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Do you know just how difficult it is to make a good man angry enough to leave you? You have to be relentlessly bad to him to make it happen.
Yep, for 2 years, I was treated terribly by my wife, and I gave her a path for us to be a happy couple,, she said she couldn't do it... I had to leave... within weeks she was dating her ex from 17 years earlier...
Yeah true. Took me about 2 years of nightly disrespect.
@@lonewar1 - Disgusting. Particuatly hate those type of low life exes too who opportunistically sit in the side lines like the fecal stains that they are.
It really needs to get very bad, esp' if we love our wives or partners. / Cheating is 100% a deal breaker, but if cheating is not a problem Men can take a heck of a lot of bullchit before throwing in the towel. I know, I have lived it.
@@lonewar1
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When I was 12 or 13, I told my mother something personal. Days later, she threw it back in my face during an argument. I never told her anything personal again.
My mother must be related to your mother.
"You can always tell me anything..."
All moms are daughters of Eve.
If it has a vagina, it cannot be trusted.
Was your Mom divorced from your father? What she did was not the mark of a real mother, not at all.
The first woman is clearly a self-absorbed princess. She appeared to be irritated about considering other people's needs. The other 3 talked about being there for each other in the way they need you. Very eye opening
THE FIRST WOMAN WILL BE BUYING A DOG OR A CAT OR BOTH TO KEEP HER COMPANY FOR THE REST OF HER NATURAL LIFE. NO MAN IN HIS RIGHT MIND IS GONNA TOUCH HER BUT A SIMP..............🤔 SHE LEARNS NOTHING FROM LIFE'S EXPERIENCES OBVIOUSLY.......🤔🤔🤔
"a woman that brings you peace" is nothing short of a miracle. When you find that one, hold on to her for as long as you can.
@ 1:25 A woman married for 10+ years and has no ideal what men want... A dog would have accidentally learned something about men in that time. This is a woman that is willfully ignorant, and extremely self obsessed. She didn't have a marriage, that was a hostage situation. I can imagine why it ended, especially if it was that self absorbed on both sides. Like she said; She doesn't care what men want. That's literally willfully ignorant behavior. Stay single, keep dating, don't ever get married {my words of advice to her}; You simply do not have what it takes to be a wife for life.
She's gay which is OK but she should have known that before getting married to a man
@@kyleklukas4808 She probably did and still got married. Lots of them do, either from self denial, from familial expectations or more often than anything else, the support factor. Who is going to pay for me to be home or have a part time job? Not likely another woman, but a ignorant to the reality male will...right up until he accepts the new dynamic or he divorces.
@@kyleklukas4808 Why do you say that? Did she say it or imply it in the video?
Probably too many think monogamy and celibacy are the same thing
Facts. The things that men want have *never* changed.
Married 32 years to a real man , three children. He provided and protected as I was at stay home mom.Greatest life ever.Society needs to stop lying to young women and encourage love of men and family.
You should be up on that show preaching truth to the deluded poison they have been fed.
Should a woman always have guys hanging around when their significant other is at work?
@@jsisk117 no
@@UncleKai263 yeah I know but see my old lady keeps trying to tell me that I'm just insecure they are just friends and I need to get over it. I figured I just need some other opinions.
@@jsisk117 set boundaries... If she can't abide by the boundaries, she's doesn't have your best interest in mind.
Loyalty is huge and if it's broken the relationship crumbles.
And it's nearly impossible to restore. I have yet to see a woman restore trust.
The woman on the far left gets it. I can tell she understands her man and she understands her role and that she is very grounded. Kudos to her. I’ll bet she stays with him until one of them dies.
She is the bomb. I don't think Pearl understood the nuance of what the woman was saying.
@@steve_etzel Pearl totally missed it and yes, THAT woman is right.
This doesn't mean that a man would want to be psycho-analized, but if he wants to open up, he DOES want to open up because this builds up TRUST and UNDERSTANDING.
First woman ever, who’s on the far left, to get it.. or anything :p
Absolutely she gets it!!
Meanwhile the short haired one on the right - married 10 years clueless about men, no answer. Now she's a Living Answer to what went wrong in her marriage.
Feminine, friendly, fit, fertile, and FAITHFUL.
You can keep the fertile. I have no interest in crotch goblins.
Faithful should be 1st. Other than that everything else in right in line.
I would add being of equal intelligence.
MYTH.... THATS almost like trying to find a unicorn... today
You forgot fuckable.
They all missed the number 1 thing a man wants in a partner- RESPECT! A woman cannot love you if she doesn't respect you.
And appreciation. And BJs.
“Men want whole hearted love”. No, without respect there is no love.
Just one problem, Respect has to be commanded NOT demanded!
1. Respect
2. Peace
@@petercrane2065yes....unfortunately some women just fall into "the wife " role of complaining no matter how good her man makes her life.
It's why men are walking away
I grew up in a dysfunctional family. Abuse was common. The first time I tried to commit self deletion I was 9 years old. Addiction runs rampant in my family all my siblings have problems with alcohol and or drugs and I myself am a alcoholic and addict. (Clean for 20+ years). I shared some of my childhood trauma with my first wife. Anytime she started losing an argument she would throw what I told her (in confidence) in my face. Plus she told her girlfriends all about my childhood abuse. Never trust a woman with personal trauma.
Similar life experiences here. First attempt at 7 years old, physical and emotional abuse from a narcissistic parent. I was lucky enough to avoid the addiction issues that run on both sides of my family. Surviving is its own reward and sometimes punishment.
CORRECT....so did mine....
all the parents where my kids went to school were all made aware of the 'shortcomings' of my disability/details of my accident at work....after our divorce....
Self deletion? When did that become a synonym for "suicide"? This political correctness bs is trying to sterilize everything so it sounds trivial.
She was just a bad human being…
Yep, women never forget a slight. And they never forget anything that they could use against you in an argument. They'll dredge something up that happened 20 years ago if that's what it takes. You have no business getting involved with a woman like that. It's all about her, and nothing about you.
