I feel so bad when she yells at him and holds his hands down, and then he takes them and holds his own hands, as if they've been burned.. So much better the other way. It hurts to see lonely, sad old people.
It makes sense repetitive behaviors can be out of boredom and anxiety, try not to be annoyed over it. I"m not a caregiver or anything but I deal with my own repetitive behaviors like swinging my arms or playing with my hair.
I’m checking out courses about working in the health sector especially for dementia. My grandfather has it and I really would like a career change. This video is a help thanks.
I have a German brother in law who has alzheimers and he was and still is an alcoholic who keeps asking if there is something to drink around here. He started drinking from the olive oil bottle thinking it was wine. An alcoholic with alzheimers is worse than a regular person with dementia.
Explanations for some of the puzzling behavior of folks with dementia offer help for caregivers in identifying why the patient is engaged in such behavior.
Unrealistic....My 89 y/o father would never listen to that....he would get combative, insist he stay in that chair, and tell me too bad if his hand tapping is annoying.
My brother-in-law will unload a drawer, put things neatly back into the drawer, close the drawer, then start all over again. Or he has a box with random things, business cards, letter opener, key ring, etc. He goes through the cards and puts them in the box, then does it again. While riding in the car, it was on the floor, then the glove box, then held awhile. I wish I could know what goes through his mind. What is deep rooted or prewired.
I have stopped my patient whole repeating behaviuors like searching,losing and finding things for whole day by simple way- I was spend a Time with her and talk everyday. I started to search things with her,be worrie und understandable, empathic, and all this behaviuors just gone. She start normal activity with my support,because she had forget everything-even where lay glassess in her kitchen,but this people don't tell you this because they wanna pretend they are normal because wanna be treated like normal. So answer is: just give a love,time,attention,understanding,patient and you solved every problems. That is big chance for you to learn how to love-treat this like task. It is simple to love person who did everything what we wanned or need ,or most part we accept, this is a big Challenge for our loving skills.
@@SuperElwira You are wonderful. That's amazing, thank you. Very insightful, too, as other person said, re how they might not tell you things bc want to be perceived or treated a certain way.
@@cockeyedoptimista With my brother in law, he now is in a stage were he hasn't spoke a word in 8-9 months.When he still was speaking, if he was asked a question, his answer wouldnt have anything to do with what was asked. He may or may not know my sister at this stage.
When you are stressed yourself it's very difficult. Be kind to yourself too. You're doing a very difficult job. People who have not done this may find it very hard to understand that caring for someone on a longterm basis can be very exhausting. It's great that we're all trying to find answers to make our care giving better and take better care of ourselves too
You have to understand it as the disease progresses, they’re going to lose more control. The way I see it, you have to almost think of it as returning almost like a child. Remember, it’s a disease, and they have no control. You have to be very tolerant of a lot of things that would seem annoying to most people. Remember, their health and well-being is your job. And there’s going to be a lot of issues around that that you have to adapt to. I think the most important thing is when you have a break, find someone and play video game, watch a movie, or just listen to them about their day to break up the stress. Finding a support system, and just holding each other together can make Everything Are used to take care of my mother, and it was just Vitas, me, my older sister, and my brothers would only come maybe once a month. Having people there, with you, to share in it, can literally mean everything
They are like children, except they have lived their lives, worked, raised families etc. They don’t need to be corrected like a child. They don’t need to learn or be any particular way anymore. This is their time to chill, daydream, eat treats, be cared for.
I like the advice to include the dementia patient in my work. Oh yeah. That's spot on that is. Man, if you thought the woman was mean and pissed off at the beginning of the tapping, just wait and see what she's like when she "includes" him in her work. What crap.
I disagree! You are mean. His daughter does not mind being patient and gentle with her father and having him quietly occupied near her. Better than slapping the couch all day! He has feelings, for heaven's sake.
