The 9 Enneagram Types at a Party
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Ugh. I'm a total type 9.. Won't actively seek out conversations, but people generally appear to enjoy talking to me. Usually though, if i'm not fully invested in the conversation because the topic is whack - which is most of the time, I'll start thinking of something completely different mid-conversation, and just scroll through my mental checklist of questions to ask and responses (looks like she's wrapping it up, better nod and say "absolutely" or "for sure"). All to not offend people and keep the harmony, while i'm secretly devising of ways to get out of there.
It's almost an art really, making it seem like your engaged in a conversation without really "being there". I've never really gotten the vibe that most people actively notice it, so it's very interesting to see that it is indeed working most of the time!
I do agree. I’ll continue tho conversation half interested imitating expressions to show engagement yet looking for a way to escape.
That is so me Hahahaha
I am the same way!
I'm also a 9, and I mentally drift all the time. But now that I'm aware I'm a 9, I have tried to change or when possible, engage in conversations which are meaningful to me. Meditation has helped me with this as well. I go back and forth between engaging and disengaging.
I think type 5 also has that type 9 habit of zoning out while pretending to listen, lol
im a 5 and im definitely guilty lol
I don’t know, I rarely do that. I mean, if you start talking to me when I’ve been pressured into a conversation then maybe, especially if youre talking about someone who is not you. But if I ask you something I’m going to listen, it might seem like I’m not but that’s just because I’m a little awkward.
I think a 5 would genuinely try to listen to what you are saying, only they would be playing video games at the same time. And if no video game is available, then they might be playing with a random object that appeared to be laying nearby ("no no I'm perfectly capable of listening to what you're saying while juggling with 3 knives").
Nines can also 'zone out' at a party, from my understanding. As she sort of says here 'take note.. they may not be all there' You may be experiencing that as uneasiness..
Haha! This was great to watch and thank you. As an 8 watching this I felt that this poor woman has been dominated by an 8 in her life and hasn't been too happy about it. It was hard for her to say positive things (what she said I would agree with but she left out a few things...like....8's like to have FUN...and for others to have fun at parties and in life. We like to inspire and help others. We like others to share their stories also...inclusion... It was fun to see this. Thank you...
Interesting! I'm a type 9 but I do feel the uneasiness/reservedness of a type 4 during a social gathering. Strangely enough, I don't think people can sense my anxiousness because they seem to like my company and generally be comfortable in my presence. I had to laugh at the part on drifting off during conversations. 100% guilty of that.
Rozartify I'm just trying to find my type and first thought 4 but now I've learned about 9 that's Def me. 4 & 9 seem to overlap a lot.
holy crap I am a super 9. if the conversation is whack I'm out of there. but you'll never know
Yes, her 4 description is more typical of 4w5. I know I've behaved like this at times. Not always, but this behavior can come out of me pretty naturally. A 4w3 might experience something different.
Yeah, I'm a 4w3, at first I usually feel unconfortable, but, as soon someone starts to talk to me I feel very loose and start talking with other people.
I’m an 8. I do find myself telling stories and drawing a crowd sometimes, but tire of the small talk pretty fast. If I’m bored, I might say something controversial, because I don’t care and it might start something interesting like an argument. Or I’ll just leave whenever I feel like it. I’ll usually be on time to the party, but I’ll wear whatever I’ve been wearing all day, because I honestly couldn’t give two shits about the social look. And if I’m at the party in the first place, it’s because someone I care about will be there. As in, I won’t show up just to be seen. Anyone else?
I did the test and i’m totally a type 5w4. Einstein was also a 5 but the type 5 is known to know a lot of things and they’re very intelligent. This is the only thing that I don’t have in common with this type I think.
I relate to the enneagram 4w5 and I can find this accurate. I can be so insecure and also I don't like to disrupt the group's harmony so I can only wait to see if they want me to integrate or not. But many times I've found that not paying attention to my insecurities and jumping in can be really helpful for them also to know that I'm interested in meeting them. By doing so I have met a lot of really nice people and had really good friendships.
Yes! You are so right to play against your type,especially in party scenerios. Your approach really works well with me,as well( I'm a 4,too). I tend to observe at the outset and see how involved I want to be socially and then act accordingly. Btw, this may not be a specific 4 trait since I can imagine most other types,except perhaps the 7 take this approach. From what I understand, an important aspect of working with the enneogram is to find ways to incorporate healthy aspects of the other types into our lives so that we experience more wholesomeness. Thank you for sharing.
