Being a Single Mother in Japan | THE VOICELESS #33
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Single mothers face a continuous culture of shame in Japan. For this interview, we meet a single mother who gave birth out of wedlock and is currently working as a model. We get an in-depth look at her struggles with depression and suicide, and how this affected her relationship with her daughter.
Special thanks to Ayano for sharing her story.
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She touches 2 important overlooked topics in Japan. Mental health and abuse.
So true. These are the kind of things that people should be educated and be aware of, not just in Japan but everywhere.
@@JD-kp6pt why do people do this? They weren't talking about other countries,they're talking about Japan. Can you imagine trying to have a conversation with someone about something important to you when suddenly the other person goes "well that situation happened to such-and-such." I get it, but doesn't it seem sort of like your own problem is being dismissed? Wouldn't it be nice if the other person actually tried to help you with your problem and seemed like it actually mattered by not bringing up someone else.
Not just in Japan but also in Singapore
Japan also promote child pornography.
I think mental health, abuse and other related topics are kind of taboo in Asia (at least in some coutries of Asia)
My respect to those cops arresting the abuser and getting her to a mental facility for treatment. Sometimes these little things are overlooked, even law enforcement and government assistance get discredited often.
I'm glad they did what they did. She might not be here today if it wasn't for them.
My respect to the neighbours who reported it. Normally people just ignore it.
Sadly if this was US cops they would probably lock her up too and do much worse things
japanese lang is a order form.... if you can not take take kind of word with high tension..... then everything is abuse.... most of the time the hudband can not deal with woman's randam of moody........
My guess is it must have been real bad for them to get involved.
"I don't care what happens to me. But I have someone I want to protect now. So I think that's why I didn't choose to die that day."
I'm crying. A mother's will-power is indeed above everything else.
Ya what a great mom. I cried watching the interview with her daughter.
That's not exclusive to mothers. While she is a good mom, that's just basic parenting in general.
Yes , very sad. My tears came.
Was thinking : I experienced similar things in my life.
I hope this young lady all the power she needs. Don't ever surrender, you worth to live. Your daughter shouldn't be the only reason to be on this beautiful planet earth.
Have some patience, be happy with your daughter who's healthy.
Be very careful by chosing the a man. It's so hard nowadays to be in good relationships.
I don't know, if I ever will meet a good man who's genuine and knows to behave respectful.
damn proud parents lol
Yes, and I hope one day see she’s her own value and lives for herself as well.
One of the most beautiful Japanese woman i've ever seen and also a a superhero for her daugher.
Well she is a model not an ideal role model unlike the normal single mom who works 2-3 jobs just to get by some barely making minimum wage like my mom
@@asuraXTC dude just because she is not doing a 9-5 job doesn't mean she's not a good role model
@@asuraXTC being a model is also very dangerous job because many people if power take advantage of them, also the pressure to be perfect and to be fit
@@asuraXTC who says models aren't normal people
@@KPoutakes You're ridiculous !
😄
She’s gorgeous, depression is tough. “Suffocating Mindset”, at least she had that figured out. She dealt with emotional, physical and mental abuse. Not living up to parent’s expectations. Divorce, a serial cheater. Suicide attempts. Her precious daughter is her reason to keep pushing. “Live your Life as you want!” Good advice. I wish her well.
She's such an inspiration, facing those problems all at once but pushing through it. The man who made her suffer is so weird, why ruin something so precious. He was lucky to have her and a daughter, sadly he is blind to see such blessings.
Chaeyeon's Munekyun well said. I so agree. 👍
@selminus .1490 haha let's see how ugly and fat you are 🤣
selminus .1490 pity u alien 👽
@selminus .1490 dude...what? Gtfoh. What a terrible thing to say.
have a hard life as a child, getting beaten by her boyfriend, divorced, single mom raising her daughter while having BPD all along those journey. If you can survive that, you already a hero and greatest warrior in my book.
Sactio Swastioyono thank you
simp.
William Wallace 🤫
Exosted Gamer 🤫
Amber Afonso I’m sure said she has BPD🤔
I’m being raised by a single mother with my older brother and I realize how much trouble we cause her and how much she does to make us the best people we can possibly be. I love my my mom to death. The smartest thing she’s ever done was teach my us how to value ourselves, who to value, how to be happy, and to be humble. From that alone, we naturally learned how to grow into men by having the curiosity and intelligence to teach ourselves. I’m so great full to have a mother like her. I knew a friend and his mom since 4th grade and in 7th grade, his mom died in a car accident. Because of that, I learned the hard way that the most you could ever lose in your life is another human soul. But life is life, we move on, never forget, and always connect with our higher selves.
