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  • How to master “natural” leadership, with Alisa Cohn
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    Impostor syndrome is the feeling that you don’t belong somewhere - such as a prestigious school or high-performing job - because of the false belief that you aren’t as smart, capable, or experienced as your colleagues.
    Although it’s very common for new CEOs and senior leaders to face self-doubt and insecurity daily in their role, these feelings can be overcome.
    Remember that leadership is an unnatural act. We don't normally give feedback to our friends, praise people we don't have confidence in, and repeat ourselves over and over. But these skills can be learned.
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    About Alisa Cohn:
    Alisa Cohn is an Executive Coach who has worked with C-suite executives at prominent startups (such as Venmo, Etsy, Draft Kings, The Wirecutter, Mack Weldon, and Tory Burch) and Fortune 500 companies (including Dell, IBM, Microsoft, Google, Pfizer, Calvin Klein and The New York Times.) She is the author From Start-up to Grown-up, and the creator and host of a podcast of the same name.
    A frequent keynoter, Inc. Magazine named Alisa one of the top 100 leadership speakers, and she was named the Top Startup Coach in the World at the Thinkers50/Marshall Goldsmith Global Coaches Awards and the #1 Global Guru for Startups.
    She is the executive coach for Cornell’s New York City tech incubator, and she has coached leaders from around the world, including the first female minister of the transition state of Afghanistan and the former Chief Justice of the Supreme Court of Sri Lanka. She has guest lectured at Harvard, Cornell, The Naval War College and Henley Business School. Her articles have appeared in HBR, Inc, and Forbes, and she's been featured as an expert on BBC World News, Bloomberg TV, and in the NY Times and Wall Street Journal.
    You can download Alisa’s 5 Scripts for Delicate Conversations and 1 to Make Your Life Better at www.AlisaCohn.com/5scripts.
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Komentáře • 80

  • @bigthink
    @bigthink  Před 2 lety +12

    Do you experience Imposter Syndrome?

    • @tylertyler82
      @tylertyler82 Před 2 lety

      Hi

    • @quashiebekasamuel392
      @quashiebekasamuel392 Před 2 lety

      Oh yes, I do.

    • @MrBenzcdi
      @MrBenzcdi Před 2 lety +1

      as a syndrome, no. But the thought came up…and was quickly dismissed 😄

    • @BmacRDX
      @BmacRDX Před 2 lety

      I did for about 6 weeks or so after a very significant promotion last year. I've since conquered it mostly, but on rare occasion still feel it.

    • @pasnouop
      @pasnouop Před rokem

      In fact, yes. I’m currently in the proces of starting a new career path and i’m swinging in and out of feeling like a fraud and using my knowledge to bring value to the people around me…
      I’m glad i’ve identified my views more clearly. What would life be without challenges

  • @thechancellor-
    @thechancellor- Před 2 lety +36

    To the *incredible person* seeing this, I wish you all the best in life❤ don't over blame yourself, accept things and go forward. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn the skills needed and get after it, all the keys to a happy life is in your hands. Keep pushing.

    •  Před 2 lety

      Thanks Chancellor. I needed to read this! :)

    • @yoursubconscious
      @yoursubconscious Před 2 lety

      agreeing but with a slight edge of disagreement. Do blame yourself if you are an idiot. By that, you knew better, but still chose to be a dumbass. we all do it, but just learn from it.

    • @mohsiniqbal8200
      @mohsiniqbal8200 Před rokem

      I
      Qaab to FB to to to FB

  • @golfboyyk
    @golfboyyk Před 2 lety +5

    I noticed the word lead is spelled identical to lead as in lead weight. This points to self governance for me personally…It’s been a real wake up call to see what many consider “competent “

    • @spade2340
      @spade2340 Před 2 lety +1

      I read (present)
      I read (past)
      English is weird

  • @Catwoman1464
    @Catwoman1464 Před 2 lety +6

    I wouldn't say leadership is unnatural, that completely goes against social research.

    • @bigthink
      @bigthink  Před 2 lety +1

      Interesting. What research are you thinking of?

    • @Catwoman1464
      @Catwoman1464 Před 2 lety +2

      @@bigthink For example:
      "The origins and evolution of leadership"
      By Andrew J King, Dominic DP Johnson and Mark Van Vugt
      From Current biology 19 (19), R911-R916, 2009

    • @PetraArkanian59
      @PetraArkanian59 Před 2 lety +4

      Couldn't agree more! Perhaps, "leadership doesn't come naturally to everyone" would be more accurate.

