing on sex-ed. I’d do very bad things to any guy who he ever thought he could treat me like that.
It's such a shame that "healthy relationships" isn't considered an essential part of the education of young people
I am pretty good at manipulating women but I think I will watch this to study his technique. I want to avoid his mistakes and make sure I learn how to keep them isolated and learn how to maintain absolute control. Any of you ladies on here want to go on a date?
I was expecting this to be some New Age Alice in Wonderland
Sleeping with the Enemy 2. Hollywood must try harder
That is exactly what I was thinking. I saw Sleeping with the Enemy in 1991 and this trailer reminded me of that movie.
Me and my "girlfriend" haven't seen this one
AUNTI TANIS ALWAYS TAKES CARE OF HER CUBS, WAHEI?
Blockbuster trailer 3 star vs blockbuster movie 5 star 🙄🙄🙄
👀
this movie is the follow up to Mr Right
so many people would rather be in an abusive relationship than be alone.
Is he a robot?
Jeez, just watching the preview made me feel extremely uncomfortable.
What is happening?
Tanis
Ok this is what I warn my granddaughters about …if he’s real? What?
Closed captions says beautiful cow.
Red flag much?
Straight to the lifetime channel movie of the week. Where is the mystery or guessing how this will end?
Noelle went a little darker
I know these dramatic, suspenseful iterations of abuse make for good entertainment, but when it's the only way abuse is portrayed, it creates this idea that there is only one kind of abuse. The general public thinks an abusive relationship always looks like this because it's all they've seen, and while it CAN look like this, it often doesn't and focusing solely on this dramatized version means that the less overt, less dramatized abuse gets to fly under the radar.
I wish someone could capture the subtle, insidious abuse that most women being abused live with, often because they aren't actually able to identify what's happening to them. I personally lived with abuse for 5 years because I thought if I wasn't being hit, stalked, or threatened ominously, it couldn't be abuse and it was disrespectful to "real" victims for me to even compare my situation to a "real" abusive relationship. Most abuse is nearly imperceptible! Where's THAT movie??
I think it's a bit unrealistic for you to ask your adult friend to go on a last minute trip with you for a WEEK. I get like three weeks of vacation a YEAR!
Plot twist she's responsible for the girl that went missing and he's the creep that is using that against her. Probably wrong 😂
Uh oh, someone’s getting stabbed.
Sleeping with the Enemy remake, and a crappier version
i can barely understand that mans accent
God that's creepy.
Right 241
More sub-shaming. Great. Just what we need.
So this movie is to vicariously traumatize women? Or is it to make them feel revictimized? I hate Hollywood. I thought this was some kind of Alice in Wonderland movie.. guess not
The tale of a perfect relationship and evil friends sticking their nose where it doesn't belong
lol
wtf is that
She’ll always be that annoying girl from Up in the Air
Is this about narcissism? Sure looks like it.
...aaaand another trailer that reveals too much.
"My beautiful cow" is so insulting! Just bc he puts beautiful in front of this large ton animal doesn't make it sweet or loving. #DisgustingPossessiveJerk
HATE movies like this. PASS!!!
Looks like another "don't, worry darling"
Just another way to generalize and demonize all men.
ΝΟΤ ALL MEN. Just the toxic , the abusive ones. Abuse can come in various forms and from various people and /or places. It can come from a woman against another woman , from a father to a child, a mother to a child. In this case we have a man and a woman who are in an intimate relationship and the man happens to be the abuser. Simple as that.
*WORST MOVIE!*
This is what a relationship should be. Prove me wrong.
What color is the sky in your world, and why would I waste my time, with you.
@@lindaname9413 You have wasted your time with me by replying.
@@EatDrinkAndTravel LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL. RIGHT BACK ATCHA PAL.
This is exactly how men are treated in relationships. 😄
And females. We can have sympathy for both. In this case it's a female.
@@snoozyq9576 stop calling women 'a female'. this isn't biology class
I have little sympathy for stupid women who get into bad relationships when they could've avoided it entirely in the first place by simply dating nice guys.
@@coach- Well even if they are too dumb to see a person's true nature before falling in love, nothing stops them from leaving afterwards when they do realize.
Let me guess, you consider yourself to be a "nice guy."
@@unkindestcut Ha, no. I'm a prick.
Seriously, you are in deep by the time you realize they have been manipulating you.
*good to see that people are saying that many PEOPLE, be it man woman or whatever, are caught in relationships like this, its not just isolated to women, some men out there with really abusive/crazy partners*
women love toxic dudes