This is the reason why I would never want to leave my future wife to raise children on her own. It’s something that can’t be repaid with any money, words, or emotion. To any women living in this world, you work too hard to be with the wrong person. Find someone who has a goal, someone who can respect themselves, someone who is focused on their purpose in life, and the right person for you. Find a man, not a boy.
god bless your mom 🥰
@@angelrose4624 Thank you 🙏
what you mom did right there is significantly important to children which my parents didn't do. I grew up with low self esteem and depression due to that because I always felt I will never be enough for them. My sister who enjoyed drawing, lost her interest (habit) of drawing because she had bad grades in school and they considered that drawing is the reason she's like that, so yeah not all parents are good, some of them even reached the maximum scale of toxicity and ruined their children life. Me and my sister (especially her) lost the ability to acknowledge the self-love and now I have to do the parents job to rebuild the whole things and ignore our parents at our best. You are so lucky.
How old are you now?
can we just talk about how pretty she is and how she’s such a great mum despite her past . she’s staying strong for her daughter and i really look up to her for that 🥺
Its not all about looks. There is more inside
@@realtalk675 did u read the whole comment-?
@@angelrose4624 of course they didnt
Hiroko is a great host, she knows how to not offending her and make her comfortable telling her story. Good job Hiroko!
100% agree, she's the best!
Agreed! I’ve not been as interested in Asian Boss videos lately but then ones with Hiroko are simply the best 👌🏻
Hiroko always do a great job. I love her.
She's my favorite
i really like how compassionate she is, too. she doesn't ask uncomfortable questions nor does she get too personal with the person she's interviewing ^^
Hiroko is a very professional interviewer, always asking difficult questions with a mature attitude.
She did a great job. And her mannerisms and kindness and real empathy with her guest, was comforting to me.
And a charming attitude
Yes so true I like her
@@ambercloud2776 That's what you do when you're doing an interview and make it look good. Duuuuh.
@@mickyt7690 unfortunately not every interviewer is like that
She has been through so much, I'm literally in tears. I'm so happy she's surviving(or so it seems) and is trying to be strong ❤️
Same here. The thing she would tell her daughter is amazing. She should write a book or something to share her experience
@@gluv208 something almost every black mom never gets credit for lmao
She's a real Hero. My heart goes out to her. Bless her and her little princess.
Can I just say Hiroko's an amazing interviewer - she did her best to make the interviewee felt comfortable (esp. for Ayano who's been through so much and how she's put up so much courage to do an interview with strangers) and throughout the whole interview it's like friends catching up, Hiroko's response to Ayano's overwhelming stories are genuine. She made viewers like me feel comfortable and engaging as well.
Stephanie C. That’s right! She’s a great interviewer.
She is the best interviewer of Asian boss
@@yachishairclips2250 Of course, she is the best interviewer. She did no fact check anything. Being gullible is the most important trait of an excellent interviewer.
I love how she’s not afraid of sharing her own story that can be ‘shameful’ to others to her daughter. Best of wishes to her and her child 💕
Do koreans share the same view on this topic?
@@666Kaca I think all of Asia is like this because it is the same struggle in Saudi Arabia
@@nuninuniii7291 here in latin america people still have stigma about this topic💔
Japanese society can be so hard, this woman deserves alot of respect if you know what she has been trough and how she tries to survive and be successful. 😉👌👍
**Draws out the African card**
She's developed bipolar to the point of suicide!? In Japan, it seems like the stigma is intense. Shaming for being a single mother...what about the absentee father?
To be fair, they have one of the lowest single mother rate s in the world. Same with teen pregnancy. Very few societies have only negatives. That means better lives for children over all, even if the few are sacrificed. No idea if that's right or wrong, but it's how it is. The pressure on men to take responsibility and succeed is so intense that they often withdraw from Japanese society completely. So no, he's far from being spared.
@Zero Maverick Relationships should be a private thing and should be separated from work. It is not their business what we do and what ppl we meet after work.
@Zero Maverick Right, I agree that these actions that you describe are indicators of poor moral judgements, but these are CAUSES of divorce. Divorce in itself should be normalized and not shamed because there is a plethora of reasons behind divorce that are not necessarily rooted in malice. For example, if a couple just doesn't love each other anymore, they should be able to divorce without facing negative social pressure... EVEN if they do have a child too. Why make a child live with parents that don't love each other anymore?
Just to clarify, this means I am saying that a loss of love should not be considered a failure. Love is so complicated and different from an organization, that a loss of it could simply mean goals and perspectives have changed.
@Zero Maverick yeah right theres a reason Korea and Japan have higher levels of school bullyiing and suicide rates, because people are perpetually unhappy and told by those like you to push themselves until its too late.
Japan simply doesnt tolerate the idea of single motherhood and absentee fathers. Both are shunned.
Is that good or bad?
Depends on your outlook.
