A Pride-Themed Q&A Video - all your questions answered!
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- čas přidán 15. 06. 2024
- It felt like time for another Q&A video and in the spirit of Pride month, I invited you to ask any LGBTQ+ themed questions about me or my dolls. You did not disappoint!!
One of the questions was about openly LGBTQIA agtubers I enjoy. I answered this one on the fly and the content creators I mentioned were: @DisBlaine @superfundolls @Obsessed_dollboyag @Agforeva96
Content creators I either forgot to mention in my haste, or who I learned were part of the LGBTQIA community after editing this include: @FixMyAGDoll @americangirlfilms @AGsunflowers @cheekyceci @idreamofjonny Feel free to self-identify in the comments if I missed someone OR if you know of a channel whose creator is openly LGBTQIA and I'll update this list. I'll also add to it as I remember more of them ;)
I hope you enjoy this long video and I appreciate you spending some time with me today :)
-Kristie (agtakesover@gmail.com and @ag_takesover on IG) - Zábava
Hi from a nonbinary person, your answers to the pronoun questions were great!
Thank you for sharing and educating. I really liked how you said to ask seemingly cisgender people their pronouns to normalize asking people for their pronouns. It makes us trans people feel less like “the exception.”
-Dallas (he/they)
Yes. Most of us do not like feeling like the exception, especially when the societal implication is that it's an exception to what is good and natural and desirable. Thanks for watching, Dallas :)
Bi erasure is so real. Loving this video and your openness! ❤🌈
It really is! Even as a queer person, I have to occasionally remind myself that people's sexuality cannot be guessed by the person(s) they are with (even if that relationship spans decades).
Thank you for making this video. As a fellow collector and a mom of a young adult who is trans and another child who is questioning, I feel more of these conversations need to happen.
Thank you for being open and your story both challenging and uplifting. My oldest has lost friends just because she is trans. Collectively we both have lost family members because they are not accepting and myself losing friends because I love and affirm my LGBTQ child and others.
Thank you for being here and sharing your life and love of the AG community.
I'm so sorry you and your children have lost friendships and family members because of their inability to open their hearts and minds. But I'm so, SO glad your children have you in their lives. You're not just helping *them* feel safe, accepted, and loved. I imagine you are also a positive and important person in their friends' lives, too. My older kiddo has told me repeatedly throughout my life that several of her friends have noted the way our relationship was rooted in respect and acceptance. It makes me sad that several of them don't have that with their own parents, but I also know it's been an opportunity to see that they *deserve* that love and respect. That, as the song says, "there's something wrong with the village."
I haven’t finished the video yet (mom life) but I wanted to comment now and let you know how much I’m loving it so far. I appreciate your openness on not just this topic but sharing your experiences in general. I’m sure you know by now how much I look up to you. I’m so glad you’re here on AGtube and beyond proud of the work you’ve done here ❤
Oh, Evelyn, thank you. I'm glad you're enjoying it and you know the admiration is mutual!
You made such a good point about queer women being so rare in the community. It’s rare in EVERY doll community, no idea why. It’s something that’s always intrigued me. The men are almost all day and the women are almost all straight.
I totally understand the men being here. When women try to enter predominantly male spaces they often encounter derision, resistance, and gatekeeping. When men enter predominantly female spaces, though, they are often met with gratitude, embraced, and even fawned over (ex: teaching, sign language interpreting, doll collecting, etc). What I don't understand, though, is the absence of visibility of queer women in the community (at least on agtube). That said, a couple Sapphic female agtubers self-identified in the comments, so pointing out the lack of visible presence seemingly helped :-)
Thank you for this video and sharing so much (and I had a crush on Kirk Cameron too, but again he was cute and how were we to know he’d get sooo crazy!)
You are so welcome! And yeah - I give us a pass about Kirk Cameron. Who knew?! lol
Queer female AGtuber here! Woohoo 🎉❤ thanks so much for making this video! I appreciated getting to know you a bit better and hearing about your thoughts.
Woot! So there are at least two of us lol. Thanks for letting me know :) I'm subbed to your channel and have watched several dolls but if you'd mentioned that in a video I must have missed it (or not watched the video/s where it's mentioned yet)
@@agtakesover no you’re totally fine, I have not mentioned it! I have yet to do a formal introduction video yet because I have too many doll videos to get through 😅
I am trans masc enby and it is so nice to see other queer folks in the doll space. I don’t tell anyone in offline spaces about my hobby, and it’s really weird that the only folks I see are either kids or middle aged cishet white ladies making videos about it. I have more of a focus on using found/recycled/handmade things in my dollhouse, so I am kind of niche within the niche, but it is so nice to see your content and realise that there is someone else out there who sees trans folks as human beings and holds space for us and also enjoys the same hobbies. Instant subscribe here. :)
Welcome! It sounds like you're maybe new to the channel - My dollhouses definitely aren't all DIY, but there's a bit of DIY in each of them and I do take on my fair share of handmade doll projects, so feel free to check out the tutorials playlist and the dollhouse playlist. And I'm 3 of the four things you described (middle aged cis queer white lady instead of middle aged cishet white lady lol) but I'm glad that one difference helps you to feel more seen and appreciated in this community!
