How to Truly Forgive - Part 1 | Joyce Meyer | Enjoying Everyday Life

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  • How can we forgive others the way God forgives us? Hear what it takes from Joyce Meyer, Ginger, Jai and Erin…the ladies of our Talk It Out Podcast, on this special episode of Enjoying Everyday Life!
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    Joyce Meyer, one of the world’s leading practical Bible teachers and New York Times best-selling author, shares encouragement and advice to help us enjoy our daily lives.
    With a heart to share Christ and love people, Joyce’s messages help people in all walks of life to grow in their faith, learn to study the Bible, find healing from the wounds of life, get answers to life’s questions and encounter the love of God in a powerful way.
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Komentáře • 126

  • @tomidilluminator
    @tomidilluminator Před 2 lety +16

    I forgave the armed robber that shot me in the face. Best decision I have ever made for me. I had to set myself free

  • @geokatongo
    @geokatongo Před 2 lety +33

    Thank you mama Joyce, you have no idea how bad I needed to hear this, I’ve been torturing myself because after so many years I didn’t FEEL good about the people that betrayed me, so I was questioning if I really forgave them..BUT when the opportunity came around that I had to help them I did the right thing even though I’d rather not🤣or care too.

    • @noracharles9366
      @noracharles9366 Před 2 lety +2

      Good for you! Congratulations ⚜️ ⭐️

    • @janekaliburcreations
      @janekaliburcreations Před 2 lety +1

      I’ve been there & had to do the same thing, in trembling and all lol. Congrats on taking that step into forgiving and being obedient to God.

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +4

      Hi Georgia! We're so glad to hear that this episode encouraged you! -Team JMM

    • @TS-tv2ik
      @TS-tv2ik Před 2 lety +2

      I call her mama Joyce too ❤

    • @geokatongo
      @geokatongo Před 2 lety +1

      @@TS-tv2ik she’s all of our mamas✨

  • @tammyt8306
    @tammyt8306 Před 2 lety +5

    I started tearing up when Jai spoke of her willingness to speak to her ex-husband’s fiancée, but tears of happiness to know and hear of the growth Jesus has done in her life. Only Jesus can transform us in such a way that we look and ‘are’ different from the rest of the world. Bless you Beautiful Ladies!

  • @ChiomaEjeagwu-v2p
    @ChiomaEjeagwu-v2p Před měsícem

    A Huge thanks to you Joyce and your friends for this podcast on forgiveness. I have been badly badly hurt in my life by others, like really badly. I struggled with forgiveness and God led me to your videos on forgiveness. I learnt so much and with God’s help I have forgiven finally. I feel much much better. Thank you for stressing that we have all offended God and still He loves us as His creatures. Thank you Joyce also for stressing in one of your podcasts that we are accountable for only our lives and actions. Thank you so much as this impacted me. I am kind of assessing and reviewing my own account because on the last day I will stand to give account of myself. I have been able to genuinely pray for those who wronged me badly and I feel I have done the right thing. God richly bless and reward you and your friends. You are all LOVED.

  • @luzaguirre2830
    @luzaguirre2830 Před 2 lety +8

    When you live for God & the ugly things happen in life, IF we turn to Him, we can trust that He will touch it & work it out in an amazing way❤❤❤

  • @chachasantiago450
    @chachasantiago450 Před 2 lety +3

    Jesus is coming and we need to love and forgive each other. God bless you all. Let's pray for each other ❤️

  • @TEDDYBEARTOWN1111
    @TEDDYBEARTOWN1111 Před 2 lety +5

    This was pricking. I got tearful hearing Jay's testimony. I felt so proud of this lovely woman. I understood every "Godly" mature move. Greater things are ahead of you Ms. Jay. Keep pressing, keep trusting, the Lord GOT YOU. Lady, you brought me to tears. Good tears. God bless all of you!

