how i came out to my parents as trans
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- čas přidán 10. 09. 2024
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I came out as trans to my mum and she says she accepts me but she always emphasises that I AM A GIRL! That I’m BEAUTIFUL! and a STRONG YOUNG WOMAN! and it gives me this horrifying sinking feeling
Dan E boi Me too, i said to her that I'm not his princess and she said why but i was too terrified to say to her that i was trans. Everyday she says to me " Hello my princess, you are the most beautiful girl in the world, you are my beautiful daughter" i don't know if i can stand it anymore.
( Sorry if my English is bad)
My dad does that too. Like wHaT's ThE pOiNt? It's the reason I haven't come out to anyone else yet.
That happens to me and then i completely shut off and go silent. Like wHy tho. My heart sinks
Me too.
Same
I wanted to write a letter/text to my mom abt being trans, but she snoops in my phone, and found the draft. Then we sat down and talked abt it. She said that I have showed no signs,and there are signs starting at like 4-5 when you don’t even know it yet. and then she said things about be being bi, and said that I’ve always liked boys, and tried to tie sexuality with gender, even thought those are completely different things. She just thought that I was only confused because I did’t want to go to therapy or whatever for it.
Actually, I bet you the thing she was talking about was this horrible thing known as “conversion therapy” it’s really horrible.
my parents do the same thing- “you’ve shown no signs” blah blah blah idc pleaseee😭😭
@@whokilledaveriesame- I ended up just having to give them a few months to process it. Came out to them a second time (a few days ago) and they are supportive now-
My first thought when this video started: GLITTER!!!!
That glitter is making me way too fucking happy
Finn Thiel Same
Me too
My mom kicked me out when I came out to her
just a trans girl oh no! Who are you staying with right now, 13 is too young to be homeless. Your mom's a shitty person. You are a girl and she should accept that.
just a trans girl oh I'm sorry for that
just a trans girl this comment was posted 6 months ago ,is your releationship with your mom better?, did she accept you?
Let’s hope she has your number because the day she realizes how stupid and terrible of a parent she is she can call you back and apologize and ask for your forgiveness even though she doesn’t deserve it
Are you doing okay now?! Do you have a place to stay?! Do the people you stay with accept you?!
I’m not really trans but I’m non-binary and I came out to my parents as pansexual and non-binary. My mom sorta accepts me but she would say that I need Jesus,or that it’s against the Bible and I mainly am thinking that the Bible doesn’t explain everything and that Jesus should love you for who you are(I’m not Christian btw),BUT for my birthday I asked my mom for a chest binder and she was ok with it.
You're an immature person who needs to identify with something, anything. So you become a 'non-binary' fetishist. The fact that there are only two biological sexes - male and female (all else is politically correct bullsh*t) doesn't seem to have entered your head. Four years have passed since your comment, I hope that you now appreciate the billions of years Nature spent giving you a female body.
Glitter king ✨
Connor!!!
Android King!!! 😋
I just came out to one of my friends she doesnt really understand but she is really accepting :) she is the ony person ive told. Im ftm and 12.
Congratulations! I am 11 years old and trying to come out ftm to my parents
I really wish I could come out to my parents though I know they’ll just say “You’re a girl, the internets to blame, give me your phone” or something along those lines. They also make fun of my when I wanna do something considering my looks that’s masculine.
hang in there! it will get better
HAVE A GAY DAY EVERYONE
WTF? Lol
Wtf but thanks
Thank you 😊
YOU TOO
Said this to my brother earlier
ur eyes look so bright with the glitter omg 10/10
My mom is going to college to be a therapist or something along that line my mum my really cool at first I came out is 7th gr and now I’m in 8th and my mum and sister are trying to Force that fact that I’m cist bc I still ware nail polish, I still have girly clothes( unisex clothes can seem girly depending on how u ware it) and bc I ware makeup for cosplay, even cosplaying a girl bugs me, my mum noticed I’m unhappy but she blames me being unhappy bc I’m forceing something I’m not on to my self, it drives me crazy bc at first I had her full support but now it drives me crazy and makes me unhappy bc I had to stop binding and now it makes me feel like I’m letter her win
Bruh I feel the same! Not my sister, just my mom! She says she supports me being transgender but, 1, doesn't use my pronouns like my dad doesn't and he doesn't accept it at all, 2, she said she wants me to see a THERAPIST for it, and 3, she says I grew up being feminine that she can't believe I'm transgender like- UGH- I hate it-!