The day I took my father in to a care home after 3yrs of looking after him with dementia was the hardest, most painful moment in my life. When we got home, the instant I locked the front door behind me, I collapsed behind it at the bottom of the stairs, I’d been holding it together, knowing that day was going to come. I pretty much laid there for 10 - 15 minutes sobbing, exhausted and broken. The whole time my partner sat there holding my hand and was the one who helped me off the floor. You go through life facing good times, bad times, loss of those we cherish, but you do so together as a team.
Dementia is so cruel. I'm so sorry! thankful you had great support.
that is not true, I challenge a husband to cry regularly in front of his wife and see how that works out
My sisters took my Dad (2018, also had Dementia) to the home, I went along, but stayed somewhat behind to ensure things went to plan. They couldn't get him out of the car, so I had to step in. He started kicking the dash of the vehicle, had to talk him down to get him out of the car and into the home. The man always kept his vehicles in perfect condition. One of the hardest days of my life.
@@NascentCoomer If you can imagine it, and it doesn't break some rule of physics, someone somewhere is doing it, good or evil. I'm sure there are crap women who would hate a man for crying at the decline of his father, but most would be understanding and supportive. I see you used the word regularly, so maybe I'm misunderstanding your post, but I find it entirely believable that this man's wife understood his grief at putting his father into a nursing home.
@@NascentCoomer cry regularly? What sort of trauma warrants that kind of drama? You need a therapist, not a partner.
Being appreciated, Coming home and not having to Deal with useless drama
I mean, that's pretty much the hammer on the nail for me.
Exactly!
What?NO useless drama from a woman, but , but.......
My father and brother and I used to have a great time together, in the $350,000 house my dad bought at my mother's request... till the SECOND my mother got home from work. Then it was all, "NOBODY APPRECIATES ME!!!" He divorced her, and she got the house.
@@honorb4glory606 I am so sorry to hear that my friend. Although I am not surprised in the least. Women demand constant validation and approval for their every gesture, while men are expected to simply push through adversity. The inequality which feminism has never even approached dealing with.
Seriously feel sorry for her husband. That woman is fresh, functional, and empty like a cerial box.
It’s hard to see a woman there
@@agrandesubstituicao short hair, black clothing, sure about everything.
@@SuicidalBabyTTV HMMMM, silver hair and a mouthy attitude. Now *where* have we seen that before? #RIPthegoat #KevinSamuels
Married ten years and learned NOTHING about her husband or men? She said it.
she's transgender
There are different levels of opening up. My dad refused to cry at his own mother's funeral. The only times I ever cried in front of my wife are when we had to put our dog down.
What's so surprising about this clip is that they don't talk over each other.
nothing wrong with showing emotions, actually it's not good if you hide it inside
Showing your emotions is only ok in a few scenarios.
The birth/death of a child
The death of a beloved pet
The death of a wife.
Other than that, any show of emotion is not tolerated. By society. You'll just get told to man up
@@RaifSeverence nope, not in Europe at least. And keeping emotions inside is not good for you anyway
@@polpol1005 Men show their emotions in front of other men.
Because other men won't tapdance on your grave and openly mock you for having one bad day. Other men know what's up. They've been there.
Women don't understand men's hardship, loneliness, and the relentless uphill battles they face every day.
Actually let me partly retract that. I've seen videos where women tried transitioning to men and suddenly felt it all for themselves, rather that just hearing the stories and assuming they were BS. They go into severe depression and often commit suicide.
The world is very cruel towards men.
Women have no clue. None.
And the last thing a man wants after having to fight the whole world all day, is to come home to another fight over nothing.
She just became the enemy living in his house.
Traitor.
The reason they weren't talking over each other was the topic was focused on them, reflected entirely on the fact that women are mean, vindictive creatures that will hurt you any way possible. Each woman was trying to minimize their time in the spotlight. They couldn't even say "not all women" or give a personal example of when they didn't do that. They were looking in a mirror and saw their own dark sides.
We used to call them divorced women not single mothers. single meant never married. Not a normal situation. Sad the times have changed. Married 36 yrs, 3 kids. Very happy, always supporting my husband.
There used to be a level of shame for bailing on a marriage.
These modern women have no shame.
Amazing how the first woman was supposedly at a total loss as to what men really want, and then the three sisters absolutely nailed it.
Seems like she doesn’t want to get it.
She just doesn't want to admit she is wrong and delusional.
Closet feminist.🤣🤣
@@salguodrolyat2594 naw, she's got that written all over her hair do... Let alone that arrogant mug 😂😂
Women are greatly influenced by their female friends. If she would befriend the other three, she could learn a big deal. I think, not all hope is lost on her.
@Anita Adamski that is not what they said at all. They aren't trying to control anything. They are talking about how to support a man.
Her hair cut was Red Flag #1, I can just imagine what her husband had to deal with!
My first thought 😂 !
Every one of my buddies who has ever opened up to a woman
it was always a disaster
every time
100% of the time
because she immediately started using that against him in every argument until the relationship died
1.traditional values
2.beauty and fertility
3.peace
4.being a good mother
5.no past trauma
U forgot sex
No past trauma lmao so a unicorn!! And beauty and fertility fades with age! Devote your life to someone who will leave once you age and expect to give you nothing. Sounds great!
@@TheEnigmaticmuse i found it 14 years strong. Try to find a religious partner with traditional values.
@@stealth_mode_8313 I've been married for (doing maths in my head) 18 years. I'm religious. He's not. Both of us have traditional values and trauma. He has more trauma than I do. I'm doing my best to let go of the worry of being left for simply aging. I'm 47. Can't be young forever.
@TheEnigmaticmuse
He won’t leave you, but he will have an attractive mistress. It’s expected because men need sex with a gorgeous gal.
Women despise men who "open up".
I had a childhood friend pass away back in the 90's and while I was mourning his death, my gf at the time would roll her eyes and say "Are you done yet? Can we focus on me now?"
I dumped her on the spot and gave her 24 hours to move out of my apartment.
It was a valuable lesson on how women have no respect for a man that shows his feelings.
Instant dump. Good for you.
Same situation here. Even made me late to the funeral. I should have left her that day. Instead, kept it going for two more years. I learned a lot.
Plenty of women wouldn’t have reacted this way. She was self centered and immature. Lots of us actually enjoy being able to help others and being selfless makes us fulfilled - unless we end up taken advantage of, never appreciated or reciprocated in the slightest over the years.