While in the west you have a single motherhood epidemic. Japan doesnt tolerate what they see as western degenerate values.
really respect and appreciate her honesty and courage in being open about her bipolar disorder, suicidal ideation, etc. especially in cultures where mental illness is so taboo to talk about, it's really impactful when someone is willing to do that. and much love and support to her as she continues to raise her lovely daughter
Seems from the interview that it's her love for her daughter that keeps her going through tough times
No daughter should deal with a parents issues. This is why Japanese judge. More Japanese.
japanese lang is a order form.... if you can not take take kind of word with high tension..... then everything is abuse.... most of the time the hudband can not deal with woman's randam of moody........
It will always be taboo unless brave souls come out and talk about their experiences.
The reason she wanted to kill herself was because of the abuse and being a single parent. I think the socialist idea of being a single parent is stupid and shouldn't be accepted. I think she deserved a better husband but I don't think this shouldn't been some type of social issue.
Her parents didnt bring her up in a loving environment, so she grew up not knowing how she should be loved. I really hope she will find joy and stability from here on.
The only thing she's doing is conning men out of money
You can’t truly know love till you know how Jesus died on the cross
@@josephguerra457 lmao
It's not that easy
@@josephguerra457 💀💀💀
I feel like crying hearing her message for her daughter. Really, the kindest people are the ones who faced the greatest hardships
She’s a warrior really, can’t see how anyone could shame her
I’m a single father with 3 daughters and I understand how she feels. I was frustrated but looking up after my daughters made me strong and work harder. Facing just day to day basis of life.
God bless you, you're an amazing father
I wish you and your daughters the best!
I wish you all the best in life, for you and your daughters!
@@ms.d5195 It's because single mothers are usually in that situation because they have been irresponsible (sexually immoral/promiscuous). Or they got pregnant in unstable relationships (out of wedlock), and naivly expected that the father would stay after the baby is born. Single fathers are respected more because that usually means that the mom is either an addict, dead, or something else incapacitating happend to the mother that made the court give father full custody over children. Rarely does the court give full custody over children to the father unless something is seriously wrong with the mother. Courts are very biased against fathers. But single mothers used to be respected too, when they were single for a good reason - e.g. got pregnant within a marriage, but had to leave the marriage due to abuse or unfaithfulness by the husband. A serious damage is being done to the child when you deprive it of a fatherless upbringing, therfore you need to consider very carefully with who and when you are getting pregnant if you want respect from others in case you end up single again.
You're a good man. Your daughters will see that
When saw this title and person getting interviewed, she looked familiar, then I realised I follow her on instagram and then she also posted this on Instagram as well. I was stunned and baffled by her circumstances and thought "you never really know what the person in the instagrams or facebook are actually going through in life". Respect to her for her courage.
what's her @?
Aisha Mohammed ayano08_
Coral Pastel ayano08_
I’m so thankful that she shared her story especially surrounding the idea of mental health. It’s amazing.
Im a son of a single mother
respect to all the single moms out there
@Zero Maverick RESPECT to them
its hard being a single mom not so ez
Zero Maverick many husbands/boyfriends abandon their pregnant girlfriends/wives. Or even leave a few years after the child is born. How is that their fault? Can you predict the future? It’s easy to judge when it isn’t your situation.
@@xvenacavax Thats sexist. You think woman wouldn't do that too?
That's why this channel can be bs if this channel tries to cover on a topic but never cover both opposite sides.
Yes, I totally agree!!!
My life is really shitty right now but looking at people like her makes my troubles really insignificant. She is truly a strong person. A lot of respect for her.
just because someone has it "worse" does not mean you're not allowed to acknowledge your suffering. I hope things get better for you soon!
The world is broken right now, keep your head up. Take it day by day, welcome the sun and embrace the breeze when you are outdoors. Learn to love yourself and march to your own beat. Sending you hugs.
Keep it going, learn from experience and strive for better.
You are in a bad situation for a reason, to learn and grow. Nothing lasts forever, even bad phases in our life. :)
Zero Maverick your IQ might probably be high but I bet your EQ doesn’t even come close to lower average people in this world.
@Zero Maverick this is why u lack of EQ, nvm explaining things to people who doesn't recognize their own fault is useless.
She starts falling apart every time she is in front of people. This is what abuse does; the scars abusers leave are permanent.
This woman is beautiful and has such a tragic history, I like the way she cares about her daughter and move on.
Such a great interview. Both the interviewer and the mom were Amazing. Thank you so much
I really appreciate Asian Boss for not showing her daughter's face. I don't know if it's her decision or Asian Boss', either way, thank you.
It’s a popular practice in japan. Many kids faces and personal info would be censored on TV
The young lady is well composed and is aware of her condition. It's sad to know that in Japan single mothers are looked down upon. I'm sure not all, but most are because of the culture. She's an inspiration to many who have no one to count on.