Glitter, MCR, lots of black...
You are my male counterpart!
(Not in a relationship kind of way, just in a "bro we'd be the BEST mates" way)
i accidentally almost came out as trans to my mom not to long ago. she embraces that i will always “be her little girl” no matter what. and she enjoys embracing that i will always be a girl. it scared me sometimes
you're not a girl, so your mom is totally wrong. my dad called me "his little girl", but at 46, there's no way I'd put up with that shit.
hi ashton, would you consider making a video on your favourite anarcho-punk bands/musicians and your favourite bands/musicians in general? your music taste is rlly cool and i'd love some recommendations and stuff! apologies if this has been requested before!
(i adore your videos + you are a fantastic person 🥝)
Ash, you don't look too much to the camera, when you do I like die. Your eyes. Oh gosh you have something, like omggg💛💛💛💛. Also, you remind of a character from back to the future...
your videos are really helpful. thank you! :)
you're so welcome! I'm really glad I could help :)
Very nice video
It's hard to explain but your videos are always so warm and nice and fuzzy lol it's Great
I’m still not sure if I am or not so I haven’t come out but I’m not sure if my parent would be understanding and accepting and I would probably die from the embarrassment 😢
glitter, frnk iero shirt, AND trans advice????????? we stan
I love your shirt wjjwjws
A.J Iero ahhhh Frank Iero
And the flag!
ik im late but yes its amazing
I was at school when you posted this😭😭😭 I was looking forward to it!!! I always look forward to your videos😂😂 Btw you look great when you put that glitter in your face😊
I HAVE THE SAME SHIRT YESSSS!!
Also this is really inspirational I have no idea how to come out to my family and seeing other people do it gives me some hope thank you❤️
I just subscribed I found you from Ty's vid lol
PAN COMING OUT VID PLEASE I've honestly never seen one of those, and as a fellow pan trans guy, I'd love to hear more about it
I came out to my mother as bigender and she told that I was confused and you know… and then i came out again and she said like “your confused” “your to young” like the first time. She also told me that I was “obsessed” with “the gay world”. That was like a year ago, and till this very day she keeps calling me a girl and so… what she doesn’t know it’s that I’m a Trans (“FTM” kind of thing”) and that I’m non-binary…. Plus I’m bisexual :(
i go to camp as well except and at this camp they separate boys and girls. for 4 years i was in the girls cabin and i grew a really strong bond with everyone in my cabin, i wouldn’t mind still being in the girls cabin cause no ones directly calling me a girl and i don’t want to be in the boys cabins because they’re all extremely rude and the majority would be rude to me cause there’s a few girls with short hair and they make fun of them and call them ‘trannys’ they’ve been reprimanded and they stopped but i’m still nervous, any advice?
*don't go to camp*
If you need to, stay in the girl's cabin. If it ain't broken, don't fix it.
When I came out to my dad ( divorced parents) he just ignored it. No name change no pronoun change no nothing. It really sucks and I despise it.
How did you come out
I can relate to this video so much, honestly this is how I am feeling. I am feeling like I am a male and that I am terrified of coming out to my parents not because I don’t know how they will react or if they will accept me, it is because I am scared of the outcome.
Love the eye glitter dude
So here's kind of my first coming out story. I remember my friends hyping me up during the day at school to tell my parents, so like I eventually told them, and I have very supportive parents right, but when I told them I thought I was trans and they told me they didn't think I was, and treated me like I had barely any idea what the word was. I know that they only had my best interest at heart and they were trying to be nice, I have since found out that I'm not trans but agender instead but it still hurt and I don't even have the motivation to come out to them because I'm afraid it will happen again. :(
This is a VERY summarised version of what happened like they were generally trying to help and weren't outright not accepting me they just wanted to make sure it was who I was because I was 12-13 at the time and wanted to make sure that I wasn't going through a rough patch and was actually cis.
i can relate to your coming out story kinda except i came out during 8th grade. and im currently in 8th grade. i knew something wasnt right in 7th grade
Do not let anyone tell you that being gay means that God hates you. He loves us all and what he's over us everyday. We are = equal and no one can tell you who you have to be. We all know that coming out to your parents can be difficult but we have to face our fears and say who we want to be. We are all beautifully, man, woman, trans or gay, we are amazing beings.
