how to handle bad body image days 🌻
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- čas přidán 24. 07. 2024
- tips for bad body image days ✨
it's human to have days where you just can't seem to feel comfortable in your skin. More than that, it's almost inevitable with the amount of pressures surrounding us on what is considered to be "healthy" and "fit" (something that is incredible unique to each individual, much like our bodies are). This vlog may not be a formula to stop those days from happening, but it includes a lot of the mindsets and tools I find help me whenever I wake up on the wrong side of my bod.
Using these tips helps to bridge the gap back to feeling like a team with my body rather than an enemy to it. It also helps to remind myself the gift it is to experience my body and the lives we live through them.
If you have any similar related themes you'd like to see for future Fitness Friday videos, let me know 💛 It's my belief and intention that the more we normalize all shapes and all feelings/experiences that come with them, the less alone we feel going through these phases.
Sending you all the love and comfort in the world if you're having one of those days, weeks, months or years right now.
Fitness Friday Chapters 🐆:
00:00 - quote + intro ✨
00:25 - days like this are common
02:30 - dedicate a go-to outfit + examples
04:08 - stop, drop and root
07:17 - the mindset that works best for me
09:10 - check yourself game
11:53 - treat yourself like a best friend
13:19 - my biggest struggle regaining weight
14:29 - try not to abandon yourself
15:50 - life is series of ebbs and flows
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Fitness Friday Chapters 🐆:
00:00 - quote + intro ✨
00:25 - days like this are common
02:30 - dedicate a go-to outfit + examples
04:08 - stop, drop and root
07:17 - the mindset that works best for me
09:10 - check yourself game
11:53 - treat yourself like a best friend
13:19 - my biggest struggle regaining weight
14:29 - try not to abandon yourself
15:50 - life is series of ebbs and flows
follow my current autumn adventures on instagram🍂: instagram.com/kalynnicholson13/
Hope little Bentley is feeling better!🐾
I've never heard that quote before but I like it and it fits so perfect for this video! x
You forgot 13:15 where Bentley cudly disappears into a pile of blankets 😍
GIRL! As a therapist who specializes in eating disorders, everything you said is just so accurate and incredibly helpful. I will be recommending this video and you in general to my clients!! You're such a great example of using your platform and position to spread LOVE and body peace. So grateful for your content and your energy!!
that’s so interesting! What an amazing job you have too!
I was TOTALLY having the bad body image day until this one pops up on my feed. I LOVE the universe. 💚💚
Yasssss 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
I hope it's ok if I wrote to you this:
God loves you & cares for you. He knows you TOO WELL and He knew you needed this! ❤️
czcams.com/video/qpSE3eZTCNo/video.html please watch this sweetheart.
Petition to elect Kalyn as the Queen of Fall 🍂🍁❤️
I have been struggling with this so much in the past 3 days. I suffer from major generalised anxiety and body dysmorphia.
I had a huge panic attack 2 days ago because one of my triggers related to my body dysmorphia was activated. I couldn't look at myself in the mirror since the past 2 days and even archived all my Instagram posts because I couldn't handle looking at myself.
This video means so much to me you have no idea. I almost cried looking at the title. Thank you so much for it💛
Sending you all the love I can muster all the way from India 🌼
I feel with you❤️ Just know that you are beautiful as you are inside and out and that you’re not alone❤️ Cheesy answer but true❤️ love from Sweden
Genuinely started crying when you started listing all the beautiful and amazing things my body does for me. I needed this today!!
My root: whenever i think poorly about my body i think of all the mums and the women who have to do physical work and i instantly start regarding my body as a team which is here to help me experience life..i take a step back from over sexualizing it and treat it like a little child
I love how you mention thinking of yourself as a little girl. Sometimes when I feel anxious or bad about myself I look at pictures of myself when I was little and remember all the things my mom told me about who I was when I was little, before society got its hands on me. It's a powerful thing to do. I look at the little girl in those pictures who was bold and wild and silly and didn't think of my body in a negative way. My mom told me I was a boss from the time I was young and was also very free spirited. As an adult, anxiety controls a lot of aspects of my personality. I get an instinct to protect her (aka that version of myself). I should treat myself the way I would want her to be treated. It's a tool that I use that helps me stay grounded.