Sir, 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Yep, pretty much sums it up!
I was told once , never ever tell your woman anything personal, emotional she remembers things like that and uses it against you.... I'm 52yrs now from London England,I was told this by a Cameroonian brother when I was in the Sudan at the age of 23yrs .
Women are always looking for more... the better deal...
Correct. Day one, she will tell all her close friends. Then it goes into the arsenal for later usage. And if you get even marginally emotional, she will start shopping for a stronger man.
Any woman. Include mothers and sisters there.
That's advice for pick-up culture, but it is important to manage how much one opens up. It's a trade off between health and attractiveness. But ya, friends and brothers are important therapists.
It’s true if you’re just looking for tail. But if you got someone at home you can’t tell literally anything, it’s almost useless to be with someone like that. There is a difference between just being you and not hiding things and crying like a baby because you’re stressed at work. This discussion is usually too reduced to be useful.
I agreed with Kevin Samuels, in that a man never, ever shows vulnerability or weakness to a woman. Women love to say they like a man that is emotional and open. In fact, they really look down on him, and he really is in a feminine role. They will throw it back at you. Facts.
Let me help you ladies:
1. Fit
2. Friendly
3. Feminine
4. Cooperative
5. Childless
do the same list for men next
Yup. I cried ONE time in front of a woman that I confessed my love. She knew the worst thing about me. She's the only woman I have ever told that I loved that wasn't my mother or sister. Next thing I know, she moved on and says she wasn't attracted to me. She never once said that until she saw ne cry. Never again will I make that mistake. Women are lying to men and they are lying to themselves when they say they want a man who can cry and vent to them.
I am a big softie for love stories because I have a great one. My wife never made fun of me for it. When we have had a huge fight, or I was grieving, she was there for me. I think you just need to find the right woman.
I mean, you don't want to do that at the outset of a relationship, but part of knowing someone is sharing your world with them over time. If they get put off by that, fine. You're better off knowing they aren't a good match for you.
Yeah, same. I cried in front of a girlfriend twice, got dumped twice. It's awful, the way that women treat their partners. Sorry that happened to you.
Me too bro.
Yep, it’s pretty sad actually. It’s kind of funny (and nuts), that due to feminism many men are able to be more open with each other and the odd time when I’ve broken down sobbing with my close men friends it’s been “ok bro, let it out, talk to me anytime..etc” and then “don’t worry, let it out, then…let’s get a beer..”
My experience with women (girlfriends or ex wife) has been a painful lesson: reaction of disgust, or lack of attraction, or gaslighting, or complicating things when I just need her to be there with me, like hold me and don’t judge. It’s been enraging because I have felt so emotionally emasculated, and alone with their reactions. Like others, I will do my crying on my own now.
It’s as if women are “wired” to only respond to children, and men are to be shamed to just pick up that sword and shield and get back in the fight! There are exceptions of course, where men get the same treatment from male dominated environments (like military boot camps etc.), but I have been surprised how much my emotional shaming experiences are not controlled by men but by the women in my life. Also, “show me your emotions ..” but ONLY the “oh babe I missed you kind…”
Every ex girlfriend I've had has used things against me that I've opened up to them about during a time of emotion and weakness
That’s the sad truth. I had that experience, but with my husband. Was like he harvested my vulnerabilities and built an arsenal that he could use to silence or shame me whenever he needed to deflect something. My own issues with not appreciating my own worth made me susceptible to this type of emotional manipulation. I needed his approval to feel ok because I couldn’t find it in myself. And he was the type of person who weaponizes vulnerability. There are women who know how to hold men safe in vulnerability. They have done their own work. It’s a mine field to navigate. I feel your pain in that.
That happens with men too. I thought a guy was trying to get to know me but he was just gathering information. It’s important to recognize these behaviors in people, not gender it.
narcissists attack when you are at your weakest.
My last gf came over to console me after I got home from my father's funeral. She proceeded to start not 1 but TWO arguments.
This ☝🏼. They have no empathy. To them, people are just toasters. Use and discard then get a new one.
@@stacyshoemaker9177 The discussion on the subject gets gendered because of the relative frequency with which it occurs. Just because both genders have the capacity for the behavior does not mean they both express it equally. Women demonstrate a far greater tendency to hold times of weakness and "opening up" against men. It is largely built into the subconscious where women favor strong men because it is a better predictor for a secure and safe future. Men, on the other hand, are far more likely to support and care for a woman who shows weakness. In fact, men are so starved of the ability to express their weakness and emotions, that it significantly contributes to the disparity between men and women's suicides and the sharp increase for men as far as deaths of despair.
My grandfather told me some very good advice. It relates to the PEACE thing.
If you have a good relationship at home and supporting and respectable/trustworthy woman you can bear the world at work, but if you're home life is a mess. You can bear huge amount less at work and the world. Just another mess to fix instead of a refuge.
Never cry in front of your woman. Most women will immediately lose respect for you the second she sees you in a vulnerable state. It's a lesson most of us learn the hard way.
Amen. And never tell her your most vulnerable secrets. Just DON'T. Take it to your grave, have a male friend you can trust for that. NOT a woman. No matter how much you love eachother and how perfectly matched you are.
ANY person that would do that is a worthless nobody!
The key fact is she says ME a lot. Tells you everything you need to know.
Ask a man if their wife's mental, emotional, and physical needs are their responsibility, and the vast, vast majority will say yes.
Then, ask women the same question about their husbands, and see what they say.
Never date a narcissist.... When you first start talking, ask things and wait to see if she reciprocates similar questions. Like Hi how are you? If she answers but doesn't ask how you are doing back.... RUN...
What do men want? Respect, loyalty, support and companionship. Isn’t that simple?
They have been taught that you're supposed to give them that by the education system and the entertainment industry.
*and sex 🤷🏻♂️🤣
Peace.
Not anymore.
@PEEGIII i looked for a woman that i thought my future children would love. 20 years later im still living a fantasy. Dont even tell people because they would think im making things up.
Someone who is just nice and comfortable to be around. No complaining . We dont want to hear what you don't like. Tell us what you enjoy. Simple.