I would think this is widespread in all of the Asian countries. Hell, even here in America it happens.
@Quan Jiang Its only logical, why would you spend resources to raise another mans offspring(baggage and leftovers literally)
Socialism is what creates single parents. The idea of being able to cheat and hurt people without any consequences. Making people accept something is wrong. I think it should be up to the Japanese people to decide what is right and what is wrong.
She reminds me a lot of my mother she had a very rough childhood and didn't get treated with nearly enough love. My mother also has BPD among other things. She was shamed for her weight and having children at such a young age. My father got her pregnant at the young age of 16 and from then on she had 3 more children. She lost all of them do to her mental illness and drug abuse. My father also beat her and gave up his rights to be with another women and he had 2 more other children. I also experienced a shitty, trauma filled (terrible if you will) childhood due to this. I forgive my mother and try to understand what she was going through and still is going through rather than being mad at her. I still resent my father for his actions. I may or may not forgive him one day.
I am so proud of this women for going against the odds and staying strong. She and her daughter deserve a happy joyful life. I truly admire her.
A mother who looks after her daughter before herself even after going through all this, god bless her
I'm so impressed by how open she is about her private life in this interview, especially with her anxiety!
Agree!!!
Didn’t you listen her at all? She said she’s getting better and that before she wouldn’t have been able to do something like this
Face the fears. That is how you diminish and control it.
I probably have the worst Anxiety a human can possibly get without having a seizure but I don't put my problems on others. I don't put it in some type of socialist Ideology. I just deal with it and not make others suffer for my disorder.
Hiroko is truly an amazing interviewer. She's empathetic and knows what to say at the right time while also reassuring and affirming the interviewee. I love to see her interviews because she does it so well and they always open up to her!
Yeah I’m glad she made her interviewer comfortable
Absolutely agree
Well spoken! She does deserve credit for her excellent conversational skills - few people can navigate a dicey situation with such grace; kudos to her/her team! :)
I'm impressed how reflected and honest she is. She is so strong, giving her best for her daughter and herself.
May you be blessed with infinite love, happiness health and abundance in your life ❤️
She's so thoughtful and pretty, and strong, that kid is so lucky to have a mother like her. I hope somebody tells that mother as much, that she's amazing and she's doing an amazing job. She's right, everything she went through made who she is today, and she's wonderful, so she deserves to be happy.
japanese lang is a order form.... if you can not take take kind of word with high tension..... then everything is abuse.... most of the time the hudband can not deal with woman's randam of moody........
She was abused by her family, did not feel safe, or received emotional support during childhood. We always fall for pretty lies that end us up in abusive relationships because it is familiar to what we had with our parents, we repeat the cycle until we recognize the injustice happened to us and treat ourselves how our parent(s) should have treated us.
You're right. I did that same mistake. It's incredible to think how much can your own mother damage you, and it's for life.
this hits close to home damn
Yesss,my own mother destroyed me too.
This video reminds me how incredibly love from mother is..
You're the real hero, I hope you have better life in the future :)
to anyone who still have a mother, let's love her, and make her be the happiest person in the world..
I love you my mom ❤️
For all that she went through and is going through it warms my heart that she has great relationship with her daughter. She speaks so well about her and has really nice things to say about her. Seems to me that her daughter is all the support she needs . Even some mothers who are far from her financial and social status rarely have kind things to say about their children. I guess that’s the silver lining in this hard situation, seems like they treasure each other a lot. And that’s so sweet.Especially since she doesn’t seem to have great relationship with her own parents.
I know it's obvious, but she's so beautiful..
That's why she's gonna get jobs easier
that's why she's a model.
Often, it's a curse.
@@glanced9684 being ugly is a worse curse.
GameFuMaster model is not for a lifetime job
Her daughter, actually saved her life. I applaud this mom, never give up, your daughter is watching and will grow up to be so strong from you!
"Her daughter actually saved her life." So if you're having suicidal thoughts, the cure is to go have a child because the child will be watch and become strong through you? What kind of tripe is this?
@@demef758 I find it hilarious how you are flipping what I say. Over thinking much? Lol Some things and or people change the way of lives. So yes, again. Her daughter saved her life bc she keeps going on for her.
@@demef758 your entire argument is a logical fallacy
@@demef758 I'm sure if you made the effort, there are classes you can take for _reading comprehension_
You took the OP's comment and twisted it into some fantasy drama where you are included. Even though the chances are between non-existent and "not happening"...
I hope you gain perspective, maturity & basic critical thinking skills.
@@demef758 she was implying specifically "HER daughter" she never implied that would be a solution. But from ayano's situation her daughter saved her, and it's MEG amor's opinion. Not a very strong argument sir or english is not your first language that's why you can't comprehend that much?
