Gone are the days of over-giving
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Gone are the days of over-giving
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I'm doing the same thing, opening up to people who love and backing off from those who drain my energy
Exactly.
Speaking only for myself: The sense of not planning ahead provides unforeseen and amazing openings. This after a lifetime of planning and attachments provided nothing but a false sense of control. So amazing to see you in new location/ space time. 🙏🏼
amazing openings......wordless wonders....
Yes, I agree . . It also allows for easy breathing. Have you noticed ? Not being able to do something wrong is so freeing.
I spend every day walking around the grave yard opposite my house, it is alive with nature, and a really perfect place for thoought and reflection, it never occurs to me to enter the church, but the garden around it I love. My cats join me there most days.. a real sanctuary.
Over-giving can be suffering to the max. I’ve had to tone back giving in so many ways with certain people, because if you give them an inch they’ll take a mile.
And when you realise they is you, you realise: your taking from yourself.
Just a note to file about the noise in the environment you live in. I feel blessed, entirely blessed to simply turned my head and see Nature in the backyard, front yard, side yard, the quiet solitude of being located at base of large mountain (large in Alaska is small). Blessed. If I could package it, would mail it to you and be there is two days. 🤪 Blessed not a great word, in fact I'm running out of words. Opened my eyes this morning, did not put feet on floor until realizing that "this is all there is". Refreshing the screen. Thank you sincerely from somewhere inside the light of what "This" is. I don't know except it sounds like truth.😵💫
Came across your channel recently. Finally, I don't feel alone. There are people out there who know and yet not know( because the mind can never understand this)
Welcome to an unexplainable companionship.
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Expectation brings lot of pressure. so true. sometimes I keep very quiet listening to some close friends and family and they think I don't care which is not the case.... Thank you for this.. hugs
❤I Love the Silence Transmission of your Presence🙏Dancing Emptiness🕺
Hello my Beautiful Gorgeous Loveable Sister Suzanne,
It is always so wildly exciting to hear what are you going to bring forward to us 💛🔥❣️😁
My wife complains that I have lost my empathy. I don't think that's true, but it seems that way to her. The point might be that I am less inclined to "appease" emotional states. When I see a person struggling with their ideas and their "environment", I no longer have the immediate reflex to respond in a way that the person would perceive as "helping" them. This doesn't mean that I don't acknowledge the acute suffering or that I am unwilling to support them. But the support that can really be given is usually not the kind of support the person would have in mind.
People gotta learn that their issues are their issues. Wanting others to fill some hero role, who comes to their rescue is just not reality. We all have both pleasant and unpleasant experience in our stories. Regardless of which it is, it's your experience. Not someone else's. Sadly most just want ego validation.
That's 👍
Exactly. Like expecting that I will support their assumed limitations and make it ok. Acceptable for them, make it easier, validate, their stuff! Ha. Their stuff is just that, This. Nothing personal, not mine to carry I know that I'm only responsible for this one body and if this one body can "save" another due to this body being "amazing". ha ha ha ha ha I've been trying to put that together forever!
Suzanne air traffic like road traffic is heavier on certain days and certain times, you may find quieter times if you ask the locals or the city.❤❤❤ you
Hi, Suzanne,
This clarity you have to smile at what you see still playing out for others seems fundamental to why you are such a helpful presence and voice. Ironic (yet increasingly obvious 😎) that not really caring about other people’s suffering makes the attention you pay all the more potent. Mirrors don’t care, they just reflect?
I feel like I’m in this odd no-man’s land between being drawn/compelled to the truth you point to, while functionally still being driven by character and story.
So your unconcerned message and attention feels perfectly suited to where I am, and where I still convince myself I’m not.
Feels like such a blessing…
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My wife complains that I have lost my empathy. I don't think that's true, but it seems that way to her. The point might be that I am less inclined to "appease" emotional states. When I see a person struggling with their ideas and their "environment", I no longer have the immediate reflex to respond in a way that the person would perceive as "helping" them. This doesn't mean that I don't acknowledge the acute suffering or that I am unwilling to support them. But the support that can really be given is usually not the kind of support the person would have in mind.
