How to stop absorbing other peoples energy
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- čas přidán 7. 09. 2024
- Author of EMOTIONAL FREEDOM and the bestseller POSITIVE ENERGY, Dr. Judith Orloff, tells everyone who's ever been labeled as "overly sensitive" how to keep your energy high, even in negative or frustrating situations. A liberating video for anyone who tend to feel exhausted by the world. FREE E-NEWSLETTER AND MORE INSPIRATION AT www.drjudithorl...
Remember, "no" is a complete sentence. Set kind but firm boundaries. But do it!
Thank you life has got worse since this video mas made im so tired
I have to be alone to regain my energy and hate loud noises.
empathy is so beautiful. it allows you to feel deep compassion for people and experience life deeply.
Your video was very helpful to me. As a psychiatrist, I also used to pick up energies from other people. Now, I'm practicing about 5 minutes of mindful meditation after work at home. It's really amazing how you can recharge energy in such a short time. Thanks! Namasté.
I'm a couples and family therapist, and I think I may have started to burn out very quickly last year when I worked with addictions clients. I thought I wasn't cut out for the work, despite loving the work I do with my clients. But it's hard, between hearing their difficult stories and then dealing with staff who have their own issues. Do you have any other advice? Also, how do you handle being overcome with emotion and negative energy in the moment, such as in a therapy session or dealing with an overly anxious or critical supervisor/colleague?
I've experienced all of what she said, the discomfort in crowds, being able to smell things other's can't, intolerance of loud voices and so on. I love being alone, it's the only time I feel myself, and feel peaceful. I can stay in a bar for just so long, then suddenly I HAVE to leave! I wanted to add, I feel that we can be sensitive not only to living beings around us, but to those beings we cannot see, as well (ghosts). I do meditate, and spend alot of time alone.
Thank you, Dr. Orloff, for posting this...I've been this way my whole life, and have always been told "you're too sensitive!" until it was coming out of my ears! I felt very poorly about myself for way too long, thinking there was something wrong with me, since the people around me were all extroverted chatterboxes. I was always the odd person out. Now I accept myself as someone who would rather sit quietly, alone, and not be forced to be among energy draining people who exhaust me.
This happens to me alot ! I've always been very sensitive.
When I go to school I use public transport. If there are a lot of people, I'll be exhausted by the time I get there.
I start to feel really tired and nauseous.
Lately, I've been ' protecting ' myself by trying to close myself off everything around me (: It really helps!
I have the same problem and now use coarse salt in my bath water and this is helping me at the moment to take off the pressure
me also thanks for knowing more empaths
Yep, my mom used to always tell me I was "too sensitive". It used to make me feel very bad!! Now in my early 30's, I am finally recognizing and appreciating what I am. I've learned too, that if someone doesn't appreciate your sensitivity, you need to move on.
we sponges must stick together!
Have a lot of compassion with yourself and gently keep on keeping on.
This resonates with me SO much. It helped me to quit a job that I just started a week ago. And more importantly to know that my sensitivity is actually a gift is great. I always thought something was wrong with me. And if I was in a room with low or "bad" energy I always felt like something was wrong with me for wanting to lift the energy. I know it's a boundry thing and it's about being selective of where I go and -bluntly-minding my own business sometimes.
Thank you for explaining who I am
Dr. Orloff, I am crying right now. You have just voiced me to a "t." I have every quality you just articulated...even to the point of being told by a parent, since childhood, that I'm "overly sensitive." I'm always told by my husband that I need to "set boundaries" and that I don't have to be everyone's best friend, feel their feelings, and have a deep, deep connection 24-7.
I'm shaking right now I'm identifying with this so.
I zone out when people are excessively laughing and talking. It drains me within minutes.I can't get a word in edgewise if they'd just close their mouth for 5 seconds.
I just bought your book today. I’m so relieved that I’m finally going to find out more and learn how to not only just cope with all of these issues anymore but how t help with all of these issues of being an empath. ❤️
Thank you Judith, I used to be as you so eloquently described an empath until I discovered Reiki and chakra shielding. It used to be impossible for me to socialise or visit crowded places, but now I'm immune to people stealing my energy.
