DON'T FALL FOR THESE | 8 Wedding Party MYTHS You Don't Have to Follow
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Here is a budget idea for wedding party proposals! I went to the thrift store and found them picture frames that matched each person's aesthetic. Inside, I write out a little note that said, "I couldn't picture my day without you!" Then, after the wedding, I can gift them the photo of us to put in the frame.
Love this
I love that idea!
I literally verbally asked them lol
You could go to the dollar tree.
I just asked..
Does anyone else think Jamie’s eye makeup is always STUNNING yet also natural , like how?😍
yes! I think we need a tutorial lol
YES and I'd love a tutorial
Yesssss! And agree, I would click that tutorial so fast!
Another for the tutorial. haha.
Voting yes! We need a tutorial lol.
After deciding between family only, best friends, and “if we add Julie, then we have to add Hannah” . Our wedding party grew way too big. SO we decided to just forgo a wedding party altogether. Way easier.
Yes. And so much cheaper... 😉
We got married without guests, just my wife and I. It was a great das! Then, we invited our family and friends seperately to dinner at a nice Restaurant to tell them and to celebrate. No wedding tax at all. Totally stress free and we saved so much money!
Instead of a big wedding party, we treated ourselves to a fancy honeymoon. 😉👍
Although I married an American 32 years ago I planned our wedding less American style and thus saved us a boatload of money. (The only American "things" were him, his friends, the rings and the invitations.) My mother (being a semi-professional seamstress) made my dress and I bought shoes I could definitely wear again. So I had the wiggle room to pay for her dress and my dad's suit. There was a lot of pretty and delicious diy-ing and all in all I think we stayed well under $1750. You really don't need all the OTT stuff. (Considering that by the end of the 20th century 60% of all marriages ended in divorce, shouldn't we be re-thinking how we wed and spend more time etc on the marriage?)
Slightly mean thing to say but I think it applies to your point that people aren't going to change personalities just because you got engaged...no one cares about your engagement as much as you and your partner do. Doesn't make them selfish or bad people to have, just don't expect to show some bridezilla behavior and people tolerate it.
i would like to hear your perspective on wedding trends. The ones you like, the ones you don't and why. I kind of feel lost with all the inspo and being unsure if i actually like sth. or if i just saw it on Pinterest so much that i know think its cool. would really appreciate your take on that.
Also another myth: your MOH has to plan your bachelorette. I LOVE planning trips and I also have a slight issue with relinquishing control over a day that matters so much to me. So I took the responsibility of planning all the details of my bachelorette party but I included my MOH in building the Pinterest board for inspiration. This allowed her to be involved but not responsible which took stress off her too.
I am the same way and am planning my bachelorette party! Nice to know I'm not the only one lol. I am of course including my MOH and bridesmaids for ideas and fun things to do but they were happy and releived to let me plan most of it
Thank you, its something I've thought about because I too love planning trip and want to enjoy what is done without telling my MOH/bridesmaids what to do/plan so maybe I'll follow your lead or all plan it as a group. Plus even though I know my girls I haven't picked a MOH yet and not sure if I plan to.
You don't even need a bachelorette/bachelor party. That's one way to save money or let the person throwing you one keep their hard-earned cash.
#9: You don't have to have a wedding party at all! ♥️ We are not having a wedding party because why bother defining roles? I don't want to put that added responsibility on people. I can still "get ready with my girls" if I want to without having them stress over a dress and standing up there with me. Sounds uncomfortable and unnecessary.
I decided to not have a bridal party after my cousin's wedding. After being a bridesmaid a few times, I figured I was just a picture filler. I could be doing better things on the morning of the wedding than waiting around for picture taking. I told my best cousin and long time friends that I'm not having bridesmaids. They were disappointed but l just don't want to waste their time and I really want to be alone and just with my sister before my wedding.