This young mother and her daughter have my total respect! Best of luck for both your futures!
she's not just pretty on the outside, but her soul is also beautiful! i hope she'll be happy from now on 💛💛💛
It always sucks when people can't live a normal life just because of people's prejudices or narrow mindeness
Im cringing from getting noodle
What prejudice was mebtioned?
AS well as just ignorance, deep down guilt, and their own lacking of self-esteem. So they need to put others down.
@@maximillianafrancine1451 Oh you missed the whole beginning about the prejudice she faced for being a single mother? Plus, preconceived notions about people with mental health issues. I don't know how you missed all that. Unless, you didn't watch the video, Lol.
@@skywalker6648 Hi Sky Walker, all that was in the introductory credits, What question did the interviewer ask the guest about the prejudice?
She is pretty and humble. Truly beautiful.
@Z Sleazoid not everything is in the looks and everybody is beautiful in their own way💗Try changing your mindset by thinking in a more positive way💜
@Z Sleazoid i didn't said she wasn't pretty or anything
so are you baby, show bobs a vegan
Z Sleazoid- Ignore him. Bet he’s a keyboard slammer on reddit and Twitter all day waiting for every chance to argue.
@@aromlaa7066 I feel like blocking him it's my comment that everyone is commenting on.
Best wishes to this strong lady and her daughter. She seems like a great mom and her story is inspirational because she seems to be thriving through all these harsh conditions and all the courage she’s shown to keep fighting and taking care of her daughter.
She has such a big heart and it feels like her life experience plucked the feathers from her wings that she wanted to spread when she was young. She deserves so much more love in her life, for her and her daughter. Someone who'd raise the both of them up and let them become the angels that the both of them are. Although i'd understand if she will have lost al trust in men being so deeply hurt, but I hope she will also remember that there is good out there and not all are horrible beings.
11:35 Children behave as they are treated. Her kindness is a reflection of her Mother's care.
She is really doing her best in life. I am also diagnosed as “bipolar”, I am also a single mother who went through similar experience as her, cheated by boyfriend during pregnancy. i like what she said in the end. We learn more about ourselves and life after what challenges we had faces. I am a happy mom just like her. Wish her all the best.
From which country you are mam?
Emphony AMV I am Chinese who lives in sweden.
In modern world people is seeing single mother and the next generation always think there is no need for male partner in raising a child so don't have to be in a long relationship with someone as like west nuclear families are being taken by single parents and increasing in our culture a thinking is generating that there is no need for male in family as a women can do everything by herself ...........living life is an art having someone beside you is a gift ....people should always favour this in relationship ........if u want to cut the tree of this problem u should hit it in the root
Hope you and your little one are doing good. Remember that people come and go in life and those who dissapear from your life, they are not worthy of you anymore. There is always better, strive ahead!
Wish you the best of luck too 🙇🏼♂️🇩🇪/🇨🇳/🇸🇪
You and your daughter are beautiful on the inside and outside. I've been a single parent for many, many years and it's a big job and the most hardest job in life you will ever have. It's even a more harder job when you don't have a positive support system and are always being put down, judged and belittled. Stay strong and I'm keeping you both in my prayers.
Wow what a great mother. And what honesty! She is so calm and collected whilst explaining everything with such clarity, I can definitely see the sadness in her stare. I hope she finds happiness and is healed emotionally. Also I pray her sweet princess grows up different, since she is loving her and had a great life. Lastly, again, this interviewer is just AMAZING! SHE JUST INSPIRES TRUST IN OTHERS, NEVER CUTS ANYONE OFF AND IS ALWAYS SO RESPECTFUL N SWEET WITH THE LITTLE GIRL. LOVE HER.
Children give many people the reason to keep going. Ive met a few single mum's like this whose only reason for living is their kids. Salute.
And kids are only reason for their miserable life cuz most people don't like to date milfs.
@@n3gi_ i would still date her
@@v3le yes you would but Japan is not like west, people there don't even wants to have their own kids, so not many people are willing to have relations with a single mother.
@@n3gi_ yes true, most of japanese didn't really like to have many children, so it might be difficult for single mother to find other man and get a married again
I had a relationship with a single mom for a while. It was hard...don't do it unless you're ready to be a dad. Sex was mind blowing though lol.
Forget avengers, marvel etc., THIS woman is a true and real superhero.
Tony Stark gave his life for half the universe!
@@hanma1705 No he did not, because he is a product of imagination. This woman is real.
@@fammue I know. But seems like you don't seem to like Sarcasm.
@@hanma1705 Sorry was not able to grasp your sarcasm here lol ;-)
@@fammue it's okay man, I know she's a strong mother, I mean every mother is.
