I used to work in true crime and quit in part because of this exact phenomenon. True crime producers only want to cover cases with "perfect victims" and within these production companies producers will say this explicitly. I brought cases to my boss that were rejected because the victim was black, a s*x worker, poor, or (and I shit you not) "not pretty enough". The excuse they use is that the target demo for true crime content is middle to upper class white women and they find the content more compelling if the victim is someone just like them, which I think is a result of this idea that a key element of womanhood is being In Danger All The Time but that's a WHOLE other conversation. Additionally, while there are some true crime programs that are highly critical of police and the criminal justice system more broadly, the VAST majority of true crime content is just straight up police propaganda. Production companies who pump out large numbers of shows for ID or Oxygen (as well as many mainstream media outlets) are not allowed to do stories that paint police in a bad light because if true crime as a whole becomes too critical of police, police will likely stop doing interviews and providing documents for these shows. The end result is that true crime is brainwashing huge swaths of white women into believing that the world is filled with deranged r*pists and m*rderers who are out to get them specifically and the only protection they have is the police. As a final note everything I just said about true crime also applies to many white women's favorite TV show, Law & Order SVU but again, that's a WHOLE other conversation.
I like In The Dark because their whole focus is on criticising the police for their botched investigations and pursuit of innocent people. They helped get an innocent Black man off death row that way.
Not only producers, but A LOT of youtube true crime channels won't either! Kendall Rae is the only one I've seen to give a lot os space to family members to bring to light some cases because other wise people will ignore it!
This is really relevant with the Gabby Petito case. They've found many bodies while searching for her that are labeled "not Gabby" and it really proves that if they wanted to, they could.
I picked on that too nobody really seemed to care they were all focused on the gabby. I don't even think they bothered to open more cases for the other missing ppl's bodies they found
yes, the amount of bodies they found was really scary. I used to like to travel but not anymore. They really need to get cadaver dogs searching all wilderness areas regularly.
“I over-explain myself. I’m a recovering people pleaser.” … Khadija over here teaching me things about myself before the video has even technically started 🙌🏾
this was also a nice way to not apologize for being that way, because I’m sure she has done the same thing that I do and has said “I’m sorry for over explaining” and then people say, “you don’t need to apologize!” and I never know what to say instead, but “I’m a recovering people pleaser” is a perfect line
What adds an extra layer of sadness, for me, is that 90% of the time when a woman goes missing or is murdered, regardless of how she is racialized, her male partner or ex-partner did it. And yet the Missing White Woman Syndrome coverage always treats it as some great mystery. But it's not a mystery. It's just misogyny.
Yes I feel this is another layer to this whole syndrome. If the partner was the murderer its most likley portrayed as a "family tragedy" (aka man killed his entire family) or a "fatal love story" (aka man killed women over rejection). Femicides are still portrayed as individual tragedies and not as a political and sociological issue.
BINGO! Also in regards to Petito. The police had the chance to stop it. There were signs of abuse and because the police force themselves is filled with abusers they just kind of treated her shaky attitude as “manic crazy lady”. They only care after the women is DEAD.
@@Laura-gd4ku exactly, unless of course we’re discussing femicide in a predominantly black/brown country, then suddenly it’s institutionalized misogyny (but subtextually coded as barbarism)
@@Jabberwocky112 over 200 indigenous women & girls have gone missing or found dead in the same exact are Gabby Petito was last seen. None of them EVER got the slightest bit of attention. I remember seeing the video of Petito and thinking are these fuggin cops SERIOUS?! Shes clearly shaken! Shes got marks on her & shes apologizing profusely! Obvious signs of abuse.
Joy Reid received so much backlash when she mentioned the ‘white woman syndrome’ concept, especially from other media outlets. Rather than considering her concern, they completely dimissed it as “why make everything about race?” It was really frustrating to see.
I think it's because she's the one with this major platform and she's complaining about people with major platforms not using there platform to cover poc cases. She has the platform to spread awareness to these cases but she just made a segment not only dismissing the recent case but to complain about something that she isn't doing. This is why I miss Cayleigh Elise because she covered missing persons cases and john/Jane Doe cases but it really messed with her mental health.
@@rachaelvaughan1017 omggg, I still have some of Cayleigh’s merch! I hope she’s doing better now. It’s been so long. Her content was so needed though, she covered so many missing people that I hadn’t heard of on other channels/podcasts.
@@redrumnoir7552 it really sucks that it messed with her mental health because she did help in quite a few cases. I think a show like hers is much needed although I'm sure she saw a lot of crime scene photos and autopsy pictures that probably scared her for life. It would be nice to see a show like that but I know that on CZcams they don't really like that kind of content.
"We are all either Jessica or not-Jessica" made me think of all the bodies they found when searching for Gabby Petito's remains. I've seen a lot of commentary about how a lot of people die in national parks and so of course there will be bodies found whenever a national park is searched for human remains but I'm like... that doesn't bother y'all in the slightest?!
In 2018, in Montreal there was a 10 year old black boy missing named Ariel. Kids don't get missing here so much and usually when they do it's all you hear. Amber alerts are really taken seriously. But I remember he didn't get as much coverage as the others. I wasn't sure if they sent an amber alert for him. I went to check and they did at first but they removed it quickly saying it didn't meet the criteria. How on earth does a missing 10 year old not meet the criteria for an amber alert????!!!! He never came home, it's not normal. Eventually the police decided to put this case as not emergency. We don't hear about him or his parents but when a little white girl was missing of roughly the same age the parents got coverage on her birthday and her disappearance every year until they finally found her body.
exactly. thank you! was just about to say the same thing. Additionally, every Dec 6 we stop and remember the women killed by a misogynist in 1996 but barely blink remembering the 6 Muslims killed in 2017 by a blatant racist...who shot people while they were praying in their own religious building! Why can't we remember both nightmarish things? oh that's yt.
I know the story too and I still think of Ariel. I remember the family kept wanting the cops to search certain places and the cops wanted to search where they wanted to search. Even recently with our young people being killed, the premier showed more compassion for the white kid than the black kids who were killed previously and he was called out for it. That‘s when he backtracked and said no no all cases are troubling.. the only thing better now is that we call the politicians out publicly for this behavior and force them to pretend to care, even if they don’t. We know who he is but a lot of people turn a blind eye
This video reminded me so much of “Gone Girl”, like the entire plot is a white woman exploiting missing white woman syndrome knowing very well how to create a show for the media so they can ruin her husbands life. All from pretending to be pregnant, writing a fake diary of abuse stories and knowing her history of a perfect innocent girl her mother created as a children’s book it was amazing how easy it was for her to manipulate everything to be the perfect victim you described. The twist of her being a manipulative villain while still being seen as the innocent victim was so crazy when it was exposed in the story because even when watching the first time you’re also fooled by her narrative, you too believe the white blonde woman was innocent
And the fact that how most of that movie/book is loosely based off how the media acted about the Laci/Scott Peterson case in the early 2000s . I just watched a Hulu documentary about that case and the way the media got so involved because she was young, pretty and pregnant. It’s insane
The amount of care & circumspection that Khadija handled such a polemic but necessary topic is absolutely why mi STAN them 🙌🏾 sidenote: Khadija makes me wanna go to therapy. Thanks for making mental health cool in the Black community
@@sarahg2653 I'd be remissed not to give you a Caribbean Coloquialism as well; Bumbarass (noun, adjective):- am amalgamation of bumbaclaat & rassclaat which is essentially an expletive. 💜
@@ForeignManinaForeignLand why thank you kind sage! So "bumbarass" is comparable to calling someone an asshole? And dear god, I love the word "amalgamation"; sir, you are stealing my heart with your wicked vocabulary!
@@sarahg2653 knowing words that obfuscate rather than elucidate is probably my greatest skill. You're right! I typically shout bumbarass when I stub my toe or refer to Ben Shapiro as one when he (unfortunately) gets recommended to me.
There was also this sad trend of a lot of Native American women going missing yet no one bats an eye at them. People need to listen to both sides and stop dismissing this
*is One such case is actually a "high profile" woman, Miss Misty Upham an up and coming actress seen in "August Osage county" and even SHE of all Native women couldn't get even a Blip on mainstream media. Its insane.
Trigger warning for RP in my comment: I took this class called politics of rape and we were studying human trafficking and there are reports of many MANY girls of color not being able to get into safe homes for helps because they are not seen as innocent even at the age of 13. The crazy thing is that many girls of color who are VERY YOUNG who go through courts to actually get help for sex trafficking become people of the state and instead enter juvenile hall which in return makes them harder to find work and enters them into the prison complex. It's fucking crazy. If your interested we had to read one book called "Redefining Rape" by Estelle Freedman. It's very hard to read but also important and really brings nuances to this conversation.
This is so true. This reminds me of a video that Khadeja did a few months ago, black girls are forced into an oversexualised adulthood at young ages. Instead of being afforded an innocent childhood like many white girls are they're forced to carry this "Jezebel" persona unwillingly when they are children. So when a black girl goes missing the first thing to is to dismiss concern because she's "grown" and knows what she's doing. It's truly sickening.
is america commonly referred to as a first world country cause at the start of the pandemic we did joke around about america being half of a third world country but what the shit is actually going on over there
@@Crosshill Do you mind telling me if you're from an anglosphere country or France? cuz I'm pretty that's a problem in all these countries. (Nordic countries take away minority children from parents in an insane way but that's another conversation) Also, societal issues don't only exist in poor countries...
@@a.a.6789 bruh lets scale the discussion a bit cause im tryna figure out if america aint a lil excessive or summin, and bringing up something like the attempted cultural genocide of greenlanders in ye olde scandinavian country of denmark doesnt actually have anything to do with this if you'd just bear with me and be more generous with your assumptions
@@Crosshill I'm sorry I didn't mean to offend you or anything, I just assumed you were from a first world country from your comment and meant that this particular problem is widespread in the majority of the first world and didn't want you to minimize that like some British people do when discussing racism/police brutality, the US isn't uniquely bas just the loudest country cuz it's basically a continent, and I didn't actually mean Greenlanders or single out Denmark, but all Scandanavian countries and in the context of Syrian children though I read about it from before about children from immigrant backgrounds and even cps liberaly taking children from a white american couple for ridiculous reasons and pretty sure the natives have a problem with that too. (Taking children "for their own sake" like what happened/happens to native populations in new world countries)
This topic always makes me think of Twin Peaks. Laura Palmer was viewed as the perfect victim- white, thin, pretty, middle class, a student and volunteer, etc. But then it was revealed that she had her struggles, that she wasn't the person the papers remembered her as. She was a sex worker, abuse survivor, and had a history of substance use. Even though she's, obviously, still super white, I feel like the show did a good job of talking about how we talk about victims we view as "worthy" of our care versus those who are too "flawed" for our full sympathy, and how certain types of victims are almost flattened into this fake, sanitized cardboard cutout of an idealized version of who they truly are, while others are nitpicked into being blamed or their tragedies being more "justified" in the eyes of the public.
Most of the victims have troubled lives honestly. I have a sister it seems she's on a mission to put herself in danger for the last 3 years. She's been doing so much stuff I am just glad she's still alive but wish she would just chill I mean dam it's ridiculous.
i mean the united states military dropped two bombs on living humans, so unsurprised. Only difference is they used "war" as an excuse rather than "NHI." Might as well have though.
Just started watching Succession and, no surprise, the characters in the show about the dysfunctional family members of the ruling class use a version of it,called NRPI = No Real People Involved.
@@Chvseem Fair enough my friend. Dropping the A and H bombs on Japan certainly involved the NHI sentiment, even if the govt would never admit to as much
I think part of the reason the "perfect victim" drives so much engagement is not just the tragedy of a supposedly "innocent" life lost but the fear. The fear that even with inherent privilege and "making good choices," you still won't be safe. I suspect it's why some people are driven to poke holes in that illusion and victim blame. If you find out what that person did "wrong," you can comfort yourself with the thought that there's a "right" way to act to stay safe.
When people talk about police brutality they only mention what black men experience when black women go through just as much if not more. The media never covers the abuse and violence we face, to the point where I thought it was only black men who endured police brutality when it is far from being the case. I'm sick of people valuing white people's lives over ours. But I'm even more disgusted by the fact that the black community does the exact same thing and values black men's lives over ours. Although black women are abused mentally and physically, killed, sexually harassed and kidnapped at a way higher rate than other races of women mostly at the hands of black men, the media never covers any of it. Because surely, it doesn't fit their agenda of the "oppressed black man". The only time we're seen and "celebrated" is when we are "fighting for the cause". I'm sick of this bullshit, this is disgusting.
finally someone said it the black community does not advocate for black girls because if they did they would have to actually hold "black kings" accountable and that wouldn't fit their "black men are oppressed narrative" because although black men are oppressed they are still men and they still hold a mass amount of power and control over black women
lol , black people must fight together against all persecution to improve their situation in the society, and not be divided by this kind of details . what you are doing is counterproductive for black women themselves. and wether you like it or not if shit hit the fan other racial group are not going to help you, but, if you want to isolate yourself and destroy your community go for it !
@@manayakakanataka5256 These are not "details", but these are people's lives. The fact that you start your comment with "lol" at the mention of the abuse black women go through tells me everything I need to know about the way you feel about us. And you do not have our best interest at heart, so stop pretending. You are not providing a solution, but asking of us to patiently and submissively wait for the abuse to stop. You definitely wouldn't want that for yourself, but we shouldn't say anything about it? I call bullshit. Sure, other groups are not going to help us, but black men are not going to either, better advance on our own than sink together. I'm not "doing" anything, I'm stating facts and how I and a lot of black women feel. And I can't divide something that is already divided. Our community is already toxic and in ruin, what is there left to "destroy"? Just say that you don't want black women to speak up about what is happening inside the community because it makes black men look bad and go.
it's heartwrenching. when black women are on the news, it's always morbid and it makes me scared as a young black girl. if i went missing, would anyone even notice? i hate to think of it. in africa, you hear so many cases of whole classes of girls getting kidnapped from school, the high domestic abuse rates and obviously it's the same over in the western world. the world is a dangerous, dangerous place for black women and girls ;-;
Can you give the stats that they experience it more? 800 different identity groups crying for attention, instead of focusing on the effects lets focus on the cause. If we fight for police reform it would impact everyone but people focus on micro identities.