This is what I'm doing too
Ugh it seriously bugs me that your channel doesn’t have more subscribers. Your channel is so great, informative, entertaining and much needed for so many brides to be. I even started letting ads play (something I never do…like EVER) because you mentioned in a video that it helps pay the bills (which I didn’t even think of like that). So even if no one else tells you, I appreciate you Jamie for all that you do for us subscribers!! God bless you and your lovely (humans…lol) family ! 💯🙏🏽♥️
For my cousin’s wedding (which is the best wedding I’ve ever been to) she had two official bridesmaids but then like 5 other “girl gang” members, we all wore blue dresses but they were slightly less fancy than the BMs. The groom only had one man, and it was the bride’s step father. He was great, the whole wedding was great even though it basically was all 90% planned and put in place in less than two weeks. 😅
Am I bingeing this entire channel? Why yes, yes I am :)
Her first tip was the reason my parents decided a month out of my wedding to not pay for what they had already committed to pay for and that included the venue and a couple other vital aspects that we couldn’t afford(and they knew that) 😒😠. I’m not bitter at all. It didn’t make a difference though, we eloped with just our daughter and we’re having a vow renewal now that we’ve been married for 10years.
Regarding youngsters in the bridal party: We are having our ring bearer's grandparents sit strategically to "catch" the little one if he doesn't make it to the front or if he's too antsy to stand there with us.
Be sure to tell the little one that grandparents may do that.
I've been one of two groomsmaids in a wedding, she and I wore the same as the men from the waist up (our jackets however were tailored for women) and Calvin Klein pencil skirts that were dead ringers for the jacket material. It turned out great and the bride loved it 😁
When you've been a fan for a while now and still aren't even engaged 😂 and there's an AWESOME special offer for your programs. Hopefully when I do finally get engaged you will still be doing amazing offers! Love you Jamie!
Oh my god!!! My grandma is literally my only bridesmaid!! Well technically she’s my witness for the marriage!!!
Hello, I thought I'd share a "wedding party" idea! Just like in Jamie's video, we had budget concerns (not only for us but didn't want to burden members), an unbalanced number on each side (2:5), fiancé also wanting just us two at the alter and sweetheart table, drama, etc. We thought up a few plans like the ones Jamie mentioned (get your own attire, one line procession that circles around to sit, etc). I brought up possibly forgoing the wedding party to my planner but also mentioned my lingering feelings of wanting to get ready with company and taking wedding party photos. She suggested having "VIP guests" as an option whom we would invite for lunch/tea time during getting ready hours and take group photos with before the ceremony without stressing about what to do "formally" for the wedding. We still haven't decided but we're thinking of doing that with one MoH and Best Man to help with my bouquet, dress, and rings.
Thank you for breaking the gender role myth for the bride & groom! I'm having both bridesmaids & bridesmen. There was once a bride who had 22 bridesmaids & while she had some of them at the alter with her & the other were standing on both sides of the aisle as Biblical Bridesmaids holding lantern to light the way for the wedding procession. Can society also stop telling brides it's all about them & that's their day when the fact of the matter is their wouldn't be a wedding in the 1st place if the groom hadn't proposed? It's the groom's day too & the wedding industry & society gases up so many brides then acts offend or put off when they turn into bridezillas. I am so glad you tell the truth when it comes to wedding planning
I had two sets of sisters (no relation to me) who are super important to me and had an influence on my husbands and my relationship (our pastor's daughters were openly rooting for us to get married before we even started dating). They were too old for flower girls and too young for bridesmaids so we made them hostesses. We gave them mis-matched lace dresses in the same colors as the flowers, matching hair combs to wear however they liked, and put them in charge of greeting, ushering, helping with dessert, helping the camera folk, making the dance floor rock, and general fun. They were happy to be involved and certainly made the day run smoothly. You don't need hostesses, but it's a nice way to honor people who don't fit smoothly into another, more typical, position.
