Sobriety Rocks - Who Knew! | Janey Lee Grace | TEDxNorwichED
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- Alcohol is normalised in society, despite being an addictive harmful drug. Its the only drug we have to justify NOT taking! There is a movement towards mindful drinking and choosing sobriety and its incredibly liberating to be free of the 'wine o clock' culture. Many of us are 'grey area drinkers' who would benefit from taking a break from the booze to access a whole array of positive benefits. Lets change the conversation around alcohol! " Janey Lee Grace is an Amazon No 1 Best-selling author, commentator, and co-presenter on the UK’s biggest radio show, BBC Radio 2’s Steve Wright in the Afternoon. She runs the popular recommendations blog - imperfectlynatural.com.
Janey has written five books on Holistic living including the number One Amazon best seller Imperfectly Natural Woman and currently writes columns for many magazines, and runs training workshops and consultations on Media Breakthrough for holistic businesses and solopreneurs. She hosts the annual Janey Loves Platinum Awards to recognise the best in natural and organic products and services with categories for practitioners and wellbeing authors. After ditching the booze Janey has launched a podcast ‘Alcohol Free Life’ focusing on sober self-care." This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Love this ted talk! Got to 52 days sober but sadly relapsed. Now it's been 27 days of sobriety since then, and I'm doing so well. I even went to a party with my friends who are BIG on drinking and I didn't have a drop. I'm so proud of myself! ❤️
Congratulations keep it up 💗
Stay away from the first drink ❤️
Keep it up.
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I am proud of you, too!
Addiction is giving up everything for one thing, recovery is giving up one thing for everthing
Yes, but in my experience as someone with 1 year of sobriety, I don’t feel like I “gave up” anything. I simply stopped doing something that I realized was only making me unhappy - in other words, I came to see there were ultimately no positives to drinking.
Wow. Love this.
Focus, not on what you’re giving up but on what you’re gaining. Excellent line.
I stopped in April 2009 and never looked back. The alcohol free trend is very heartening. It's a joy to go to a party, to dinner, etc., an never worry about drinking too much, hangovers, etc. For those of you thinking about stopping -- go for it. You won't regret your decision.
Fifty nine days alcohol free. After 21 years of beer and whiskey. Feels good. Thank you as i shed some tears of joy. Peace.
I started today. I'm so proud of you stranger!
I need to stop .. I've stopped today .. I don't think pepole understand its a problem
It just blows my mind that drinking a poison is socially acceptable. Commercial, magazine ads, billboards, drinking is everywhere you look. There's a bar on every corner, basically a crack house on every corner. The amount of deaths per year because of alcohol is staggering. The relationships it ruins is staggering. How and why have we let it get to this point? Mind blowing.
Try watching tv, or worse yet try listening to a country song , if booze isn’t in the song it isn’t a hit . Lol
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Alcohol is the only substance you can abuse and people think you don’t have a problem
Yeah in fact if you don't drink people think you're insane or something. I'm 19 and never had alcohol in my life. I like to keep it that way. My closest friends do respect that decision, But most people don't understand me
i never was an alcoholic, however i stopped drinking 5 years ago. the change of my life is incredible. the way i use my time is just another world. what i can say is besides alcohol being a poison, it is a WASTE OF TIME, ENERGY... be smart! don't get brainwashed into alcohol. many people try to ridicule me too.. they just ridicule themselves. they say i abstain, and restrain myself from enjoying... well i have other ideas of enjoying myself. i dont have to abstain. my body does not like/want alcohol. wake up!
Agree, I say killing brain cells just dosnt sound like a good time. Awe the illusion of delusional thinking while practicing the poison is mind blowing.