This is very important: Practice the 3 minute meditation I suggest in Positive Energy in Chapter 2 throughout the day. I use it all the time. It allows you to do mini-refuels and centering, which builds stamina an resiliance. I think I may have it on my website too.
I can relate. I always try to take my car places so I can make a quick exit if need be. Spending more than three hours with most people, even with those I love can start to feel like to much. And that's fine. I've learned to honor this, not put myself down, and care for myself! Loving friends understand.
thank you for this wonderful reminder on how to take care! also helpful for empaths who don't realize they are and helpful insight for friends to understand the sensitivities of an empath and why that alone time is necessary and restorative.
Currently finishing up the last chapter of your book, just wanted to express how thankful I am that this information is available. I immediately returned to this reading after a short meltdown I was having about feeling shitty because my tendencies to indulge and being tempted to binge. On pg 208, you wrote about saying "yes" to honoring our sensitivities and by this we are saying "no" to patterns of abuse, neglect and addiction. 100% what I needed to hear. Very touching and somehow I know I was suppose to read it. That somehow turning to something that grounds me was the right course of action. But who knows... maybe it was all a coincidence. 😉
Judith, I wnet to the library yesterday to get your book & this was after another incident of picking up a persons emotions. I was feeling horrible since now it has skyrocked to about 2x's a week. I decided I'd keep my eyes on the car in front of me & not glance at 1 person. I accidently did but didn't pick up anything. I was so happy! I think if I had gotten so paranoid w/ the empathy thing hitting me out of the blue like this & increasing. I've already started reading the book. Thanks so much!
I went home and burst into tears yesterday I could not stop crying
I’m so exhausted from working with people with so negative 😣
I feel my soul is tired
i've always thought I was an empath but never knew much about it, just started seeing a new therapist (after many years of therapists who didn't get me at all) and after 15 min. she told me to check out Dr. Judith Orloff on youtube and I am already blown away at the thought that someone else out there understands exactly what I'm feeling every day, I'm 32 and finally realizing I'm not alone! I wish there was a weekly group meeting for this.
Oh, I'm so glad I came across you this evening. Thank you for sharing your insight. I happen to identify with it. I'm not considered an introvert at all on the outside because I'm friendly. The inside is sensitive and where my caregiving becomes one mandating boundaries , like you say. You're "just what the doctor ordered" and so I hope to hear / see you again as I subscribe to your CZcams channel. Thanks again.
I've always known this about myself...
Since the pandemic, I'm now reclusive. I've even changed my phone number to just silence unnecessary calls.
I've never felt more peaceful OR joyful!
WOW !! Not only do I identify with these comments I REALLY identify with them. Its unreal! Thank you so much for these tools !
I have been told so many times that I am overly sensitive, like it was a very negative thing. It's really nice to hear that being sensitive is a good thing and I now know how I can still be this way, my true self, while protecting myself and setting boundaries. This helps a lot...looking forward to learning more about this subject. :)
I get dizzzy too sometimes from the sheer force of the barrage of words. Nice that we can say "goodbye" and find a quiet, peaceful place to regain our peace.
Oh perfect vid, I am very sensitive to what other people are vibrating. There's a negative entropy effect in place. Check out the Drukama tradition, they talk about some of this allot. Stay well all!
Everything you said is me to a tee... when you mentioned the car thing I almost rolled out of bed laughing🤣... I always take my own car... it makes some people crazy... but I have to have the ability to get out of overwhelming negative energy situations if I have too... such great insight... thank you❣️🌷
74yrs old. Now I know. Feel free, and understand why I did, and felt, what I did in life. Many people and animals have benefited from meeting me. Thank you, am listening, crying and smiling.
TY, Dr. Orloff. I am also an empath and have found that another thing that needs addressing is a way to prevent other people's energy from hijacking and influencing your actions. This can be recognized when we find ourselves doing things that are just not us. I keep a protection around myself to counteract this, and it works, although, nothing can counteract judgments of others.