Very good advice at 1:28 - "they want a woman that gives them space to be them + they want someone that supports them + a woman that allows him to be the head but still can be the neck that holds him through whatever it is that you both need to go through + someone that's his peace, someone that can bring some form of tranquility into his life when everything feels like it's all over the place or to just actually be at peace and not bring so much like problems or always moaning or plucking things out of thin air to make something happen from past trauma or whatever it is"
I knew from a painful personal experience that opening up to a woman (as a man in a romantic relationship) who is not your mother, is never a good thing. What I am shocked by is the level of lack of understanding that apparently a lot of women have. One of the women here said "There's a time and place..." . Well, yes, the time and place where a human would normally cry or become vulnerable is at home, and likely in-front of a very trusted friend or very trusted family member. And ideally, a spouse should fall into that category of trusted family member. How is this hard to understand? This isn't just a man thing. It is a human thing.
Well, in my opinion, females do have some degree of empathy but their capability of sympathy has a much higher order in an emotional spectrum. For example, a woman may cry with you while you are crying due to some tragedy (i.e., loosing a father), but she cannot comprehend the pain you go through. Males, has a much high order of empathy by nature, but we lack degree of sympathy females have. As a man, I advise you to never try to make her understand the pain you are suffering (which could also lead to self-pity for man, which I highly suggest you to never fall into it). Show her that you are the emotional and physical rock that waves hit and return to its sea bed. I don't believe its necessarily the crying that makes females loose respect to a man. It is being emotinally and physically weak.
Word
@@SG-xr2bs You clearly haven’t experienced showing any deeper emotions to a woman for her to leave.
What is the alternative? What js the point If you don’t open up and share your most inner thoughts? You might as well be alone
Modern woman are incapable of love. They love what you have to offer (for free ofcorse) but don't care how much effort it costs for you to get it. They are tought they are worth it, its their right. Social engineering is a real nasty thing.
My wife was often talking about renovation projects or future travels, and one day, I had enough I told her that every time she was talking about things that she/we didn't have the only thing that I heard was that she wasn't happy with my salary (low 6 fig.) And I f worked more then she was complaining that I didn't spend enough time with her and the kids. So I angrily told her that if she wasn't happy that she needed to find a better paying job or let me work 70hrs a week or find another men, I was fed up with her being relentlessly unhappy.
I also pointed to her that all the Shit we have was for her and living in a wooden box or a castle had no bearing on my happiness, but having a happy family did.
Also, the the reason why I wasn't constantly pointing to her shortcomings wasn't because she was perfect or talking about travels or better/often sex, It was simply because I was focused on what I had and trying to be content with it, rather than underlying all the things, womens, sex that I didn't have. That I two was capable of having the same behavior that she did, and if I did this, she wouldn't put up with this shit as long as I did!
Of course, it was hard for her, but she took notes, adjusted her behavior. Once in a while I still have too remind her that I wouldn't be like her constantly unsatisfied, it forces her to respond that in fact she's not unhappy, it's just a bad habit.
Still with her 33yrs.
Just do the same, don't endure constant dissatisfaction from your girl, just be clear, direct, assertive and the sooner you will do this, the quicker you will find out if she's wife material.
My2centsadvice
The constant lack of of being satisfied with our house gets to me. Keep in mind that we live in an expensive area in California so our house is quite nice as it is. She wanted a new kitchen so we got it done (which was very expensive). Now she wants new windows for the house which will be at least 50k. When I make a big commission at work my goal is to pay off debt and pay some of our bigger bills such as private school for my boys. She just thinks about the stuff that she wants which will never actually
Make her happy when she gets it and will just move onto the next thing. Women are clueless about money and how hard it is to actually get it. I find that to be incredibly frustrating.
@jbp122 that's why we need has men to point out the depth of their problem and point out that the problem is within and not about the outside world or others. People in dirt poor countries have women that are happy with what they have. And if they are religious you can point out that:
Jesus said to her, “Everyone who drinks of this water (ex: consumerism) will be thirsty again, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him (ex: connections, relationship, family or faith if you arereligious) will never be thirsty again.
My2centsadvice
@@rkb4897 you're a wise man.
No, you just got lucky that she was willing to actually listen. Most women won't listen, they'll call you some flavor of ist, phobe, or ism and then rob you blind.
@@jbp122 women have not the art of being happy or content.
They are in the art of finding problems where there are none..
men love peace, women don't love peace.
its simple as that
peace for women is boring.
ALl i can say to you brother...
if the relationship one day fail..its not your fault..but don't ever get into 1 again...
I have been in 5 serious relationships in my life over the past 15 years, I have only truly opened up to 1 person, my fiancé, and when she never used it against me I knew she was the right person for me, but over that time I have also realized that most women WILL use what you say against you, even if it is an emotional childhood trauma that you shared with them.
The one woman said "it is about listening to understand, not listening to respond.". Wise words,
That woman on the far left side of the couch is a real one. Shout out to her for knowing how to be a wife and a supportive person!
She was the most mature of all
She must have a high IQ
That's because she's hefty and has to bring a decent personality to the table.
In my experience, opening up to a woman gives her the strongest weapon against you. And, she will use it against you without a care in the world.
Totally correct sir. Never...I repeat never share you emotions or fears to your woman unless you want to be tormented by her about your weakness in the future. A certain amount of fear in your women will help her respect you and not claim you are weak.
If you are with such a demon, you should leave.
Yep. Cry means bye. They’ll see you as weak forever more
That applies to men too. Men will use a woman's trauma to shame them. I'm sure women do it too but if they do that's a red flag.
What is the alternative? What js the point If you don’t open up and share your most inner thoughts? You might as well be alone
She was married for a decade, and learned nothing from it. Yeah that sounds about right with a lot of women acting exactly like she just did. And Pearl doesn't put up with her bs either!
#1 thing to look for is genuine kindness and the understanding that a relationship is based on reciprocity. Both people need to want to be a good person for the other, above all else, and offer (safety, support, etc.. ) the exact things they that want themselves.
Exactly!