I'm a Christian from a very conservative family... and there's aspects I am that way... but honestly... it's just about the person. There are some very ugly people portraying themselves as good people and they aren't... so I personally I getting to know you and our growing doll family... and my daughter is excited when we get to see you guys or I have your videos on... and it's because you've been so kind to her... she hasn't asked why you have a wife... you just are who you guys are because you're kind. I think that's more important.... respect and kindness.
Jessna, I read this a few times trying to make sure I understand it correctly. I'm still not sure if the overarching message is that you have come to question your family's/church's teachings about sexualities other than heterosexuality or if the message is that in spite of maintaining those beliefs you are able to appreciate people on an individual level.
@agtakesover I tried to go in and edit to make more sense and it wouldn't let me... stupid error. It's just a long winded way of saying... if a person is a good person to have in my life I want to accept and respect you as you are.
@@jessnawoods I'm afraid I'm still not totally clear. Do you also accept and respect LGBTQ+ people as they are when you don't know them or if they're not necessarily good to have in your life personally? The way I view people's sexuality is, "As long as it is consensual and rooted in respect, I don't have to personally understand it to support it." I'm trying to understand if it's an exception you make for individuals you feel connected to or if that acceptance and respect extends to queer people in general. Thank you for your patience and willingness to clarify.
Kirk Cameron was cute - Growing Pains y’all. And yeah, who knew about the crazy.
I’m so sorry your brother was not accepting and I’m so glad you found Grace.
Ah, Kirk Cameron. My childhood friend was into Headbangers' Ball on MTV and all her crushes were big-haired rockers. She always looked down at me for my Kirk Crush but not for the right reasons, apparently lol.
I just have to tell you that I think you have such a beautiful spirit and your love for people is so apparent in your videos. I love that. I really appreciate your transparency in sharing your experiences. As I’ve gotten older the more refreshing this feels - it’s so hard finding unapologetically honest people in this world. What I like about your comments is how you’re direct, but you have a gentleness when explaining your thoughts and opinions. You don’t give off bitter vibes that could potentially turn people away who need to hear what you have to say. Everything you’re saying regarding the LBGTQ+ community is important and needs to be heard. I want to believe that people who are opposed to Pride are only so because they’re uneducated and videos like this will hopefully open their minds to what it actually represents. I truly believe we are on this earth for each other and we all have a desire to experience love through relationships. What I don’t believe is that it’s only ok if it’s between a man and a woman. I will say that we have two women in our family who were together for a decade before they were able to get married, and let me tell you - they are the only marriage on my husband’s side that has not ended. How could that possibly be “sinful” like you said about yourself and Grace? Growing up in a Christian home I heard the whole “hate the sin, love the sinner” comment a lot. Sure, I feel like I can say this about things like lying, cheating, etc, but to equate those things to two people of the same sex loving each other? No. Jesus did not talk about homosexuality - He talked more about not judging others, self-righteousness, and looking out for each other. To a point where he got so angry at these things He kicked down tables at the temple to make His point. The conservative Christian community seems to forget this and they’ll do anything to spout out Bible passages that are taken out of context in order to fulfill their own agenda. It’s just gross. As a straight white woman living a cushy life in Minnesota, I have so much to learn about the lives of those who are in the minority and I enjoy hearing the advice you have for people like me who want to know how they can support you. There have been times when I want to ask questions but I feel like an idiot for even asking, or I’m afraid of coming off the wrong way. So your answers are a great resource for me.
How cool is it that you’re doing what you’re doing?? You’re an important voice in a stereotypically conservative doll community. What!? If you would have told me before Covid that I would be in various AG groups I would have laughed, but I found a way to use my love for art and design through these dolls. And it seems like the passion that you have for signing and educating others about the LGBTQ+ people and Pride is coming full circle for you through these dolls as well. I love it. Keep doing what you’re doing!
Becky, I finally found your comment (or did you take the time to send it all over again?) Thank you so much for your kind words. The part about being "direct but kind" comes up a lot at work, too - In addition to interpreting, I also train newly hired interpreters at my job. They are not always ready for the work and sometimes I'm the one who has to have the hard conversations telling them so. One of my managers regularly tells me they appreciate my ability to be direct but kind with those individuals. So maybe that is a personality trait/ability I've cultivated and it seems to serve me (and hopefully others) well.