As a teen/young adult, my friends would joke about who got to go with me when we all separated because as the only white person in the group (and being a prodomently POC community), they said the news truck/detectives would only come if something happened to me. It got less and less funny as we got older and I was blatantly treated differently when the only thing different was my skin color. Eventually, I realized I was the only one who ever really thought it was a joke.
i feel you on this, i remember thinking pretty young that i would be "okay" if something happened. i think some adult joked about if i was kidnapped because i was a little white girl people would want to find me (and the inherent implications flew over my head because i was a child). then after learning more about the world and the experiences of poc and visible minorities that was not a joke anymore... honestly kind of disgusting tho to joke about kidnapping a child to their face and then switch around to "nah but youll be fine, theyll look for you"
One thng that's really been making me think has been people saying "we should treat every missing person the way we treated Gabby." But is that true? I feel like the media was obsessed with her to the point she was commodified for entertainment instead of treated like an actual person. It needs to pay more attention to marginalized missing people, but also treat them as humans, which they did not do for Gabby. I have thoughts in general about news coverage of crimes outside of the areas that can actually help/impact it and that contributing to society treating crime as drama and entertainment.
Of course she was commodified and she already had a modest social media following so she had a starting audience. Her story circulated the internet that’s why the MSM picked it up plus along with her class status and racialized status contributed. It’s not all as simple as white = cared about. It’s absolutely a factor but it’s not a sole reason.
You should expand on the epidemic of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women. That should be a whole video in itself. As an Indigenous woman, I was hoping that the MMIW topic would be brought up more than just the statistics section. We have been invisible to the world for so long and now we are just seen as statistic numbers. Great video, thank you for sharing.
That would be amazing! Im grateful she included us Natives but yes more & more representation would be great! It could be just a "tin hat" conspiracy but I personally think there's been a hit out on Native women so its easier to wipe us out! Our land is still full of vital resources that would garner someone ALOT of money! With the Indigenous population gone it'd be so much easier to take over the country and where does that start? Our women!
@@dat1ndnguy it's not a tin hat, that's definitely a reality. There's actually an essay written by a native woman called "Violable" that's exactly about that, and violence against indigenous women being a big part of American culture.
@@dat1ndnguy it is very very far from a tin hat conspiracy. The US government has been perpetrating the murder of Natives since the start. Just because they aren’t actively doing that anymore, doesn’t mean that the effects aren’t prevalent in our society. Their mess was never cleaned up.
Not a journalist, but I do work in public media so just wanted to give a little shoutout to independent journalism which is free to all and does not rely on corporate dollars. The investigative journalism series Frontline from PBS recently did in-depth reporting about civil rights era cold cases, bringing attention to BIPOC lives lost/ignored by the media for decades (it’s called Un(re)solved.) Public media definitely isn’t perfect in terms of representation, but I think it has a really important role in the discussion.
There’s a history of elderly asian people who are attacked or even killed in San Francisco, but it’s only recently been getting more media attraction. Definitely feel the importance of intersectionality with the privilege of media attention
I feel like there's something to be said about this and about how a lot of asians are targeted by black people mainly black men, which shocked me since I kind of assumed they'd know what being a targeted minority is like thus wouldn't harm other minorities but oh well. :/
@@dont_harsh_my_mellow It's very despicable. I think what happened was that the ex-president kept putting blame on China and at the same time, the media kept reporting that Black people were most impacted by the virus (losing jobs and dying at a higher rate). So some idiots were looking for someone to blame for their grief. Very horrible.
I’m aware of both of those things in the last 18 months but the first commenter said it’s been a long time Asian seniors have been murdered or missing. Was it always black men or is that something else? Very curious as I had not heard about this until recently
@@katialavalle5696 theres unspoken tension between African-American and Koreans and Chinese. The media doesn’t report on it. Did you just assume that any attack on people from the Eastern Hemisphere were perpetrated by racialized white people? If so, that means the media has had an effect on your way of perception. Most of the explicit attacks were mostly done by racialized Black men but their “race” wasn’t mentioned. However the racialized white man who shot up the massage parlor that killed 8 people, despite that 2 were not racialized Asian women and barely got coverage, was spun into an explicit attack of racism. Always read multiple sources, read the details and don’t listen to JUST MSM as giving you an unbiased truth. Everyone has an agenda.
@@katialavalle5696 I want to point out that the majority of these cases involve low-income asian elders being attacked by others living in the same under resourced neighborhoods. Many of the attackers were people who had untreated mental health issues. Whenever we talk about these attacks, I think it's important to emphasize how systems of oppression (like unemployment, lack of healthcare, disproportionate harm during a pandemic) and how ideas of colonialism (e.g., xenophobia, dehumanization) interact in ways that lead to continued violence. I also want to caution against pointing to a particular racialized group as "perpetrators". These events often occur in underresourced and marginalized neighborhoods where Asian people live alongside other minoritzed groups, so it's not unexpected that we'd see the attacks occurring between minoritized groups.
Please what this video in its entirety before making assumptions about what I'm going to say based off the title. 💕 EDIT: There IS a breakdown of sex/race in the FBI data base, finding certain stats was a bit tricky for Priscilla and Antonia when it came to other countries is what I should've said! Check it out here : www.fbi.gov/file-repository/2020-ncic-missing-person-and-unidentified-person-statistics.pdf/view
Thank you for always facilitating such thoughtful discussions over some of the worst situations in the zeitgeist. I wish more people made time (and room) for as much nuance as you do.
Please stop using latinx. As Latino we actually do not like being called letting x. I'm not sure who got this dumb idea that Latino people get offended by being called Latino when we've identified as Latino since forever, and anything we get more offended when people call us latinx. And so far a lot of my Latino fellow brethren and sisters have been speaking out about that and nobody cares or listens. So I'm just going to assume you didn't know this and I'm letting you know now. We do not want to be called latinx, for the love of God please stop using it. So why people won't listen, I hope you and others will. Stop using latinx, we do not like latinx. And since when did we ever get offended by just being called latin? Personally for me the word doesn't bother me too much, I'm more offended by people who are being offended for me. But at this point I am genuinely annoyed by the word Latin x because my people have said it a thousand times over we do not want to be called latinx but nobody listens to us and they keep calling us latinx when we've said a thousand times we do not want to be called latinx. Please for the love of God please listen to us and understand we don't want that do not follow through what the sjws are saying. We do not want to be called what an x, we do not like the term latinx, people are more offended by the term latinx if anything and are already annoyed by it and people not listening to us. Please stop using latinx!
This is such a harsh topic, but you managed it with a lot of sensitivity and care. Nobody that is missing deserves to be seen as non-human or guilty for their disappearance. 🖤
It really bothers me how much true crimers focus on idolising the victim, who always seems to be the "blond, happy girl who had lots of friends and could light up the room when they walk in". They focus on the victims personalities and their appearance so much.
I'm glad you included non-US stats because often American creators often act like they are the only country in the world. Also, more insidiously, when only American statistics and perspectives on these issues are circulated, it allows other countries (like the UK) to pretend racism does not exist because "we're not as bad as America". (Also you look fire in this video :D)
definitely, as an australian the way the country collectively ignores its horrible racism towards the first nations people despite them being one of the most highly incarcerated people in the world is sickening! and it’s exactly this we love to point the finger at the us when it’s just as bad here. how can we even begin yo address a problem if as a nation we can’t admit it to ourselves?
Your video essays are a great example of how to decolonize academia. You put so much research into these topics and deliver them in such a way that makes it accessible to a much more diverse audience which works to break down the exclusive barriers that traditional academia accumulated over hundreds of years. Thank you and keep up the good work!
You mentioned a serial killer who would specifically target "not Jessica's," because he knew he could get away with it. To add to that, there are so many more cases in which this has happened too. The fact that people can and do knowingly exploit the media's bias is proof of the bias in and of itself.
Just last week, two white male coworkers were talking about the Gabby case. One of them tried to explain that the story got a lot of coverage because she was a conventionally attractive young white woman, but the other dude straight up denied it. He said “If I went missing, nobody would care.” My Black ass stayed quiet of course, but it was sad and also interesting seeing how a white man processed that whole situation. Like…it was just a strange story to him…
READ WE NEED THIS TOWARDS THE TOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ifeel that, not that any one race is more important, but all that I’m asking is for everyone’s case to be treated equally. Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women had 7, 512 cases in one year alone! Only 116 of those cases have really been looked at by courts! With more than half of native women having been assaulted in their life, you would expect more representation! Yet, no! You must look at ALL the cases adequately! As a young indigenous person, I am scared for what my future may hold. We must bring awareness to this huge issue!
I watched an american movie where the police was not allowed to work into the indigenous communities , and that those communities had their own police force and laws… Is that representative of the true or not , just for the movie ?
@@physiobr9227 As far as I know, yes. Laws set up by the American and Canadian governments make it extremely difficult for many indigenous people to get help with a case. While most federally recognized tribes have a police system as well as court, they are usually don’t have the power to arrest or even search non indigenous people. As 2 out of 3 MMIW cases are caused by a white, person, this is a huge issue. With those laws, if a tribe wants help, the FBI are the only ones who can help. Do you think the FBI will really even consider coming to a reservation to help? No! Please continue to ask as many follow up questions, but I might not always have an answer as MMIW gets tried to covered up and I am only 13. But I will try!
This reminds me a lot of the difference in pictures that the media chooses to show for perpetrators of crime/violence. Typically, racialized white people are shown smiling, with their families, and/or having fun while racialized Black people are often represented by their mug shot, or of them with a weapon or weed memorabilia, etc. This tendency and missing white women syndrome both tell us who we are supposed to empathize with, protect, and support. As well as who we're supposed to villainize and/or ignore.
This video was educational and infuriating. The fact that the NHI acronym even exists is horrifying. I'd love you to cover "Atlanta's Missing and Murdered: The Lost Children" at some point.
That was the KKK's doing. The feds pretty much figured it out and quietly arrested the members responsible. That's not official but outspoken law enforcement and feds involved with the case. Basically came to this conclusion. They all lost their jobs and were pushed away when they looked into the KKK. Basically the feds didn't want to start a race war or riot smh. They framed a young black boy in the area. But never had any real hard proof. He's still in jail now.
@@THIZZAVELI That is too simple. The young black male who wasarrested probably did have sth to do with the murders, just not all of them. But that's a complicated case. The show Mindhunter dealth with it.
I remember that when I was going to school in California, there were literally posters of missing children, posted on our cafeteria walls; and I always wondered, “Why isn’t the National News reporting on these cases?” I didn’t know, back then, that it was because the majority of these children weren’t white, but were Black and Latino.
It is but we dehumanize each other when we racialize each other. A white European is redundant. But one is true. That you are from Europe and of a regional European ancestry. You’re not actually “white” which fragments your humanity in the same way. It’s just that racialized white people get to be more “human” than their darker counterparts.
When Khadija mentioned victimhood, the first thing that came to mind was the black victims of police brutality. "He might have had fake bills" "She was driving a bit badly" "These people deserved this somehow". Not to mention the difference in the types of photos the media uses to depict white and non-white individuals. Also I'm Western Australian and that statistic was completely new to me. It's truly upsetting but I'm glad Khadija brought it to our attention.
I love and appreciate your channel so much. I used to be really "woke" (for lack of a better term) in college. Now that I've been in the workforce for a few years, I feel like being around older people with toxic mindsets has started to effect my worldview negatively. You keep me grounded and you have a talent for communicating these issues. THANK YOU!
After I was briefly missing (stupid mistake) I thanked my mom for sharing a very flattering picture of me on social media and she said "thanks I learned it in school" (she studied PR and communications)
Being autistic makes this issue so personal for me. When an autistic person goes missing or is murdered, the response most often is, "Who cares, apart from the parents? What's the impact on society when an autistic person goes missing? None." We're not just disposable, we're burdens that NEED to be disposed of. It's not seen as a problem, but as a solution. Even though I'm female, white, cisgender, and middle class, I know I will always be "not Jessica's body". I can't even begin to explain how it feels like to be seen as disposable throughout your entire life.
i hope you know that even if society makes you feel dispensable, you’re not. this may sound cliche and cheesy, but you truly matter. please be kind to yourself, you deserve it. this is coming from a fellow neurodivergent person with ocd and bpd, who’s also learning how to be kind to themself. hope you have a nice day!
@@catarina4613 Thank you! I absolutely value myself, it's only a sad fact that me simply staying alive and going about my day is already an act of resistance against a society that thinks it's better off without me. They have no idea what they're missing! 😅
As an autistic person myself, I wanted to add to this, as I feel it can actually sometimes go the other way (depending on "functioning levels" etc). If the victim conforms to the young slim rich white girl victim ideal, autism can often be used as yet another infantalising factor suggesting that this were somehow even more tragic because of the helpless innocence of the victim. However, much like women in general, this doesn't actually extend to real life, as we are seen as no more than 2d tragic victims needing to be saved -- because as soon as we actually start exhibiting autistic traits or even just showing ourselves as people as opposed to ideas, we are immediately demonised because we no longer provide any benefit to the "sympathiser", and instead they must "deal" with the inconvenient and potentially painful realities of our condition. In essence, we are only allowed humanity, when it is taken away from us in death - we are disposable, until we are disposed of, and then we are a tragedy.
I know a survivor of kidnapping, they are an indigenous two-spirit person. They have mentioned that the only person who was really looking for them at the time was their future spouse. They didn't receive any news coverage or much attention from people in their own life. It is heartbreaking to think of what could have happened to them.
10:30, should mention how the Japanese treated basically the rest of East Asia. In interviews with former imperial japanese troops, they mentioned they felt bad killing Chinese troops or civilians, but would be pressured and praised to do so. But once they started telling the logic that the Chinese weren't human or just sub-human, it made committing the atrocities easier.
Yeah..that happens to a lot of races/ethnicities. It’s happening to the ugyhur Muslims in China right now. One of the steps of genocide: dehumanization.
The Church of the Algorithm gives this video its blessing, and must it stay clear of the blasphemers from The First Algorithmic Temple (and the many people impersonating their members).
The use of NHI reminded me of this experience in Brazil among black poor men, especially the ones raised in favelas, where they mention the importance of carrying their IDs hen going anywhere, especially their *worker ID*, in case they are stopped by cops for looking suspicious. If they don't, they risk looking like a vagrant, which is technically a crime, or like a suspicious element that might be on his way to commit a crime, which is worryingly vague. In cases of police brutality, the victim's family and orgs against police brutality might highlight the fact he was a worker and known as hardworking, as kind of a way of proving he wasn't the dangerous probably criminal the police report and mainstream media are painting him as to justify his murder.