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +2

      We're so glad to hear that this blessed you today! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @aaadit4131
    @aaadit4131 Před 2 lety +5

    Blessing from Indonesia. All glory to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ Amen

  • @user-hk4oh2ku8w
    @user-hk4oh2ku8w Před 8 měsíci

    LOVE LIFE

  • @tarawehry7105
    @tarawehry7105 Před rokem +1

    I sometimes fake forgiveness and say I forgive then I ignore this person. That’s NOT true forgiveness and God knows whether or not I’m being truthful. You can fool some of the people some of the time, but you’re NOT going to fool God. That’s what my minister in Virginia used to say. Ken McCrickard. God rest his soul, he went to be with the Lord about 41/2 years ago. I miss him so much, he wasn’t just my preacher, but my friend.

  • @nestahnjoki189
    @nestahnjoki189 Před 2 lety

    Great message

  • @kennyskhronicles4880
    @kennyskhronicles4880 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much ladies 😊💕

  • @GodsMouthpieceJoeRob
    @GodsMouthpieceJoeRob Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you Joyce ❤️🙏🏾🙂

  • @beverlyballard8783
    @beverlyballard8783 Před 2 lety

    Forgiving brings oxygen...BEAUTY

  • @aprilpitts8176
    @aprilpitts8176 Před rokem

    Thank you for this video.❤

  • @jennifergill1057
    @jennifergill1057 Před 2 lety +3

    Such a good word!

  • @12PrettyBri
    @12PrettyBri Před 2 lety +2

    That’s so powerful knowing that forgiveness is a decision and I never thought about that because she is right I couldn’t truly do it because my feelings were involved!!! AMEN !!!!! Now I have removed myself from that situation and I’m doing good now !

  • @ronniejenkins1810
    @ronniejenkins1810 Před 2 lety +1

    Love You Joyce Meyer from Louisville, KY 😀

  • @lovelygirl1532
    @lovelygirl1532 Před 2 lety +2

    We love you Joyce. Praying for good workers And my husband surgery.

    • @mhba4866
      @mhba4866 Před 2 lety

      🙏 🤲

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      We will be praying as well! If you’d like, you can also fill out a prayer request at joycemeyer.org/prayer. God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @ML-rh7lv
    @ML-rh7lv Před rokem

    I LOVE YOU LAIES

  • @Jerry.anthony.c
    @Jerry.anthony.c Před 2 lety +1

    21:30 - BRUTAL HONESTY

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare Před rokem

    Awesome and helpful information
    Thanks

  • @tanetteallen7655
    @tanetteallen7655 Před 2 lety

    I sooo needed this!!

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      We're so glad to hear that this blessed you today! Be sure to visit joycemeyer.org/TalkItOut to download your free resource from this episode!! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @lucillelaurenzi3117
    @lucillelaurenzi3117 Před 2 lety

    Hi ladies I love your show.I look forward to your video on how to forgive.

  • @tarawehry7105
    @tarawehry7105 Před rokem

    Love is actually about what you feel but how you treat w that’s forgiveness.

  • @samanthatermizi
    @samanthatermizi Před rokem

    Thank you

  • @mhba4866
    @mhba4866 Před 2 lety

    I really need it. Thank you so much.

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      We're so glad to hear that this episode blessed you! Visit joycemeyer.org/TalkItOut to download your free resource from this episode!! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @user-pf2uv1yl2k
    @user-pf2uv1yl2k Před rokem

    FORGIVE YOU DESERVE PEACE. ❤

  • @____kept
    @____kept Před 2 lety

    This was so amazing 💜

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      We're so glad to hear that this episode blessed you today! Visit joycemeyer.org/TalkItOut to download your free resource from this episode!! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @blindfaithlove
    @blindfaithlove Před 2 lety

    Forgiveness is for you not for them! Amen

  • @magentapilot4576
    @magentapilot4576 Před 8 měsíci

    Its about accepting what happened ❤

  • @poojabutoliya7138
    @poojabutoliya7138 Před 2 lety +1

    It was great 👍

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +1

      We encourage you to check out Joyce's 3030 Challenge at joycemeyer.org/3030! Blessings! -Team JMM