Uh hmm. I worked from home, 2nd shift, full time doing Tech Support. While providing full time care for my wife, who has full blown dementia. Try doing that for three years, while running a house (mortgage, finances, upkeep, heat, food, cleaning) as your third full time job. Then get back to me about how realistic it is to include a 40% functional dementia payment in your work. Let me know how you feel about it then.
@@bobmetcalf4106 Okay, I'm sorry. It still does no good to get mad. Maybe you could give them something to "work" on on their own and check in on them once in a while. God bless you, caregiving is a yoeman's job.
So what do you do to help a double leg amputee with no prosthetics blind in one eye and is jumping out of bed because shes wants to go home. She cant see the door, shes in her home of the last 55 years with pictures all around her.
Let's face it. Health professionals really do not understand much about specifically why things happen the way they do in dementia - I mean, the behaviors. It could be hundreds of reasons or no reasons at all. After all, brain cells are dead or dying so essentially there are multiple disconnections going on at once. It's like static in a radio signal. That's it. An unclear pathway...or basically a blocked pathway and 'signals' or 'thoughts' or 'memories' get dropped, backed up and/or completely distorted. Unless, it is obvious, like incontinence or constipation, you are not going to know why the person w dementia is acting a certain way. So just do the best you can to keep them comfortable and non-agitated. Don't make them do things they express that they do not want to do. Keep sound at a level they like. Written in medical pages is: that a number like over 50% of regularly aging people or dementia patients experience delirium after just hospitalization and/or surgeries and they have NO idea why and yet it is a serious condition that often expedites the speed of mental decline. So, go figure. They know less than one would think.
Signals it's just a theory create by imagination someone who is in good health,so when you wanna be so precise and being hard truth teller you need to realise that. We were don't kneew what is really hapend inside demential brain before we can feel that on ourselfs, the rest is always just a theory. Carer on movie said: find in enviroment surrounded obvious signals which can triggered a behaviour, or obvius inside causes like: person need to talk and distract bad fellings because is feelling lonely or just need to go to restroom and forget how to say it or don't wan't to interrupt somebody. We don't need to know what is happend in their brains exacly to help them in normal humanitary way. Every day a billions people is using a machines or devices and they had no any idea how it's exacly works, so please take your frustration out from here... you are not the smartest human on The Earth, everybody knows The signals in brain theory you recalling here but for taking a good care for The persons who needed, we don't need this theorie just Love- so it is everything about practic:)
I can speak only for myself and I think you should do the same. In my carier as health professional I have a great succesess in work with my patients (when dementia and depressia symptomes was gone) and I was really don't need any of medical reasons or theories for that. It was hard work of every person in dementia person surround and also this person hard work too. You have to be really creative if you wanna help, find a new solutions everyday. When I start work with my patients sometimes we sitting and do nothing together and I just try to don't be scarry or annoying. Later is hard to learn something somebody who was manage whole big family and safe his dignity, you cannot simply say: do this or that in his/her house,or show to them that you see what they forget and activate them in same time. You need to keep control and give support in a way they can think they still doing things by themeself. It is really hard. Is hard to even go closer to them. You cannot push them to nothing because that coz anger but sometimes you must but smart. When I was starting with my patients I did everything what they wanned from me. Later when we have a conversation contact I let them watch and control everything what I do-so they can learn forgetable things. I let them learn me language, so they do a lot od practise. After that we doing things together and later I put my borders because they starting treating me like family member what is not always nice- they can came to my room when I sleep and search some things or replace my stuffs, or tell me what should I put on today. They started to be jellous for every Personal activity not concentrate on them so I do not have any of Free Time. They forget what we was doing,so they can call to family and say they were alone whole day when I go to toilett and families believes them when don't know dementia- and believe me in most cases they don't know, because they wanna believe their loved one is not that deep ( you can observe every symptomes only when you are all the time with a person). When I started to be like family member for dementia person I lived in one house with, they do not understand why I wanna close my room,because in family people don't do this,they don't realize they are sick. Every this step is really hard and need a family support which is alwayes worried and it is not simple for family members to trust a person from outside and different culture. This what helps me was only a emotional distance I have and giving a love, understand and acceptation- everybody can. The problem is also that everybody have to work and normally don't have a time for sitting whole day and observe a dementia person behaviours or response their needs everytime when this person need and when we have only a part of a picture we cannot understand a whole view. When I am sitting in home everyday with person I have a plenty time to give. It is only a reason. They affraid to be alone and I know why. So please don't tell me I do not understand. Lonelyness make dementia worse and every borders-handling behaviours,because they are not independent. Even when a person is young and in good health lonelyness can degradate soul (whatever it is) and behaviour but patients they are like a big kids. Everybody need somebody to support,to be together and learn how to love. That is a task for whole life to do. My work learn me how to love better. Cure and dementia care is all about giving love and being with somebody ale the time, so he will not lonely and can have a impulses, memorie and motivation taken from somebody else. You don't need any medical terms for this because medicin have nothing to do here,There is any current pill for dementia which can make symptomes back. Only love have this power. If you are egoist and don't know how to love you will be a terible carer. That's all.
