When she says "So what are you looking for?"
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- čas přidán 28. 06. 2024
- The best answer to use if you're not sure is this: 6:38
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This video was for when she asks you early on. If you have been dating for some time and you get this question then you should handle it differently.
You should do a video when she asks after you’ve been seeing them for a long period of time.
Surprised guys even need to ask this. And I'm a single guy myself.
Dude how do you not have more subs?! You legit are one of the very few channels that actually give real dating advice that is actually very effective. Also I love how you use real life examples and answers 👌🏽
CZcams likes to censor/shadowban the truth lmao
I'm not a hot girl lol... But seriously though. Don't worry I'll get there. Just takes time ;)
145k is pretty damn good for a dating coach isn’t it?
@@TheSingleGuy just want to ask what if a girl say he want to find hapiness , what do she really mean ?
If she’s 28-34 there’s about an 80% and higher chance that she’s looking for marriage and children no matter what she agrees with from the beginning. I’ve had multiple women in this age bracket start off saying they aren’t rushing to get married and don’t want kids, only to end asking about marriage and “changing their mind” about having kids within 6 months of dating.
Well duh 🙄
If she has reached her late 20s and still single, she already has a history of passing on good guys. Odds are she will never be satisfied and eventually the relationship ends.
3 weeks? Average man gets a match in 3 months
Lloyd, you're awesome!
Great video bro, always coming in clutch with these videos
Appreciate you Matthew!
very interesting video dude, thanks!! Saludos desde España
Thanks Lloyd
Man I know this is to much but I’m in middle school, and This has helped me I also wanna watch your videos when I’m in 9th grade
Great content here
Yep, I’m one of the women that asked that question…let’s see what you think…
Okay! Those were great responses and thanks for not insulting my intelligence…why do I often ask that question? It’s not exactly rocket science. As you mentioned if you are using a dating site, the answer to that question is already there in the profile! By the time I ask that-trust me-I’ve already perused the site. I’m simply asking an easy, OPEN-ENDED question that he can’t simply say yes or no to. Nothing turns me off more than a string of yes, no, yes, no, no from a guy. So it’s a pretty easy way of finding out if the guy can put more than two words together. Believe me-I’ve run into that problem more times than I can tell you. So I guess I’m the type you just mentioned that wants to get right to it. Also-if he responds with a ‘I don’t know-what are YOU into’? That DEFINITELY narrows the field for me!!! I don’t think I’m any different than the majority of women out there-you know the type-not into dating a child or a guy who does not have the ability to engage in thoughtful conversation and complete sentences (even if it IS the first time we talk/text). So ‘What are you looking for’ pretty much gives me some idea (pretty quickly, too) whether or not I want to get to know him any further or not. Now if I’m asking that question in-person and real time-that question is asked in a WHOLE DIFFERENT context…(wink-wink)…No emojis necessary…😂
By the way-love your channel!
Good stuff man, but I disagree that that question some time into the relationship means that you’re doing something wrong. It could just be that wants reassurance to something she already feels
Could be man. Normally she knows where she stands by your actions but not everyone can take a hint
Women don’t ask me that and I’ve been on over two dozen first dates. I guess they think of me as a lost cause :)
A follow up. How do you show in your actions what you’re looking for
got an answer yet?
Hey Lloyd, so I recently got a bartenders number and wanted to make sure I went about it the right way. Any chance I could talk to you about it?
I get that response all the time just never knew the meaning
I don’t know why they ask this? At least so soon. It puts unnecessary pressure on both people and people aren’t going to be honest.
You should add some low background music, some east effects and transitions, some text on screen (like numbering the steps) and you’ll be golden dude
thanks for the feedback. I'm hiring someone else to do this for me but currently I'm doing all the edits myself. As long as its not distracting from the point I'm happy to include.
31 yr old male here, literally didn’t even know hook ups were a thing until recently. That’s how out of touch/inexperienced with dating I am lol
Its a fair question..especially in my age range, 30-40's...I don't waste time with a man who wants marriage and children, since I've been there/done that!
So you just get pumped and dumped
5:09 ; 6:30
I'll be honest. Kinda surprised this is EVEN A QUESTION. Asides from the bit of saying you're willing to wait (showing you're not desperate), I think the rest SHOULD BE OBVIOUS.