  • @syndysblog
    @syndysblog Před 2 lety

    Thank you All for the great massage. Stay blessed 🙏🙏🙏

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      Blessings to you as well! -Team JMM

  • @Rocketscienceshorts
    @Rocketscienceshorts Před rokem

    I really love this podcast! I am a long time Joyce Meyer listener who started as a teenager, so to be in my early 30s now listening to and seeing how the ministry has grown. This is one of the best things that they have created to reflect the culture that watches her program.

  • @victoriakobba5790
    @victoriakobba5790 Před 2 lety +2

    Thank you ma'am, I was truly blessed with your message

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +1

      We're so glad to hear that this blessed you today! Be sure to visit joycemeyer.org/TalkItOut to download your free resource from this episode!! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @lhoward4659
    @lhoward4659 Před 2 lety

    Thank you so much Joyce. I needed this help from you. And I thank God for all his help everyday! AMEN

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      We're so grateful to hear that this blessed you today! Visit joycemeyer.org/TalkItOut to download your free resource from this episode!! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @musanaharmon6901
    @musanaharmon6901 Před 11 měsíci

    Wow

  • @neanea_stk5376
    @neanea_stk5376 Před 2 lety

    Yess

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      Be sure to visit joycemeyer.org/TalkItOut to download your free resource from this episode!! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @genevievebarton208
    @genevievebarton208 Před 2 lety +2

    I love the subject because it's something I learnt early In my married life. I learned if I don't forgive the people I have a disagreement with it keeps buried inside me. It tears me apart If I don't forget them and just be friendly the next time I run into them. The past is over with you already had that conversation. You start new. If the other person Start bringing up the past situation, I'm just going to say God Bless you and beyond my way again to talk to someone else

  • @catherinemugabi7296
    @catherinemugabi7296 Před 2 lety +1

    Its very difficult to forgive people who have hurt you to the core, bt the your statement abt how God forgives us all the time is extremely powerful. Not easy bt starting the forgiveness journey. Thank you

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +1

      We know that forgiving those who hurt us can at times be a long and difficult process. We encourage you to check out Joyce's new online study at joycemeyer.org/NewStudy. We pray it is a blessing to you! -Team JMM

    • @catherinemugabi7296
      @catherinemugabi7296 Před 2 lety

      @@joycemeyer Thank you so much. Following the link

    • @catherinemugabi7296
      @catherinemugabi7296 Před 2 lety

      @@joycemeyer Thank you so much. Following the link

  • @atinlongho1957
    @atinlongho1957 Před rokem

    Amen ❤️

  • @natalieerickson5519
    @natalieerickson5519 Před 2 lety

    Everyone was lovely, and I'm so grateful for you sharing everything you did today! God bless you all! Two big thank yous: Momma Joyce - you taught me today to be a good listener. You have more material, respect and first hand knowledge on true forgiveness than anyone; you could have owned that conversation completely....but you listened with a true heart. God bless you. I also realized - the length of time that you were hurting at home is the same length God had you take care of that family later in life....you.are.incredible. Please know what your testimony has done for me....I will do great things in my life very much in part by you. I'm so honored by your example. AND JAI!...GUESS WHAT?! YOU TOO! You are going to give me a tidal wave of change and I can't thank you enough....truly, Empress of Impress: you looked more like a bride to me today then I think that poor woman will on the day. I DO NOT say that to be mean....please hear that with a tear in my heart for her - AND another happy one because: you made Our King so glad. Sister - you keep going....your best days are yet to come, in Jesus name. Jai, I'm watching you - thank you for your dedication to service...I'm on my way. God bless us all in Jesus name. God bless every single thought, prayer and hope. God bless all the captives and all the free people - we're ALL His. In Jesus name, amen.