I’ve been following you for like 3 years now and I have to say that I’m super proud of you, because I can see that you’re always improving. I love that you talk about things that are so important (like body image, anxiety and even being sad), but that we should all talk more about. This week has been really hard for me emotionally, so I’ve been keeping up with your videos and they really lift me up. I love your vibe, you’re pure light and an inspiration 💗💗💗
This is the cozy morning I didn’t know I needed but I truly did ✨🍂
I love this video. I feel so many people don’t go into detail of how to handle bad days. They just say love your body you’re beautiful. But how? I always find myself watching being like okay but it feels impossible: thanks for breaking this down into such useful steps 💕
Kayln is wise 😭💛
I’ve been struggling the past month because I haven’t been able to workout. Some days are better then others
Thanks for the tips 👌🏻
too funny i was looking up this exact type of video last night and was sad to see there wasn’t a lot. thank you for this
Kid u not.... I was hit with bad body image today like a truck. I got on Instagram & the first 3 posts were long ones from creators I follow talking about loving ur skin & it's ok to be uncomfy. And then I open CZcams and this is my first notif... Universe really be knowing too much 🧡🧡🧡🧡
Root: I was given this life to live it to its fullest
OKAY. YOU SAID SOMETHING ABOUT THIS KIND OF VIDEO IN THE PREVIOUS VLOG. BUT SHIT, THIS WAS FAST. THANK YOU
I think the *cute* part of the comfy outfit makes a huge difference for me. If I’m having a hard day with my body image and then I dress in something like a raggedy old ugly T-shirt, I’m subconsciously telling myself I’m not good enough in this state to wear the things that make me happy and make me feel pretty and good in my body. I still struggle with this and I’ve been in eating disorder recovery since 2012-still trying to learn I’m enough at any moment with this body. I’m so thankful for you sharing your experiences and how you’re healing and loving yourself. I’ve recently moved into these beautiful woods and I have my favorite lake in my backyard and I’ve deleted my instagram app for now. It’s helpful for me to walk out to the lake and sit and let myself question all those negative thoughts about myself and where they come from and if they are lies and if they are true, why do I have a negative feeling about them, then end with using all my senses to take in the beauty of the lake and Mother Nature in front of me. Also, reminding myself this body has and is getting me through so much-a global pandemic, abuse, rape, depression, anxiety, a chronic health condition- my body is doing the best it can for me at all times and I love it for doing whatever it can to try to keep me alive and safe. Bonus, a little mantra- “my body is this way today, and today only, I will decide to be grateful and love it and treat it with kindness.”
How do you ALWAYS know what I´m feeling and need. It´s actually amazing. Watching it right this instant!
I’ve always been super skinny, but since quarantine started in March, I’ve gained about 7 pounds (combination of stress, less exercise, and comfort eating). I’ve been really down about myself lately because I started to notice the weight gain on my waistline. So yeah, I could use a video like this right now.
Same here girl ... it's really hard sometimes
I have always had very low self esteem even when I was younger. Suffering from lots of mental health issues on top of that. I have always been a bit bigger than most girls and I absolutely couldn’t stand to even look at myself in the mirror. This video gave me hope and helped me see the true beauty in myself and my size ❤️ thank you so much kalyn you truly are an inspiration ❤️❤️❤️
thank you for this. ❤️ I feel like so many people are struggling even more so especially because we've been in quarantine and haven't moved as much as we would like. bad body image days are happening more often for me at least since i'm home more now so I really appreciate this!!
hang on!!!!! you are glowing!!!!!!! you are screaming health inside out!!
My Japanese self can’t help but keep noticing 幸 (happiness) on the book you have in the shelf in your videos😆
Thank you so much!!! This video helps me so much!!
thank you so much ! you make me feel so much better :) really thank you
Omg I so needed this, thank you! I’m so hard on myself about my looks and this is wonderful outlook. Thank you ❤️🍁
I love your energy and how authentic you are! It is refreshing to say the least. Thank you! 🥰🙏
I absolutely love your channel. I think you just have an amazing personality and energy. I love how every video is exactly what I need. 😘
your videos always make me feel so much better 🥺
I’ve been having lots of these days lately, and this helps so much!!! 💛💛💛 needed this
We all needed this thank you so much kalyn 😘
Really needed this today, thank you Kalyn 💛
This I just what I needed to hear ❤️ thank you!!
I really needed this, so thank you 💗
needed this today!! thank you beautiful girl sending love xx
this was so amazing and helpful. truly a feelgood video
Omg Kalyn, I was just thinking about how amazing it would be for there to be actual tips about this!! Can’t wait to watch!!🧡🧡
this video was a sign, thank you, forever grateful for your content Kalyn and also so excited for youtober this year!!