I'm convinced that absorbing other people's negativity is a big factor in substance abuse. Many people in recovery are what I call "intuitive empath," a phenomenon I describe in my book Positive Energy. This is very real and overlooked in traditional medicine.
Noevilshall (6 days ago) says that she doesnt want this gift of empathy, sympathy, sensitivity, perceptiveness and care. I have felt this too. I want to thank you for reminding me of how important it is to unburden oneself of the weight of what you experience.
It is worth being reminded that it is not selfish to set aside the necessary time to do this for your wellbeing. Peace, live long & prosper.
Just realized I'm an intuitive empath. I do get up and leave suddenly thing and as often as my finances allow, I have always taken "people breaks" all of my life. And I have always been deemed "too sensitive" from teachers, parents, and co-workers. I have only learned boundaries within the past couple of years, and it has completely changed my life for the better.
Thank-you for this - now I think I am one! I usually recharge by going out by myself into places of natural beauty - playing the Native American Flute also helps me to re-energize - it's a lot like meditation with a lot of breathing in and out - very good help one to de-stress!
Yes, Yes, Yes. This video is about me. Thank-you Judith for speaking and helping me, and others, through your knowledge. I for one appreciate you very much. Angel :)
Thankyou so much! i am this person who needs to get home to recharge. it just feels so good to hear someone say that it is OK.
setting kind but firm boundaries is a sacred action. so important.
Wow Judith I knew I was empathic but hearing you mention chattering & loud people and also the 'always having your own car' are huge synchros for me. Thank you! My right ear even started ringing as I was watching this LOL
it's a balance. listen to your intuitive needs each day and set kind but firm boundaries when needed. nice to meet you!
You have touched my heart with your openness. I'm so happy you related to this video. Check out chapter 1 and 3 of Positive Energy for more info too.
im so happy to subscribe in your channel judith now i can explore more of my kinds
love you Judith. I wish you were more prevalent in the community
I completely get that. I just found out I am an empath and now realize why I get so wore out working with people all day and need breaks or my energy gets zapped. Thanks!
Thanks Judith. I've a friend whom after months listening to her complains & then told her to stop talking about them, it got me exhausted.She couldn't understand anything, and i've also sent her your videos.Often she would agree with what i said, but 3 days later,back to her complaints.
I so agree with you...! I'm relieved to see I'm not the only one feeling this way...I too had abusive parents have to constantly isolate myself to recover, after being surrounded by a lot of people
You are unbelievable. I am 43. A friend says I am empathic. I didn't know what that meant so I looked it up & the personality traits matched up. You have described things I have always done:
how are you doing now after all these years?
I have been label this way in my life... I grew up in a very terbulant household with every critical and sometimes abusive parents... It has taken me years to energectically heal from the energetic wounds they gave me.
I work customer service and I'm so emotionally altered by each person I just can't function sometimes until I go home and recharge.... I have to meditate before work... Thanks for the video I will share it with others...
Dr. Orloff sure has my number. I work from home because people in an office always zero in on me to tell me their troubles. I installed soundproofing in my home to block exterior noise. Listening to folks drivel on and on drives me up the wall. I always take my own car so I can leave at will. I don't dislike people, they're great! It's just that I can only take them a little at a time. I also have a large boundary of personal space :)
Ditto to this comment. I'd forgotten about all of this, and thankfully have been reminded in several gentle ways today. Very happy to have been referred to this site and to you Judith. oxo
This all fits so well with me ... now I know, why I was always so tired and drained, working as a teacher ... I had to stop ... now I´m doing what I really like: working from my home as a writer and artist :-) ... it is so releaving ...
Thank God for sensitive men! Share Positive Energy with your father. It will help him filter the negativity and noise around him.
Thank you for sharing; this is very helpful.
Living in New York, I go through the same thing!! I often stay home, but I feel soo much better at home and alone.
This describes me to a tee. I have become aware that I become way too involved and sympathetic with others problems and feel exhausted sometimes even for a few days. I forcibly pull back and retreat to save energy for myself and it took me a long time to do this.