I quit July 2019, it all started with a month. Best decision of my life, she’s so right in this talk. I’m even starting a new career. Life is definitely better for sure, sleep great like a baby and no hangovers. Hangover free is what keeps me going , praying for anyone struggling. You got this and for those who want to try the 30 day challenge, dry January is a great time to do it. Good luck, remember one day at a time 💓💓💓💓💓💓
I'm an alcoholic. I was sober for 6 weeks this year. And I felt so good. I want that lifestyle. It's so worth it .
in my fridge there are cold bottles of water and Dr. Pepper now. I had started drinking back in 1999 6 years after my parents were killed. I was like "This will definitely help" Oh but I would never get behind the wheel while intoxicated. First and last DUI, wound up crashing my truck in to a ditch. This was in 2007. Alcohol would never have me in its grips. Oh how wrong I was about everything. That alcohol elevator had hit bottom and continued on through to the earth's crust in to the mantle taking me along with it. 3 years sober now
Great performance thank you
@@taramaharaj4270 Are you talking to me?
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I'm so sorry for your loss, your parents will be so proud of you for staying sober. Keep it up, hope you're doing well 💗
Well done, stay strong, keep believing in 'you' 👍
Alcohol should not be in grocery stores. You should have to go to a liquor store only to get it. We dont live in that world though. Giving up alcohol now started yesterday.
The state of Utah has very restrictive hours and locations where booze can be bought. I always thought they were just prudish, or perhaps influenced by the Mormon Church. Now I'm beginning to think they're on to something...
It's like that in texas
In india we have alcohol only in liquor shops. Guess what we still have alcoholics.
Right, because prohibition works
I am 22 and 9 months sober. This talk reminded me of how important it is to not do this alone and to build connection!
Connection for me literally equals drinking. I have to stay away from most ppl or social drinking kicks in.
I was the same, but alcohol free beers is the way to go for me
I quit drinking alcohol this past March right as COVID-19 began to take a stronghold here in the US. I had been sober curious for a few weeks leading up to that point, and when I stopped I didn't think I could give it up completely. I read several books about sobriety and watched many videos just like this one, and that really helped me to stay on track. Quite honestly, becoming sober was the BEST decision I ever made in my life. On the surface, I was not considered an "alcoholic," but I still drank enough on most occasions to the point where I experienced hangovers, headaches, and anxiety constantly. I feel so much more free, joyful, and strong without this substance that most people struggle to live without. Not every day is easy, but it is so worth it. And this video hit the nail on the head with the quote, "the opposite of addition is connection." Even 6 months later, I still take it one day at a time!
Love this! Congrats Gina 😊 hope you are continuing doing well!
I'm the opposite actually, my drinking problem _started_ then. But I'm glad I already recognise it and am working on it at the young age of 21. We've got this 💗
“The opposite of addiction is connection” Powerful aha moment.
It's my time to quit alcohol. I'm watching lots of videos on quitting alcohol. I really enjoyed this one. Thank you
I don't have a wine witch. I have and ipa witch. The romantic stage of my sobriety is waning and the negative voice is resurfacing. I must continue to remind myself that I've never regretted not drinking but almost always have regretted drinking. Good luck to everyone, we're on the right path!
Omg, Yes so true! I have never regretted not drinking but almost always regretted choosing to drink.
I hope one day there’s a shift in our society and people realize how wack it is.
over 7 months sober, best thing ive ever done
My partner joined a treatment center today after dealing with this for over ten years. I’m really proud of him and can’t wait to see him and build routines that will help us reach our goals together. It is hard to be in a relationship with someone who’s life is taken over by this and I know it’s harder for them. I’m hoping that I am able to help and encourage him to keep going.
17 days without a drink. Quit for 1 year in 2007, 1 year in 2009 and 1 year in 2017. Went back every time fooling myself into thinking I could moderate and control my drinking. Starts out ok and builds and builds over time until drinking to excess twice a week. Sick of it. I really feel like I’m done. I’m 42. I really don’t want to wake up at 52 regretting another 10 years wasted on hangovers and missed opportunities due to this horrific poison.