My wife and I have been together for over 30 years. A few years back I had to put our pet dog down suddenly and it crushed me. When we got home I sobbed like a child. It shocked my wife seeing me in such a vulnerable state. She accepted my openness because it was justified. We now have another dog and life is good. Stay safe everyone
No shame in shedding a tear for your well loved dog I can tell you every time I've shed a tear when all off my past dogs have died
Youre a lucky man.
@@mltiago Really? We don't know that. Wait until 5 years from now when they are in an argument and she lashes out with "You are such a wimp. That is why you turned into a crying little boy when our dog died. I never respected you after that". He will be devastated. There is no time limit to when she will use it against him.
I put down all ours. No fear on thier part. We both cry and kiss my butt if it bugs others. I love hard. Love is not conditional
I see your experience and I'll raise it! I was with my girlfriend for 6 years, then got engaged. 2 years later, planning the wedding for the following year (so 8 years together by that point). My younger sister died of cancer. She was 27. It was devastating. My fiancee left me 2 months later because she "couldn't rely on me emotionally" anymore.
That was about 12 years ago. Took me a year to get myself together. A year or so later I met a Russian girl. We got married within 8 months of meeting each other. We've been married about 10 years, with 2 amazing kids. I will never cry in front of my wife or kids, lol.
Very good point about loyalty. The trust and respect a woman will be effortlessly given by a man that knows they both went through the struggling phase together, at each other's sides ..its priceless.
The easiest way to get a woman do dump/leave you is to cry in front of her. Tried it a couple times when I was younger; worked every time.
I was open and honest with my ex-wife. I had a pretty good childhood, but I spent 10 years in the Army, and that does things to your head--some of which aren't very nice. She'd ask me why I have bad dreams, or why I do X and Y a certain way, so I'd explain it to her. I was open about my fears and such.
Now, I've pretty much managed my baggage--it's still there, but I handle it pretty well. I'm a professional-level Stoic, and I was in my 40s when I was married.
So when she was angry, or wanted to hurt me for some reason, or was trying to control me, she'd use all that ammo against me.
Now as I said, I handle my baggage. So it didn't hurt me that she brought that stuff up--what hurt me was the fact that she professed to love me, and yet was obviously trying her damnedest to hurt me emotionally, and to belittle me, and had so little respect for me.
She also had status issues--she had pretensions to high status--her family was wealthy, and she was starting law school. She accused me of "lacking ambition" because, after having spent years in the military, and years in university, and more years in corporate management, and a few years running my own business, I chucked it all and went for a skilled blue collar field with good pay, good benefits, and a high demand. I didn't want to open the latest fad restaurant, or start a fashion company, or go into high finance--I'm too old, too beat up, and too uninterested in that stuff.
And she wasn't the first woman I've had a relationship with who pulled that stuff, either.
But I'm 50 now, and successful in my career, so she'll be the last to be in a position to pull that crap.
I'm not bitter--I feel bad for her, because she'll likely never be happy. And I don't hold it against women in general--I have no problem with women.
But I'm too old and too tired to deal with all that BS that comes with relationships anymore--and lord knows the women who would otherwise be in my prospective pool have plenty of baggage of their own, and I just don't want to deal with that anymore. I don't want to have to start rebuilding my life yet again at this age--so I'm content to just spend my time doing my own thing, and living in my own space, where stuff stays where I put it, and I don't have to coordinate plans or purchases with anyone else.
This. I'm 49 and feel too old to deal with women's behavior. They come to my place and start making up rules. Sorry babe, I worked very hard to be able to chill.
Dude I’m 35 and already tired of women’s bullshit. I’m over the constant bickering & drama brought up like I’m just trying be in peace
Respect mate, I’ve just spent 23 years in the Aus Military and divorced because the job took me away and yes have had medical issues like you as described. I’m financially secure, own my home now. She is trying to get me back, sorry too late, she used those issues against me and left.
I'm 43. The crap I put up with in my younger years make me cringe. I simply can't be bothered anymore. I have things to do and the things I don't want to do... well, good luck trying to make me.
Very well said and agree - thanks for sharing, much appreciated.
The women who was married 10 yrs and could not say what men want, shocked me (if she was being honest).
I have been married since 1980. I am pretty sure my wife could tell you what men want, or at least what her man wants. She saw me through some good times, she saw me through some bad times, as I did her. I did open up to her on occasion but mostly not. I saw and lived through some horrible things in my law enforcement career, when I told her about them she was supportive. Often she heard about them when my cop buddies and I were together with the wives and we cops would be rehashing the stories. On the way home she would say, why didn't you tell me? I would shrug and say, honey you married a man, and we keep some of our stuff locked up. I always felt it is only safe to let it out with those who were there.
Long story this love story I am living, is only possible because we are a team. I never cared how much money she made. I did not care when we were 2 broke college kids, nor afterwards. For the record, she made roughly 3 times what I did the last 7 years before we both retired.
Ladies, your man wants love, support, and peace. A help mate he can count on that won't go bad mouthing you to her family or friends. And guys, you should provide the same.
Never tell a woman anything that makes you vulnerable, she will keep it stored for years to use when she needs it
She will use everything he says to attack him , she will always argue irrationally with everything
And then will say " why do you never talk to me "
Wow thank you for the wisdom of these ladies
I knew a girl who would always let people know how compassionate she was of men and her BF, and how her bf and men in general should open up to women more.
Well, few days later, there she is saying her bf is such a bitch because he shed a tear over a movie scene in which a dog gets dumped by its owner and dies painfully.
People, never believe what women say. Believe their actions.
And only believe their words when they come out when they are in their emotions, because they can only say so much, but almost all their decisions and actions will ultimately be based on how they feel in the moment.
there was a female MMA fighter on Joe Rogan who dumped her MMA boyfriend because he got caught in an arm bar and tapped out "like a bitch" even though she herself had tapped out plenty of times.
The woman at 1:30 is spot on about what men are looking for. And a man has to be _very_ selective about what he opens up to a woman about emotionally. Miss that, and she will start shopping for a stronger man. You're allowed 5 minutes of crying when your mother dies. That's it. No other reason.
100% agree... why most women never experience the realness of a true relationship!
The next generation of men have to learn this all over again. Their grandfathers knew this. Somehow their father's forgot or didn't learn it.