I will never forget the 2014 story of the bodies of two Black women found naked, hog tied on the North side of Jacksonville, FL. Their story was in the local news for a day or two and hasn’t circulated in the news since 2014. Reddit users are the only ones keeping Angelia Magnum and Tjhisia Ball’s names in circulation 😔
(NHI - No Humans Involved) What an absolutely heartbreaking reality this is. The LAPD slogan is “To Protect and to Serve” to whom it appears to be “selective” of whom these officers choose to protect & serve, just so institutionally racist, sad and frightening.
I think there is some confusion over Latino/a. It is a meta-ethnicity, not a race. Cameron Diaz is Latina. She is Cuban… Her race is white. Not every Latin American is mestize. There are over 200 million white people in Latin America. Thalia, Gloria Estefan, Paulina Rubio, Ana de Armas are all latinas of European lineage. They are all white women. Shakira is a Colombian of Italian and Lebanese descent. Supermodel Gisele is a Brazilian of German descent. The idea that every person in Latin America is mixed is a weird mis conception. Recently Argentinian actress Ana Taylor Joy was referred to as a woman of color, despite over 80 percent of Argentines being white. And, of course, Anya Taylor Joy, is a white Latina.
i will say this depends totally on how people see you tho. ana de armas may have European lineage but a white woman from the us is probably not going to see her as a white woman. she's going to see her as other. bc the culture the food the traditions are different that's all that's needed. my dad is Italian and dutch, my mom is colombian, a mix of Spaniard and indigenous. I look very white. I have light eyes and light skin and I identify both as a white woman and a latina. Pollo Crudo my family calls me, which is literally uncooked chicken bc that's my skin color. when Trump was running for the presidency we went to a town that has a history of racism just bc we were passing thru and needed some supplies, I went to the Walgreens next door bought some medicine my mom was at the dollar store. I go to the dollar store to meet her my mom is at the cash wrap. so I don't walk in more than 3 feet. I start talking to my mom in Spanish. the check-out girl is white with brown hair and brown eyes. the girl immediately starts looking at me and asks me where I got the medicine that was now in my hand, even tho the Walgreens bag is hanging from my arm. she's only asking me this bc they sell the same medicine at the dollar store. never mind that she just saw me enter that I never fully walked into the store. you could technically make the argument that I look whiter than her based on my blue-green eyes. but bc I spoke Spanish I instantly became other and therefore the probability that I magically shoplifted was a possibility. and I've had this experience in a few ways with white women who arent hispanic. I'm not white to them. they got way too comfortable making Mexican jokes or other Hispanic jokes even tho they were not friends or close to me. they didn't treat me the same as other white women at the work place and they were hyper vigilant to make sure I never had more than them in praise or anything they deemed as special treatment. They would tell you I looked like a white girl, and they never asked me what my ethnicity was my family make up nothing. but I was still other, still latina or Hispanic. so I totally get what you're saying, there are definitely people who don't know the history of latin America but there are also a lot of people that don;t care and are all too happy to say nope that's other.
@@rotisserie8444 In America, there's a bigger population of Latin American people than people from Spain, so I'm assuming most Americans usually associate the Spanish language with Latin American countries than they do with Spain.
It's funny because, from what I know, argentinians doesn't like it when they compare them to white or "gringo" even though they are aware that they get a much different treatment with their race than with brown or black latinos.
Recently here in CA two small boys of color went missing . As I’ve been following the case I was surprised and saddened how little coverage and media attention they received. I check in every week to see if any updates or any news on them has been reported but nothing . How does a case like Gabbys spread like wildfire but not two small children ? I’m scared they will just be forgotten and the case will go cold . I think about them all the time ... they are Orin and Orson only 4 and 3 years old . I pray for them & that their case gets the attention and coverage as well as urgency that they deserve 😔
When I was watching S3 of 'You' and they mentioned Missing White Woman Syndrome, I instantly caught myself hoping Khadija would make a vid on the topic and I was not disappointed!!
May 3, 2002. 7 year old Alexis Patterson disappeared in Milwaukee. There was a decent amount of local coverage at the time, and on the 10th anniversary, and last January when her stepfather (the last person known to see her) died. But I haven't seen shit nationally. I know kids go missing. Too many for everyone to know about. But even "true crime buffs," if you ask them about Alexis, you'll likely get a blank look. She was a darling little girl. You Google her, the first picture that comes up, you'll instantly smile - won't be able to stop yourself, she's that adorable and charming in the pic - until you remember why her picture is there. She was a Black girl, whose dad was incarcerated, stepfather had a record... and there was no quick and easy answer as to what happened - and ultimately, it looks like the media just didn't care. Since leaving town, I haven't heard anything about her unless I sought it out. Like you say, it's not that Gabby, Natalee, and JonBenét don't deserve attention... but dammit, so does Alexis, and countless little girls, boys, men, women, NB folks who don't fit the "ideal" narrative. Thanks for everything you do.
The only thing that bothered me was how everyone was doing everything they could to help find Gabby such as gofundme's, search parties etc. while many indigenous women go missing almost every day and no one bothers to bat an eye. I'm not trying to invalidate Gabby Petito's case or her family's feelings but I just wanted to point it out. Not only do we get pushed under the rug as well as the struggles we face inside the reservations alone but countless amount of women going missing from ever since and only now we are getting some sort of recognition from the media .
i’m an indigenous australian woman, and i was so shocked to see our own missing indigenous persons rates mentioned in this video. education around indigenous lives today in relation to the legal system, living conditions, injustices, basically everything, is so limited and many non-indigenous australians know next to nothing about aboriginal lives and culture, leading to things such as our sacred sites being destroyed, and people celebrating the day of invasion and genocide every year (australia day). thank you for mentioning us, and please i urge everyone to learn about indigenous australian culture as it is beautiful and deserves to be celebrated
Another related thing that is interesting as well. With movies like “Taken,” there is this assumption that most of the women that are victims of sex trafficking are white women when the reality is that the majority are still black and brown people. It makes me wonder how much this fallacy plays a part in the laws that criminalize sex work “in attempts to crack down on trafficking.” Would these laws have the same impact if people associated more melanated faces with victims of sex trafficking or just trafficking of humans in general?
That's a good point, but I had the impression that eastern European women were the most likely victims of trafficking in Europe?? But maybe that's changed or I imagined reading that or something?? The way they're portrayed and treated in western Europe is abhorent too...
@@iamthethebeginningiamtheen9555 A white couple adopting a black child is a highly stigmatized thing. Same for black couples adopting white children. There is backlash from both the black and white communities. As for adopting from Asian countries, you have to realize at the time when it was most popular, there was a ton of documentaries showing how rough kids had it in those gov run orphanages.
@@a.a.6789 Yes and no because it really depends on where you're talking about. When you're talking about just the US it's more likely to be black women trafficked in unpaid sex work. But in all of Europe, it's more likely that trafficked women are eastern European, primarily because buyers of 'mail order brides' are more often looking for someone with the same skin tone.
@@leanna3625 Yes I meant specifically in Europe because op talked about "taken" which I'm pretty sure took place in France and ik the kidnapping of Slavic women by gangs is a major issue for eastern European communities. (Like the brittany and miloc situation in shanes doc) edit: also don't mean mail order brides which is also gross just regular traficking into brothels.
No way.....I have been contemplating about asking if you would consider covering this phenomenon ever since the sudden " outbreak" from that one particular case.
That one particular case was all over the news because there was police body camera footage of them shortly before she went missing, there were multiple states involved which makes the federal government involved, they had hours of youtube videos about them being on the van trip (the van in the police video), and they knew the general location where she probably disappeared and they were getting updates about her missing boyfriend. Not because she was a white woman.
@@Cynnas oh really....The last time I checked no one knew of Gabby like that prior to her going missing. She had just started youtube and had approximately 1000 or so subscribers. There have been black female youtubers with 100, 000+ subscribers who suffered similar demise ( in some cases were dismembered and trafficked in the back of cars across state lines). A sad and unfortunate example is Briana J. The only coverage they got is from youtubers like Leah Gordone. I believe we spent millions of dollars searching for Brian right? One of the black youtubers who were covered by Leah was only found after a suspicious smell from a normal traffic stop. Do you know of Briana J. Laura S? Exactly. I know of Gabby , a person with 1000 subs, a person who no one but her family, friends, acquaintances and 1000 subscribers knew of prior to her becoming the poster missing person of thousands and thousands who have gone missing. Briana J had well over 200, 000 + subscribers.
Admittedly, I struggle talking about this topic, because so many people portray it as: "White women get instant justice, everyone cares MOST about them, and they never truly suffer." Whether that's their intention or not, I don't know. But that's how it can come across. And I get it: The lack of justice inflames people because it is WRONG not to pay attention to the missing and murdered WOC. Plus those who are trafficked and abused. But the reason it can be hard for me to hear is: I was a white little girl sexually abused and trafficked my by own father from toddler age. And he got away with it. Not in spite of his whiteness, but BECAUSE of it. I reported. I tried to tell. But everyone saw white, middle class parents and told me, "At least you have parents who care." Yes, they did. On the outside. I had no hope of justice. So when this topic comes up, I hear those sneering social workers not believing me again: "You're white, you're privileged, what do YOU have to be upset about?" I don't want to make this about me. This isn't about me. I just wanted to give a little background as to why I appreciate your (Khadija's) careful portrayal of this, not as some absolute truth, but as a social construct that we CAN bring down. That gives me hope, and usually this topic doesn't give me much hope. You did some really good work here. Very important, healing work. I can't explain how truly I appreciate it.
@@RavenHues I am, thank you! My father died almost a decade ago and I have not been in contact with my family since. I live on my own and I have found people who actually love me.
That is 100% valid. As an indigenous woman I acknowledge that there is a bias with who the media reports but I don't go around blaming white women for being victims of violence. Just a few days ago I saw someone mocking Gabby Petito when this topic was brought up. Very unnecessary. I get the outrage, I'm mad too but talking about a dead woman like that is disrespectful. I think too many people are forgetting that things like femicide and violence against women don't have a single race. That's not me saying MMIW and Black femicide don't exist. Those are racialized femicide and there are many cases that aren't reported because of it. I'm just saying that people who blame this problem solely on white women and not on society who chooses to ignore violence against WOC should reflect. Misogyny and racism is to blame.
Matt Baum talked about how theatrics was used improve public opinion on same sex marriage, when more personal stories about same sex couples was in the media (showing LGBT people and their family) instead of just talking about abstract rights in marriage rights commercials (The specific video: Why Opinion Changed So Fast on Gay Marriage). That's why slogan like "Say their names" is so important. The public needs to see the faces of the victims and their families to sympathize with them.
It’s really interesting that opinion/bias can be changed without a direct personal connection. Personally getting to know someone holds the most weight, but obviously that doesn’t organically happen that much, is difficult to set up, and can just further bias.
Say their name was based off say her name (which was a slogan created by black women to talk abt black female victims of police brutality) don't steal that slogan to talk abt nonblack ppl (and esp white gays)
I think the ad dollars are a huge piece of all of this. Most "news" outlets aren't even vaguely interested in disseminating information for the betterment of human kind. It is almost always about what will get the most clicks, views, shares and ultimately money.
You stated this succinctly. That is exactly how stories are chosen. Who will be interested? What will make most money? The condo collapse was an example to me. Many wealthy white people involved. I wonder would a building in the projects collapsing have had as much coverage?
As a Canadian, I'm really happy that you included the statistics about the Highway of Tears in BC. The murdered and missing indigenous women and girls epidemic in Canada is horrifying and receives such mediocre media coverage. Another symbol of the MMIWG movement is the empty red dress which activists have used to symbolize the missing woman's presence. Canada wide, I believe the number is at least over 5500, but this was something I read a few years ago so it's likely higher. So thank you for highlighting that, as very few people often consider what is happening to indigenous women and girls here. It's also why I've felt the media coverage of the missing woman (Gabrielle?) is a bit inappropriate. Partly because it makes such a circus out of a tragedy, but also because that exact story happens to countless indigenous women every year and the only time I hear anything about it is when I see an indigenous person share something on social media. It's like seeing 10 Jessica's go missing a month, but they're "not Jessica". It's awful.
Thanks fo mentioning the First nations people of Australia. I really hope the world starts seeing how bad it is over here. What happened to George Floyd was heart breaking for the whole world, in 2015 David Dungay Jr, an Indigenous man was taken into custody and died (was murdered by police) of asphyxiation, his last word were "I can't breathe, please, I can't breathe." It's all on footage and there is still no justice. I find it hard that people in this country often care more about things that happen in America than the same things happening to our own people. I hope soon we start getting the word out, and people from other countries see. Sadly I know if more people from places like America start calling out the disgrace of what is happening here, maybe more will be done to protect and find justice for our people. Sad truth.
The stars are aligning because I'm currently watching S3 of You on Netflix. This is particularly interesting considering that being a part of the show too
The first couple of episodes of this season were hard for me to get through, because they were emphasizing his total lack of self-awareness SO HARD (you know, having him go on about how Love is dangerous, particularly after a setup that seems like he’s going to say he’s dangerous) and I found it really frustrating, like yell-at-the-screen frustrating. And then I saw a completely sincere tweet from someone about how Joe was no longer a good person who does bad things but just a bad person (or some shit like that) and realized holy shit, the reason they’re beating us over the head with that is because a huge portion of their viewership actually needs it to be spelled out for them that he’s a bad person despite his belief in his goodness 🤦♀️
@@JC-yy8iv Yep. It’s horrifying. I watched the first season soon after it came out. When the second season came out, a LOT more people started watching the show, and that’s when the glorifying of Joe started. I really hoped people would be able to recognize how bitingly, sickeningly accurate it is. Joe’s narration sounds like most of the men I’ve dated, even the ones who didn’t rape me. But so many people think coercion is how to talk sexy. They don’t even realize that they’ve been coerced and raped themselves (or have done it to someone). So they subconsciously ignore the “red flags” in a tv character, even when there’s murder in the story.