I like the idea of distracting them with things or Occupying them with a similar action to what they're doing. For example putting a clause in their hand and having them polish something if they're moving their hands back and forth. This takes a lot of love, People.
Wait. The only problem here is that the caretaker is rude... Why would you immediately jump to anger? Also, I WISH my mother was only tapping her hands - instead I am working with 8 hour yelling sessions that I can't seem to understand what is wrong with her.
This is good but it no longer will work with my mother in law, she is starting to get aggressive. She won't listen to reason or compromise and than she starts yelling that she is not an animal to be told what to do. She's 100 years old and used to be so sweet and passive, kind, now she is totally opposite. She has a temper that was never there before. She evens threatens to slap us if we don't leave her alone.
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Rhoda Ruiz my Nan still enjoys the newspapers, she rarely reads them anymore except small snippets here and there, but she still enjoys the process of flicking through the pages. I think it’s just a feeling of normality
Rhoda Ruiz: of course he is going to just look at the magazines...do you do something different with magazines? Maybe you use magazines for hygienic paper. If you have a better suggestion then please make it,
@@chrisrodriguez6305 No but the narrator says "his work". Makes it sound like something a little more engaging is going on. Of course, whatever engages the person at their level, it just is a bit confusing.
I like this comment, because I was wondering the same thing. They made it sound like he was going to do something a little more than just look at the magazines. Whatever might keep him busy and interested, of course. But it sounded like maybe he could be capable of doing something a little bit more serious in some way. It was not clear.
Ann Maria flat 4/40 leopold rd Felixstowe ip11 7 np her and her boyfriend robbed all her patients to feed her boyfriend’s alcohol addiction and her smack habit he changes his name a lot they recently had a baby to cover there tracks get back what they stole and state a fact we need better back ground checks
I admire anyone who can do this I personally couldn't handle it
These are SO idealized. All of these videos end with the patient COOPERATING. Good luck finding cooperative boomers.
I feel so bad when she yells at him and holds his hands down, and then he takes them and holds his own hands, as if they've been burned.. So much better the other way. It hurts to see lonely, sad old people.
It’s hard to react especially as this disease can come on so fast.
dude needs some headphones and a fire mixtape
It makes sense repetitive behaviors can be out of boredom and anxiety, try not to be annoyed over it. I"m not a caregiver or anything but I deal with my own repetitive behaviors like swinging my arms or playing with my hair.
I’m checking out courses about working in the health sector especially for dementia. My grandfather has it and I really would like a career change. This video is a help thanks.
I really like that this video demonstrated ways to distract the person with repetitive behaviors. Thanks!
I have a German brother in law who has alzheimers and he was and still is an alcoholic who keeps asking if there is something to drink around here. He started drinking from the olive oil bottle thinking it was wine. An alcoholic with alzheimers is worse than a regular person with dementia.