I don't believe that, and that definitely hasn't been my experience. There's a time and place. Never showing any emotions just means you're both living in la la land, knowing that shit is going on but choosing to ignore it. Sounds like a recipe for disaster to me
Not just your mother, any siblings, father, and close relatives.
So why... pay for this? YOu know that dont exist, you know you will get a parasite that depends on you, you know if you show any weak she will bail, when problem happens youre on a timer, fix it or se leave and take atleast half, the kid its not yours its hers and she will alienate then.
WHY PAY FOR THAT SH IT PRODUCT?
These three lovely ladies said much truth!
A woman I know and trust told me that “if a couple is good, secure and genuine and the woman works” they will share the house work, because the man should understand that he doesn’t have a house wife he has a working wife. And I said, so why is it then the that a man has to have a full time job, and still now the lawn, fix the car, fix what breaks on the house, get up to physically protect the family at the first sign of danger. Why is it that only the woman’s part of “housework” gets “shared”?
There is a difference between a weak man and a man going through some things. That is when it's the woman's job to comfort him. Not put him down, not try to take his place, not leave him. A woman should always be his soft spot and his peace.
I heard of a man having a breakdown because the pressure of being the foundation and supporter of the family was getting to him. His wife left. What she should have been doing is praying for him.
Praying is what you do when you want to want to help someone without putting in any effort. The rest is good though.
There is no difference in women's eyes anymore. None. Hasn't been for at least the past 20 years and it's getting exponentially worse. Walk away. They don't deserve us.
@LysippeLee I’m just curious as a female, what defines a weak man and a man just “going through things”? I speak for myself needing to know this answer personally. I bring extreme loyalty and honesty it pains me to lie and I’ve never cheated but have been cheated on. To be cheated on is that a weak male? Does addiction issues or should I say priority for addiction over family/wife make you a weak man? Or is that just a man going through something? What about when physical abuse is in the mix and children, what should I feminine woman do in those situations?
Loyalty. 100%, that woman knows. Loyalty is one of the most important things on our lists. Someone who seeks peace is a positive important trait as well.
My ex has been living with her new(est) boyfriend for awhile and has been sending subtle (and not-so-subtle) feelers out to see if I'd ever consider getting back together, which is a hard pass from me. One of the things that she has complained about, almost more than her current BF's alcoholism, is the fact that he cries often (in this guy's defense, he has been through a LOT of trauma and has a fair amount to be distraught about in life). My ex was amazed that the only time I cried when I was when it came to my interaction with my dogs and concerns for their health, particularly that of the fourteen-year-old heeler mix. I don't think that she will ever connect the dots that the reason why I can't sometimes stop tears when it comes to the dogs is that they have provided me everything that she refused to: freedom to bear my soul and be loved back unconditionally.
I finally found a woman that has a mindset like this. When I have a tough day, she will listen to my problems, but if I whine too much, I can see her get annoyed and start to shut me down. You need to have a good balance of a supportive partner without turning her into your mommy you can go cry to at any time. I do a lot for her and she thanks me all the time for it. It makes me feel valuable and appreciated instead of like a slave always trying to please my master. Just simply being appreciated and recognized is all most men need and for the woman to not feel entitled to special treatment without also earning it. If you sit around all day creating problems to fight about because you're bored or "want to see the passion" of your man upset, you are probably a psychopath.
I can see why he left her
I opened up about my past to an ex and this was used against me. She just didn't listen to what I was actually saying at the time.
Never be too vulnerable. A women and a family depend on ur strength. They might say they want vulnerability but cry in front of ur women and shell never look at u the same
Respect, Loyalty, peace, and compassion are the most important traits.
As an older guy, who's almost 60, who's been married more than half my life, being loved and supported over decades of loyalty, is what matters to me. We both made and lost money, we both had and lost looks, we both had and lost sex. Those things actually come and go. It's what you are left with afterwards that you value.
I think if you are lucky you can determine what you value ahead of time.
Bingo.
Good to c someone happy. Enjoy each other❤
I am in my 60’s and have been married 42 years. I could not have said it better myself. There are ups and down, good times and bad, hot times and dry spells. She has been by my side through all of that, alway supportive (and I of her). As you get older you realize what really is important, love and loyalty, the rest is just distractions. However she may have a few more things on her list 😊
@@stewartfm2319 see
They have no concept of what you just posted. As today women know everything about everything. Just ask them. They will tell you they do..
I explained this to a young women why she was 18... She actually listened an invested her money in stocks. Can take care of herself. Avoided the College debt trap. But still has a boyfriend that is goofy as any 20 year old. The only think she wants is Loyalty. While he cares about her. It seem to work for both of them. As she does not abuse him but tells him she loves him anyways. Inpite of his faults and short coming. As they will work it as time passes..Then they really will know each other..
They talk a lot but say very little. Props to Pearl for being far more patient than I would ever be.
Blah, blah, blah, blah for 5 minutes. "So you mean loyal." Yeah. Blah, blah, blah, blah for 5 more minutes. "So you mean pure." Yeah. Jesus. Get to the point. This is another thing men want. Part of being his "peace" is getting to the damn point and shutting up otherwise.
@@ispep8882 Damn right!
That may be how you guys feel towards things, but clearly not all men are like you
Yes, the million words...too men turns into nagging. That's why women complain about us not listening. It's because, your talking to here yourself. I got the message in one minute, after that. I'm not listening. I have my direction already. Added words are nonsence unless I ask.
You think thats a lot, wait till you have a SO in the house 24/7. You will train your ears to hear that beautiful sound of a the cricket that you hated years earlier. That cricket will be your joy.
I get down on the fact I don’t have a GF or wife until I watch vids like this and remember how valuable my peace is!
As a man I would put respect and being desired above feeling loved. Love is important, but I think we want to be as much her world as she wants us to be her world. Wives respect your husbands. Husbands love your wives.
The woman on the end couldn’t think of one thing a man would potentially want because it’s not something she’s ever thought about in the first place.
Total narcissist
But the woman on the apposite end it a total Queen. Once in a lifetime girl
All you need is one💍
The lady speaking at 2:35 nails it for me. As a man I want a ride or die loyal woman who admires me and believes in me. She's not going to leave me when I stumble and that gives me the security and strength to persevere no matter what. It's the ultimate motivator for me.