  • @brooe469
    @brooe469 Před 2 lety

    Amen

  • @pattibrooks1907
    @pattibrooks1907 Před 2 lety

    Great message ! Amen ! Praise the Lord our God ! God Bless Joyce Dave her family the JMM Team everyone reading this ! May more than likely get knee surgery probably a knee replacement as the regular doctor said my cartlidge is shot almost gone and if its that painful get a knee replacement but have to see a ortohoedic on the 10th next week at 3pm 2pm pick up !

  • @sirtedricwalker2979
    @sirtedricwalker2979 Před 2 lety

    Wow....Joyce's conversation with her mom at 20L20......truthful and powerful......I was unable to have that conversation with my mom and the relationship was barely surface and not what a mother and child should be.

  • @carmelaseverino681
    @carmelaseverino681 Před 2 lety

    I forgive everyone that has betrayed me but it’s not reciprocated!

  • @susanhaskell6111
    @susanhaskell6111 Před 2 lety +1

    Thank you for talking about forgiveness. Want to let you know that I say to myself now, Peace and ease fill my mind, soul and body. This helps me too. Thanks again for Talk It Out. Do like watching.

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      We're grateful to hear how this episode blessed you! Be sure to visit joycemeyer.org/TalkItOut to download your free resource from this episode!! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @flaviatgoncalves
    @flaviatgoncalves Před 2 lety

    It's hard but possible! 👐👐👐

  • @mhenry4248
    @mhenry4248 Před 2 lety +1

    Jai REALLY speaks to me! She expressed beautifully exactly how I’ve felt. Coming through that and dealing with those feelings back then… how grateful I am that He listened to my feelings of abandonment, that He didn’t care. I know now, that was Satan and the only way I got through these hard times… was The Lord

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +1

      Thank you so much for sharing this with us! God is so faithful to us! -Team JMM

  • @vishwasjawale7721
    @vishwasjawale7721 Před 2 lety +3

    Praise The Lord and God Bless You , Madam Joyce Mayer ,

  • @JA-ht2lz
    @JA-ht2lz Před 2 lety

    Jai that’s incredible! Praise God that’s He’s redeeming your story and the work that He’ll do in your life is going to be so much better than anything you could have ever hoped for and many times His redemption isn’t anything like what we as people can even dream of ❤️ I had the opportunity to bless a person who was hurtful in my past, and I did it because I’d prayed and gotten confirmation that it was what God wanted to be done. I see now that God was glorified because I was the least likely to want or need to bless that person, so clearly it was all God and not me 🙌🏼 I’m glad I listened and planted that seed, it’s going to advance God’s kingdom in the end!!

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      🙌🙏 Thank you so much for your kind words and for sharing part of your story with us! God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @MysticUnigon
    @MysticUnigon Před 2 lety

    I needed this so badly. Losing friends over childish behavior isn't worth it. It's very hard to control anger anxiety, but unfortunately most people don't understand that form of anxiety.

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +1

      We're sorry to hear about all that you have gone through. We are praying for you! We also encourage you to check out Joyce's new online study at joycemeyer.org/NewStudy. God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @SK-jb4ui
    @SK-jb4ui Před 2 lety

    I love watching JMM videos. I have to admit I avoided this particular video on forgiveness for a week. I finally watched it, and I am glad I did. I was very moved and blessed by Jai's testimony on her choosing the higher road with her ex. God bless you Jai!

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +1

      We're so grateful to hear that this teaching blessed you today! We know that forgiving those who hurt us can at times be a long and difficult process. We encourage you to check out bit.ly/2wGRyvn. We hope it can be a blessing to you as you journey through forgiveness. God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @cjscompilation3524
    @cjscompilation3524 Před 2 lety

    Joyce Meyer, thank you so very much for the 'Forgiveness' free book, I believe and trust it will change me and others to have a heart of Forgiveness. I am encouraging everyone to download it, it's great and beneficial 👍

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +1

      We're so glad to hear that the free resource is a blessing to you! -Team JMM

  • @janiemartinez147
    @janiemartinez147 Před 2 lety

    Amen thank you Jesus christ for another beautiful morning father 🙏 I'm doing that with my family members and children 🙏 ❤ please pray for me I want to be transformed and my children and grandchildren and family members as we in Jesus name I Claim it ❤🙏🙏🙏

  • @elizabeths583
    @elizabeths583 Před 2 lety

    ❤️

  • @Jerry.anthony.c
    @Jerry.anthony.c Před 2 lety

    19:00 - This!