Totally agree
I quit April 1 2021 , ya I know . But those words “I can moderate or stop later” is what the addict in my head tells me all the time . But it doesn’t have the hold that it once had on me … you can do it
20 days sober and couldn’t help but to agree with everything you said
28 days sober of alcohol here! 30 years old, and decided to give it up for life! Now I say I’m not an abuser of alcohol, but going a week or so and then having two bottles of wine and half a bottle of gin in one sitting, throwing up all over your bedroom, waking up the next day single as you’ve dumped your girlfriend by text, Lying to her that you cheated when in fact you didn’t, and you have no recollection of doing this! That was the moment I decided I’ve had enough. I’m not the person I was when drunk, I never will that “person” again! Stay strong everyone reading this.
Hope you're doing well.
I live in Australia. I gave up in 2016. I woke up on new year's day recently. It was a beautiful cool day. Everyone was hungover, but I wasn't. I got up at 7am and went about enjoying my day off from work....... feeling fresh and fantastic!
I love being sober! This video is just for moi.
6.5 years clean here. Everything she said is spot on !
Thanks for this, it just reminded me of why I’m sober. I’m a month and a half in, and could feel myself loosing the battle a bit. But feel slightly better after this! Thanks
Im four and a half years down the line from quitting drinking and its the best thing i ever did.
I promise it gets easier.
No headaches, fresh skin, slimmer and more level happier mood day in day out.
Well done and know ifs so do able. You've done the hardest bit!
I hear you J. Potter. I couldn't contain myself a couple weeks ago. Drank for 21 years. Dec 8th at the age of 36 now. Just a couple months sober. Broke down to my 10 year old. Felt good to release my emotons to her. To let her know how the struggle is internal. Communication. Connections. Community. Peace.
Stop battling, and start living in the solution. There are AA meetings everywhere. Go to three meetings a week for a month. If you don't like it your misery will be refunded in full!
If you read. Try allen carrs "easy way"
18 years sober here. 6 DWI convictions, beat around another 6, jail often, six treatments, and I can’t identify with this girl at all. Zero trouble with the law since I quit drinking except for one speeding ticket. It took total surrender for me not a pep talk from some girl that looks like she never had a drink or served a day in jail.
She is a great speaker. I could have easily continued listening if her talk were longer. Entertaining, informative, inspiring.
I absolutely love how calming her voice is
Oh my goodness, Janey has nailed this TED talk. I believe in every word, she has got her point across so eloquently. Inspirational, FANTASTIC TED talk
really appreciate it thank you
@@JaneyLeeGrace laughed out loud at the end
Allen Carr’s book “Quit Drinking The Easy Way” is awesome and life changing.
hi everyone ,if anyone else is searching for what is the safest way to give up alcohol try Elumpa Stop Drink Alchemist (Have a quick look on google cant remember the place now ) ? Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my mate got cool success with it.
very
world class book
Super.....
Carr’s book changed my life. Smoking and drinking. Incredible results
143 days sober and I have never resonated with a video so much, what a fantastic talk. Janey is spot on about all of the benefits, apart from the fact that as a bald man, I am still waiting on those sober locks 😂.
yeah maybe for people like us we get sober skulls
I LOVED THIS. You can see she really did a lot of inner work on herself.
Woop - over 4 months alcohol free now 👍
Instead of focusing on what you are giving up, think about what you are gaining.
7 weeks sober and I will definitely be on my guard of the wine witch.
I enjoyed the story telling of alcohol abuse. I drank alcohol for 22 years until one day, I not longer desired that felling, and it is now going on 28 years in December. My life is so much better and others including family and friends like being around me. I even love myself. 🙂
Agree 100%👏I gave up drinking and I feel way much happier and healthier!
It's not until you stop, or on the many attempts to stop, that you realise how ingrained in society alcohol is.
15 days sober, this time.
Feeling like this might actually be the attempt that works.
Fantastic! Just listened to Janey on my way into work for motivation! Brilliant! I even found myself saying 'yes' out loud to myself (she was that inspirational). Every word Janey said resonated with me. I don't want to drink so, like Janey, I will be telling the Wine Witch to 'do one' tonight! Today is day 6 sober for me. Not been done before in years! We've got this!
Gave it up 20 years ago. Best ever move I made
Next time find people who were true alcoholics, this lady never had an issue. I can say the same , how I stopped over eating and it changed my life, just to be clear I never had an over eating problem to began with !