I'm lucky, my wife is exactly like this. She's seen me hit a real low before and she knew I would come through it, no doubt. Now whatever is mine, is hers also.
5 minutes in nailed it for me
Anyone have the link to the full show?
She is wise. I have known my wife since we were 9, I am 43 now. We have not so much as argued, because, we understand each other and respect each other. She is my world, and I hers. We love being around each other. I couldn't imagine saying or doing anything to hurt her, it just doesn't exist with us. We can literally tell how the other person is feeling just by being around each other, without words and we both know how to lift the other up. We don't have negativity in our lives because we appreciate who we have. We been poor, we been broke, we rose together. It is about paying attention. If i notice she is out of something, i don't care if its 3 am, i go out and get it for her. She will never do without anything. She has no wants. I keep that list checked. She does the same for me.
Would be great to have a women be loyal and help me thru my struggle. Too bad it aint like that anymore.
That should be the bare minimum. If she can't so that then she can't be with me.
At least we know what to expect now even if it's brutal. Before alternative media this kind of information was not common knowledge. False hope can be dangerous
Everyone has heard the expression "Don't argue with stupid people. They will bring you to their level then beat you with experience." Same concept "Don't get emotional with a woman. They will bring you into an emotional argument and they have a hell of a lot more experience than the man"
I think that lady was bang-on the money when she said men want love. A lot of things come with love. So as soon as you love, people are automatically loyal, helpful, thoughtful, peaceful, forgiving, kind, caring
3 out of the 4 of those answers to the first question were solid. Good for them.
I have heard a lot of testimonies from men about stuff they dealt with over the course of their lives (some of it rather horrifying and you would have no idea just by looking at them). They have baggage they bring into the marriage. If/when they start to open up about it and their spouse is dismissive or chooses to weaponize it, that destroys the relationship so fast.
Even when they dont weaponize it, they often cant handle it. Like they dont like how men express it, so they have to make theirbman "learn" how to express themselves. Women have to stop changing men and learn to appreciate them
I can relate.. Happened to me.. You can't believe the EVIL a woman can be..
This happened to me exactly. I woke up from a war dream with a start and my wife asked me what’s wrong. I told her it was just a dream and that I miss my buddies.
She has been going around bringing that shit up every chance she can. From friendly conversations with friends to arguments, to medical conditions at the doctors office. Keeps telling everyone I have PTSD without regard to my request to stop.
@@hieug.rection1920 Leave for a while see how she likes that
Loyalty, affection, lack of conflict, calm discussion of issues. Sex isn't the most important thing, but having someone to help take care of the day to day.
8:40 When he crubmbles, as we all eventually do, the wife/friend/gf better be able to remember that he's still the same person. Just because he's upset or something bad happened doesn't change or nullify everything else.
Thanks!
I just dated a lawyer who made $25k a year more than me. She was constantly broke and her credit was garbage. I paid the bills and am never broke.
What do men want? Speaking for myself I just want my woman to be nice to me . At my age , everyone has baggage. Just be nice and loyal.
Just be nice💯
Get someone younger without baggage.
@@boobo No one is devoid of baggage. No one.
@@boobo she was 41 I’m 53
Just to show you that most women are spenders of money not savers and investors of money.. everyone isn't Oprah Winfrey
The "opening up to women" point Pesrl is spot on. Women mis understand this.
The situation is that women want to feel like they have an emotional connection. However, that is not a man opening up, as this leads women to loose respect for him.
@ Dnomyar Akunawik
Sure sweetheart.
Did pearl lose weight?🤷♂️
Never ever cry in front of a woman. They will see you as weak and ultimately despise you in spite of all the 'show your feelings' rhetoric.
10 years and didn't learn much of anything?? Woah.
I was married for 3 and a half years, learned a lot about myself, about my ex wife, and a lot about that lifestyle of being married, and all the things she taught me.
But 10 years and you're still clueless? Either all you are is buried in your work or you're completely self involved even at home. Probably both. Who would want to stick around that?
She was deflecting with humor, but it was still disgusting and shocking to watch.
Imagine asking a retired professional athlete for advice about their sport and they say, "Haha you've really put me on the spot I've never thought about it before. I'm no longer a professional so I must not be very good, right?"
@@TrenchcoatJesus Fantastic analaogy 👍
FACTS. I learned a ton from a lot of relationships, I thought that was such a weird answer too. Line she never considered that before "what do OTHER ppl want".
Let's be real for a moment.
Women do not necesarily have to learn anything.
All they have to do is say a man was abusive or narcissistic and everyone believes them, pities them, gives them " a chance at the happiness they deserve" and is then confused wile she failed again. LOL
She simply didn't care about what a man wants.
Loyalty, respect, love and peace is what we want, it’s not hard or complicated.
Exactly, if you are married to someone who will use your own words against you. That tells you what kind of person she is.
No matter what these women say. It comes back to something that benefits THEM !
And men. We are *all* egocentric.
@@MixUpTheVideos nah.
Yeah you are right about that. It’s why they file for divorce more often because, it wasn’t enough for them and they always look for better
Marshall, we're not all like that (this is Mrs. Rick speaking).
@@Beanie3500 And good luck to them. Women with kids in their 30's are going to play hob finding a good man. The pool has done shrunk, ladies.
Thank you
My mom died 3 yrs ago and i was devastated from it. I had a relationship back then and the only thing that i could think of was talk it with her. She Left after 3 weeks cause i was in too much pain mourning and crying she said i wasn't paying enough attention to her anymore and to her problems and her feelings basically telling me i was selfish....
From that point on i decided to never ever talk about my real painful emotions whith a woman.
You also dodged a bullet. Imagine marrying such a person, investing years of your life, only to have her decide she deserves more, leaves, and destroys your life in the process.
Oh my word. That's a devastating loss. 3 weeks is hardly any time to move through the grief cycle. Completely useless and selfish woman. However, not all women are like that. I, for one, will die for my man. 52 now, known him since 14, married at 23 and we could write each other's diaries. We trust each other because we have proven our loyalty and reliability. There has to still be women of honor out there for you.
@@kpage592 You're next to impossible to find today, you're both lucky to have each other.