Love your glitter so much? Honestly??
Shut up
Leave him alone
@@geckowithamustache3146 what they were complimenting him ?
@@Ryanscaveno they aren’t..
i recently got a scholarship to an arts camp, and i put female on the form, but i identify as male, and now im like super not good
Please do a coming out as Pan video because I need advice! I don't know what to do or how to do it🙂😬
i'm planning on it !!!
I just said a fake story about my friend saying EVERYONE AR SCHOOL IS STRAIGHT and me just laughing she asked me if i was straight and i told her then SHE came out as pan too .-.
Make a pot video next
Everyone else sad because they absolutely can’t tell their parents that their child is transgender?
I’m anxious about telling my dad. I’m not joking or anything, I’m totally serious. Telling something like that to my dad would probably destroy everything. I also have 5 cousins and a lot of aunts and other people who know me.. if they know about it, everything will just break down. Does anyone else have an idea on what to do on this situation.. my only solution was to just run away and do everything myself. This is the stupidest idea I know but it’s just something I thought about.
I tried coming out to my friends and lost pretty much 90% of them and I'm scared to tell family now, since the attempt with my friends didn't go well. But me and my friend (who is also trans) are planning to run away on my 18th. It seems like the easist thing to do. But it kinda sucks because I'll feel really bad about my family behind.
Then again I got to think about myself and my wellbeing. It may sound selfish but I can't live another year like this, because it's so stressful being someone completely different to who I actually am.
Edit: If you do plan on running away try and get a friend on board and save money :)
Wow you’re the first person I notice with AFFORDABLE MERCH! 🎉🎉🎉
Could you possibly do a video on how you got your parents to let you dye your hair and (if you have them and can) get gauges? Im trying to get my parents to let me do both but idk how to.
Not an expert (I have to be forced to cut my hair lmao), but I would suggest just going for the dying your hair thing. Gauges are kind of a big deal, and they cause permanent damage to your ears. If your parents aren't letting you get you're hair dyed, I doubt they'll allow that any time soon. To convince them to let you get your hair dyed, I would say to be insistent about it (not annoying), and to emphasize the fact that it's temporary and fairly harmless.
But idk
For gauges I would wait until 18 to ask somewhat but for hair you should probably be old enough to be able to dye it bc it’s your hair in the first place unless you’re like 10
You are so amazing, inspiring, and beautiful. ❤
Your back round music is from "a wrinkle in time"!!!!!!
Is that a my chemical romance banner i see in the background or is it something else cause that looks like one
Alexander Hacker
did you notice his shirt too lmao XD
the way i came out to some people was i talked to them about lgbtqia+ and different sexualities until we got comfortable about the conversation then i just said i dont feel comfortable as a girl and id like you to use he/they pronouns on me. It worked for me though my friends were very suportive and my parents i only have came out to my dad he was confused but was fine about it but he didnt care though he still confused but he tries and im glad he does care. He did forget about it and not ask more questions but yeah he tries his best
I'm gender fluid I like make up and stuff but I feel different and I have short hair so what do you guys think
I’m going to come out right now I’m scared af :(
okay, entirely unrelated, but your shirt is amazing
Thank you for making this video!
i love your shirt and flags!
I am in 5th grade and I know that I’m trans. I am showing little signs of me being a trans. It’s hard sometimes. I fear if I tell my friend or anybody. I’ll be alone and be bullied... please give me some advice... I could use it right now...
I toled my friend and I regretted it so much
I think that you should come out as trans to your parents first
Also this might be coming from someone a year younger than you because I’m British
First off, great video. I’ve been meaning to come out to my mom and my dad bought me a binder. Secondly, love the MCR flag. I’m supposed to be going to the tour next year.
I came out to my friends and aunt except for my parents nah to scared
I'm non binary and pan but I am scared of everything! Especially coming out, I'm pretty sure my mum supports lgbtq but I have no idea if my dad does I've only came out as pan to my online bff and my lil sister they supported me but I don't know if my parents will, any tips?
(I won't say my age but I'm around 10-15 )
I just figured out I am transgender..is 6th grade a good time to come out? I was born a female, so I guess you could call me a trans guy. But like..idk, is 6th grade a good time? Or should I stay in the closet for a little longer?