I love how you just give us permission to do whatever we want!!! No rules no restrictions, just whatever we love and have dreamed of. Thanks girl ♥️♥️
Is anyone else commenting/liking just to help the algorithm and help Jaime get her 100k?
my favorite bridesmaid gift was from my friend. We carried artificial flower bouquets and ther mother in law made jeweled vases to display them in after. It was very simple but so thoughtful!!
I'd love to see a video of different ideas of how to honor and include people who arent in your wedding party? For example my brother and I are very close but hes not much for public speaking and same with mine and my fiance's parents how do we honor these people without making them feel uncomfortable
Jamie, you look GORGEOUS in white!! You are just glowing in this video!
I love your idea of mixing groomsmen and bridesmaids on each side! Never heard of that but I love the symbolism behind mixing families/friends. I am having just my two sisters and my fiancé is having his sister as the “Best Woman”. It’s keeping things super simple, which is extra nice when planning during the current state of the world.
Ah yes, planning during the plandemic...when undignified dignitaries could wed without (anti) social distancing and the daughters of kings got to throw birthday bashes -all while common folks were locked up in isolation inside our own homes.
I already got married. Yet here I am. Still watching.
Thank you thank you thank you! I keep telling my fiancé that we don't need the same number of people on each side!
Your videos keep me from going insane with my DIY planning! I can’t thank you enough!!
Agree on all points. I asked everyone who would be offended if I didn’t do my confidence. One turned it down for financial reasons and we are still on great terms because I understand. So I have now have an equal number of bridesmaids to groomsmen. With her it would have been one more.
OMG Jamie! I needed this video today! I’ve been planning my bridal party and struggled so much! This video helped me figure out a lot of things. Thank you for making videos for us budget brides who can’t afford a wedding planner/ coordinator! 💕💕
I was the best woman at my brothers wedding. It was a last minute step in, but he confided that he wanted to do that in the beginning but he didn’t know you could have groomswomen (men & weddings lol) I was Sooo excited and our family/friends loved it, they were like “duh...y’all are two peas in a pod”.
I'm already married but I still enjoy watching your videos and I agree with so much of this. Our groomsmen had mismatching suits (just told them all to buy a medium grey, looked beautiful in photos!).
There were definitely some friends I still wanted apart of the day but we did not want a large bridal party so I asked other super close friends to do readings for us/ stand in as ushers to walk my mom, grandma and dog down the aisle. Haha.
Tip #7 was amazing!!! This is the best Wedding Planner/ Advice channel ever. Alot of wisdom here.
We didn't have a bridal party at all, and it was wonderful! Every single one of our guests got to just enjoy. I wouldn't change it! :)
I'm from Brazil and it's very interisting to notice the differences between the ceremony styles, like, the bridesmaids and groomsmen sit through the whole ceremony, they do not stand next to the bride and groom. And it's not a common thing to make them use a matching color or color palette, although it is becoming a trend recently... Other thing is, I never went to a wedding that has seating charts, the guests always sit wherever they want, the only reserved table is the family's table. The toast is not made by friends and family, the bride and groom give a quick speech and them everybody toasts and it's done!
That’s interesting! I may use some of the traditions from your country 😀
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You're such a life saver and an amazing open minded loving person! You have been a BLESSING helping me plan my wedding for 2022
Could you do a makeup tutorial? Your eye makeup always looks amazing! Thank you for this content and enabling us to make choices we feel comfortable with
Oh my gosh! I'm planning my wedding for 2023 and I've been wanting to buy the master plan but I don't want it to go away before the big day! This bundle would be amazing!!!! (My fiance and I are paying for everything ourselves so we pushed the date out to allow us plenty of time to save and budget)
I think you could have also included in your list that you're not at all obligated to have a wild bachelor/bachelorette party
I just made that remark in response to someone's comment!