Get him a drum kit ! He may be a fan of DJ Fontana
Why am I watching this, I don’t even have any family members that have these issues
Explanations for some of the puzzling behavior of folks with dementia offer help for caregivers in identifying why the patient is engaged in such behavior.
Yes am going thru this with my mother
Unrealistic....My 89 y/o father would never listen to that....he would get combative, insist he stay in that chair, and tell me too bad if his hand tapping is annoying.
Good for him! He can't be that demented, then, if he can say that.
@@cockeyedoptimista Who said anything about being demented..? Do you even know what dementia is..?
@@dancingponies7971 The video is about Alzheimer's and dementia.
Lol why are they so pigheaded .my mom is in the first stages of dementia and shes already more grumpy
It's different from person to person. They can vocalize well, but not all people with dementia can talk due to the illness.
She is right not all behaviour are bad never get someone to stop stemming unless it’s dangerous
These suggestions don't always help! I did this with a few residents in the nursing home and they still did the same behaviors
This man could be tapping his hand do to a song in his head, and he needs to get his mind in the right order, so he taps his hands
My brother-in-law will unload a drawer, put things neatly back into the drawer, close the drawer, then start all over again. Or he has a box with random things, business cards, letter opener, key ring, etc. He goes through the cards and puts them in the box, then does it again. While riding in the car, it was on the floor, then the glove box, then held awhile. I wish I could know what goes through his mind. What is deep rooted or prewired.
I have stopped my patient whole repeating behaviuors like searching,losing and finding things for whole day by simple way- I was spend a Time with her and talk everyday. I started to search things with her,be worrie und understandable, empathic, and all this behaviuors just gone. She start normal activity with my support,because she had forget everything-even where lay glassess in her kitchen,but this people don't tell you this because they wanna pretend they are normal because wanna be treated like normal. So answer is: just give a love,time,attention,understanding,patient and you solved every problems. That is big chance for you to learn how to love-treat this like task. It is simple to love person who did everything what we wanned or need ,or most part we accept, this is a big Challenge for our loving skills.
@@SuperElwira OK, Thanks for the insight!
@@SuperElwira You are wonderful. That's amazing, thank you. Very insightful, too, as other person said, re how they might not tell you things bc want to be perceived or treated a certain way.
Could you ask him somehow? I don't know anything about dementia, by the way.
@@cockeyedoptimista With my brother in law, he now is in a stage were he hasn't spoke a word in 8-9 months.When he still was speaking, if he was asked a question, his answer wouldnt have anything to do with what was asked. He may or may not know my sister at this stage.
Im caregiver i lost my temper i feel so stressed😥
When you are stressed yourself it's very difficult. Be kind to yourself too. You're doing a very difficult job. People who have not done this may find it very hard to understand that caring for someone on a longterm basis can be very exhausting. It's great that we're all trying to find answers to make our care giving better and take better care of ourselves too
You have to understand it as the disease progresses, they’re going to lose more control.
The way I see it, you have to almost think of it as returning almost like a child.
Remember, it’s a disease, and they have no control. You have to be very tolerant of a lot of things that would seem annoying to most people.
Remember, their health and well-being is your job. And there’s going to be a lot of issues around that that you have to adapt to.
I think the most important thing is when you have a break, find someone and play video game, watch a movie, or just listen to them about their day to break up the stress.
Finding a support system, and just holding each other together can make Everything
Are used to take care of my mother, and it was just Vitas, me, my older sister, and my brothers would only come maybe once a month.
Having people there, with you, to share in it, can literally mean everything
They are like children, except they have lived their lives, worked, raised families etc. They don’t need to be corrected like a child. They don’t need to learn or be any particular way anymore. This is their time to chill, daydream, eat treats, be cared for.
I like the advice to include the dementia patient in my work. Oh yeah. That's spot on that is. Man, if you thought the woman was mean and pissed off at the beginning of the tapping, just wait and see what she's like when she "includes" him in her work. What crap.
