Are moms better than dads?
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Just a little chit chat talking about the question "are moms better than dads?" There's a story that inspired this question and we dive into it. THREE!
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I don't believe any parent is better than the other. As long as a child is loved, valued and kept safe that is what matters and there are always other people (female or males) around who can step in if a parent is struggling in a area with a child. You 2 are amazing dads and give those girls everything they need.
I completely emphasize!! I have seen good and bad parents regardless of sex. Your girls are Blessed to have you as Dads 🥰🥰🥰🥰
As someone with a neglectful mother and an amazing dad I can tell you the mum is not always the best lol. I would go to my dad for anything when he was still here and my mum knew nothing about me nor did she care. All you need is love 1000%
I was raised by my dad as my mom was a absentee mom, I wouldn’t have it any other way. I was blessed to have an aunt who I was very close to and anything I needed female wise. I love how men today are so different from when I had my kids my husband never even change the diaper.🤟🏻👍🏻🌈👨👨👧👧
No ,I've seen alot of men that are good dads and I have seen women that aren't so good at being a mom . You guys are doing a good job .as dads.
I've said this many times and will continue to say this! The girl's couldn't have a better set of parents than both of you! AMAZING JOB And KUDOS to you both! Sending Love, good vibes and all the above to all 4 of you!
It is such a traumatic experience for her and it doesn’t matter the time of the hour, it happened AT SCHOOL! I’m so glad you handled the conversation so appropriately with hers! Also, the follow up with the school.
Kids need unconditional love you guys are doing Fantastic! your daughters are beautiful and happy!
You guys are the best just ask those girls. They are the best judges!
Be secure in your own abilities and try not to be too sensitive over ignorant/stupid things that people say. Your girls are thriving and that's what matters most.
You are not overreacting. Dads/males have a negative stigma attached to them when it comes to parenting. I e seen a lot of "mothers" screw up plenty. You guys are wonderful. Don't waste your time trying to defend yourself. We, your fans, know you are amazing!!
I think all parents come with different personalities. Whether you are male or female has nothing to do with being a good parent. You guys are adorable and I can tell that you love your kids. That’s what’s important.
REAL LOVE IS ALL ANYONE NEEDS BEING I HAD A LOVING MOM BUT A HORRIBLE DAD I THINK ANY CHILD WOULD BE BLESSED TO HAVE BOTH OF YOU AS FATHERS YOU TWO ARE TRULY THE BEST
You are the two best parents! No question! I should know because I am a 68 year old grandma.
It is fairly easy to dismiss hurtful comments from outsiders who say they are concerned about your girls well being, as your daughters are obviously thriving, they are well taken care of and so loved. . But I can imagine that such a comment from your friend was actually hurtful and it still bothers you today. It came so unexpectedly at the time, that you weren’t able to respond right away and after years have passed it seems kind of awkward to bring it up again. If you do nothings, there’s always this cloud hanging over your friendship/contact. Even when you’d no longer consider her a real friend, you still come into contact with her right? So it may clear the air if you do decide to bring it up with her. It may be a good experience to speak your mind and you also give her a chance to learn from the situation. I assume that your friend did not intend to hurt your feelings, but she still did. If she can see that now, she may do better when similar situations occur. Or at least she willl probably be more aware of how certain comments may be perceived.
And I do agree you guys are champs at parenting... I love the way you are with those girls
Anyone doubting your ability to raise your adorable girls is extremely naive. Keep up the good work and continue to prove them wrong.
Move on. I don’t think it will make any difference. She definitely has a problem. You are the best dads. So impressed since day one watching you hold those little cherubs for the first time. The look in your eyes had me in tears. Your girls are so lucky to have such caring and loving parents. A delightful and wonderful family. 💕👍🏻❤️
It was an insensitive comment. Not meant to be hurtful. Clearly you both very loving and attentive parents! You have such a beautiful family 💖 Sending you all much love from CT
Some people just don't think before they speak. Y'all are doing great.
I think she might of just not wanted to bother you thinking you would be so busy with 2 babies. I was exhausted with just 1 baby. My husband was a great Dad. When we took our baby to visit his grand father. The grandfather cried as he watched his grandson taking care of his baby daughter and he said when he was a father men didn't do that and he wished he could go back and change that. Times change. You two are wonderful fathers. You are doing a great job. They are blessed to have you two. By the way how is the girls calling you DadA and DadE working out?? Three.