@@petebrown6356 i do really hope you find someone if that’s what you want. Still shocked by that woman’s cruelty.
@@kpage592 Words. Empty words... Prove your word true or shut the fuck up.
1:29 I believe that's the first time on Pearl's show that I've heard any of these women say "I THINK", and that puts her ahead of the others. And she was actually very reasonable and fair with whatever she said.
My ex always downplayed 3 life changing situations I went through, with two being near death experiences personally to me and the third being the death of my child from a prior relationship. She would laugh and tell me to man up and just get over it, yet she was a pill popping near alcoholic to sort out her own issues, whilst I didn’t have thous crutches.
I would never open up to a woman. If I need advice I speak with close male friends - that way I get an honest response and being men, it is never held against you.
That kanye jacket and justin beeebeer hair is not helping her chances. But she knows thst. She wouldnt even change her look..no chance she is going to change her values or personality
I agree. She's probably going to be single for the rest of her life.
From an old married (47 years, so far), man, the lady at 5:45 really gets us. My Wife was close to her Mother, but on her own for a few years and was a secure person in her own right, and has made a great partner, sharing the work and the responsibility, without a personal vindictiveness for anything she had already experienced. I was oldest of 5 kids, she was youngest of 5, and we almost had 4 babies; we lost two and have two big kids in their 30/40s now. . If I may, look at a large bowl, with a coffee mug in it. If you fill the coffee mug full and overflowing with contentedness for the wife, the overflow which fills the big bowl is shown as caring and love for the man. Work hard for your team of two /with kids, someday. At wedding, don't you see TWO become ONE? Love her and her concerns, whether dealing with life's problems or family on either side. She will probably do the same. Don't throw one good relationship away to chase a younger, as the problems you have you will have to work through again. LUCK
Don’t call your husband or your wife your partner. They are your spouse, they aren’t a partner in crime or business partners. A spouse is much more than a partner.
My father died of cancer, then about a year and a half later my mom died of a pulmonary embolism, 2 weeks after that my wife left me cause I was too depressed.
Never show weakness.
That wasn't weakness, her leaving was. She didn't know how to support you or didn't want to. Either way, you're clearly better off without her. Sorry about your parents, many blessings to you
Man.... Sorry to hear this... I dunno if it's don't show weakness, it's more like don't date losers like that. I cried for 2 weeks when my mom died and my wife was there for me. When I lost my first job I cried as well and she held me. You need to find a better breed.
she missed the part she agreed to that says "for better or for worse" or however it goes in english... you stand side by side in the bad times and you celebrate in the good times...
@@those1kidds Yep. I lost my dad about 14 years ago and cried for him. I just put my dog down last week and cried for him too. My wife cried with me both times.
Your weakness left you when she left. You dodged a bullet my friend i know someone that went through that same exact thing and met the love of his life afterwards. God bless you rest in paradise
The lady in the white blouse with the green lizards on it has some very valid points.
Agree. She nailed it.
Respect if key. Belief and understanding. Yes a shared support system.
I 100% demanded my wife work. Yes, I did half the work at home. I fix everything and painted, etc. I take pride in taking her car to fill it up with Gas. Little thing like that lead to APPRECIATION! We have a great relationship but mostly because we are 100% honest. "Do you like my new top?" She asks. "No." "I love it so I am going to wear it anyway." It is not hard to understand.
men should not "open up" to their wives or GFs. In the short term it makes her feel like she is being helpful and happy, and the guy will like it because he will think he can trust his wife and relax. But in the long term what really happens is he shares his insecurities or uncertainties, She sees his weaknesses and stops seeing him as a strong provider, he becomes less impressive, less reliable, less of a king and more of a man and less of someone who is above her in status. This makes him less sexy. And when the sex stops her pair bonding will stop, and eventually she will lose respect for him. Then she will use the stuff he shared with her against him at some point. "anything a man says will be used against him" And then she will have betrayed him, in sharing stuff with her friends or during some fight because women don't argue to be correct, they fight with emotions to make the other one cry or lose their cool. And then trust will be gone. And the relationship will die. Men must be stoic.
Well said.
Nah. Just put your assets under your mind name and they will respect you to agree dies then put it in a friend's name
I completely disagree.
It is not even an evil thing. The evolution demamded that. It was hard out there. We can cry and be emotional with our close male friends. But if you be like that she and the children are in danger. She has to drop you and find someone else or she and your and her kids would face death soon. It is deep in the brain. It made humans survive millions of years, you cant change evolution in 5000 years of civilisation. No blame here- we just need to know.
Loyalty and not having to question it, peace and tranquillity at home.
Thanks
Women certainly DO realize exactly what they’re doing when they “mine” for personal info then use it against him. It’s a learned behavior and it’s definitely malicious.
Imagine someone telling you that you cant voice your feelings or emotions because she might leave you or judge you.
TO ALL MEN READING THIS: Any woman making you feel bad for communicating your emotions, crying, or anything related to expressing how you feel... is not worth a second of your time and should be immediately put into the trash bin of your mind were they have always belonged.
I'm thinking a good shit test would be to tell her something very personal that's a complete lie.
Then when she throws it in your face as weakness, tell her that it was a lie and she failed the test.
There's the door. Get out.
@winder2793 -- This is just how women are built. 100%. If you want a friend, get a dog.
@@protorhinocerator142- your playing with fire kid. testing & liying to your 'so' is a bad idea. you either want to earn their respect by giving them respect or you're not the right person for them and the relationship will struggle.
@@Champaign268 Women invented the shit test. They do it all the time. Men need a response. Women weaponize men's emotions. Men don't do that. This is fair.
This goes to show none of these women have a clue what men want. Just one thing, (well, two 😂) but the main thing is respect. Respect us for choosing you, respect us for protecting you, respect our feelings (yes we have them, but don’t burden you with them), respect us for providing for you, respect our loyalty to you by returning that loyalty. Just having that respect makes us have faith in the relationship.
N.B. Never disrespect your man unless you are happy for him to leave you. (And vice versa guys!)
Just support him when he's down he will be stronger when you're there to help him.
I like the way Pearl can "undress" these women by asking them obvious questions, and then repeating the obvious question after each evasion. If a man did that, they would scream "bully"