Before watching this: I was in Iowa when Mollie Tibbetts disappeared. They found, to my knowledge, two other bodies while looking for her. One was a hispanic woman murdered by her boyfriend. She didn't make the news. Her family didn't get the fanfare that Mollie did. :/ During the look for her, my bosses changed the rules for us workers. I normally worked the midnight to 4 AM shift (or 8 PM to 4 AM depending on my mood) and they changed it to 8 to 1 AM and Midnight to 6 AM, so there'd be a person to confirm your arrival and leaving. Because missing girls are a dime a dozen in America. And I was one of the three WOC on the team and it was normally us doing the overnights. I got a new app, so my friends would know where I was. I texted often. I had to ride my bike in the dark to get to work, the buses stopped running at 1 AM and didn't start until 630. And, since I graduated, I couldn't use the campus shuttle despite being a campus employee. I put that in my final review of the college. I didn't feel safe for MONTHS because the campus didn't recognize me as an employee. And I put that, as a brown student, no one would create a national movement for my missing body... I'm not pretty or outgoing, I'm barely noticeable on the best day. No one would follow my story. It's not dramatic enough.
I just want to say thank you so much for doing this work that must be incredibly psychologically taxing. You always participate in such nuanced conversations with such skill and grace. I can’t even imagine what seeing such dehumanizing content as part of one’s work can put on one’s soul - myself as a queer person I chose to not do it as a career path specifically because it was too taxing. It’s not exactly the same, but I empathize. Thank you for making this video and I hope you are taking care of your mental health by doing a lot of self care!!!
I know someone who is really into true crime, and crime shows. It gets a little tiring, because the majority have victims that all look the same, have the same back story, etc, etc. It's only more recent shows, where I've seen a slight change but. I get that these people effected, are still worthy of concern, and sympathy. But, when it's like, "but what about everyone else, who isn't white, cis and a woman?" The thing about media, and any company that deals with profits...profits come first. Which often effect real people's lives.
im australian, and there's often news articles discussing epidemic of missing indigenous women - but still so few about the individual women themselves. it feels so much like they're reduced to statistics for the news organisations to show while not actually helping to solve the problem that much. the recent daily updates on the search for cleo smith have made that stick out even more.
This has been an issue in the Uk too with the coverage around Sarah Everard V Biiba Henry and Nicole Smallman (murdered in Wembley Park). My only qualm with how some people relate societal issues to missing peoples cases and the coverage around them is that it can dehumanise all those reported missing by referring to their cases as representing privelege (these claims do have merit and I’m not dismissing them by any means, I just feel like these people end up feeling like debating points not people, it’s the reason I don’t like true crime in general) This was especially with the discourse around Madeleine Mcann
Uk is 95% white. Do you think the minority should more be the focus of the media than most of the majority ? Well, if you do so. Then leave a white founded country where you get your basic liberties from and migrate back to any country in africa and be represented in every corner in your "society". Also, society wouldnt condone for the favor of the few.
@@fidelitacadayona1551 the UK is also mostly lower class, yet most of the reports made are about upper middle class white women. Should the poor white people leave the country as well, or should they too shut up and take whatever is shown of them. Since that's what you expect non white people to do
@@fidelitacadayona1551 also, by these standards, does that mean that if a white person gets missing in a non white country, then they have no right to ask for attention on it? Because when white people get missing in 95% black countries, it makes the news there. But in 87% white countries (which is what the UK is by the way although I'm sure you'd love a 95% white) then you expect them to what? Accept death and leave???
@@mynameisuju lmao. African news outlets dont report missing white missionaries kidnapped in any part of africa. Its their home country journalists who do the job so that the world know. Most of these news outlets are also responsible for the bail handouts of white people to go back to their home country safely. You better fact check yourself first. The lack of self awareness is insane.
I feel a recent example of this in play is the coverage of the Gabby Petito case vs the hundreds of missing indigenous women from the US and Canada, or the coverage of the residential schools in Canada. I’m in the U.K. and had never heard of Gabby Petito before what happened, and I doubt she’d have gotten the coverage she did if she wasn’t white and blonde.
I am wondering how much in the coming years a person's social media clout will play into this. For example, with the recent Gabby Petito case, while she most definitely fits the 'missing white woman syndrome', I do think that one of the reasons that case blew up was the fact that she had a social media following prior to her going missing. There was a built in audience for the coverage. I think we are rapidly moving towards a society/culture where everyone has some sort of interactions on social media, and I do wonder how that will play into which cases get media time.
That, coupled with the case involving multiple states, and involving a national park likely contributed to all the publicity. Plus people just love to speculate about it :/
I've been hearing about how "newsrooms" and local on the ground independent newspapers and journalism is disappearing and being bought by different companies and people. Just makes me think... we really do need independent diverse voices representing our country and lives.
Every time I watch one of your videos I go on a Googling adventure looking up all the subjects and theories you speak of. Thank you for that. I love my Sunday Khadija Googling adventures. Even when the Googling adventures enrage me at how garbage people can be...
I love how inciteful you are and the fact you look at a situation from all angles. I'm from South Africa, we don't necessarily have the exact same issues here, but your content is very educational
Just for educational purposes, the correct word is 'insightful' not 'inciteful.' However in this case inciteful can work because it can imply that you are inspired to take action after learning about this topic. :)
Wow I just watched the episode of "You" and they were mentioning that syndrome. I've never heard of that before today. And now I am going to learn even more from your video.
I've been wondering why we are relentlessly hearing about Gabbie Petito like it's a play-by-play or cliffhanger in a series. Not only is that disrespectful to her as someone that's passed, it also makes you wonder where's that same energy/coverage for the millions of other girls, esp girls of color, who are kidnapped/lost. Definitely the media seems to have an agenda because they know people are going to continue to be shocked and concerned about a young missing white girl. Unsurprising yet disturbing tbh.
It's important that people realize this isn't a problem limited to one country one area. I appreciated that you consistently choose examples that reinforced the reality that these things are happening globally. Even if it doesn't manifest in exactly the same ways or have the same exact dynamics doesn't mean that one country can point fingers and not simultaneously hold their own selves accountable.
news outlets proved joy right when she made that statement because like a week or two later, a black woman in louisiana i believe was found dead in a locked police van and…..i had to hear about it from twitter but gabby story was plastered EVERYWHERE for weeks and i feel like the girl in louisiana is a more compelling story that needs answers
Thank you for covering this, and for doing such a wonderful job as always. I work in news and we've been following the Gabby Petito case, of course, especially since she initially disappeared in my state. I also live very near the Navajo reservation, and every week or so in the newsroom we hear more stories of Navajo women who are missing, found dead, or otherwise unaccounted for. The worst thing is that these women get maybe one story if they get any mention on-air at all. Not that the Petito case isn't tragic, it is, but it is so clear that if she wasn't a young white woman most people never would have even heard of the case. It's exhausting and heartbreaking to see the difference in how these cases are treated.
I love and respect Khadija’s eloquence. Best exemplified in this vid when they say “I’m not trying to make this funny/jokey, but I’m also trying to add elements of relief.” You can always tell they’re making their points from a good faith perspective and take care to do so in a human way. Love it!
The fact that there is a society that gets to decide who life is more important than the others all because their looks aren't desirable is just sick. Nobody can help how they were born or the life that they are born in. You shouldn't have to be white or rich in order to be rescued. Those women, girls, boy's, men, or even transgender lives are just as important. Let's face the fact that the dominant group just aren't ever going to value anyone other than the ww or girl/boy. More ethnicity groups need to start forming our own rescue tactics that includes every human being to get just as much attention as those of non color or with more money. I love your channel gorgeous thank you and keep on blessing us with info and your beautiful personality.❤️
you know, with the missing white woman syndrome i started to think about how true crime is considered as having such a white feminine audience, and it makes me wonder how those two things may be connected
The idea that we have to fight for diversity in the media is.. surreal to me. It shouldn't be a question, we shouldn't talk about that. It should have happened naturally. The fact that we are stuck there is honestly a social failure imo.
NHI reminds me a lot of a german word "vogelfrei" which is a concept from the middle ages in which a person, who was labeled vogelfrei was striped of all their rights as a person down to their right to live. They were legal to be killed free of consequences. That something as cruel as that could happen in the modern times is truly sickening
Many sex workers, and I'm not talking about the one at the top of their game and earning top dollar, though that alone does not neccessarily guarantee their safety, make the decisions/choices they do due to a lack of alternative options. Many sex workers, no matter their social status, are some of the nicest people I've ever met, even the ones with substance issue. There is and hour and a half documentary about a highway in Oregon which isnt as long as the highway of tears but has almost as many victims, the serial killer who hunted the area had a survivor and when she went to police they laughed at her and declined to press charges, he went on to kill upwards of 20 more women. On the highway of tears, if you ask the families, the number goes up to 40 or so missing. In australia we have treated Aboriginal people horrifically, they were only really classified as people after being removed for the flora and fauna protection act in 1975
I know this is an old video.. but i work in the victim witness assistance unit for the us attorney’s office in dc. If you want more information you should watch the hbo docu- series, “black and missing” Its about a woman who is trying to spread awareness of young black girls who are not getting media coverage. It’s truly inspiring but gut wrenching. We recently had a couple of the women from the project talk to the USAO. I just thought I’d share another resource. Thank you.
I'm from the Netherlands. In 1986 a little girl called Cheryl Morriën went missing. She's Indonesian. My mom knows quite a bit about true crime and can remember cases from many years ago, yet somehow she completely forgot about Cheryl. There's still a group of people looking for her, 35 years later, in the dunes were it was once presumed she's buried. It terrifies me to know that there are more cases like hers out there I don't even know about. Even true crime youtubers out there way often talk about white people than anyone else.
wait- just a random thought but I feel like a character mentioned this in YOU S4 when Natalie went missing. Either way it's definitely a syndrome that has been around for a VERY long time.
Joes latest obsession i think her name was marianne, im both glad they brought it up but im disappointed that they left it at basically a definition and turned it into a cute quirky innocent yt boy thing when joe didnt know about it
Ok but one of the only reasons i started to look into this, I loved that comment because it was so true in the show and in the real world, why is this case one of the most important in 2021? Like it really confused me why it was getting so much coverage.
Right after all the media coverage over Gabby Petitio and the fuss about them not paying as much attention to other missing women, more online posts were circulated of missing indigenous women and within about a week, 4 of them were found. That was directly due to the extra coverage. Studies or not, it has an impact.
Thanks for bringing this to attention. I remember when I was really young there was a case of this missing white girl that everyone talked about and I saw it everywhere. But then I remembered being in a Walmart bathroom and you'd see those small signs out of the way of missing kids. And they would almost all be p.o.c. and I always wondered about that. Why isn't the media covering these kids too? Another interesting thing this made me think of in most horror movies the victims are always pretty young white girls and I feel like that's contributing too.
It’s crazy too how the girl who died in Orlando after a maintenance worker got in her apartment didn’t have as much coverage than the gabby petito case which to me is horrible because that wasn’t her fault he had the keys to all apartments
I used to work in true crime and quit in part because of this exact phenomenon. True crime producers only want to cover cases with "perfect victims" and within these production companies producers will say this explicitly. I brought cases to my boss that were rejected because the victim was black, a s*x worker, poor, or (and I shit you not) "not pretty enough". The excuse they use is that the target demo for true crime content is middle to upper class white women and they find the content more compelling if the victim is someone just like them, which I think is a result of this idea that a key element of womanhood is being In Danger All The Time but that's a WHOLE other conversation. Additionally, while there are some true crime programs that are highly critical of police and the criminal justice system more broadly, the VAST majority of true crime content is just straight up police propaganda. Production companies who pump out large numbers of shows for ID or Oxygen (as well as many mainstream media outlets) are not allowed to do stories that paint police in a bad light because if true crime as a whole becomes too critical of police, police will likely stop doing interviews and providing documents for these shows. The end result is that true crime is brainwashing huge swaths of white women into believing that the world is filled with deranged r*pists and m*rderers who are out to get them specifically and the only protection they have is the police. As a final note everything I just said about true crime also applies to many white women's favorite TV show, Law & Order SVU but again, that's a WHOLE other conversation.
Thank you for sharing this. I hate how these cases are sensationalized by the media and then turned into a Lifetime movie within a year.
I like In The Dark because their whole focus is on criticising the police for their botched investigations and pursuit of innocent people. They helped get an innocent Black man off death row that way.
Sad, money rules the world at the end of the day.
Theres a great article about the shittness of true crime from Gawker titled "True Crime is rotting our brains"!
Not only producers, but A LOT of youtube true crime channels won't either! Kendall Rae is the only one I've seen to give a lot os space to family members to bring to light some cases because other wise people will ignore it!
This is really relevant with the Gabby Petito case. They've found many bodies while searching for her that are labeled "not Gabby" and it really proves that if they wanted to, they could.
Imagine being murdered and thrown into the "not Gabby" pile 💀🥲
that’s sick and sad 😢
😰😰 oh nahhh
I picked on that too nobody really seemed to care they were all focused on the gabby. I don't even think they bothered to open more cases for the other missing ppl's bodies they found
yes, the amount of bodies they found was really scary. I used to like to travel but not anymore. They really need to get cadaver dogs searching all wilderness areas regularly.
“I over-explain myself. I’m a recovering people pleaser.” … Khadija over here teaching me things about myself before the video has even technically started 🙌🏾
Yeah that sentence hit me way harder than I think it should have...😅😳🙄
Lol sameeee
i was bracing myself for this topic and that bit helped me to ease up a little ngl.
this was also a nice way to not apologize for being that way, because I’m sure she has done the same thing that I do and has said “I’m sorry for over explaining” and then people say, “you don’t need to apologize!” and I never know what to say instead, but “I’m a recovering people pleaser” is a perfect line
Me too, that really resonated with me
What adds an extra layer of sadness, for me, is that 90% of the time when a woman goes missing or is murdered, regardless of how she is racialized, her male partner or ex-partner did it. And yet the Missing White Woman Syndrome coverage always treats it as some great mystery. But it's not a mystery. It's just misogyny.
Yes I feel this is another layer to this whole syndrome. If the partner was the murderer its most likley portrayed as a "family tragedy" (aka man killed his entire family) or a "fatal love story" (aka man killed women over rejection). Femicides are still portrayed as individual tragedies and not as a political and sociological issue.
This!!!
BINGO! Also in regards to Petito. The police had the chance to stop it. There were signs of abuse and because the police force themselves is filled with abusers they just kind of treated her shaky attitude as “manic crazy lady”. They only care after the women is DEAD.
