Fear of Judgment/Weight Gain//ED RECOVERY
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- čas přidán 3. 10. 2021
- Get over yourself! That’s my number one til when it comes to overcoming the fear of judgment from others regarding your weight gain. Nobody cares as much as you do, promise!
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Thank you thank you for this encouragement today. It hit home so much!! You are absolutely right. I used to have the compliments flowing in; they shaped my identity and were almost my sole motivation. I was in public today and struggling so much with fear and shame of my weight gain, and kept reminding myself that if nothing else I'm doing this for my kids. They are completely normal eaters now, and seriously think of apples and cupcakes as completely equal. I had both of them on my diet before recovery so thank God I stopped that crap while they're so little, and that they will grow up in freedom.
I can't tell you how much this video "hit me hard!" Saving to listen to each time I start worrying about what others think.
Excellent video. Thanks
Excellent video, so many truths and eye-openers!! Thank you so so much Becky, for giving us your valuable time, knowledge and experience! ❤
Ohhhhhh, Becky. I have to take a moment to thank you not only for this (your own) channel…BUT, for your interview with Elisa Oras almost 2 yrs ago. I’m a sponge right now: bought her book (about one chapter deep so far) and then thought “maybe she’s got some CZcams content, too?” I just finished watching your conversation with her: it was terrific & helpful. God keeps leading me to what I need to see & hear & know. Recovery-or-bust, no going back! Not the easiest (I’m only 2 mos in), but I know there’s a light & full freedom ahead. I see glimpses & glimmers already. How glorious. Love ya, lady.
That’s so wonderful Mandy! You can absolutely do this. Accept nothing less than a full recovery for yourself!❤️
No one would ever call you those things because you’re still thinner than most people in your recovered body. It’s completely different when you end up overweight ( even if it’s just temporary overshoot).
You’re right, people are more judgmental of people in bigger bodies and it’s very sad and wrong, however it is still “their” problem. You can live a full and happy life in a bigger body if you choose to ignore the judgment of others. For people who treat you differently, well distance yourself from them as much as possible, those aren’t your people.
to be honest I feel like with the judgment, it is rarely ever projected onto others. in fact, it's more like I believe there is nothing wrong with anyone except me.
That is actually common as well for people with Ed’s to say that. That’s living a double standard, why are you the exception? Why do you need to be superior?
but the approval is such a big thing. when I sit and ask myself whose I'm seeking, it is so hard because it isn't just random people. I don't care about them. it's my closest of friends (who never really judged me being overweight but I just feel like I need to be handsome and attractive enough for them. whereas with my parents, ever since I was a kid my dad (who is a gym junkie) used to shame me for literally ANYTHING I put in my mouth.
I’m so sorry to hear that. I don’t blame you for feeling judged by your dad. Try to remember that he has a different view of people in larger bodies than you are aspiring to have. You’re working on body acceptance, don’t allow his comments to change your ability to recover. You’ve got to live your life.
Thank you, also can I ask, did you used to wake up full of anxiety about what you were doing? I am finding this a lot lately.
Yes, quite often at the beginning.
Thank you
Hi Becky, I wanted to rewatch your live video from a few days ago, in which you talked about relapse prevention and downtime, but I don't see it on your list of videos. Am I blind (LOL), or did you perhaps remove it, or maybe the video is on your Instagram account rather than on your CZcams account?