No equally divided on that topic. I've seen the best and worst in both. Every child should have loving parents Period! You guys are fantastic 😍 Mikalyn Daugherty WPB FLORIDA
Never better. Each is dependent on the individual. The process of parenting and pregnancy is quite different from experience and again each individual. The bonding is usually more comfortable with someone going through a more similar experience. Totally have that conversation. Most likely it’s not what you think.
Don’t give that rude comment anymore air time. When I watch your videos I am so impressed with your gentle demeanor with the girls. I have taught school for 40 yrs so I have lots of experience with parents,the good,the bad and the ugly. A+ for both of you. The girls are so blessed 💙❤️🙏🏽 10:21
You guys are amazing parents who have created a wonderful loving family for your girls. I’m a woman who was raised by a single dad and did just fine. It’s not like the characteristics a “mother” brings to the parent/child relationship can only come from someone who is female!!!
Good parents are good parents!
A parent is a parent regardless of the gender. It only matters by what the parent contributes to the upbringing of the child. You two could not be any better as parents! You meet all the needs of the girls in every way.....and the love each way is most apparent. Keep doing what you do and don't let others bother you, Eric. You and Adam are on the same page and both do an amazing job! The girls are very lucky to have you as parents.....I only wish all children could have what you give! So many do not!
The Queens are 2 very lucky girls!! THREE!!!❤️
No, they only need parents who love and care for them! It really doesn’t matter at all! You seem to be doing a fantastic job! Dont let it bother you, it reflects more on them than you x
You two have done an amazing job raising those girls! Screw people that think a "Mom" needs to be there. I have a uterus and not an ounce of maternal instinct. I'd break a kid and catch the house on fire because I can't cook either!!! I'm fired as a woman. 🤷🏼♀️🤷🏼♀️
Some dads have no clue unless they want to be involved. My dad was on point!!
I absolutely don’t agree that you have to be a woman in order to have maternal instinct. I think you either have that loving, nurturing instinct or you don’t have it. I say that both of you have an abundance of loving, nurturing instincts, as well as a paternal instinct & a maternal instinct. Adam, watching you play with them as babies especially gave me so many ideas on how to interact better as a grandmother. Erik, I say the same for you. You guys never mind when the girls “maybe interrupt” a video-you just roll with it. I’m proud of your family.🙏😇
I remember when that actually happened to you because you did mention it at the time. I was so offended for you. But watching you say it again now a thought just occurred to me. Do you think she meant that her female mother friends could help her more during her pregnancy as they had experienced being pregnant. Just a thought. And you guys are way better parents than a lot of mothers and fathers I know ❤
I know plenty of new mom's that don't know if they could do it, had any idea what to do never around kids. Kids don't need a km or dad they just need love. We all learn as we go and new parents should take any advice and help out there. Society is coming along but not fast enough. You two are great dad's and that is not okay to say. I would just maybe bring it up that it bothered you and not sure why she said it, but it did hurt you. She needs to know especially because it still bothers you 4 1/2 years later. There are so many parents out there that are second time parents and need to change a lot. Just love your kids and like you said raise your kids your way and others need to reset it. Three!!
There are also many many crappy mothers. I am a woman and have no problem saying that. Look at the foster care system and that proves my point. I know words hurt but your actions as dads contradicts her very statement. Your beautiful daughters are thriving and will grow to be very strong, indepenedent and inclusive women. Be proud!!!
My mom was good but my dad was my best friend and as I got older gave the best advice. As I had children my dad was their favorite. Not that my mom wasn’t involved in my life it’s just that I felt my dad was better as a parent
Parents are parents regardless, as long as the children are loved and cared for, so sad your friend said that, you guys are great parents, it can tell on the girls happy little personalities 3 ❤❤❤❤
You guys take very good care of your kids and I wouldn't worry about anything other people say you do what makes. you happy and what is best for your kids father's are just as good as mothers
This friend that obviously has hurt your feelings Eric….may watch this…and realize oh no! that’s me…..I feel so bad…and get in touch with you to talk about it…..I hope so…..and you are able to talk it through with her. ❤️
Maybe your friend didn't mean it negatively. Don't take it badly. My take, be calm. It is kind of you to offer help, but some people don't mean to be rude. they simply don't need the help you are offering atm. They are not ready for it perhaps. It is nobody's fault. Also it is not bad for anyone to have preference. We can have a choice. We all need that space. 😊
Guys u are both great parents.keep doing what you are being doing,those girls are so lucky to have the two of U. U create a beautiful family ❤❤👍👍
That's really a wounding comment! One would naturally say thank you... much appreciated even if she didn't mean it. Have to say I don't take words to heart but I certainly would have been hurt by such a tackless comment. Personally I would wait for the right moment and bring it up and say you were very hurt... I'd have to get it off my chest. I'm guessing nearly 5yrs later she'd be embarrassed one grows up a lot in 5yrs especially when you have children.