Hi darling! So, a lot of people say that you should come out when you feel ready but I personally disagree. You mentioned you are in 6th grade. Feelings are very confusing at that time. You should question yourself a little more and make sure you know what being transgender really means. Here are a couple questions you can ask yourself. "Do I feel gender dysphoria or do I just not conform to gender roles?" "Were there any signs as a kid?" "Am I in an unsupportive community where I feel the need to fit in?" These are all questions you should ask yourself as sometimes people dont think about them. Some people come out as trans and then realize they are just gender-non confirming. I did that and it really messed up my life. There is a possibility you could be trans, but think of other things that could be causing your feelings first. Speak to a social worker or a therapist and see if they can help you. Good luck xx
I'm a trans boy and I haven't came out to my mom yet and I dont know how so I looked here
Man! Your parents are awesome for accepting u☺
My parents don't accept me at all!😢
love ur shirt!!
I'm not saying you have to but like witch hazel was a life saver for me your acne isnt that noticeable tho i didn't really notice it much until you said it
I wanted my parents to cut all my hair and I lied to them and told them it's because I just wanna feel what it's like but then they started realizing I'm going "cRaZy" and decided not to. They even told me that if I ever cut off all my hair, they'd be mad. Ok I won't cut off all my hair but I never said I wouldn't cut it like a boy
Danke das Video hat mir echt geholfen
:) you are my favorite CZcamsr
I wanna come out to my parents but im not sure if they will accept me because theyre homophobic. And I always start shaking and crying whenever I talk to my parents🥲And I dont know if anyone will accept me, there are many homophobic people in my neighborhood so im afraid I will get bullied alot. And my friends are just telling me to tell everyone but I dont have alot confidence so I will probaply start crying🥲 please give me some advice I really dont know what to do else than cry in bed about it. Even though I know noone is gonna waste their time on this long ass comment, please just help :,(
I love your t shirt
I used SMS to tell them my orientation and gender. Sadly one of them wasn't accepting of my gender or my orientation. They both refused to use my preferred name and pronouns and the same one who refused to accept my identity got personally offended by me using a different name. Me and my brother (who is accepting) are now forced to call me by my dead name and pronouns and now I'm extremely dysphoric about being misgendered. I'm now only open to my online friends. This happened at Christmas too. : (
(They're more liberal and pro LGBT too, sadly only one of them is ok with the + part)
This is so hard to do especially when your family is dead set agianst it
I wanna come out, but.. nice shirt!
I already told my parents about my sexuality and I know that they are supportive but I'm still scared of coming out as trans to them
Needed this so badly
I asked my mom what she would do if I turned into a boy and she said “then you would be my son” so..... I’m still not going to tell her yet 😐
I gonna vent real quickly,I came out to my parent going “I’m trans!” And they both went “No your not it’s just a phase Raye you’ll get over it.” I don’t Know what to do :(
I haven’t come out yet (ftm)to anyone but my friend group, and my parents currently are calling me king, prince, bud, and my old prefered name charlie(New prefered name is Elliot) and I’m so close to coming out.
I hope you all have a gaytastic day
We are both trans and pan only that I haven’t come out yet 😭😂🕗
the only reason im afraid to come out as transmasc to my parents is for the fountain of questions and a lecture on how they will accept me. Because i know they will, they're just really talkative to me.. Especially my dad.
I am trans but I have not come out to anyone because I am just scared and don’t know how…..
I’m 11 and I think I’m trans so I’m planning on telling my mum tomorrow or today lol so yeah…
hey how did it go are you ok??
give me your shirt
I am exactly like Ashton. I'm a trans guy that has known for a long time. And I'm also pansexual
im so afraid to come out to my familly and parent becouse they are soo strict😔
Im not sure if ı’m trans, ı mean my breasts bother me, i like it when my friends refer me as a guy, but sometimes i like wearing feminine and when i was tried to give out the hints that
Im trans my mum said “stop saying those stupid things, you are way too pretty to be a guy”
And it just broke my heart and she knows it
Honestly i just dont know what to do anymore
Hope you're doing okay here to talk if you need it
I've known I wasn't a cisgirl in 3rd grade now I'm in 7th grade and not out to my family
Me reading this trying to get the nerve to come out to my mom about me being trans. I knew when I was 9 and now I 13. God, someone wish me well. I’ll edit this and say how it went since I’m doing in in a few mins.