I am so glad you ARE a part of various AG groups - your love of art and design has directly enhanced my love of these dolls :) And I am so glad that you are in this community - not just because of your talent - but because you bring kindness and a desire to learn and grow
I after talking to my minster I realized it is more important to be happy in what ever you’re relationships are
That was a conclusion your minister helped you reach? If so, that's great!
This is my reminder to edit my video for pride month as I’m running out of time! Thank you for talking about being in a straight passing relationship as a queer person. I realised I was Pan in 2020 (very much a PanDemic) but after organising my first date with a woman I ended up going on my first date with my current (male) partner of 3 years. Needless to say I did not end up going on that date. I always feel a little awkward during pride month as someone in a straight passing relationship so hearing your experience with your ex husband actually really helped me feel validated. Thank you for giving me Friday night validation
I'm SO happy that was validating. Our sexuality is not defined by our current relationships and Pride is most definitely for you! :)
this was so interesting, thank you for sharing so much of your personal history! I learned more about the LGBTQ+ community and the challenges (which surprised me as I've lived near San Francisco since I was in high school and Gay/Bi/Queer etc. have been more or less mainstream here for decades. You helped me realize that I've made some inaccurate assumptions and I definitely want to grow and learn and be more mindful!
I think you set such a great example of what a mature, respectful, loving relationship should look like. (not just in marriage, but in close friendships and within families)
Oh, thank you so much! I'm glad it was valuable. I love that you're determined to keep growing and learning and I'm glad you're in this doll community with that mindset.
15:18 I appreciate your boundaries in regard to the religious ideologies of saving face with the LGBTQA+ community with the love the sinner but not the sin. I have witnessed this hugely within the last 5 years since my father passed who was gay (he passed 10 years ago), they (family and friends) were homophobic when he was alive but retracted to this ideology after his passing. I definitely taking note of this boundary because it is so important to uphold respect on both dynamics of a friendship and relationship in a family. I appreciate the bravery you had to post this video Kristie! I loved hearing how you were impressed with societal progress in a positive light for younger generations in your parade video! I ended up purchasing Big Twist Living Pride yarn to make doll clothing inspired by the amazing outfits you had. It made realize diversity is not just exclusively to racial or ethnicity within the doll community and collections.
I'm sorry for the loss of your father - I lost mine around the same time you did. How horrible that family and friends weren't able to embrace him as he was. And yes, diversity among our dolls definitely goes beyond race and ethnicity. I do love how people customize and world-build with their dolls to create representation of disabilities, faith, gender, sexuality, etc that 99% of children's toy companies will never give us.
When I was about 12 years old I got called a lesbian at a waterpark and I started to question things because of that. I was holding hands with a girl. I honestly would love to write a book for American Girl about how young girls are judged at a young age and make a story about coming out and hoe reglion affects that and all the factors. I honestly think it would be a good teaching tool for young kids in general if they could hear a story about coming out from a child's perspective. ❤
I cannot imagine AG ever backing a book like that but I wholeheartedly agree that it could be a really helpful tool. Does that mean you did end up identifying as part of the LGBTQIA community?
This was a really amazing and important video. Thank you so much for creating this content. I really appreciate the points you made about asking "preferred" pronouns and "wanting" to create a safe space vs declaring a safe space. Those are two things I had not considered.
I also appreciate you sharing about how people stopped inviting you to pride events. I went through something similar. Both me and my partner identify as demisexual, but we are in a heterosexual relationship and cisgender. But when I was single, I was part of the LGBTQ community, but now that I'm basically passing as a straight person, I guess I lost my rainbow badge 😅.
I'm glad you enjoyed it and that it gave you some food for thought. Also, feel free to email me your address and I will send you a membership card so you can remain a member in good standing of the alphabet mafia! Erasure based on your current relationship is no fun.
Great video, im cis and straand old (56). I have fostered and adopted so i felt that pain and concrrn for my kiddos with school language about families. My youngest son is gay and my oldest daughter is bi so i really enjoy learning more. Your video is great, i love your openness
I'm so glad you enjoyed it (and that your children have your support and acceptance)!
I enjoyed this video a lot, maybe because I'm nosy. LOL
Nothing wrong with that - not like it's gossip if it's coming directly (not straight) from the horse's mouth lol.
¡Hola!
Right from the beginning this video is full of courage and generosity. Receive a loud applause from me
Thanks for sharing your intimacy with all of us!.
I really enjoyed your opinions and views on all the subjects in it. 🙃
Oh, thank you! I didn't end up turning off comments on this video or the Pride Parade one and, thankfully, I didn't get a single unkind comment
Thanks for sharing. I am neither queer nor a doll collector, but I love your channel and your openness. I went to the disblaine channel because of you a couple months ago and have been there ever since.
Oh, thank you so much! If you don't mind my asking, how did you first come across my channel. I've seen you comment and I guess I assumed you were likely a doll collector.