You are great dads. They dont miss anything. I would have loved to be your daughter😊♥️
your baby girls are fed, well dressed, happy,and loved what else can they ask for ? you guys are amazing parents! you can read 1000 books on how to be parents but no one will ever be prepared no matter what age or sex you are. i have two boys and have a boyfriend (their dad) and we still struggle to work together! you guys deserve a 10/10 keep your heads up i look up to you guys💕 and yes we are all equal!
Your girls have two brilliant dads THREE !!!
Sorry you went through that.
It's her loss on great advice while I am not there day to day I have been watching your video from the beginning and from what I see they are great kids so you must be doing something right. Maybe you should write a book called Dad's 101 and give advice to new parents of twins and how to teach them individuality.
I would distance myself from that friend. Her comment just feels covertly homophobic to me. Of course, I don’t know her, but…eh. I think it’s probably too late to talk to her about it. But rest assured, you’re BOTH amazing fathers. I often watch your videos and am moved to tears by your parenting - my father spent my childhood at the bottom of a bottle. The queens are lucky beyond words to have you both.
I think she did not mean it as anything but a simple comment of the fact she had lots of support from other close friends.
No not all moms are better. You guys are great dads.
From all the CZcams families I was watching at the time the girls were little I always thought you guys were so well organized. The lie that as a woman you naturally are instantly "bonded" to your child hurts a lot of women as well because most first time moms don't know what to do either.
Leave in past.your a better person Erik
I was lucky to have my husband as a dad because I was worried that I wouldn’t be a good mom
Hey Adam and Erick! I have a friend who had to do it all from birth, because his wife told him that the baby sucked the life out of her. He had to get up with his daughter and take her to work the next day. He is a wonderful father. U both are wonderful dad's. Those girls are blessed to have u both as dad's. 3
I think through the timeline women have been the ones who are doing the lost child caring and worrying about every little detail so she probably was conditioned to think her women friends would know more. You two are obviously exceptional parents. You’re more attentive and conscientious than a lot of moms in so many ways and definitely more so than most men I know. My ex rarely sees our kids. I could only dream of having a partner as present as you two are for your girls!
All we need is Love 💕
I love your videos. They are so happy and I see how wonderful you are as dads. But my own personal experience is abuse from my dad and step-dad so I have trouble with for example the TV show my 2 dads that was in the mid 80s.
You seem to be very great parents and i hope you can see that in your hearts and stay pround! I´m sure it was coming from a good place and not trying to disrespect you. I know alot of women that have given birth, that due to the physical changes they go trough it´s easier to get advise from women about this things, and perhaps that is what she ment, not disrespecting you as a dad, parent or your advise. All the best to you guys! :)
Hi Mcfamily so happy I get to eat lunch and see your beautiful faces hugs from St Petersburg FL 🤗🦄🌈🐧🐕🐶🐧#3
Bringing up that weird statement to the mom friend is probably not worth it, I agree with Adam. People sometimes say weird or hurtful stuff that they don't necessarily mean, by reflex (when tired in particular, or stressed out). And those "reflex" thoughts are often based on your prior beliefs, on what you grew up with, so assumptions at best or prejudice at worse, or just on what the mainstream view is. And the latter is still biased towards mothers, because of culture but also because of experience: most people have had a more positive parent-child experience with their mother than with their father. Some people also see mothers are sacred figures, even the bad mothers... Anyway, unless the friend has said other blatantly or borderline homophobic/close-minded remarks, it's best to brush it off. And many people still have negative assumptions about fathers, so it's best to not be too confrontational about it because it can be counterproductive. So instead, just prove them wrong by keeping up the good work and be the best parents you can be!
As long as children have oodles of love, attention and nurturing I think they’ll be okay. There are many motherless children who are so loved and cared for by their dads. However, I think we’ll know more as these kids reach adulthood and they can tell us themselves. Time will tell, but I think you guys are doing a good job.
Hi there! My feeling is that it was an insensitive and rude comment and you're right to be hurt by it. The comment may have been spur of the moment, but the thought behind it must have been in her mind for a while. Not really a good friend I would think. You are both great parents and those girls are very blessed to have you!