Can you do a video on 4s? I think a lot of us feel pretty lost in life
+Liana Ge. True, for the 4s do some personal development courses it will help I'm an accredited Teacher of the Enneagram with The International Enneagram Association of America,
I have a nine personality, and people do generally tend to like me. I am geninually interested in what the person has to say and to make sure they are heard, but I can be listening to two conversations at once if my mind wanders.
I finally see myself as a 2w3!! I always test as a 2w3, possibly a 3w2, and I’ve not really felt I fit.
I think it’s because I AM a helper. I try to get people to talk and have a good time, but I will get distracted by things that need doing (like an empty punch bowl). I would probably recognize a 9 and just touch their shoulder every now and then so they know they’re noticed.
I'm a 5w4 and I definitely relate to the description of the 5 at a party. I just want to observe everything.
I find ,as a 4w5, there is a sense of fulfillment in observing and often that fulfilment is compromised by getting more involved. So, for me, I tend to allow myself a range of involvment depending on my mood.
I used to be petrified of 8's .. I'm a 4W5. My partner is a 5 and can lean towards the 8 as his integration .. and I've come to love it. When he shows his 8'ish ness, it's pretty healthy most of the time. I've found that the more I have grown and become accepting of myself, the more easily I find it to accept others, including the 8, who. believe me, pretty much scared me to bits a few years ago. If you're a 2 (directly linked), there may be an aspect of yourself there that you're not accepting
Great information! Thank you for sharing!
LOVE this video! Thanks for sharing
I have a test on this enneagram types today and using an example of how they interact at a party really helps me understand this better. Thank you.
Once you labeled everybody with numbers, ask them about their Zodiac signs. It will make a lovely party indeed!
4w3 are often the life of the party, holding court and letting their uniqueness sparkle.. I have witnessed this many times.
I'm a 9 and i dont drift off but maybe its because its my biggest pet peeve when others do that! try to be really present always.
So accurate for me as a 4!
As a 9, I do feel like 5s at parties. It's not easy for me to engage with people.
I totally knew the "drifting off, not really there" description was coming for the part about 9s lol
So interesting! I've done a lot of research on the Enneagram and would assume that I'm a 9 based on this, but I am also the one to drag someone on the dance floor, but I wouldn't want to be the spotlight, which was something that I did enjoy as a kid but as I've gotten older I don't like it as much for some reason.
Nines want everyone to feel like they belong.
Awesome video, so concise and easy-to-understand. I'm just starting to learn about the enneagram types and pretty sure I am a type 2. I also appreciate the description of the video about facilitating compassion & understanding. I truly strive for that, but I have to say, I have a great difficulty with type 8s. My compassion is lacking when it comes to 8s, I just don't like them! Do you have any advice, anything you can tell me about 8s that might raise my compassion for them?
I'm a nine and that is spot on
just learning about this sounds very interesting not sure what I am yet possibly a four or two
nice video :) who is the speaker?
So helpful! :) Thank you!!(9w1)
As in most likely a 5, I would want to die
I think the 2 you have described is the 2w3, The Hostess. I’m a 2w1 (The Servant), so I would be asking if anyone needs help getting food on the table, getting people drinks, etc.
That moment when you are a 4w3 and you drink and dance in order to be more chill at a party😂
I'm new to this, testing as a 9 with 2 exceptions, once a 2, once a 7. I zone out regularly, most people are comfortible around me, I'm lazy & very content, conflict-avoident to the extreme, usually partnes with the big energy types, 8, 7, 3. I might go to clean plates in the kitchen like the 6, but to one out/escapeI do expect appreciation, tho, like the 2, & can be manipulative, as well as passive-aggressive.
Accurate observations! The 1 and 3 descriptions were spot on for my parents. The 4 and 5 descriptions were true for me as well. As a 5w4 who integrates into an 8, I can be such an energetic loudmouth if the opportunity presents itself.