7 weeks sober at 23yrs old! Ive decided to quit for good! Ive had so much anxiety lately but i know it wont last forever and i do have tons of support thanks for the amazing speech, feel amazing knowing im not alone
Very proud of you! I love how each new generation becomes a little better, smarter, wiser an kinder than the previous one. It is such a relief 🥰
@sbb7 exactly! Starting to see a significant difference in my mental health and im truely starting to be happy and i can finally start to properly take care of myself and am now a few days shy of 19weeks sober!
@@jonathancarnell6772 that's amazing and very inspiring!
Magnesium glycinate works amazing for anxiety. Zero side affects as well.
Keep it up I didn’t finally get long term sobriety until 37 yo after relapsing for 9 years. Best to clean up young
She’s a phenomenal speaker.
Wow, Janie did not hold back with the truth! I love her approach.
This is what I needed to hear. I'm going sober and hoping this time it'll last, but listening to this ted talk really gave me the push I needed. thank you
You got this!!!
@@ellennixon1776 thank you! still sober now. It's been difficult, but I'm hoping to reach the one month goal and go from there.
Kodie Jc It is difficult but so worth it. Life is truly better sober 💕
I wish you the best on this journey, I've tried it but idk if sobriety is for me. It's just not something I can maintain.
DON'T BLINK AND change your playmates/playground.
I needed more than what GOD and AA could offer so I picked up the ACCORDION and never looked back
“I hear you. Thank you for sharing” I’m going to use that thinking in many other areas too😎
Hung on (AND agreed with) every word!! Thank you for this message!
*Alcohol is the only drug we need to justify not taking it* What a great finding that’s so true.
Thank you so much for this talk, which itself will talk to so many people! I hope it has the impact you are so clearly passionate about, and I join you in this! Catherine
Inspirational, amazingly presented!!
Love this TED Talk so much i had to watch it 2 times. The end is classic! LOVE IT!
I love this talk, and I love Janey’s podcast. So positive.
This is wonderful!! Thank you so much for this!!
What a brilliant ending! Everything that was said is so true. I know from personal experience.
Hey Janey, great TED talk. Well done - loved it!
Janey! You're spot on! I'd lived in West London for 2 years (am from US -- crummy beer) and LOVED the cozy pubs and IPAs. Stopped drinking my poison. Gone to Christmas party with friends -- no alcohol served. So, we'd not stayed long. Your hair is beautiful!!
Thank you for posting this. Important information.
Thanks so much for this! I need the encouragement.
One of the best TED talks I have seen. A great message delivered with integrity and passion. The principles Janey talks about can be applied to many other contexts. Well worth a watch especially if you have any habit you want to change.
so appreciate it!
Really enjoy the UK talks as it feels more personal being from East Anglia. Janey Lee Grace says it perfectly and i lovew the honest shares as they give me hope! Thank you!
Great speech and brilliant ending!!!
Excellent talk Janey. Nailed it.
She has done brilliant! so inspiring me to continue on my journey.
I wish you you will have millions views on this video.
I went 2 years and 9 months sober relapsed at my favorite NFL team home opener a few years ago. Just downloaded a sober app choose not to drink for the next 24 hours. The one day at a time mentality helped me on my journal my first rodeo, I’ll be using the same mindset this time 🙏🏾
I can soo relate to this! I didn’t have any alcohol until I was 31 but after 3 years of drinking I started to realise that I had a problem and going T total for the foreseeable future was my best option. Now 2 months sober 😅 plan to be sober for as long as possible now 😁
That was so eloquent, so good, and so true. That talk could also apply to people that use marijuana. She's talking about the brightness returning to your life. The shine coming back. It does happen exactly in the way in which she describes it.
Yesssss! Thank you for those last words Mizz Grace.
Love her strong voice! Really shines her personality. Probably anciliary effect of quitting alcohol. :)
Love The Unexpected Joy of being Sober!!