"it doesn't really describe or point to what i mean" ~ words have a reflexive meaning, where we look and try to describe what we see, but deeper than this our communication is a direct expression of what we are.
Who taught a cemetery could be a happy place . The true it’s we can make a hell of any place we go to , sometimes we think that if we go to some exotic place that would turn our reality into heaven then we go and we discover that we just take our hell around . Yes a cemetery can be a blissful place if we have awareness and we stop projecting our mood on what it’s around us . I lived in three countries and from pure experience I now understand it’s mainly about mindset nowhere it’s perfect really.
Suzanne, I am really looking forward to having a tour with you 😁
That tree is beautiful 🌳
That tree you were sitting under is amazing
This tree indeed, sooooo adorable 💛🔥❣️🌅🌄😁❤️🙄💗💓💙💜💖♥️❤️
thanks for this beautiful talk ...
Oh wow! I’m so excited that you have found such a wonderful cemetery not too far away from your new place.
This tree is a masterpiece of nature for sure, it’s so so beautiful.
Thank you for your wonderful cemetery talk today. I love it that it’s fine to see the mind identification of people in their stories. It might seem a problem but in the core there isn’t.
Wish you a wonderful fall-time with sunlight and golden trees.
Thank you! I resonate with your letting go experience. It sounds very similar to my journey through Al-Anon. Deeply rooted family of origin stuff 🥀
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Im so happy to see your videos again i feel draw to you do not now why its weird. Thank you🙏
Thanks
Thanks so much Eric! ♡ Really appreciate it.
🙋🏻♀️➰🩲👃🏽💕🏃🏽♂️... 🧎🏾♂️🪦 umm so crave for Suzanne's non duality umm
Hey Lady hope your spirit is up beat
So nice to see you back Suzanne! Big hugs from England ❤
Thank you
Thanks Anglikai! ♡♡♡ Your contributions are always appreciated!
I can't stop thinking in lines of poetry but I love it they are really beautiful and sometimes a whole poem comes in that has perfect riming like a hycoo
"perfect riming like a hycoo"
WOW! 🤣👏🤡
I just woke up and my whole morning is already made 🤣 you fuuuucking 🦧
Thank you !💛💚💜🧡
To those complaining about the plane "noise", take that opportunity to ask yourself, "Why does this bother me?"
I haven't seen a whole lot of her videos, but this is the first that I can recall of her expressing joy. 😊
Well said about the plane noise, Johnny.
I don’t begrudge anyone their irritation, as I’ve voiced plenty of my own in this life.
But when I was as young as Suzanne, I didn’t know that conversations or potentials like this even existed.
So, for me, I’ll gladly listen through some jet engine roar to hear something so precious…
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Not complaining here but can tell you that this bodies nervous system clenches at loud and discordant sounds. And the body tenses and has construction. I've been blessed living in the country and at least 4 hours from a city so there are no flight patterns go past and it felt shocking how loud and consistent the plane sounds are.
If a noise was so loud that it made your ears bleed, would that be a problem?
There is always a cutoff point where one can not just simply ignore the noise and say it doesn’t bother them. And since everyone is different, that cutoff point will be different.
Some people will have more sensitive hearing than you. Some less.
Even certain animals would migrate away from this constant noise or face local extinction from it.
This thought of over giving is a result of your analysis. Over analyzing is separation from what is.
i relate and see your beauty!
Gorgeous tree!!
Coooool tree!!! Wicked Art
Fine when its fine but hard to bear when its not and freedom in senseless and sense .
I'm not only free of bondage and liberation;
I'm not only free of purity and impurity;
I'm not only free of union and separation;
I'm Freedom itself; I'm everywhere, like space.
Chaturthodhyayah
Chapter 4, Verse 2
She's so adorable, lucky man to whoever wife's her
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That is such a beautiful tree!