I try not to assume its obvious in my videos because all of this is to me
Man, I got this question early when I dated this girl 4 months ago. I f*** up the answer and my chance went down after that.
At that time I hadnt know ur channel yet
Well now you got it man!
What if a girl asks you face to face "What do you want from me?" Is the same thing or not?
Yeah that's more or less the "so what are we conversation" which I've done a video about too. They are similar
@@TheSingleGuy could you please tell me (name of the video) where to check this video? In my opinion I would avoid girls who ask these kind of questions, they put too much pressure (maybe is their true intention doing a kind of shit test), things should flow naturally, girls who act in this way give you problems on a long-term relationship
One thing I'm still confused about regarding this topic...
What if AT THE SAME TIME:
- 1. You want to hook up (because you enjoy being single and you like sexual variety)
- 2. You're open to getting in a relationship when a special awesome girl comes along
How would you convey this to the girl? Ultimately your long-term intentions may be to get in a relationship, but you can't really guarantee that you'd want to get into a relationship with HER (without first getting to know her AND having sex with her)... 😅
Nice video!
You can reply by saying "Im looking for a cool girl to have chemistry with"
@@nvsbeatbox3949 Ah, the good 'ol Alex/PlayingWithFire homage!
Good question. I think the answer I give at 6:48 is probably the best one
@@TheRadFire yeap
i'm looking for good company and fun adventure travel partner if we become lovers and fall in love great ! I usually say something like that .
nice eye brow's
I'm looking for a wife. What are your real advice for Conservative people? Make a video for , Wholesome 😊 good relationship video for who's gonna date for meaningful relationship
If you are religious, find a good church volunteer group. I find they are some of the best places to meet a wife
@@TheSingleGuy cool
I hate when they ask that question!!! Hate it, hate it!!
I never ask them that question.
Love what you are saying by the way how it's a form of demanding from the get go which is inappropriate.
I like........
LOOKING FOR SOMEONE WHO COMPLIMENTS MY LIFE
If she doesn’t ask the question, should you ask it to her?
No
Unless you want a serious relationship
I made a point in this video to show that asking this question is not a good idea. Instead you should state what you are looking for and pay attention to her actions
Aight, thank you guys
Honestly asking this question has helped me. If a girl answers that she's seeing where things go...chances are they're down to fuck. If they say relationship, I make an effort to take it slow and don't get too sexual
Why do girls look for something serious when monogamy is almost non existent in 2022?
It may seem that way in some circles but the majority of relationships are still monogamous
@@TheSingleGuy facts💪🙏❤️
@@TheSingleGuy how do you know forshure bro? Alot of girls i see in "healthy relationships" still post thirst traps and selfies to get validation.
explain "alot" and monogamy is "non-existent" is there even truth to it or are you just looking at confirmation bias'. Cause none of the relationships I see so far IRL are polygamous other than ones I see online.
@@aaronfahr65 women do this where even if they are not trying to hookup or sleep with another guy they still like to get that validation in their mind that other men think that they are attractive which is why they will sometimes post seductive photos on places like Instagram and other social media platforms. Women like to get attention in general and even if they are not intending to sleep with another man or sleep with any man for the time being they still like to psychologically get that validation that they are hot and sexy and men want to sleep with them even though they do not intend on sleeping with any man for now or even at all or with at least another man if they are already committed to somebody else. Married women even do this sometimes where they are obviously looking to be faithful to their husband but still post seductive photos to get that male attention even if they do not intend to sleep with any of those men.
Usually answer with this. I am looking to break up with all my girlfriends and have a drink with you on day x
This is a shit test. you're looking into it way too much. All you need to do is to laugh it out and change the topic to something else that's fun.
If you answer it straight then no matter what you say you're going to lose. I guess any one can start a youtube channel and give dating advices these days.
It's not always a shit test but if you think it is then my answer at 4:04 would work just fine
Never met a girl that dropped that subject if she brings it up, and if she drops it anyway she already got her answer (nothing serious)
This is a shit test (I've never seen it be more than that)....It's kind of a rude question so very early (you haven't even met before getting hit with this?!?)..about as rude as asking how much sex I will be getting before meeting.