Absolutely not the girls doesn’t need a mom like Adam said they need a living who loves them cares for them. I was raised by my mom and my grandparents while my mom was working I didn’t have a dad raising me at all I had two strong men in my life my uncle who is my godfather and my grandpa those two right there were my dads hands down tought me everything I need to know about being a women same with my mom and grandma you two are amazing parents I’ve watched since the beginning I just love you four so much
Good stuff.. 🔥🔥🔥
As a lesbian single mother of 2 teens (boy&girl) ...ive been confronted by both my kids at different times in their lives where they felt they lacked having a male role model/male guidance in their lives..they are finding friends to fill the void and teachings of a male representation...there are no males in my immediate family and they are in the constant presence of women...I cannot teach them what a male knows and feels..im sure i can learn through research but I don't think it would be the same...so in regards to your girls and the comment sections saying they need a mom...no I don't agree but I do agree that everyone growing up can benefit having some kind of representation of a male/female/non binary role model they were lacking in because it does eventually come up down the line on how it affected them in ways they weren't even aware of... and it seems to be a necessity in my kids ..I can't speak for everyone else's children but it hurts to know from my kids mouths that I wasn't everything they needed and u couldn't provide them with those teachings they didn't know they needed....please don't judge me or come at (comment section) ..I'm trying my best to be everything for my kids and I am working on getting proper guidance for my kids future fulfillment...my fear is they find the lack of a father in their future relationships...a.k.a daddy issue relationships, co dependency and or abuse cause of lack of guidance
Great discussion, guys At least you missed the whole psychoanalysis era when moms were blamed for making their kids mentally ill. There’s some good later research showing how good father-daughter relationships were related to strong academic performance. So, lucky girls to have you!
Yes and no, just depends on the situation.
I totally love seeing men with their children
And I think because woman are expected to be good parents,and men not .men work harder to be the best parent they can be
Whoa! That was clearly your friends loss. How is it said in Frozen? Let it go...
I think you should have asked her what she meant right away. Bringing it up now might hurt the friendship.
I know a woman that had a child.She had no maternal instincts,her mother had to step in.was crazy
Did you have this conversation during her pregnancy? Maybe she wanted to refer to her female friends for first hand experiences regarding pregnancy, but not the parenting after the pregnancy? Just an idea ... For the rest: of course everybody can be a good parent, regardless of their sex, gender etc. And everybody has some bad days as a parent and that is okay too. ;-)
I have no doubt in my mind that you both will be over-prepared in 5-10 years for what everyone assumes that they need a mom for.
You’re always going to get comments on your lifestyle as parents. The world hasn’t totally accepted gay Dad’s and that’s such a shame. There’s not a thing you can do to convince anyone, except rise high above the comments. Detach from the negative and don’t comment, it brings you down. You know you are great Dad’s with two kids that love you. Someday the world will be more accepting but until then, live your life with joy. Don’t forget the one that angers you, controls you. Love you both.
You are not overreacting. That was a very rude comment from your "friend"
Her comment may have been more offhand than intentional. She may not have meant it that way.
her reaction and what she said called implicit bias and microagression.
Je pense qu'un qui est aimer grandira très bien dans sa tête quelque soit le sexe de ses parents je vous trouve formidable gros bisous à tous ❤
I would like to provide a bit of a different perspective if you don’t mind. I think that your friend may have been like that because although you are going through similar things… it’s not the exact same and sometimes it is nice talking amongst other women about EVERYTHING. I feel like she wasn’t necessarily trying to say that moms are better than dads. It may feel uncomfortable to her to discuss everything with a guy.
No, women are not better parents. It is true that when most women reach adulthood they have been more socialised into doing and accepting the lead parenting role than men. In general they have been exposed to more experience that give them parenting skills than men. They are taught more domestic and parenting related skills to a greater degree than men. They are given babies and children to look after at an early age, and boys less so. Despite this, many women have no interest in parenting and are not necessarily better parents because they don’t have the competence in adulthood or may have a health condition that means they can’t parent effectively.
I will say this again same sex marriages children are much more grounded not that traditional marriages some aren't this is my opinion
awful wow sorry when person said i have mom friends i can go to
☹️she was so wrong
It's very hurtful for anyone to say no instead of thank you when offered help and support from anyone. It may be that she was meaning talking to her mommy friends as they can relate to your body, emotions, and challenges, plus childbirth as other females that have gone through it. That's giving her the benefit of the doubt. Father's are thought of as a lesser parent and more of a babysitter because they didn't carry the baby and give birth to the baby or breastfeed the baby. Women feel like they are more INVESTED. Facts show women have abused their own children and have lost parental rights to their children, so gender isn't the definition of the true or better parent. That would have hurt anyone's feelings to have heard what Erik heard from his friend and Erik seems more sensitive so I'm sure he cried and Adam would have been like..Listen Bitch! 😆 lol