R.I.P means rest in peace, but how are those dead supposed to rest in peace with all those darn planes! Come on humans, make quiet planes, we got stealth fighter jets, why not stealth regular plans?
They’re only stealth on radar; still just as loud as any other plane (F-22, B-2, F-35. All very loud but stealth)
I loved the comment though lol. It’s nuts how much noise is in the background.
It’s because she’s near the runways. Every plane is passing over her to land. Planes are loudest on takeoff and landing.
@@KK-sg5glI was just being playful in my response.
what a beautiful tree . . . .
That tree grown/ing towards the sun and perfectly doing no thing❤
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Land Park Sacramento CA has a beautiful cemetary.
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A new cemetery? Are the dead here as welcoming?
This was awesome! Thank you! Where are you?
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You know what they say, when in lack of nature you always have sky and the breeze and air
Takes her until 10 mins to voice the reality of the planes. : ) I would imagine the cemetery is over a flight path. Pretty crazy.
The suggestion is there is/was no script.😊
More planes but less trains lol. Same energy appears in consciousness
Not if you move away from it.
hey, do you still feel social anxiety now ? the body here is really conditionned to do so, obviously "i" cannot do anything about it, but the physical contraction is still intensely there. Any advice ? Thanks so much for your videos xxx
I don’t know if Suzanne will answer, but your sincere question seems to deserve a response, even if it’s just from some old guy you don’t know. 😎
In my experience, tenderness is so fundamental in these places. Labels are obviously limited, but the kind of contraction you describe always seems rooted in fear, insecurity, and deep, vulnerable wounding.
I am learning, slowly, over many years, to meet these contractions with great tenderness.
Not to pressure them into doing better or even disappearing, but to be gentle, attentive, and patient.
At least for me, this will always, eventually, reveal the nature of the wound.
Don’t rush yourself. And do your best to welcome whatever shows its face. Given tenderness and relaxed attention, it will show what it wants and needs.
There is no timeline. Some people seem to melt and open quickly. I have grown frustrated and wondered what is wrong with me (!?) because my melting can seem glacial in comparison.
But it’s still melting, it’s still a softening of the contraction, however gradual, whatever its pace.
And that tenderness we show ourselves becomes a way of meeting everything that arises, and everyone and everything we meet.
All the best to you. Lovely question…
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I've heard her say in previous videos essentially the notion that there isn't anxiety anymore bc no one and nothing exists to feel anxious about
Social anxiety appears as a problem because you identify with it. Recognize that anxiety and every other feeling is an appearance. It's not necessary to jump right into it, that's just a stubborn habit. When you realize that you are the background against which everything appears, the fixation on the feeling disappears, and with it, gradually, the cause of the feeling.
David Bohm and Krishnamurti - czcams.com/play/PL1n30s-LKus4ipHYdBpKt1-AdSN181Lc0.html&si=wZ1-Ln0KEKytv8sP
Hi, I’m kinda new to your channel. What’s the significance of video taping at the cemetery? Thanks! ❤
She just moved back to the city her parents live. Before she lived in a different city and used to record her videos at a cemetery too, simply because it was less crowded, quieter, with beautiful greenery and she would walk there almost daily.:-)
@@markie9739 Thank you so much for responding! ❤️
@@darrylsanders6056 You’re very welcome.:-)
@@markie9739More to it then that, but I suppose that's a decent enough answer for the fellow. I'll simply add on, it's a fitting place for an enlightened nobody to hang out at. As she's dead and doesn't exist, a cemetery is essentially....home.
@@ItApproaches She explains it in one of her videos and yes, she does find it a fiiting place as well, thank you :).
does a cemetery wants to keep the non-existent alive ?
Can you run a noise reducing filter on your videos? cus damn
Life, even reincarnation, seems to be the way between two cemeteries
Hey you look cool😎wheres the plant ation which country are you in?
What a weird statement to make.
I GOTTA SAY IT..LOOKIN CUTE AF IN THOSE SHADES!!!!!! DAM!!!!!!!! ♥ ♥ ♥
How do you do your video Suzanne 😁🤔
A smartphone...?
