When the parents are narcissists, they genuinely are not concerned about your well-being. Only how you are reflecting onto them. I've had to put tremendous distance between myself and mine, and it is not easy when they're not understanding. They are truly baffled by their own grandioseness.
I would like a video on "how to forgive a narcissist". Because they do not appolagies and do not see ANYthing wrong in their own actions. Or I suppose a video on how to forgive anyone who never apologies or recognize the harm they made you.
Forgiveness is a choice. You have to say, “I choose to forgive…” Forgiveness isn’t saying that what they did was ok, it’s about releasing yourself from the feeling that they wronged you.
I’ll never forget one time going to my mom to try and explain what I was dealing with regarding anxiety. As soon as I started talking she started making it about her. I watched the clock and she talked for a half hour about herself. When she finished I said I’m going back upstairs and she never said anything. Mark you said some things in here that made me realize why as an adult I sometimes sabotage my own ambitions and desires because I feel like I don’t matter or how I feel and what I want doesn’t matter. Why? Because that’s what narcissists tend to make you feel.
I am so tired of people trying to take someone whose been through a relationship with a person who is religiously self centered and has consistent patterns of emotionally abusive behavior and turn the tables on them and say everyone has narcissistic behavior. Simply because everyone has flaws and sin Does not mean there is a 50/50 split in responsibility in a relationship. I am so glad you are teaching on this subject! You are a safe place. I appreciate it. You give those a voice who've experienced this. This often gets Christianezed and flipped on the victims. I can share your videos with friends and it helps them sort. This gives discernment as well.
Yes absolutely. "Christianeze" is so easy to dismiss behavior and give pat answers, minimizing what we are trying to convey. Jesus had a ❤ of compassion ☝🏼
I must admit it was hard being raised by a narcissist but Broken pieces of the puzzle but it helps when you help others put it back together . Encouragement helps others a lot . Healing is coming.
My ex-childhood friend was narcissistic. We reunited back in 2003 and parted ways in 2007 because I moved out of Cali with my parents. He used say that I get butt hurt and mad easily. There was a lot of truth to that, but if he cared about me as a friend and human being, he would give me advice on how to handle my issues in a healthy way. But no, he just pointed out my flaws with cold hearted facts. I used to have feelings for him too, but that was not intentional. He just happened to be tall, handsome and charming.
Thank you, Mark. You explained well the relationship dynamics that I had experienced in a long term marriage. I needed to hear the specifics that you mentioned. Thank you for the immensely instrumental role that your videos and books have played in my healing process. God is restoring me; He is so good, and faithful.
Please pray for me🙏🥰My stomach is turning spent my whole life with narcs, then to be finished off by one who married me just to kill steal and destroy 😭🥵🙏healing is happening 7 months alone, Thank you Lord for the healing work you are doing😭😭teach me to love myself Lord, I am learning to have a relationship with me, the Lord, position my self in Christ
My husband apologizes, but I feel that it’s only to make himself feel better. I say this because if he doesn’t get the response he’s looking for-he gets angry and will start manipulating me and blame shifting. He will tell me that he came to apologize and if I have such a big problem with him, to just divorce him. Then the cycle continues. The only way I have peace in my life around him is if I give him what he wants and agree with him. It’s hurtful that we can’t talk about how his behavior effects me. He’s always the victim. He can do the most hurtful things to me but then he gives excuses as to why he did it. And usually that excuse/reasoning is because of me. Had I not done x,y, or z ; he wouldn’t have acted the way he did. Please pray for my marriage.
Mark. A million thank yous. So relevant and once again was sitting here.saying YES out.loud! So sad when it's family But a healthy boundary needs to be set to preserve my sanity ♥️
WOW. I wanted to sit up and shout, “YES!” to a couple of the ways narcs will treat you!!! They’re not new revelations per se, but hearing them explained and confirmed as narcissistic behaviors is SO HEALING!!!!!!! Sorry for yelling. 😂 I also relate to every symptom you shared. I’m so grateful you’re doing this series!