@@Laura-gd4ku exactly, unless of course we’re discussing femicide in a predominantly black/brown country, then suddenly it’s institutionalized misogyny (but subtextually coded as barbarism)
@@Jabberwocky112 over 200 indigenous women & girls have gone missing or found dead in the same exact are Gabby Petito was last seen. None of them EVER got the slightest bit of attention.
I remember seeing the video of Petito and thinking are these fuggin cops SERIOUS?! Shes clearly shaken! Shes got marks on her & shes apologizing profusely! Obvious signs of abuse.
Joy Reid received so much backlash when she mentioned the ‘white woman syndrome’ concept, especially from other media outlets. Rather than considering her
concern, they completely dimissed it as “why make everything about race?” It was really frustrating to see.
I think it's because she's the one with this major platform and she's complaining about people with major platforms not using there platform to cover poc cases. She has the platform to spread awareness to these cases but she just made a segment not only dismissing the recent case but to complain about something that she isn't doing. This is why I miss Cayleigh Elise because she covered missing persons cases and john/Jane Doe cases but it really messed with her mental health.
@@rachaelvaughan1017 omggg, I still have some of Cayleigh’s merch! I hope she’s doing better now. It’s been so long. Her content was so needed though, she covered so many missing people that I hadn’t heard of on other channels/podcasts.
@@redrumnoir7552 it really sucks that it messed with her mental health because she did help in quite a few cases. I think a show like hers is much needed although I'm sure she saw a lot of crime scene photos and autopsy pictures that probably scared her for life. It would be nice to see a show like that but I know that on CZcams they don't really like that kind of content.
That’s the goal and it worked.
because she complained about people from major platform not talking about it when IS LITERALLY THE MAJOR PLATFORM she was talking about...
"We are all either Jessica or not-Jessica" made me think of all the bodies they found when searching for Gabby Petito's remains. I've seen a lot of commentary about how a lot of people die in national parks and so of course there will be bodies found whenever a national park is searched for human remains but I'm like... that doesn't bother y'all in the slightest?!
THIS!!!! last I saw around 9 bodies were found while looking for Gabby Petito and her killer and I've seen zero mainstream news coverage of them
I thought they found them looking for Brian Laundrie's remains. Thanks for clarifyig.
@@beautifulrose8619 Well at the beginning they were looking for both until they found Gabby's remains. Now the search is for Brian Laundrie
@@alexlemaire8513 they found Brian Laundrie’s remains in Florida on Wednesday (reported Thursday)
@@Fincayra15 has it been confirmed its him? heard about it but they weren't sure yet
In 2018, in Montreal there was a 10 year old black boy missing named Ariel. Kids don't get missing here so much and usually when they do it's all you hear. Amber alerts are really taken seriously. But I remember he didn't get as much coverage as the others. I wasn't sure if they sent an amber alert for him. I went to check and they did at first but they removed it quickly saying it didn't meet the criteria. How on earth does a missing 10 year old not meet the criteria for an amber alert????!!!! He never came home, it's not normal. Eventually the police decided to put this case as not emergency. We don't hear about him or his parents but when a little white girl was missing of roughly the same age the parents got coverage on her birthday and her disappearance every year until they finally found her body.
:,( this breaks my heart
I hope that the family can have closure is possible.
I live in Montreal too and i remember this case! I'm still hoping we find little Ariel.
This is pretty disturbing and makes me feel much less motivated to visit there.
exactly. thank you! was just about to say the same thing. Additionally, every Dec 6 we stop and remember the women killed by a misogynist in 1996 but barely blink remembering the 6 Muslims killed in 2017 by a blatant racist...who shot people while they were praying in their own religious building! Why can't we remember both nightmarish things? oh that's yt.
I know the story too and I still think of Ariel. I remember the family kept wanting the cops to search certain places and the cops wanted to search where they wanted to search. Even recently with our young people being killed, the premier showed more compassion for the white kid than the black kids who were killed previously and he was called out for it. That‘s when he backtracked and said no no all cases are troubling.. the only thing better now is that we call the politicians out publicly for this behavior and force them to pretend to care, even if they don’t. We know who he is but a lot of people turn a blind eye
This video reminded me so much of “Gone Girl”, like the entire plot is a white woman exploiting missing white woman syndrome knowing very well how to create a show for the media so they can ruin her husbands life. All from pretending to be pregnant, writing a fake diary of abuse stories and knowing her history of a perfect innocent girl her mother created as a children’s book it was amazing how easy it was for her to manipulate everything to be the perfect victim you described. The twist of her being a manipulative villain while still being seen as the innocent victim was so crazy when it was exposed in the story because even when watching the first time you’re also fooled by her narrative, you too believe the white blonde woman was innocent
And the fact that how most of that movie/book is loosely based off how the media acted about the Laci/Scott Peterson case in the early 2000s . I just watched a Hulu documentary about that case and the way the media got so involved because she was young, pretty and pregnant. It’s insane
dis... dis
This comment to me very much steers into the invalidation of real pain instead of a valid critique on white women
The amount of care & circumspection that Khadija handled such a polemic but necessary topic is absolutely why mi STAN them 🙌🏾 sidenote: Khadija makes me wanna go to therapy. Thanks for making mental health cool in the Black community
Ohhh, polemic, I'm gonna have to look that word up and incorporate it into my vocab! I like playing "word of the day" lol
@@sarahg2653 I'd be remissed not to give you a Caribbean Coloquialism as well;
Bumbarass (noun, adjective):- am amalgamation of bumbaclaat & rassclaat which is essentially an expletive. 💜
@@ForeignManinaForeignLand why thank you kind sage! So "bumbarass" is comparable to calling someone an asshole? And dear god, I love the word "amalgamation"; sir, you are stealing my heart with your wicked vocabulary!
@@sarahg2653 knowing words that obfuscate rather than elucidate is probably my greatest skill. You're right! I typically shout bumbarass when I stub my toe or refer to Ben Shapiro as one when he (unfortunately) gets recommended to me.
@@ForeignManinaForeignLand Lmao! Yes, Mr. Shapiro can definitely be a bumbarass! I often shout "Shapiro!" when I stub my own toe...;)
There was also this sad trend of a lot of Native American women going missing yet no one bats an eye at them. People need to listen to both sides and stop dismissing this
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One such case is actually a "high profile" woman, Miss Misty Upham an up and coming actress seen in "August Osage county" and even SHE of all Native women couldn't get even a Blip on mainstream media. Its insane.
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Yes we had 7,512 cases in one year alone! And there are more cases everyday. An indigenous woman just went missing in my town the other day!
The “Not Jessica’s body” thing has always bothered me! Even in True Crime! “They found a body but unfortunately it was not them” WHO WAS IT?!?!
Not Jessica
Trigger warning for RP in my comment:
I took this class called politics of rape and we were studying human trafficking and there are reports of many MANY girls of color not being able to get into safe homes for helps because they are not seen as innocent even at the age of 13. The crazy thing is that many girls of color who are VERY YOUNG who go through courts to actually get help for sex trafficking become people of the state and instead enter juvenile hall which in return makes them harder to find work and enters them into the prison complex. It's fucking crazy. If your interested we had to read one book called "Redefining Rape" by Estelle Freedman. It's very hard to read but also important and really brings nuances to this conversation.
This is so true. This reminds me of a video that Khadeja did a few months ago, black girls are forced into an oversexualised adulthood at young ages. Instead of being afforded an innocent childhood like many white girls are they're forced to carry this "Jezebel" persona unwillingly when they are children. So when a black girl goes missing the first thing to is to dismiss concern because she's "grown" and knows what she's doing. It's truly sickening.
is america commonly referred to as a first world country cause at the start of the pandemic we did joke around about america being half of a third world country but what the shit is actually going on over there
@@Crosshill Do you mind telling me if you're from an anglosphere country or France? cuz I'm pretty that's a problem in all these countries. (Nordic countries take away minority children from parents in an insane way but that's another conversation) Also, societal issues don't only exist in poor countries...
@@a.a.6789 bruh lets scale the discussion a bit cause im tryna figure out if america aint a lil excessive or summin, and bringing up something like the attempted cultural genocide of greenlanders in ye olde scandinavian country of denmark doesnt actually have anything to do with this if you'd just bear with me and be more generous with your assumptions
@@Crosshill I'm sorry I didn't mean to offend you or anything, I just assumed you were from a first world country from your comment and meant that this particular problem is widespread in the majority of the first world and didn't want you to minimize that like some British people do when discussing racism/police brutality, the US isn't uniquely bas just the loudest country cuz it's basically a continent, and I didn't actually mean Greenlanders or single out Denmark, but all Scandanavian countries and in the context of Syrian children though I read about it from before about children from immigrant backgrounds and even cps liberaly taking children from a white american couple for ridiculous reasons and pretty sure the natives have a problem with that too. (Taking children "for their own sake" like what happened/happens to native populations in new world countries)
This topic always makes me think of Twin Peaks. Laura Palmer was viewed as the perfect victim- white, thin, pretty, middle class, a student and volunteer, etc. But then it was revealed that she had her struggles, that she wasn't the person the papers remembered her as. She was a sex worker, abuse survivor, and had a history of substance use. Even though she's, obviously, still super white, I feel like the show did a good job of talking about how we talk about victims we view as "worthy" of our care versus those who are too "flawed" for our full sympathy, and how certain types of victims are almost flattened into this fake, sanitized cardboard cutout of an idealized version of who they truly are, while others are nitpicked into being blamed or their tragedies being more "justified" in the eyes of the public.
omg i love twin peaks and Laura is my favorite character in the show
Most of the victims have troubled lives honestly. I have a sister it seems she's on a mission to put herself in danger for the last 3 years. She's been doing so much stuff I am just glad she's still alive but wish she would just chill I mean dam it's ridiculous.
twin peaks and fire walk with me are simply amazing beautiful
@@ichoosemysanity6467 is your sister doing ok?
Pretty horrified that the acronym "NHI" exists and is used in real life applications. That's fucking sick.
i mean the united states military dropped two bombs on living humans, so unsurprised. Only difference is they used "war" as an excuse rather than "NHI." Might as well have though.
Just started watching Succession and, no surprise, the characters in the show about the dysfunctional family members of the ruling class use a version of it,called NRPI = No Real People Involved.
@@Chvseem Fair enough my friend. Dropping the A and H bombs on Japan certainly involved the NHI sentiment, even if the govt would never admit to as much
What does that mean? Sorry if this is a stupid comment, I just haven’t watched the video yet.
@@queenofcute72 No humans involved.
I think part of the reason the "perfect victim" drives so much engagement is not just the tragedy of a supposedly "innocent" life lost but the fear. The fear that even with inherent privilege and "making good choices," you still won't be safe. I suspect it's why some people are driven to poke holes in that illusion and victim blame. If you find out what that person did "wrong," you can comfort yourself with the thought that there's a "right" way to act to stay safe.
So true.
This is spot on
When people talk about police brutality they only mention what black men experience when black women go through just as much if not more. The media never covers the abuse and violence we face, to the point where I thought it was only black men who endured police brutality when it is far from being the case. I'm sick of people valuing white people's lives over ours. But I'm even more disgusted by the fact that the black community does the exact same thing and values black men's lives over ours. Although black women are abused mentally and physically, killed, sexually harassed and kidnapped at a way higher rate than other races of women mostly at the hands of black men, the media never covers any of it. Because surely, it doesn't fit their agenda of the "oppressed black man". The only time we're seen and "celebrated" is when we are "fighting for the cause". I'm sick of this bullshit, this is disgusting.
finally someone said it the black community does not advocate for black girls because if they did they would have to actually hold "black kings" accountable and that wouldn't fit their "black men are oppressed narrative" because although black men are oppressed they are still men and they still hold a mass amount of power and control over black women
lol , black people must fight together against all persecution to improve their situation in the society, and not be divided by this kind of details . what you are doing is counterproductive for black women themselves. and wether you like it or not if shit hit the fan other racial group are not going to help you, but, if you want to isolate yourself and destroy your community go for it !
@@manayakakanataka5256 These are not "details", but these are people's lives. The fact that you start your comment with "lol" at the mention of the abuse black women go through tells me everything I need to know about the way you feel about us. And you do not have our best interest at heart, so stop pretending.
You are not providing a solution, but asking of us to patiently and submissively wait for the abuse to stop. You definitely wouldn't want that for yourself, but we shouldn't say anything about it? I call bullshit. Sure, other groups are not going to help us, but black men are not going to either, better advance on our own than sink together.
I'm not "doing" anything, I'm stating facts and how I and a lot of black women feel. And I can't divide something that is already divided. Our community is already toxic and in ruin, what is there left to "destroy"? Just say that you don't want black women to speak up about what is happening inside the community because it makes black men look bad and go.
it's heartwrenching. when black women are on the news, it's always morbid and it makes me scared as a young black girl. if i went missing, would anyone even notice? i hate to think of it. in africa, you hear so many cases of whole classes of girls getting kidnapped from school, the high domestic abuse rates and obviously it's the same over in the western world. the world is a dangerous, dangerous place for black women and girls ;-;
Can you give the stats that they experience it more? 800 different identity groups crying for attention, instead of focusing on the effects lets focus on the cause. If we fight for police reform it would impact everyone but people focus on micro identities.
As a teen/young adult, my friends would joke about who got to go with me when we all separated because as the only white person in the group (and being a prodomently POC community), they said the news truck/detectives would only come if something happened to me. It got less and less funny as we got older and I was blatantly treated differently when the only thing different was my skin color. Eventually, I realized I was the only one who ever really thought it was a joke.
Thank you for sharing🧡
Yeah.
That thing that being the victim makes you 'the good guy'
Is just a blatant lie.
Yeah, but they want to tell us in school we're discriminative
i feel you on this, i remember thinking pretty young that i would be "okay" if something happened. i think some adult joked about if i was kidnapped because i was a little white girl people would want to find me (and the inherent implications flew over my head because i was a child). then after learning more about the world and the experiences of poc and visible minorities that was not a joke anymore... honestly kind of disgusting tho to joke about kidnapping a child to their face and then switch around to "nah but youll be fine, theyll look for you"
One thng that's really been making me think has been people saying "we should treat every missing person the way we treated Gabby." But is that true? I feel like the media was obsessed with her to the point she was commodified for entertainment instead of treated like an actual person. It needs to pay more attention to marginalized missing people, but also treat them as humans, which they did not do for Gabby. I have thoughts in general about news coverage of crimes outside of the areas that can actually help/impact it and that contributing to society treating crime as drama and entertainment.