Are you near an airport? So many planes!
You must be some kind of fucking genius.
Don't you see the airplane is following you Suzanne?
Have you read Joseph Campbell's hero's journey? If so, I'm curious at what stage of the journey you feel yourself in.
Also, You Look sooooo cool whereas above you this private airplane making such a loud noise????!!!
Why cemetery?
Why not? Quiet, she as an enlightened nobody is dead. She doesn't exist. So in a way, a cemetery is in a way, home....tis a fitting spot for nothingness to be.
Burial plots.
or graves. Either works.
shame about all the background noise, shattering your tranquility
are you sliped back into the ego character?
Of course the ego character dance continues to dance, just is seen FROM that which is not ego
@@darrenyoung4509 ego is looking from no ego and having a party? u gotta be joking.. u wanna be free and have peace and happiness this ego needs to be gone and so this illusion realty u call my life.. after waking up is hell.. nothing else..
Why do you ask?
@@minimal3734 cos fear is running her again..
You seem really to be viewing everything from a hardcore sutrayana lens, almost spiritual bypassing pov.
I'm not enlightened but there are countless reports of enlightened persons still feeling and playing with emotions
A cemetery is not "nature" - there is nothing more structured and decaying.
There is nothing more structured and decaying than nature. 🤫
@@richardrallo6605 Then everything is natural Mr richard.
To claim that one has a yearning to experience nature and so ventures off to the nearest cemetery, is plainly ridiculous, immature and insane
Cemeteries are beautiful, quiet places (except for the planes), similar to public parks and more "nature" than other places in the city. Since the theme is ultimately about "one's own funeral", I think it's also very appropriately chosen. Do you have any other comments?
@@PetraKann "then everything natural" is an absolute non sequitur, Ms Petra. Doesn't logically follow from anything I said whatsoever. Where'd you learn logic, JC Penny? 😖
Oh yeah? What if one lives in the middle of a large city and can't afford to travel to like the swiss alps, for "real" nature experiences? You know, like hundreds of millions of people do?🤔
👍 Thanks for playing 🤡
@@minimal3734 Agreed. Especially when one really takes into account the fact that in a cemetery you're totally surrounded by the ultimate natural process, the decaying of the human body. That's more nature than we can probably expect most people to be comfortable with, I guess.
As for Ms. Petra, give her a break. She's probably all of 19 years old or some shit... Least I hope so...😆
I disagree don't resonate when you said produce it i did not made it that was never me because i resonate most that say we created our own realities and we are gods ourselves i don't resonate that there is only one real true god that created us that we are not the creators and we are not gods ourselves i do think we are gods and creators as well we are powerful infinite immortal beings i do think that is who we really truly actually are but i do agree resonate you and most say that there is no right or wrong should or shouldn't and there is no separation i do agree most say there is a home i don't agree resonate that there is no home that we don't have no home but i also think that nobody is wrong and crazy for thinking and doing what we wanna do i also want to let you know that i'm werid myself too i think there's nothing wrong being weird difference because just like some say that's what makes us unique it's ok to be unique i actually love being weird difference i don't want to be normal and popular i always hate it popularity never care about popularity to be honest i always love prefer being unpopularity over popularity that's just me
Lithium.
"Everyone is bright and cheerful, celebrating as if at a grand party, or climbing a tower in spring. But I alone am calm and still, like an infant not yet moved to smile, lost and without a place." Chuang Tzu
@@minimal3734 don't get me wrong i do respect suzanna and everybody's honestly point of view perception take on things i never said that i don't respect it at all even if there are certain things i do or don't resonate with i think that's ok if some choose to resonate agree with everything or if some choose to not agree with everyone i think it's ok if some choose to think for themselves that love to follow there own heart gut instincts and some choose to not think for themselves and thanks for sharing everyone is brigh and cheerful, celebrating as if at a grand party or climbing a tower in spring but you alone are clam and still, like an infant not yet moves to smile, lost and without a place chuang tzu
This is the weirdest talk I've ever heard of yours