I told my mum as trans and she accepts me 😊 but I haven’t told my dad yet bc I’m a bit scared- I know he’s an ally but I never tell him anything personal abt me so it’s hard and I’m a bit worried he’ll be like “your only 11, what if it’s a phase?” Or something like that 🥲
Do you have any advice on how to come out to your family that your transgender
I'm in love with your shirt
I want to
have you yet?
You are amazing❤️🖤
Question.
I've known for a year but I don't know if my parents would accept me, but my mom really suspects, should I tell her?
Ok so I'm trans my parents won't buy me a binder, I'm he/him and I'm depressed because I don't trust my parents enough, to tell them that I'm trans and know that they will support me...
Completely off topic but I love your shirt and your mcr flag
Is it bad that I thought I was non binary at some point in my life, then now I'm completely different? (Cis, woman) Don't judge, I feel like I thought this cause I was in a really emotion time and I kinda took things the wrong way? Idk........lol
Idk Idk of course it's okay. cis people can be unsure about their identity too
Tabby Tatze ok lol. I feel like I was just confused and took things the wrong way. I was super depressed and emotional, so that could've played a role in why I was so confused? Idk. Lol
Idk Idk I think so. I'm non-binary and sometimes I'm really depressed and then I ask myself if I'm really non-binary or if I'm just playing a role for attention even though I'm not out to anybody. I think being depressed or emotional often comes with questioning yourself. It's not something to worry about.
Tabby Tatze ok that's probably right lol! I also don't feel any sexual attraction towards anyone. (I forgot what it's called) But maybe I got gender and sexuality mixed up? Lol.
Idk Idk that's called asexual
I never thought about the possibility of mixing gender and sexuality up. I think it's implausible, but I'm not an therapist or something like this so idk.
You don't have to worry about this so much. as long as you are comfortable with you identity it's fine. Even if you don't know what you identify as, it's alright as long as you are comfortable.
i can relate so much, im in yr 7
I in w this was three years ago and ur not gonna respond but how old do u have to be to come out
There is no age limit. People can come out at all ages!
thank you ✨✨✨✨✨ I'm just nervouse u know
@@abigailmurr8873 No problem! I get being nervous, I’m closeted as well.
is that the flag of the Teutonic order
That is such a funny wee story 😊
Helps a lot :)
great story. i need tips on coming out as a trans guy. if you dont mind
thank u b
fuck, tbh its reeeeallly quiet. i cant hear a word your saying. im sure its an amazing video :) i just didnt know if it was just me or what
"Took me to 8th grade to figure out that I'm.... _ (major, life altering thing)"
Not saying that it's impossible for a kid to learn that about themselves but it is impossible for any child to actually comprehend it. Don't come for me, I literally don't care as long as you do no harm, be genuine to yourself & always honest with/to yourself & have a kind heart with patterns of action that aligns with that. Be you. Be kind. Be genuine.
I just feel so bad for all these kids. How confusing for them & no offense but imo many times, a literal waste of time at the best. At worst they wind up taking their own lives later on down the road, you know, bc the root of what causes this very seemingly intense, uncomfortable & awful foreign body feel isn't fully checked out or there's no treatment for the underlying reason, idk. To be clear this comment is out of agape love for my fellow humans, especially the youth who sadly have to walk around essentially with half cooked brains then have this huge personal (many cases imo) forced mystery or question of not *who* they are but *what* .
These things have major implications in life, for life. Damn I worry for America's future, for the kids & all of western civilization. It's no coincidences we see the same things & patterns in western society currently. Watch UK & Australia to see where we're most likely headed if you're American
All that shit said, you who is reading this, right now ~ I don't care if you're a boy or girl or any other super unique "gender" you are, pink waffle butter, a genderless balloon or what have you... I do care that you find unconditional self love & mindfully practice that.
Stop. Think about it like this~~~ would you do, say, treat anyone you love very much, say your mom or brother or husband in this way? Would I be cool with someone else doing this to _(person I love) & it will become glaringly obvious when you're out of tune with your own song, rhythm & beat.