Yes, agree with you, humanisation should be the goal, not to overvalue/idealize or devalue anyone.
The amount of barely veiled glee and excitement that I saw in the faces and heard in the voices of various reporters covering her case was scary.
Of course she was commodified and she already had a modest social media following so she had a starting audience. Her story circulated the internet that’s why the MSM picked it up plus along with her class status and racialized status contributed. It’s not all as simple as white = cared about. It’s absolutely a factor but it’s not a sole reason.
@@enooeeelelee_ let alone the various people on tiktok talking about the case like it was a fun interactive murder mystery dinner party
You should expand on the epidemic of Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women. That should be a whole video in itself. As an Indigenous woman, I was hoping that the MMIW topic would be brought up more than just the statistics section. We have been invisible to the world for so long and now we are just seen as statistic numbers. Great video, thank you for sharing.
I support you
That would be amazing! Im grateful she included us Natives but yes more & more representation would be great! It could be just a "tin hat" conspiracy but I personally think there's been a hit out on Native women so its easier to wipe us out! Our land is still full of vital resources that would garner someone ALOT of money! With the Indigenous population gone it'd be so much easier to take over the country and where does that start? Our women!
@@dat1ndnguy it's not a tin hat, that's definitely a reality. There's actually an essay written by a native woman called "Violable" that's exactly about that, and violence against indigenous women being a big part of American culture.
@@dat1ndnguy it is very very far from a tin hat conspiracy. The US government has been perpetrating the murder of Natives since the start. Just because they aren’t actively doing that anymore, doesn’t mean that the effects aren’t prevalent in our society. Their mess was never cleaned up.
I’d love to see a video about that too.
Not a journalist, but I do work in public media so just wanted to give a little shoutout to independent journalism which is free to all and does not rely on corporate dollars. The investigative journalism series Frontline from PBS recently did in-depth reporting about civil rights era cold cases, bringing attention to BIPOC lives lost/ignored by the media for decades (it’s called Un(re)solved.) Public media definitely isn’t perfect in terms of representation, but I think it has a really important role in the discussion.
"I'm a recovering people pleaser"
I felt that.
There’s a history of elderly asian people who are attacked or even killed in San Francisco, but it’s only recently been getting more media attraction. Definitely feel the importance of intersectionality with the privilege of media attention
I feel like there's something to be said about this and about how a lot of asians are targeted by black people mainly black men, which shocked me since I kind of assumed they'd know what being a targeted minority is like thus wouldn't harm other minorities but oh well. :/
@@dont_harsh_my_mellow It's very despicable. I think what happened was that the ex-president kept putting blame on China and at the same time, the media kept reporting that Black people were most impacted by the virus (losing jobs and dying at a higher rate). So some idiots were looking for someone to blame for their grief. Very horrible.
I’m aware of both of those things in the last 18 months but the first commenter said it’s been a long time Asian seniors have been murdered or missing. Was it always black men or is that something else? Very curious as I had not heard about this until recently
@@katialavalle5696 theres unspoken tension between African-American and Koreans and Chinese. The media doesn’t report on it.
Did you just assume that any attack on people from the Eastern Hemisphere were perpetrated by racialized white people? If so, that means the media has had an effect on your way of perception. Most of the explicit attacks were mostly done by racialized Black men but their “race” wasn’t mentioned. However the racialized white man who shot up the massage parlor that killed 8 people, despite that 2 were not racialized Asian women and barely got coverage, was spun into an explicit attack of racism.
Always read multiple sources, read the details and don’t listen to JUST MSM as giving you an unbiased truth. Everyone has an agenda.
@@katialavalle5696 I want to point out that the majority of these cases involve low-income asian elders being attacked by others living in the same under resourced neighborhoods. Many of the attackers were people who had untreated mental health issues. Whenever we talk about these attacks, I think it's important to emphasize how systems of oppression (like unemployment, lack of healthcare, disproportionate harm during a pandemic) and how ideas of colonialism (e.g., xenophobia, dehumanization) interact in ways that lead to continued violence. I also want to caution against pointing to a particular racialized group as "perpetrators". These events often occur in underresourced and marginalized neighborhoods where Asian people live alongside other minoritzed groups, so it's not unexpected that we'd see the attacks occurring between minoritized groups.
Please what this video in its entirety before making assumptions about what I'm going to say based off the title. 💕
EDIT: There IS a breakdown of sex/race in the FBI data base, finding certain stats was a bit tricky for Priscilla and Antonia when it came to other countries is what I should've said! Check it out here : www.fbi.gov/file-repository/2020-ncic-missing-person-and-unidentified-person-statistics.pdf/view
Thank you for always facilitating such thoughtful discussions over some of the worst situations in the zeitgeist. I wish more people made time (and room) for as much nuance as you do.
*watch 🤪
Please stop using latinx. As Latino we actually do not like being called letting x. I'm not sure who got this dumb idea that Latino people get offended by being called Latino when we've identified as Latino since forever, and anything we get more offended when people call us latinx.
And so far a lot of my Latino fellow brethren and sisters have been speaking out about that and nobody cares or listens. So I'm just going to assume you didn't know this and I'm letting you know now. We do not want to be called latinx, for the love of God please stop using it. So why people won't listen, I hope you and others will. Stop using latinx, we do not like latinx. And since when did we ever get offended by just being called latin? Personally for me the word doesn't bother me too much, I'm more offended by people who are being offended for me.
But at this point I am genuinely annoyed by the word Latin x because my people have said it a thousand times over we do not want to be called latinx but nobody listens to us and they keep calling us latinx when we've said a thousand times we do not want to be called latinx. Please for the love of God please listen to us and understand we don't want that do not follow through what the sjws are saying. We do not want to be called what an x, we do not like the term latinx, people are more offended by the term latinx if anything and are already annoyed by it and people not listening to us. Please stop using latinx!
Thank you for covering this topic. It feels like a lot of people hear the term and know about two facts and jump from there.
@@HK47_115 I am a Latina woman and you don’t speak for all of us. Latinx is a way to include everyone, only ignorant people have a problem with this.
This is such a harsh topic, but you managed it with a lot of sensitivity and care. Nobody that is missing deserves to be seen as non-human or guilty for their disappearance. 🖤
I agree with you Sara. No wonder this video took Khadija a lot of time to film and mentally discuss this deep topic.
It really bothers me how much true crimers focus on idolising the victim, who always seems to be the "blond, happy girl who had lots of friends and could light up the room when they walk in". They focus on the victims personalities and their appearance so much.
I'm glad you included non-US stats because often American creators often act like they are the only country in the world. Also, more insidiously, when only American statistics and perspectives on these issues are circulated, it allows other countries (like the UK) to pretend racism does not exist because "we're not as bad as America".
(Also you look fire in this video :D)
I mean she is Canadian
Khadija's insistance on a global perspective is honestly one of the reasons I follow her.
I understand what you're saying and I hope you don't perceive my comment as disregarding of your own, but it's about context in my opinion.
definitely, as an australian the way the country collectively ignores its horrible racism towards the first nations people despite them being one of the most highly incarcerated people in the world is sickening! and it’s exactly this we love to point the finger at the us when it’s just as bad here. how can we even begin yo address a problem if as a nation we can’t admit it to ourselves?
In Brazil we talk bad about USA like our country isn't even worse than USA.
Your video essays are a great example of how to decolonize academia. You put so much research into these topics and deliver them in such a way that makes it accessible to a much more diverse audience which works to break down the exclusive barriers that traditional academia accumulated over hundreds of years. Thank you and keep up the good work!
thank you very much
You mentioned a serial killer who would specifically target "not Jessica's," because he knew he could get away with it. To add to that, there are so many more cases in which this has happened too. The fact that people can and do knowingly exploit the media's bias is proof of the bias in and of itself.
Just last week, two white male coworkers were talking about the Gabby case. One of them tried to explain that the story got a lot of coverage because she was a conventionally attractive young white woman, but the other dude straight up denied it. He said “If I went missing, nobody would care.” My Black ass stayed quiet of course, but it was sad and also interesting seeing how a white man processed that whole situation. Like…it was just a strange story to him…
Don't you just love when the media complains about Missing White Woman Syndrome when you know there the one who have the power to change it.
That part!❤️
This is everything 🔥💯
READ WE NEED THIS TOWARDS THE TOP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ifeel that, not that any one race is more important, but all that I’m asking is for everyone’s case to be treated equally. Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women had 7, 512 cases in one year alone! Only 116 of those cases have really been looked at by courts! With more than half of native women having been assaulted in their life, you would expect more representation! Yet, no! You must look at ALL the cases adequately! As a young indigenous person, I am scared for what my future may hold. We must bring awareness to this huge issue!
I watched an american movie where the police was not allowed to work into the indigenous communities , and that those communities had their own police force and laws… Is that representative of the true or not , just for the movie ?
yes yes yes
algorithm +++
@@physiobr9227 That's what I read too but maybe it depends on the reservation?
@@physiobr9227 As far as I know, yes. Laws set up by the American and Canadian governments make it extremely difficult for many indigenous people to get help with a case. While most federally recognized tribes have a police system as well as court, they are usually don’t have the power to arrest or even search non indigenous people. As 2 out of 3 MMIW cases are caused by a white, person, this is a huge issue. With those laws, if a tribe wants help, the FBI are the only ones who can help. Do you think the FBI will really even consider coming to a reservation to help? No! Please continue to ask as many follow up questions, but I might not always have an answer as MMIW gets tried to covered up and I am only 13. But I will try!
This reminds me a lot of the difference in pictures that the media chooses to show for perpetrators of crime/violence. Typically, racialized white people are shown smiling, with their families, and/or having fun while racialized Black people are often represented by their mug shot, or of them with a weapon or weed memorabilia, etc.
This tendency and missing white women syndrome both tell us who we are supposed to empathize with, protect, and support. As well as who we're supposed to villainize and/or ignore.
This!
this reminds me of the chris watts case, where he was showed in a bunch of new articles with his family (he murdered them).
Omg I have never thought about this but you are so right
This is not talked about enough
I trust in your ability to handle this topic delicately and with precision.
"No Humans Involved" is literal dehumanization. They couldn't have made it any less subtle.
This video was educational and infuriating. The fact that the NHI acronym even exists is horrifying. I'd love you to cover "Atlanta's Missing and Murdered: The Lost Children" at some point.
I remember watching that documentary. Broke my heart
That was the KKK's doing. The feds pretty much figured it out and quietly arrested the members responsible. That's not official but outspoken law enforcement and feds involved with the case. Basically came to this conclusion. They all lost their jobs and were pushed away when they looked into the KKK. Basically the feds didn't want to start a race war or riot smh. They framed a young black boy in the area. But never had any real hard proof. He's still in jail now.
@@THIZZAVELI That is too simple. The young black male who wasarrested probably did have sth to do with the murders, just not all of them. But that's a complicated case. The show Mindhunter dealth with it.
I remember that when I was going to school in California, there were literally posters of missing children, posted on our cafeteria walls; and I always wondered, “Why isn’t the National News reporting on these cases?” I didn’t know, back then, that it was because the majority of these children weren’t white, but were Black and Latino.
Thanks for educating me Khadija! As a white woman from Europe, the whole No Humans Involved blew my mind in the worst way, so thanks for teaching me!
Yes its insane! Its straight up fascistic mindset.
It is but we dehumanize each other when we racialize each other. A white European is redundant. But one is true. That you are from Europe and of a regional European ancestry. You’re not actually “white” which fragments your humanity in the same way. It’s just that racialized white people get to be more “human” than their darker counterparts.
When Khadija mentioned victimhood, the first thing that came to mind was the black victims of police brutality. "He might have had fake bills" "She was driving a bit badly" "These people deserved this somehow". Not to mention the difference in the types of photos the media uses to depict white and non-white individuals.
Also I'm Western Australian and that statistic was completely new to me. It's truly upsetting but I'm glad Khadija brought it to our attention.
I love and appreciate your channel so much. I used to be really "woke" (for lack of a better term) in college. Now that I've been in the workforce for a few years, I feel like being around older people with toxic mindsets has started to effect my worldview negatively. You keep me grounded and you have a talent for communicating these issues. THANK YOU!
After I was briefly missing (stupid mistake) I thanked my mom for sharing a very flattering picture of me on social media and she said "thanks I learned it in school" (she studied PR and communications)
whaaaaaaat.
Being autistic makes this issue so personal for me. When an autistic person goes missing or is murdered, the response most often is, "Who cares, apart from the parents? What's the impact on society when an autistic person goes missing? None." We're not just disposable, we're burdens that NEED to be disposed of. It's not seen as a problem, but as a solution. Even though I'm female, white, cisgender, and middle class, I know I will always be "not Jessica's body". I can't even begin to explain how it feels like to be seen as disposable throughout your entire life.
i hope you know that even if society makes you feel dispensable, you’re not. this may sound cliche and cheesy, but you truly matter. please be kind to yourself, you deserve it. this is coming from a fellow neurodivergent person with ocd and bpd, who’s also learning how to be kind to themself. hope you have a nice day!
@@catarina4613 Thank you! I absolutely value myself, it's only a sad fact that me simply staying alive and going about my day is already an act of resistance against a society that thinks it's better off without me. They have no idea what they're missing! 😅
As an autistic person myself, I wanted to add to this, as I feel it can actually sometimes go the other way (depending on "functioning levels" etc). If the victim conforms to the young slim rich white girl victim ideal, autism can often be used as yet another infantalising factor suggesting that this were somehow even more tragic because of the helpless innocence of the victim. However, much like women in general, this doesn't actually extend to real life, as we are seen as no more than 2d tragic victims needing to be saved -- because as soon as we actually start exhibiting autistic traits or even just showing ourselves as people as opposed to ideas, we are immediately demonised because we no longer provide any benefit to the "sympathiser", and instead they must "deal" with the inconvenient and potentially painful realities of our condition. In essence, we are only allowed humanity, when it is taken away from us in death - we are disposable, until we are disposed of, and then we are a tragedy.
I know a survivor of kidnapping, they are an indigenous two-spirit person. They have mentioned that the only person who was really looking for them at the time was their future spouse. They didn't receive any news coverage or much attention from people in their own life. It is heartbreaking to think of what could have happened to them.