How very kind of you. I will pass that along to him. 💕🌈
Thank you for this!!!!!! I appreciate it so much!!!!!!
No problem 😊 I'm glad you enjoyed it !
This is a great video! Thank you, I deeply appreciate your openness and generosity in sharing so much of your story and your thoughts.
You are so welcome! I'm glad you enjoyed it (and grateful my family was okay with me sharing a bit about them).
Hi Kristie, I have been watching your video in small portions. It is very educational for me. The tips on how to ask about pronouns was very helpful. I tend to default to “they” when I am unsure. Many of my family, friends and coworkers seem to struggle with this concept and I find myself educating them in small ways. I have learned some new terminology both from you and in the comments. My darling friend Adam was very hurt by some comments he read in social media recently against gay men. He shared his frustration with me and we had some good heartfelt conversations. Thanks for all you do to support the doll and LBGTQ plus community. You are appreciated. ❤
Thank you for watching it - I know it's long but I'm glad you're finding it worthwhile (and that you're doing what you can to educate those around you when there are teachable moments). Tell Adam I am sorry he was hurt by others' unkindness and also a very Joyous Pride to him!
What a great video! I posted my previous comment before I finished the video - I had to briefly pause because of the munchkins. I appreciate all of the stories and insight you shared. It’s crazy to me that anybody could look at your relationship and family and think it’s lesser than. All I see is a loving & caring and healthy, happy family that I enjoy being around. I’m not saying I’m perfect, but I hope I always continue to learn and grow.
I’m also concerned with the regression that has been happening in this country in regards to civil, reproductive, and lgbtq+ rights and the possibility that these rights and also environmental protections could be further eroded fuels me for November.
I agree that AG will never have a trans character and will no longer show lgbtq+ representation at all. I think the inclusion of Kira’s aunts was a small step for them to test the waters and the backlash they received for that minute portion of her story and also the body book showed them it was unfortunately too much of a financial risk. It baffles me how the smallest things get peoples’ knickers all twisted. SMH…
Thank you, friend. I would love to be wrong about AG's future on this front, but I'm not optimistic. And I'm also super stressed about this upcoming election cycle :( Thank goodness for the good people in our lives to help make facing the scary stuff more bearable, right?
@@agtakesover I hope we’re wrong too. And yes, if things go south in a few months we’ll definitely need to rely even more on each other to get through.
A trans doll would be awesome ❤
Agreed. I can only imagine the unmitigated collective freak-out from conservatives, though.
you should definitely listen to the singer Chappell Roan if you haven't already. she makes songs about being openly sapphic and they're bops and i think you would like them
also as a trans person i think your answers for the questions about trans people/pronouns were correct. but then again i'm only 17 and don't know anything (taylor swift reference) so lol
I listened to Hot To Go (and watched the video tonight) and I didn't get any sense of sexuality from that one, but I'll check out some more. Also, sincerely thank you for pointing out the Taylor Swift reference. I would totally have been that dork missing the reference and telling you not to sell yourself short because of your age lmao. I remember once (eons ago) someone much younger than me posted on FB "I want you to make me feel like I'm the only girl in the world"...Not hearing those words *sung*, I didn't recognize them as song lyrics and I replied something about it being more valuable to feel like out of ALL the girls in the world someone prefers you than to feel like "the only one" lol. Once, when I was in high school, my boyfriend asked me if I liked Smashing Pumpkins. Totally serious (and a bit confused) I responded that I had never done it. God, I am NOT music savvy and apparently never have been lol.
@@agtakesover i totally get not understanding references. i never get references to tv shows cuz (with a couple exceptions) i mostly only watch cartoons and live action kids shows. and then i get confused when people don't get my Sonic the Hedgehog references lmao
anyway in terms of her songs that are openly about sexuality i'd recommend Red Wine Supernova and Good Luck Babe :)
Most of my dolls don't have a sexuality either I have one bisexual doll and one lesbian one and a few trans doll ❤
I often think that my sexuality is one of the least interesting things about me lol so I don't mind at all that my dolls generally don't have a sexuality ;-)
I don’t know if this is the right place to ask questions, but why do some straight people not want their children or family watching stuff that has pride things? because I wanted to watch the movie Nimona and we can’t watch it because there’s a “gay” relationship? It’s just really annoying ! I really wanna know why some people do this…
That's a really good question. I think most of them who do this think LGBTQIA folks are wrong or a perversion or sinful or whatever and they don't want their children seeing us because a) it could CoRrUpT them and/or b) they don't want to financially or socially support positive representation of us in the media.
also i'm an openly sapphic non-binary agtuber. i post the ag stuff on my other channel @cheekyceci and it's mostly shorts but i am working on doing more long form content
I just subscribed to your other channel :) Happy Pride!!