Don't ever walk to the rythm of another's drum, go skipping & frolicking down the hill instead to blues. For example.
Advice 2, try to exercise patience, with/towards yourself. Be kind to yourself, don't be so rough & judgmental of you, the world has that covered.
These points of advice don't come from mere opinions or quotes I've found online or heard someone popular say. I've worked myself to the bone to get here. I've slaved over other people's yards to make it look beautiful, instead of healing I was further harmed in foster care, like most. I have been S/A at different ages but at 13, in my first foster home I was by the dad. I finally found the courage to speak up & out about what he'd been doing to me one day bc of my childhood bff & her mom's support & love. Sadly that isn't the very, *very* painful life lesson, fire to my chest, wall pushing against me til one of us moved. No, it came within a month though. I had to tell so many strangers every detail & write it all out multiple times- it was difficult to say the least but the sting in my heart from seeing, feeling their unwillingness to believe me... it doesn't hold a fucking candle to the pain left when my younger sister, the youngest of our family at just 9 years old hadn't said anything to me one way or the other during this time when the adults made me jump through blazing hoops to prove I was telling the truth, just to knock me down & call me a liar. I was moved homes & that's what mattered most to me at that time, of course. Safety.
So the day we were riding back from a supervised visit with our mom & elder sister & suddenly my little sister leaned over to whisper in my ear "I believe you, Kandie"... gd it it still makes me weep for her childhood. Instantly I knew he'd done something to her. Why else would she all the sudden be so certain of my honesty?
Pause. I know it's not about transgenderism, that's not my point. My point of telling these microscopic painful snapshots of my life is so hopefully even just one person will get it. Get why my words truly do hold weight & value. While everyone has value to their opinions, not all hold any true weight. I've spent over 2 decades learning shit in the manner described above, the hardest most brutal-yet merciful in retrospect for, I could have easily been dead by my own hand or a few other things like health and being drugged with MDMA so someones could steal my car & the others rape me, thank Odin I learned long ago to have trust in my intuition & respect for it bc I saved myself, with the help of one man & his wife who just happened to come into that house & see me. Right away he demanded to know what happened to me, what had been done or was someone doing to me bc the scene didn't look or feel right to him. He got his wife at some point & I only saw him pop his head in to check a couple times (I had casually gotten out of the upstairs room I had been brought to originally & given the drugs under a guise, a falsity, deception. As soon as my head felt weird/off & a quick image, a bird's eye view of the ambulance carting me away & feeling/sensing Death in form I stopped what I was doing. Slowly, not to arouse suspicion that I was onto them i gathered my purse etc., claiming I had to pee so bad lolol (giggling so to give impression that I was A) blissfully ignorant to their intents & B. More goofy or relaxed or whatever, you know bc the drug. Inside I was freaking tf out. Everything that was said, had happened, the people who I'd interacted with. ..it all started painting a very horrific picture.
That couple who helped me? Earth angels I tell you. They stuck around the area for probably at minimum 2 hours, waiting for me to come back out of that crackhouse's door. They spoke to me & had me follow them in my car to their place to be sure I was safe, to find out wtf just happened to me etc.
I had nothing but positive, good vibes from them. They told me my bag was cut with MDMA & at my befuddlement, the woman told me it was a rape drug, basically, it was ecstacy. The guy had given me a bag of this stuff, for no money, no sexual favors, not even a fucking request from me.. so different, much different than what I love & was wanting. But I've always been open to trying things, in little doses til I figure out what works for me but anyway, I felt like he was hoping to find his prey incapacitated later, you know like wounding the rabbit then following the blood trail to it later. Now you're probably saying out loud, "wait, how were the other people involved that came inti the room & how do you know he intended on raping you?" Very good question. First one, I only have the very distinct memory of my instincts telling me they were there to assist & join if necessary &/or possible. The female specifically to hold me still for the men to do it to me. The woman who supposedly lived there asked me around 3-5 times in under an hour to borrow my car, thankfully I don't & didn't let her/anyone drive my car. After an ex tried, emphasis on tried, to steal it once, I broke my toe chasing him on foot but somehow managed to actually catch him red handed at a stop sign across town. We actually pulled up to the intersection at same time with this look on his face that's meme worthy when he looks left to be sure it's clear but MY FACE was staring him down, livid & I got my fucking car back right then ^ there.