I so love your ideas on being more reasonable in regard to the wedding planner and wedding. I found your channel when looking for information on favors, so many of them are just thrown out and I have seen thrift store mugs as a take home and then the rest go back to a thrift, such a great idea. Going into the event with obligation on any side is not healthy. Another thing is that you do not have to invite children. Instead of the gifts back it off of expenses. We have a wedding venue near us, we cringe each time. Each event they do not consider parking and guests block fire lanes, alleyways, driveways and even get locked into gated lots. What is obvious to the event people may not be obvious to guests. In our case police and ticketing is often involved. Anything outside becomes litter so sparklers are found in landscaping, found by pets and in car tires. We are still finding gold confetti from three years ago. We often find monogramed things in the trashcans and our landscaping. People will carry it out-then toss it. Whole bouquets and even food is tossed onto storm drains or behind landscaping, think rats. BTW love your ideas on the suits, would also work for bridesmaid dresses, so considerate of all involved and I will share this on recycling pages. Goodwill has online options which might make it easier to find them. The other day out looking for gardening pots I found racks of Ballews/Memphis TN wedding dresses new with tags, also bridesmaid and short/long formals/prom dresses at a 'Discount Store'. $50 brand new wedding dresses, do some hunting, let me know if you want the contact information for this place. We love to enjoy a good wedding but to be honest investing in pre-marital counseling and full health physicals is a better investment in the long-term health of the marriage.
I will say when I sold dresses the bigger wedding parties often come with drama. Make sure the people you include are supportive and there for you not there for each other.
Love your videos! Do you think you could do a video on how to decide if you want bridesmaids or not?
We had 2 groomsmen and 5 bridesmaids 3 of which were mine or my husband’s sisters. Each of our sisters have a son (our nephews we love so much) so we had them each walk down with them. It was soooo sweet. And since they were 8,6 and 2 we just had them sit down for the rest of the ceremony.
My husband had one of his sisters as one of his 2 groomsmen
We love the idea of embracing traditions in an untraditional way
Loveeeeeee your videos!!!!
Such great information . Thanx 👍💛
I agree on all of it! I would love to hear your thoughts on family in the wedding party. My fiancé and I had the discussion on the beginning decided not to include siblings and then less than 90 days before the wedding a little birdie made a comment to his mom that 'family is typically is in wedding parties' and his sister ends up in the WP anyway. 🤪 🤣
Hi Jamie, as covid is still a very real thing and still all look uncertain, I would (and I think other brides) like some guidance on "covid contingency planning" in the form of a Jamie video! What are some of the options (even though those are ever changing), how to address it, what to do it you don't want to replan, etc. You're channel has taught me so much and given me so much guidance already, thAnk you!!!
Great info in this video we’ll all your videos. I really like your comments about not having to have equal amount of people on both sides.
Girl, I so agree on everything you said, and almost did all these things in our wedding. We had a Harry Potter themed wedding back on Halloween. Bridesman and groomswoman, dresses didn't match (just the same color and fabric), it turned out to be cold on the wedding day so the girls wore black wizard cloaks over their dresses to stay warm. Proposal boxes cost less than $20 each (was food and a cute note) and their thank you gifts were around $25 each (accessories to wear, note, alcohol) all Harry Potter themed so they loved it. I also want to add that you don't have to wear a white dress. I wore a amethyst color gown, which was a pink/purple/ivory color that changed colors depending on the lighting, and I got so many compliments. It was a work of art and a true reflection of my personality. We did so many unique things at our wedding and do not regret it one bit. Brides, do what you want to do!
Yes!!!! Love this video!!! I know I’m going to be having less people on my side and for some reason, I do feel weird about it. I think I’m going to have some guys on my side, some girls on his side so it evens it out and mixes it up!! Love this!
Due to the pandemic, my wedding party is just my sister and my fiance's brother. Kind of sad, but kind of a relief as well because it's less people to organize.
Love the point of numbers don’t have to match. I have 11 girls on my side, my fiancé has 8 guys on his side.
Yup! I have 6 ladies and my fiance has 5 guys
Love your videos. Me and my man eloped this past December and were going to do a reception in April. Do you have any tips about how this could go?? thank you!!