I’ve been subscribed to you for years now and I’m so happy I’ve been able to see you grow and become the person you are today. You’ve helped me battle so much in my teen years and inspired me to start my own channel. You have such an amazing soul 💕
Kalyn i love youuuu. I am so happy for having your cozy vibes around for so many years now ❤️
Loved this video! Thank you for posting!
Also I’m pumped for Youtober!
Love you💕🌺🌻 I’ve been having a bad body image past couple of months and I needed this so bad. Thank you🙏
I really needed this thank you!!
I have started working out recently and it has included a lot of pushing myself and feel my body at a deeper level. I would not say its a 'root' but I generally feel, during the day, grateful for what my body can provide me with, the movement, the thrill, the endorphins, I have started seeing my body as something that aids my wellbeing and my happiness and my functioning rather than something for others to look at or has the only role of being sexualised. Just like you said your body and you are a TEAM
I just weighed myself this morning and was feeling really down. This is really good timing ❤️ thank you
Wow, I'm so grateful to have found your chanel a few years ago! You literally brighten up my days with every single video & podcast episode you make! Although I started watching the content of yours just in order to learn English language, now you are basically my big sister who's always there to support me in any life circumstances and challenges. Kalyn, thank you soooo much for everything you do, especially for genuinly being YOU!
Thank you Kalyn. I needed this so bad. Thankyou for existing, you make the world a better place.
I LOVE your content! You speak your vulnerabilities and the truth in such a way that it makes me feel heard and seen and for that I am so grateful!!
thank you for this!! ❤️❤️
forever grateful for your channel 🥰🥰
The message you are spreading in this video is ABSOLUTELY BEAUTIFUL!!!
I actually snapped in agreement when you said "showing the other sides of health" I love this and the internet needs more of it. This was a very real, very candid chat about health that covered a lot of aspects of wellbeing. I respect you so much for spreading this message!
Really needed this ❤️💜
So fun to be back in the apartment!! Love the vid! Thanks as always!
my friday morning just got 10x better ✨🦋🤩 thank u
This is exactly what I needed today ❤️
I have been loving your videos since 2015, but I must say this is one of, if not the, most powerful and beautiful videos to date Kalyn! Thank you so much for opening up, for sharing, and for giving your cozy corner of the internet even more love, confidence and security. Lots of Love ❤️
I actually cried when you got to the part where you name things our bodies do for us, like it’s regenerating, fighting diseases, that we are a team, wow! 😭 That really did it for me. I just need to remind myself of it and be grateful for everything my body has done, does and will do for me. ♥️
Thanks for posting this 💕
First time I'm ever this early and dang this hit differently. I so needed this :')
Perfect start to my day!!!!!
Thanks Kalyn!
Clicked extra fast, Fridays wouldn't be Friday's without Fitness Friday✨!
Even this is a very popular topic...facing this perspective was really refreshing.
This is exactly what I needed today
This is just on time,I'm at that day.. Appreciate it
That was a lovely video! Thank you for that. I’m not that keen when it comes to body image but I can apply it for my mental health. 💗
I am so glad you said "your purpose is not to be appealing to other people" because I feel like what body positivity gets wrong A LOT is framing beauty or sex appeal as the most important. Yes, beauty is important. But beauty is its own trap and way of minimizing people, especially women. It is really important to love ourselves by not finding a new way to validate ourselves through the eyes of other people, but to recognize our value goes so far beyond that.
Jealous that she talks about bad image "days" but that's my whole life
Well, years are made of days, so start tackling one day at a time and then move on to weeks/months/years.
@Megan Mae I’m sure you have a beautiful,healthy and sexy body,so be proud of it!!💛
Thank you so much for this 💕 I’ve been out of work because of the pandemic, being at home so much not feeling like myself anymore, I’ve gained some weight and realize it messes up with my head a lot. I get that same weird feeling when my clothings/jeans won’t fit me and making me don’t want to go out anymore. This is exactly what I needed right now
This is so important and yes we dont talk about it enough, its so important that you brought this up, i love you and im so pumped about youtober u dont even know haha❤️
thanks for these practical and helpful tips kalyn!
they really help me make through those bad days a lot, or even a typical day haha. because why not! beautiful and healthy mindset never does harm :)
I love this koze community on youtube, so positive🤩
thankyou, this is beautiful x
I was having a bad body image day (and a bad day in general) so this came at the right moment. Thank you for cheering me up and offering invaluable advice! Btw, I’m very excited for youtober because the last couple of years I had way too much stuff to do in October so I wasn’t able to watch the vids daily but this year with all the online classes and stuff, I have more time to get cozy and enjoy each video to the fullest. Can’t wait 🧡
You read my mind. Thank you so much.