I disagree! You are mean. His daughter does not mind being patient and gentle with her father and having him quietly occupied near her. Better than slapping the couch all day! He has feelings, for heaven's sake.
Uh hmm. I worked from home, 2nd shift, full time doing Tech Support. While providing full time care for my wife, who has full blown dementia.
Try doing that for three years, while running a house (mortgage, finances, upkeep, heat, food, cleaning) as your third full time job. Then get back to me about how realistic it is to include a 40% functional dementia payment in your work.
Let me know how you feel about it then.
@@bobmetcalf4106 Okay, I'm sorry. It still does no good to get mad. Maybe you could give them something to "work" on on their own and check in on them once in a while. God bless you, caregiving is a yoeman's job.
Thx for info
So what do you do to help a double leg amputee with no prosthetics blind in one eye and is jumping out of bed because shes wants to go home. She cant see the door, shes in her home of the last 55 years with pictures all around her.
Well, i wud simply jst turn on the tv n make her watch the Golden Grls or sumthing gud on Netflix, give her some popcorn n juice.
Let's face it. Health professionals really do not understand much about specifically why things happen the way they do in dementia - I mean, the behaviors. It could be hundreds of reasons or no reasons at all. After all, brain cells are dead or dying so essentially there are multiple disconnections going on at once. It's like static in a radio signal. That's it. An unclear pathway...or basically a blocked pathway and 'signals' or 'thoughts' or 'memories' get dropped, backed up and/or completely distorted. Unless, it is obvious, like incontinence or constipation, you are not going to know why the person w dementia is acting a certain way. So just do the best you can to keep them comfortable and non-agitated. Don't make them do things they express that they do not want to do. Keep sound at a level they like. Written in medical pages is: that a number like over 50% of regularly aging people or dementia patients experience delirium after just hospitalization and/or surgeries and they have NO idea why and yet it is a serious condition that often expedites the speed of mental decline. So, go figure. They know less than one would think.
Signals it's just a theory create by imagination someone who is in good health,so when you wanna be so precise and being hard truth teller you need to realise that. We were don't kneew what is really hapend inside demential brain before we can feel that on ourselfs, the rest is always just a theory. Carer on movie said: find in enviroment surrounded obvious signals which can triggered a behaviour, or obvius inside causes like: person need to talk and distract bad fellings because is feelling lonely or just need to go to restroom and forget how to say it or don't wan't to interrupt somebody. We don't need to know what is happend in their brains exacly to help them in normal humanitary way. Every day a billions people is using a machines or devices and they had no any idea how it's exacly works, so please take your frustration out from here... you are not the smartest human on The Earth, everybody knows The signals in brain theory you recalling here but for taking a good care for The persons who needed, we don't need this theorie just Love- so it is everything about practic:)
I can speak only for myself and I think you should do the same. In my carier as health professional I have a great succesess in work with my patients (when dementia and depressia symptomes was gone) and I was really don't need any of medical reasons or theories for that. It was hard work of every person in dementia person surround and also this person hard work too. You have to be really creative if you wanna help, find a new solutions everyday. When I start work with my patients sometimes we sitting and do nothing together and I just try to don't be scarry or annoying. Later is hard to learn something somebody who was manage whole big family and safe his dignity, you cannot simply say: do this or that in his/her house,or show to them that you see what they forget and activate them in same time. You need to keep control and give support in a way they can think they still doing things by themeself. It is really hard. Is hard to even go closer to them. You cannot push them to nothing because that coz anger but sometimes you must but smart. When I was starting with my patients I did everything what they wanned from me. Later when we have a conversation contact I let them watch and control everything what I do-so they can learn forgetable things. I let them learn me language, so they do a lot od practise. After that we doing things together and later I put my borders because they starting treating me like family member what is not always nice- they can came to my room when I sleep and search some things or replace my stuffs, or tell me what should I put on today. They started to be jellous for every Personal activity not concentrate on them so I do not have any of Free Time. They