Parties I go to usually have 2s, 3s, 6s and 9s. 2s & 3s seem to dominate any party, with the 6s and 9s following them to join in on the fun.
e8s are more honest than e1s in general; it's just that 1s are more obsessed with imposing their linguistic & behavioral norms/narratives that they've internalized & identify with upon others (aka judgmental criticism); not bashing 1s, just giving my experiential take (I'm a 5 btw)
@enneagramuk I'm new to all this and I am sure that there are many different forms of interpetation on these questions, but one site I just looked at after having done a quick Google search suggested that a six might move in a nine-ish direction when getting healthier, and the idea of a Britain arcing towards a more peacemaking direction is an interesting one.
Ok, I really think its unfair to say the 8s would "share stories to show their power/make sure you know not to fight them." I mean, maybe if the 8 is REALLY unhealthy, but geez.
I had the same feeling when she talked about type 4. I might feel like I don't fit in, but I think my 3-wing makes me a pretty sociable person.
I also think this has a lot to do with your tritype - I'm a 497 and might behave like a 9 or a 7, depending on the situation.
@enneagramuk Fascinating!
I find the 4 to be accurate.
To what extent are we a particular type and to what extent is it undynamic and limited to characterise people as one type or another in a rigid typology rather than a view whereby we have all elements but certain preponderances and propensities and certain trajectories towards patterns that may be healthier or less healthy depending on how they suit us and our environments? And can we describe families, countries and so on as also having propensities towards certain types, not just individuals?
As a 5 I'd rather think than watch. In fact party situation makes my mind uncomfortable and makes forming a metaphysical thoughts very hard.
Metaphysics!!!
Well i,m a 5 but i always thought there were only 3 types...those who can count ...and those who cant
@enneagramuk Fascinating, thank you for your replies.
What a beautiful woman.
I'm a 3w2 and the description of the 3 was me to a T, with a bit of the 3 thrown into it. I usually clash with the 7s and 8s in a social environment for the attention/control. Anyone else feel this way?
Matthew O'Brien , me too! 3w2
also agree with you about 7 & 8
I feel to know I'm a Four, but can I have this dance with you anyway?
edit: emotionally honest
@enneagramuk Really interesting, thanks.
Ok so the world keeps getting more introverted due to technology. We have way too many 4,5,9s up in this joint.
I'm an 8. Bow before me ;) haha
@enneagramuk What enneagram type is Britain?
Yes 7 😎
How would you link mbti with the enneagram?
Don't, MBTI is bullshit. Stick to Big Five and Enneagram.
I know it's a bit late but if you still want to know, there's an article about how the two systems are different and which mbti types correlate most with the enneagram types: www.quora.com/Are-there-any-correlations-between-enneagram-and-MBTI
@@GentlyFadingIntoMuse well if we are being honest, they are all bullshit. But that doesn't mean they aren't fun and interesting. Stop being a snob.
i’m not sure whether i’m a 5 or a 9..
I think I am 9 and married to a very strong 8. Has anyone found anything about making this work?
My 8 to 9 marriage lasted 27 yeard
I'm a type 5 the observer. Mostly I don't care parties, except when I meet a deep person. Then I would really like to have a dyadic conversation of some interesting topics. Unfortunately, only about 30% people are highly intuitive.
I'm a 7w6, but according this, I'm an 8w7 XD
not sure if i'm a 4, a 5 or a 9.
crazitaco Im The 3! You can have a tritype and mine is 459, if you search for this tritype on the web you’ll see
I'm not sure if I'm 7, 4 or a 9
I'd be hovering around the food or outside with a blunt and a deep conversation.
Banane Wane 4. Haha
I'M a 9!!!! lol!!!
@enneagramuk It is not in correct. I can clearly see myself as being the introverted and reserved person. I hate people who are craving for recognition, so I would never push myself to the fore.
7w2 :)
nakedspaniard your wing has to be one of the numbers next to your number
6w7 babeyyy
Shit. I'm 7wing6
I disagree with your type 4, they have to stand out in a crowd and attract others by wearing stand out colours or wearing something different, they love to feel special!
That is SOOO NOT IT. You seem to me trying to make them sound like "snowflakes".
Their outfit has nothing to do with anyone else at all. It simply is their way of expressing themselves. They don't do it for attention. That's far from their motivation. They do it to feel grounded and steady in themselves.
this is so stereotypical
and I guess she is above all this?
Sorry, it might be interesting, but so boring that not possible to watch all