  • @6666daf
    @6666daf Před 2 lety +3

    Stock footage extravaganza

    • @MrBenzcdi
      @MrBenzcdi Před 2 lety

      it detracts from the message, doesn’t it?

  • @SameAsAnyOtherStranger
    @SameAsAnyOtherStranger Před 2 lety +1

    Confidence is a priori...the mindset of people going down the imposter syndrome rabbit hole.

  • @science212
    @science212 Před 2 lety

    Nice website.

  • @importantname
    @importantname Před 2 lety +1

    we must learn to control others, the best way is they do not realise they are being controlled, as if they are doing it for themselves.

    • @justintime6242
      @justintime6242 Před 2 lety +1

      You have no control over anyone. It’s all an illusion and laughable, at best.

  • @mikerivers9937
    @mikerivers9937 Před 2 lety

    Awesoke

  • @xavierlexxx2717
    @xavierlexxx2717 Před 2 lety

    Same

  • @razil6244
    @razil6244 Před 2 lety

    Be comfortable in being uncomfortable.

  • @PhilCallis
    @PhilCallis Před 2 lety +17

    "Leadership is an unnatural act"
    "You don't naturally give feedback to your friends"
    What? Perhaps you're just not a very assertive person?

    • @markphc99
      @markphc99 Před 2 lety +1

      i give feedback to my friends - and so do they

    • @bigthink
      @bigthink  Před 2 lety +7

      That's fair. We took it as her alluding to feedback in more formal business context - e.g. performance reviews. Of course some people may do that with their friends too, with varying results 🙂

    • @justintime6242
      @justintime6242 Před 2 lety

      You missed the point completely. Do you feel superior after your comment? I’ll bet you do, pathetic.

  • @ChiDante
    @ChiDante Před 2 lety +8

    A problem solver is a natural leader. Not someone who controls

    • @mustafaturk9180
      @mustafaturk9180 Před 2 lety +3

      Problem solving is about intelligence not being inspiriational which is strongly related to leadership in many perspectives.

    • @ChiDante
      @ChiDante Před 2 lety +1

      @@mustafaturk9180 i disagree. To animate spirit isn't the same as being the leader of the pack

    • @TheAegisClaw
      @TheAegisClaw Před 2 lety +3

      No. A leader delegates problem solving to experts. A leader can't be an expert in all areas. He employs the experts.

    • @ChiDante
      @ChiDante Před 2 lety +2

      @@TheAegisClaw i think you confuse the terms leader with boss. A boss is someone with alot of money. Money doesn't care if you deserve it or not

    • @TheAegisClaw
      @TheAegisClaw Před 2 lety +1

      @@ChiDante pointless semantics.

  • @sacman3001
    @sacman3001 Před 2 lety +2

    Title is quite strong. I don't feel it helped me overcome it...

    • @bigthink
      @bigthink  Před 2 lety +1

      We believe in you. 💪
      ...did that help?

    • @sacman3001
      @sacman3001 Před 2 lety +1

      @@bigthink is sweet. Thank you 😊

  • @waynegoodger7115
    @waynegoodger7115 Před 2 lety

    "IF YOUR A LONER"!!! "LIKE ME"!!! "THEN THE ONLY PERSON YOUR GONNA LEED"!!! "IS YOUR SELF"!!! "PERIOD"!!!🎆🏄🙌😝💟✌

  • @ivangohome
    @ivangohome Před 2 lety +5

    I didn't get the value of this 5min talk. 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • @theobolt250
    @theobolt250 Před 2 lety +2

    Actually, this (albeit it true) out of context. There's so much more involved in leadership. So much more that doesn't come to the table here. I trust a lot of it is recognisable for people who are actual leaders (in one way or another) but for us humbler creatures? It is of very little use I'm afraid.

  • @Flags.crosses.trailerparks

    I must protest, this woman is an imposter!

  • @dasfahrer8187
    @dasfahrer8187 Před 2 lety +1

    What happens when arrogance overwrites the ability to do #3? We see that in politics all the time, especially within the last year or so.