10:30, should mention how the Japanese treated basically the rest of East Asia. In interviews with former imperial japanese troops, they mentioned they felt bad killing Chinese troops or civilians, but would be pressured and praised to do so. But once they started telling the logic that the Chinese weren't human or just sub-human, it made committing the atrocities easier.
Stop telling her she SHOULD HAVE done this or that. She took the time to do THIS. Why don't YOU do SOMETHING
@@ig3815 they were simply giving more information
Yeah..that happens to a lot of races/ethnicities. It’s happening to the ugyhur Muslims in China right now. One of the steps of genocide: dehumanization.
@@rotisserie8444 that's exactly what happened to Jewish people in Europe during and before ww2 too
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The use of NHI reminded me of this experience in Brazil among black poor men, especially the ones raised in favelas, where they mention the importance of carrying their IDs hen going anywhere, especially their *worker ID*, in case they are stopped by cops for looking suspicious. If they don't, they risk looking like a vagrant, which is technically a crime, or like a suspicious element that might be on his way to commit a crime, which is worryingly vague. In cases of police brutality, the victim's family and orgs against police brutality might highlight the fact he was a worker and known as hardworking, as kind of a way of proving he wasn't the dangerous probably criminal the police report and mainstream media are painting him as to justify his murder.
I'm lost for words
I will never forget the 2014 story of the bodies of two Black women found naked, hog tied on the North side of Jacksonville, FL. Their story was in the local news for a day or two and hasn’t circulated in the news since 2014. Reddit users are the only ones keeping Angelia Magnum and Tjhisia Ball’s names in circulation 😔
(NHI - No Humans Involved) What an absolutely heartbreaking reality this is. The LAPD slogan is “To Protect and to Serve” to whom it appears to be “selective” of whom these officers choose to protect & serve, just so institutionally racist, sad and frightening.
The more you look at American police the more you will want to just burn that shit down to cinders
I think there is some confusion over Latino/a. It is a meta-ethnicity, not a race. Cameron Diaz is Latina. She is Cuban… Her race is white. Not every Latin American is mestize. There are over 200 million white people in Latin America. Thalia, Gloria Estefan, Paulina Rubio, Ana de Armas are all latinas of European lineage. They are all white women. Shakira is a Colombian of Italian and Lebanese descent. Supermodel Gisele is a Brazilian of German descent. The idea that every person in Latin America is mixed is a weird mis conception. Recently Argentinian actress Ana Taylor Joy was referred to as a woman of color, despite over 80 percent of Argentines being white. And, of course, Anya Taylor Joy, is a white Latina.
i will say this depends totally on how people see you tho. ana de armas may have European lineage but a white woman from the us is probably not going to see her as a white woman. she's going to see her as other. bc the culture the food the traditions are different that's all that's needed. my dad is Italian and dutch, my mom is colombian, a mix of Spaniard and indigenous. I look very white. I have light eyes and light skin and I identify both as a white woman and a latina. Pollo Crudo my family calls me, which is literally uncooked chicken bc that's my skin color. when Trump was running for the presidency we went to a town that has a history of racism just bc we were passing thru and needed some supplies, I went to the Walgreens next door bought some medicine my mom was at the dollar store. I go to the dollar store to meet her my mom is at the cash wrap. so I don't walk in more than 3 feet. I start talking to my mom in Spanish. the check-out girl is white with brown hair and brown eyes. the girl immediately starts looking at me and asks me where I got the medicine that was now in my hand, even tho the Walgreens bag is hanging from my arm. she's only asking me this bc they sell the same medicine at the dollar store. never mind that she just saw me enter that I never fully walked into the store. you could technically make the argument that I look whiter than her based on my blue-green eyes. but bc I spoke Spanish I instantly became other and therefore the probability that I magically shoplifted was a possibility. and I've had this experience in a few ways with white women who arent hispanic. I'm not white to them. they got way too comfortable making Mexican jokes or other Hispanic jokes even tho they were not friends or close to me. they didn't treat me the same as other white women at the work place and they were hyper vigilant to make sure I never had more than them in praise or anything they deemed as special treatment. They would tell you I looked like a white girl, and they never asked me what my ethnicity was my family make up nothing. but I was still other, still latina or Hispanic. so I totally get what you're saying, there are definitely people who don't know the history of latin America but there are also a lot of people that don;t care and are all too happy to say nope that's other.
@@alwayslookingup70 uh do people not realize there’s Spain that’s a white ass European country where Spanish originated from???
@@rotisserie8444 In America, there's a bigger population of Latin American people than people from Spain, so I'm assuming most Americans usually associate the Spanish language with Latin American countries than they do with Spain.
@@rotisserie8444 but there are way more latinos than spanish tho
It's funny because, from what I know, argentinians doesn't like it when they compare them to white or "gringo" even though they are aware that they get a much different treatment with their race than with brown or black latinos.
Recently here in CA two small boys of color went missing . As I’ve been following the case I was surprised and saddened how little coverage and media attention they received. I check in every week to see if any updates or any news on them has been reported but nothing . How does a case like Gabbys spread like wildfire but not two small children ? I’m scared they will just be forgotten and the case will go cold . I think about them all the time ... they are Orin and Orson only 4 and 3 years old . I pray for them & that their case gets the attention and coverage as well as urgency that they deserve 😔
When I was watching S3 of 'You' and they mentioned Missing White Woman Syndrome, I instantly caught myself hoping Khadija would make a vid on the topic and I was not disappointed!!
I saw that episode and was like '👀' since I'm a few weeks ahead of my recording schedule
Same
Same
May 3, 2002. 7 year old Alexis Patterson disappeared in Milwaukee.
There was a decent amount of local coverage at the time, and on the 10th anniversary, and last January when her stepfather (the last person known to see her) died.
But I haven't seen shit nationally.
I know kids go missing. Too many for everyone to know about. But even "true crime buffs," if you ask them about Alexis, you'll likely get a blank look.
She was a darling little girl. You Google her, the first picture that comes up, you'll instantly smile - won't be able to stop yourself, she's that adorable and charming in the pic - until you remember why her picture is there.
She was a Black girl, whose dad was incarcerated, stepfather had a record... and there was no quick and easy answer as to what happened - and ultimately, it looks like the media just didn't care. Since leaving town, I haven't heard anything about her unless I sought it out.
Like you say, it's not that Gabby, Natalee, and JonBenét don't deserve attention... but dammit, so does Alexis, and countless little girls, boys, men, women, NB folks who don't fit the "ideal" narrative.
Thanks for everything you do.
The only thing that bothered me was how everyone was doing everything they could to help find Gabby such as gofundme's, search parties etc. while many indigenous women go missing almost every day and no one bothers to bat an eye. I'm not trying to invalidate Gabby Petito's case or her family's feelings but I just wanted to point it out. Not only do we get pushed under the rug as well as the struggles we face inside the reservations alone but countless amount of women going missing from ever since and only now we are getting some sort of recognition from the media .
i’m an indigenous australian woman, and i was so shocked to see our own missing indigenous persons rates mentioned in this video. education around indigenous lives today in relation to the legal system, living conditions, injustices, basically everything, is so limited and many non-indigenous australians know next to nothing about aboriginal lives and culture, leading to things such as our sacred sites being destroyed, and people celebrating the day of invasion and genocide every year (australia day). thank you for mentioning us, and please i urge everyone to learn about indigenous australian culture as it is beautiful and deserves to be celebrated
Another related thing that is interesting as well. With movies like “Taken,” there is this assumption that most of the women that are victims of sex trafficking are white women when the reality is that the majority are still black and brown people. It makes me wonder how much this fallacy plays a part in the laws that criminalize sex work “in attempts to crack down on trafficking.” Would these laws have the same impact if people associated more melanated faces with victims of sex trafficking or just trafficking of humans in general?
Every bit of this is the truth!!!!
That's a good point, but I had the impression that eastern European women were the most likely victims of trafficking in Europe?? But maybe that's changed or I imagined reading that or something?? The way they're portrayed and treated in western Europe is abhorent too...
@@iamthethebeginningiamtheen9555 A white couple adopting a black child is a highly stigmatized thing. Same for black couples adopting white children. There is backlash from both the black and white communities. As for adopting from Asian countries, you have to realize at the time when it was most popular, there was a ton of documentaries showing how rough kids had it in those gov run orphanages.
@@a.a.6789 Yes and no because it really depends on where you're talking about. When you're talking about just the US it's more likely to be black women trafficked in unpaid sex work. But in all of Europe, it's more likely that trafficked women are eastern European, primarily because buyers of 'mail order brides' are more often looking for someone with the same skin tone.
@@leanna3625 Yes I meant specifically in Europe because op talked about "taken" which I'm pretty sure took place in France and ik the kidnapping of Slavic women by gangs is a major issue for eastern European communities. (Like the brittany and miloc situation in shanes doc) edit: also don't mean mail order brides which is also gross just regular traficking into brothels.
No way.....I have been contemplating about asking if you would consider covering this phenomenon ever since the sudden " outbreak" from that one particular case.
That one particular case was all over the news because there was police body camera footage of them shortly before she went missing, there were multiple states involved which makes the federal government involved, they had hours of youtube videos about them being on the van trip (the van in the police video), and they knew the general location where she probably disappeared and they were getting updates about her missing boyfriend. Not because she was a white woman.
@@Cynnas oh really....The last time I checked no one knew of Gabby like that prior to her going missing. She had just started youtube and had approximately 1000 or so subscribers. There have been black female youtubers with 100, 000+ subscribers who suffered similar demise ( in some cases were dismembered and trafficked in the back of cars across state lines). A sad and unfortunate example is Briana J. The only coverage they got is from youtubers like Leah Gordone. I believe we spent millions of dollars searching for Brian right? One of the black youtubers who were covered by Leah was only found after a suspicious smell from a normal traffic stop. Do you know of Briana J. Laura S? Exactly. I know of Gabby , a person with 1000 subs, a person who no one but her family, friends, acquaintances and 1000 subscribers knew of prior to her becoming the poster missing person of thousands and thousands who have gone missing. Briana J had well over 200, 000 + subscribers.
@@davidcherilus9112 true my brother!
Oh I thought you guys meant Sarah Everard but I guess that was a while ago
Admittedly, I struggle talking about this topic, because so many people portray it as: "White women get instant justice, everyone cares MOST about them, and they never truly suffer." Whether that's their intention or not, I don't know. But that's how it can come across. And I get it: The lack of justice inflames people because it is WRONG not to pay attention to the missing and murdered WOC. Plus those who are trafficked and abused.
But the reason it can be hard for me to hear is: I was a white little girl sexually abused and trafficked my by own father from toddler age. And he got away with it. Not in spite of his whiteness, but BECAUSE of it. I reported. I tried to tell. But everyone saw white, middle class parents and told me, "At least you have parents who care." Yes, they did. On the outside. I had no hope of justice. So when this topic comes up, I hear those sneering social workers not believing me again: "You're white, you're privileged, what do YOU have to be upset about?"
I don't want to make this about me. This isn't about me. I just wanted to give a little background as to why I appreciate your (Khadija's) careful portrayal of this, not as some absolute truth, but as a social construct that we CAN bring down. That gives me hope, and usually this topic doesn't give me much hope. You did some really good work here. Very important, healing work. I can't explain how truly I appreciate it.
I'm very sorry to read this and I hope that you are in a better situation now
@@RavenHues I am, thank you! My father died almost a decade ago and I have not been in contact with my family since. I live on my own and I have found people who actually love me.
@@veevee306 so happy to hear that you are doing well, you voiced your thoughts really well. Thank you!
That is 100% valid. As an indigenous woman I acknowledge that there is a bias with who the media reports but I don't go around blaming white women for being victims of violence. Just a few days ago I saw someone mocking Gabby Petito when this topic was brought up. Very unnecessary. I get the outrage, I'm mad too but talking about a dead woman like that is disrespectful. I think too many people are forgetting that things like femicide and violence against women don't have a single race. That's not me saying MMIW and Black femicide don't exist. Those are racialized femicide and there are many cases that aren't reported because of it. I'm just saying that people who blame this problem solely on white women and not on society who chooses to ignore violence against WOC should reflect. Misogyny and racism is to blame.
@@marixcx So true. You said it better than I ever could.
Matt Baum talked about how theatrics was used improve public opinion on same sex marriage, when more personal stories about same sex couples was in the media (showing LGBT people and their family) instead of just talking about abstract rights in marriage rights commercials (The specific video: Why Opinion Changed So Fast on Gay Marriage). That's why slogan like "Say their names" is so important. The public needs to see the faces of the victims and their families to sympathize with them.
It’s really interesting that opinion/bias can be changed without a direct personal connection. Personally getting to know someone holds the most weight, but obviously that doesn’t organically happen that much, is difficult to set up, and can just further bias.
Say their name was based off say her name (which was a slogan created by black women to talk abt black female victims of police brutality) don't steal that slogan to talk abt nonblack ppl (and esp white gays)
I think the ad dollars are a huge piece of all of this. Most "news" outlets aren't even vaguely interested in disseminating information for the betterment of human kind. It is almost always about what will get the most clicks, views, shares and ultimately money.
You stated this succinctly. That is exactly how stories are chosen. Who will be interested? What will make most money? The condo collapse was an example to me. Many wealthy white people involved. I wonder would a building in the projects collapsing have had as much coverage?
As a Canadian, I'm really happy that you included the statistics about the Highway of Tears in BC. The murdered and missing indigenous women and girls epidemic in Canada is horrifying and receives such mediocre media coverage. Another symbol of the MMIWG movement is the empty red dress which activists have used to symbolize the missing woman's presence. Canada wide, I believe the number is at least over 5500, but this was something I read a few years ago so it's likely higher. So thank you for highlighting that, as very few people often consider what is happening to indigenous women and girls here.
It's also why I've felt the media coverage of the missing woman (Gabrielle?) is a bit inappropriate. Partly because it makes such a circus out of a tragedy, but also because that exact story happens to countless indigenous women every year and the only time I hear anything about it is when I see an indigenous person share something on social media. It's like seeing 10 Jessica's go missing a month, but they're "not Jessica". It's awful.