Dr Orloff, I heard your voice on the radio today, here in Miami, at Joseph Cooper's "Topical Currents" show. I am a volunteer for WLRN. It was a pleasure hearing you explain such a fascinating topic. I signed up for the 8 week online course and looking forward to read and review "Second Sight" for my friends that read my blog.
Thank you Ms.Orloff,
Whenever I hear loud noise or people arguing, especially my siblings, I can feel my head and brains are pumping with their high pitch and loud voice. Is this a sign of intuitive empathy and also I loving going to the mall but every time I go their I feel exhausted after awhile and just can't wait to get out of there! Is there anyway to not be this sensitive?
google it or youtube it, i think is because you attract negative energy i heard about it before somewhere...just search "how to stop attracting/absorb negative energy" and those who attract negative energy sound pretty much like you, that might be it , good luck.
my pleasure. I love YT. I love sharing what I know in this videos and I'm so happy they are getting such a warm reception. thank u for sharing them with your community!
you are a beautiful man to talk about your intuitive empathy so openly. thankyou.
Yes, yes, yes. We empaths know what you're talking about. See Positive Energy for more info on this.
Glad this video has hit home for you.
OMG!!!! I had no idea that anyone had DESCRIBED this phenomenon! My only solution has been to spend a lot of time away from people. Relationships are bad too--especially because I'm drawn to people who are suffering, having the urge to heal them....and then, being around them constantly just drains me of all energy and makes it impossible to continue.
I end up being MORE miserable than the people I'm around, because I'm more sensitive to their unhappiness and frustration than THEY are!
Yes I am very sensitive. It is true what you say. Then my protection is be alone to charge me again. Thank you for this great contribution Judith. Hugs
Yes very true especiallly when it comes to negativity ...the absorbtion drains me ..makes me tired and weak..thanks..blessings.. Maria.. I have learned to ground myself and fill my body with light and meditate..Hugz and thank -you again..
Thank you Dr. Orloff, I heard you today at Topical Currents' show at WLRN in Miami. It was a pleasure hearing you. I signed for the 8-week online course, and looking forward to read your book and review it for the readers of my blog as well. Thank you.
This came at the right time. Thank you.
I love your wisdom and insight, I've recently learnt that I have certain gifts. Thank you for saying you believe sensitivity is a positive trait, for a long time I believed it was a bad attribute of mine but now I feel very differently, my son is also like this and I no longer see this as negative, but it is a huge positive for him.
I watched this video and notice i possess almost all the qualities you use to describe the intuitive empath.
thank you for helping me realize this and for the great tips!
Great validation for me. ; )
THANKS for posting this!! I think this lady secretly follows me around all day!!! She is right-on for me!
I find your explanations very truthful. I´ve been experiencing periods of extreme fatigue, and I think it has something to do with the fact that I´m an extremely sensitive person and I tend to absorb many people´s negativity, but I wasn´t aware of this till I listened to this video of yours.
As I learned or it came naturally to me as an empath was listening to the music - tone of the voice I am listening to. Of all the videos I have watched concerning protecting empaths I have never heard what came to me naturally and it was listening to the tone of the voice. I guess listening to old songs has helped me tremendously.
A very interesting and useful video. I am what you describe as an empathic sponge! Thanks for putting a name to that which has seriously affected me my whole life.
How do I breathe out negative energy? this would be a very useful tool to learn.
Thanks again. Rick.
Yes, let's give it all we've got to uplift the world!
I have been like this since birth.
It is so important to honour this.
You are so welcome. It is indeed a revelation to find out that you are an empath! Positive Energy goes into this in detail.
Yes, stay strong and centered instead of getting overwhelmed or lashing back. This is true power. Yes, always show yourself respect. And show others respect. Namaste means "I respect the spirit within you" a greeting in India instead of "hello." Respect for the self and mutual respect for others will create love.
OMG Judith U described me to the T. From time to time, I encounter people who suck my energy. They just won't let go! I'm getting your book., Thank U!! : )
Thank you so much!!