Fabulous Janey! Love this.
thanks and for all the work you do with Alcohol Change UK
So much respect 🙌 to you for sharing your story to help others heal. 🦋 It's a true calling. I absolutely found my purpose in telling my story of borderline death ☠️ and life implosion 🤯 to healing my brain and body to get my life back! Much luv! 🕉 You can heal!
All true and well said ..Especially the end !51 days a/f and loving my new life ! Congrats to all in the same family 😉👍
I've listened to Janey on the radio for years. she's excellent. I didn't realise she had a problem with the booze though. nice speech Janey, and very well done.
Amazing talk, thank you!
So we're in Lockdown lll, and I've decided to abstain from alcohol during Lent (as well as bread n crisps) It's very interesting to observe the reactions I'm getting from friends regarding this, particularly the incredulity during this time. It is acceptable and approved of to get hammered right now, drinking to forget our shared pain of not going out (to the pub) I find it fascinating to observe my own thinking of this socially acceptable addiction.
Thank you for your talk. Cheers 😉
I didn't want to get sober.
I definitely needed to get sober.
I was forced to AA or lose my daughter. I thought, "fine. Ill stop drinking long enough to move away. That was thirty years ago. Some of it has been wonderful and some has been....not so much wonderful. Isn't that life?
Just because you don't drink today isn't a commitment to not drink next week.....or tomorrow . Find a way of sobriety that works for you. Relapse does not have to be a part of your story. But if you are HERE, maybe check out a way or two of sobriety. You can always drink later.
Fantastic talk! Engaging speaker. Well done
Could apply to any negative behaviour! Worth a watch.
absolutely, I've created a course for ditching the booze, but you're right it applies to anything
This was so good , wow ❤❤❤❤
oh I just LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!!! Really Well Done absolutely brilliant!
Thank you1
I lost the love of my life 17 months ago. I am sure I've drank every night since then. Then I bought vodka so nobody could smell the wine on my breathe. I get very lonely at night without him. I am really wanting to stop drinking.
Ask the love of your life to give you the strength and he will Best wishes Celine
2 months sober😜
Alcohol steals your joy, agreed!
Miss You, Tim and Steve
I'll always,s Love the show
Lovely! Inspirational!🥰
Best Ted talk ever, awesome ending, well done Jamie x
Janey I meant 🙄
Brilliant Ted Talk. Well done!!
Fantastic Ted Talk! loved it!
I thoroughly enjoy watching this. This past year during the pandemic my alcohol consumption dropped, I had money in the bank, had some energy, and I have boxes of booze in my basement UNOPENED! Heck, most of the time I forget I even have it. It’s to the point where I’m practically giving my stash away. After this past quarter century of downing booze like water, it’s like I’m done!
Last few times I had a drink, I had one or two sips, and that was it for me.
Do you have any left?
Very well done👍👍👍
Brilliant!
I have a drinking problem. I have held down a job and built alot of skills. I work out 4-5 times a week and am a pretty good dad, however I am an alcoholic and I want to admit it. I dont like drinking how I do and the person I can become.
Talking about it is a great 1st step-that’s the hardest thing to do. I heard Naltrexone is very helpful to cut down on the beneficial hit of drinking...you’ll figure out what you need to do next. It always starts with intention and awareness/consciousness...🙏🏼
Dante 🙏🏼❤️ seek the Lord Jesus Christ and walk into an AA meeting and your life will be changed forever. I was hopeless for 8 years and now with Jesus and AA I am almost 3 years sober with a whole new life. I am the man I always wanted to be, God bless you.
@@thekingsroad1612 well done.. Me to 8 years 27 February.. AA and a higher power.. Life is good... ❤️🙏🏻❤️
@@HeartEvolutions Followed immediately by action, on a daily basis. Nobody "thinks" their way to sobriety.
@@Mark-pp7jy absolutely....
That wine witch is a sneaky bugger. Every time you think you got it under control ...
Best ending EVER.
Love love love!! Excellent ted talk Janey!
All said and done,its all down to ourselves,the buck stops with us and the first step is admitting what we are,only then can we s4art to recover,good luck to all👍
best talk ever!