Growing up in the foster care system: Angel Mechling at TEDxUMDearborn
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- čas přidán 16. 11. 2013
- A senior here at UofM - Dearborn, Angel uses her extreme passion for the community to take her far. As a mother of six, a double major & certified Montessori Directress, she stays busy! Listen for her emotional story of growing up in the foster care system.
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"It's the state; they do what they want." That is, unfortunately, the system in a nutshell.
Beautiful sole, people like this with real life experience and humanity should be in the government. (not the corrupt lying frauds in both parties right now)
I was in foster care, some have better experiences than others, for us it was gladiator training. I went in a scared kid, came out a paranoid spartan.
Angel, I was taken in the 60's and I too thought that it would be over, that things were different these days. I was made a "ward" of the state and was up for adoption. Luckily, no one wanted me.... except for my very own parents. My father would sneak into the hills behind my foster home and I could find and talk to him there and he brought messages from my mother who could not make the trip as she was handicapped due to polio. He also came to the school and took I and my brother off the playground for lunch... very risky. These visits were so very necessary to me and my brother.
Your dad did all that, but couldn’t get you back? Just saying, seems a little weird, sometimes kids are taken and up for adoption for a reason.
Did you reunite with your parents? Or did you have to stay there till 18?
@@beataannanowak659 I stayed until I was 18. When I was 19 I pretended to be just like any other my age so I could get into college while working at a fast food.
Oh, and yes, after I purchased my fist car, I was able to reunite with my parents. I was able to spend some time with my mother between school and work.
Very powerful story Angel. Thank you for sharing. I have my own youtube station Grandma's Angel's and I am doing a segment on Foster children. I know there are good families and bad families out there that take in innocent little children and how the power to help or hurt them. Makes me so sad when I hear a story like yours. Your strong and I'm sure it has not been an easy road for you. But, I'm so glad your here and telling your story...Your name fits you well. You ARE an Angel.
I too was in the foster care system. I requested my dcf records big mistake. The state of CT does not shred their files they keep them until die. My records placed the blame on my teenage shoulders while my mother who was mentally ill was a nice mother and I just had behavioral problems at home for no reason I was just sick. I hated department of children and families they were not on my side. They were s😮opposed to protect me instead they protected her. My files is inaccurate and depicts me badly and it will never away I wish it would 😊
Where I live it so hard to get kids taken away its sad. Biological family in my state they think can do no wrong. Some of us want be good foster parents but the state keeps sending kids back to the abuse they left. To put right back in the system to a different parent.
Bless you
This is a good act but in my case my mother has too much power over us in care and I constantly live in fear that we will forced to live in her dangerous household again
Does this really happen in America? That's crazy!
Why in PA does a child have to move every 6 months????? THAT IS HORRIBLE TO HAVE TO MOVE?
Maybe there is trafficking of children going on behind the scenes
Shredded her papers OMG that's terrible.
No state agency is efficient enough to file the day she turned 18. They probably just lied to her.
May Allah grant you jannat al firdous
Child welfare may have shredded her file but she could petition the court for the family court records. Realize this is 10 years later.
Foster Care is an Industry. Can you help us in Trenton New Jersey. Families in Trenton New Jersey are oppressed.
It worries you that foster parents eventually adopt the kids in their care? So they shouldn't? Am studying for the foster care license and watching some videos online is getting me really conflicted if I should go ahead or not
If being a foster parent conflicts you, then don’t do it.
I realize your comment is old, but I hope you did a lot of reflection on whether to foster or not. I have been a foster parent for 2 years, with only one placement thus far. If you haven't already learned this, the goal of foster care is always REUNIFICATION...bio parents will get several chances to get their acts together and as fosters we are to support that. It's not easy, trust me I know. But until they have proven they are not fit to parent and adequate, fit and carefully vetted extended kin are identified, adoption is off the table. So don't go in with adoption on the brain unless you are open to legally freed children whose parents rights have been terminated. It will save a lot of heartache. I wish you well, whatever you had decided.
This is infuriating.
Cathi Cross ii
Did HR12 pass I want more info
SHRED TO AVOID PTSD MEDICAL MALPRACTICE AMONG OTHER LIABILITIES. THE STATES “SHRED/LIE” “Ability “.