That is so me!! I am getting much better at finding my own space.I really try not to let it in!! The hardest time for me is when my own adult children are full of negative crap,that it effects me. Today I asked them if they enjoyed bringing others down or something. And to please think through what they are about to say. They drive me nut's if they were not my own kid's,I wouldn't deal with them!! Energy drainers.lol!!
Anyway have a great day!!
Cherri
Everyone needs to learn this and practice it daily.
im not really sure how i ended up here, but im SO glad i did!
Thank you for this valuable info. I always thought there was something wrong with me. I am so affected by everything emotionally and it IS draining. I feel better knowing I am not alone. I especially am the type that retreats to my home to recharge and feel centered.
Yesterday we had a festival where I do voluntary work here in the Netherlands. With all the people inside and outside the building, I had to go to a corner and sit there alone for a while. After our dinner at a Restaurant, I was really glad to be home alone again. I was overwhelmed by the big plates filled with "All You Can Eat" American Ribs, Steak, Chicken etc.. My alternative was a vegetarian dish which was half fried food and not one green piece of salad. I felt traumatized from seeing so much meat and had a nightmare. One of my musical project colleagues said that he is against food wasting because there was mostly chicken left over and animals have suffered to feed us. I agree with him. Anyway I have never seen this before: the Ribs kept coming but the chicken legs and filets looked so dry like it had been sitting around for so long or they might have used the food that other guests did not eat. Most of the food looked rancid. I already had stomach pain at the table.
Great lady, I identify with just about everything she said that describes me. I dislike noisy crowds, (sports is a turn-off!), 'I feel your pain' is not just empty words, and too many negative or violent emotions makes me almost physically ill. God, I love being am Empath. I'm sure there's a lesson here I have to learn, somewhere.
she is good
I love almost all of your quotes. Especially, "how not to get overwhelmed by an insensitive world." Ahhh
Simple yet offers soooo much clarity. You're enlightenment and play on words with each topic is magnificent! Thank you for your contribution. Be Blessed
YES too all the questions...nice to hear others who understand...over the years I've learned ways to manage it in positive ways such as painting...music...prayer....Thank you for the video and book...!
I never realised I was absorbing people’s energy and it’s totally change now I understand I’m able to stay in my energy
You described me perfectly !! Oh my gooodness! I am surprised... called sensitive, going home or even upstairs to my room to recharge, sensitive to excessive talking , loud sounds, smells , taking my car so I can get out if the "feeling rises"... I will try you hints for sure!!
Thanks Judith, I am an empath, in my field we call that "interjection" or swallowing other peoples energy in an attempt at healing. The energy is not the problem it is knowing how to let it go and also how to extend yourself so that you are in a giving and recieving relationship.
"Epidemic of low energy and exhaustion". Spot on
Watching this was a real eye-opener for me. I have all these signs. I'm definitely an energy sponge and get exhausted easily in chaotic environments. It just wipes me out. I will get this book and try to learn more.
I am very sensitive to bright sunlight. I do my best to stay grounded but I get bombarded constantly and I become unbalanced. I went to a healer and got some work done on me, I trust in his wisdom and his works. The pain in my core isn't as extreme anymore. I don't do stress at all or people who expect things from me. This transmutation formation, I AM going through is rough. I know, at the end of each lesson I always come out smiling.
Namaste
Yes, this is me. I am sensitive to light and loud noise. I'm also sensitive to people that don't like me. I actual feel they hate in my body. I got glaucoma and sarcoidosis from my sensitivity. Thanks for this video.
Thank you for this video! I will transcribe it for any that want to read it/translate it
I am wondering now if another sign is being able to feel physically what others are feeling physically, for example, watching someone else get hit, or massaged, and really being able to feel the sensation in your own body - like you could step into another person's body and know what it is like to walk around with that shape and weight?
Wow I answered yes to all these. I thought something was wrong with me all these years. Thanks Judith
Thanks for that, this was 100% me. It has taken me many years to learn how to protect myself, and every day I need to remember not to let people get "into" me. Especially the low energy types. Thanks again!
thanks for reminding me to transmute negative energy. your energy is beautiful.
Thank you for your work. A deep chackra hug.
great validation for me too. Having my own car is a must.