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I never heard of NHI before and I don't know if it's more terrifying that it exists or that I'm not shocked it does 😥
Thanks fo mentioning the First nations people of Australia. I really hope the world starts seeing how bad it is over here. What happened to George Floyd was heart breaking for the whole world, in 2015 David Dungay Jr, an Indigenous man was taken into custody and died (was murdered by police) of asphyxiation, his last word were "I can't breathe, please, I can't breathe." It's all on footage and there is still no justice. I find it hard that people in this country often care more about things that happen in America than the same things happening to our own people. I hope soon we start getting the word out, and people from other countries see. Sadly I know if more people from places like America start calling out the disgrace of what is happening here, maybe more will be done to protect and find justice for our people. Sad truth.
The stars are aligning because I'm currently watching S3 of You on Netflix. This is particularly interesting considering that being a part of the show too
The first couple of episodes of this season were hard for me to get through, because they were emphasizing his total lack of self-awareness SO HARD (you know, having him go on about how Love is dangerous, particularly after a setup that seems like he’s going to say he’s dangerous) and I found it really frustrating, like yell-at-the-screen frustrating.
And then I saw a completely sincere tweet from someone about how Joe was no longer a good person who does bad things but just a bad person (or some shit like that) and realized holy shit, the reason they’re beating us over the head with that is because a huge portion of their viewership actually needs it to be spelled out for them that he’s a bad person despite his belief in his goodness 🤦♀️
I literally just finished binging a Hulu show about a true show podcast (Only Murders in the Building) so weird coincidence in my CZcams feed to lol
@@JC-yy8iv Yep. It’s horrifying. I watched the first season soon after it came out. When the second season came out, a LOT more people started watching the show, and that’s when the glorifying of Joe started. I really hoped people would be able to recognize how bitingly, sickeningly accurate it is. Joe’s narration sounds like most of the men I’ve dated, even the ones who didn’t rape me. But so many people think coercion is how to talk sexy. They don’t even realize that they’ve been coerced and raped themselves (or have done it to someone). So they subconsciously ignore the “red flags” in a tv character, even when there’s murder in the story.
Before watching this: I was in Iowa when Mollie Tibbetts disappeared. They found, to my knowledge, two other bodies while looking for her. One was a hispanic woman murdered by her boyfriend. She didn't make the news. Her family didn't get the fanfare that Mollie did. :/ During the look for her, my bosses changed the rules for us workers. I normally worked the midnight to 4 AM shift (or 8 PM to 4 AM depending on my mood) and they changed it to 8 to 1 AM and Midnight to 6 AM, so there'd be a person to confirm your arrival and leaving. Because missing girls are a dime a dozen in America. And I was one of the three WOC on the team and it was normally us doing the overnights.
I got a new app, so my friends would know where I was. I texted often. I had to ride my bike in the dark to get to work, the buses stopped running at 1 AM and didn't start until 630. And, since I graduated, I couldn't use the campus shuttle despite being a campus employee. I put that in my final review of the college. I didn't feel safe for MONTHS because the campus didn't recognize me as an employee. And I put that, as a brown student, no one would create a national movement for my missing body... I'm not pretty or outgoing, I'm barely noticeable on the best day. No one would follow my story. It's not dramatic enough.
Wow!
I hope you are okay right now and safe.
I just want to say thank you so much for doing this work that must be incredibly psychologically taxing. You always participate in such nuanced conversations with such skill and grace. I can’t even imagine what seeing such dehumanizing content as part of one’s work can put on one’s soul - myself as a queer person I chose to not do it as a career path specifically because it was too taxing. It’s not exactly the same, but I empathize. Thank you for making this video and I hope you are taking care of your mental health by doing a lot of self care!!!
I know someone who is really into true crime, and crime shows. It gets a little tiring, because the majority have victims that all look the same, have the same back story, etc, etc. It's only more recent shows, where I've seen a slight change but. I get that these people effected, are still worthy of concern, and sympathy. But, when it's like, "but what about everyone else, who isn't white, cis and a woman?" The thing about media, and any company that deals with profits...profits come first. Which often effect real people's lives.
im australian, and there's often news articles discussing epidemic of missing indigenous women - but still so few about the individual women themselves. it feels so much like they're reduced to statistics for the news organisations to show while not actually helping to solve the problem that much. the recent daily updates on the search for cleo smith have made that stick out even more.
This has been an issue in the Uk too with the coverage around Sarah Everard V Biiba Henry and Nicole Smallman (murdered in Wembley Park). My only qualm with how some people relate societal issues to missing peoples cases and the coverage around them is that it can dehumanise all those reported missing by referring to their cases as representing privelege (these claims do have merit and I’m not dismissing them by any means, I just feel like these people end up feeling like debating points not people, it’s the reason I don’t like true crime in general) This was especially with the discourse around Madeleine Mcann
Uk is 95% white. Do you think the minority should more be the focus of the media than most of the majority ? Well, if you do so. Then leave a white founded country where you get your basic liberties from and migrate back to any country in africa and be represented in every corner in your "society". Also, society wouldnt condone for the favor of the few.
@@fidelitacadayona1551 the UK is also mostly lower class, yet most of the reports made are about upper middle class white women. Should the poor white people leave the country as well, or should they too shut up and take whatever is shown of them. Since that's what you expect non white people to do
@@mynameisuju "should the white people leave the country as well" uhh thats their homeland you 🤡 ?
@@fidelitacadayona1551 also, by these standards, does that mean that if a white person gets missing in a non white country, then they have no right to ask for attention on it? Because when white people get missing in 95% black countries, it makes the news there. But in 87% white countries (which is what the UK is by the way although I'm sure you'd love a 95% white) then you expect them to what? Accept death and leave???
@@mynameisuju lmao. African news outlets dont report missing white missionaries kidnapped in any part of africa. Its their home country journalists who do the job so that the world know. Most of these news outlets are also responsible for the bail handouts of white people to go back to their home country safely. You better fact check yourself first. The lack of self awareness is insane.
This is so important to talk about. I cried through this whole essay. Thank you for all your hard work bringing this information to us.
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I feel a recent example of this in play is the coverage of the Gabby Petito case vs the hundreds of missing indigenous women from the US and Canada, or the coverage of the residential schools in Canada. I’m in the U.K. and had never heard of Gabby Petito before what happened, and I doubt she’d have gotten the coverage she did if she wasn’t white and blonde.
Precisely
I am wondering how much in the coming years a person's social media clout will play into this. For example, with the recent Gabby Petito case, while she most definitely fits the 'missing white woman syndrome', I do think that one of the reasons that case blew up was the fact that she had a social media following prior to her going missing. There was a built in audience for the coverage. I think we are rapidly moving towards a society/culture where everyone has some sort of interactions on social media, and I do wonder how that will play into which cases get media time.
That, coupled with the case involving multiple states, and involving a national park likely contributed to all the publicity. Plus people just love to speculate about it :/
That, and if something has a large potential for conspiracy theories. Cuz that brings in more ad revenue too.
I've been hearing about how "newsrooms" and local on the ground independent newspapers and journalism is disappearing and being bought by different companies and people. Just makes me think... we really do need independent diverse voices representing our country and lives.
Every time I watch one of your videos I go on a Googling adventure looking up all the subjects and theories you speak of. Thank you for that. I love my Sunday Khadija Googling adventures. Even when the Googling adventures enrage me at how garbage people can be...
If you ever do merch, Khadija, please include stuff that says i'm a recovering people pleaser.
I love how inciteful you are and the fact you look at a situation from all angles. I'm from South Africa, we don't necessarily have the exact same issues here, but your content is very educational
Just for educational purposes, the correct word is 'insightful' not 'inciteful.' However in this case inciteful can work because it can imply that you are inspired to take action after learning about this topic.
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@@itsdonuttime7729 Thanks hey, we live and we learn.
I believe we might have “missing pretty girl syndrome” over here
@@sinolukhalo5121 true
Wow I just watched the episode of "You" and they were mentioning that syndrome. I've never heard of that before today. And now I am going to learn even more from your video.
Wow You said that? Shows how trash tv has become.
I hope Gabby’s family keeps good on their promise and actually helps people of ALL backgrounds reunite with their lost loved ones
I've been wondering why we are relentlessly hearing about Gabbie Petito like it's a play-by-play or cliffhanger in a series. Not only is that disrespectful to her as someone that's passed, it also makes you wonder where's that same energy/coverage for the millions of other girls, esp girls of color, who are kidnapped/lost. Definitely the media seems to have an agenda because they know people are going to continue to be shocked and concerned about a young missing white girl. Unsurprising yet disturbing tbh.
It's important that people realize this isn't a problem limited to one country one area. I appreciated that you consistently choose examples that reinforced the reality that these things are happening globally. Even if it doesn't manifest in exactly the same ways or have the same exact dynamics doesn't mean that one country can point fingers and not simultaneously hold their own selves accountable.
“I’m a recovering people pleaser”
Wow , same , very same.
news outlets proved joy right when she made that statement because like a week or two later, a black woman in louisiana i believe was found dead in a locked police van and…..i had to hear about it from twitter but gabby story was plastered EVERYWHERE for weeks and i feel like the girl in louisiana is a more compelling story that needs answers
Such an emotionally exhausting topic, I really appreciate you covering it. The care shown when mentioning MMIW was also greatly appreciated.
Thank you for covering this, and for doing such a wonderful job as always. I work in news and we've been following the Gabby Petito case, of course, especially since she initially disappeared in my state. I also live very near the Navajo reservation, and every week or so in the newsroom we hear more stories of Navajo women who are missing, found dead, or otherwise unaccounted for. The worst thing is that these women get maybe one story if they get any mention on-air at all. Not that the Petito case isn't tragic, it is, but it is so clear that if she wasn't a young white woman most people never would have even heard of the case. It's exhausting and heartbreaking to see the difference in how these cases are treated.
I called the Petito case this & ppl lost their s***. Love that you’re telling it like it is as well 🙌🏼
I love and respect Khadija’s eloquence. Best exemplified in this vid when they say “I’m not trying to make this funny/jokey, but I’m also trying to add elements of relief.” You can always tell they’re making their points from a good faith perspective and take care to do so in a human way. Love it!
The fact that there is a society that gets to decide who life is more important than the others all because their looks aren't desirable is just sick. Nobody can help how they were born or the life that they are born in. You shouldn't have to be white or rich in order to be rescued. Those women, girls, boy's, men, or even transgender lives are just as important. Let's face the fact that the dominant group just aren't ever going to value anyone other than the ww or girl/boy. More ethnicity groups need to start forming our own rescue tactics that includes every human being to get just as much attention as those of non color or with more money. I love your channel gorgeous thank you and keep on blessing us with info and your beautiful personality.❤️
I peaced out at NHI because I got sad, but good job sis
The media puts pressure on the police to do more unfortunately so media coverage is VERY important.
you know, with the missing white woman syndrome i started to think about how true crime is considered as having such a white feminine audience, and it makes me wonder how those two things may be connected
The idea that we have to fight for diversity in the media is.. surreal to me. It shouldn't be a question, we shouldn't talk about that. It should have happened naturally. The fact that we are stuck there is honestly a social failure imo.
NHI reminds me a lot of a german word "vogelfrei" which is a concept from the middle ages in which a person, who was labeled vogelfrei was striped of all their rights as a person down to their right to live. They were legal to be killed free of consequences. That something as cruel as that could happen in the modern times is truly sickening
Many sex workers, and I'm not talking about the one at the top of their game and earning top dollar, though that alone does not neccessarily guarantee their safety, make the decisions/choices they do due to a lack of alternative options. Many sex workers, no matter their social status, are some of the nicest people I've ever met, even the ones with substance issue.
There is and hour and a half documentary about a highway in Oregon which isnt as long as the highway of tears but has almost as many victims, the serial killer who hunted the area had a survivor and when she went to police they laughed at her and declined to press charges, he went on to kill upwards of 20 more women.
On the highway of tears, if you ask the families, the number goes up to 40 or so missing. In australia we have treated Aboriginal people horrifically, they were only really classified as people after being removed for the flora and fauna protection act in 1975
Unrelated but I just wanted to say that you have one of the most pleasant and educated channels!
thank you 💕
I know this is an old video.. but i work in the victim witness assistance unit for the us attorney’s office in dc. If you want more information you should watch the hbo docu- series, “black and missing” Its about a woman who is trying to spread awareness of young black girls who are not getting media coverage. It’s truly inspiring but gut wrenching. We recently had a couple of the women from the project talk to the USAO. I just thought I’d share another resource. Thank you.
Quote of the Day: “I’m a recovering people pleaser.”
I'm from the Netherlands. In 1986 a little girl called Cheryl Morriën went missing. She's Indonesian. My mom knows quite a bit about true crime and can remember cases from many years ago, yet somehow she completely forgot about Cheryl. There's still a group of people looking for her, 35 years later, in the dunes were it was once presumed she's buried. It terrifies me to know that there are more cases like hers out there I don't even know about. Even true crime youtubers out there way often talk about white people than anyone else.
MMIW in Canada needs to be talked about more. Thank you for this insightful video!
wait- just a random thought but I feel like a character mentioned this in YOU S4 when Natalie went missing. Either way it's definitely a syndrome that has been around for a VERY long time.
Yeah the librarian
Joes latest obsession i think her name was marianne, im both glad they brought it up but im disappointed that they left it at basically a definition and turned it into a cute quirky innocent yt boy thing when joe didnt know about it
Ok but one of the only reasons i started to look into this, I loved that comment because it was so true in the show and in the real world, why is this case one of the most important in 2021? Like it really confused me why it was getting so much coverage.
I love every topic you choose to talk about and the way you talk about them ✨
Right after all the media coverage over Gabby Petitio and the fuss about them not paying as much attention to other missing women, more online posts were circulated of missing indigenous women and within about a week, 4 of them were found. That was directly due to the extra coverage. Studies or not, it has an impact.
Thanks for bringing this to attention. I remember when I was really young there was a case of this missing white girl that everyone talked about and I saw it everywhere. But then I remembered being in a Walmart bathroom and you'd see those small signs out of the way of missing kids. And they would almost all be p.o.c. and I always wondered about that. Why isn't the media covering these kids too?
Another interesting thing this made me think of in most horror movies the victims are always pretty young white girls and I feel like that's contributing too.
It’s crazy too how the girl who died in Orlando after a maintenance worker got in her apartment didn’t have as much coverage than the gabby petito case which to me is horrible because that wasn’t her fault he had the keys to all apartments