Can we talk about bachelorette parties??? I HATE those damn things because I'm always expected to spend around $1,500 during one weekend. Not to mention the planning of one, planning the shower, giving a shower gift and a wedding gift. Let's not get started on hair, makeup, my dress and everything else for the wedding day.
😍love the idea of age doesn't matter! Our ring bearer will be my grandmother's sister (54). She has trisomy 21 and is super excited that she has such an important task to do
OHMYGOODNESS! Flower girl grandma...❤❤❤
Perfect having my daughter's be my flower girls/bridesmaids. 13&9
Not even engaged yet but love your chanel soo much 😊
On the point in matching outfits or not, we are having our ‘maids match for dresses but not accessories and our ‘men match ties but wear whatever suit they already have as long as it’s black.
On special people not being included, my fiancé has 3 brothers and I have one. Neither of us have sisters, so we decided friends only for the bridal party since balance was important to us. Besides, most of our brothers are very shy and not good in front of people, so the less unwanted attention the better.
Also my fiancé wanted one of his best friends to be a groomsman, but this guy is in the military and doesn’t have his schedule nailed down yet (he’s still in training). We’re still not sure if this friend will be able to make it at all, but he still very special to us.
Lastly, on gifts: We decided to not get proposal gifts and instead are going to give more meaningful and hopefully useful gifts at our Bachelor(ette) parties. As for how I asked, I asked my MoH in person while we were hanging out one day and my two bridesmaids on the phone since they live farther away. My fiancé did something similar.
Every time I watch these vids . I go back to my vision board and delete stuff . I'm a minimalist, Yet still trying navigate that same idea w. Planning a wedding and reception.
I might have to consider that deal you mentioned at the end of the video... 🤔😏❤️
Can you please do a video on how to move on from your wedding? I just got back from my wedding in a warm, nice country. No honeymoon due to covid, and I can't stop dreaming of our wedding but also think of the negatives of the day, which are the things that didn't go right.
👏 👏 Great tips!
We're having 2 maids of honor, 1 best man, 1 ring bearer, 3 flower girls & 2 super Jr bridesmaids. 😁 It's going to be great.
I was going to have my sisters as my bridesmaid's but they're already going to be part of everything and we're already all bridesmaid for my other sisters wedding so I decided to keep my party small and just incorporate my nieces, nephew and God Daughters.
LOL a toddler standing still for 15 minutes. No.
I had the wonderful idea 💡 of a spring wedding during Covid and I love planning and I’ve got that handled but as my engagement party showed I can’t do it alone when it comes to execution. It was a massive disaster.😩🥺
Jamie, can you PLEASEEEE do a video on a Wedding Planning Binder DIY?
We've rented an airbnb for our wedding. It's a large house with a yard. We'll be having 50ish guests and the vibe is very casual. But I'm struggling with ideas for how I can decorate the inside of the house to make it look a little fancier. Tips for a backyard/airbnb wedding would be awesome. I know you have a video on the bigger aspects of it, but decorating is where I'm lost.
Im so glad for this channel lol My bridesmaids range from 24-54 and I’m 29. My mom and sister are being a pain in the ass about half of my choices 🤦🏼♀️
I have 11 bridesmaids on May 7, 2021!
I got married in June and I still watch your videos :D :D :D
My fiancé and I are only doing one and one wedding party. He chose his dad and I went with my sister so I wouldn’t upset to of my friends. And I’m okay with that.
type a personality & enneagream 3 ?! i knew i related to you on a different level! lol
My fiance has his female friend from college as his best woman, and I have my best friend since elementary school (he's male) as my Man of honor.
Jamie, can you update your guest list video? It's super helpful for the most part but my parents are immigrants so literally all but one of my cousins lives in the states and I have no idea how to plan for that.
Wait I love the suit idea.