@Katie from Milwaukee: I DID sit here and "yes" many of Mark's comments This is painfully fresh in me, since my girls' visit last week. Mom (my daughter) actually stopped talking and deferred to my granddaughter. I couldn't believe my eyes. My dsughter is not.a WIMP. She is assertive but is gaslighted. It is sad Thanks to Mark, I'm seeing it for what it is - ugly. My granddaughter is not welcome in this home unless she has a change of attitude. That seems rather unlikely.🧐 I will love them from a distance 😭
@@margaretgrosskreuz8687 I’m so deeply sorry. That’s heartbreaking. I know firsthand what it’s like to be gaslighted and to have your mind and emotions so messed with you, you don’t know what to think. You might not want to share that here, but do you have any idea why your granddaughter is a narcissist? 💔
Praise God whom sets all in one's right place! I bind to hell my needs being dismissed while I need freedom from every narcissist/psychopath, in accordance with this word and philippians 4:19 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah! ❤
The child tends to go into one of two paths: either duplicate the dysfunction (become a narcissist) or go into addictive lifestyles like OCD. That’s the best I can remember from what Mark has taught in other videos. Sorry you had to experience being raised by narcs. 😢
@@katiesanders96 oh Katie thank you so much for replying . I really am confused I fall into ocd category and codependency addiction but I have some tendencies of narcissism from what I learned from mark's videos I learned that we all struggle with that but I am hurting even more because I am more confused and I don't want to continue to not relate with others in the way that I should I have empathy for others but over time I realized that I look at myself in a bad way to the the point that I show no mercy and grace to myself I always put the needs of others before myself without sometimes loving me but I am the one who looks at like selfishness too but before getting saved and coming back to Christ it is a struggle for me to stop looking at my past a lot and my past sins I ruminate over the gulit and self condemnation that I get thoughts of hell, and that GOD is angry at me that maybe my skin starts to feel like it's burning or hot and I can't sleep I just want to stop all of that and just learn to receive love and rest in GOD'S LOVE and accept the same from my brothers and sisters in Christ and give them the same with out feeling like I have to please others to like me or feeling like I can't equate to being on the same page as others almost like being and oddball but what's stressing me out the most is that I don't want to be selfish by trying to get help and when I pray I do the same thing I feel that I shouldn't ask GOD for anything but then would be unbiblical I'm so confused 😥😭😥😭 I try not to isolate but when I do open up to others they are really busy and if I push the subject then I don't want to come off as pushy so try to wait but in the waiting I can't sleep , start spinning, and crying a lot . This is a real struggle and if you say certain things like self harm then maybe people won't be around anymore . I just want to know if anyone else been through this can also share their story with me and how did you get through it . GOD bless ❤️🙏
@@Jesussaves.7777 I relate SO MUCH to nearly every single detail you shared. In fact, I’m currently focusing on my need to be compassionate towards myself because I’m brutal on myself, but always kind and DOING for others. I’m not healed; I’m right beside you in the trenches. You can do this. You clearly have a heart that wants to learn (a massive key ingredient for the healing process!) and to experience healing. You will. Keep at it. Keep practicing. I don’t know if you’re a brother or sister, but I send you a hug and prayers. If you need any help with the self-harm aspect you mentioned, I have two great videos from Mark that I can point you to.
When the parents are narcissists, they genuinely are not concerned about your well-being. Only how you are reflecting onto them. I've had to put tremendous distance between myself and mine, and it is not easy when they're not understanding. They are truly baffled by their own grandioseness.
I would like a video on "how to forgive a narcissist". Because they do not appolagies and do not see ANYthing wrong in their own actions. Or I suppose a video on how to forgive anyone who never apologies or recognize the harm they made you.
Jesus did it on the cross.narcs been around since biblical days
Forgiveness is a choice. You have to say, “I choose to forgive…” Forgiveness isn’t saying that what they did was ok, it’s about releasing yourself from the feeling that they wronged you.