Omg I'm crying so badly this woman is actually very strong and kind and surely a great mother 🙏🏽❤️🍀
I really hate how her boyfriend and her husband treated her but their are now gone and she has the greatest luck and hope god could give her--her lovely daughter ❤️❤️❤️
Cheaters are always a cheaters matter how beautiful and gorgeous their woman is.. Smh..
Fact.
Well love is a temporary chemical reaction anyways...
Even if you date a porn star, you'll get bored after approximately 3 months
@@bullymaguire2061
Well that's oddly specific lol
POOR BABY who was cheating ?
@@unica0101 yea I guess looks can only go so far.
Or maybe monogamy is unnatural
“ we told u so” the most hated words in history
some times they are right, but often times it's used by people to excuse themselves from trying (i.e. starting a business)
Look, we really don't what will be the consequences of our action.
It's just that if the outcome as per they predicted, they say that they told you so.
EDIT: I'm replying to the replies above me btw, I agree with op
idk man, I don't think it's totally her fault. A lot of times strict parents really fk their kids up mentally, when everything you do is decided by your parents, you don't grow up with confidence or self-worth, and when you are over protected, you don't have enough social experience to see the bad in people, aka you get tricked easily.
It's not always black and white guys, and if you truly love your kids, you wouldn't say that man, you would let your kids know you are there for them, does it matter that you were right if your love ones are hurting.
I’m just saying what ever happens to you your parents should be supportive rather than rubbing salt on a wound
"I'm just saying what ever happens to you your parents should be supportive rather than rubbing salt on a wound." So if I murder someone, my parents should support my acts of defiance? I'm certainly not implying that Ayano murdered anyone, but there are obviously degrees of "bad decisions," many of which are WORTHY of being scorned! Most parents are very good, a few are monsters. Most kids grow up good, but a few grow up being monsters, too. Look up the Menendez brothers, for instance. Who is to say that Ayano is NOT in the process of screwing up HER kid? We won't know until her child of five is Ayano's age, will we? Science still does not know if mental illness is inherited or learned? I'm inclined to think the former, as there are countless examples of people who went insane, following in the footsteps of a parent. Example: Marilyn Monroe's mother.
He cheated on her, I would say her reaction is justifiable accepted.
sad part is that he could have stayed but he was thirsty. smh
I agree (about ditching the cheating hubby). However, as the old expression goes, "somewhere someone is tired of her s**t." Just because you're beautiful or handsome does not mean you are a pleasant person to live with. Many marriages go south once the beauty wears off, as it always does.
@@demef758 your response doesn't make sense wtf are you saying
Yeah he deserve it
She made the wrong choice in choosing that man.
wow, my biggest respect for her giving the interview and being so open and honest about her problems. and my biggest respect for her making her way! manic depression is so hard, i had experienced a friend going through it and it was a hell of a time for him and his sourrounding.
for me as a european person the body language and facial expressions of them is very confusing, they talk about deeply personal and existential things and still keep giggling. i nearly had to cry two times....
These are the kinds of people one need to admire. Being alone raising a child is no easy job, so instead of shaming them, people should be supporting them. They are independent and strong people.
Her message: "Always be yourself. Live your life as you want. And you might perhaps face difficulties, but know that all those experiences will help you grow. And without those experiences, there'd be a lot of things in life you wouldn't be able to see. So I just want to say that there are no wrong decisions in life."
I've been there, but you'll feel dying several times -- heartaches. Somehow you'd be driven by curiosity and try to experiment until you've found the formula between what's sustainable and unsustainable systems in your life. Sometimes right, sometimes an excuse. I wish her all the best.
I really admire her for working hard and raising her child with so much love. She’s a great mother and I hope their little family is full of happiness and health forever.
However, the evidence is quite clear that single motherhood is not good for children. It is now become more of a lifestyle choice in the West and the results are terrible.
StimParavane My grandmother was a single mom and my mother was too. We all graduated from college, have great careers and are very happy. Maybe single parenthood has negative outcomes when said parent is just not a good parent/person, I don’t believe it has anything to do with someone not having a husband/wife to help raise their child.
@@sierra-x Well, it depends on the person.
I was also raised by a single mother until I was 19, but the thing is even if I'm having a pretty good life at the moment, I sometimes felt the absence of him. Like having a mentor to go through some tough times, or feeling that you weren't guided and you have to rely completely on your own.
And the outcomes of being an independant are great for sure but when you also start to be on this mood, you think that solving your problems yourself is always the right thing to do, which can be too hard to bear in some cases (in my case : dealing with a friend with suicidal tendancies and being hurt in the process).
It gives you some character for sure, but it also has its flaws.
Sierra x Your story doesn't represent the masses.