Years after the alleged drugging & possible rape attempt... I'dconcluded that it was just a shitty dumb experience, no foul intents at play, the guy had no plans to rape me, I don't think he's like that. Was what helped me sleep at night after this but.... no. Nooooo he called years later to tell me once, few minutes later, twice, a 20 ish min phone call later, at the bare minimum, he'd told me 5 times that he wasn't trying to rape me that night, he swears. I was confused by the first denial bc I hadn't been anywhere near there or him or his circle since it & I don't gossip & I have always taken the subject of S/A extremely seriously due to mine & my older sister's childhood traumas including molestation, oral & vaginal rape (sis 4 me 7 first memories tho I've uncovered more by a family friend starting at age 4 too).
These are glimpses. Look I've burned myself & have every scar to prove it but more importantly, I came away stronger, wiser, kinder & more broadly empathetic.
You can surely take my insanely lengthy words with a grain of salt, carry on, pretend you've been voted as my judge and jury to accuse me of things never said here, twist my words and meanings, try to put more words in my mouth than I already had etc but it doesn't matter to me, mostly your reaction to me & perception of me to you is a mirror like reflection of the things you don't like about yourself or projection, assume that because you think & live life a certain way that I must too. Everyone thinks jusssssst like those people, amirite lol
Anywhom my deepest apologies for the length and crazy personal context & probably maybe even confusing to some who can't see my point ordon't get the meaning or significance to the context of your statement about your success at self discovery at 8th grade and your wording of "took me to 8th grade. ." As if it's a long time or everyone else has got themselves all figured out, understood, accepted & embraced by the second grade or something, it just highlights your precious age here to me! I know it's 3 years old tho so I am very excited & interested seeing your joyful face & soul at the current stage in your journey. This chapter most recently, 38,not chapter 19 I watched here & poured so much in hope even one person needed just one piece of advice from it or a different perspective that changes them & their life forever in a good way
Yea of course I thought several times of just scrapping this but I'd already invested 20 min, using this precious time & energy so as they say, go big or go home
My parents are not excepting and I am trans too
Thanks for this. Btw your really cute lol
I think I might just stay in the closet forever 😭
Be true to yourself. I hope since this video you've shared with people who you are. If you haven't, maybe it's time.
I am a mother of a transgender woman. She came out to me when she was 28. I was shocked and it took some time to process. But the day she told us (me and her dad) we embraced her and said we loved her and support her. When my husband and I were on our own of course we cried and found it difficult at first. But the first thing we said is we want her to be happy. Want her to be safe. And we want her to be alive. Yes, we know how many LGBTQ people take their own life. We dont want that for our child. She's still our child. Period.
The thing that was a little sad was learning that she had struggled with it for many years. Kept it quiet and suffered she was not happy. That actually made me cry because I did not know she was unhappy and she did a good job of hiding it.
So please, if you are miserable and still hiding. Then maybe it's time.
It will be harder and harder to come out as time goes on.
I wish my child had come out sooner but it is all about the timing. Maybe 20 years ago (early 90's)I wouldn't have reacted in the same way as I did now. I didn't know much about LGBTQ people.
And the resources weren't around much like they are now. More resources and help available today.
So please take courage.
Be prepared for whatever. It may not turn out how you want.
But you will be free from the burden of hiding and not being yourself.
There WILL be someone who supports you. It may or may not be your parents or family. But they may surprise you.
I suspect it is hard on a parent I think the older the child is. So someone in their twenties as an adult coming out as Trans to their parents maybe harder than if it's a school age kid.
As the parents have lived a long time, a couple of decades believing their child is the gender they were assigned with at birth and they've always known them that way. Many memories they have, History. It can mess with the parent's mind a little bit.
That's my experience as a mother. It was hard to wrap my head around at first but I understand so much more now and my love for my child goes beyond all of it.
Nothing would stop me from loving my kid.
I wish you all the best. Take courage.
I hope you can live as your true self. If you are already, then that's great.
It's a bit messy. Came out as non binary now realising i'm actually trans but my mum still regularly spurts out these little comments like "you'll always be my daughter" and "I wish you'd be more (insert gender)". My dad just dosen't understand and messes up because he won't educate himself. *sigh* I might just buy an "it's a (insert gender)" card and see what they do.