I asked a couple of my friends what they would honestly prefer because they know I love them! I had two say They wanted to come celebrate with me but didn’t want to be a bridesmaid
ma’am! you moved to Waco?? it’s like a dream come true 💗☺️
I love your channel and I'm not getting married anytime soon 😅💖
I'm having my brother stand by me and my FH will have his sister on his side!
You seem more Texas than California. I hope you love it!
My younger brother is my Man of Honor, we’re so close and it just made sense
Hi , im new to your channel & have a question. I am the mom to the groom & they would like for me to plan the wedding & make sure everything is going as needed but how could I do this without missing this special moment in my sons life. I feel honored to help out but I also don't want to miss out aswell.. Any advice (on top of this my soon to be daughter inlaw would like for her mother & I wed them) I need your guidance/ advice 🙏 ❤ thank you or anyone 😊 for yoyr input
Our best “men” were our dogs. They stood by our side during the ceremony ❤️
Aww how cute! I wish we had dogs to do this with.
A monthly phone call until the day of my wedding?
Better get ready to make a lot of calls 😌
* not even engaged *
OMG! my thoughts exactly. lol. I was so tempted XD
I’m not having bridesmaids. I have 4 brothers and I’m having all 4 of them stand up there with me. My bridesmen.
Our daughters are maid of honor and best man
Central texassss ahhhhhhhhh 🤩🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
We're not having the wedding party and it relieved SO much potential stress and cost.
What would you suggest for someone possibly planning a digital wedding? I'm thinking about using Wedfully which it seems like an amazing company curious of your thoughts on it? Or do a virtual vow with an officiant and do the zoom myself rather than hiring a company? Since some of my family is overseas in Europe.
Another great video! So different from the UK, typically the couple pay for the bridesmaids and groomsmen’s outfits.
EVERY other society outside the US pays for the wedding party's outfits. I personally think it's in very poor taste to expect your wedding party to pay for their outfits
Hannah McCormick It's not like that in all American weddings. But in my "half American" wedding we paid for the dresses. (There were just two. As you can see I'm not American by birth so I didn't want an all-out American wedding to begin with.)
I saw a photo of 2 grandmothers being witnesses for the bride and groom.
About the second point: I was a bridesmaid for my uncle at age 5! They had to bribe me with lollipops to keep me still. I was super cute in my little pink dress, though!
thank the lord for this video
Please Help me!!
In these uncertain times what part of my wedding can i plan without a date/season?
For our wedding party we're having our parents and grandparents participate. Our plan is to have them walk down the aisle and take their seats at the front.
That is a very normal practice.
Saw wedding photos where the groom had his sister be his “Best Man”. She wore a suit & looked better then the other groomsmen
Love these videos. I'm getting married I 2 months. Bbq wedding. Way too many guests. I'm having a bridesman and there is no dress code for guests or wedding party.
So my MIL to be is 60 and stuck on trends back when she got married I've told her weddings is sim different in today's world but omg she is driving me up a wall but I love her lol
I don't know if you've addressed this already, but I have an etiquette question. My best friend and I are engaged at the same time. I want to ask her to be my MOH but I don't know if that's rude or presumptive to ask because she is planning her own wedding too. I'm not in her wedding in an official capacity as far as I know, because I think she's planning something really low-key and casual. I don't want to burden her with extra work but she is my best friend in the world and I'd be happy to help her with hers, too, but I'm fine with respecting it if she doesn't want to do it. I just don't want her to feel pressured into saying yes.
Our bridal party is made up of our kids and two of his siblings. We will have reserved seats so the kiddos do not have to stand up there. I know already a 2, 9 or 11 year old will stand up the whole time. I am also slightly convinced my 2 year old will be attached to me at some point, haha.
Am I the only one that never thought the bride picks all the girls and the groom all the guys? I've always thought it was a beautiful blend of your support systems. Oh man- the Martha Stewart thing: when did bridal parties go from "Yes I will be at your bachelorette & keep you calm the morning off & be your personal Barbie doll." to "You have to help me pick colors, go to dress fittings, make placecards, etc."???