forget what we was doing,so they can call to family and say they were alone whole day when I go to toilett and families believes them when don't know dementia- and believe me in most cases they don't know, because they wanna believe their loved one is not that deep ( you can observe every symptomes only when you are all the time with a person). When I started to be like family member for dementia person I lived in one house with, they do not understand why I wanna close my room,because in family people don't do this,they don't realize they are sick. Every this step is really hard and need a family support which is alwayes worried and it is not simple for family members to trust a person from outside and different culture. This what helps me was only a emotional distance I have and giving a love, understand and acceptation- everybody can. The problem is also that everybody have to work and normally don't have a time for sitting whole day and observe a dementia person behaviours or response their needs everytime when this person need and when we have only a part of a picture we cannot understand a whole view. When I am sitting in home everyday with person I have a plenty time to give. It is only a reason. They affraid to be alone and I know why. So please don't tell me I do not understand. Lonelyness make dementia worse and every
borders-handling behaviours,because they are not independent. Even when a person is young and in good health lonelyness can degradate soul (whatever it is) and behaviour but patients they are like a big kids. Everybody need somebody to support,to be together and learn how to love. That is a task for whole life to do. My work learn me how to love better. Cure and dementia care is all about giving love and being with somebody ale the time, so he will not lonely and can have a impulses, memorie and motivation taken from somebody else. You don't need any medical terms for this because medicin have nothing to do here,There is any current pill for dementia which can make symptomes back. Only love have this power. If you are egoist and don't know how to love you will be a terible carer. That's all.
@@SuperElwira I could not read all of that - I read about 2/3 - but congratulations on your hard and caring work.
I like the idea of distracting them with things or Occupying them with a similar action to what they're doing. For example putting a clause in their hand and having them polish something if they're moving their hands back and forth. This takes a lot of love, People.
Nice one
Wait. The only problem here is that the caretaker is rude... Why would you immediately jump to anger?
Also, I WISH my mother was only tapping her hands - instead I am working with 8 hour yelling sessions that I can't seem to understand what is wrong with her.
Sounds like she is sun-downing .
This is good but it no longer will work with my mother in law, she is starting to get aggressive. She won't listen to reason or compromise and than she starts yelling that she is not an animal to be told what to do. She's 100 years old and used to be so sweet and passive, kind, now she is totally opposite. She has a temper that was never there before. She evens threatens to slap us if we don't leave her alone.
My daughter told me I repeat myself conversations I did not realise
Give him a rosary.
Wow thank you
very lonely, need more seniors togethely living, spend time unitedly is better than this single life
Ok but the music she put on sounded like The Caretaker
UCLA, do you have a certificate in dementia caregiving?
Maybe He felt ignored.
If only the caregiver doesn't need to do anything else but accompanying the patient...
That's the idea of being a caregiver.
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And do what with the magazines? Oh just look at them.
Rhoda Ruiz my Nan still enjoys the newspapers, she rarely reads them anymore except small snippets here and there, but she still enjoys the process of flicking through the pages. I think it’s just a feeling of normality
Rhoda Ruiz: of course he is going to just look at the magazines...do you do something different with magazines? Maybe you use magazines for hygienic paper. If you have a better suggestion then please make it,
@@chrisrodriguez6305 No but the narrator says "his work". Makes it sound like something a little more engaging is going on. Of course, whatever engages the person at their level, it just is a bit confusing.
I like this comment, because I was wondering the same thing. They made it sound like he was going to do something a little more than just look at the magazines. Whatever might keep him busy and interested, of course. But it sounded like maybe he could be capable of doing something a little bit more serious in some way. It was not clear.
Legit
Hud
Ann Maria flat 4/40 leopold rd Felixstowe ip11 7 np her and her boyfriend robbed all her patients to feed her boyfriend’s alcohol addiction and her smack habit he changes his name a lot they recently had a baby to cover there tracks get back what they stole and state a fact we need better back ground checks
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