I’ll never forget one time going to my mom to try and explain what I was dealing with regarding anxiety. As soon as I started talking she started making it about her. I watched the clock and she talked for a half hour about herself. When she finished I said I’m going back upstairs and she never said anything.
Mark you said some things in here that made me realize why as an adult I sometimes sabotage my own ambitions and desires because I feel like I don’t matter or how I feel and what I want doesn’t matter. Why? Because that’s what narcissists tend to make you feel.
I. Can relate.🙏🏾
I'm trying to break from codependency and be more graceful to myself instead of putting myself down it's hard though
I am so tired of people trying to take someone whose been through a relationship with a person who is religiously self centered and has consistent patterns of emotionally abusive behavior and turn the tables on them and say everyone has narcissistic behavior. Simply because everyone has flaws and sin Does not mean there is a 50/50 split in responsibility in a relationship.
I am so glad you are teaching on this subject! You are a safe place. I appreciate it. You give those a voice who've experienced this.
This often gets Christianezed and flipped on the victims.
I can share your videos with friends and it helps them sort.
This gives discernment as well.
YES!!! ❤️❤️❤️
Yes absolutely. "Christianeze" is so easy to dismiss behavior and give pat answers, minimizing what we are trying to convey.
Jesus had a ❤ of compassion ☝🏼
I must admit it was hard being raised by a narcissist but
Broken pieces of the puzzle but it helps when you help others put it back together . Encouragement helps others a lot . Healing is coming.
Spinning about what they think ❤ I thank God for you and Melissa 💗 God bless you and your family 💟
Hello, Pastor Mark dejesus, Just wanting to let you know I been praying for you and your household.❤🙏❤
My ex-childhood friend was narcissistic. We reunited back in 2003 and parted ways in 2007 because I moved out of Cali with my parents. He used say that I get butt hurt and mad easily. There was a lot of truth to that, but if he cared about me as a friend and human being, he would give me advice on how to handle my issues in a healthy way. But no, he just pointed out my flaws with cold hearted facts. I used to have feelings for him too, but that was not intentional. He just happened to be tall, handsome and charming.
Thank you, Mark. You explained well the relationship dynamics that I had experienced in a long term marriage. I needed to hear the specifics that you mentioned. Thank you for the immensely instrumental role that your videos and books have played in my healing process. God is restoring me; He is so good, and faithful.
I got so much out of this. I suffered from neglect and I can sure use this type of guidance. Very eye opening. Thank you.
Please pray for me🙏🥰My stomach is turning spent my whole life with narcs, then to be finished off by one who married me just to kill steal and destroy 😭🥵🙏healing is happening 7 months alone, Thank you Lord for the healing work you are doing😭😭teach me to love myself Lord, I am learning to have a relationship with me, the Lord, position my self in Christ
1 minute in and I'm already hooked brother Mark.
My husband apologizes, but I feel that it’s only to make himself feel better. I say this because if he doesn’t get the response he’s looking for-he gets angry and will start manipulating me and blame shifting. He will tell me that he came to apologize and if I have such a big problem with him, to just divorce him. Then the cycle continues. The only way I have peace in my life around him is if I give him what he wants and agree with him. It’s hurtful that we can’t talk about how his behavior effects me. He’s always the victim. He can do the most hurtful things to me but then he gives excuses as to why he did it. And usually that excuse/reasoning is because of me. Had I not done x,y, or z ; he wouldn’t have acted the way he did. Please pray for my marriage.
Mark. A million thank yous.
So relevant and once again was sitting here.saying YES out.loud!
So sad when it's family
But a healthy boundary needs to be set to preserve my sanity ♥️
WOW. I wanted to sit up and shout, “YES!” to a couple of the ways narcs will treat you!!! They’re not new revelations per se, but hearing them explained and confirmed as narcissistic behaviors is SO HEALING!!!!!!! Sorry for yelling. 😂 I also relate to every symptom you shared. I’m so grateful you’re doing this series!