You are literally such a inspiration to me. I don’t think you realize the positive impact you have on me, nevertheless your viewers..you are like this big sister that knows the right things to say to make me feel better when I’m having a bad day
I’m really grateful.. thank you so much & continue to thrive in life and inspire others
Hope Bentley is doing well now
Take Care!❤️
Love this talk Kalyn ♥️can’t wait to get some oversized clothes and just chill and relax at home when these body image days come
Highly recommend Aritzia sweat fleece combos omg they are comfy as hell! Thanks for excellent advice as always Kalyn.
Exactly what I needed tonight! Ready for a face mask and a good movie 🥰
An extra vlog in one week!? This literally made my day to see this notification. And this topic was so needed today. Fuck. Thank you so much for the healthy inspiration. 🍃🍁🍂😭🤍✨
I had to pause this one a couple times to let myself cry for a bit... I realized I don't have any conscious childhood memories of me feeling at home in my body. I can track back to some of my first memories and remember my thoughts being tainted with judgement for my body. I never realized just how long my body has been waiting for me to love and accept it.... " Don't abandon yourself". This really pinpointed feelings and emotions I never realized I had. When I start feeling off, I just try to escape the feelings, but I wouldn't leave a friend if they just told me the same thing. I would just sit with them and listen... Thank you for never ceasing to evoke the thoughts I need to have with myself. My guru, my vibe setter, my queen😆✨💛
Kalyn, I'm stunned with your knowledge and overall intelligence. I am so proud to follow you on CZcams. You are my life inspiration, and you keep my heart racing to success, everytime I watch you! God blessed you with amazing gifts in & out! 🥰😘
What a beautiful video Kalyn!🍂✨💫 so bloody excited for Youtober vibes 🌚✨🎃
Perfect video in the perfect timing 🧡🍂
It's so true that when we're children we don't even think about our bodies! But media hits at such a young age now that I remember feeling self-conscious at about 8-10 years old ;w; . I admire you and many others for fighting to reclaim your body and soul and I'll keep the "stop drop and root" in mind next time I go through an episode
A root I love to use is „there is more than one body type that is beautiful“. You don’t need to be skinny, have tanned skin, an hourglass body or a six pack to be beautiful. The way we see beauty is relative to what we‘re used to seeing. Be brave enough to be your own kind of beautiful.
this video will save lives ♡ ♡ ♡
I needed this
Love this! Another thing that has helped me a lot is the concept of body neutrality...Some days we love our body, other days not so much, but every day we respect it
I've never been this early! Love your videos!
Thank you! I really needed this. Covid is really the first time in my life that I’ve gained any weight. Medically I can only workout in a limited capacity too. Time to practice grounding 💕
I'm a dancer and these past months I was injured so this helps me so much! Thanks, Kalyn ❤️
I am ready for it!
I needed this so much. I’ve put on weight and I’m constantly putting myself down. It’s so unhealthy to be this awful to myself.
Me too! I put on weight and i hate it so much. Before Covid i'd go on hikes but with my astma it's not possible for me to wear a mask while hiking. Looking forward to go hiking again and living healthy physical and mentally.
Try and stay positive and know you are not alone ❤
Love from Belgium
Q G thank you for the reply. It’s so nice to have others who understand you. I wish you the best and hope you can get outdoors soon! 💕
Never been this early 💃💃you inspire me Kalyn love you😍😍
Self love. Self acceptance. Comfortable in your imperfections.
Looking so good!! 😍🤩
Yes, so excited for Youtober! :D
A request for fitness Friday: how to eat healthier, in a more mindful way. I know I am overweight, and I want to find my healthy weight, but I eat too much junk food and can’t find a way to transition to healthier foods but still be mindful about it and non restrictive. Thank you for all the content Kalyn!!! 💙
was super bloated for days and my mindset started to shift..thinking I need to eat better and count calories again... but no! needed to check myself so rewatched this! so thankful for you!! ohh and also, my #feels and dancing with elephants came in today! #feels is my march book of the month! perfect timing! 🥰🥰🥰