My Dysphoria Got Worse After Top Surgery... (FTM) | Harrison Browne
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- čas přidán 28. 12. 2018
- Today I will be talking about how my dysphoria has increased after getting top surgery.
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Life hack: wear long shirts ;)
But seriously tho I’m sorry you have to deal with this and I’m very happy the packer has helped you. What helps me tho is that I’ve talked to some of my cis guy friends who say they never look at other guys’ crotches and finds trans guys’ worries about this strange 😆
That's right cis straight or straight tran guys wont see your pants but I understand we want to feel confident and we need to do something about it.
I haven’t watched it all, but that makes perfect sense to me. This has happened to me throughout my life with many things, not just dysphoria. Once you fix one thing, now you’re noticing the next thing that isn’t perfect 😂
It temporary happiness that’s why. You not going to be contempt until you truly love yourself as you are
This comment is so true I'm not trans but can relate to solving one problem and immediately the next issue becomes more of an issue, and rather then focus on the thing you just solved or achieved you focusing on the next issue it's ongoing in a way isn't it.
Hey man, this seems a bit like self-obsession/anxiety that’s getting the best of you. No one is looking at your crotch. People at the gym are just trying to work out alongside you. A good rule of thumb is that people are thinking about themselves 90% more than they’re thinking about you, especially strangers.
This happened to me too. The dysphoria of my chest just so outweighed everything else. Once that was gone, the discomfort shifted downward. For awhile I stopped packing because it felt like I had to have something because of what others think. Lately it’s come back up as something I’m thinking about doing again in certain situations. Especially the gym! I recommend the 3” Reelmagik packer. It’s smaller than most packers and it fits perfectly. I’m similar height to you.
Liam Magan that’s because you are a woman
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This is Keith I'm so happy for u because u seem so much happier than previous vids. Man i can see ur life is going so much better than when i started watching u. You wouldn't believe how good it makes me feel to u so confident excellent dude. Hope it gets better & better for u
Cheat code for word Harrison good luck
Keith
Ugh same. I hate that I feel the need to limit my wardrobe to accommodate my dysphoria. I won't wear thin fabrics like joggers, sweatpants, gym shorts, etc in public because it's super obvious when you don't have a bulge. I hate it! I want so badly to be able to wear joggers to the ice rink before a game so I can be comfortable. I'm always wearing jeans and stuff that kind of hides the lack of bulge because of the zipper and stuff.
I'm pre everything and both of those types of dysphoria are fucking awful already. Ugh I wanna die. But I'm happy that your packer makes u feel better ^^
I started with that packer then I “graduated” to the bigger version of that packer. I really like the bigger version because, like you said, the small one is definitely a youth size packer. I also use the miracle jock strap harness (Peecock brand) for the bigger archer to keep it in place. Since it is bigger it is almost impossible to keep it from moving around. I wear tight boxer briefs but I still always wear a harness too. Maybe your compression shorts would keep the bigger one in place. But I’m not sure 🤷🏻♂️
I’m glad that you figured out how to make yourself most comfortable in those situations! It makes life much easier and enjoyable
Awww this was precious ❤️ I'm happy for you
I understand what you are going through Harry I am sorry you are feeling this way and I love your voice and get better every day and I am excited that you feel more confident about your body and down below much love for you harry🧡❤️
Love your shirt! This might have been too long ago haha, but any idea where you bought it?
That’s one of my fears for after top surgery. My dysphoria being centralized to some other place that I hardly have dysphoria about now
One step at a time maybe... Do not worry about it right now, just focus on what's already happening ;)
But I understand what you mean, I hope your dysphoria will be fine :D
Kade Riley life for me is sooo much better after top surgery! My chest dysphoria was a lot more heightened than my bottom dysphoria. Don’t stress too much about it and take it day by day
I suspected just as much A lot of people who get Top surgery don't stay there they now switch to bottom surgery and full on transformation and I think it's because your body senses incompletion and it's bothering you on a deep psychological level so you just traded one problem for another if it was your intention to never fully GO train and stay non-binary it's kind of like a trap in my opinion
That’s awesome, glad to hear that wearing a packer empowers you! Just a tip on sizing, I know that it’s daunting to think about having a normal or large size member as a small guy, but remember that small cis men come in all sizes, too. I know a cis guy who’s 5’4” at most and his member is HUGE. Not out of the ordinary at all to be a shorter guy with an average or larger package.