@Katie from Milwaukee: I DID sit here and "yes" many of Mark's comments
This is painfully fresh in me, since my girls' visit last week.
Mom (my daughter) actually stopped talking and deferred to my granddaughter. I couldn't believe my eyes. My dsughter is not.a WIMP. She is assertive but is gaslighted. It is sad
Thanks to Mark, I'm seeing it for what it is - ugly.
My granddaughter is not welcome in this home unless she has a change of attitude.
That seems rather unlikely.🧐
I will love them from a distance 😭
@@margaretgrosskreuz8687 I’m so deeply sorry. That’s heartbreaking. I know firsthand what it’s like to be gaslighted and to have your mind and emotions so messed with you, you don’t know what to think. You might not want to share that here, but do you have any idea why your granddaughter is a narcissist? 💔
Thank you so much, you're such a blessing to me❤️!
Self pity is narcissistic. Am I right? I need to encourage myself like King David.
Hi mark! I just ordered your book about the rejection mindset :)
/Petter, Sweden
Deliver me lord
Praise God whom sets all in one's right place! I bind to hell my needs being dismissed while I need freedom from every narcissist/psychopath, in accordance with this word and philippians 4:19 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah! ❤
D.A.R.V.O. seems to be the "go -to" defense mechanism for the narcissist
DARVO? What does that stand for?
@@katiesanders96Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim, Offender.
Mark I have a question for those who was raised by narcissist parents will the child become that way too when they grow up ?
The child tends to go into one of two paths: either duplicate the dysfunction (become a narcissist) or go into addictive lifestyles like OCD. That’s the best I can remember from what Mark has taught in other videos. Sorry you had to experience being raised by narcs. 😢
@@katiesanders96 oh Katie thank you so much for replying . I really am confused I fall into ocd category and codependency addiction but I have some tendencies of narcissism from what I learned from mark's videos I learned that we all struggle with that but I am hurting even more because I am more confused and I don't want to continue to not relate with others in the way that I should I have empathy for others but over time I realized that I look at myself in a bad way to the the point that I show no mercy and grace to myself I always put the needs of others before myself without sometimes loving me but I am the one who looks at like selfishness too but before getting saved and coming back to Christ it is a struggle for me to stop looking at my past a lot and my past sins I ruminate over the gulit and self condemnation that I get thoughts of hell, and that GOD is angry at me that maybe my skin starts to feel like it's burning or hot and I can't sleep
I just want to stop all of that and just learn to receive love and rest in GOD'S LOVE and accept the same from my brothers and sisters in Christ and give them the same with out feeling like I have to please others to like me or feeling like I can't equate to being on the same page as others almost like being and oddball but what's stressing me out the most is that I don't want to be selfish by trying to get help and when I pray I do the same thing I feel that I shouldn't ask GOD for anything but then would be unbiblical
I'm so confused 😥😭😥😭 I try not to isolate but when I do open up to others they are really busy and if I push the subject then I don't want to come off as pushy so try to wait but in the waiting I can't sleep , start spinning, and crying a lot . This is a real struggle and if you say certain things like self harm then maybe people won't be around anymore . I just want to know if anyone else been through this
can also share their story with me and how did you get through it . GOD bless ❤️🙏
@@katiesanders96 also can the child become both at the same time ? I'm trying not to spin out .
@@Jesussaves.7777 No, I don’t think so. ❤️
@@Jesussaves.7777 I relate SO MUCH to nearly every single detail you shared. In fact, I’m currently focusing on my need to be compassionate towards myself because I’m brutal on myself, but always kind and DOING for others. I’m not healed; I’m right beside you in the trenches. You can do this. You clearly have a heart that wants to learn (a massive key ingredient for the healing process!) and to experience healing. You will. Keep at it. Keep practicing. I don’t know if you’re a brother or sister, but I send you a hug and prayers. If you need any help with the self-harm aspect you mentioned, I have two great videos from Mark that I can point you to.