Just cause Justin Bieber and Chris Brown come from single mother households and became superstars doesn't mean they represent the majority...
I have seen 3 or 4 diff videos this interviewer has done at diff times. And must admit how good she is at her job. The way shes able to connect with strangers, make them comfortable to express their story in a raw and honest way, and draws out interesting experiences and answers from them using good questions. It really ends up making these vids so interesting to watch.
That woman is such a beautiful, brave and wise person. Her beauty shines from the inside. Her story brought me to tears. I wish she only gets happiness in her life from now on. She went through so much, she suffered so much. I hope her abusive ex never gets out of prison and leads a miserable life for what he did.
I love how she gets comfortable and switches from polite way of talking to more casual way of talking. I wish all the best to her and her daughter. お幸せに！
That made me really sad. She's lived through a lot of traumas, it's no wonder she's suffering from a bipolar disorder. I hope she'll find happiness.
She's a good mom. She's doing the best she can and doing a great job. I hope she knows how many people here are cheering for her and her daughter.
This has me in tears. What a hard life Ayano-san has had. And her daughter who will watch this someday.. How hard it must be for her to watch this after all the years has passed.
I hope Ayano-san can find it in her to stay strong and keep going... What an inspiring woman.
Her experience is very similar to mine. We’re the same age too. I cried watching this. My daughter just turned two. I went through hardships and it’s difficult. I used to want to die but having my daughter saved me.
You have worth.
Do you feel like your daughter gives you a reason to live everyday? I too want a child I feel like life isn't worthy if there's not someone out there who needs me..
@MrAJEO It's true. But I think it's normal to want children. I'm tired of living just for myself. I want to share my life with a child.
@MrAJEO I think for me it's both. I mean I am married and I am content living with my husband, but I don't know if I could go the rest of my life with it being just me and him only. I'm not sure to what extent it would be considered "unhealthy" for me to feel like that's something that would fullfill me.
I agree having a child is a beautiful thing. I think every child should be cared for and I am very sorry for what happened to you. I think personally we shouldn't be accepting single parenthood and treat this more of a serious mental issue and help people readjust back into society. I thinking making people accept single parents and making this a socialistic Ideology. Is not helping anyone and instead I think people should try to help you and her. I think you deserved a better partner and someone who truly loves you. Not someone who cares because you are a single parent.
This made me cry wow.. She's such a strong woman and such a good mother to her daughter despite having gone through so much. She's a real hero.
@John Wayne I think it's cultural difference. In my culture people think single parents are strong. Plus I think the mother is really strong because most of the time when people are abused as a kid they do the same to their kids. So people who break the cycle of abuse are strong.
@John Wayne if they want to they can just abandon their kids. But they still choose to raise their kids properly in most cases. I can't even imagine how difficult it is to raise a small child on your own. Everybody has made poor decisions in life no need to shame anyone. In abusive relationships people usually appear very nice but later they start to show their true colours. Also many a times abusers get their spouse pregnant or themself get pregnant to trap their partner in a relationship. I find single parents strong becuase raising a small kid on your own is a very difficult job.
@Zero Maverick God you’re so stupid
probalby my fav interview so far. love both the interviewer and interviewee
She has nothing to be ashamed or afraid of. Such a beautiful woman with a beautiful heart. Wish you all the best.
How can a guy even cheat on a woman like this ?? What a jerk, seriously. Luckily she has this mature daughter who takes care of her emotionally. I really hope she completely recovers from her condition.
Sadly, men could cheat when you are gorgeous, amiable, lovely, etc. Cheating is just a habit. I know some women who were getting cheated, but they are far more beautiful and kind than the flings their husband took. Sometimes, I don't understand why some men or women cheated, is it because the thrill?
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@@mrnarason forsenCD 2 times
red orchadia to be honest it’s getting greedy and not appreciating what you have 😢
@@fluffymozarella3776 definitely for the thrill as well, NTR is the most famous genre of their porn industry, some of them even love to be cheated and they think it's exciting.
Interesting that she says that bipolar disorder is a “brain disorder”. It absolutely is, I just never hear it called that in the west. 🤷🏼♀️
Everything seems to be offensive in the west nowadays, so I'm not surprised.
In the interview she said that she received brain shrinkage - which was probably the brain disorder. Many brain disorders cause mental illnesses such as bipolar and i think she meant it this way
@@Sliv3rwing That is sad. :,(
Its very literal.
@@Lethemback lmao
I admire this girl..Striving to live her life with her daughter despite all the obstacles..Keep it up..
Ayano is very strong and inspiring. I almost cry hearing her story. She is also very beautiful. Best wishes
Sometimes you don’t really know someone till it’s too late. Nothing wrong with being a single parent; shaming is ridiculous. Better to be single then trapped with a horrible partner for the rest of your life.