Believe it or not, that happens to a lot of people.
I'm 5'2" and I use the smallest mr limpy with a Joey pouch. 10/10.
Ah ah, I feel just like you ^^
But it's ok, I try not to focus on it and then I forget about it... I do to much sport to have a packer, I would worry a lot more if I had one ;)
But I'm 100% with you about that ! :)
My problem is not having a bulge there either. I went from using socks straight into an almost 5 inch peecock 3in1 with a harness. However, it was pretty expensive and can feel uncomfortable with bottom growth. I may downsize to something like you’ve got for practicality!
Honestly, the size looks p normal. I have the doc Johnson pack it light - small.. and whatever men are saying, it's statistically average, not "small".
So that'd be my advice when graduation to a larger one - look up the statistic average and buy one that fits that.
I had the advantage of just eyeballing my bf at the time as to what would be proportionate because he was my height. I'm glad I went with the smaller option that was close because I certainly wouldn't want more in my pants. (5'5" for a frame of reference)
do you mind explaining why you didn't want to wear a binder? I was managing my whole life with sports bras, I never wore anything else, but recently I got a binder because sometimes it was just too hard only in a sports bra, despite all the careful layering of the clothes. and now I am not sure how I feel, sometimes I am so thankful I have a binder because I wouldn't even be able to walk around the house without it, let alone outside. But some days I feel I didn't even need to buy it, because I don't mind my chest so much. Since I am pre T and closeted I mostly wear a sports bra when I am going to the doctor because I am actually feeling more self conscious about the binder itself than about my chest. So it's weird. How did you feel about it before top surgery?
I can’t speak for him but here’s my 2 cents.
I got a binder and I was instantly happy but it’s kind of annoying to wear. If I wear it when i out with my family and they decide to go on a hike, I can’t do that. It’s hard to change out of it. If I’m out with people all day, it’s hard to bring a sports bra so that I can take a break.
Anyway, binding didn’t make me pass and what ended helping me was T. After that, I stopped binding and just focused on wearing an extra layer to help.
I don’t hate my chest but since I’ll never pass shirtless or without a bra + layers, I’m getting top surgery. I’m not incredibly dysphoric about my chest but i do get dysphoria if people misgender me which could happen if I don’t bind.
@@cartwing4660 ha I didn't think about Impromptu physical activities. I don't exercise because it makes me dysphoric, so I didn't have a problem you are describing, but I can see why it's annoying. But I am thinking a lot about how T would change my chest dysphoria as it did for you. I have to say though I don't find binder especially uncomfortable or constricting. On the contrary, it is way more comfortable than a sports bra. I went a size bigger and have no problem putting it on or wearing it for 12 to 14 hours. I never had any problems with breathing or paons or aches... so for me it's an upgrade in comfortability as well as looks.
myflyingkidney I workout very often and I didn’t want to feel that constricted on a daily basis so just stuck with the sports bras. And they were convenient to have on hand since I didn’t have to buy them online. Just my personal experience with them. Never felt the need.
@@HarrisonBrowne24 yeah makes sense. I guess being a pro athlete and wearing a binder wouldn't really work 😁
Do people do that really? Look at someones pants or bulge?
They really do, yes. Maybe only for a blink, but it's human nature. We look.
Haha i have the same packer but im like 4"11 5"ish and 15yo so it doesnt look too small on me :()
Do what feels best for you, but also what is comfortable for your body: cis men penises come in various sizes and most of them are rather small flaccid (even those that become average or big when erect), so as far as I can understand, "passing as cis" means having a bulge, not having a big bulge. Best wishes that your dysphoria becomes better.
How it's stay still there?
With tight brief boxer, with a harness or with a pouch xd
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What kind of harness or underwear do you wear to keep the packer in place? I used to pack every day for years when I first started my transition, but then it became annoying because I hated having to wear the harness. Noticing that extra fabric made me feel dysphoric because I could never wear just my underwear. But without the packer, I feel kind crappy too. So now I pack for certain situations (like locker rooms), but most of the time can't be bothered to.
FGFsMo I just wear Calvin Klein boxer briefs and it holds it in place well!