  • @Jerry.anthony.c
    @Jerry.anthony.c Před 2 lety

    20:50 - Evidence of forgiveness!!!!!

  • @evahometx100
    @evahometx100 Před 2 lety

    As long as we don’t harbor resentments either after we forgive.

  • @sue6347
    @sue6347 Před 2 lety +2

    What should I do when the people who hurt me do not recognise that they did and they end up saying that they never did such things to me? and that I have always been the problem because I am a bad person. It is painful when you want to forgive and the people who hurt you lie and deny everything.

  • @katiekiger544
    @katiekiger544 Před rokem

    I have been forgiven by some my friends ❤😊

  • @rhondamurray6581
    @rhondamurray6581 Před 2 lety +3

    How do you forgive when it keeps happening over and over and over thank you

    • @mhba4866
      @mhba4866 Před 2 lety +1

      Yeah that's my question too.

    • @Laurie-rq3xq
      @Laurie-rq3xq Před 2 lety

      ….And it’s your own mother….

    • @amberledbetter7702
      @amberledbetter7702 Před 2 lety +1

      Just because you forgive someone doesn't mean they always get a spot in your life. You have to set boundaries against repeat offenders. Be kind. Be loving. But, do not allow them a seat at your table every day. Distance will be key.

    • @mhba4866
      @mhba4866 Před 2 lety +1

      @@amberledbetter7702 Thanks Amber.
      Rich and wise answer very supporting to me ❤️

    • @nancydrew1102
      @nancydrew1102 Před 2 lety +1

      Read Boundaries in marriage by Dr Henry cloud … as those same principles apply in any other relationships in your life too.

  • @tarawehry7105
    @tarawehry7105 Před rokem

    I can decide that I’m going to not be offended and think the best of this person, maybe they got in a fight with someone at home, or maybe they just don’t feel well.

  • @tarawehry7105
    @tarawehry7105 Před rokem

    Just because you forgive someone doesn’t mean you have to be best friends again.

  • @christineMaccallum-uo3qx

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @michellebuonfiglio7783

    Thank You ❤️❤️☺️☺️🤗🥰🥰🥰🥰🤗🤗🥰🥰🤗 Hugs May God 🙏🤗🤗🥰 Bless You all Always ❤️❤️❤️❤️🤗🥰🤗🤗 Have a Great Day!!!!!

  • @JayJay-sm8zy
    @JayJay-sm8zy Před 2 lety +1

    Forgive others for you shall be forgiven. Amen🙏

  • @LEM19284
    @LEM19284 Před 2 lety

    Jay, I thought I was listening to me! Your story and mine meld. God had me to discover the devastating truth after 30 years of marriage! Two levels of abuse were discovered: psychological first, then the multiple myriad of affairs.

  • @MaryellenS.13
    @MaryellenS.13 Před 2 lety +1

    “Ask and ye shall receive”
    “Seek and ye shall find”
    Twice in one week, to be so graced and blessed with 2 Talk it out episodes!!!!!
    This is glorious to have my favorite ladies post new episodes of this fantastic panel of Christian women, whom are so real and so organic in sharing their faith.
    I Love you all, so precious
    🙏🏻🕊💙🙏🏻🕊💙🙏🏻🕊💙🙏🏻

  • @ivantodevski6779
    @ivantodevski6779 Před 2 lety +1

    Aliluja Amen🌏🌍🌎✝️☦️🙏

  • @Pain2024x2
    @Pain2024x2 Před 2 lety

    👍😍

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety

      We also encourage you to check out Joyce's new online study at joycemeyer.org/NewStudy. God bless you! -Team JMM

  • @daniellecharming
    @daniellecharming Před 2 lety

    Hi Joyce and team,thank you for this helpful and holy message today. I don't see the Forgiveness booklet on the website, can you help please?