This made me cry because my mom is a single mother also. A mother's love knows no bounds really.
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wishing her and her adorable daughter all the best in every step they take in the future
She is a very strong mother, I too am a single parent and sympathize with her greatly, but she has life and she has strength...if she reads this know you are never alone and you have everything to live for in your daughter...God bless you always and forevermore.
I'm a single mother as well.. and I can relate to her. Single mother shaming is happening all over the world. I'm just thankful and blessed for having an accepting and supportive family...
Sorry that wasnt happen in +62 or maybe other asean country.
Single mothers should not be encouraged
Not a hint of victim mentality. She might not realise it but this woman has some incredible strength in her! Wishing her and her daughter a long and happy life!
"victim mentality"
Victim mentality? 🤔🤔🤔🤔
how much money yall wanna bet op's a republican?
Right? Unlike the US where single mothers blame everyone around them including the goverment while looking like stranded whales.
Chill people. I'm speaking purely from a psychological perspective, not a social-political one. She'd have every right to express a victim mentality but the fact that she doesn't is all the more impressive in my eyes.
Her History Makes me think there are people who, even if they have fallen into their deepest darkness, they struggle alone to stand up and keep fighting
True heroes
It’s 3:30 in the morning and I’ve watched two of these Asian Boss interviews in a row. I’ve seen Asian Boss videos before but they were mainly of the male interviewers approaching randoms on the street, these interviews are SO much better and what a brilliant interview this was! She’s become such a strong lady through her hardships and sounds like she is extremely mature for her age. What she said at the end of the video is extremely touching and shows so much wisdom. I don’t know if people in Japan talk freely this way but it was great to hear her story and I hope she found it therapeutic in a way.
Subbing because of the two videos I’ve watched!
My mother was in the same boat as her. During the immigration from Vietnam to Hawaii, my grandparents didn't like my biological dad and decided not to sponsor him. Afterwards and when I was only 5 years old, my mom was kicked out of my grandparents home, while my oldest aunty's family get to lived with them until they're financially better off. With no money and almost homeless, my mom had to make ends meet to keep us alive. Luckily, my step dad came into our picture and help us out. So both of my grandparents are gone and recently my grandpa passed away not too long ago. When I heard the news about his passing, I didn't weep at all. I didn't bother go to the hospital where he was dying, nor do I care about going to his funeral. But out of the respect of my mom, I will attend, because I love her very much.
What's the take home advice? Don't treat people (especially your own kids) like they're garbage until you know who they really are and give them a chance to grow. Because you may never know when that person will end up helping you in your time of need.
These episodes are such a valuable insight into what isn't seen in Japan's culture and society.
This is really late but a guy called Nobita covers many unseen problems in Japan's culture and society. He interviews many people who are involved in those topics.
You are not alone- thank you for being brave and sharing your story.
Hope she finds someone, who will appreciate her because she really is amazing (both on the outside and inside).
she’s so beautiful. I hope her and her little girl are doing well!
I knew this interview needed Hiroko just by reading the title. And going through the interview itself and the sensitive topics addressed there's not a better host in whole Japan for this type of work.
She is a very strong woman and deserves everything in this life!
So much respect to her an all single mothers. I was raised by my mother and my grandparents and aunts after my mom had to leave my abusive dad, my mom did and still does everything she can for my brother and I. My brother (32) me 24 my mom is my hero idk how she does it.
I'm very proud of her I'm glad she's pushing through these trials in her life I wish her nothing but the best for her and baby girl.
I dont know if I can be strong like her 😞 being abused by a bf, cheated by a husband, raising a kid with so much burden, no one to help. Come to think of it I am so lucky and yet I complain alot. Ayano san, be happy!
Same like she literally got bipolar disorder because she was abused by her bf yet she kept moving forward. Yet whenever I am met with the slightest inconvenience, I keep thinking thats the end. I don't wanna live anymore
Hiroko is awesome ! Even when she's interviewing people with sensitive problems, she always have that calm, trusting aura which touched and let others open up and relax to talk about even their deepest feelings. Great job, young lady, Asian Boss is lucky to have you !
What a tough woman, hopefully she never attempt to suicide because of her disorder and the pressure of her life. Bless for you and your lil daughter ❤️
Very emotional video, I had to hold the tears in. I can't imagine the pain she's endured. She is incredibly strong for making it through all of her hardships, especially for her awesome daughter. I wish her the best.
Asian Boss never ceases to amaze me with every single video they upload. And I hope she finds a good partner who loves and takes care of them both.
Such a courageous beautiful mom. Her daughter is really lucky to have her. God bless them!!
To all the single mothers and fathers out there that hasn't abandoned their child hope u will find a good man or woman willing to accept ur child as their own