  • @naturalinstinct4950
    @naturalinstinct4950 Před 2 lety

    leadership is a talent you're born with, if you aren't you can still train yourself to behave like a leader but it'll never comes natural to you. And vice versa, if you have the talent it is your second nature

    • @naturalinstinct4950
      @naturalinstinct4950 Před 2 lety

      @@monsta6144 your point does not contradicts mine. Never have I denied determination and practice can make progress, what I meant is it will be easier for those who are gifted. And if you don't have the talent, you'll always need to put in more effort, whatever field you might be in

  • @aethereal100
    @aethereal100 Před 2 lety +9

    No, not everyone has experienced Imposter Syndrome. I've been in many leadership situations and never felt thoroughly inadequate or questioned why I was there. I've been offered several leadership roles in which I've declined because I knew I wasn't up to the task or I felt someone else had more experience. It comes down to honesty with one's self and humility BEFORE accepting such a role.

    • @bigthink
      @bigthink  Před 2 lety +3

      Good for you! She may be overstating it: a recent study indicated 80% of people have it. www.inc.com/jeff-haden/8-in-10-experience-imposter-syndrome-because-they-ignore-a-universal-truth-about-success.html
      No word on what percentage are actually imposters 😉

    • @PetraArkanian59
      @PetraArkanian59 Před 2 lety +1

      That feels like it is under the assumption that there are roles available for every type of person that they would feel comfortable in, and feels very ableist. There are so many types of people that would have to create their own role to feel comfortable, and most don't have the time and resources to do it.
      I suggest you check your privilege.

    • @aethereal100
      @aethereal100 Před 2 lety

      @@PetraArkanian59 Just because I've succeeded in knowing and respecting my limitations, doesn't mean I'm 'privileged' in any way. I simply don't agree with blanket statements that suggests 'everyone' has this issue, especially when it's not true.

    • @justintime6242
      @justintime6242 Před 2 lety

      @@aethereal100 So you can’t name a single moment in your life where you felt insecure? Wow, you’re a bit out of touch with reality and it shows.

  • @EyesOfByes
    @EyesOfByes Před 2 lety

    Well, I haven definetely not noticed this in my dad... 😏 He off course knows more than his son. "Manplaining"? No, dad-plaining

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    @maigold3049 Před 2 lety +4

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      @lindabrown8445 Před 2 lety +2

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  • @importantname
    @importantname Před 2 lety

    leaders require followers. Most of us are natural followers.

  • @Rhinoch8
    @Rhinoch8 Před 2 lety

    So, becoming a spiritual master, basically 😂

  • @thomasp.1828
    @thomasp.1828 Před 2 lety +10

    The video is full of platitudes and self-affirment-style advice. No substance.

  • @PetraArkanian59
    @PetraArkanian59 Před 2 lety

    This feels dismissive of tangible fear and worries that are omnipresent in the workforce for so many people. Not all fears are paranoia, and ignoring those in favor of "feeling better" feels like suggesting delusion in a landscape of profiling and unrest. Perhaps if it was titled, "how white straight men overcome imposter syndrome" then maybe.

  • @ThrustersX
    @ThrustersX Před 2 lety +1

    Sussy 😳

  • @PresAlexWhit
    @PresAlexWhit Před 2 lety +7

    Sus

  • @nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115

    Thumbnail: the "daring girl" statue in front of an angry bull. Nice one, a psico girl full of grrrrrl Pawah.

  • @JohnBoen
    @JohnBoen Před 2 lety +11

    Wow. Not a single piece of actionable advice.
    Completely useless.

    • @NuMindframe
      @NuMindframe Před 2 lety +1

      Sheesh that’s a bit harsh. I found the advice on “creating psychological safety” to be quite helpful

    • @JohnBoen
      @JohnBoen Před 2 lety

      @@NuMindframe
      I expect more from them than you do.
      Nothing here was actionable...

    • @vr9659
      @vr9659 Před 2 lety

      Some actionable advice from the video
      1. Try to find a mentor that can help you
      2. Make note of when things go right. make list of things you've succeeded at.
      3. Preform radical self-examination - become aware of your insecurities, doubts, weaknesses, and blindspots.

    • @JohnBoen
      @JohnBoen Před 2 lety

      @@vr9659
      I reviewed the transcrip - didn't see the word mentor.
      Taking notice of when things are going right.
      Perform a radical self examination.
      Perhaps I should have said "no new actions".
      Not actionable to me, and I was frustrated because this channel usually offers better...

    • @MrBenzcdi
      @MrBenzcdi Před 2 lety

      @@JohnBoen that’s a good thing, imagine if all things appear new to you; you might think you didn’t make any headway at all…

  • @dayglowfunkyjunky
    @dayglowfunkyjunky Před 2 lety +1

    "coach" an unqualified self made 'talker'.