    • @joycemeyer
      @joycemeyer  Před 2 lety +1

      Hi Danielle! You can find the free booklet at joycemeyer.org/TalkItOut to download! God bless you! -Team JMM

    • @daniellecharming
      @daniellecharming Před 2 lety

      @@joycemeyer thank you! I still am not seeing it...

  • @christyorquiola962
    @christyorquiola962 Před 2 lety

    Is it important that a person whom have hurt you know that we forgave them? or we just go on with our lives....

  • @pthemotivator921
    @pthemotivator921 Před 2 lety

    🌟 Genuine Saving Faith is: One person [you] trusting in another person [Jesus] based on your relationship with that person or [ based on a daily Saving Love❤️Relationship of Prayer, Bible study and witnessing with Jesus!] That being said, do you have Genuine Saving Faith my friends!

  • @daneeldowner5636
    @daneeldowner5636 Před 2 lety

    What's the name of the sermon with Joyce speaking on forgiveness??

  • @efrenlucero6849
    @efrenlucero6849 Před 2 lety

    ✌❤✌❤✌

  • @LEM19284
    @LEM19284 Před 2 lety

    My question is do we have to tell the person we forgive or is it the same to just do it? I am not clear of Joyce verbalized it to her parents. Does anyone know the answer?

  • @pthemotivator921
    @pthemotivator921 Před 2 lety

    🌟The Good🥊Fight Of Faith that the Bible calls upon God's people to 🥊fight is simply: the Good🥊fight to Fellowship with🌟Jesus through a daily Saving❤️love Relationship of Prayer, Bible study and witnessing! And why is it a fight? Because Satan and your Sinful nature doesn't want you to Fellowship with🌟Jesus! That's why this🥊fight must happen Under all circumstances and at all times!

  • @fortunatogopez7974
    @fortunatogopez7974 Před 2 lety

    Amen 🕊️🕊️🕊️💕💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐💐♥️👑💚

  • @MM-ty8cm
    @MM-ty8cm Před 2 lety

    You are loved, you are precious in God's eyes. You are His Beloved. You belong on this Earth. If you are breathing now.... God has a purpose for your life now...... There is Hope and Love which can only be found in Jesus. God has a purpose for you now. He sees, knows and understands the pain from your past. God doesn't see your scars from your past, whether you made mistakes or decisions where made for you. What God sees is your Beauty. He sees you as fearfully and wonderfully made. He sees His Child made out of His own image. He sees you as His Beloved, apple of His eye. If you are contemplating suicide, then please comment back. You are important! God loves you and so do I. God bless and much love ❤ Keeping you in my prayers 🙏❤

  • @Kimber_Lee_Enlow
    @Kimber_Lee_Enlow Před rokem

    There’s no booklet

  • @MM-ty8cm
    @MM-ty8cm Před 2 lety

    If you haven't accepted Jesus as Lord and Savior then please comment back. I'd love to speak with you. God bless and much love ❤ Keeping everyone in my prayers 🙏❤

  • @imanidin6867
    @imanidin6867 Před rokem

    How do I fully forgive my fuking family

  • @yvettevalmond2757
    @yvettevalmond2757 Před rokem

    False pastor

  • @harishgupta1303
    @harishgupta1303 Před rokem

    Ples,, ples ples ples gods,,,,remove,,envious,, from,,my, life,,through, secret energetic,,prayers, ples, ples ples ples ples secretly confidentially secretly confidentiallly secretlies confidentiallly ples,,requests, kindly